Wednesday’s TPS Report: ‘Moscow’ Jacket

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

 Nell black and white tweed cotton blend lurex 'Moscow' jacket Bluefly keeps having crazy sales — the entire site is now up to 80% off. I like the architectural vibe to this tweed cotton blend “Moscow” jacket by Nell — the collarless silhouette, the angled hem, and the detail at the back. The site calls this a “peplum style hem” at back, which I don’t think I agree with — but while it’s odd, I don’t think it’s an unflattering look, and it just kind of adds to the unique, interesting vibe. The jacket was $250, but is now marked to $102.19. Nell black and white tweed cotton blend lurex ‘Moscow’ jacket


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  1. Such a gorgeous blazer!

  2. Anonymous :

    Hive, what should I bring to a one-year-old’s birthday party on Saturday? The dad reports to my DH, so we are fine with being generous. TIA!

    • My one-year old loved getting blocks. He got both a wooden blocks set and one that’s made of a hard foam and has a bunch of different shapes. Both get played with a lot. He also loves board books – especially ones that have different textures and things to feel.

      • Favorite Auntie :

        I’m auntie to my friends’ two year old, and while I don’t see the kid as much as I’d like, I gave him a winnie-the-pooh board book and a piglet doll, and it’s become one of two stuffed animals he won’t sleep without. I think this is because he gets to read about the character and then connect the story to the stuffed animal.

    • Diana Barry :

      Books! I love the “busy books” on amazon – they have sliders and movable bits – the babies love to destroy them but they LOVE them.

      Whatever you do, don’t get anything that makes noise. Parents don’t like noisy toys (Elmo, I’m looking at you!). :)

    • Books! Board books are good for a 1 year old, but don’t be afraid to go a little more advanced than that, either.

    • +5 for books. Pop-up books and songbooks are awesome gifts. My son loved the interactive books he got at that age, especially when he got a little older and had the hand dexterity to play with them himself.

    • I gave my friend’s son a set of starter HABA blocks for his first birthday. I usually resort to board books or wooden blocks. Apparently he also likes the bath toys I gave him for Christmas – I got a bunch of stackable cups, and animals, and squishy shapes that fit into a box of some sort. I think the next bath toy will be a Plui, mostly because just think it’s cool. For his second birthday I got him more wooden blocks and a wooden puppy puzzle (he’s alllll about the puppies).

      • Anonymous :

        Thank you all SO much. I was thinking I was supposed to bring something for parents-how awkward it would have been to show up w wine or a restaurant gift certificate?! Hive fives!

    • In the Pink :

      Tonka dump truck
      fisher price tall parking garage
      plastic set of pots/pans … or plastic (not tin) teapot and cups set
      stacking cups and blocks
      wooden bead “maze” where the wood balls are moved on wires in crazy directions
      shape sorter (plastic)

    • mama of 2 :

      You might try the Melissa and Doug Latch Board. It’s a big hit in our household.

  3. ExcitedtoFaceWash :

    Early TJ. My clarisonic finally came in the mail yesterday! I was hoping to hear the hive’s recommendations regarding use. How often do you wash with it? Is there a specific face wash that you have found that works best? I appreciate all your answers. Thanks!

    • blackheads :

      I’m also interested to hear others’ experience with the Clairsonic. I’ve gotten my acne under control (as I near 30 – finally), but I’ve never managed to get my nose remotely clear. Is the Clairsonic a good investment for getting stubbornly clogged pores to finally clear out?

      • I use mine every day or every other day, sensitive skin attachment, gentle face wash (usually cetaphil). I usually rinse the brush with off with soap & water after, and let air dry. Make sure you charge it regularly (once a week?) because while it will work a long time with a single charge, it works better when fully charged.

        For blackheads on the nose: the brush head can come apart so that you can place the inner circle only is left on and this is the best way to get at blackheads on your nose. And, yes, the clarisonic is great for that. It’s basically the reason I love it so… :)

        • I have the aria and the stand makes charging it really easy, fwiw.

        • blackheads :

          Thanks! Does anyone use it once or twice a week as a deep clean instead of replacing their regular routine? I’m pretty happy with my current hard-won skincare regime, but those darn blackheads…

          • You could easily do that if your routine works for you. My facialist actually suggested that using it every day may be too abrasive anyway, so you could just use it for blackheads 1-2 times a week the same way you would exfoliate only a few times.

