Thursday’s TPS Report: Straight Leg Ponte Knit Pants

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

MICHAEL Michael Kors  Straight Leg Ponte Knit PantsI’m not big on shorter pants for the office, but these highly-reviewed pants (77 mostly positive reviews) look great for what they are — comfortable, flattering, and affordable. I also like that they come in a wide range of sizes for both regulars and petites. They’re $74.50 at Nordstrom. MICHAEL Michael Kors Straight Leg Ponte Knit Pants

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  1. springtime :

    I wear shorter pants to work all of the time, and see people wearing them downtown too. I’m tall so trying to find long enough pants is just too difficult.

  2. springtime :

    I’m tall so I wear these types of pants all of the time- it’s too hard trying to find pants long enough.

    • Ditto. For the same reason I like the skinny jeans trend, I’m a fan of ankle length pants. They’re supposed to be intentionally short! Unlike a flared pant that looks weird floating an inch above your shoe, these can end above your ankle and still look fine :)

    • springtime :

      sorry for the double post!

  3. Immediate threadjack; apologizes if someone already asked this yesterday: I need a new RSS feeder since Google Reader is going away. Anyone have one that is similar in style?

    • momentsofabsurdity :

      I’d like to hear recommendations too!

      Feedly (though its Google Reader powered now) is apparently building an engine that will work just like Google Reader.

      But if you hop devices, I don’t think there’s anything quite as useful as Google Reader, unfortunately. I’m really disappointed in Google’s decision, since most people I know use Reader (and I’m only 25 so it’s not like Google Reader is going the way of AOL…)

      • Try searching for “alternative to google reader”. It looks like Feedly is one option or maybe NewsBlur. I use Reader a lot a work when I need a quick break to check blogs, so I’m stuck with IE. I hope I can find something compatible. I’m really ticked off it’s being retired.

      • Lots of our readers use Bloglovin or Netvibes…

      • I’m also disappointed because over the last few years, I’ve cultivated a long list of blogs I like plus starred items. How will I distract myself at work without Google Reader?!

      • I’m trying out Feedly for a while. With settings, I’ve somehow managed to get it to look/feel *mostly* like my GoogleReader. The annoying thing is that it doesn’t give me everything in one stream, but keeps selecting a couple of posts from each category to add in a stream – so I have to refresh the streams often to get everything…

    • Aack! Me too, so sad! They keep saying RSS is dead but I totally don’t buy it.

    • We use Google Reader for work (scan a lot of headlines to compile a newsletter). Everyone’s really upset it’s going away

    • That’s really interesting. I use iGoogle, which is also going away (in October, I think). I like it because it lays out my feeds in a way that I can easy see them. I asked my colleagues about a replacement and they said Google Reader. So I guess that’s a non-starter. Has Google said what will replace it or do they think RSS is dead?

      • momentsofabsurdity :

        I think they will not replace it and are trying to push people to Google+ (or other social services). But for me, Google Reader isn’t a social reader (and I don’t want it to be), so that isn’t that useful for me.

        • Not a fan of Google+; I don’t even use it b/c it doesn’t fit in with my workflow.

          I’m trying out feedly right now; it’s okay in the short amount of time this AM when I’ve been using it.

        • Right, Google+ is not the same thing. I want to have something where I can view all my sites in one place. I also liked the functionality in reader to star posts and add tags. It was a great way for me to keep track of beauty products I liked from makeup blogs and recipes from food blogs. I guess I’m getting old and resistant to change, but this is so annoying to me!

        • Yes, I don’t want other people to see what I’m reading. Even if I can block it, I don’t want social functionality in case I accidentally share it or accidentally like something, etc.

    • Also in the sad/slightly freaking out camp. I use Reeder on my iPad and the developer claims it will still work after the switch, so I’m keeping my fingers crossed. I wonder if I should backup my favorite blogs’ addresses just in case though…

    • So upset, I use Reader all the time on multiple devices. Why are they getting rid of it!

    • I think I’m most likely going to switch over to NewsBlur — looks like it’s clean and simple like Google Reader with all the same features, although it is $12/year. But I’d recommend waiting to try out new sites, because all the alternatives are completely overloaded with new traffic right now from everyone fleeing Google Reader before they’ve had a chance to upgrade servers.

    • hoola hoopa :

      Whoa, thanks for the warning! I hadn’t heard this yet. I use Reader every day!

  4. Sydney Bristow :

    I think these are cute, but I always have trouble finding a pair that works for me because I have short legs. Even with tailoring, they always look off somehow.

    Does anyone know of good resources for learning about Imposter Syndrome? I’m reading The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women by Valerie You g right now and finding it fascinating, and hopefully helpful. I’d love to find other books or blogs or articles on the topic.

    • “The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women” sounds super interesting – I’ll have to check it out!

    • Baby DC Esq. :

      I’m reading Sheryl Sandberg’s book right now, and she also has a section on Imposter Syndrome, with cites to other more scholarly articles that discuss it.

      • Sydney Bristow :

        How are you liking the book? It’s on my list of things I want to read, but I haven’t had a chance to start it yet.

        • Baby DC Esq. :

          Admittedly I’m only about 50 pages in, but so far I have mixed feelings about it. Some of it is helpful, just hearing that some of the things I’ve faced/felt aren’t unique to me, but at the same time, I feel like her message is a little all over the place at times, and even makes me self concious about past behavior that I previously didn’t second guess (being openly proud of accomplishments, aggressive in debates/negotiations, etc.). I’m hoping as I get further into the book, she brings things together a little more clearly.

