Coffee Break: Round Sunglasses
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Most of my sunglasses are black with the darkest lenses possible — but I always appreciate having an option for sunglasses with a lighter lens, like this cute pair from J.Crew Factory.
The lighter lens is great on days when it isn't quite sunny but you're somehow still squinting — and am I the only one who gets a childlike excitement from looking at the world through an unusual-to-me colored lens?
(There's actually a whole theory that some eyes react better to specific wavelengths — it's really fascinating! It can even cause dyslexia-like problems for reading. Your ophthalmologist will have more information if you're curious; you do need more specific lenses than the ones at JCF unfortunately.)
ANYHOO: I like these sunglasses, and for less than $20 the price looks about right. J.Crew Factory in general is having major, deep sales, with an extra 70% off the sale section.
What is your favorite source for budget sunglasses, readers?
Sales of note for 7/25/25:
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- Ann Taylor – 25% off your purchase, including new arrivals + up to 60% off sale
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- Eloquii – $19+ select styles + extra 45% off all sale
- J.Crew – Up to 40% off select cashmere + up to 50% off summer styles + up to 70% off all sale styles
- J.Crew Factory – Extra 60% off cashmere + extra 15% off $100+ and extra 20% off $125+
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- Talbots – Extra 60% off marked down pants, jeans, shorts and more, and extra 50% off all other markdowns
Did anyone read the NYT article on ‘mankeeping’ today? Curious to hear people’s views and experience.
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/well/family/mankeeping-definition.html?unlocked_article_code=1.Z08.2bbw.Br4aAHQAZD9d&smid=url-share (gift link)
I have some of these issues with DH, and its really difficult. I wish it was more common for men to not only discuss emotions but also more generally what goes on in their lives. I know many of the issues we have in our relationship, with the kids, etc. is normal because I know my friends are going through the same things. Whereas he sees small issues as huge problems because he has so little context for them beyond our home.
This is tough! When I met my husband he had a good group of male friends that he saw regularly, but for one reason and another the group has disbanded. That, combined with a not-altogether-voluntary retirement, has left him a bit adrift and yep, I’m here to pick up a lot of the slack. As they say, it’s a dirty job but somebody has to do it…
When we moved for me to attend grad school, my husband didn’t make any new friends. It’s been almost a decade. I’ve barely made any either (and the pandemic, which we had to take very seriously for health reasons, is only partially to blame), but I had more older friends to start with. It really troubles me, especially because he’s such a great person. He struggled with not having any local dads to bounce things off of when our son was born, and he did attend a dads meetup but the whole group fizzled out.
I’ve definitely seen this when dating. Once we start talking about deeper topics, or even things like issues at work, its clear that they don’t have anyone else they talk to about these things. Maybe if he has a sibling that could help – sister probs more than brother.
This is why I’ve basically stopped dating.
I see this as a non problem. My husband and I are best friends and talk about everything. We both have other friends too but are closest to each other.
If you both have other friends it seems like this doesn’t apply to you. Great!
+1. But I think it can be rare for it to be balanced (and haven’t had that in previous relationships). If I’m being honest I actually might rely on my husband more than he relies on me.
My husband has a few good guy friends he sees a couple times a month. Day to day though he does rely on me a lot. He is more of an extrovert and has a boring WFH job while I have an overstimulating office job. We also have a very chatty kid! I try to remember how great a listener my husband is when I have a real problem and try to be there for him. I have also had to explain that I need recharging time like going in the bedroom at 8 pm and reading quietly some nights (like 1-2x a week). He gets it – that I don’t always thrive off other humans around even ones I love.
I took to looooong walks twice a day during covid lockdown to get away from my husband talking at me while I was simultaneously on Zoom calls constantly. Thank goodness he’s back to in office work.
