Open Thread: When is the Best Time to Get Pregnant?

Pregnant, originally uploaded to Flickr by Phil Of Photos.One of the interesting topics that readers wondered about when I announced my pregnancy was WHEN to get pregnant. So let’s talk about it today.  This is kind of a long post, so I’ll start with the questions:  When is the best time to get pregnant?  What considerations should you factor into the mix?

(Pictured: Pregnant, originally uploaded to Flickr by Phil Of Photos.)

Job Considerations:

  • You need to build a bank of credibility before you get pregnant. I recently attended a panel discussion at the New York City Bar on when women should get pregnant, and I loved one of the phrases I heard:  “the bank of credibility.”  Realistically, when you start a new job, you need to build up a bank of credibility so that people know who you are and what you’re capable of.  I think this is key — as I mentioned earlier, the first trimester can be very trying (particularly on your energy) and you may not want to tell your superiors or coworkers that you’re pregnant until you’re into the second trimester.  Furthermore, your bosses will want to know what they can expect both when they send you into a maternity leave (will you get all of your projects off your desk that you need to?  will you be responsive to occasional emails or questions during your maternity leave, or will you completely disappear for 12+ weeks?), as well as how responsive you’ll be when you come back from maternity leave.  The nightmare (if you haven’t built up enough credibility) is that your job will basically be gone entirely by the time you come back because your bosses didn’t think they could rely on you to juggle your job and your new role as a parent.  On the flip side, the dream would be for your boss to say “Oh, I had this great project and I knew you were coming back to work so I held it for you.”  Personally, I think you need at least 2 years on a job to build up a bank of credibility. [Read more…]