The Importance of … Not Being Called the Wrong Name

wrong nameIt stinks to be called the wrong name — but what if it’s your colleague or boss who’s doing it?  How do you correct them?  Obviously, we had to wait to answer this reader mail until we started using our name with the blog…

I’m wondering how to handle correcting people on my name. My name is Diana, and I am constantly called Diane. This seems to happen most often in email of all places, where my name is automatically generated by Outlook in the To line, and where often my signature block is in the thread. Both coworkers, including HR of all places, and opposing counsel get it wrong with some frequency. Apparently this also happens a lot to my friend Julia, who is often called Julie. Diane and Julie are lovely names, but they aren’t ours.

When and how do I correct HR/partners/opposing counsel? This is really starting to drive me up the wall.

As a “Katherine” whose only nickname has ever been “Kat” — never Kathy or Kate — this author feels your pain. For our $.02, the trick is figuring out when to care if someone has your name wrong. For example, that random guy who responded to my e-mail last week “Thanks Kathy” — not a big enough deal to correct him on my name. However, when I started at my old firm, the partner assigned to be my liaison (and help me round up work) mistakenly thought my name was Kathy. (Or perhaps that all Katherines like to go by Kathy? It was never clear to me.) He immediately began promoting me to other partners as “Kathy” — which made me cringe every time, and required correction.  In your situation, we would say that HR is a big deal because they are likely to introduce you to other people — but opposing counsel isn’t such a big deal, because if s/he uses the name in court, the names sound similar enough (Diane, Diana) that no one will notice.  (Or just think he or she is being a jerk.) [Read more…]

Thursday’s TPS Report: Silk Mini-Dot Blouse

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Silk Mini-Dot BlouseToday we’re liking this silk blouse from White House|Black Market. We like how it’s on-trend with the ruffles down the front, but it strikes us more wearable than a lot of the blouses we’ve seen out there this season.  We also like the mini-dots, and the shirt-tail look — we would probably wear this untucked with a black skirt or simple pair of trousers — possibly accented with a colorful, slim belt.  It’s $88 at White House|Black Market.  Silk Mini-Dot Blouse

If you’ve recently seen a great work piece you’d like to recommend to the readers, please e-mail [email protected] with “TPS” in the subject line. Unless you ask otherwise, we’ll refer to you by your first initial.

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Suit of the Week

For busy working women, the suit is often the easiest outfit to throw on in the morning. In general, this feature is not about interview suits, which should be as classic and basic as you get — instead, this feature is about the slightly different suit that is fashionable, yet professional.

We’re liking this white suit with beige contrasting details.  It strikes us as interesting but professional, and avoids the “prissy” vibe that afflicts a lot of white suits.  (And for whatever reason, we love the brown The jacket (Antonio Melani “Cruz” Jacket) is $199, and the skirt (Antonio Melani “Felicia” Skirt) is $99, both available at Dillards.

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Previously, on Corporette…

corp-square-logo-2-aug08 This time last year, here’s what was on our minds…

Wednesday’s TPS Report: ‘Riley’ Stretch Wool Pants

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

‘Riley’ Stretch Wool PantsThese gray trousers strike us as a great basic for fall, winter and spring — and they’re 50% off and available in almost every size.  Note, however, that they are unhemmed, but Nordstrom will do it for you free of charge.  Lovely!  They were $218, now $129 at Nordstrom.   Lafayette 148 New York ‘Riley’ Stretch Wool Pants

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Nude Shoes for All Skin Tones

nude-pumps-for-all-skintonesThis is an excellent question…

I am desperate for some nude shoes – they look incredible and well worth paying for. I’d like some classic courts or wedges – anything closed toe. The problem: I am African American. My googlefu has failed me as I’ve looked everywhere. Please do a post on nude shoes for different skin tones!

First: We love the word “Googlefu.” Second — we’re mostly going to have to pitch this one to the readers, as you’ve seen my pale “I love SPF and hate sunlight” skin.

Readers, what are the best skin-toned shoes for black skin? How about for Asian skin? (And: how many fellow pale ladies out there end up wearing pink instead of “beige” because your skin is so pale?)

(Also: here was our last attempt at rounding up beige-colored pumps.)

(Pictured:  We’re pretty sure these aren’t the answer, for oh so many reasons.)

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