    • Slightly academic, but I like “Faking It” by Bill Miller

  5. Google Reader :

    Ugh, just found out today that Google Reader is being retired. I use the service to keep track of so many blogs. It’s especially helpful for food blogs, b/c I can star and tag my favorite recipes. It’s going down July 1st. Off to find an alternative!

    • Bloglovin or Netvibes…

    • You don’t specify if you’re using google reader on android or windows, etc. If you’re using it on android, an awesome RSS feed reader I use is RSSDemon (there may be other versions, I just use this on my smartphone). It allows you to star posts too.

  6. These pants sound incredibly comfortable. Like yoga pants, but acceptable for the office.

    • I’m wondering how much they stretch? My Loft ponte pants leave me with saggy diaper b*tt by the end of the day.

      • just had to say, the phrase “saggy diaper b*tt” made me LOL.

      • Ugh I hate loft sizing right now. I have the ponte pants in a size 4 (I’m between a 4-6) and they are big on me. When am I a size 2? Really? But I did buy ponte knit pants from anne taylor and they are better quality/fit.

        • frugal doc... :

          Agree. Sizing these days is out of control – including at Loft. Crazy – in no universe should I be a 2.

          I have also had difficulty buying multiple pairs of pants from Loft of the same size (simple stretch skinny cords) and finding one pair too big, one pair too small. Way too much standard error…

          I have also experienced diaper butt in my similar ponte pants from Nordstrom – Vince Camuto. I even went to the trouble to have the waist altered (mistake on cheaper pants… until you know how they wear…) and the butt looks terrible after a few hours.

          *like* the diaper butt description….

          • And in no universe should I be wearing 3 sizes smaller than when in HS, though I’ve gained at least 15 pounds.

      • I have these pants and really like them. I don’t find them saggy, but haven’t tried other ponte pants. I think it helps that they have a real waist band with a zipper and a hook, and are not the pull on style.

        FYI, I have noticed some slight pilling on the inner thighs after several months of wear, but nothing too terrible.

        • What’s the sizing like?

          • I found them pretty true to size. It is the same size I wear at BR, etc. A size smaller than I wear at Theory. I am shortish (5’4″) and wanted them to hit at the ankle, so I got the petite size.

    • S in Chicago :

      I own these–they kind of remind me of the weight of stirrup pants that were so popular in the 80s (now I’m really dating myself). The stretch/sag factor isn’t bad at all but they pill something fierce. I’ve only worn a couple of times since they are wearing so poorly.

  7. hamster428 :

    I like wearing ankle pants as well because I’m petite and they don’t drown me. But depending on the material sometimes they shrink in the wash and become capris.

  8. Aargh, surprise weekend getaway begins in 3 hours and I need to get actual work done between now and then. Struggling to find the motivation.

    • Have fun! And stop worrying about work. You need a break.

      • So looking forward to it! Made a list of what I need to do when I get back on Monday and am putting it away. Tablets, laptops, and journal articles are not allowed so I’m looking forward to a proper break. I know where we are going but no idea what the agenda is so that’s exciting!

  9. Tech Issues :

    Having the issue where today’s post isn’t showing up on the homepage again, and can only get to it by clicking yesterday’s, then “next post”. Firefox.

    • momentsofabsurdity :

      From the homepage, this post is showing up but is only showing as 5 comments. Using Google Chrome on a PC.

      • On Chrome Version 25.0.1364.97 m on my home PC (old Windows OS–7?).

        No problems at all.

        PS, my Chia pudding tastes better as day 2 leftovers,

        • springtime :

          You’re making me want to make this, Karen. I throw some Chia seeds into my oatmeal for the crunch in the AM and there’s a recipe for CHOCOLATE chia pudding on the package.

    • Fixed for me, no clearing of cookies needed.

  10. Regular but Anon :

    Just wanted to chime in and say that the urban legend is true: I’ll be in federal jury trial next week and the judge explicitly requires women to wear skirt suits with hose. She (she!) actually tells you that pants are unacceptable for women in her judge-specific rules.


    • I’ve heard this for federal court before, but not experienced it firsthand as I typically don’t practice in federal court. Are you in the Southeast by chance? Wondering if it’s a regional thing.

      • Regular but Anon :

        Not in the Southeast, but I think this may be an age thing. This judge is well over 80 years old.

        • Alanna of Trebond :

          My favorite lovely circuit judge is well over 80 years old and has no such predilection (I have never seen her in a skirt or a dress).

    • Sydney Bristow :

      Wow, that is disappointing. Are there equally strict rules about men’s attire? Not quite sure what those would be, but maybe suit, tie, and jacket buttoned while standing?

    • Blonde Lawyer :

      Wow. I have to stay away from pantyhose for medical reasons (can’t have the elastic digging into the damaged part of my guts) so I almost exclusively wear pant suits. I can wear them a day or so here and there but could never wear them for two weeks straight for a jury trial. I’m actually recovering from a very minor surgery (cyst removal) and can wear loose pants or skirts only. No leggings, hose, or tight pants for 3 weeks. I would really hate to have to have the awkward conversation with the judge about why I medically could not abide with her dress code. I actually have a federal trial coming up in my district and haven’t noticed a skirts only rule. I’ll be at a small mentoring event with a different federal judge from my state (also female) and will try to confirm that pants are okay before all judges in our federal district.

      • Thigh highs?

        • Blonde Lawyer :

          That was my old go-to until they fell down on me in public once. I could never master the garter belt look without it showing through my skirt.

    • SpaceMountain :

      I have heard of this happening in a fed ct in Texas as well. Apparently the paralegals on that trial team all had to run to the mall to buy skirts for the trial. And it was a female judge. Obviously depends on the quirks of the judge — I have worn pants in many federal courts.

