Weekend Open Thread

Something on your mind? Chat about it here.

I am definitely feeling that itch for spring that one gets after too many gray days — so a bright, sunny day is on my wish list right now! I haven’t browsed Topshop’s sunglasses selection before, but they have a bunch of cute ones! These yellow hexagonal ones look so cute — love the unusual color and shape, and the purple lens. They’re $50 at Topshop. Yellow Oversize Hexagon Sunglasses By Squint Topshop

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  1. Woods-comma-Elle :

    I’m so glad it’s the weekend! Hopefully no working this weekend, v frustrating couple of days at work where I’ve been quiet until late afternoon and then had to stay late on something coming in. The last two hours I was just waiting for someone to agree a two page document but now finally the weekend is here!

    Enjoy, everyone!

  2. I am seething with anger reading about Limbaugh’s comments toward Sandra Fluke. Discourse like this makes me grateful for the Corporette community, where differences of opinion do not turn into personal attacks.

    • SF Bay Associate :

      +1. I caught his rant on Good Morning America today and my jaw just hit the floor. Flames… flames…on the sides of my face…

      • Why is GMA even giving him and airtime? Shouldn’t he stick to Fox News?

        • SF Bay Associate :

          GMA aired a couple choice Limbaugh clips as set up/background for the Georgetown law student’s testimony, and then her response when she was interviewed on some news magazine last night (probably an ABC news magazine).

      • Goosebumpy :

        Love Clue. Loathe Rush.

      • I agree. Why should MEN think they are ANY better then us? After all if there is sex requireing contraception, there are 2 people involved and the other is a MAN!

        FOOEY on men who want to tell us we are bad when they are involved alot in this process! DOUBLE FOOEY on Rush Limbouw!

      • There’s safety in numbers, my dear.

    • I can’t understand why anyone even listens to him anymore. Sometimes I think he’s secretly a liberal who deliberately is trying to undermine the conservative agenda with his ridiculous comments.

      • I said something along these lines today. I mean, there must be a lot of conservatives that are like, “WHAT?! No! Don’t say THAT. We don’t think THAT! AAAARRRRGGGGG…you are undermining everything.”

        [I mean, I hope that conservatives are saying that, otherwise y'all are just cray-cray ;)]

    • He’s become such a freaking parody of himself that I can’t even be outraged anymore. He’s just spiraled off into complete absurdity. One thing that is really nice is that EVERYONE seems to think he’s gone too far this time.

    • Kinda love that he doesn’t understand the difference between condoms and birth control though.. yes Rush I have to consume whole packs of pills everyday because I’m boinking so much.

    • Agreed. I just read them, and my jaw hit the floor. I cannot even begin to imagine how someone could be so hateful.

    • He’s intentionally inflammatory. He’s there to make money, and when he says things, like this or whatever else, he knows it will increase his listening audience. I believe he believes what he says, but he intentionally says in a way that will draw attention.

      FWIW, I listen to him regularly.

      • manomanon :

        the response from Georgetown’s president is pretty impressive- calling on the students to not fall to that level etc.

        http://www.georgetown.edu/message-civility-public-discourse.html?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social-media&utm_campaign=message-civility-discourse

      • I’m honestly curious–what do you get out of listening to him regularly? Does his willingness to call a woman a pr*stitute and sl*t, and encourage her to post p*rnographic images online, not at all affect how you think of him?

        • No, it doesn’t. For the very reason I mention above. It’s intentionally inflammatory, and at the heart of it, I agree with what he’s saying (in this insistance, I agree w.r.t not subsidizing BC, not that she’s a sl*t because she has s*x). I guess I look at it like this, presumably those of you who watch the Daily Show, Colbert Report, or any of their ilk, agree at the premise with their politics, but ultimately the shows themselves are satire. I don’t consider Rush to be satire, but for the most part, I agree with his politics, and consider his show to be entertainment. You may or may not have noticed, but there isn’t a lot of options on TV or the radio for conservatives…

          • I lean right, but I don’t find that entertainment. If Colbert said something like that about a conservative, I would not watch again.

            I don’t care for Fluke’s testimony, and I don’t care for her general personality/attitude, but a private citizen has the right to testify to issues of importance to them without a nationally known man sexually degrading her. And Rush’s comments, demanding payment in the form of sexual videos, is sexually degrading to all women. If colbert made a sexually degrading comment like that about a student, I would hope that dems would be appalled to, even if he was sarcastic.

            Fluke just got a call from Obama . Hopefully that is what she will take out of the whole experience.

          • I don’t listen to him but I agree with what you are saying. I agree with some of Rush’s politics but I DO NOT condone the radical things he says on his shows and I really hate that his outburts are used to paint all conservatives with a broad brush, so to speak. I actually stopped listening to him because he is so hateful it is distracting from his underlying message.

          • I don’t understand the logic…Medicaid currently pays for abortion…how is it wrong then to subsidize birth control (a much better way to avoid unwanted pregnancy)! Where has the collective common sense gone???????

          • It applies to taxpayers and employers alike…everyone pays when there is an unwanted child whose parents can not or will not provide for their needs.

          • @anone – Medicaid is a government entitlement program for the very poor. Obama’s mandate would force private employers to pay for certain medical treatments for women who have employer-provided insurance. There’s an enormous difference between the two.

          • @anone the Hyde Amendment only allows medicaid to cover abortion in the cases of incest, rape or if the life of the mother is endangered. So the government very rarely covers abortion, and often cannot even fund a procedure if it would kill the mother.

          • The biggest issue with that reasoning in this instance is that I’ve never known the Colbert or Stewart to degrade a private citizen. While I disagree with Rush’s politics and therefore can’t see it through that lens, I cannot understand how listening to someone degrade college aged woman for being a sl*t can in any decent sense be seen as “entertainment.”

            Even with public officials he and his beyond “entertainment.” He’s crude, and lacks basic human decency. That is what I find so offensive about him, not his politics, despite the fact that I am firmly on the opposite end of the spectrum.

    • He’s a turd. As a matter of policy I don’t read, listen to, or really pay attention to anything related to him (unless they make fun of him on the Daily Show). So honestly I don’t even know what he said.

      Saves me some ulcer issues I think. :-P

      • Note: TCFKAG’s appropriate use of the word turd.

        • Which reminds me of the Santorum….um….issue.

          Sorry, I just had to go there. Google Santorum and Dan Savage if you don’t know about it, but not at work.

          • OK, making poop jokes about Santorum because they disagree with his politics are no better than calling someone a slut because they disagree with hers. I really can’t believe that there are adults that think that Savage thing is anything less than embarassing.

          • Yuck!

          • You don’t really think that making poop jokes is “no better” than calling a woman who uses birth control a slut? Really? I mean, the santorum thing is crude, but what Rush said about that woman is on a whole different level.

            As a supposedly educated woman, you must understand that.

    • WOW. Just watched the clip and I can’t even understand how someone like Rush could end up on a show. They fired Howard Stern from a radio station for his offensive comments about a minority group, and yet Rush can attack a respectable law student and women in general and still keep his job? I have to say, Fluke held it together much better than I would have. And I agree with cfm and AnonInfinity that the comments on too much s*x to afford BC… what? The amount of s*x you have and the BC that a lot of women use is largely unrelated! And then suggesting that they post videos to “repay” the cost of BC?!? WHAT?!?!

    • I know I may get flamed for this, but I’m just gonna go out on a limb here and state that (while his choice of rhetoric was inflammatory and disturbing), he and other members of the conservative media do have a point. Why should birth control be free? Why should taxpayers bear the burden of providing her contraception of choice? Why is this a “right” that the gov’t should have to provide?
      If she didn’t like the insurance plan at Georgetown, she could get her own insurance. That’s what I did during my 2L and 3L years because I didn’t like my school’s policy. I paid out the nose for it – but it was my choice. If that’s not an option, try your student health center (if your campus has one, the local health department, or Planned Parenthood. During my 1L year when I didn’t have insurance that covered prevantative care, I got my BC prescription at Planned Parenthood for ~$20 a month. Granted, I’ve never lived in DC but I have an incredibly hard time believing that a woman in that city couldn’t get contraception for less than $1K a year. And if BC is really costing you that much (and assuming you don’t have a medical need for it), go to CVS and just buy a box of condoms.

      • locomotive :

        It’s (this is to the best of my understanding) cheaper than the taxpayers footing the bill for raising a child. You might have been aware and savvy enough to get your own insurance, but not everyone realizes how that system works and how they can have access to birth control. Also, not everyone lives near a Planned Parenthood or an organization like that that can provide similar services. Birth control is WAY cheaper than putting a child through the foster system if it is a child that the parents did not desire and choose to give up.

        • I was just getting ready to type that, but will add: what about low-income women who end up having high-risk, unwanted pregnancies? That happened to a family acquaintance and his wife: they already had three kids, but ended up pregnant with triplets who stayed in the NICU for months after they were born. My tax dollars subsidized their hundreds of thousands of dollars of medical bills. Way cheaper to make sure women can access birth control.

          • Also, [smacks forehead]. I told myself I wouldn’t end up in any more political discussions on Corporette. But I can’t seem to resist.

          • Not sure if this is your strongest argument, since very poor women usually do not have health insurance (and therefore would not get the contraceptive benefit).

          • People realize this is really not about taxpayers right?

          • Yes a. thank you for engaging. When people have lost their damned minds it’s hard to avoid the discussion.

        • “People realize this is really not about taxpayers right?”

          +1,000,000.

          • Can you clarify what you mean by this? Are you saying that the Catholic Church doesn’t pay taxes? I can read about 10 meanings into that and just want to be sure I understand what you’re saying. :)

        • “Can you clarify what you mean by this? Are you saying that the Catholic Church doesn’t pay taxes? I can read about 10 meanings into that and just want to be sure I understand what you’re saying. :)”

          Its about controlling women’s bodies and choices. Its about putting women who want to have control over their bodies, their sex life, their families, their lives in their place. It is about men exerting control over women.

          • (I used the quotes because I wasn’t sure that it would show up in the right place). It came out looking mimicky.

          • Okay, that was one of the meanings I took from it. Ha ha.

          • I would just like to hear one politician say “I don’t want to pay for your birth control, so men, keep your dick in your pants.” But instead, it has to be all about women keeping their legs closed.

      • It is just good public policy to subsidize birth control. It is hard to understand how anyone believes that a woman should not be allowed to have an abortion would not want to subsidize birth control. It is cheaper in the long run to avoid abortions, abused children, and children in foster care, and eventually prison. I just cannot think of good reasons not to subsidize birth control.

      • DallasSkirt Envy :

        “If that’s not an option, try your student health center (if your campus has one, the local health department, or Planned Parenthood. During my 1L year when I didn’t have insurance that covered prevantative care, I got my BC prescription at Planned Parenthood for ~$20 a month. ”

        Planned Parenthood, Health Departments, and university campuses fund their birth control programs through Federal funding.

        • Is it federal funding, or it that the employer has to pay for the cost of health insurance premiums, some of which can be used to pay for contraceptives?

          My understanding is that under the new health insurance plan, contraceptives must be offered at “no cost” to insureds. However, the term “no cost” is misleading because the insurance company pays for the oral contraceptive and the insured (or insureds’ employer) pays for the insurance premiums. The debate is that religious employers do not want to cover the cost of the health insurance premiums that go towards oral contraceptives. Am I incorrect that this is the issue?

          What I was thinking about today is how far this could go. I consider the portion of my health insurance premiums that my employer covers part of my salary. My employer doesn’t have the ability to dictate what I spend my paycheck on. But, in this scenerio, an employer wants to dictate how the portion of health insurance premiums that they pay are spent. They want to be able to say: you can have this medical care, but not this. Now, I suppose when the employer picks any health insurance plan, they are, to some degree picking what medical care you can and cannot have (if an employer picks a plan that does not cover a certain kind of surgury, then they have essentially made that decision for you). Its a lot to consider.

          • DallasSkirt Envy :

            I was trying to say she was contradicting herself. If the premise is the Feds shouldn’t be subsidizing birth control, providing direction to PP, Student Centers, etc, defeats the premise.

          • I understood your response, but her original question: “Why should taxpayers bear the burden of providing her contraception of choice? Why is this a “right” that the gov’t should have to provide?” misstates the debate. The debate is why should a Catholic employer be forced to subsidize oral contraceptives. Not why should the government (taxpayers) subsidize?

      • I think the debate about whether the government should pay for it/it should be free is an entirely separate issue that merits rational discussion. My issue is that Limbaugh’s comments do not represent rational discussion, but rather name-calling and being intentionally inflammatory. I don’t think anyone would flame you for wanting to have a civil discussion about whether it’s the responsibility of the government or employers to pay for BC, but the outrage is more that the concept of any woman having s*x makes her a sl*t and a pr*stit*te. I generally tend to say that it’s not someone else’s responsibility to pay for any choice I make, but I also don’t think that someone should be so hateful toward my choices either. There’s plenty of people (like you, in my personal opinion) making reasonable arguments about the cost and responsibility of BC that throwing slurs is just inciting anger.

      • Well, first, this is not necessarily about “the taxpayers” but mainly about health insurance provided by private employers or other private entities such as colleges, which is how most Americans get their coverage. For all of the reasons mentioned by the other posters, BC is an essential part of health care for many women. (And, in addition to the physical and mental health implications of unplanned pregnancies, some women need hormonal BC for medical reasons unrelated to preventing pregnancy; those who wish to eliminate BC coverage make no exception for such cases.)

