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Today’s e-mail is from J, who has a question about bold hair choices and job interviews…

I’m a public policy grad student, graduating in May and applying for jobs all over the place , but many in DC (employers range from government-level, to think-tanks, to smaller non-profits). I am 22. Right now I am pretty average-looking: short, white, size 2, brown hair slightly longer than shoulder-length in a well-maintained cut. I found out this week that my close family friends’ seven-year-old daughter has been diagnosed with leukemia. The girl and I are very close, and I think of her like my sister, so obviously I’m torn up about this. Her mom says she looks up to me, and I know I influence her behavior so I try to be a good role model. She’s going to be getting chemo, the whole nine yards, and I am anticipating that she’ll have a hard time if she loses her hair. I’m thinking about shaving my head to support her. Now I’ll be honest and say that I’ve never had short hair, let alone shaved it before, and I do have some issues about the whole thing — but none of them outweigh my desire to to do something concrete to help the girl. However, my question is, do you think a shaved head would affect my chances at getting a job? Would it be likely to freak an employer out? Any general thoughts?

Wow. We have a lot of thoughts on this, and we’re sure our readers will have more. We’ll try to put our thoughts in a cogent order…

First: Our hearts go out to your sick friend, to her family, and to you.  Words can’t properly express how strongly we hope she gets better.
Second: We get what you want to do with the shaved head — words can’t express it, and to shave your head along with her and show solidarity with her — this is a Good Thing that you want to do.  A few further thoughts:

  • It sounds like your friend has not yet lost her hair — we are unsure of how quickly a chemo patient loses their hair, or how definite hair loss is.  (Background: a  good friend of ours endured a lot of chemo when we were around 19, and she didn’t lose hardly any of her hair.)  And so you may be jumping the gun a bit to get your head shaved immediately.
  • Do you see the girl often enough?  It sounds as if you do — but if you only see her once every 3 months, you may want to reconsider, even though your gesture is incredibly magnanimous.
  • Would you keep it shaved throughout her treatment?  Or would you let it grow out after shaving it?

Third: Ah, yes, the job thing. There’s no way around it, your job interviewers will DEFINITELY notice a shaved head.  But:

  • Anyone with a heart will sympathize with your reasons for doing it.  So long as your job is behind the scenes, hopefully the person will look beyond your hair.
  • If your job is NOT behind the scenes, or if Important People visit the office where you’ll be working on a regular basis, you may want to prepare yourself — this may not be a job that you will get, unless the person in charge thinks they are running a young, hip shop (whether it be a think tank or a non-profit).  Some people simply will not want an underling who makes more of an impact than they do.
  • It will be your resume and transcript that wins you the interview — so your bald head won’t be an issue until then.
  • On the interview:  You should think about how to explain your bald head in the interview.  We think a bald head does need to be explained, both because a) the interviewer might worry that you are sick yourself, and you should dissuade those fears, and b) this act of shaving your head says a lot about who you are — it speaks to your loyalty, your strength, your sense of self — and these are all good things that interviewers should know. (A quick tip — you might want to simplify the story and just say “my 7-year-old sister” and leave it at that, unless the interviewer delves further.)*

Fourth:  You are young. This is the time to shave your head, or dye your hair blue, or otherwise take fashion and beauty risks. Hair is a great place to take these risks, because it grows out and is back to normal in short order.  Give yourself at least a few years until you force yourself to play it safe.

Fifth: We have less coherent thoughts on this, but as a stream:  We have a number of guy friends who shaved their heads rather than deal with dwindling hair (or because they thought it looked cool).  We have had friends who actually did suffer hair loss because of chemo and had no choice but to rock the bald look.  We also know some very fashionable women who shaved their heads just because they thought it complimented their bone structure (and we’re sure we’ve seen at least, like, 3 models on America’s Next Top Model get it done.)  A bald head really should not be a big deal.

