So… What’s Your Birthday Routine?

So: Today is my birthday.  It’s always a reflective time for me, and I have my little routines — and I thought it might be fun to talk about how we all like to spend our birthdays.

Personally, every year on my birthday (or as close to it as I can swing it) I take a picture of myself without makeup — I’ve been doing it since I was in my mid-20s.  I like documenting my actual face and skin through the years, not hidden or modified by makeup. I like to go through the pictures as a slideshow, occasionally comparing different intervals (5 years apart — 10 years apart — etc).  This may sound kind of harsh but thus far I’ve been happy with the routine (and, I guess, the way I’ve been aging).

I also get to eat whatever I want for my birthday, diet be damned, and I usually go for something fairly juvenile and unhealthy, e.g. a Big Mac.  (For lunch today it’s going to be a salami and swiss cheese sandwich, and I’m really looking forward to it.) Tonight, my husband and son will take me out.  (I do like to celebrate the occasion with friends as well as just with my husband at a fancy restaurant, but I think I want it to be a tradition that the actual day-of is spent with just my husband and son somewhere chill.)

One of the traditions that is on hold for the moment is the midnight call — my parents and brother have always gotten on a conference line to call me at the stroke of midnight and sing Happy Birthday — but most nights the Griffin household is in bed long before that (see above re baby!).  (Although… last night I was up late finishing Gone Girl, which felt indulgent and luxurious since I I never get to read for fun anymore!)

Readers, do you have birthday routines?  What does your ideal birthday look like?  Does your office recognize birthdays (parties, cake, permission to leave at a reasonable hour, etc)? 

(Pictured: balloons, originally uploaded to Flickr by velkr0.)

Tales from the Wallet: Setting Financial Goals

You always see personal finance articles advising you what to do at the end of the year — but I see far fewer of them advising what to do financially in the beginning of the year. Personally, I like to do two things around now:
a) I take a “financial snapshot,” and
b) I make three or four financial goals for the year.

(Pictured:  FOLLI FOLLIE Blue Stripes Wallet, available at Lord & Taylor (having awesome sales of up to 80% off today) — was $85, now $51.)  

The “snapshot” was inspired by the Excel spreadsheet that I started when we were looking to buy the apartment.  It’s just a listing of all of our accounts, investments, debts, and property — and it lists the current value for each of those line items.  Big deal, you say — [Read more...]

Can A Water Bottle Be Unprofessional?

Can something as simple as a water bottle be unprofessional? Are there business etiquette rules for drinking water in the office?  Reader M wonders.

Are there any tips for choosing professional-looking water bottles? This is perhaps a mundane question, but with an extremely youthful face, long hair, and a newly-minted JD, I’m trying very hard to avoid any hint of ‘intern.’ I occasionally worry that my current metal bottle — complete with the name of my law school — really serves as a visual reminder that I just got out of school (it often ends up on my desk). On the other hand, I’m proud of my alma mater. Is the answer to trade it in for something completely nondescript? Are certain types more common among professionals? Are designs/logos that reflect some aspect of one’s personality completely out? Thanks for any thoughts you may be able to share!

Hmmn. First, congratulations to M for trying to get her daily water. Fancy water bottles have a lot in their favor — you avoid some suspect chemicals from plastic water bottles (such as BPAs), and they’re easier to clean and reuse. And I’ll admit, in my law firm days I used a simple stainless steel water bottle to carry water to and fro my office (similar to this one from REI). (I always drank out of a plastic cup — easier to throw away, less to clean — so the water bottle was really just my pitcher.  One pitcher filled about three plastic cups of water, so it did help me cut down on trips to the office kitchen for water.)

Now: was I unprofessional to use a water bottle?  Is M being unprofessional by using a water bottle with her law school logo? [Read more...]

On the Road: What to Wear for Many Months Away From Home

Cruise Luggage, originally uploaded to Flickr by flamingbear.How do you pack for a business trip where you’ll be gone for MONTHS? Reader B has a great question on long business trips:

Can you give tips or do a post on how to prepare for short-term assignments? I’ll be based in Hong Kong for 2-3 months for a project and I’m clueless on what to bring or how to pack. I tempted to take my entire closet! Help!

Excellent question.  We kind of got at this in our discussion of what to wear for a month-long trial, but that’s a bit different because a) you have to be on your best behavior, sartorially speaking — conservative, vanilla, “don’t notice me for my clothes” kind of clothes — and b) well, that was a trial.  We also kind of addressed this in our advice to the person who was going to school abroad for a summer, but I suspect your need for backpacking-friendly clothes is slightly less. (Pictured.) [Read more...]

Making Real Change…With Just One Thing

My number one, originally uploaded to Flickr by Snowflakesarewhite.Can changing just one thing make a big impact in your life?  It’s my plan of attack for my New Year resolutions, so I guess we’ll see…

I was reading this article in Working Mother with tips from top executives, all of whom happen to be mothers, and I was intrigued by the “One Thing” program at Bank of America, as described by Cynthia Bowman, Senior VP in Leadership Development:  “Each of us identifies the single thing that would be the biggest help in achieving work life balance. My ‘one thing’ is protecting my weekends.” (Pictured.)

I mentally bookmarked it and said, ah yes, we should talk about that at some point on the blog.  But this somehow got conflated with my New Year resolutions in my head… and now I think I’ve got a pretty good idea: [Read more...]

The Logistics of Decorating Your Office

Long day at the office, originally uploaded to Flickr by thewinchester.Decorating your first office is always exciting — but the logistics can be a little intimidating.  How do you get furniture in to the office?  How do you hang pictures up?  Reader D has some fabulous questions…

I just accepted a job offer to start next month in a senior position at a non-profit. I managed to negotiate a private office into the deal. I am coming from cubicle land so this prospect both excites and scares me. I obviously need to wait and see what the office looks like before planning anything but wanted your advice. I plan to probably bring my framed degrees with me as well as some professionally framed pieces featuring news clips of my work, etc. but how do I go about bringing them in/hanging them up/etc.? Also, I was reading an old post on personalizing an office where people suggested bringing in real furniture, rugs, lamps. How? I guess I could drive one day, but do I just one day after I start working start just moving things in my office? That seems so strange to me… I’m not sure if I will have access on the weekends, but that seems like the logical solution maybe, but what if not? I don’t want to burn bridges by decorating but I want to make my office my own… so what do I do?

Great questions (and congrats on your forthcoming private digs)! We’ve talked about office decor a few times in the past – whether the best office is big or well located, how to liven up your office (without making it “too nice”), what ergonomic things (chairs, keyboards) you should consider requesting or adding,  when an office is too messy, as well as when an office is decorated too nicely — but we haven’t really talked about the actual logistics of decorating your office.  (Pictured: Long day at the office, originally uploaded to Flickr by thewinchester.) I think this is going to be specific to every office, but here are my suggestion with how to proceed:

- Day 1.  Show up with yourself.  In a suit.  Maybe with a favorite pen or notepad.  Don’t bring anything else that you intend to leave at the office.  As you meet people that day and look at other people’s offices, assess the level of decoration (among everything else you’re doing that day).  In my BigLaw firm some of the partners had decorators come to do their offices — many walls were painted or wallpapered, artwork was hung, huge desks presided, and lux couches and armchairs filled the space.  In my non-profit legal job, everyone (including the VIPs) used furniture that looked as if it had been abandoned by the side of the road sometime in 1994, or perhaps purloined from a college dormitory garbage bin.  So this is really going to vary by office. [Read more...]