          • Yes I do this. I have fairly sensitive skin so probably once or twice a week (when I shower at night), I’ll use the clarisonic (I have the mia) with my ordinary cleanser (Philosophy purity made simple) and then apply a serum and moisturizer.

        • hellskitchen :

          How did I not know this trick? I have a major blackhead issue on my nose but didn’t know I could dismantle the brush head. Thanks AIMS

          • Anon in NYC :

            I KNOW!

          • Does it depend on which model you have? Or are the heads all the same size (I don’t remember)

          • Gail the Goldfish :

            me, either. Thanks, AIMS!

          • I didn’t know it until recently either. I was in Sephora buying more brush heads a few months ago and this wonderful little man was explaining how to use the mia to a customer – he showed her that trick and I was blown away. I guess this is why you should actually read those little instructional manuals? Anyway, it works really well and makes it much easier to get a deep cleaning. FWIW, he also said that you should only use the sensitive skin brushes and that the “deep clean” ones are not meant to be used more than once a week and will irritate your skin, esp. over time. I switched and have noticed my skin improved. So there’s that, too.

      • Famouscait :

        Love my Clarisonic! I use it morning and night. You can use any cleanser with it that doesn’t have any granules in it. You can also program the brush to a high or low setting. In the summer when my skin feels extra gunky from sunscreen, sweat, etc., I use it on high. I also use it on my jawline, neck and decolletage area (when needed). I’ve had mine for about 3 years and it still works great!

      • Blair Waldorf :

        YES! This has been the best part of my Clarisonic. Finally, my nose is clear! It has made my skin look brighter, but most importantly, it has cleared out my pores, which I had never been able to do before, even with exfoliating cleansers.

        I use it every other night before bed, and moisturize afterwards with a night cream. I use Cetaphil, and I just wash out the brush head after each use and let it dry.

        It’s a spend, but if you go to skin store dot com they often have 20% off sales and you can find Clarisonic products there. It has been worth it for me!

    • I love my Clarisonic! I use in the morning during my shower and sometimes in the evening. I’ve found it works well with most cleansers. I’m currently using one from Olay. I wet my face, apply the cleanser to my forehead and each cheek and start the Clarisonic.

      I ignore the beeps and just go at my own pace. Sometimes, I’ll turn it on again if it turns off before I’m done. I also use it on my neck.

      I’ve been using it for a couple of years and have noticed my skin is in a much better condition. I rarely get break-outs, even PMS related ones.

      Just make sure to remove the brush and clean it out regularly.

    • I use mine twice a day with philosophy purity gel and the sensitive brush head, for the recommended beep times. I could probably use the acne head or an acne soap, but only get pms acne. Does anyone switch to acne brush head/acne soap just for that week of breaking out? It never occurred to me until now…

    • hmm… Maybe I need to splurge on one of these. It sounds like it might help my many skin issues.

      Does the Clairsonic help with large pores at all?

      • Technically nothing will shrink pore size, fantastic claims to the contrary. But what the clarisonic does for me is it keeps my pores clear which makes my skin look much better and smoother overall.

    • phillygirlruns :

      i’ve had my clarisonic for 2.5 years or so and love it. use it once a day, in the shower, usually at night. acne brush (or whatever it’s called – it has a blue ring in it); i use either cetaphil or la roche-posay effaclar (i prefer this one but my CVS doesn’t always have it in stock). i put the cleanser on the brush.

      CKB, i have large pores and oily skin. nothing’s going to actually shrink your pores, but my skin is much more even-textured since i’ve been using this, and i break out much less (though that may be due just as much to the fact that i’m now 31 instead of 28 as it is to the clarisonic). far fewer blackheads as well, particularly on my nose.

      • +1. Nothing has made my skin look as good as my Clarisonic. Including reducing blackheads, white heads, and visibility of pores. I feel like I could do an (honest) infomercial for Clarisonic.

    • I keep my Clarisonic Mia in the shower and use it in the mornings with Clinique mild face wash. I’ve had mine for almost 3 years now and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever bought for my skin. Enjoy yours!