      • Regular but Anon :

        Sounds like it could be the same judge. Ask me how excited I am about having to buy and wear maternity hose to wear with my pieced-together maternity skirt suits…

        • Thigh highs, or stockings and a garter belt, will work well.

          • Blonde Lawyer :

            Do a trial run though. Thigh highs fall down on me and the garter belt always shows through my skirt a bit. Not in a see through way but in a “it is obvious there is a clip on your leg” kind of way. It doesn’t show standing still in front of the mirror but if I’m walking and the material is flush against my skin the outline is there.

    • Senior Attorney :

      That is disappointing.

      Mercifully, out here in California we actually have a state law requiring employers to permit women to wear pants to work. The reason I know about it is that there was a very very senior justice at the state Court of Appeal in Los Angeles who always required her female research attorneys to wear skirts until that law was enacted!

      • Senior Attorney :

        Although now that I think about it, a judge is not the emplyer of attorneys who appear before her, so I guess she can impose whatever dress code strikes her fancy. Although again, out here in California she would almost certainly be brought up before the Commission on Judicial Performance and told to cut it the heck out.

    • Can we start a petition to impeach her?

  11. I’m 5’7″ and a curvy size 14. Pretty evenly proportioned with respect to legs vs torso. I used to be solidly hourglass, but age is turning me more pear-shaped. I love the ankle pant look, especially in fun colors like kelly green or cobalt. However, I’ve been really hesitant to try this look because I can already have serious issues finding pants that fit over my thighs and hips, and I’m afraid the straight line effect would be ruined on me. Has anyone else with a similar body style been successful with the straight ankle pants?

    • Kitten Heeled :

      I have a similar body shape as you and find that GAP pants work well for me. Not the best quality, but they fit well.

      • Gap is having a site wide 30% off today. GAPFRIENDS.

        I have been loving GAP pants lately.

        • Thanks! It even includes denim bottoms and maternity!! I’ve been wanting a code so I could buy their white jeans.

        • Do you guys do the slim cropped pants of the skinny mini skimmers? I kind of love the colors of the slim cropped, but they look a little shorter than I was thinking — I don’t want to veer into the crops my 60 year old mother is always suggesting I buy from places like Coldwater…

    • hoola hoopa :

      Same figure to a tee. I have a pair from Gap circa 2004 that I adore, in stretch poplin. They are very flattering. I’m going to be lucky to get one more season out of them – and then I’m very literally going to use them as a pattern to make more.

  12. TJ : I’m trying to figure out how best to order Reiss items from Canada. Are there any Canadian sites that sell Reiss online? Yesterday’s thread referenced Bloomingdales (which ships to Canada in general) but they don’t show Reiss as available for shipping to Canada. Thanks for any suggestions!

    • Also curious…preferably a way that allows for returns.

    • Did you try looking at Reiss directly? I think they charge $25 for worldwide delivery…

      • I saw the direct site (great shipping rate!) but I was hoping to find somewhere that includes customs duties as that makes it much easier to see the real total cost.

  13. Single Traveler? :

    Threadjack —

    Ok, I need some insight on travelling with singles groups. I am 34 years old, not married, no kids, and I love to travel and really want to do more of it. The problem is that I am now finding myself at a point where most of my girlfriends are married (+ kids) and can’t just get away, or are single but don’t necessarily have the funds or the time to go (or in some cases, even the desire to go). Not that I’m rolling in dough, but I’m fortunate enough to have a steady job with good income that allows me to take vacation time. And, I need to take it. I work in a high stress job and quite frankly, I am just burned out. I need to go somewhere.

    I have heard a little about travel companies that organize singles trips but when I googled last night, I was overwhelmed. There are apparently a lot of these companies, and they go virtually everywhere. Have any of you guys used them? If so, do you recommend any of them? Are they just outrageously expensive? When you went, were there other people in their 30s and 40s, or was it mostly an older crowd ? I know many singles do travel on their own, but I don’t think that I would feel completely comfortable with that (and my parents would freak out!!!). Plus, I like the idea that they plan the trip. Any insight from the hive would be greatly appreciated!

    • Famouscait :

      This doesn’t apply specifically to singles travel groups, but DH and I did a trip with REI a while back and it was great. They have all kinds of activities you can pick from (we did ice climbing!) and our group was a mix of two couples plus two singles and two instructors. Since you’re engaged in an activity, conversation with others is easy and there’s a good group mentality. Normally my hubby and I travel on our own, but we were both very pleased with the REI group. Plus – its a good way to try something you’d never be able to do alone or on your own!

      • Ooh! I have been really tempted by the REI trips. It sounds like you liked it? I’m single and a fairly adventurous traveler, but there are lots of outdoor-type vacations I don’t do because they’re not safe to do alone (wilderness trekking, climbing, etc.). Did you find that the logistics were well-handled? Did the guides seem appropriately experienced? I’ve never traveled with a tour operator before.

        • Famouscait :

          The logistics were good and the guides were excellent. That being said, they were from a local outfitter (we were in rural Vermont) so if we were ever going to do that particular outing again, we’d likely contact them directly, to save money. However, I would imagine that REI screens all their providers as closely, so you’d likely get good guides no matter where/what you do. As a bonus, we each got a cute REI t-shirt and luggage tag. You can also get a discount on your first REI trip when you sign up for their membership. We’d love to do another trip that’s outside our comfort zone; its also a good way to try activities without buying all the gear yourself (and then finding out that it’s not your cup of tea…)

        • Definitely taking notes. I have a hard time convincing friends to do outdoorsy trips with me – this sounds perfect!