        The suggestion that everyone should just go buy a box of condoms is not very realistic and, frankly, a bit naive. For one thing, it assumes that a woman’s partner is willing to use condoms and to take responsbility for contraception, which is by no means a given for a lot of women out there. Also, although I am no expert, it’s my understanding that condoms have some of the lowest rates of effectiveness for preventing pregnancy. For some women, the best method of BC is one of the more expensive, such as IUDs or some of the patches or shots. There was a letter in the NYT within the last week from an ob-gyn who serves a low-income population that discussed this in more detail. His point was that his patients need to afford the BC method that is best for them.

        It is great that you could buy better health coverage when you were in school, even if it was expensive. But many women — students and workers –simply can’t afford that. Imagine a housekeeper employed in a Catholic hospital in a small city making $10 or $12 an hour. She probably is lucky if she can afford to pay her share of the premiums for the group plan. Believe me, there are plenty of working people who don’t have insurance because they can’t afford to pay even the employee share. Such a woman certainly could not pay the full cost of outside, individual coverage. And if she doesn’t live in a large metropolitan area, she’s unlikely to have access to Planned Parenthood or another similar program to obtain affordable BC outside of insurance. (And, of course, Rush Limbaugh and others who have been vocal about this issue are even more vociferous in their cries against PP and would shut it down if they could.)

        All of us naturally look at this and any other issue through the prism of our own experience and circumstances, but I think this question calls for some empathy and understanding for women who don’t have the many resources with which most of us on this particular site are blessed — financial resources, education, the services and amenities of cities, partners who are educated and supportive. For women who lack some of these things, the availability of affordable BC through health insurance is essential in their lives.

        • Ugh. I really didn’t want to be all political, but I feel like I have to respond to some of this. This is obviously just my opinion, and I’m not intending to be argumentative (even though I know that arguing is exactly what I’m doing…), I just want to make a case for the other side.

          1) If a woman’s partner won’t use c*ndoms, then she shouldn’t sleep with him. It’s not just for contraception. If it’s a one night stand, then she NEEDS to protect herself. If it’s a relationship, then he’s selfish, and she should realize that and get out. I don’t think an unwillingness to use c*ndoms is a good reason to force tax payers to foot the bill or religious institutions to go against their beliefs.

          2) As to the cleaning lady in a Catholic hospital, that’s an unfortunate scenario, but again, a few isolated examples should not trump religious freedom. I realize the economy is terrible and it is hard to find employment, but nothing is holding her to a Catholic institution.

          Now, having said all that, I do think your point about BC being necessary for reasons other than contraception is a good argument, and one I hadn’t previously considered. It’s something new for me to think about. Ultimately, I still don’t think Catholic hospitals and universities should be forced to provide BC, but I don’t know what the answer is in that circumstance.

          • Thank you! I agree. The argument keeps moving towards “conservatives want to stop people from having s*x” but in my view, it’s about religious freedom. Period. I personally use BC, as have and do most of my friends and family, so I don’t agree with the Catholic institutions’ decision, but I think they should be able to make that decision.

          • But the problem is that conservatives DO want to stop women from having sex — or at least punish them with the consequences. They just couch it in the language of religious freedom when it benefits them, because they know they lose people when they say what they really think (note — I’m not saying ALL conservatives think that way — but I think many do…they think the real problem with BC is that it allows sl*ts to have sex. Just like we shouldn’t give little girls the HPV vaccine because they might have sex. Or whatever).

          • Who are you to say that that’s what conservatives want? Ugh. I say, “people are misconstruing the argument,” and you say, “no, we’re not misconstruing, that’s really what people like you think.” I am telling you, that’s not what I think. I care about religious liberties. I certainly understand how we can disagree, but I am so tired of people not listening to words and saying, “I know what you *really* mean” when listening to conservatives on this issue.

          • anon for this :

            Re #1: A major problem with this is the reality of domestic violence and how abusers use s*x and pregnancy to control women, not to mention the fact that the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the woman tries to leave. In a nonabusive relationship, your thining applies, but in an abusive one, it is not so simple.

          • No b23, I’m not saying that people like YOU believe that — I don’t know you. I can’t judge what YOU believe.

            But I can judge what people like Rick Santorum really think when he says things like: : “One of the things I will talk about, that no president has talked about before, is I think the dangers of contraception in this country.” And also, “Many of the Christian faith have said, well, that’s okay, contraception is okay. It’s not okay. It’s a license to do things in a sexual realm that is counter to how things are supposed to be.”

            And I know what the Catholic Church really thinks about birth control because I’ve sat in the pew and been told the birth control breeds lasciviousness. And that sex before marriage is a sign of the moral degradation of our country. And all that jazz.

            So as much as they play up this particular part of this particular bill as being about “religious liberty” — I know that the Catholic Church’s end goal if they could have everything would for BC to be illegal again. And that’s what Rick Santorum would have if he got his way and what a lot of Republican’s in Congress would get if they got their way. So yes I’m worried and yes I’m vigilant.

            (And I say all this as a catholic who attends church — I just think they’re dead wrong on this issue and they went the wrong way completely when they issued Humanae Vitae.)

          • I agree: that’s what the Catholic Church thinks. They want BC to be illegal. No argument there. That’s the *point* of religious liberty. They have their views, and I respect them. I respect their ability to live out those views, because this is America. The problem is that you’re saying conservatives want to make it illegal to stop people from having s*x, and I’m saying, as a conservative, that that’s not true. That’s why *Catholics* don’t want to offer it; not why conservatives agree.

            * By the way, I’m pretty sure that a very large percentage of the Catholic Church votes with the Democratic Party.

          • Okay. I really hate internet arguments for this reason, because they are imprecise. I don’t think they want to make them illegal. I think there is a substantial, and scarily powerful socially conservative branch of the republican party that would like, if they had their way, to make all non-procreative sex very dangerous and/or burdensome for women and men (but mostly women because we share the greatest burden).

            Also — I know many Catholics vote democratic, but the political arm of the Catholic church is largely conservative. And I’m done…I’m going to go comment on pantyhose or something. :-P

          • EmpLawyer :

            If the Catholic Church wants religious freedom, they should get out of the business of employing people. I have no problem with them denying birth control to priests, monks, and nuns.

          • I find the Catholic bishops religious freedom argument against requiring insurance companies to cover birth control to be patronizing. Yes, the Catholic Church is allowed (I guess) to make its (wrong) determination about their stance on birth control. But objecting to providing insurance coverage to provided subsidized birth control makes me feel like they don’t trust their faithful to follow the edicts of the Church and so they must MAKE their employees follow them. Nevermind that the Venn diagram for Catholics and their employees don’t necessarily match. Just because you provide coverage for birth control doesn’t mean you are making those covered take it. Ugh.

            The whole idea that a bunch of celibate men telling me that I shouldn’t have access to medication (that my doctor might deem medically necessary – uses unrelated to pregnancy prevention) because it impairs THEIR religious freedom makes me bristle. And I realized that the argument is a little more complicated than that – but I have a hard time getting past the bristling.

          • I have to point out the irony that the Catholic church is opposed to fertility treatments like IVF.

          • Re #1: Even if a woman is not in an obviously abusive relationship, she might depend on a man for protection or resources. In addition, there may be so many imprisoned or unemployed men in her dating pool that those who aren’t can easily set the terms of relationships because of the power imbalance caused by the numbers discrepancy.

        • anon for this :

          I think this issue also gets blown out of proportion as “h*rn* college kids wanting to be irresponsible”, but that’s not that case. I’m a happily married woman, but I don’t desire to be pregnant right now. I’m in a monogamous relationship, and quite frankly, c*ndoms are a pain and decrease my enjoyment with my husband, within my marriage! (so, to Rush, it’s not just sl*ts that want to enjoy s*x!) We are also a high income couple, so we can afford BC without insurance if necessary, so I understand my view is biased. I think a lot of people are frustrated that many women can afford cigarettes, alcohol, cell phones, manicures, etc. etc., but then complain about the cost of BC. On the other side of that, sometimes BC is prescribed to treat illness, not prevent pregnancy, so to deny all BC claims for any reason means that some women (single/celibate/within marriage so it’s not an issue of trying to “be irresponsible” for free) can’t get the necessary medication. It’s such a complex issue, so painting it with such a broad brush, particularly based on one woman’s testimony, is a fruitless way to engage in discussion.

      • Agree. If you are capable of going to law school you are capable of figuring out how to get contraception.

        • Seriously. Normally I don’t get into this. But while I was in law school I had serious medical problems that made all oral contraception (basically all hormonal contraception) unusable. It meant basically the only safe BC for me, other than just relying on condoms which were not great for other reasons, was an IUD, which is horrendously expensive. In addition — those same very serious medical conditions would have made pregnancy very, very dangerous and painful for me.

          Now, I know that the catholic church’s answer for all this is for me to just keep my legs crossed and be happy for my lot in life. But your condescension that “being in law school” somehow makes all financial and health problems easy to fix (because presumably YOU haven’t had them) is obnoxious.

          • karenpadi :

            This. Thank you Anony. I’m avoiding posting in this discussion because it makes. me. so. angry.

            Anon, you may have never had an issue with getting birth control. I’m happy that you are so fortunate. Many people (including law students) don’t have the same luxury.

        • Anon for this :

          Of course, because stupid or poor women don’t “deserve” contraceptives. *sigh*

          I know that this site is Corporette… that most women here make bank, and have excellent employers and access to wonderful health care, but I never thought that access to BC is something that other women would find controversial.

          It’s not about religious freedom.
          It’s about those in power exerting control over those who aren’t, namely women. Controlling a woman’s sexuality, along with her right to choose when and how to become pregnant is a very efficient way of controlling her future.
          It’s about demeaning women who speak out (not matter how well or poorly they speak) by calling them sl*ts, and adding to our country’s r*pe culture by implying that s*x is something that women OWE men.
          Hello misogyny, meet the GOP.

          It makes me SO ANGRY that Rush Limbaugh gets his disgusting quote on almost every news outlet, but not a single woman spoke at the House hearing earlier this month.

      • Today, We Are All Sandra Fluke :

        I object to the fact that the Republicans want every employer, regardless of size or religious affiliation (or lack thereof), to be able to refuse to provide insurance for any thing or procedure that it finds morally unconscionable. In such a world, when looking for a job, in addition to asking for and considering information from potential employers about title, job duties, salary and promotion opportunities, every job seeker will have to ask: do you offer insurance that covers cervical cancer screening? Birth control? vaccinations? HIV screening?

        But no man would have to ask whether it covers Viagra. Which is how I know it is about controlling women, not about religion or morals.

        In response to the poster who said it is cheaper to pay for birth control than raising a kid in foster care, the Guttmacher Institute has demonstrated that for every dollar spent on contraception, we save the taxpayers $3.74 in government spending on prenatal care, childbirth, and healthcare during the infant’s first year. That doesn’t even address housing, clothing, educating or providing healthcare until the kid is 18 (or more).

        • I object to the fact that the Democrats misconstrue the Republicans’ arguments.

          I have never heard any Republican say that, and I listen to a lot of Fox News and talk radio. You’ve just successfully knocked down a straw man.

          • I meant the part where any employer ever can refuse to provide insurance. I think the part about the cost is a reasonable argument.

          • Today, We Are All Sandra Fluke :

            Here is the relevant text from the Blunt Amendment that gives any employer (not just a religious affiliated one) the right to refuse coverage for anything it deems morally (not just religiously) unconscionable:

            ****
            (1) IN GENERAL.–Section 1302(b) of the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (Public Law 111-148; 42 U.S.C. 18022(b)) is amended by adding at the end the following new paragraph:

            “(6) RESPECTING RIGHTS OF CONSCIENCE WITH REGARD TO SPECIFIC ITEMS OR SERVICES.–

            “(A) FOR HEALTH PLANS.–A health plan shall not be considered to have failed to provide the essential health benefits package described in subsection (a) (or preventive health services described in section 2713 of the Public Health Service Act), to fail to be a qualified health plan, or to fail to fulfill any other requirement under this title on the basis that it declines to provide coverage of specific items or services because–

            “(i) providing coverage (or, in the case of a sponsor of a group health plan, paying for coverage) of such specific items or services is contrary to the religious beliefs or moral convictions of the sponsor, issuer, or other entity offering the plan; or

            “(ii) such coverage (in the case of individual coverage) is contrary to the religious beliefs or moral convictions of the purchaser or beneficiary of the coverage.
            *****

        • Absolutely agree with this comment. I am sick and tired of how it is totally acceptable to control women’s life and send her back to the kitchen barefoot and pregnant. And I don’t want to hear “oh just don’t have s*x, keep your legs closed or put an asprin between your knees”. I wanna get laid just like a man and still reach out for all my dreams (reach the c-level jobs, make multi-million $ etc etc) and don’t give a dam* to what some one else’s religion says. Religious freedom is absolute crap here, no one ever questions viagara coverage in insurance, it is all about keeping woman as second class citizen. Where is the gloria steinem of our generation? Can’t believe we are so content and passive.

          • I hate how this is all put on women and all the sex we must be having. What about the men we are having it with? Since we don’t need contraception if we are only having sex with women…

          • m–Thank you. I had a boyfriend who was a lawyer and, trust me, I was not the first girlfriend of his who was on the pill. He was shocked! Shocked! when he went to the drug store to pick up my prescription with me and discovered I had a $25 copay on my generic meds. Yep. He “thought” all this time that the pill was free.

        • I am an employment lawyer, one issue I’ve been dealing with way too much is rising health care costs both for the entities I represent and their employees who have to pay the employee portion. The insurance company who insures the vast majority of my clients recently had an information session. The representative informed us that the plan does not cover birth control but that viagra and similar is the number one drug cost in the plan and that something like 70% of the men in the plan have prescriptions and fill them regularly. Free. I’m sorry but that’s just wrong.