    • Love my clarisonic, but I was told by my dermatologist to only use it twice a week. I do once during the week, and once on the weekend. I use it with a prescription sulfur facewash. That facewash and the clarisonic, along with a switch to bare minerals foundation, has completely solved my life long struggle with acne.

  4. Styling help :

    I recently bought a pair of black and dark grey jeans in a damask print from The Limited. They are the “Forenza Printed Skinny Jeans” (link to follow). I want to wear them out to a 25th birthday celebration friday night. Styling advice for what top to wear? jewelry? shoes? I’d like something on trend but still flattering for my size 8, busty-self.

  5. Baby Gifts :

    Our friends just had a baby – they are the first ones of our group. We live far away, but would like to send them something more than a card – something in the $75ish range. Any suggestions on sites that do baby gifts or baby baskets, or other suggestions for gifts? They don’t have a registry, and I’m sure already have everything they need. We will be visiting them in a few months, and will probably bring some nice baby clothes or something similar then. TIA

    • Depending on what their situation is you could get them a gift certificate for a cleaning service or something like that that is basically a gift of time.

    • If you can find out which brand of diapers and wipes they are using, you can have Amazon (or similar) ship them a case of heir brand, a size or two up (so maybe a size 2), and a case of wipes. If they have everything they need and you will be bringing them a pretty present, it’s OK to send something brutally practical. Babies will sometimes startle you with their growth rate and ability to produce waste and a trip to the store that you can keep them from making is a blessing.

    • Diana Barry :

      Gift certificate for delivery near them? Amazon gift certificate (diapers)?

      I really like to give the Hanna Andersson sleep sacks – my kids use them every day to sleep in and if you get 2 I think that’s around $70 or so. Their PJs are also good, although $$$ and not footed.

      • Costco carries the one-piece HA pajamas for under $20/pair in the store. I think some of the prints may be exclusive to Costco, but they wear like the originals.

    • I think food is always nice after the birth of a child. I favor Harry and David since I think their fruit is nice but you could go another direction as well

      • Anon in NYC :

        I sent a Harry and David basket to my friend after she had her first, and they loved it. It was a combo of fruit, cheese, and healthier snacks. It was perfect for them, and she’s subsequently asked me for the name of the company because she wanted to send one to one of her friends post-baby. I’m going to send her another one after her second is born.

    • In House Lobbyist :

      Amazon Prime is $80 a year and there is a free Amazon Mom program where you get discounts on baby products. I have given it several times as a baby gift. It has seriously changed my life as a working mom.

    • In the Pink :

      “Your Child at Play” series of books

      “Your 1, 2, ….12 Year Old” series of books by the Gesell Institute

      movie certificate/Netflix/amazon downloads for those long sleepless nights? Even a tv series because it is shorter in length

      babysitting and hotel gift card in their area … about 3 months out … when they can and need an adults out night out, not a parents night out – or restaurant certificate or tickets to a show/special event

  6. momentsofabsurdity :

    Yesterday, I witnessed a kid get hit by a car. It was horrible. The kid (he was about 12) ran out into the street near the pedestrian crosswalk (or maybe in it, I didn’t see), and the car was probably going a bit too fast (40 or 45 in a 30mph zone) but nothing extraordinary. He was hit hard, and flew 10-15 feet before landing on concrete.

    It was incredibly jarring and upsetting – I’m looking for news articles now to try to see how he is. He’s a kid who lives in my neighborhood – I see him riding his scooter around sometimes. He was conscious when they put him in the ambulance, so hopefully he only had minor injuries. But he still was a 12 year old hit by a fast-moving car.

    So today, I’m going to be the annoying little bird reminding everyone how dangerous driving really is and how hyper vigilant we all should really be when operating a car – even on roads we’ve driven on a hundred times. I know I’m guilty of tuning out, going on autopilot, or going a bit too fast while I’m driving – but I’m extra aware today that it only takes one second of not paying attention for something huge and terrible to happen.

    • Yikes, how awful. I hope he makes a speedy recovery. That had to be really upsetting to see so be gentle with yourself too.