        • I’ve heard good things about REI, but have never been on one myself. I belong to a rock gym and they host a lot of outdoor climbing trips themselves, which I love. My gym has a fairly tight women’s club and a lot of the members team up and do other trips beyond the gym-sponsored ones. It’s a great place to find partners for outdoorsy activities.

    • Baby DC Esq. :

      Also not specifically on singles travel groups, but I have a friend that does lots of livingsocial trips (China, Iceland, etc.), and she met a group of people (all singles that met on previous livingsocial trips) on her trips, and they have all become travel buddies. That becomes really helpful when they plan future trips, because with livingsocial/groupon type deals, if you get 3 friends to buy the deal, yours is free, so the 4 of them end up going on a trip for the cost of 3 people.

    • My friend and I did a GAP trip several years ago to Africa was great, and a friend just did another GAP trip to India. Some people traveling with friends, a few couples, and a few singletons. It was great for meeting people and traveling with a group.

    • I don’t have any experience, but I’ve been checking out g adventures for my next big trip (probably not for another year, since I just got home from Spain. so this is very preliminary), and they seem to have a fair number of solo travellers.

      I want a group because some of the places I want to go, I wouldn’t feel comfortable travelling alone, and I have a few friends that have travelled alone with them and said they had a great time, and there were generally about 1/2 solo travellers on their trips, my friends were in their early 20s and said most of the other treavellers were under 35 though, and I’m 25, just for a frame of reference.

    • My rocket scientist, super shy but lovely cousin were just talking about his apprehension of traveling by himself so I encouraged him to take a trip like that . First trip like that ever and his first time breaking away from his group of coupled-up friends. He had a blast, met the love of his life and is now traveling all over the world to meet up with his new girlfriend (who unfortunately is from a different continent).

    • Jupiter Jones :

      I have joined several adventure related groups on meet up and some of them do some fntastic trips where a lot of people seem to be single. Of course, there is no screening of people whatsoever, but if the group has been around for a while with lot of membership and past travels, then I think that they should be relatively safe. Maybe try going for couple of local trips first to get a feel about the group.

    • My first scuba trip was a scuba liveaboard with my dad. The group was cool; accommodations were very primitive. Looking back, it was a rough group so I wouldn’t go again without my dad or a strong boyfriend along.

      I went on a second singles-scuba trip when I was 27/28. It kind of sucked. Being scuba diving, we were in an AI resort that was out in the middle of nowhere so I couldn’t escape the group.

      The group: I had asked about the group and was assured it was singles of all ages–including others in their 20s. Turns out, they were all at least 20 years older than me. For the women, I became “the baby” who was lectured to about how my generation (their kids) were basically entitled slackers who still lived at home and needed help to pay a $60 cell phone bill. It was assumed that my parents had paid for my trip (not true), subsidized my life (not true), and that I still lived at home (not true). As to the men, I had to fend off creepy come-ons at every turn. I was in my room by 8pm every night to avoid seeing them drunk. Considering that, before the trip, I had to insist on not being assigned to share a room with a man, this was very disturbing.

      I’d only go on a singles trip again if I was able to meet the group (in person or online) before putting any money down.

    • Another option is to find a workshop or camp type getaway for an activity in which you are interested. I have single friend who went to surfing camp in Costa Rica and met people that way.

    • frugal doc.. :

      My brother has been doing organized cycling vacation trips as a single. Last year went through some of the great National Parks out West, and he is thinking about doing one in Italy that involves biking and eating/wine tasting (!). He has really enjoyed them. But in general, people do tend to be a bit older… which surprised me since the biking is quite rigorous. I guess it makes sense though, for the same reasons that you find it difficult to have a friend take a vacation with you now. Older people have more money, time (kids are grown) and flexibility – in general. It is also definitely a wealthier crowd… but often very interesting folks.

    • [insert clever name here] :

      Also, not specifically a “singles” trip, but I have done solo trips through Earthwatch. These are fairly structured, since you are assisting with research projects. But, as others have mentioned with the REI trips, they are really easy to get to know your group since you’re all focused on a common activity. Highly recommend.

    • big dipper :

      I have a friend in your boat who uses Contiki. However, she’s in her early/mid twenties so there might be a bit of an age gap, I’m not sure what the average age on their tours is. She loves it though – lots of adventure based activities. She also met some friends on a tour that she now travels with.

      • I’ve been on Contiki at 21, oldest person was 28. It caps at 35, but you will feel much too old for the group if you go over 30.

      • I also went on a Contiki trip to Italy as a single when I was 26. I had an absolute blast, met three of my closest friends (also single, mid/late twenties) on the trip and now we are all travel buddies. Contiki caters to a younger demographic, and I’ve heard that GAP and Tauck tours are more suitable for an older crowd. I definitely encourage you to find a trip that sounds fun and go! Contiki made it easy for us to connect online before we went, which I appreciated.

    • I’ve heard good things about the Backroads singles and solos trips. All their trips look amazing. I would totally do something like this.

  14. Famouscait :

    How does The Hive feel about the particular length of these pants (as shown in the photo)? I just bought two pairs of pants very similar to this, and I need to have them altered. I was actually trying a length ever-so-slightly shorter than shown, but I’m a petite. Thoughts?

    • I like the idea of pants at this length but don’t like how they look on me. Something about the loose fit around the ankles makes me think of pants that shrunk. In unrelated news, I’m very excited to have gotten tix for Book of Mormon!

    • lawsuited :

      I wear my ankle pants hemmed ever-so-slightly shorter than the pair in Kat’s post.