We’ve spent limited time on the DC scene, though, so we asked a friend of ours who worked at numerous places (and was fairly powerful) before she left for greener pastures.  Her thoughts:

My first instinct is that they may look at her and form (ignorant) opinions right away.  My second thought is that it’s a good conversation starter for her and shows a side of her that demonstrates commitment, which is an attractive quality for a job applicant.  However, for # 2 to work, she has to come up with a great way to open up the reason for her hair pretty quick into each interview.  … Also, I’d say that if an interviewer judges her by her hair, she probably wouldn’t want to spend the majority of her waking hours with those people anyway.

All right, readers — what are your thoughts?

* UPDATE: Geez, commenters are going nuts over our suggestion that she simplify her explanation as much as possible.  We stand by our advice to come up with a quick, easy way to explain your baldness, and be open to talking about the issue more if the interviewer wants to.  This shouldn’t be the focus of the interview, though.  We totally disagree that saying her friend is her “sister” is a Lie in the capital L sense of the word — which should never be done in a job interview, obviously, and perhaps “cousin” would have been better suggestion. But: either way it could be explained further, very easily and quickly, if the interviewer wanted to talk about it.

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We have a lot of different lip products — lipsticks and glosses, some sticky, some matte, some that stay put, some expensive, some cheap — but this $5 drugstore brand has been the constant in our purse for about 20 years now:  CoverGirl Lipslicks Lip Gloss.  Our favorite color is ‘Edgy’ — a plummy mauve on us — but we’ve tried a lot of the colors and like them all.  (Some other faves: We would say that “Hipster” is more akin to a reddish stain — a bit darker than Benetint — and “Bronze Goddess” is a bit of a taupey/brown tint.)  We like the product for a lot of things that it isn’t:  It isn’t sticky.  It isn’t shiny.  It doesn’t wear unevenly.  It doesn’t end up on your teeth.  It doesn’t smell or taste weird.  It isn’t too thick or heavy, the way some other tinted glosses are — a simple swipe of this moisturizes your lips and adds a hint of color; use a few more swipes for a deeper color.  And the fact that the product has been around for so long, we think, says a lot about it.  (The only thing that it lacks is SPF, alas.)  It’s $3.99 at Drugstore.com.   CoverGirl Lipslicks Lip Gloss, Edgy

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Our look always used to include liquid eyeliner.  But too many long days at the office (where we were left feeling like our eye makeup had gotten “crunchy”) have now made liquid eyeliner an occasional beauty product, usually for days where we want to set our makeup at the beginning of the day and have it stay in exactly the same place until we take it off because there is no time to fuss with it.  Our favorite eyeliner that we’ve found so far is Bobbi Brown’s long-wearing gel eyeliner.  The gel is easy to apply with the brush, and easy to blend into the lashes; we also like the variety of colors it comes in (we actually like the black/plum).  And, unlike our daily kohl pencil, this product stays put — it will be in exactly the same place until you remove it with your eyemakeup remover.  (A brief warning: the product does tend to dry out, so be sure to keep the top on tight — our “trick” for extending the dried out product (which we’re hoping our eye doctor wouldn’t frown upon too much) is to put some eyemakeup remover lotion on our finger, then dip the applicator brush in the lotion, and then in the pot of ink gel.)   It’s $21 at Nordstrom (also available at Saks and Amazon).  Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Gel Eyeliner
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Today’s reader mail asks an excellent question: what to wear for a corporate photograph?

I am a mid-level commercial litigator with a small firm in Chicago. In a couple of weeks, a photographer is coming to the office to update everyone’s website pic. I was wondering if you could provide advice on what the best look is for such a picture, obviously a suit, but is a shell better than button down, etc. Also, any tips on the best way to wear hair and the appropriate jewelry.