    • Muddy Buddy :

      How awful. I’m so sorry this happened and that you witnessed it. Do you know where he lives or who his parents are? I don’t know that you’d want to knock on the door just to ask, but maybe a basket of muffins on the porch with a card that they’re in your thoughts?

      Hopefully he’s okay or you would have heard otherwise around the neighborhood or in the news (depending on how large your city is).

      I once actually hit a kid with my car. I was moving <5 mph, and she did not have to be taken away in the ambulance, but it was one of those moments that completely changed my outlook because it showed me just how easily something tragic can happen.

    • When you’re driving you should ALWAYS expect that kids might do something impulsive, unexpected, and dangerous.

      • Agreed. I’m always on the lookout when I’m driving through residential neighborhoods. In my neighborhood, it’s more likely to be cats, dogs, chickens, or a peac*ck than children, but still, I don’t want to hit anything!

      • Actually, expected the unexpected from kids, adults, animals, and other drivers/car. Keep your eyes moving and always leave yourself an out.

    • Miss Behaved :

      That’s awful and scary. Unless I’m mistaken, you’re in the Boston area. If you go to, you can select your town under the Local News section. Maybe the story will be there.

    • I would definitely try to figure out where the kid lives. You were a witness to the incident, and might therefore be a good contact for the family.

    • momentsofabsurdity :

      Thanks guys. I did give my witness statement to the police, though I’m not sure how much help I was (as I didn’t actually see if the kid entered the street in the crosswalk or just beyond it) so the police have all my contact info.

      I’m not sure exactly where his family lives – my street is all apartment buildings so I am sure he’s in one of them, since I’ve seen him around pretty often, but I don’t know which one. His dad witnessed the whole thing and ran over (along with me, and about 10-15 other joggers, dog walkers, etc who were out and watched it happen) as soon as he was hit, and was holding him and crying and then I think his brother came out as well, but I’m not sure what building they are in, though I know it’s on my block. One of the officers told me yesterday when I gave my statement that the injuries were “serious but not life threatening” so I really, really hope the kid will be okay.

    • I can’t even imagine how upsetting that would be to witness. I really hope the kid is okay and has a speedy recovery. I’m so sorry you had to see something like that.

      I just want to jump on the PSA and remind us all to watch out for cars, too. My husband almost hit a guy this morning because he walked into the crosswalk on the curve of a 45 mph road without looking. Thankfully my husband stopped in time, but he was almost hit by the guy behind him who locked up his brakes and skidded around him (thankfully not into the pedestrian).

    • I’ve actually been hit by a car while running – I was on the sidewalk and the driver came shooting out of a hidden driveway at full speed, without looking. I wasn’t badly hurt (needed some stitches, but didn’t have to go to the hospital), but the driver looked like she was going to pass out from shock.

      Driving is the most dangerous thing we do everyday (both in terms of risk to us, and risk to other people). It’s incredibly important to take it seriously, without looking.

    • A couple of nights ago I saw a guy on a bicycle get hit by a cab turning left. Very scary. We ran over to see if the guy wanted help. He seemed OK and didn’t want us to call the police so everyone just went on their way. It was very unsettling.

    • car accidents... :

      Thank you for posting this, and thank you for staying and giving a witness statement.

      My father was hit by a taxi going too fast, while walking across a simple street. Not much different then this. He is now paralyzed with so many medical problems, and was hospitalized for 6 months. He was awake and in pain after he was hit, but no one knew the extent of his injuries until he got to the hospital. He was alone, and thank goodness a person nearby ran to help and call 911 and stayed to make a witness statement.

      Cars are so so so so so so so so dangerous.

      We hear hours on the news every day about a rare terrorist attack, or an even more rare flu that “might kill you”, or other unfortunate incidents…. but we ignore the numerous people killed and maimed every day by cars.

      People drive after drinking alcohol (many on this site I’m sure…. I have!), while on the cell phone, while texting, while sleep deprived …. and all it takes is a second. Then your life changes forever. We can all be careless. Children are everywhere…

      I’ve had my car accident that almost killed me (hit by a drunk driver)…. have you? You will. Be safe. Wear your seatbelts. Don’t drink and drive. Be alert. Buy the safest car you can afford. And drive like your life depends upon it.