          • So, the insurance company will pay for men to have sex, but don’t extend the same courtesy to women. That’s what I’m reading from this policy. Argh.

          • Bingo, thanks for sharing this from your actual experience with insurance co. So all the conservatives are ok with insurance subsidizing men to get it up (with viagra) for free but somehow go ape-sh*t like Rush if women get free BC? Goes to show so called “religious liberty” is total crap, it is all about controlling women’s choices in life, relegating them to the status of persistent “baby incubator”.

            Free viagra = totally ok, sacred, no questions raised
            Free BC=Rush response/blunt amendment/state’s right to ban contraceptive acceptable for santorum?

          • witness protection program :

            Welcome to 2012, where men’s orgasms are still more important than women’s reproductive autonomy.

            And let’s just keep ignoring the fact that most hetero men outsource contraceptive responsibilities to their female partners.

            *headdesk*

          • I am strongly liberal but the one straight faced argument I can make, if I was forced to play devil’s advocate, is that Viagra and other ED medications fix what should occur naturally while BC stops what should occur naturally.

      • Anon for this :

        Your privilege is showing.
        While I can see where you’re coming from, some people don’t have the option of opting out of school insurance plans.
        I can’t afford my own health insurance, except the one that my graduate school offers. I WISH they would cover my BC pills. I pay $55 a month for a regular unpainful period and a safer sex life.
        (and when I was dating my ex-GIRLFRIEND, I still took BC for the regular period-effect, so you can take your box of condoms and shove it.)

        • witness protection program :

          Amen. The number of people who would deprive women access to contraception without realizing the multitude of reasons women use hormonal birth control is appalling.

      • Not taxpayers. Private employers. Why should private employers be required by the government to pay for any one medication?

        People who get taxpayer funded insurance such as Medicaid already have contraceptive coverage. This is about the government commanding the private sector to pay for it.

        • Well then, why should private employers be required to follow any federal employment laws? I am seriously trying to figure out why federal rules about health insurance are different from federal laws about, say, nondiscriminatory hiring, minimum wage, hours worked, etc. If providing birth control is part of the ACA law (I am not a lawyer and don’t know all the specifics of this law), then why is it so reprehensible that employers should have to follow it?

          And if the Catholic church runs entities that take federal money, which universities do by way of student laws and hospitals do by way of Medicare/Medicaid payments, why should they be exempt from following federal laws? My grantees who receive federal money can’t even pop a bottle of champagne in their lab to celebrate getting a grant because consumption of alcohol is forbidden on properties that receive federal funds.

      • I take the pill because I get migraines 3 days before my flow starts without it. I am virgin, and HATE that my medication is up for a discussion. I thought conservatives were against the government getting in between a patient and a doctor! Should people with endometriosis, PCOS, PID, debilitating cramps, cysts and tons of other issues have to suffer? Any insurer, including the government and churches would happily pay for medicine to cover up my pain, but they won’t allow me to prevent it?!

        You should check out the birth control expense calculator, it’s eyeopening. I’ll post the link in another comment to avoid moderation.

        • http://motherjones.com/politics/2012/02/calculator-birth-control-expensive-really-cost?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=tweet&utm_campaign=calculator&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=costs –Calculator: How Expensive Is Birth Control?
          I will be paying $57,566 over the course of my childbearing years for the pill. And I may have to stay on it longer since it’s for migraines not contraception for me.

          • Today, We Are All Sandra Fluke :

            True dat. Did you see the article by Bob Cesca suggesting that people send their medical bills for contraceptives to the Santorum campaign because Santorum said it’s not that expensive? (Google: “Bob Cesca” Santorum “medical bills.”) I sent him redacted copies of all the bills for my last two IUDs. A few thousand dollars.

        • harriet chalmers :

          The Catholic or any other church should have the right to decide certain benefits based on moral grounds IF and only IF they are truly private and not receiving special federal benefits, like tax exemptions. Be private – truly self sufficient – or suck up rules. Don’t expect to have your cake and eat it too.

          • This. And, polling Catholics (the people practicing the religion), the majority are not against hormonal contraception, and would like it covered by their insurance. How does one reconcile what people who identify as Catholics want versus what their leadership want?

          • “How does one reconcile what people who identify as Catholics want versus what their leadership want?”

            Catholic most of my life, birth control most of my sexually mature life – the reconciliation is that it’s not about birth control, it’s about force and freedom and mandates. Like most Catholics, I do want birth control, but I don’t want the church to be *forced* to pay for it (round about as their payments may be) any more than I would want PETA to be forced to buy it’s employees hamburgers. Freedom and choices.

          • But, PETA is forced to buy its employees whatever they want to buy because they pay them a salary. They cannot dictate what an employee can have for lunch. If I, as a PETA employee, use my salary to buy a hamburger, PETA has “paid” for it. They are requried, by law, to pay me a wage.

        • witness protection program :

          Not to mention all the other medications known to cause birth defects–from Accutane to anti-seizure meds–that would be unavailable to women if their access to birth control were restricted.

      • I have some degree of sympathy with JessC’s comment, altho I am an ardent proponent of birth control, mainly because population is spinning out of control and people are starving in many parts of the world. The sufficiency of the food supply is in doubt.

        When I was young and could not afford birth conrol, I used Planned Parenthood. Later I had very generous health insurance which paid for this, although the cost of my birth control (first diaphragm then IUD) was so very little. I paid for my own Ortho jelly.

        Today in a sense contraception costs even less. So many alternatives are out there.

        On some level this is a social issue, not a women’s health issue. It is a more a children’s health issue in several different ways. There is sort of a slippery slope involved here.

      • The whole point is that yes, while anyone can opt-out of democracy (See John Locke), everyone has a right to state their views and take action on their views (vote) (See Thomas Jefferson for much stronger examples) without being forced to opt-out. So saying, “She can opt-out so we shouldn’t have to listen to her views” defeats the entire point of democracy in the first place.

        Also, in some cities, Planned Parenthood is no longer able to provide contraceptive services (due to people voting Republican). So this woman does not have the same options that you had – those options have been taken away from her by people like Limbaugh.

        Also, if you truly believe in a free-market (like Republican’s say that they do), then this woman has every right to buy with her own money the insurance services she wants! As an economist, I say “Let the market clear!” By passing this restrictive bill, Republicans are saying – “We don’t believe in the free market – we believe in regulating people’s choices so that they can’t vote with their pocketbook.”

        • Whoa, now, the Republicans aren’t the ones who brought up this issue. It’s the Dems who are trying to mandate it, not the Republicans.

        • This is my problem with uninformed people are. Churches have always had this right. Dems passed a bill taking it away. The religious arent trying to get a new rright, they are trying to keep one they have always had

      • Today, We Are All Sandra Fluke :

        I read recently that Rick Santorum believes that liberals are morally bankrupt because they believe they can buy themselves out of the consequences of their choices about sex. (Don’t want to get pregnant? Use BC. Oops, got pregnant and don’t want a child? Abortion. Don’t want to catch a disease but still want to have sex? Condoms.) While it is true that, to a certain extent (keeping in mind limitations like TCFKAG’s issue below and the like), money can protect you from a lot of consequences, that doesn’t make someone morally bankrupt for doing so.

        Also, I wonder, if the only good sex is procreative sex within a marriage, does that mean that once I get married, every time I have sex I am risking losing a year of my life to pregnancy and maternity leave and risking adding another dependent to my family? What if I want a career and so want to time my pregnancies or limit my number of dependents? The need for family planning doesn’t vanish just because I am married. Unless you think that I shouldn’t have any purpose in life except to reproduce. And then your bias and desire to control me starts to show.

      • Anonymous :

        Got it! So if I don’t go to college, but I do have a job and that job pays for my health insurance, my employer has the right to refuse to pay for my birth control even if I need it for a medical issues that does not involve preventing birth it is okay for them to refuse that?

        Because that’s what this is about. Not “how do you get birth control pills,” (which can be anywhere from easy to nearly impossible in this country), but whether or not companies can restrict your health care choices via health insurance. This is an issues, not about sex, not about birth control (even though it has somehow become one?!), but about workplace rights.

        If I work for a Muslim owned company and need treatment for an alcohol addiction, alcohol related physical abuse or trauma from being raised by an alcoholic parent can they refuse to allow the insurance to cover that because they don’t believe in consuming alcohol?

        Which is more important, the rights of a company or the rights of a worker?

        If I’m Hindu or Jewish or Mormon and work for a company run by Catholics can they deny me birth control because that is their belief system? Which is more important, the rights of the worker or of the company?

        If I worked for a company run by Pentecostals and was injured falling down on a dance floor, could they refuse to pay my health insurance coverage because they don’t believe in dancing? Which is more important, the rights of the worker or of the company?

        Birth control is all sexy sex about sex. But the underlying (and actually important part of the question) is not about sex. It’s about whether the government stands up against employers on behalf of employees.

        But sex and religion make for headlines and screaming Rush Limbaugh, whereas the dancing and alcohol examples I used above would make people laugh. Of course a company has to pay for your health insurance if you’re in a car accident: even if it’s your fault because you were drinking! That’s the way insurance works, no matter what your employer believes about alcohol.

        Or we could just argue about sex. And taxpayers, who I don’t think are actually involved in this one at all.

    • Limbaugh’s comments were way out of line, from what I heard on GMA, but did you listen to Fluke’s testimony? She seriously sounded like an idiot, with a strong sense of entitlement. If she’s representative of Georgetown law students, I fear for the future of that school.

      • DallasSkirt Envy :

        Agreed on Limbaugh’s comments being out of line, and also agreed- she sounded entitled and hard to relate to. If they had a women of low income who was married with three children, she would have been easier to relate to for the general populous and get to the same point.

      • I agree. I graduated from GULC several years ago, and the students there having been whining for years about the school’s health care insurance plan not covering birth control. When I was there, they even got the student council to approve a protest groups’s formation as a “student activities group” and got funding from the school for their protests. Professors there supported and encouraged this along with the protests of the JAG corps recruiting because of DADT. I wondered why, if they wanted a plan that covered birth control, they didn’t just BUY A DIFFERENT HEALTH INSURANCE PLAN.

        • I just checked out of curiosity and saw that tuition for three years at GULC will now set you back over $140k.

        • Have you ever tried to buy individual insurance if you say, have a pre-existing condition? Leaving aside everything else, if you are a GULC student and have a pre-existing condition and aren’t married, you probably have NO other option other than the school’s group plan.

          And just because the school costs so much doesn’t mean you have that kind of money.

          • Well you are either paying for it yourself or your using loan money. Sure you want to use as little loan money as possible, but that goes for all the choices you make with your money. You can afford out of pocket insurance if you go to gtown. (I did, with loan money) It just means I spent a lot less on food/alcohol. I want bc to be subsidized because its better for me, but what medications do we have an inherent right to? All medications? The money has to come from some where. I don’t think this argument is as black and white as the fluke side says it is.

            Religious groups always had the option of not providing bc. Obama changed that two weeks ago. The religious groups aren’t trying to take something away, they are trying to get back the right they always had before.

          • Prior to Health Care Reform, aka Obamacare, I could not purchase my own private health insurance plan even if I had 5 million dollars in the bank. I have Crohn’s disease and the only insurance company in my state (yes, my prior state had a total of 1, anti-trust be d@mned) determined that I was uninsurable due to my pre-existing condition. They would not insure me for any amount of my money. Now, that is illegal but w/o the Affordable Care Act, I could not have paid for another plan that would cover my birth control (that I am on for medical reasons).

          • Just to clarify, I could get group plan (my employer’s) insurance so long as I never had a gap in coverage, I just could not purchase an individual plan. I couldn’t go to law school until after I was married so that I could be insured on my husband’s plan. The high deductible student plan would not have covered my Crohn’s medications. I had to take a job out of state because my former employer’s cafeteria plan was not a group plan and would not insure me should my husband leave me, die, or lose his job. When I got my out of state job, I almost had to live apart from my husband until my new plan kicked in so that he could stay employed in old state, so I could stay on his health plan and not have a gap in coverage. Luckily, he found a job with the gov that allowed me instant coverage and was able to move with me. He had to turn down his preferred job because I couldn’t be insured on their non group plan.

          • Also, I got into Georgetown twice, for undergrad and law school. Yes, I knew it was Catholic. No, I had no idea that meant no birth control. The school marketed itself to me as an excellent college, not as a center of catholic faith, and I think that’s a problem. More like Boston university than BYU. And apparently that’s not true

          • For what it’s worth, I am a faculty member at one of the other Jesuit universities (there are 28 of them) and our health insurance covers birth control. But, from what I understand, they do not provide any kind of birth control through student health services.

          • health care anon :

            Another sad fact is that prior to the new health care reform, patients who tested HIV+ could be kicked off their health insurance plan, because you could never prove when you contracted the disease, per se. These medications can cost thousands of dollars a month, so the only option for many sick patients would be to enroll in clinical trials where even the control group would get the current approved therapy, as there can be no true control group when a disease that is certain to cause death is involved.

            The thing that depresses me is that the implications for repealing this go far beyond birth control.

    • Has anyone else noticed the BC is the only topic that can — without fail — get us all riled up. That and whether Dobby deserved to die in Harry Potter. We’re an odd bunch.

      • Those two plus nude pantyhose.

        Odd bunch indeed.

      • Don’t forget peeptoe shoes.

      • The Missus J :

        Add the SAHM vs. Working Mom debate! There were so many hundreds of personal attacks on that thread that I stopped reading Corporette for over a year. I was beyond pleased to see that the community had changed for the better since that horrible debacle.

      • Alanna of Trebond :

        Incidentally, I don’t think there were any personal attacks in this discussion.