This is such an interesting question, particularly because, in many offices, you don’t get a chance to take these photographs that often — so one photograph could be your “face” in the office phone book and on the web for the indefinite future. For our $.02: You want to look neat and professional, but also attractive in a non-sexual way. We would also aim to look “friendly” and “trustworthy.” (Our theory here is that your pedigree will likely be listed alongside the picture — your schools, your honors — but your personality will, most likely, be absent. A future client, a recruiter, or a partner from another office will see that you’re smart and accomplished; but the photo also has to convey likeability.) (Also, it doesn’t hurt to keep in mind that future dates and ex-boyfriends can all find this picture if they Google you.)
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picture-5- Glamour rounds up some new ideas for hairstyles for the summer. Some are work appropriate; some not; we’re digging the double French twist (pictured at left).

- Ms. JD wonders whether dressing up improves productivity. We’re not sure about that, but we’re pretty sure we’d be annoyed at a boss who decreed Fridays to be “High Heel Fridays.”

- If you twirl your hair, stand with your arms crossed, or crouch for the company photo, Forbes Woman has some advice for you on which body language behaviors to avoid.

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Because the usual author is on her honeymoon, today’s reader mail has graciously been answered by City Girl, who writes about a variety of topics pertaining to city living as a professional woman, including beauty and fashion for the workplace. City Girl is also an associate at a law firm in Washington, D.C.

I am wondering if you can do a post on what kind of make-up is appropriate for the office. Do you have to wear make-up at all? If so what should you wear? Are there particular brands you recommend? Any advice on this would be very helpful.

Office-appropriate makeup goes a long way towards adding polish to your image as a professional woman. It is not mandatory, nor need it be complicated or time-consuming, but it really adds to looking put-together – plus who doesn’t have a bad complexion day where you want to reach for concealer? I am personally of the school that if you wear makeup to feel put together when you interview, then you should wear makeup as a summer associate, because it will help you feel confident and put-together all summer. Either way, even if you don’t plan to wear much (or any) makeup, do consider some of the products below. If you had to pick just three products, I would recommend tinted moisturizer, mascara or eyeliner and some sort of lip a product.

Foundation

Light coverage is best as it makes you look natural and polished and it’s easy to work with. I am a huge fan of tinted moisturizers and my top three picks for tinted moisturizer are Bobbi Brown, Laura Mercier (this comes in an oil-free version as well) and Smashbox. Bobbi Brown’s has the most range of colors, though all three have a fair number of shades. All three have good sun protection, and are very much fool-proof in that you can just apply with your fingertips and be done. If you are not used to wearing makeup often, this is a good way to add polish without fuss, foundation brushes and sponges or the risk of applying too much. It’s worth it to get matched at the department store though the beauty of tinted moisturizer is that it blends into your skintone because it is sheer. Another advantage to tinted moisturizer is that it survives summer heat much better than a medium or full coverage foundation.

Concealer

If you are blessed with good skin, a tinted moisturizer will be enough. If not, you will want two kinds of concealer – a soft creamy one for under your eyes and a more pigmented one for any redness or blemishes. I love Laura Mercier’s Undercover Compact because it has both in a tidy little compact and some setting powder too. Perfect for touch-ups during the day. Incidentally, you don’t need to buy the taklon brush Laura Mercier recommends – just buy this Eco-Tools set. The concealer brush is very similar to the Laura Mercier brush, and the other brushes will take care of what you need for eyes and powder and blush

Powder

Again, you want light coverage – the best way to achieve that is with a finely milled powder. Some swear by loose powder for morning application and pressed powder for daytime touchups, but I think it’s fine to just invest in one pressed powder. That way you can use it in the morning and keep it in your purse for touch-ups. If you don’t get a transluscent powder, don’t try to mix and match colors across brands without testing the powders at the store. Generally, it’s just easier to buy the powder from the same place you bought the tinted moisturizer. The powder brush from the Eco-Tools set works great for both loose and pressed powder.

Blush

I love blush, but I don’t think your time as a summer associate is a good time to have lots of different blush looks. Use something very neutral and/or rosey and stick with it for the summer. I was a big fan of Laura Mercier’s Rose Petal when I was a summer, and her Wild Bouquet is lovely too. Nars has some good colors (just pick a color without chunky shimmer) that last and last and last, as does Bobbi Brown’s – just try blushes from their blush rather than their shimmer blush line. If you want to go the drugstore route, I like a lot of the blushes from Almay’s Pure Blends line — they are sheer and blend well.