      • This. My Dad was killed by a drunk driver almost 3 years ago. You can bet I get unreasonably angry when I hear of people drinking and driving. If you drink and drive: take your own *stupid* life into your own hands if you please, but don’t endanger others.

      • +24805 to this and momentsofabsurdity’s PSA. In the USA alone, we have over 30,000+ traffic related fatalities per year. That’s an entire football stadium. Every. Year. Not counting major or minor injuries.

    • Oh my gosh! I really hope the little kid is okay! I hate driving, and I think it’s because I’m usually a pedestrian, and I realize how easy it is to miss someone if your attention is diverted for even a second.

  7. springtime :

    I know it’s probably been asked- but Jcrew super 120s and sizing- should I go down? I have some of their suiting stuff (not the 120s) in my regular size from a number of years ago (2009) that’s a bit big on the waist, so I’m thinking of sizing down. Or do I have to buy two sizes and return what doesn’t fit?

    Or should I get my normal size and get the waist taken in?

    • Diana Barry :

      I go down a size in the pants but not in the jacket – my shoulders/bust mean I stick to the regular size. Some of the jackets have too big of a waist on me but I am too lazy to go to the tailor. ;)

    • viclawstudent :

      I have to size down in both the jacket and the bottoms for them, but I have really small shoulders and a pretty minimal bust, so that part of the advice may not apply to you. Definitely seems to me that the waists are larger than the listed size.

  8. Personal style brand :

    Longtime lurker here. Someone posted the other day about their personal style aesthetic and sticking to it. I read an article a when back about establishing a personal brand when it comes to clothes and its really helped me purge my closet and avoid unnecessary purchases that dont work in with my wardrobe. I’ve decided I am “sporty chic” (not to be confused with sporty spice). I like to be comfortable and stylish and a little structured. Think lots of skinny jeans, riding boots, sweaters, layers. I’ve mostly stopped buying things like sheath dresses and high heels because I am just not comfortable and they do not feel like “me”. I are lots of other styles but have generally stopped buying items for the person I think I am going to be someday. So here’s the question: if you had to describe your personal style aesthetic in two words, what would they be?

  9. Love the jacket front, hate the back.

  10. I think we have discussed this before, but I don’t know when. My firm is sponsoring a night at a local minor league ball field. We have a VIP box area, and I will be there along with my husband, some of the firm partners and associates and various local dignitaries ( mayor, city manager etc. who we often do work for).

    I am at a loss as to what to wear. It is an evening game in the Deep South in July, so it will be HOT ! I do think that our VIP area will also have an enclosed area with food/drinks/air conditioning. I want to project the casual yet stylish and competent vibe. Thoughts ? I was thinking nice dark wash to the knee denim skirt, cute flats and a simple T shirt style top with a cute belt and jewelry, but I am worried that might be too casual. I don’t want to do the suit or dress thing at a ball park. Other option would be a subtle print pair of ankle pants, flats, and solid neutral top with fun jewelry.

    I am not averse to buying something, just don’t want to buy the wrong thing.

    • AnonInfinity :

      I’d go with the skirt because those are cooler than ankle pants.

      At our firm baseball night, which is also in the South, everyone is casual. I’m talking shorts. No denim, but shorts (usually khaki or linen).

    • Fellow Deep Southerner here. I think either of your outfits will be perfect – bonus points if you have something (top, accent jewelry, etc) in the team color. But no minus points if you don’t.

      • Thanks guys. I was leaning toward Khaki or denim skirt for the heat factor. I just wanted to make sure that I was not too far out of the ballpark, so to speak. :)

  11. Anon for this :

    Regular poster, anon for this. Pregnancy & summer assiciateship TJ. I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m a summer associate at a small-ish big city law firm. My OB’s hours are 10am-4pm and it’s about 25 minutes from my office. How do I handle appointments this summer (and how many will I have?)? Should I find an OB closer to my office and/or with better hours or can I make these during lunch? Thanka all – sorry for the brevity, obviously posting from my phone.

    • My practice has its routine first OB visit at 8 weeks, so it may not be an issue. If you’ve had a + test, you’d probably want to go ahead and call to schedule a first visit.

