How to Deal with Not Making Partner: Reader Advice

how to deal with not making partnerReaders who have been there: What’s your advice to other attorneys on how to deal with not making partner? Reader E recently asked:

I was wondering if you could do a post on not making partner. I’m a sixth year at a large firm, and while I’m not being pushed out the door, my understanding is that partnership is not in the cards, either. On the one hand, this is okay. I never really wanted to make partner, and I can’t say I’m passionate about my job. On the other, ouch! I’ve seen posts about this in the comments, and I thought it might be nice to round them up in one place.

Great idea, Reader E. We haven’t devoted a post to the situation of not making partner, so let’s talk about it today. Here’s one way to look at a situation like this: When this happens to you, you may feel like you’re hanging by a thread — without anyone out there ready to catch you — but really, it can be the beginning of a great new adventure (and in fact it’s part of the adventure … just not the one you had anticipated or hoped for). As one Corporette reader once wrote in response to a young attorney who was worried about her low hours, “The firm that didn’t like me just wasn’t a good personality fit for me. At the time it was really demoralizing, but being pushed out of that firm was the best thing for my career because I found my wheelhouse at the next place.”

We’ve searched our comment threads and have found a good number of discussions about not making partner, deciding whether you even want to be partner, feeling like you’re getting pushed out at your firm, and regretting related career decisions you’ve made (or currently making decisions that may affect your chances to make partner). Do you remember, or have you bookmarked, other helpful comment threads along these lines? If this has happened to you, what advice did you receive from friends and colleagues on how to deal with not making partner? 

Here are some of the best reader discussions and advice:

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The Best Dress Shirts for Women with Large Breasts

The Best Dress Shirts for Women with Large BreastsWhen you’ve got a big bust, shopping for blouses that actually fit and flatter can be pretty frustrating (see: “Why does fashion ignore big breasts?”), but there are some quality brands out there that specialize in dress shirts for women with large breasts. We last rounded up these busty blouse brands back in 2013, but the landscape has changed a bit, so we thought we’d do an update!

Pictured, clockwise: black / white / orange / white

In the past we’ve offered style tips for busty women and talked about how to dress professionally if you’re busty. We’ve discussed issues such as how to fix gaping blouses and whether a blazer must button to fit, as well as rounded up companies making bespoke dresses and blazers for the busty. Note also that Hourglassy is an invaluable resource if you aren’t already following along. (By the way, before you consider any of the brands below, make sure you’re wearing the correct size bra, which of course can affect how your tops fit.)

Here are some brands offering dress shirts for women with large breasts:

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The Best Beauty Store Tips and Tricks

The best beauty store tips and tricks -- how to shop the store like a pro!Knowing the best beauty store tips and tricks can save you money, increase your chances of finding products you’ll really like, and even make shopping more fun. What are your favorite tricks for shopping for makeup, perfume, and other beauty products? Do you prefer buying online or in-store?

Before we get into our suggestions — and ask for yours, too — here’s one tip that, while it may be too obvious to include in our list below, could still spark an interesting discussion: Don’t assume that the adage “You get what you pay for” applies to all beauty products — that’s not always the case, as came up in our discussion a few years ago about overrated beauty products. Several years ago, I used to regularly buy Smashbox mascara at Sephora for $25–$30, and while I was happy with it, I now use a $7 mascara from Maybelline that I can just add to our grocery list when I need a new one. It works just as well, if not better, than the Smashbox one that costs four times more. It goes on really smoothly and significantly lengthens my lashes without any clumping. It lasts a long time, too (and I use the non-waterproof kind). I know this because … I’m too lazy/tired to take it off at night. (Oops.) So I know for certain that it still looks good almost 24 hours later.

Here are more beauty store tips and tricks:

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The Best Merino Wool Sweaters for Work

The Best Merino Wool Sweaters for WorkSure, we all know what wardrobe essentials for work professional women are supposed to have in their closets, but if you’re buying one for the first time or replacing one you’ve worn into the ground, it can be a pain to find exactly the right incarnation in stores. In “The Hunt,” we search the stores for a basic item that every woman should have.

Now that the calendar says it’s officially fall, we’re supposed to be easing into sweater season — cozy merino wool sweaters, for example — but in most parts of the country, temperatures are in the 80s and 90s. Let’s put that aside for now (it helps if you’re sitting in air conditioning) and start picturing the more typical autumn weather that will have you reaching for your boots, jackets … and merino wool sweaters. We’ve mentioned the many advantages of merino before: It’s very warm but also lightweight (often light enough to wear beyond fall and winter), and it holds its shape much better than cotton. It’s not quite as luxuriously soft as cashmere, but it tends to be more durable and is often machine washable. (Here are some tips on washing merino wool.) If you’re on the hunt for merino wool sweaters for work, now is a good time — there are a lot of sales out there, some offering deep discounts. Which brands are your favorite for merino wool sweaters? Do you prefer merino to cashmere for warmth? Which brands have you found to be the best at holding up to washing and/or dry cleaning — and do you typically machine wash, hand wash, or dry clean your merino wool sweaters? Anything else you like merino for, like socks, tights, skirts, long underwear, shells for under jackets? 

(Psst: Here’s our last roundup on the best affordable cashmere for work. And, er, our post on the best summer work clothes might be helpful today as well.) 

Here are some of the best merino wool sweaters for work available now:

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Who Do You Follow on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Medium?

Who are your favorite LinkedIn Influencers?Our recent post asking for recommendations for the best podcasts for professionals brought tons of reader comments, so now we’re wondering: Who do you follow on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Medium (and other platforms), for professional reasons and otherwise? Whose thoughts, advice, and analysis do you appreciate most? Is there anyone whose writing you’ve added to your daily or weekly reading list specifically because that person’s experiences and/or views are very different from your own? Or (no matter what your political leanings are) do you fear you’ve created a virtual echo chamber where everyone more or less shares your views? (See SNL’s sketch from last year, “The Bubble.”)

(Corporette isn’t super active on any of the platforms, but you can follow us here: Twitter, Medium, and LinkedIn.)

Psst: We’ve also discussed the best TED talks for working women and must-read business books and other resources for how to become a leader

We’d love to hear your recommendations for the viewpoints you enjoy reading — and to start the conversation, here are a few wide-ranging suggestions for people and publications for professionals to follow on Medium:

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How to Protect Your Credit After the Equifax Data Breach

How to Protect Your Credit After the Equifax BreachMillions of people (unfortunately, not an exaggeration) are wondering what many Corporette® readers are also wondering: how to protect their credit after the Equifax data breach. On September 7, Equifax revealed that hackers may have exposed Social Security numbers, credit card numbers, birth dates, addresses, driver’s license numbers, website security questions/answers, etc., for up to 143 million people — a “breath-taking amount of highly sensitive data [handed] over to criminals,” as Ars Technica put it. (With all the upsetting news stories recently, someone thought we needed even more things to worry about!) We’ve seen some contradictory information online — and the sheer amount of advice out there is overwhelming — so we thought we’d round up some expert advice in a post. Ladies, what steps have you taken to protect your credit after the breach? Have you used any services or had any success in freezing your credit? If you’ve written to government officials about changing the laws, share your script!

Here are the latest recommendations for how to protect your credit:

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