        • I know. I’m kind of proud of us. We are all clearly passionate on the topic and care deeply, but we all managed to get through it without calling each other sl*tty lustful, flouncy fornicators. Take that Limbaugh!

      • Anonymous :

        I remember a few woman saying the it was gross to breastfeed in public. If I were Kat, I would have deleted any woman who was against breastfeeding as being clearly too stupid and uneducated to be on Corporette! :)

        • Oh good! there is the personal attack! and we went all thread without one. If you believe in one sided arguments, Kat should delete you for being so stupid and horrible. smiley face!

  3. I have been waiting for open thread all week! I would absolutely love some advice on changing jobs.

    I am a fifth year associate currently practicing in a small law firm in a specialized area (by small, I mean the only two practicing attorneys are myself and my boss). For a multitude of reasons, I personally believe that working at such a small firm has stunted my professional growth. I was fortunate enough to recently receive (and accept!) an offer to move to a larger firm (80-90 attorneys). I am thrilled beyond belief, but I am also exceptionally nervous to deliver the news to my boss, which I am waiting to do until I have an official start date.

    Has anyone done anything similar during their career? I would love some advice on how to make the break with my current boss as professional as possible. Knowing the kind of person he is, he is going to take it very hard–in fact, I think he will be straight up angry with me (he IS losing one half of his office). I would also love to hear any advice on the big changes I should be expecting, moving from a small office to a much larger one.

    Thank you so much!

    • Mrs. Piggle Wiggle :

      While your boss may be upset (and angry with you), he has no real reason to be. A female judge that I know once told me that the reason women are less successful than men is because women refuse to take promotions or refuse to take opportunities, which would better themselves, because they have a deep ingrained sense of loyalty. Men, on the other hand, have less of that, and for that reason, will jump at a chance to go to another job, which offers them more in opportunities (and salary). This is just her opinion, but I do think there is something to it. We as women constantly feel guilty for so many different things – families, children, not having children, jobs. While your boss has done great things for you, you have an obligation to yourself — an obligation to further your career and your happiness. (*ok, I will get off my soapbox now*).

      I would tell him that while you’ve absolutely loved working with him these past few years, and you will always looks to him as your mentor and colleague, that a new opportunity has arisen that will allow you to further advance your career, and it was something you just couldn’t turn down.

      While I have never gone froma small firm to a big firm, in terms of transitioning, I think you will be surprised at how much more accomplished you are than the other associates. You have had to do so much on your own, that you will likely be more efficient with your time and resources.

      Good luck and congratulations!

      • karenpadi :

        This. As a word of warning, when I made a similar move as a third year, I actually started tearing up. My mentor followed me a year later, and she told me that she started tearing up too when she had the “I’m quitting” conversation with our boss.

    • As soon as you’ve left, send him a handwritten note that says something along the lines of, “I learned a tremendous amount while working with you. I deeply respect you both professionally and personally, and I’ll always appreciate the opportunities you gave me. I hope our paths cross again in the future.”

    • As someone on the other end of this issue — a partner in a small firm where an associate left several years ago with 2 weeks notice — I would suggest that you give as much notice as you reasonably can. Handling the transition professionally means giving your boss time to begin to look for someone else, time for you to wrap up your cases or bring him up to speed, etc.

    • I am in a similarly sized firm and have been wondering how I would have this conversation when the day comes… thanks for posting.

    • In-House Europe :

      When I left my small firm to go in-house I made it clear that I completely respected my boss and appreciated the time that I worked there, but that I didn’t feel I could pass up the opportunity. Now years later we still keep in touch – I think he realized that I could be a good business contact for him down the road. Good luck!

  4. My kids are off to stay with grandparents this weekend and my CPA husband will be working, working, working (tax season). My plan for tomorrow afternoon is to watch some movies on Netflix and check out some new blogs (preferably while lounging in bed in my sweatpants). It’s been that kind of week.

    So my question to all of you is: What are some movies (available on Netflix streaming) that you think I should watch and what are some blogs you think I should check out during my afternoon of laziness?

    • If you like period drama, North and South! That’s the only one I can think of off the top of my head.

    • Merabella :

      Downton Abbey! The first season is on Netflix and amazing if you haven’t seen it. Sliding Doors was mentioned the other day as well, and is one of my favorites. It was on Netflix streaming the last time I checked.

      • Oh, I didn’t see the mention of Sliding Doors the other day. I love that movie! So underrated; I’m pretty sure I’ve never met anyone in real life who has actually seen it. So glad to see it getting props!

        • Favorite movie ever. Once when I was a summer at Big Law we played “name your top three movies” at a happy hour and it was in my and another girls top three. I was so happy. :-)

        • Barrister in the Bayou :

          I thought sliding doors was an awesome movie… might just watch it tonight if it is on instant.

        • Lets be honest, James is my dream man. I just want a man who can quote Monty Python to me. Is that so much to ask (and I love my husband very much, but his monty python quoting and scottish accent is sorely lacking).

          • Oh, you and me both, TCFKAG.

            “If we took the bones out, it wouldn’t be crunchy, would it?”

            Hee hee.

          • No one expects the Spanish Inquisition! Our chief weapon is surprise, fear and surprise; two chief weapons, fear, surprise, and ruthless efficiency! Er, among our chief weapons are: fear, surprise, ruthless efficiency, and near fanatical devotion to the Pope! Um, I’ll come in again…

            And of course…don’t forget the fluffy pillows.

          • My dh is James & he quotes Monty Python to me on occasion, although not with an accent. I think I need to see this movie!

      • Oh, that’s weird. I was just talking with colleagues about Sliding Doors. I think it’s in the zeitgeist because there’s that new series (Awake?) with a similar idea.

        • if you’re watching shows, Parenthood is wonderful (and doesn’t require you to be a parent to enjoy it)!

          • We live in Berkeley and watch Parenthood mainly so we can be, all, “WHAT?? That is SO not Berkeley! As if!!!”

      • Former Litigator :

        “Sliding Doors” makes the economic concept of the “but for” world of damages come to life.

    • Set up a Pinterest and browse! It’s basically the pinnacle of the internet, with pins from all over. You can pin something political then a picture of a cat in a laundry basket, so it’s everything.

      Netflix Instant always seems to have better TV show selection than movies, so I must recommend Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, Parks and Rec, Gossip Girl and Mad Men. And Downton if you haven’t gotten around to watching it yet!

    • Blog Obsessed :

      The latest blog that I’m following is Filing Jointly . . . Finally. I found it via The Bloggess. Both are humor blogs in which the writers recount what’s happening in their lives. I recommend both!

      http://thebloggess.com/

      http://www.filing-jointly.com/

    • Downton Abbey. Revenge on ABC player.

      • also, I don’t have netflix, but for been out for a while movies, there’s Love Actually and Bridget Jones always makes me giggle.

      • Ooh yes, Revenge! It is so soapy and wonderful. I try to work in “I WILL DESTROY YOU.” into as many conversations as possible.

    • Blogs: if you don’t know it already, GoFugYourself dot com is truly fantastic fun.

      Netflix: not a movie, but if you haven’t seen it, I would recommend streaming the first season of Downton Abbey. I actually wish I hadn’t already watched it so I could watch it all over again. Also: Charade with Audrey Hepburn, Office Space, Heathers, Helvetica (the documentary), Edward Scissorhands and Harold & Maude.

      • Yay GOFugYourself. If you happen to like Hart of Dixie (as it is well documented I do) you have to read their “F*g the show” reviews. Its soooo funny.

      • icanhascheezburger dot com – kittens!
        And it has a bunch of other thematic sites that are lots of fun.

    • Thanks all! I have definitely seen both seasons of Downton Abbey, but may have to re-watch season one.

      • Oh, and I do have a Pinterest account … I spend WAY too much time on there so I’ve been trying to limit my time. I fear if I spent a whole afternoon pinning all the good work I’ve recently done would go right out the window. ;)

      • If you are open to TV series, I always point everyone I know towards Veronica Mars. It’s my all-time favorite TV show.

        • Netflix doesn’t stream it. Makes me so freaking sad. I own the DVDs but I’ve managed to lose random ones from the sets, so I can’t even use Netflix to bridge the gaps. Total devastation. And I love that the actor who played Logan Echolls has had a storyline on Ringer.

          • LOGAN is on Ringer? I love Logan? Sometimes I just watch the 4-5 episodes leading up to Weapons of Mass Destruction in the first season of V.Mars so I can see LoVe’s first kiss over and over again.

            Oh god. My freak flag is flying.

          • I own the dvds, too.

          • Oh man – I loved VM. I wished they had gotten the “Veronica goes the FBI” thing approved. I would have totally watched that show.

        • I watched it all a few years ago, and am rewatching it again. Love it so much. It’s the perfect series for a girl who adored Nancy Drew as much as I did.

      • I don’t think Veronica Mars is on streaming anymore. :-( But the first season of V. MArs is, I think without a doubt, the best season of television ever made. (I’ll fight anyone who argues with me…bring it on). When I made my husband watch it a couple years ago, he looked at me and said…so…this is where you get all your verbal mannerisms from. :-P

        • I dunno…. My vote is a tie between Freaks & Geeks and any season of Arrested Development.

          Which, btw GRA, if either of those shows are streaming you should watch. Streaming Arrested Development got me through the h*ll of studying for my TnE final.

          • I will fight you…I will fight you so hard. :-P

          • I love Freaks & Geeks. I was one of the 7 (10?) people who actually watched it when it originally aired on NBC. If you like that, try Life as we know it – another good (not as good) teen show that was sadly also cancelled too soon.

            I just watched the Unusuals on Netflix, if you like cop shows. Amazing cast and interesting story lines – I wish it had more time to develop. Include Jeremy Renner before he was the new It boy in Hollywood, Amber Tamblyn (who I adore – anyone see the Jezebel story on her rapping? – plus her dad was in Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, which is my favorite movie of all time and makes her cool by association), and a host of other people you’d probably recognize.

            I also sometimes like watching older shows that I was too young to watch when they actually aired – old episodes of Taxi with Christopher Lloyd and Danny DeVito, Cheers, etc.

            Also, if you haven’t watched BBC’s Sherlock, watch that. Love that.

        • I’m with you. I was seriously brokenhearted when it was cancelled.

        • I am right there with you on re-watching that kiss scene.

        • TCFKAG, I will fight the detractors side by side with you! Love Veronica Mars, didn’t manage to see the last season on Netflix before it got removed!

    • If you like period drama, papal intrigue, some lustful fornicatin’, and pretty dresses, I recommend the series Borgia. Not the Showtime series, though (it’s good, but not streaming), the European one.

      This one’s a bit rando, but a couple weekends ago I stumbled upon a really sweet Bollywood rom-com streaming on Netflix – Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi (roughly translates to A Match Made in Heaven). Cute story, great song and dance numbers – I ended up downloading the soundtrack. Note though, that the age difference between the main characters is not as extreme as the description makes it sound. It’s kind of there, but not a big deal.

      • I just remembered a bunch more!

        Documentaries: Bill Cunningham New York (about the NYT fashion photographer); Ballerina (about 5 Russian dancers at different stages of their career with the Kirov)

        Blogs: Awkward Family Photos; Cute Overload; Cake Wrecks; Autocorrect Fail; garfield minus garfield

        • If you’re at all into dancing and/or photography, I’d also check out the Dancers Among Us Blog. His work is amazing and his blog is actually really fun!

          Also second North South if you liked Downton Abby!

          • I didn’t know this was a blog! I read an article about this guy a couple months ago and it had some photos – totally awesome.

          • I have three of his prints and I love his work more than anything. You should also like him on Facebook! He’s awesome! Jordan Matter Photography is him.

            The blog is here: http://blog.jordanmatter.com/

            (There’s also a mailing list, btw, where he sends out occasional alerts. Like he’s writing a book!)

        • Sconnie, Cake Wrecks has totally made my afternoon.

          I’ve procrastinated and laughed to my heart’s content today!

      • OMG Sconnie, seconded re the Borgias. I totally can’t wait for the next season. I more or less watched it in real time when it was originally on TV but now I want to stream it one episode after another. Amazing.

        • I know, right?! I studied art history in college, specializing in Italian Renaissance. This stuff is like crack to me.

          Yowsers I am all over this thread! How obvious is it that a) the hubs travels a lot for work and 2) I do not have kids. Yep, I pretty much work, exercise, and d*ck around on my laptop.

    • If you haven’t seen Sarah’s Key … it was a good movie. I heard the book was better but I didn’t read it.

      I also second the pinterest thing.. but you better sign up today or you won’t get your login in time. I could live on Pinterest for hours. I also enjoy the WallStreet Journal’s Blog.. The Juggle.

      • Kristin Scott Thomas can do no wrong in my book. She was awesome in “Sarah’s Key” (as well as “I’ve Loved You So Long”).

    • Prodigal Sons is one of my favorite documentaries

    • Are you a dog person? I have been watching Dogtown (Nat Geo show) on Netflix streaming. I’m also starting United States of Tara. (Sorry, I know these aren’t movies!)

    • If I had a day at home to just watch movies, I’d probably watch as many of the following as possible:

      Pride and Prejudice 6-parter with Colin Firth
      Devil Wears Prada
      Intolerable Cruelty (George Clooney, Catherine ZJ, Cohen bros)
      and whatever random chick flick was on pay per view

      Those are my favorites to watch over and over if it’s just me & my husband isn’t around to make fun of me. (Though he does like Intolerable Cruelty, he knows I’m just watching it for the George Clooney as Cary Grant element.)