    • Congratulations!! Assuming you have a normal pregnancy and unless there are reasons for extra monitoring (e.g. previous cervical surgery, history of miscarriages), you will probably only have 2-3 appointments during the summer. The book Expecting 411 lists the various tests/screenings routinely done in the first and second trimesters and when they take place.

    • darjeeling :

      Congrats! I would find an OB closer to the office if I were you (10-4 is really crappy hours!) b/c while the appointments are generally pretty brief you may have to wait a while. That said, in the early days you won’t have to go too often if there are no complications (maybe at 6-7 weeks and then around 12 weeks if memory serves).

      Now you just need to practice your fake-drinking skills! ;)

    • My OB practice has a routine first visit @ 8 weeks, so it may not be an issue or much of one. I’d call and get that scheduled and they can tell you what is normal after that.


    • Never been preg or SA, but gosh those sound like terrible hours. I know it’s important to find an OB you love – but in a big city they should have more hours!

    • I’d find a new OB. Not because I think it’s necessary for work, but because dealing with an office with princess hours would get on my nerves!

      • …and when the baby starts growing and the weight starts tracking up, it’s always nice to have that first-thing-in-the-am appointment (think 7-8 am) so the scale doesn’t remind you how fat you are… :) At least that’s how I fooled myself

    • Diana Barry :

      If you are 4-5 weeks now, assuming low risk, you will have one appt a month, starting next month. So I would just make them for 10 am on those days and say you’ll be in late (by noon?). OR try for a 3 pm appointment on a Friday if it is kosher with your firm to leave early. It should only be 2 or 3 times.


    • What everyone else said. Even if you are higher risk, you might not have that many early on, depending on the nature of the risk. I was slightly higher risk and had a first appointment at 5 weeks, a ultrasound at 7 weeks and an appointment with the perinatalogist at 8 weeks. I then was basically once a month (with an extra visit to the perinatalogist at 18 weeks) until 30 weeks when I went every week. Congrats! I know it seems overwhelming right now scheduling visits, but it will be OK. And I agree those hours suck but if you reeeeeaaaallllly like the office it might be worth it. Can you try to get the last appointment of the day and go in early those days? It really depends on the culture of your firm how well that works though–maybe you can claim you have to meet up with law school classmates for unofficial networking? That might have worked at some of my workplaces, especially if the employee was otherwise working full hours.

    • I’m 10 weeks now. Found out after giving notice at my last firm and before starting the new one- so I feel your pain. The first appointment will typically be at 8 weeks. Expect this appointment to be VERY long. I had an early ultrasound at 6 weeks due to my previous history, but my one at 8 weeks was still 2 1/2 hours. No one really tells you this, but it takes forever. There was very little waiting around- I was actually with a doctor, ultrasound tech, or nurse for the greater part of 2 hours. My office is really close and I tried to do it during lunch and obviously went way over my allotted time.
      I’m thinking the next appointments won’t be as long. My next appointment is scheduled for 12 weeks.
      Also, if you like the dr. stick with her/him. You’ll only be at this job for the summer and the pregnancy is 9+ months. What’s going to be easier for you after the summer?
      Good Luck!

      • Anon for this :

        Oh my god!! Over 2 hours?! Thanks for that info — I was hoping to make it a lunch appt (I typically work 9-7, so even the first/last appts aren’t great) but it sounds like I need to do a friday afternoon. Thanks everyone.

      • Just as a counterpoint, I.think my first was no more than 30 mins long (including waiting room time!) Most of my appts other than the anatomy ultrasound and glucose test (which are both four months or later, if I recall correctly) were 20-45 minutes at most. My pregnancies were uncomplicated, so that helps. Maybe ask the doctor’s office when you call how long they think it will take so you have that guidance?

        In any event, I’d consider switching OBs based on the annoying hours, but if you don’t switch, be very conscious of your office dynamics, realizing that the rules for associates and S.A.s are different. Also, consider telling your mentor or a trusted associate that you have a medical appt (not why) and ask for their opinion as to how best to handle.

        • I’ve been pg 6 times and none of my first dr appts, actually, none of my appts at all, were ever over probably 30 min, excluding waiting room time. Of course, things might be different here in Canada, and all my ultrasounds were not at the dr office but at the ultrasound clinic, and I only got early u/s because I was higher risk with a history of m/c.