  15. nytimes just had an article about this! specifically about how many companies charge huge supplements for ppl that travel alone, but also had a list at the end of some recommendations

  16. What kind of fun things would you do to your hair if you didn’t have to worry about your professional image? The inspiration for this question is that I’m currently taking a short hiatus from my professional career to SAH with my daughter. I feel like this is the time to do something a little fun with my hair, but I’ve been rocking the professional shoulder-length work-appropriate brunette hairstyle so long I feel a little out of the loop on fun ideas. Any inspiration for me?

    • Also, does anyone have tips for a website where you can “try on” different hairstyles and colors with a photo? Something fairly high quality/realistic, and also with a variety of funky hairstyle options?

      • I think InStyle (the magazine) allows you to do this, or has an app that let’s you try celebrity hairstyles on an uploaded picture of yourself.

      • totally jealous :

        I would do some awesome chunks of a really bright color woven in on the bottom.

    • add in a little ombre to the bottom front pieces of your hair! something nice and subtle, in a caramel color. I think it looks so cool when you can tuck a piece of caramel-colored hair behind your ear!

    • funkybroad :

      I have a pixie cut, brunette hair, that’s styled to look unkempt. Personally, if I were not in biglaw, I’d die it fire-engine red. Then again, I’m an artist in my other life, and call the suits I wear to work “lawyer drag.”

      I think more women would look fabulous with pixie cuts — admittedly I was hesitant myself until the hairdresser chopped off all of my waist-length hair at once, 11 years ago. I haven’t looked back since. Rock it with some highlights…

      • +1. I was nervous about cutting my hair really short, but I love it.

      • I agree that the pixie is wonderful on so many women. In fact, I used to wear my hair pretty short, but — alas — a few extra pounds right now means a too-round face. That, plus a husband who *loves* my hair makes this a no-go personally …

      • We must be kindred spirits–I am dying to color my pixie navy blue. And yes, I agree, many women would look so much better in pixies.

      • I went pixie a couple years ago and love it. Now I’m trying different variations of the cut with bangs and assymetry.

      • Cornellian :

        “lawyer drag” is a hilarious way to think of it. I really struggle with whether I want to make my BigLaw wardrobe feel mine and comfortable, or simply view it as a lawyer costume I have to wear (like the branded shirts I had to wear waiting tables). Lawyer drag is a perfect way to describe the latter point of view.

        I might go pixie, which I feel like is pretty out there for BigLaw women under 50.

      • I posted earlier in the week about planning to chop off all my hair on Friday–I’m now thinking that a pixie is the way to go, so all this pro-pixie talk is making me even more excited!

      • Violet's Fan :

        I went pixie a few months ago and I will never go back. Bonus: I took a pic of Anne Hathaway’s pixie to my stylist as inspiration, and no fewer than three people have told me I look like her (including my now-favorite-child, my seven-year-old daughter, who saw AH on the red carpet on television).

    • I would grow mine longer (it’s hard to blow dry straight that way, but I don’t blow dry except for work), and possibly get some alternatively colored streaks, which I’ve always thought would be fun. Maybe red or purple or blue.

    • The best thing I ever did with my hair was dye the bottom layer a subdued deep purple. I have a dark brown bob with a few layers, so the result was that a bit of purple just peeked out at the tips. It was so fun and I got a lot of compliments. I did it when I worked in a funky retail shop, but when I transitioned to a more laid-back office job, I was able to keep it because it wasn’t like a full head of neon purple. Dip dyeing (kinda like ombre but less “I forgot to touch up my roots” because it’s mostly the tips) with fun colors is also a thing.

      • My stepdaughter has done both the bottom layer purple and then after that washed out, dyed just the bottom 2 inches of her hair purple. This would be genius for someone like you because you could always cut the purple part off if you just dyed the tips and the bottom layer was really only noticeable when she wore a ponytail.

    • Diana Barry :

      My friend who is a WAHM (also a lawyer) got purple streaks in her otherwise brunette hair. It looks great!

      • Ooh, like this?

        I like it! I have to see what I would look like with such dark hair, though. Is dyed dark hair during summer a faux pas of some sort?

        • Diana Barry :

          That one looks more plum than purple – these were a bit wider and more purply. Maybe try pink in the summer? :)

      • When I was in college, I wanted to get purple or pink streaks (I have dark blonde hair). If I didn’t have to worry about going to Court, then I would totally do it (or maybe ombre instead of streaks).

    • This is what I would do.

    • I would dye it a shocking color, or maybe just have a few bright pink or purple highlights.

    • How about giving your hair a break from dying, straightening, blowdrying, etc. Not fun but healthy.

      • DC Lawyer :

        I’m totally with you, but that’s actually my norm. I’ve had a wash-and-wear style in my natural color for many years. I’ve been proud of healthy that keeps my hair, but, yes, I’m getting bored.

    • I would dye it Anne of Green Gables red, and wear Marcel waves or Victory Rolls (different decades, I know) every day.

    • I have a longer bob with blunt straight bangs and I’d keep the cut, but would get funky with the color. I’d love to dye the bangs and a small section on either side a different color, or bleach them platinum (I’ve done this before, but with a color that was only slightly different than my normal color). I’ve also been coveting lavender hair lately and would love to do that, though it would wreak havoc on my hair.

      Semi-related TJ – does anyone have a skunk stripe and get away with it in their workplace? I’m in my late 20s and have had a white streak of hair smack dab in the middle of my bangs for a long time. I dye my hair, but I’ve had the urge to stop dying this section and maybe even bleach a little more to emphasize it. Part of me (probably the covetous, impatient part) wants to just do it, but I have an unquantifiable nagging hesitation over it. Am I being ridiculous?

