Dating at the Office: Working Women Share Their Stories

dating at the office2017 Update: We still stand by this advice on dating at the office – links have also been updated. You may also want to check out our more recent discussion on dating at work 

We’ve talked about dating a wee bit on here, but something we’ve never talked about is dating at the office.  (Disclosure:  This author has no experience with it personally).  Still, it happens frequently — a study by the American Management Association found that two-thirds of managers and executives say it’s okay to date someone at the office, and 30% have done so.  We’ve certainly known (and respected) folks who dated people at the office — in fact, a lot of those people wound up marrying that co-worker.  So what are the rules for dating a co-worker with dignity?

(Pictured:  Linda Lee Johnson Claddagh Ring, available at Barney’s for $3200. Update 2017: It’s sold out, sadly, but you can always get a great claddagh ring at Etsy (affiliate link).)

We thought we’d throw some suggestions for the single ladies amongst us — readers, please chime in.

What to Know About Dating at the Office

  • Do not view your office as a dating pool. It doesn’t matter how big the company is, or how many floors or offices it has — word will get around, and it will hurt you professionally.  There should be a chance for the relationship to be a fairly serious one — do not just “date” a co-worker for a “distraction.”  If you happen to really like someone you work with, let your feelings develop naturally, and let the relationship progress naturally.  (We might also advise that if you’ve already dated someone at the office and it ended, then you should be very, very careful about dating anyone else at the office, lest you be seen as someone who does view the office as a dating pool.) [Read more…]

Splurge Monday’s TPS Report: Snake-Print Carmela Dress

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Tory Burch Snake Print Carmela DressCall us crazy, but it seems like we are seeing a resurgence of that in-again out-again classic, the snake print.  Animal prints for the office can be dicey, but we really like this simple shift dress from Tory Burch.  The loose fit, the high boatneck — and the styling of the model, with the clean, low pony-tail — all appeal to us.  We’d wear it with pearls and nude-colored pumps, and perhaps “grow it up” even more with a black wrap.  It’s $395 at Neiman Marcus, in sizes XS-XL.  Snake-Print Carmela Dress

If you’ve recently seen a great work piece you’d like to recommend to the readers, please e-mail [email protected] with “TPS” in the subject line. Unless you ask otherwise, we’ll refer to you by your first initial.

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Weekend Open Thread

linQSomething on your mind?  Chat about it here.

(Pictured: Bare Necessities is taking an extra 50% off on clearance items, including this lovely top, which we’d wear pretty much anywhere (jeans, trousers, skirts). Was $48, now $11.99. linQ Cotton Modal Long Sleeve V-Neck Top T-shirt)

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Weekly Round-up

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a womans wife– Two interesting articles on working wives — the NYT has some thoughts on how things go when the wife works and the husband does not; meanwhile Sandra Tsing Loh eloquently wishes she had a wife.  (Pictured: We are huuuuge fans of Anne Taintor’s books and so forth; this magnet is $5.95 at her website.)

Bitter Lawyer wonders whether a woman’s hairstyle is important at her job; Forbes wonders whether men dress to impress. (Link fixed!)

– We’ve had an interview-advice filled week, but Mint.com has some additional thoughts on interview etiquette.

Brett Kelly has advice for you on how to eke an extra hour out of your day.  Meanwhile, Lifehacker suggests making do-not-do lists to increase your productivity, and Netted has the 411 on a new free program that helps you work on the computer more productively.
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Bargain Friday’s TPS Report: Antonio Melani ‘Kay’ Knit Top

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.
We like this merino wool top by Antonio Melani.  We love the detail around the neckline (which looks more sophisticated to us than a simple ruffle, but hey) and the vibrancy of the violet — and we generally like a ribbed high waist.  We’re also intrigued that in half of the pictures they show the model with the sweater tucked into skirts, so the ribbing all but disappears, which seems to be a great way to get more mileage out of the top.  Was $89, now down to $18 (in violet only). Antonio Melani “Kay” Knit Top
If you’ve recently seen a great work piece you’d like to recommend to the readers, please e-mail [email protected] with “TPS” in the subject line. Unless you ask otherwise, we’ll refer to you by your first initial.
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Coffee Break: Bruno Magli Contursi Pump

Bruno Magli Contursi PumpOooh — great basic black pump from Bruno Magli on sale at Endless.  Classic, with positive reviews — the leather looks particularly supple to us.  They were $325, now $190, available at Endless.  Bruno Magli Women’s Contursi Pump,Black

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