          When you book your appt ask how long they think it will take.

    • If you haven’t already, you might consider telling someone in your office (whoever coordinates the summer program) that you have a health issue you’re dealing with and that you may have a few doctor’s appointments over the summer. You might also say that you expect it to be resolved within the next few months (in case they worry that it’s something serious — not that a baby isn’t serious, but it’s generally not life-threatening in the developed world). This makes it clear that you’re not just being flaky and that you didn’t purposefully wait to schedule a bunch of routine appointments right smack during your internship. It may also provide some cover if you feel really cr@ppy from time to time. It’s better that they know you’re dealing with something out of the ordinary than to think you’re just lazy.

  12. Love the jacket – on to my Threadjack – is anyone a member of or has been a member of the National Association of Women Lawyers? Is it useful for networking? Did you like/dislike it? Why?

    • I had a free membership from my old firm–which is headquartered in Chicago, while I’m on the east coast. I got thier emails for a couple years, if I recall none of the events that appealed to me were in my local area. So as a starting point I’d take a look at thier calendar of events and see if they are active in your area.

  13. I’m looking for emprire waist shirts – T-shirts as well as tops that can be worn to work. Any suggestions as to where I can find some? I’m at a loss.
    I’ve gained a bunch of weight in my midsection and am small busted – so these are really the most flattering. And I can’t find them anywhere.

  14. in-house interview :

    Hive, I’m interviewing for an in-house position next week. I know why I want to go in-house. But, for the question of “why are you interested in working for THIS COMPANY,” is an appropriate answer that I’m a fan of their products?

    • Not really. You want to work there because it’s a great place to work that has a great work environment, you’ve heard good things about the company and the people there (and the great products they put out – that is where their products might come in), you’ve heard they have good training, you think the type of work (work area or structure of the organization) is something you’d really like to work on and get involved with, and it’s a good location for you. Pick and choose from those as they are appropriate for you. Their great products are perhaps what got you initially interested in exploring them, but it’s not a reason to work there.

      • I disagree. I think companies like to be flattered and telling them you really like their products is a great way to show that you’re enthusiastic about the company. I would back that up with some more analytical statements about how you admire their business model (with specifics — e.g., you think how they handled the roll-out of the newest product line was good because X, Y, and Z). Then you can say that you’d be excited to help support (because in-house counsel is a support function, remember) all the people who work to get these great products out there. Training, location, work environment, etc. are all about YOU and what YOU get. Interviewers want to know what THEY will get from you. I’d focus on how much you want to help this company succeed.

        • Anon in NYC :

          I agree with this. Enthusiasm about what the company does is important, and I would actually lead with that and then go into some of the stuff that TBK and Anonymous mention. Example of a lead in sentence: “I’m a fan of [Company’s products], and I really like the message that the Company promotes (its products are environmentally safe, promotes low-cost investing so everyone is able to benefit from the market, etc.).”

    • Ask A Manager answered this last year — article title is “Interviewing with a company you’re in awe of” if you want to look at the discussion there. The answer there was it’s fine to express appreciation/enthusiasm, but make it brief and keep the bulk of it realistic and practical. I agree with that — actually using the products gives you a connection to/knowledge of the company that they probably like to hear, but you don’t want to sound like you think the job will be mostly using that product!

  15. I am interviewing soon for a position in the medical field. I never wear a suit ordinarily, and all the suits that I own are a little too big Ann Taylor classics from 10 years ago.

    I have one Theory suit – Heather grey – classic but current style. Can I wear that, or is light Heather grey too informal? Remember, this isn’t big law. This is a hospital. I will also probably be the only woman interviewing.

    • If it is really hot outside, I don’t think it reads too informal, but if you’re in a cooler part of the country I think it does. Most medical professionals I’ve met wear the black/navy uniform for formal settings.

    • I don’t think that light heather gray is too informal (I know which theory suit you’re talking about), especially in the summer, and with conservative shoes and blouse. However, I’d be interested in hearing what others say.