      • I was going to say I hate the skunk stripe look but I’m thinking of something people dye into their hair. I’d cut you some slack if it was natural, though I personally would probably cover this myself.
        I am very surprised by how into dyes everyone here seems to be. I’ve never in my life dyed my hair or had any inclination to try, especially a color not found in nature. Sounds like the only reason you all don’t have crazy hair is because you want to maintain a professional look but were it not for your job you would do it? Or you all are just goading DC into doing something you would never actually do?

        • DC Lawyer :

          “Or you all are just goading DC into doing something you would never actually do?”

          Excellent question. :)

  17. For Francie Nolan re: BVI-

    My sister lives and works in the BVI, and I have been down there many, many times and LOVE it!

    It depends what island you are staying on but if you are going to virgin gorda, you have to check out the baths and savannah bay (great snorkeling), snorkel/dive the invisibles, dive the wreck of the Rhone, dive the chikuzen, eat at fat virgin (accessible by boat only), take a day trip to anegada. Other things to do are to check out check out Peter Island, Norman Island, Cooper Island, soggy dollar bar, willy t’s, the list goes on!!!

    If you don’t have your dive certification, Ben and Kay from Kilbrides Sunchaser Scuba at the Bitter End Yacht Club are AMAZING teachers (and SUPER safe) and offer a “resort course” that will allow you to dive in the BVI with them during your vacation.

    Overall the BVI is known for great snorkeling and diving so make sure to take advantage of your time there!

    Email me at boardroombelles (at) googlemail (dot) com if you have questions – I’m happy to help!

  18. Kitten Heeled :


    I’m trying to find a pair of gold glitter pumps for under $80. So far, I like the Ivanka Trump Kaydena and the Nine West Caress (have coupons for both- links to follow). I thought there would be a lot more out there— any recs appreciated!

    Also, what seems to be the consensus about Ivanka Trump shoes? Are they comparable to Nine West or slightly better quality?

    • Kitten Heeled :

      Ivanka Trump Kaydena:

      Nine West Caress:,default,pd.html?variantSizeClass=&variantColor=BLACKPA&q=caress&prefn1=catalog-id&prefv1=ninewest-catalog

    • I can only speak for the flats, not the heels, but Ivanka Trump is much higher quality than Nine West. They look better, last longer, are more comfortable.

    • I have two pairs of Ivanka Trump shoes, purchased in the past couple of months, and I think they are of higher quality than Nine West. The patent leather is real leather, not plastic. I have found them to run large. Both pairs I have are a half size smaller than what I usually wear. Have you looked at Enzo Angiolini? They’re under the same brand umbrella as Nine West but, I think, slightly higher quality and they’ve had some pretty glitter pumps (Smile was a style I looked at last year).

      • Agreed on the Ivanka Trump. Way higher quality than I expected.

        • Anon in NYC :

          Agreed! Bought some Ivanka Trump boots and booties a few months ago and love them. I’m a die hard Kate Spade Karolina (pump) fan, but I’m now willing to consider an Ivanka Trump shoe as well.

    • Famouscait :

      I have these Nine West shoes in Pewter color, and I get TONS of compliments when I wear them. They also come in gold:

      So far the quality is good; I keep them in the box at home and in a shoe bag when I traveled with them (to a wedding). I haven’t lost much glitter at all. They’re comfortable and I’d recommend them.

    • I recently discovered Ivanka Trump shoes too. I have a pair of boots and a pair of pumps. Really like them both. Good quality and have gotten many compliments on both. They look much more expensive than Nine West (which I’ve had bad luck with recently).

  19. What to wear? :

    I have a lunch interview-type-thing with a guy from a small boutique firm on Monday. He chose the place– a casual burger spot. I get the feeling that this is one of those “we see your meet our qualifications and just want to check you out and see if you would fit in” type meetings and that they are fairly serious about me as a candidate. I’m assuming I should still wear a suit, right? What about a light grey suit rather than something super formal?

    • I think I would still wear a suit, but I would make sure to wear a shirt underneath that I didn’t mind wearing without a jacket. Then I would probably take my jacket off right away.

    • I’ve been to a few of these. I’d do either a casual day suit (e.g., not seasonal now, but for one I wore a brown tweedy suit/lavender top/brown metallic kitten heels), or business casual with a jacket (e.g., black pencil skirt and heels, emerald silk top and ivory wool jacket). I don’t think that you necessarily need (or want) to wear a suit, but I’d definitely wear a jacket.

  20. For those who have bunions / problem feet – are there any particular materials that you feel are more comfortable than others? I am in my first year of working (formal end of business casual) and invested in leather / patent leather shoes. But I feel like they and other manmade materials are stiff. My feet are always hurting, and it’s not usually in the balls of my feet. Is it wishful thinking for me to hope that there is a material (like a really soft suede) that is more comfortable? I just wish I could wear wool socks all day!

    • Anne Shirley :

      Leather isn’t manmade, and after a year of wearing it should be soft. Are you having trouble width size squeezing the bunion in? I take mine to the shoe guy and have him stretch just that spot for me.

    • Get a pair of shoe stretchers. Always buy real leather or suede and stretch them with the shoe stretchers. You can also get leather oil to apply in conjunction with the stretchers.

    • Arcopedico shoes use a stretchy material. They aren’t the best-looking shoes, but they stretch to accommodate bunions.

    • Try counteracting your bunions by wearing a toe seperator between your big and second toe at night or under your desk. It can really help reduce your bunion.