      • I had to buy the Colin First Pride and Prejudice because it wasn’t on Netflix Streaming. But it was on the sale rack at Target one day — it was glorious. Just for the part when he comes out of the lake all wet and shirtless. Oh yeah.

    • Downton Abbey season 1 is on streaming

      • Netflix:
        TV shows: I have to second Breaking Bad and add Shameless (UK series) and Weeds. Documentaries: exit through the gift shop and that Joan Rivers documentary.
        Movies: the girl with the dragon tattoo series.

    • I’m watching Homeland right now. I’m getting Showtime free for 3 months so I’m focusing on it for now. I’m pretty sure it’s not available on Netflix until next season, though.

      But because Claire Danes is in it, I’ve been thinking about My So-Called Life. Maybe you could watch that on Netflix. And, if you’re gonna be watching 80′s shows, you could also download 21 Jump Street. I still think that was Johnny Depp’s best work.

    • Have you watched Luther? Not sure if its streaming, but it’s a BBC series with Idris Elba (Stringer Bell from the Wire, so. HOT). and it’s really good. Also, The Wire? Love love love it (as much as I love Downton Abbey; evidently my tastes are broad.)

  5. Internal interview :

    Any advice on what to wear to an interview for an internal position? Interview is with a director on my current team, and on jeans day. A suit would stick out like a sore thumb.

    • I don’t know what industry you’re in, but I’m a lawyer and I would actually wear a suit. I know that at my company, which is normally pretty casual, several internal candidates have lost points because they didn’t wear a suit to interview. At the very least, I’d wear a jacket.

      • Internal interview :

        Not law. I’m in Finance at a Fortune 500. It’s a new position in my current department so I’ll be interviewing with my current boss and one of his peers.

    • Wear a suit to the interview and take the jacket off during the rest of your day. If you wear a casual enough top underneath, no one will think much about your pants/skirt and top combo when you take off your jacket.

  6. I’m wearing this dress in chocolate brown to a wedding in late March at a Florida winery. I need flats or wedges since the ceremony will be outside on grass. I cannot find any shoes that are formal enough. Corporettes with shopping acumen, please help!

    http://tinyurl.com/8a78pqe

  7. PharmaGirl :

    How does everyone keep up with corporette comments? I often forget to come back and check responses but don’t want to click the “followup comments” button. I opted in to receive followup comments on a weekend open thread once and boy did I regret it.

    Any tips from the ‘rette vets?

    • AnonInfinity :

      My strategy is to hit the refresh button every few minutes for a “mental health break.”

    • If I want to just follow-up on things I’ve commented for, I’ll do a control find for my user-name. Or else I just scroll past things that aren’t wildly interesting to me (sorry!).

      But yeah, its physically impossible to be interested in everything!

    • Here’s what I don’t recommend:

      Don’t open an Etsy shop in addition to your Grown Up Fancy Lawyer Day Job. Or if you do, don’t find your Etsy shop so vastly more fun, motivating, and rewarding that you spend more time on it than your Grown Up Fancy Lawyer Day Job for which, let’s be honest, your enthusiasm has been slipping for the last few years anyway. Don’t spend most of the day working on your content and Etsy shop, promoting it on your blog, and tabbing between your favorite blogs to keep up with all the articles you want to read and comments by your internet friends.

      You will find yourself working every weekend because you’re not getting the work done during your Grown Up Fancy Lawyer Day Job hours.

      Hypothetically speaking.

    • The follow up comments are easy to follow via email with gmail because they come as one email and each comment is a separate part of the “conversation.” Just works well with gmail.

      • Gmail is great on my laptop, but it floods the email on my phone with hundreds of emails.

        • Interesting! Mine treats it the same way on both. Maybe because I have an Android phone?

        • Maybe dedicate a separate email account for Corporette threads that isn’t hooked up to your phone. Or you could filter Corporette emails so that they’re archived unread.

  8. “posting too quickly” error. Ugh, I haven’t tried posting in months, but that error is why I’ve stopped coming here. So irritating.

  9. I am sick and tired of my limp, frizzy hair. It looks borderline unprofessional. I enjoy wearing it back, but a ponytail just won’t cut it. Can anyone recommend a website or series of videos for tips on how to wear your hair back at the office?

    • I think that instead of videos, you need to go to a stylist and have them help you with styles and products. Or just try a bunch of products on your own.

      Its expensive, but I tried a bunch of products until finding one that worked for me. Right now, I am using Loreal EverSleek conditioner and Pureology Pure Volume Blow Dry Amplifier. Its not perfect, but right now it keeping my fly-aways under control. (My hair is somewhat wavy and fine. I get lots of fly-aways, but not frizziness). My best friend had good luck with some sort of hot oil treatment she bought at the grocery store.

    • I was going to reply with something similar. My hair is thin and fine and hard to style. I find that I have to be really careful about products and I have to keep styling to a minimum because the more I do with my hair, the worse it looks. Anything that weighs down my hair is out. I keep it short and use Rusk Thick spray to keep down the flyaways and Brocato Cloud 9 style creme to keep the front of my hair from getting damaged by the blow dryer. If it’s not too warm or humid, I can use a flatiron to smooth out the ends, but if it’s too warm in the house, it makes my hair go completely flat. Try working with a good stylist and talk about products.

      • gibson roll tutorial posted on corporette last few months. my new favorite thing to look polished. did it yesterday, takes a minute.

    • Divaliscious11 :

      Agreed with the above. Go to sites like naturallycurly dot com and first learn how to embrace your curls. Then you’ll need to do some product sampling to figure out what works on your hair, and then you probably need a cut that works for your hair.

  10. I realize I am probably way, way behind the ball on this . . . but I just started using eyeshadow primer, and WOW. A friend gifted me one of the Urban Decay N*ked sets, and it comes with primer . . . I had always discarded the idea, thinking, “surely the eyeshadow scientists make the product well enough, and a pile-on product is money down the drain.” No. I have used it the last two days, and my eyeshadow (while neutral – n*ked, even) is so much richer in color and stays all day.

    • DallasSkirt Envy :

      Ok, totally stupid here. I got some free when I last bought eyeshadow and through it aside. How exactly is it used? Mine came in what looks like a tiny hand lotion tube.

      • DallasSkirt Envy :

        make that “threw”

      • Merabella :

        I usually put the primer on from lash to brow bone. Make sure you rub it in evenly, and then apply eyeshadow as usual. It is AMAZING! I always get more compliments on my eyeshadow when I use primer.

      • The primer that I have is used just like cream for your face, except in a much smaller quantity. I normally put the tiniest little drop on my finger and run it gently over my entire eyelid. Then, just apply the eye shadow like you normally would. I make sure the primer is dry so that it doesn’t make clumps while I’m trying to apply the eye shadow. It’s kind of like chapstick for the eyes :)

    • RussiaRepeat :

      It’s almost too good–I have trouble blending my eye shadow when I wear it. But yeah, no racoon eyes where my shadow has sloughed off onto my lower lids. The n*ked pallette is almost all I need for work eye make-up (and the sparkly ones are nice for nights out), though I did buy a separate matte grey.

    • And now you made me realize that I forgot to bring makeup to work to prep for a 6:00 p.m. date. Darn it.

      • Do you have a sephora nearby? Or really any cosmetics counter. I’ve done that before when I’m at the store buying something and realized I forgot mascara or whatever. Pop it on and then I’ve tried a new product too!

  11. DallasSkirt Envy :

    Lets talk about shoe care! Recently I started a job where I wear heels every day. I have invested in several good pairs of Cole Haan and similar quality shoes but find myself not knowing how to care for them. I’m not sure how to know when they need to be resoled, reheeled, etc. Is there a tutorial out there for this?

    • Anonymous :

      My 200 dollar Cole Haans were 100 dollars more than I ever paid for shoes. Before I even wore them I had an extra sole put on so they would last longer.

    • I have most of my heels rubberized before I wear them, and get them resoled when I start to notice a lot of wear (especially if it’s in/around the same area). Other than that, the best thing I’ve found–both for my shoes and my feet–is rotating my lineup so I never wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row.

      • Goosebumpy :

        I put rubber soles on all my shoes now, too. (I’ve got an adorable and ancient Italian cobbler who’s just a block away.) I wish I would’ve known about that trick a whole lot earlier.

    • AnotherLadyLawyer :

      No idea about a tutorial, but for me the sad heel is the kicker. NYC flat out destroys heels or maybe it’s me? Down the road, take a look at them every couple of months to make sure there’s still some heel left. Once you can fully see (and hear the metallic click click click of) whatever it is under where the heel should be, it may be too late! FWIW, I’m a Cole Haan Nike Air girl and I probably have my go-to pairs re-heeled once or twice a year, but I’ve never had them re-soled. I also had my favorite and significantly cheaper pair of pumps re-heeled and re-soled last year as a last ditch effort to save them. Alas, they died (so sad!). My only other tips are to resist the urge to chuck them all under your desk — nothing scuffs my shoes more than living in the shoe graveyard under my desk. (I’m now the proud owner of an in-office, under-desk shoe rack).

    • With pointy toed shoes, I have toe taps put on right away to lessen scuffing. Otherwise, I just replace the heel tips when the nail starts peeking out.

    • I drive a good distance to/from work, so all my right shoes are scuffed in the back-right side, where they touch the floormat. While blacks and browns can be helped by polish, shoes in more exotic colors look really sad. Does anyone know how to remedy or prevent this, short of keeping driving shoes in the car?

    • Marie Curie :

      Thanks to fashion blogs I learned about cobblers and what amazing things they can do (I honestly had no idea you could stretch out shoes). Now I take shoes in to have a protective rubber sole added before I even wear them. However, because I don’t have that much money I only do this for shoes that “need it”, i.e. when they have a flat leather sole without any profile that I can just see getting scratched and ruined the first time I wear them. I haven’t yet reached a point where shoes need to be resoled or reheeled but maybe I should check my collection. Like I said, I had no idea cobblers could do this and so never paid any attention to the sole or heels. My ex also taught me about how to use shoe polish for my black suede boots, but I admit I’m a bit lazy about it and only brush off the dirt after wearing them. I have shoes stretched when needed and it’s made such a difference. And I use rain protection spray on all of my suede shoes.

      • Marie Curie :

        Ok, other comment ended in moderation because of link, so here it is again: A video where a blogger talks about her shoe care.
        www dot iamstyle-ish dot com and search for “shoe care”

  12. Do people like their jobs? How can so many of you work so much? I think I’m in the wrong industry, but I don’t know where to go from here. I’m in public accounting and I know I don’t work as much as many of you ladies, but this is our busy time and I am so sick of working. I can’t even make myself work anymore. I want to leave, but I don’t know where to go. I honestly sometimes wish I could just be a homemaker and sit at home all day with my dog and volunteer and read and travel. I find myself jealous of my rich clients’ wives!

    Growing up I always thought I was smart and ambitious and a hard worker, but I want to give up. I want to sleep more than six hours a night and I want to have time to myself and not spend all my time working and worrying about billable goals and my clients’ demands and I want to go to the gym and I want a job where I get in at 8 and leave at 5 and don’t think about it when I’m not there. I want time and energy to go out and meet people and have a boyfriend and more than two friends. But I also want to be able to pay the bills and not feel like a failure.

    Seriously, how do all of you women do it? I’m only five years into my career but I’m ready to retire!

    • SpaceMountain :

      I’d love to hear the answers, too, but because I’m thinking of trying to educate my middle-school daughter to some future career options. My husband and I are both lawyers so she knows all about that (and does NOT want to do it), so I’m curious about some other careers that you all have, and how you like it.

      • I’m in marketing, and I really enjoy the field itself. My current organization can be frustrating because sometimes it takes a while to get things approved, but I think red tape is present in a lot of organizations.

        I enjoy marketing because it allows me to be creative and deal with people. I also like that my duties change every day, from ad design, to tradeshow logistics, to strategy, and dealing with vendors/clients. If your daughter is interested in learning about a marketing career, my blog is linked to my name, and I write about a lot of different marketing observations.

        • I am also in marketing at a Fortune 500 company. The hours are great 8-5 and employer is extremely flexible. I work out of the home whenever I feel I need to and many people work a few hours extra a night and take everyother Friday off. Some travel, but not much and it is almost never last minute.

          I tell my friends I basically get paid to come up with ideas. The work is challenging and creative. The pay is not as good as law or medicine but there is good potential. I actually have been considering leaving because of the pay! :(

          • There’s no non-shameful way to say this, anon, but I would love to network with you! I’m doing well in my current position, but networking with other marketers is difficult because I’m so busy. So, if you’re not opposed to nerding out with another marketer, we should talk :)

      • Anonymous :

        Y’know I wish middle schools focused on getting kids out and (pseudo)-interning in the real world. I think I only really understood a handful of jobs at that point in my life (lawyer, teacher, doctor, construction worker). I really didn’t get things like R&D, Project Management or Sales. (I mean I understood sales at the level of, we buy things at Wal-Mart or the grocery store, not Sales like how does the buying and selling of commercials work, or of wholesale deals, etc.) But I made decisions about high-school and college based on really incomplete information about careers. So I really understand your concerns.

        Honestly, if I were helping a middle schooler out I would make it a summer project, get her a notebook and help her put together a career portfolio type thing where she goes and interviews people about how they got their job and what they actually do and what they like best and least about it. Use your network and see if you can get her five or so interviews and have her ask each interviewer who the person they know with the most interesting job. You’ll teach her so much! Not just about jobs, but how to act in professional settings, how networking works, how working people really spend their days, how to follow through, how to break down big projects. She could turn it into a blog or into an extra credit when she gets back to school (English teachers always loved to give extra credit for projects I brought them).

