We’ve talked about dating a wee bit on here, but something we’ve never talked about is dating at the office. (Disclosure: This author has no experience with it personally — and as a newlywed, we hopefully never will). Still, it happens frequently — a 2003 study by the American Management Association found that two-thirds of managers and executives say it’s okay to date someone at the office, and 30% have done so. We’ve certainly known (and respected) folks who dated people at the office — in fact, a lot of those people wound up marrying that co-worker. So what are the rules for dating a co-worker with dignity?
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We thought we’d throw some suggestions for the single ladies amongst us — readers, please chime in.
- Do not view your office as a dating pool. It doesn’t matter how big the company is, or how many floors or offices it has — word will get around, and it will hurt you professionally. There should be a chance for the relationship to be a fairly serious one — do not just “date” a co-worker for a “distraction.” If you happen to really like someone you work with, let your feelings develop naturally, and let the relationship progress naturally. (We might also advise that if you’ve already dated someone at the office and it ended, then you should be very, very careful about dating anyone else at the office, lest you be seen as someone who does view the office as a dating pool.) [Read more…]