This is interesting and, for me, ties into the who do you share your location with question. I think my H has access to my location in only one app and that is when I am actually using the app. H has also many times told me that we are best friends and should not need to talk with anyone else about important things. I have a few people in my life that I have cultivated over the past few years that I would now feel comfortable talking with, but he has none and has made it clear that I should not talk with anyone other than him.
Clingy, isolating, and controlling is what it feels like to me.
Oh wow. This is not okay. Just validating that I think your instincts are right on.
Yikes. It feels that way because it is. I am sincerely wishing you luck on digging out of that scenario.
certainly sounds controlling, maybe due to insecurity. Not as an excuse but perhaps if he worked on his insecurities the need for control could be manageable.
Regardless of the cause, that is so much pressure to put on a single relationship!
Divorce exists!
I had a relationship like this and it was kind of toxic for me. Part of what’s nice about having other friends to vent to is they can also tell you when you’re overreacting or maybe should do something different. My ex considered it a sort of betrayal to discuss our relationship with his friends – he did have them – and it was too bad for him ultimately. He was shocked when we broke up and didn’t see it coming when they could have all probably told him I wasn’t happy and maybe he could have done something about it.
Thank god my husband took up league sports and is the organizer for our town – it gives him an outlet for his extroversion and lots of people from different age groups/backgrounds to chat with. My introverted kid and I both kind of look forward to the quiet of Dad’s sports nights out….
Oddly enough, this is why I’ve also grown to love my husband’s online video game guild. Used to not understand it until the night one of them had a death in the family and they all dropped everything to chat about nothing, wander around aimless in their game and drink with him (virtually). Few of them have met in real life, but they’ve all been there for each other.
That makes total sense. I’m also grateful that he only took this up when our kids were much older and didn’t dump childcare on me for an entire weekend (side-eyeing all the golf husbands who will vanish from 8am-4pm on weekends).
The “wander around aimlessly in their game” is really getting to me. That’s so sweet and personal.
My husband has a gaming group like this. He hands out with people from all over the globe, and hearing their accounts of daily life in places like Korea during the pandemic and Ukraine during the initial Russian offensive has been enlightening and rather interesting.
My online video game guild had Thanksgiving together once! (we were, perhaps surprisingly, pretty evenly split between guys and girls, too). It was actually a year or two after we had mostly quit playing the game, too. If you spend a ton of time playing a game with people that involves a chat function, you actually get to know them reasonably well.
I am thankful that DH has a good group of friends to hang out with. It’s not like they have deep conversations during every hangout, but they can at least get a reality check for each other. And they are absolutely there for each other when sh!t hits the fan.
I’m glad. I know I’m DH’s BFF and he’s still going to talk to me before anyone else, but I would have a hard time with all emotional things falling to me, especially since I tend to get the brunt of our kids’ emotional angst.
My husband and I are each other’s biggest support system. He is my first call with good or bad news, and if I am having an emergency of any kind, I know without a doubt he will come running to me.
However, we have been together for 20 years. We met in high school (didn’t start dating until after college). But we both had friend groups from different points in our lives, and continue to have separate friends from work, sports, hobbies, etc. I vent with my attorney-friends about work stuff, my mom friends about mom stuff, and a group that kind of overlaps. He has his own work friends that he vents to about work stuff. He and one friend meet every Saturday morning for breakfast while me and our teenagers sleep in haha. I think I will always be his biggest support system, but I am glad he has other people to talk about his different interests with too (like sports, haha I am just not that interested.)
Yes and it makes me so happy to be single
I’m the one that nudges our social calendar and travel plans along, so I just remind him to reach out to a friend or his family to do something with them every week. I don’t mind the labor because he does so much for us.
PSA: Do not use PayPal for transactions in foreign currencies, because they charge you a conversion fee and their exchange rate is probably awful, too. I thought I was being smart because I used my no-transaction-fee card within PayPal, but I was foiled. Grrr!
I learned this the hard way too. Sorry!