    • In the Pink :

      I think it is just fine! Add in some colorful top and/or shoes. Be sure they’re walking shoes … hospitals can be large … and you want to be practical while executive. Stay away from anything white! I’m a non-MD doctor – from experience, I don’t wear any white solids. You may be the only one in a suit, but starting there is great. Good wishes!

    • Medical can mean a lot of things, can you be more specific? I’ve worked on the business/revenue side of healthcare in NYC for 10+ years, and the way women dress varies a lot by job function. Practice management and operations people are often moderately formal, IT/systems people way less formal, senior administration people more formal.

      I’d wear heather grey (I’m picturing a light grey, btw, so correct me if I’m wrong) to a warm-weather interview for anything except C-suite/VP-level administration, if that’s any help.

      • Thanks guys. I am a doctor in a male dominated field. Heather grey is the light grey, and the weather will be midwestern warm/humid. All the guys will be in blue/charcoal suits with some sort of power tie. Actually, I kind of like the idea of contrasting with them…. a little… as long as I look sleek, professional, and as tall as them in my heels! I’ll probably have conservative black heels, and maybe a pop of color in a silk shell (?saturated blue) or a more conservative black?

        Thank you very much for your feedback. It is really helpful.

  16. I can't quit you -- DVF chain print :

    I am having a *thing* for the DVF chain-print fabric. Right now, it seems to come in the Reina (short dress, non-wrap) and in a wrap dress. I can’t do the wrap dresses and I fear that the Reina will be too short to wear much (or I will have to wait until fall until I can wear it with black tights / leggings). Does anyone know if they do this print a lot (so maybe in another option in the fall with something non-wrap and non-short)? I am owed a splurge item and could pull the trigger on the Reina just to scratch this itch.


  17. Hi ‘rettes! Long time, no post. Boy, do I have tales of woe for you. But that’s not why I’m posting. I’d like to buy a spa gift certificate for my boyfriend, and I need recommendations for a spa in the Baltimore/north suburbs area where a middle-aged black guy who has never been to a spa before would be comfortable and treated well. He’s been caring for me as I’ve been on disability leave and I want to give him a gift to help him relax for a few hours.


    • I have no suggestions for you, but I’ve missed your voice. I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been on disability leave, and I hope things are looking up. I’m glad to hear that you have someone special to treat you well when you need it most :)

      • Thanks :). I was really busy at work before I was injured and barely had any time for online, and then I tried to avoid shopping sites because clearly I don’t need any work clothes and won’t for a wihle. But I’ve missed the community here too.

    • Divaliscious11 :

      If you will come south of Baltimore (near Columbia) my husband and I used to enjoy The Pearl in Fulton – they had a great couples day, and they also have some men focused treatments

  18. Hi ‘re tt es! Long time, no post. Boy, do I have tales of woe for you. But that’s not why I’m posting. I’d like to buy a spa gift certificate for my boyfriend, and I need recommendations for a spa in the Baltimore/north suburbs area where a middle-aged black guy who has never been to a spa before would be comfortable and treated well. He’s been caring for me as I’ve been on disability leave and I want to give him a gift to help him relax for a few hours.


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    Hi ladies! Long time, no post. Boy, do I have tales of woe for you. But that’s not why I’m posting. I’d like to buy a spa gift certificate for my boyfriend, and I need recommendations for a spa in the Baltimore/north suburbs area where a middle-aged black guy who has never been to a spa before would be comfortable and treated well. He’s been caring for me as I’ve been on disability leave and I want to give him a gift to help him relax for a few hours.


    • Yikes, I hope you’re on your way to being well.

      I’ve never been to the Red Door in Baltimore, but I’m a fan of all Red Doors and they are very accommodating to men.

  20. Take the hint? :

    A colleague who I’ve worked with passed along a job opening (more senior position) through another coworker (who I’m close with). Basically, said I’m great, doing great work saw this thought of me AND there are a lot of people who work on the issue I work on. I’m a small subset of a large department and my position is not new (I filled a spot when someone left). I’m not sure if this is a hint or if this person is just unfamiliar with my department’s structure. The colleague who passed it along would be in a position to know if there was downsizing, but isn’t top of the food chain and my department director would be the one making the decisions if there was downsizing.

    Is this a hint? Or am I reading too much into it.

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