        I know a lot of people who are really happy in various forms of hospital work (administrators, planners, assistants). They work reasonable hours, have good health insurance and feel like their jobs help people instead of just enriching stock holders and CEOs. I think if I had to do it all again I’d do hospital administration or Organizational Psychology.

        Of course, I don’t feel a compelling need to make money or buy shoes or anything like that. Which are legitimate priorities to consider when thinking about jobs. You should definitely talk to your daughter about what her priorities and values are, since our jobs tend to shape how we live every aspect of our lives.

        Good luck!

    • I hate my job/career (five years in as well), but I do it because I don’t know what else I’d do and at this point, I’m not up for a major overhaul of everything. All the things you are saying are the same for me.

      I just suck it up and work. I know that sounds terrible, but I fill my non-work time with fun things (or not fun things, but things I enjoy) and when I’m at work, I try my hardest to pay attention to what I’m doing and do a good job (despite my posting on this website all day). I don’t think I’ll ever love my job the way other people love their jobs, but I can love other things so I just concentrate on loving those things.

      I will say that I don’t have any kids yet, but I definitely wonder how that will change things…

      • Feet in two boats :

        Advice on retirements accounts for non-residents? I’ve been thinking of opening a Roth IRA for almost 6 months now. I’ve been here for 7 years now but mostly as a student. By the time I get permanent residency (if that), it would be another six years. I can’t decide if I should sink the money in and forget about it. What happens if DH and I have to leave and return to our country? This is the last year (2011) we can open a Roth as I will be starting a much higher paying job later in the year. Anyone know someone in the same situation?

        • I don’t have much advice but I am a non- perm resident/non citizen too, came here as a student, not married yet. I no longer qualify for roth IRA. I just put enough money in my employer sponsored 401K to get the maximum match and tax benefit. Don’t know if I will stay in this country long enough to retire here, so I am not putting anything beyond the minimum in 401 (k) and only started doing it recently because now I am fully vested in my employer’s 100% match. Not doing it would mean throwing away free money. I haven’t bought a house or condo either given uncertainty over the long green card process even though I could easily afford it. I am basically living way below my means and build up my savings for who knows what the future holds.

          • You can still do a Roth IRA. You just put the money into a regular IRA, then convert it really quickly, before there is any gain in the IRA. That’s what I do (biglaw, so salary this year will be $170K + bonus). The IRA is a money-market, and I roll it into a Roth within a day or two of depositing in the IRA.

          • Feet in two boats :

            I hear you – that’s pretty much what we’re doing…I wish we had more certainty, would make long term decisions a tad bit easier to take.

      • Do you think you’d enjoy teaching? Smaller colleges often hire accounting profs with master’s level degrees vs needing the PhD; the pay is less, but there’s so much flexibility. Plus you get to talk about all those things you do love about your field.

        • I don’t actually have a master’s degree, so I wouldn’t be able to teach. But honestly, I don’t think that I’d make a very good teacher. Talking in front of groups of people for a living sounds like my idea of torture!

    • Anonymous :

      MY SO is in public accounting and is currently working 7 days a week with 4 hours of sleep each day during busy season. He’s thinking about moving to internal audit after he’s more established at the big 4. Not really advice, but kudos to you for grinding it out this far.

    • I could have written this. Especially your second paragraph. Sadly, I have no good advice (since I’m the same boat) but I just wanted to let you know you’re not the only one!

      - A fellow number cruncher

    • Woods-comma-Elle :

      I’ve recently felt a bit like this. I don’t mind the late hours now and then, but weekends are sacred. I’d rather stay at work late in the week than work during the weekend, but last week I had to and it made me so pissed off. I realised tonight that I haven’t done anything social on a Friday night since before Christmas… I don’t hate my job as such, but having had a prolonged period of long hours has started to get to me.

    • Anon for this :

      Wait! I could almost imagine writing the same thing, except that I’ve only been at my career for about a year and a half.

      I don’t think I’m cut out for my line of work and it is sad that it took me 90K in loans to figure that out.

    • I have a love/hate relationship with my job. Sometimes I am burning to quit. Other times, I’m really happy here and truly grateful to do what I do. I’ve learned that things can be awful, but they also can get so much better. There is hope! I think you just have to learn how to assert yourself to meet your own needs and let go of what you can’t control and stop obsessing over it. Recognize and accept the crappy parts of your job (assuming they can’t be changed) so that you won’t be disappointed each time they pop up. Focus on the good things in your life and make more of them happen. Even small steps like making yourself healthy lunches to enjoy at work or going for a run in the evening can help you feel so much better. I think when you’re in a situation that drains you, you have to make a conscious effort to fill yourself back up. Find spaces in the day where you can do that.

      • Another Sarah :

        I feel the same way. My direct co-manager and I have very different working styles and we often frustrate each other – him needing more structure from me, me needing more flexibility from him. And we communicate differently – he expects me to update him, I expect him to tell me what he needs. It’s incredibly frustrating. But overall, I enjoy what I do and my co-workers, so I’ll keep going in!

      • I also have a love/hate relationship with my job.
        I am in a small market and have multiple functions (3 job titles).
        It is beyond frustrating how people assume that I am 100% available for their important project, when I am in fact struggling to solve a major business issue.
        I had many insecurities and thought of quitting several times. But to be honest, I am very grateful for my job and the pay is amazing.
        After a very tough year, I had several major disappointments.
        I started doing like you did Viv and enjoying little things. Went back to working out whenever I can, did some retail therapy, started to network in my field.
        I am aware that life is not all pink (as we say in French “La vie n’est pas toute rose”) but I try to see and enjoy the little wins as much as possible

    • Whenever I’m feeling truly awful about my job, I read this thread. It’s so honest and true to life and also kind of depressing and hilarious at the same time in a black humor kind of way. It makes me feel better.

      http://ask.metafilter.com/107179/How-to-survive-this-horrible-job-one-day-at-a-time

    • No real advice to share, but I’m in the same situation as you and completely understand what you’re going through. I did actually leave temporarily for a 8-6 job (internal audit for an IB) and loved the hours and the pay, but hated the nature of the work and the backstabby unsupportive culture and wound up pretty depressed as a result. I was so relieved to go back to doing something that I actually enjoy, with people I like working with, and made giving up my whole life for it much easier because I didn’t have that fantasy of the dream 9-5 job.

      How long have you been there? After 5 years at a big 4 you can jump out and earn a lot more money with fewer hours and less stress quite easily.

      In any take-over-your-life job being super organised and prioritising is key, and you have to be okay with the fact that you are going to have to sacrifice a lot to make this work. You can’t do everything you want outside of work, but pick something that is important for you and stick to it. In my group it’s normal for everyone to have one night with a scheduled activity (sport training or a class) that they HAVE to get out by 7pm for, even if they continue to work from home afterwards. I also take full advantage of the freedom and control that this job gives me. I will take a two hour lunch to catch up with a friend on slower days, and if I’m feeling particularly over it I will go home at 3pm, nap or laze around for a couple of hours until I feel energised again. (Note that I can do this because I have a history of delivering, it takes a few years to earn this!). If I need sleep, I get it. It’s not brain surgery, nobody is going to die if you take a couple of hours to look after yourself, and it makes me feel like I’m doing this because I want to, not because I have to.

    • Former public accountant here – I transitioned out of public practice into industry almost 2 years ago, trading tax season (6 weeks straight) for month end (1-2 late nights per month), and I love it. The pay is better, there are more perks, more interesting people, and I still get to be an accountant, which I love.

      If you enjoy accounting, but tax season is burning you out (which I completely sympathize with) have you considered going industry? I was initially worried about making the transition because I wasn’t sure my skills would transfer very well, but luckily I was hired by someone who was also formerly in public practice and recognized the skill set I gained while in public practice would serve me well in industry and she was right. The other concern I had was getting bored – I didn’t want to do data entry. I got hired by a large oil & gas services company and because of my designation (CGA in Canada) and my experience I am at a high enough level (operations controller now after starting as senior accountant) that I do very little data entry, and every day is different.

      Seriously, the best career move I ever made.

      • I am considering industry. I was actively looking for jobs last spring, but ended up settling for another firm to make sure that I was not at my old firm when busy season (for the 9/15 deadline) started. My biggest worry though is with my experience I will only be able to get a job where I do the same thing every day and I will either be stuck in the same position forever or have to move to a new company to move up. Although, I suppose at the moment being stuck in a boring job sounds better than where I am now.

        Thanks for telling me about your experience. I’m glad to hear that it has worked out well for some people! Most of the people that I started with either are still in public or have gone on to boring jobs, so it makes me feel better that there are some success stories out there.

    • Thank you everyone who has written something. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. I wanted to add a couple more things to what I’ve wrote above, in case someone has some advice.

      First, while I am in public accounting, I’m not at a Big 4 firm, nor am I in audit. Like most people who go into public accounting I only imagined I’d be here a 2-3 years, but I’ve found it’s harder to get out with a tax background and without the Big 4 name on my resume. I actually changed firms over the summer and while my new firm is considerably better than where I was before, I know it’s the nature of the work that I really dislike. I’ve met with several recruiters over the years, but not much has come out of it. I went on one non-public accounting interview last summer, but I knew after about 10 minutes in that the job was a bad fit for me (and according to the recruiter, so did they).

      I also feel a little guilty trying to find a new job, since I’ve been here now less than a year and the people here are so awesome. The partner I work with the most is what I would consider the ultimate Corporette – incredibly bright, fast worker, new mom that has managed to stay in shape and always looks well put together at work, always has my back with the clients, takes time to go over any questions I have, is always calm, funny in meeting, and I have never walked out of her office feeling worse than when I went in. Oh, and uses her time off to take exotic vacations with her family. I have never had a better professional role model.

      My parents are pressuring me to go to business school, which I imagine I’d love for the two years that I was there, but I’m not sure what I would do when I got out. Plus, I have no idea who I would even ask for a recommendation letter, since I wouldn’t want my current employers to know I was applying and quite frankly I’m not sure who I could ask at my former firm.

      I try to do things that I enjoy when I’m not at work, but honestly most days I just want to go home and sit by myself. I try to never bring work home, which works well for me, but it also means that I usually don’t get home until 10 or so most nights during the week. Which is doable for a week or two, but I’m a month in with one and a half left and I’m miserable.

      Wow, that was long. If anyone read it, thanks. It’s clearly Friday and I don’t want to do any more work, even though I need to bill at least 10-15 more hours this week. UGG.

      • Unless you have someone that will pay for it I wouldn’t suggest going to business school. DO you have your CPA? Most states require 150+ credits. If you would need to go back to take the exam then I would suggest getting an MBA. You will have more options later.

        I’m a CPA with my MBA, in public accounting, and specializing in audits of government, nonprofits, and healthcare providers. I have 2 busy seasons a year b/c my clients are 12/31 and 6/30 year-ends. The job security and salary keep me coming to work. Otherwise I am miserable :)

        I am at work today for about 10 hours and tomorrow probably another 5.

        • I do have my CPA license, I was able to get my 150 hours while I was in undergraduate. The idea of getting an MBA would really be to move out of public accounting, I just have no idea where I want to move to. My parents have offered to help me pay for part of the MBA, but they already paid for all of my undergraduate schooling and they are now retired, so I would feel bad taking their money.

          Job security and salary are what keep me here too, but sometimes I just wish that they’d fire me.

    • I love this question because I love my job! After 2 years as a marketing account manager, I basically fell into a nonprofit advancement position (also known as development or fundraising) and have never looked back. I’m now in my 7th year in this field and have had a couple of different jobs at different orgs; change usually came about because of big life stuff (i.e. I moved when I got married, I took a job that entailed less travel when I had a baby). I now work in a private secondary school and oversee a staff of 7. Every single day is different, which is awesome.

      While many people see fundraisers as the nonprofit equivalent of used car salesmen, my job is more about making people feel appreciated and determining ways to help connect them with dreams they want to make happen. Philanthropy is so freaking cool and I feel fortunate every day to be a part of this world…AND to get paid for doing it!

      Upside: flexible job, flexible workplace cultures (usually), because night/weekend work isn’t uncommon. Downside: you’re NEVER done raising money. Ever ever ever. But it’s a great, professional job that typically allows for good work-life balance (even though I do check work email on a smartphone and have a four-hour meeting scheduled for this weekend, I rarely work past 5 pm if not earlier).

      Rereading this, I realize I sound like a cheerleader on speed. No really — I do love my job that much.

    • seltzer pop :

      No advice, just sympathy – though I’m not an accountant, I recently started out in a pretty similar job (actuary at a consulting/audit company). I’ve started too recently to be burned out just yet, but I’m wondering how anybody ever has time to build a life outside of work – it seems like all I do is work/sleep/study for exams…sigh. Looking forward to hearing about how all of yall uber Corporettes do it!

      • I see it as the unfortunate reality of choices in professional USA. Not that there aren’t exceptions, but by and large our balance is out of whack. We don’t have enough time of in our jobs to be refreshed and thus happy. I don’t have a solution, because I like having a career I enjoy despite being tired, and a good paycheck. And while there are those rare super flexy part time gigs out there, I don’t see how I could be effective/compete in those roles. My hopes: maybe I will do a stint for my company in EU someday, where I’d be entitled to local leave. Maybe the millenials, and even my mid-30′s types, will assert ourselves as the boomers retire and change things (hard to picture a sea change moving fast, but the young’uns don’t seem to put up with it well). Maybe I will take breaks or something. But yes, I agree with you it is exhausting and doesn’t seem right. I also agree with the person who said to do little things. After working 10-14 hr days the past few months while pregnant, I had a flexible day this week, and my teamate and I went shopping at 2pm for an hour. And I had a long lunch. Twice. I felt cheery afterwards. And I left at 3:40 yesterday with no explanation when boss asked where I was headed. As a whole, we need to deftly, professionally voice these concerns in the right ways to our employers over time if we ever see it want to change. I do.