Bronzer

Be very sparing with bronzer – you don’t want to look sunburnt – but it can give a nice glow. You could use it instead of blush, or with blush, as long as you use sparingly. I think Nars Casino and Laguna are great and don’t oxidize and go orange, and their slight shimmer is just the right amount to give a light glow without being too shimmery. I also really like Laura Mercier’s matte bronzers. If you get a drugstore bronzer, test it several times before using – the biggest downside of bronzer is that it can go orange, and that happens with many low-, medium- and high-end bronzers.

Eye makeup

The operative phrase here is a clean eye look – one base shadow (over some sort of a primer) that is close to your eyelid color, with just enough lightness to brighten up and open the eye, liner on the upper lids, and mascara. Crease shadow is not necessary but if you do want to do crease work, go for taupe. My absolutely foolproof combination for summer makeup that does not melt is Bobbi Brown’s Cream Eye Shadow as a base/primer followed by a dusting of either Bobbi Brown or Laura Mercier powder eye shadow (I prefer Sateen or Matte), and either Bobbi Brown gel liner or Clinique Cream Shaper Eyeliner and Organic Wear Mascara. If you have oily lids, Urban Decay’s Primer Potion is magic as primer, but otherwise the Bobbi cream shadow is great because it gives you the primer/base effect and some pigment. For mascara, pick something water-resistant and basic that doesn’t irritate your eyes. The only eye makeup item I really recommend not getting at the drugstore is a primer/cream base – everything else can easily be bought at the drugstore – Almay’s Pure Blends line is a good place to start. And avoid any liners that get too smudgey.

Lips

You will want something matte and understated, that enhances your lip color without being too flashy – also known as Your Lips But Better (YLBB). Besides avoiding anything too glossy, you have tons of choices. I often do just a basic tinted lip balm or lip stain as they are long-lasting, hydrating and give me just a bit of color, but a good basic lipstick works well too.

A note on makeovers at cosmetics counters…

…If you get one, go to Bobbi Brown or Laura Mercier. As someone who has had makeovers and owns makeup from pretty much every brand out there, I can assure you their makeup artists are really well-trained to put together an easy professional look suitable for all ages, including women in their 20s and 30s. In fact, that type of understated, low-shimmer but enhancing look is the cornerstone of these two brands. Bobbi and Laura makeup artists will understand what you mean if you ask for an understated professional look, with a clean eye, and will help you choose products and colors accordingly. Ask about how to line your upper lids if you don’t know how – I have received excellent tutorials that way. That said, as you can see from my recommendations above, the only things I really recommend buying high-end is tinted moisturizer/foundation, powder, concealer, and eyeshadow base. If cost is a concern, skip bronzer – it’s hard to find a good inexpensive one. Everything else (blush, shadows, mascara, even liner) you can easily get at the drugstore. I would say get the makeover before the drugstore shopping trip, because then you will have colors in mind when you shop.

Have a wonderful summer and feel free to ask questions here in the comments or over on my blog.

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Sometimes, when it matters most, you don’t have time to reapply your makeup. Being shuttled from person to person in a job interview? Sitting in front of a jury for four hours straight? You still want to look your best, but a lipstick, lip gloss, or tint really does not go the distance. Because of this, we’ve always been fans of long-lasting lipsticks. In the past, they’ve been things to endure. Some felt crunchy and drying after five minutes of wear. Others would wear unevenly, leaving you with lipstick only on the outer portions of your lips. But technology advances, and some of the new ones are exceptional — comfortable, great colors, and long lasting — and this occasional series will examine which ones those are. First up: L’Oreal’s selection of infallible lip colors, which the company was good enough to send to us to try out.

