Are Skirts and Dresses Unprofessional?

Are Skirts and Dresses Unprofessional? | CorporetteAre skirts and dresses unprofessional? What if you have a boss who has a firm opinion, one way or the other? What if you have a boss who forbids YOU from wearing dresses and skirts, when other women in the office can and do? Reader A wonders…

I recently started a new job in a creative industry, and our offices are officially business casual but usually just regular casual. My boss hates that I wear dresses and skirts. She told me that looking feminine in the workplace is bad for careers and she only wants me to wear jeans or khakis if she’s in the office and I can only wear skirts when she travels. I’ve abided by it for a couple months since she was really persistent about it, even though other women in the office wear skirts. I’m confident that my skirts are not inappropriate length wise, they’re standard work skirts from Macy’s and Lane Bryant. Nothing ruffly or lacy either.

Anyway, my manager is leaving the company, but now I feel insecure about my clothing. Is it a bad move to wear skirts and dresses several times per week?

Wow. Honestly, your former manager sounds super annoying — particularly given that other women in the office wear skirts! I can only assume it’s a personal problem with you (something about your style irks her) or she is being sizeist, whether consciously or unconsciously. (The other possibility I thought of after Googling Reader A’s email address: The manager felt threatened professionally by Reader A, who already has an established, successful career — and wanted Reader A to look less managerial.)

Whatever the issue: I’m sorry you had to deal with it, and I’m glad the manager is on her way out. We’ve talked before about when feminine clothes are unprofessional, as well as how to look professional in a business casual environment where the guys are in jeans and hoodies, but not all at once. So let’s discuss.

  • Know your office. You say other women in the office wear skirts — how are yours different, if at all? Are you wearing them with much higher heels that you wear with pants? Are the women who wear them in different roles than you are (for example, much more senior or much more junior/administrative)? Reading office culture — and fitting in — is an important part of your job. You don’t have to give up your entire personal style, but you do have to learn when to play it safe — years ago we had a successful goth lawyer guest post on this very topic; we also recently discussed how clothes are only “empowering” if they actually help you get power. Without seeing your office it’s hard for me to make suggestions, but when I hear “creative business casual” I think of a shirtdress with flat boots, for example, or a sheath dress with a jean jacket and a scarf instead of a cardigan. We’ve talked about how to transition a conservative wardrobe to a casual office before.
  • A feminine style is one thing; being in costume is another. This doesn’t sound like it’s an issue with Reader A, but I’ll mention it briefly. If you tend toward a more girly style — A-line skirts, high heels, full makeup — you may be crossing the line from “dressed up” to “in costume.”  Particularly be wary of more vintage styles for the office.
  • Start slowly. Since you’ve been abiding by your manager’s weird “rules,” the office may perceive this as a style change — so start slowly. Wear one dress a week, not all dresses. See how people react, what comments you get. On the days that you aren’t wearing skirts or dresses, dress up your pants outfits as well — wear a blazer with jeans, or a feminine cardigan with khakis. (Some of our advice on dressing for a promotion may help bridge the gap between your jeans wardrobe and your dress/skirt wardrobe.) If you have a favorite pair of shoes you wear with your skirts or dresses, wear them with your pants and see how it goes.
  • Get an honest second opinion. If after a few times of wearing a dress you still feel uncomfortable, talk to your HR department or a more senior colleague you trust to give you an honest opinion. They know your former manager, your office, and you, so they may be able to give you better insight here.

What are your thoughts, readers? How would you handle this (now, as well as with that manager) if you were in Reader A’s shoes? Do you think dresses and skirts can be unprofessional?  

(Pictured: Hollywood 819, originally uploaded to Flickr by Jessica Hartman Jaeger.)

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Frugal Friday’s TPS Report: Ponte Knit Pencil Skirt

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Halogen® Ponte Knit Pencil SkirtWell, well: Nordstrom has a number of Halogen skirts marked down, including this lovely blue number (and, yes, this reader favorite). I like the vibrant color, as well as the soft, stretchy knit. This skirt, at 40% off, still has an impressive number of colors and sizes left, including a red and a “dark camel.” It was $59, but is now marked 40% off to $34.90. Halogen® Ponte Knit Pencil Skirt

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Frugal Friday’s TPS Report: Vanora Wave Printed Skirt

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices. Many thanks to this week’s TPS guest poster, Road Warriorette!

vanora wave printed skirtAnytime I need something fun and inexpensive, or a piece with a vintage twist, I go to ShopRuche. They have fantastic bargain finds, from their clothes to their jewelry to their slightly kitschy home décor. I’m really digging this graphic-print black and white skirt, and I think it would be a great addition to a business casual travel wardrobe. One way to wear it: subdue it a bit with a black button-down and conservative pumps. Or, you could just go with it and pair it with a brightly colored sweater, like, say teal (shocker right) and some yellow heels. Either way you will look awesome during your meetings and be comfy on your flight home. It’s $37.50, available in S,M, and L. Vanora Wave Printed Skirt

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Wednesday’s TPS Report: Glazed Lace Pencil Skirt

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices. This week’s guest posts are from one of my best friends since college, who we’ll call Auntie M – read more about her here. – Kat

Glazed Lace Pencil SkirtI am a sucker for what I call the “polished vintage” look, and this skirt hits the spot. It looks more like a textured pattern than lace, and the dark green is versatile and luxurious-looking. I would wear this with a cream silk blouse and a soft black blazer on top (nothing with too much shoulder padding or sharp angles), or perhaps a white-button-down, black cardigan and belt. It would look great with opaque tights in the fall/winter. Add some black shoes — stacked-heel oxfords, if you can get away with it in your office, otherwise some black patent-leather pumps to bring out the subtle sheen in the skirt — and a fun handbag for a pop of color (I’d take my non-patent purple) and you’re good to go. The skirt is $128 at Ann Taylor, available in both regular and petites. Glazed Lace Pencil Skirt

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Tuesday’s TPS Report: Crinkle Stripe Skirt

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I love the pattern on this skirt. It’s black and white with slightly wavy vertical stripes — so it is flattering, versatile, and interesting.  Yes please! There is a matching short-sleeved jacket for it, which looks really cute for a short-sleeved jacket, but for $228 I would probably wait for a bigger sale before purchasing the jacket. The skirt, though, is adorable, and available for $158 at Nordstrom. Classiques Entier Crinkle Stripe Skirt

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Thursday’s TPS Report: Shetland Wool Plaid Skirt

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Brooks Brothers Shetland Wool Plaid SkirtThis time of the year is always a great time to stock up on classic, timeless items that are now on deep discount simply because the weather is getting warmer. Take this skirt, for example: it’s never going to be an exciting skirt, but it’s made of good materials (Shetland wool, lined in Bemberg), and is a flattering A-line cut — the kind of thing you’ll wear for probably as long as it fits you. It was $168 at Brooks Brothers — but it’s currently marked down to $67.20 (sizes 6-16 still available). Shetland Wool Plaid Skirt


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