    • I completed an internship in public accounting and then used a move as an excuse to get out of there! One thing to keep in mind- once you leave public, is it nearly impossible to get back in without dropping your pay considerably. It also sounds like you’re in tax and those positions can be rare in-house. I currently work for a mega-conglomerate and while we have analysts and accountants on the ground at every location, all of our tax accountants are holed up in HQ.
      But… every recruiter I’ve ever worked with prefers somebody with at least a year or two of public on their resume, particularly Big 4 or big players in the city. In my case, it didn’t matter that I mainly did individual taxes; they just liked to see the name there. If you’re willing to come over to the financial reporting or audit side of life, you may find a lot more opportunity once you put in a year or two in. You may have to move departments/divisions/companies every few years (3-10, depending on your industry) to keep the raises going. That’s just the reality of private industry.
      Also, if you have your CPA and the desire to set your own hours, have you considered setting out on your own? If I was finished with my CPA, that’s what I’d be doing right now.

  13. Another career question — I’m a 3L and have a two-year clerkship lined up after graduation, so I’m not looking for a job in the short term, but I’ve recently realized that I’ve gotten through 2.75 years of law school without thinking enough about what my long-term career will be. After pondering for a while, I’ve realized I don’t even know that much about what lawyers do outside of the jobs you hear about in law school — big law firm litigator, public defender or prosecutor, legal aid lawyer, professor, the mysterious “transactional lawyer” and “in-house counsel,” etc.

    So… if you have a law degree and don’t do one of those jobs (or if you do one of the mysterious jobs, or have comments about one of the non-mysterious jobs, or if you have a friend or family member with a cool legal job), I’d love to hear a couple sentences about what you do and whether you like it. Recommendations for helpful books on legal careers would also be much appreciated. Many thanks!

    • Woods-comma-Elle :

      I’m a transactional lawyer – in a geeky way I quite like being referred to as ‘mysterious’

      • My friend went on a first date with a transactional attny last week. She asked me “what EXACTLY does he do?” and I just scratched my head. What EXACTLY do you do day to day?

        • I’m a transactional lawyer, and my answer to this question is: (a) manage people, and (b) make lots of lists.

        • another woman of mystery here – draft agreements, spend hours on phone with other side negotiating agreements, re-write accordingly.

        • Woods-comma-Elle :

          All of the above. Basically it works like this:

          1. Get a new deal in
          2. Advice on the structure
          3. Draft the contracts
          4. Negotiate the contracts
          5. Prep all the ancillary documents and organise them
          6. Get the contracts signed/close the deal
          7. Drink champagne/sleep
          8. Repeat steps 1-7

          When I write it out like that it sounds really dull, but I actually find it really interesting, it moves a lot quicker, a deal usually closes in about 3-4 months, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter, as opposed to litigation which can go on for years. And everybody (mostly) wants the same thing, so people are nicer :-)

      • Divaliscious11 :

        Me too, I am a transactional in-house lawyer! I feel like I need a veil! lol

    • I’m so glad you asked this because I’m facing the end of my two year clerkship, and I still have no idea what I’m going to do. I would love to hear suggestions of jobs other than those anon 3L listed because I would much rather do a non-traditional job instead of litigating, etc.

    • sigh. i’m a big boring biglaw litigator. wish i was mysterious.

    • So happy you posted this! I’ll be reading the responses.

    • In House Counsel :

      Not sure if in-house counsel is mysterious or not:) but I went in-house about a year ago as a 4th yr. Work at a large publishing company and support several of the [product specific] business units with their daily commercial transactions (a lot of licensing agreement, sales — both traditional and subscription based as well as reseller, joint venture etc., technology IT agreements, some privacy work etc.). Also do general trademark and advertising/promotions support across the company. Prior to this I was an IP attorney at a law firm on the transactional side.

      Friends joke i’m one of the few attys they know who LOVES their job. for me the key has been the variety of work and being able as in-house counsel to really understand the business which has helped me understand how the work i do (drafting contracts or advising a business unit on next steps in a developing a product) fits into the larger picture. also the hours are much better here and my boss is actually NICE and compliments my work (rare occurence at the firm!).

      • My dream job is to work as in house counsel for a publishing company. Would you mind telling a little bit more about what qualifications/background someone with your job needs?

        • InHouse Counsel :

          Lynnet,

          Just saw this. Our department is a mix of folks. Depending on the responsibilities, the mix of skill sets includes M&A, labor/employment and IP/IT transactional. I’d say the majority of us have a strong IP background prior to moving into this role. Most of us are also primarily transactional though a couple of my colleagues who handle litigation obviously came from an IP/commercial litigation background

    • AnotherLadyLawyer :

      As one of those run of the mill big firm litigators, I’d love to see responses to this. My inclination, however, is that most of the mysteriously cool non-listed jobs only come after years of doing the not-so-mysterious, not-so-cool jobs you already know about. Definitely works that way with in-house counsel jobs for the most part, so I assume that it works that way with jobs that bridge legal/business worlds and quasi-legal jobs that seem like way more fun than mine!

    • I guess I’m a “typical” small firm litigator? I LOVE it (80% of the time). I’m in court every day, I’m in constant contact with my adversaries and clients (good and bad thing), I do more substantive work than my biglaw litigation friends, and my office is small so while I’m still working 10-14 hrs/day, if I need to leave early or take a day off I can. Sorry if it sounds like I’m gloating, but aside from not making 180k+, I’m really happy with my post-law school life.

      • Ok just realized you totally didn’t ask for any small firm litigator responses. Anyway, something to just keep in mind as you’re rounding out school and looking into your near-distant future: opportunities may arise in areas you never thought of, and those opportunities may lead to happiness and fulfillment that you had never anticipated. Never rule out any possibilities.

    • GVT Lawyer :

      There are a lot of gvt jobs in a lot of different areas at local, state, and federal levels and depending on the job you get decent hours and much more responsibility right out of the gate.

    • NGO Worker :

      I work for an international NGO – like one of the ones that’s been in the news lately with the trial in Egypt. In the big picture, I advise governmental institutions on how to comply with international law. In the day to day, I either stare at a computer screen and go to meetings, or I fly to another country where I stare at a computer screen and go to meetings. I don’t really want to be more specific. I do like my job, very much. There are lots of jobs for lawyers in similar NGOs, although you’ll need the right resume to get one.

      • This sounds exactly like the kind of work I would like to do in the long run. I’m still in school and am having a hard time finding opportunities that I think could put me on the right track. Do you have any advice/can I pick your brain, please?

        • NGO Worker :

          Sure. I gave some advice below, but feel free to ask questions – I’ll check back.

          Since you’re still a student, try to do an international internship, and take some international relations or policy courses. Join clubs related to international affairs. For example, I’m a lawyer, and I and many other colleagues judge an international moot court contest every year – it is a great way for the students who participate to meet practitioners, and occasionally they land an internship or job because of it.

          • Thanks! I’ve got some international experience, but would really like to get more. With regard to the moot court point, I hope to do Jessup next year, but am also considering doing a full time externship with a development organization and can’t do both. I’m trying to get in as many international law classes as possible, and am also taking some out of department classes on international relations. I don’t want to out myself too much online, but if I could ask you more questions and let you know a little bit more about me privately I would really appreciate it! My email is lfgttb at gmail dot com.

          • NGO Worker :

            @anon – do the externship. I will email you.

      • Anonymous NYer :

        What qualifies as the “right resume”? This type of job has always intrigued me, and while I’m sure I don’t have that magical right resume, I’d like to know what one looks like.

        • NGO Worker :

          A combination of previous experience in developing countries, a degree (or at least a lot of coursework) in a related field, really good grades, and the sort of intangible quality that
          I can best describe as the ability to take care of yourself/handle difficult situations. If you’re already out of school, try to do some international volunteer work to make up for the lack of previous experience and a related degree. Also, most development jobs for US citizen employees are partially or entirely program management positions, so gaining previous experience as a project manager of some sort will transfer well. If you’re a lawyer, there are often opportunities to work in other countries in specific areas of law, so pick a practice area that will translate well (anti-corruption and environmental/natural resources law come to mind right of the top of my head).

    • I’m an employment lawyer, I represent school districts with employee management, student management, contracts, bargaining, etc… I’ve just started, but there’s supposed to be a lot more bargaining in my future. (I hope!)

      Before that I worked for a firm that represented police and firefighter unions (boy am I outed if anyone on here actually knows me irl!) basically whenever a cop did something or was accused of doing something wrong, I would attend the interrogation with internal affairs, then represent the client through a pre-disciplinary appeal and a post-disciplinary appeal (usually arbitration) then, if we felt there was something wrong with the verdict, we could go to superior court, and ultimately the court of appeals. (Never happened for me but one of my coworkers got to.) I also drafted agreements and acted as the union’s corporate counsel with regards to bylaws, dealing with management, and brown act issues, etc…

    • Diana Barry :

      I do trusts and estates. It is cool! No emergencies, you deal with people instead of companies, get to do research (if clients need weird trust/tax advice), and you can usually set your own hours, even at bigger firms. :)

    • anon for this :

      I’m a lawyer employed by a municipality (i.e. a city or county law dept) to represent the municipality’s social services department. Mostly that means representing the child protective services social workers in court when they want to remove a child from home due to abuse/neglect/some other safety concern. Sometimes we have more voluntary arrangements when a child has severe disabilities that exceed the parent’s financial and other resources. So I do a ton of juvenile court litigation, some related family court stuff, and mediations etc. We get to do adoptions when kids are adopted out of foster care, which is always like the happiest day at work. There is a bit of general counsel-type work as well in terms of advising the dept on new laws/policies or representing them if they get sued in some other capacity (hasn’t happened yet, since I’ve been there.).

      This is absolutely not something I ever wanted to do when I was in law school, but the opportunity came up at a good location for me and I decided to give it a try. I’m so glad I did. I really love it most of the time. I’ve only been there about a year.

      I think its important to focus more on the qualities of the job than the intellectual subject area of law you would practice (which it sounds like you’re doing, from asking this question). My jobs suits me very well because it has the following things that are important for my own job satisfaction: reasonable hours (9-5, comp time if I go over that during a trial and no prob taking time off as long as I schedule my docket accordingly), good benefits, decent pay- though not on par with most private practice attorneys (I make in the 60-70k range), tons of responsibility early on- I’ve already questioned witnesses in court/done openings and closings etc, enough craziness to keep me from being bored ever, and some level of moral/deeper satisfaction because I help social workers get kids out of dangerous situations and sometimes to get them adopted.

      My job would be a bad fit for someone who needs prestige, wants to make more than 100k anytime soon, is uncomfortable in crisis situations or with lots of responsibility. Also, you have to find humor in crappy situations and have a high tolerance for discussing the nitty gritty of sex abuse, drug abuse, physical abuse, other kinds of debauchery.

      I second whoever said to keep an open mind because you might find yourself happily working somewhere you never would have expected.

    • I have done some of those (transactional and litigation) and now much happier I work in a large company doing global policy and strategy in a subject matter area that is a passion for me. It is by far the best job I’ve had. It took the decade plus years of putting in dues in other roles though to get it- no way would someone get hired for my role without the history, as no way could they be effective without the stripes- hard to explain, but you have to learn to execute, deal with people properly, have a technical skill to leverage, have contacts, etc.

      I like the advice phrase ‘play the hand you are dealt’- whatever you end up doing, learn it, work hard, map out pathways to transition to the next better thing using what you have done.

    • Thank you all very much for these answers, both the specific career descriptions and the general advice. I do agree with the people who have said that it’s important to be open to unexpected opportunities, but I also think I’m less likely to get stuck in a position out of sheer inertia if I have a long-term goal, even if that goal is very much subject to change. Lots to think about! Thanks again for sharing your cool jobs.

      • Anonymous :

        anon 3L, if you’re still reading here, check out Kimm Walton’s book “America’s Greatest Places to Work with a Law Degree.” Don’t read it for detailed salary information and addresses, etc. — it was written in 1998 so it’s very much out of date in that respect. Read it as a way to get ideas about what else you could do as a lawyer besides be a litigator in BigLaw.

    • I’m transactional–not a lawyer, just a sr. paralegal. I do a lot of IPOs (I’m in Silicon Valley and that’s been the thing for about a year now), a lot of venture financings, and a lot of M&A. I also do general public company work and a quite a lot of later-stage private company rep work too. Basically, I work in a really broad corporate practice and that’s what I like about it. As soon as I am tired of preparing one more overhang analysis or disclosure schedule or board consent or dealing with a signing/closing, it’s on to another type of deal and another client. My timesheets can reflect work for five or more clients per day, and while I am not an ADD-type in that I can concentrate fine, I do think the variety keeps me fresh and focused. I do like my job, most of the time…

      Also, I would say that there are ups and downs in terms of tiredness…and I go through phases where I’m exhausted. That’s the nature of the biglaw transactional beast, particularly when a deal (or three) is (are) in a really heated phase.

  14. Accountress :

    Thanks to everyone who suggested hair care products for my silver-haired mom. We ended up getting her the L’Oreal blonde & grey shampoo and conditioner (after a great hassle- she wanted to get the $8 bottle that she didn’t like the smell of, just because it was the cheapest.)

    She has been alternating using it and her normal shampoo/conditioner for about 2 weeks now- she likes how smooth her hair feels after using the new stuff, and has seen the yellowing start to disappear.

    I do attribute part of the differences she’s seen to the fact that she is no longer washing her hair every day- she argued strenuously that it was fine to wash it every day, but I convinced her to give it two weeks, and see how her hair improved. She now agrees that every other day is better for her.