They sent us three kinds: the glosses, the lipsticks, and the LipColour. We were already fans of the LipColour — it’s a liquid that you use a sponge applicator to put on. It goes on precisely and smoothly, and, amazingly, doesn’t dry your lips too much — it’s more than normal lipsticks, but only slightly. The accompanying clear lip balm is also a keeper — moisturizing without being tacky or too glossy. The balm tends to wear off, though, and needs to be reapplied — whereas the LipColour is generally going to stay put until you decide to take it off. (Yes, even through a salad with an oily dressing.) The only problem here is color — finding the exact right shade can be a challenge. Nutmeg was too nude; Teaberry too pink. We wound up trying about eight different colors (even buying some with our own money!) and ended up liking Amethyst the best (L’Oreal Infallible LipColour, Amethyst 520), but it’s very hard to recommend a specific color. It’s $11.99 at Drugstore.com.

By far, the best find was the most surprising — a lip gloss. We’ve long thought that really glossy glosses (juicy ones, for lack of a better word) are unprofessional; you just don’t want to be parading around the office with really, um, wet lips. But this one is great because some magical change happens after you put it on. You apply it, and it feels sticky and looks glossy… and then, about two minutes later, it has become more permanent, more matte (it doesn’t look terribly wet after the first few minutes) and feels like it’s moisturizing and protecting your lips. It’s still slightly sticky — on a windy day your hair will get caught in it. The best thing about it is the staying power — we’ve never found a gloss that would stay put for more than an HOUR, let alone the three that we’re guestimating this one will stick through. We were given three colors to try, and wound up LOVING “Barely Nude” — especially as a compliment to a long-lasting lipstick, the duration and comfort are ridiculous. We would suggest staying with nude shades because, at least on us, the colors didn’t wear evenly — at one point we went to the bathroom and realized all of the red seemed to have migrated to the corners of our lips. Embarrassing! But the “Barely Nude” shade is one we’ll keep in our makeup bag for a long, long time. L’Oreal Infallible Never Fail Lipgloss, Barely Nude 815, available at Drugstore.com for $9.99.

Finally, we tested the lipstick version of the liquid lip colour. Personally, we didn’t like it — we found that compared to the liquid stuff, it didn’t wear as evenly, didn’t go on as smoothly, and didn’t last as long — but the colors we tried were REALLY, really, not our colors.

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Obviously, miniskirts are not office-wear. However, about a week ago, we asked when — and if — miniskirts become inappropriate even on the weekends if you’re a serious, professional woman. As always, the poll is still open, but the initial results are in:

  • 40% said the miniskirt question came down to a woman’s legs: if she has the gams, go for the miniskirt; if not, avoid
  • 28% said that anyone in their mid-30s or beyond should only consider wearing a miniskirt with dark tights, leggings, or pants
  • 18% said anyone in their 30s or older was pushing it
  • 7% said it was inappropriate as soon as college was done
  • only 4% said that a woman could wear whatever she wanted on the weekends, regardless of age

In comments, readers weighed in on the issue. CityGirl suggested — and others agreed — that one should remember that you may run into a professional colleague over the weekend and, while not wearing business casual 24/7, you should dress appropriately. MJ noted that miniskirts look less trashy with flats or wedges, and that as long as one knows how to “keep everything ‘important’ covered,” there was no reason why a woman couldn’t wear them out and about. K thought that it was asking for people to judge you poorly if you wore a miniskirt while lugging kids around.

Readers were undecided as to what constituted a “mini” skirt, but most agreed it’s a skirt that hits mid-thigh. Some said it was anything shorter than one credit-card above the knee; others said it was anything they had to be careful in, explaining: “if you have to make sure to smooth the skirt behind you when you sit down or otherwise actively monitor what’s going on, it’s short.” Interestingly, people agreed that there are skirts that are too short for the office, yet are not miniskirts. (Let’s brainstorm a name for these too-short-yet-not-minis skirts in comments! It seems weird to us that we have distinct names for pants that hit at a different points on a woman’s leg — floodies, capris, bermudas, et cetera — but just the word “skirt” with adjectives. Maybe something like brunchers (a skirt one wears to brunch) or … uh, we’ll keep thinking.)

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