    • I have bunions too. I stay away from patent leather shoes, as they are crazy stiff. Suede and softer leather have more “give”. But for me, it’s more the design of the shoe that matters. I look for shoes with a wide toe box, and make sure I can wiggle my toes. No pointy shoes. It is not easy to find attractive shoes that work for bunions, but I’m coming to terms with that. Nothing makes me more unhappy that having aching feet all day long. Have you checked barking dog shoes? She has lots of suggestions for shoes for people with bunions (and other foot problems). Not always the most fashionable shoes, but will give you an idea of shapes, materials and brands that might work.

    • I am a banana. :

      Ditch the patent leather. It doesn’t stretch well.

    • lawsuited :

      Yes, soft leather and suede have more ease and are more comfortable for me. I was lucky to find 2 pairs of patent pumps (1 black, 1 nude-for-me) which are softer leather and have stretched to become very comfortable over time. I tried a pair of pumps with stretchy elastic around the opening, but the seam where the elastic and leather meet is actually awfully painful.

  21. I’m looking for suggestions on the best dry shampoo? I have brown hair, and I’d like something that works well with sweaty hair, if possible?

    And I remember all the drugstore product discussions where people really liked one drugstore mascara, but I forget if it was the one in the orange tube or purple tube? Google searching this site has failed me, because mascara is a surprisingly common result.

    • I don’t use dry shampoo, so no recs from me there. However, I love the Covergirl Lash Blast in the orange tube.

    • Salon Grafix Dry Shampoo… It is a drug store brand but by far the best I have ever tried!

    • Greener Apple :

      I sweat a lot when I’m exercising, and so far none of the dry shampoos I’ve tried let me avoid washing my hair at the gym, though a friend really loves the Bumble & Bumble one for post-workout touch-ups. Oscar Blandi and Ojon don’t work for me–I feel like I go through half the container before I see results. The keratin dry shampoo (which comes in brown, with a container that looks like a blush brush) was just messy and seemed best suited to really mild touch-ups.

      Right now, I’m using the brown Bumble & Bumble. It seems all right so far. Fekkai with the pointed-tip applicator also works all right for a day or two, but if I’m not careful, it feels like it builds up too much.

      • S in Chicago :

        Did you try the Oscar Blandi spray or powder? The powder is the best thing I’ve come across so far, but the spray seemed totally worthless. I love the smell, too. Only negative is that it can be a little messy. I’m really blonde so it isn’t horrific if I squeeze out too much. Someone brunette may not fair so well though.

        • Greener Apple :

          I tried the spray. I have trouble with powders because I’m always afraid I won’t brush thoroughly enough and fail to notice I’ve given myself a gray streak.

    • I like Suave Keratin Infusion

    • Greener Apple :

      Oops, just lost my comment. I sweat a lot when exercising, and I’ve yet to find a dry shampoo that lets me avoid washing my hair at the gym. But a friend swears by Bumble & Bumble post-workout.

      Ojon and Oscar Blandi don’t work for me–I feel like I use half the bottle before I see results. The keratin dry shampoo (brown; it comes in a container that looks like a blush brush) was okay for mild touch-ups, but not for really sweaty hair.

      The two that generally work for me are Bumble & Bumble (in brown) and Fekkai (with the pointed-tip applicator, which can lead to build-up if I don’t apply it carefully). I’m just starting to try the Oribe dry shampoo now–the regular shampoo is working great, so I’m optimistic.

    • purplepear12 :

      I have jet black hair and Kenra dry shampoo works great for me. Saves my gym hair too.

    • I’ve never successfully used dry shampoo on sweaty hair… if I work out it basically guarantees I have to wash my hair. You might have better luck blow-drying the sweat out of your hair and following that with dry shampoo, instead of applying the powder/spray directly to sweaty hair.

      For second-day hair, I’ve had good luck using a bit of the Ojon dry shampoo (light blue bottle) to revive volume at my roots. The Suave keratin version is a decent (and much cheaper) substitute.

    • Do a patch test first. I’ve never been allergic to anything in my life, but my splurge on the $24 Ojon dry shampoo at Sephora gave me full on contact dermatitis that took two weeks to clear. HORRIBLE.

    • CrimsonClover :

      Klorane Dry Shampoo; it’s expensive at about $18.00 a pop, and less available now that Sephora doesn’t carry it ( does), but it’s the purest and least chemically smelling. As somone with chestnutty colored hair who only washes once a week and sweats pretty regularly throughout that time (that sounds way grosser than it actually is…or maybe not) it definitely works so long as you’re careful not to get a ton on your top layer of hair and focus on drying up your scalp oils underneath by working it in a bit.

      Make sure to get the non-aerosol pump; it’s wayyyyy more product and honestly more easily applied once you get the hang of it!

      • The Klorane is spendy but I get one million uses out of the bottle. Plus, once the bottle starts to run low and you don’t get much out when you squeeze, the remaining product is easily decanted into the new bottle. Can’t do that with an aerosol spray can!

    • Houston Attny :

      B/c of The Hives’ recommendations in that thread, I bought the orange tube of mascara from CG and LOVE IT. Really, no flaking, stays with me all day. Thank you, Ladies!

    • If you have sensitive skin/eyes, I’d stay away from most drug store mascaras. I’ve never used one that agreed with me.

      I like Batiste dry shampoo.

    • Kevin Murphy dry shampoo. A bit on the expensive side but 100% worth it. I use it after the gym (I work out during lunch) in lieu of actually getting my hair wet and it makes my hair look great.

    • AttiredAttorney :

      Orange Tube – Cover Girl Lash Blast

      My favorite dry shampoo is Suave’s “professionals” line. It has a yellow-tinged metal spray bottle. For under $3, it performs as well as the $10+ brands.