    Now if only she’ll agree to hire painters to paint when she moves into her & Dad’s new condo…

  15. momentsofabsurdity :

    I’ve just taken a significant pay raise and am looking at moving out of my (crappy crappy crappy mice infested – leaky roof – basement level) current apartment to a nicer one closer into the city (and cut my commute in half) when my lease is up. Unfortunately, most of my friends are still at lower paygrades and won’t be able to come with into a nicer place/area. However, I’d still like to have roommates, mostly because even with the pay raise, I can’t afford a better-located apartment without roommates and plus, I like having people to hang with when I come home. The cost of a 1 bedroom around where I live would still be more than the cost of a room in a roommate situation much closer into town, so it just makes sense to me to move closer in and add roommates.

    Any suggestions for finding roommates? I’ve been looking at Craigslist and no luck thus far. I still have a few months (hoping to sign a lease in May/June for Sep. move in). What I’d love is to find someone who wants to go looking to find a great place together. I’ve been putting out feelers to friends/friends of friends/asking my current roommates, but I went to a touchy-feely small liberal arts college, and most of my friends in the area are in nonprofit work and are barely getting by with the $500-700/mo rent they’re paying now. Is there a resource I’m missing?

  16. Feet in two boats :

    I’m reposting this as it got submitted as a reply to a previous comment:

    Advice on retirements accounts for non-residents? I’ve been thinking of opening a Roth IRA for almost 6 months now. I’ve been here for 7 years now but mostly as a student. By the time I get permanent residency (if that), it would be another six years. I can’t decide if I should sink the money in and forget about it. What happens if DH and I have to leave and return to our country? This is the last year (2011) we can open a Roth as I will be starting a much higher paying job later in the year. Anyone know someone in the same situation?

  17. I’m with Kat – I have early Spring Fever! I took a vacation day off today for mental health and bought yellow paint for my dining room and took a long walk with the dogs. So glad it’s the weekend!

  18. Trash talker :

    Anyone work with a person who spends most of his/her time trash talking other coworkers to management while simultaneously not doing much of any work him/herself? I work with a person like this and most of us are at our wit’s end with her. We mostly just try to ignore her, but everyone’s workload has been increased because of her inability to do anything. Any advice in dealing with this?

    • No, but I’ve noticed in situations like that, I find myself asking, “Does no one else realize how awful she is????” And the answer is usually yes, they do.

    • Trash talker and management are both at fault, IMO. I don’t have any experience, but I know it happens. I’d just make sure you document all your work and your contributions to each project; not just what you did, but what were the results? “Implemented x initiative with projected annual savings of $25k.” Or whatever is considered results in your industry. If trash talker isn’t doing work, she isn’t producing results (and if she says she is, she’s lying). Do you submit weekly/monthly status reports? Are roles, responsibilities, and deadlines clearly defined through e-mail or staff meetings? “Bob will do x (bob head nods), Jane will do this (Jane head nods)…” If not and you are in a meeting/e-mail thread, you could always pipe up if there is ambiguity and say “I’m a little confused on this one piece of work” or say “Just to recap for my notes, Bob is doing this, Jane is doing that, and I’m responsible for x task. Is this correct?”

      Also, if management doesn’t curb this, try to unemotionally bring up this issue with your supervisor or consider a new job/transfer because of the toxic culture.

  19. springtime :

    I just wanted to update the hive on my situation from the past weekend. I wrote a post on being sad about losing another prospect when I asked “do you see some sort of dating potential” question.

    I haven’t heard from the other guy (not shocking). I had my third date with the other guy I was seeing last night. AMAZING. Night and day from the other guy. I feel no need to ask him how things are going because he makes it clear by calling, taking me to fun places, being respectful, and also by having amazing chemistry that he is into me and wants to see me again.

    Just thought I would post for the ladies out there struggling to find a nice guy- when you find a good one, it’s so easy, and I am not self-conscious/worried he will stop talking to me at all because he’s shown that he cares.

    Here’s hoping I didn’t jinx it hehehe.

    • Aww, yay you (and new guy, too)! Enjoy yourselves :)

    • Yay! It’s all about the connection, if it works, it works. Enjoy!

    • This is exactly how it was when I first started dating DH. My entire experience with dating prior to him was wondering what was going on with the other person — was he going to call? does he like me? what’s going on? And then I met DH and it all clicked. He asked me out for a second date before our first date was even over, and after that he was always in touch via email, text, calling, whatever. I never once had to guess what was going on with him. SO refreshing!

  20. springtime :

    *sorry- too many ‘other guy’ comments in there. There are two men I’m talking about, if it isn’t clear!

  21. We’ve had some conversations about this recently, but wanted to ask. I bought a Kate Spade tote with handles that are too short to go over the shoulder this winter. I love how it looks and especially love how it’s organized, with the center zip pocket, but feel like I’ve been slowly adjusting to not having a shoulder bag. Thinking about buying the portola valley quinn for spring/summer from the sale section of the Kate Spade site. Any thoughts? It looks like it’s about the size of the one I have. Has anyone seen it in person? I might check at the Kate Spade store in Boston this weekend.

    • This is a total tangent, but I have to share. It cracks me up that Kate Spade has named a fancy handbag after the town of Portola, CA. It is clear that no one from KS actually visited it as it is a tiny, impoverished, dying timber town. The bag is gorgeous (I have had my eye on it too) but the fact that its so inaccurately named makes me laugh.

      • I have also wondered where they get those names. My current tote is the Fox Chapel Shari. Fox Chapel is a suburb of Pittsburgh. Strange. Weird about Portola. If I actually lay hands/eyes on the bag tomorrow, I’ll report back!

        • I have to assume the bag is named after Portola *Valley*, CA – a very wealthy suburb in the Bay Area near Palo Alto.

      • That’s because she named it after Portola Valley, which is a super-tony town in Silicon Valley, just next to Palo Alto, Los Altos Hills and Woodside. It’s all multimillion dollar houses on windy roads, many canyons, beautiful oak trees. It was no mistake.

      • Just got back from Newbury St. I stopped in at the Kate Spade store. They said they had never gotten the Quinn but they showed me one that’s very similar and it was a great style. The only problem with it was that it had narrow flat handles that I think would be uncomfortable. They said that the Quinn has the more tubular handles like mine. Might have to order it…

  22. I was just turned down for a really fantastic job. It was a question of experience, as I am very young and was very flattered that they considered me as seriously as they did (I didn’t think I would be even applying for this level of position for at least 5 more years). I think that the person I interviewed with (multiple times) could be a really wonderful contact going forward, either as a mentor or as a contact for future positions. Is it possible to build that connection, and if so, how? Would it be weird if I sent a request on linkedin with a note expressing my appreciation for being considered for the position? If I let it go for now I expect I will run into several of the people I met while interviewing at conferences in the next year or so, so this won’t be my only opportunity to foster the connection.

    • go for it! :

      I think LinkedIn is appropriate. I just went through a similar situation, and got the feeling that if they are looking for another person in my field in another year, they would give me a call. So, I would definitely connect with them via LinkedIn, and maybe send them a note before the conferences to say that you’ll see them there/drop by the panel/booth, maybe try to grab drinks while you’re all in town together, etc.

    • Absolutely, connect with him/her on LinkedIn. I know in these threads there are occasionally naysayers who say you should only connect with people you’d endorse or know really well or gave birth to on LinkedIn, but I think for most of us LinkedIn is like our rolodex – just professional contacts and nothing more.

    • LinkedIn is a great way to followup. Definitely indicate your appreciation and something along the lines that you’d be interested in similar opportunities and would appreciate any suggestions for getting x experience.

  23. For those of you who were posting about Anne of Green Gables in this morning’s thread:

    Could you please post a link to the specific DVD or DVD set you like? There are lots of choices on amazon. It seems like something my 11 year old daughter would really like to watch with me, but I’ve never seen or read it, so I would appreciate your recommendations.

    Thanks!

    • same as Merabella, below. The ones I watched had Colleen Dewhurst in them http://tinyurl.com/8x75g8m Now we can start using Anne-isms….”depths of despair” “kindred spirits”… I could go on!

      • Thank you- that’s the one I was looking at but Amazon’s description doesn’t say PBS, 1995 or 1997. I’m glad to know this is the one!

        My daughter is going to be really excited. :)

      • Ha! I have always used those phrases (got them from my mom!) but somehow I never read Anne of Green Gables as a child. She finally unearthed her copy and gave it to me – so funny to know that’s where she picked them up!

      • I love “depths of despair.” Also, “my life is a perfect graveyard of buried hopes.” It makes me so happy that there are other Anne enthusiasts here :)

    • The CBC / PBS miniseries. Anne of GG from 1985 and the sequel Anne of Avonlea from 1987.

      • My middle school best friend and I watched my parents’ video of this so much that the tape wore out. We had it memorized and would often recite entire scenes. We had arguments about who got to play Anne.

        Mind you, that was also about the time we dressed up as Tommy and Tuppence for Hallowe’en. No-one knew who we were.

      • FYI for nit-pickers – the Anne of Avonlea movie is not true to the book. It’s kind of a mash-up of several later books in the series. That’s not to say that it’s not good – just if you are looking for a really faithful adaptation of the one book, this is not it.

    • manomanon :

      That set is fabulous!!
      Can we say tragical too? I still say that all the time and it drives my dad batty!

    • So… are you guys all gleeful that there will be a new 11 year old inducted into the Anne club?

      That’s how I would be, or rather that’s how I AM when I turn people onto things like Downton Abbey (three so far.)

      • YES!!! And we can all be bosom buddies!

      • goirishkj :

        YES! My alternate life job is as a children’s librarian. My husband insists that it would be a let down since I couldn’t just give everyone the Anne books. I disagree :)

        • My dad is a librarian — he spends a lot of his time signing people into and out of the computers, FYI. And you have to get an additional master’s degree. :-P

          • anon for this :

            And there could be librarians lurking here on Corporette! Except we’re nothing like children’s librarians.

          • Leslie Knope :

            Anon for this, there totally *are* librarians lurking here! I’m in my second-to-last semester of my MLIS and work in an academic library :)

          • anon for this :

            That’s great! I’m an academic library administrator.

          • Oh I know, I don’t want to go back to school :) It is one of those fantasies I have, like working at a tiki bar on a beach or something like that.

      • In House Counsel :

        LOVE IT! Hope your daughter enjoys it Mamabear!

        Funny backstory–> I was assigned to read the book in 5th grade — hated it and basically read 1/4 of the book and wrote a shitty book report. End of the year our English teacher showed us this movie (Colleen Dewhurst version) and I was captivated. Then went back and read the AofGG book that summer, then the rest of the series and finally branched out into other LLM books:) Now I am hoping to have a little girl someday so I can share this series (and the Betsy-Tacy series) with her!

        • That’s so funny because it’s exactly how I got into them. I hated it the first time I picked it up (I got lost somewhere halfway in Anne’s monologue when Matthew drives her to Green Gables from the train station for the first time). But then I read an excerpt in a middle school anthology about Anne cracking her slate over Gilbert’s head and had to go back and read the entire thing. :) At this point, almost 20 years later, I’ve gone through at least five copies of the book. I remember up until I finished completely with school (college, law school, the whole thing) — which wasn’t that long ago at all — I used to read the chapter about when Anne finally returns back to school after her brief hiatus. Used to make me look forward to the coming school year.

        • Love the Betsy-Tacy series! So glad to see someone else here has read it!

          • Lynnet–love, love. And they just reissued a full set of paperbacks…check out Bas Bleu (a reader’s mail-order catalog of fab books, which also has a website) for more details.

  24. My old cheap-o laptop bag has finally seen the last of its days. Anyone have any recs for a tote-style, cute but professional bag under $150? Preferably one whose straps aren’t going to give out when I’m carrying 10 lbs. of stuff.

    • I am a banana. :

      I think Kat featured Lo and Sons on here a while back (I don’t know where else I would have heard of them). I bought the OMG bag recently and I really love it.

      • I am a banana. :

        (They frequently have coupons and discounts, so if you follow them for a while it will be in your price range.)

    • Lo & Sons!!! Kat has plugged them here a few times, but I have the one that fits a 13″ laptop. I bought it on sale and I love it! I’d killed the handles on both a $30 Target tote and a $300 Hobo tote before I bought this one, and it’s going strong, looks great, etc. Plus, they have great customer service and are a little mom and sons shop, which is cute.

      • It is rather late in the day, to be commenting on this, but just wanted to say I fell in love with the T&T (which fits my 13″ laptop) and had a friend carry one down on her way home from the US. I love, love love it.

        Its easily the most expensive bag I own, but incredible. And it was a present to myself for something work related!

  25. Merabella :

    Anne of Green Gables (1985) and Anne of Avonlea (1987) are the ones we watched when I was a kid. There is a black and white one that isn’t bad, and is only like 80 minutes, but the 2 miniseries are about 3 hours or so each. I love love love them, and my sister and I used to play dress up and watch them.

    • Merabella :

      Sorry that was a reply to Mamabear

      • Thanks! Are Anne of Green Gables and Anne of Avonlea sequential, then?

        • Merabella :

          Yes. Anne of Avonlea picks up about a year after the end of Anne of Green Gables. Gilbert Blythe by the way was my celebrity crush for about a decade (and may still be secretly).

          • How did I forget about Gilbert Blythe until just this moment?

            I loved the books and the miniseries so much (and am happy and proud that my puff sleeved shirt comment spurred this discussion today)

          • I may or may not have married my husband solely because he reminds me of Gilbert Blythe. And it’s working out for me so far.

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