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Any blatant remarks by anyone, superior, same level, subordinate, regarding a person’s choice to have children or not is out of line. Period.

I’ve experienced the type of comments the OP referenced. Blatant animosity. I’ve also experienced more veiled remarks that could be taken wrong or out of context. However, to make assumptions either way regarding the OP’s request for feedback can be wrong. Take the OP’s remarks for what they are.

I *proudly* wore the “Childless by Choice” badge for many years. I would gladly proclaim my decision to NOT have children. Then there came a time in my life where I changed my mind and now am a parent of two kids. I’ve walked both sides of this discussion.

To assume that a parent doesn’t put in the hours just because it’s female parent is offensive. When I’ve got the work to be done, I’ll bill as much or more than any non-parent counterpart, male or female. The difference, is that I will often times either work from home after I get my children to bed or go back to the office after the kids are in bed and household chores are done. My hours are often times not witnessed by anyone other than my spouse or the cleaning crew in the office.

My thoughts regarding the OP’s inquiries is to let the comments roll like water off a ducks back. Unless you’re in the “mom-hater’s” shoes, one can only speculate as to her motivation. Whatever work you do for her, do it exceptionally. I’ve also seen that these Sour Sally’s is that it’s the attitude that has been described that keeps them from advancing at the pace they believe they are entitled to. Regardless of whether someone is a parent or not, their attitude can be a major player in whether they will advance within a firm. Sounds to me like the Mom who’s making it has demonstrated her abilities, including her attitude, to the higher ups.

I’ve always tried to be a team player with an exceptional work product. Those two things are more likely to be viewed as what counts than whether I am a woman or whether I’m a parent.

Oh, and regarding maternity leave – just with any benefit, it can be abused. I don’t think it’s appropriate to relay one antidotal story as being the norm.

I’ve also lost weight since buying some suits and the BR ones were very easy for the tailor to take in! So you don’t have to think of them as something disposable.

Yellow dress, black shoes with short white socks, black umbrella…holding a cardboard canister from either bread crumbs or oatmeal. Not until I got close enough to hand out the yummies did I see what was on the yellow paper around the can.

guesses? The kiddo said I was the first to get it and it was 8:30p by then so it was a rare guess it seems.

I got it right away … Morton salt girl!

let’s remember that easy one for next year (for those of you who wear yellow…not this Italian gal).