  22. Happy Pi Day!

  23. Law School TJ
    I’m a 2L and I’m totally burned out. I have a summer job lined up (for which I’m eternally grateful and relieved) but my grades last semester (3.3 gpa) will cause me to lose my scholarship if I don’t get them up (a reasonable amount – nothing outrageous). I’m at the point where I’m dreaming about dropping out of law school because it’s just so miserable. I’d like to consider an anti-depressant / anti-anxiety medication but I’m concerned that the amount of time it would take to find one that works for me would ruin the next 4-6 weeks, and screw me up just in time for finals. Any advice? Thanks in advance.

    • I think you need to talk to a therapist and figure out whether you are actually depressed and it’s causing you to have issues, or whether you are fine and law school is just temporarily stressing you out (as it does for everyone). Medication is not a quick fix for situations where anyone would be stressed out.

    • I think what you’re going through is fairly common. Law school is just miserable, I definitely wanted to drop out several times. Just keep trudging along, there is light at the end of the tunnel. 3L year is the best because you know what to expect and get to take more elective courses. Plus the more specialized courses are often taught by adjunct faculty who have a much more practical approach, which I enjoyed a lot more. 3L was most enjoyable for me and my grades were the best that year.

    • Are you dreaming about dropping out of law school because law school itself is making you miserable, or are you dreaming about dropping out of law school because other non-law school factors are making you/your life unhappy/difficult, and your performance in school is simply the casualty of your overall depression?

      Either way, I think that a therapist plus possibly medication can’t hurt. If sounds like your current level of peace/happiness (not great) isn’t very sustainable for the next 4-6 weeks anyway, so you may as well take steps to try and improve rather than stick with the bad that you know.

      • Thanks. I was in therapy for 10 months and recently stopped going because it just wasn’t helping. My therapist suggested a low dose of anti-depressants or anti-anxiety (apparently they use the same drugs in both types of meds), but didn’t push it.

        Law school is making me miserable. I just feel totally beat.

        • Anon from 1206 :

          Full disclosure, I currently see a therapist, and I find it very beneficial. However, I previously saw a different therapist and stopped for the same reason – it wasn’t helping. But “therapy” is too general to say that it helps you or it doesn’t – you need the right therapist, the right strategies, etc. Kind of like dating – just because someone looks great on paper and is a nice person doesn’t mean that they are right for you. I’d definitely encourage you to keep trying therapy and look for someone different.

          I don’t take any kind of anti-anxiety/anti-depression medication, but certainly encourage you to explore whatever you think might help you. If you are worried about possible stigmas, well, no one would look twice if you took medication to balance out your blood pressure, so I personally think that anyone who tries to make you feel bad for taking medication to balance out your mood/emotions can take a long walk off a short pier.

    • Totally common. Exercise very regularly, eat really healthily, don’t drink (much) and you should make it through the next 4-6 weeks just fine. If you can at all afford it, promise yourself a present when you make it through. Also – try studying in a different studious environment – go to the social science library, undergrad library, coffee house where different grad students study etc. and try to avoid talking to anyone who is playing the my-outline-is-bigger-than-your-outline game.

      • lawsuited :

        +1, with the caveat that having a drink on the couch when I get home in the evening has greatly improved my mental health.

      • THIS. Really, when you’re busy, the easiest thing to let go is taking care of yourself, but that’s also what will make the biggest immediate difference in terms of bolstering your ability to manage stress and anxiety. I also find that setting up a routine is helpful. Going to bed and waking up at the same time. Eating the same breakfast every day, etc.

    • Can you take a long weekend to yourself? I know you said you need to get your grades up, but in the long run, you can recover those four days, study-wise, and they might help you get your head in a better place. If you can afford it, what about going away for a weekend? You could visit a college friend, or drive somewhere an hour or two away? I’ve had very good luck with vrbo for cheaper-than-hotel rentals, and stayed in some really cool and relaxing places. Try to unplug- no email, phone, laptop, etc. Or bring a friend/visit a non-law school friend and remember what its like to have fun. :)

      Take care of yourself, law school is rough!

    • Anon for this :

      It shouldn’t take very long for a doctor to figure out a medication that will work right for you. However, once you get one something, it is VERY difficult to get off. Some people have no problem, but I’ve been on and off of medication for depression and anxiety since high school when my sister died.
      For what it’s worth, my first 1 1/2 years in law school were awful grade-wise. The more I studied, the worse my grades were. I met with a Professor about it for months and he finally told me that I needed to talk to someone about taking anxiety meds b/c he saw no problem with my work product and same exams. It was the first time I was on anxiety meds. I booked four classes in my last 1 1/2 years of law school. Turns out, I had test anxiety. Thank God I figured that out before the Bar exam. (Passed that on the first try with flying colors.)
      In short, if you need the meds, take them. And I second what someone mentioned previously about not letting anyone make you feel bad about it. Depression is a legitimate medical condition and can be deadly, so take care of yourself.

  24. You know that weird kind of sour metallic smell that metal jewelry sometimes gets? Is there a way to get rid of that? Someone just gave me this awesome really chunky necklace with tons of different kinds of metal and beads going on, but is has that smell and I know it’s going to bug me.

  25. Op with conservative mother :

    Hi everyone, I’m the op who posted yesterday about going on vacation with my bf and how to break the news to my controlling and tradition mother. Thank you to all who responded and did not take me for a troll. So I just told my mom last night that b and I have booked vacation plans and will be gone from x til y. To my surprise she just said “ok fine the choice is yours, just don’t do anything stupid” and that was that. Can I just say how relieved I am that there was no drama?

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