Having trouble deciding between two apartments. Both tick all of my boxes (private outdoor space, washer/dryer, dishwasher, bigger kitchen than I currently have). Both are decently close (10-15 mins walk) to friends* and bars and restaurants and public transit options (though different lines). The cost difference in the two apartments is negligible and essentially what I’m paying now. Both neighborhoods are ones om familiar with and like, but have never lived in before.
Apt A: downtown location (exact area is a little sleepy but it’s near a lot). 4 blocks from work (I’m in person 5 days a week). Same block as a full grocery store, a CVS, and a nice park. Only a handful of restaurants (it feels a little sleepy), but 5 blocks away from tons of restaurants, bars, and museums. A 1 bedroom with 4 closets (2 walk in). In a building with doormen and a gym. I’ve never lived in a building before, but having a gym and secure packages would be nice. Could also rent a parking spot in the building, while I don’t drive to work I do drive to hobbies several times a week April – October. Location is also easier access to my hobbies.
Apt B: A little further from friends, but a “cooler” neighborhood with lots of restaurants and coffee shops and a bodega right outside my door. However, it’s not downtown and the 1 other time I didn’t live downtown I missed it. 10 min walk to grocery store and CVS. 20-30 min commute via public transit to work. A row home with 2 bedrooms + an unfinished basement for storage, but less closet space. I would make a home gym in the basement. No parking, either street parking (hit or miss) or renting a space a few blocks away. Not near a green space, but a pretty big patio.
I used to host often (1-2 bigger parties a year, lots of smaller get togethers) but my current place is not well laid out for that. I also host out of town friends overnight a few times a year. Hobbies are lots of active, outdoor hobbies that require my car (going out to eat, get drinks, or do stuff with friends; and crafting/reading/exercising at home.
I really had it in my mind that I wanted a 2nd bedroom and something that felt “more adult” than where I’m living now. But, does adult mean a house or something in a high rise with way nicer finishes than I’ve had before – I know only I can decide this and yet I’m stuck.
Friends’ location is hard to pin down; I’m in my 30s so some friends are buying houses in the burbs, others are still in the city but leaving the core downtown area for more space. Some are living their best downtown SATC lives and don’t ever want to settle down.
I have ADHD and really struggle with clutter control. My current place has lots of storage but it’s not functional to me. As a result I have stuff everywhere and it stresses me out so badly.
Finally, I keep myself very busy between lots of work travel, a busy social life, dating, and hobbies. I like my home stuff (cleaning, maintenance, storage for clutter control, easy meal prepping and meal storage) to be as low maintenance as possible so that I can spend time doing things I enjoy doing.
All this to say, wise internet strangers which apartment would you choose?
I would say A, no contest. “Sleepy” seems like a positive to me – I want it quieter near my home, especially since you can be in a more bustling area 5 blocks away. Proximity to the grocery store seems like a big plus, too.
Since you are prone to clutter, the extra bedroom and basement of B could be a con. And this way someone else maintains the gym equipment.
+1 to A. I see no compelling reason to pick apartment B.
+1 A
4 blocks from work is a huge plus.
To me that’s a huge negative, I’d feel like I never left the office. Part of living in a city is getting to be in the neighborhoods and not right downtown.
Agreed!
I would go for 1. Doorman would be awesome for taking deliveries, plus the short walking commute would seal the deal for me. I’d hate to give up the second bedroom but the tradeoff would be worth it to me.
A. Your day to day life sounds waaaaay closer to what A offers. Don’t let what you imagine you SHOULD want interfere with what you ACTUALLY want.
Apartment A sounds better overall, but as someone with outdoor hobbies and nowhere to store my gear (mountain bike is in the living room and skis are in the shower stall,) I would look seriously at that basement space in B.
Basement may not be practical for storing equipment, fwiw. Having lived in both types of properties in Philly, it’s a LOT easier to roll a bike out of an extra walk-in closet in an apartment than it is to wrangle a bike frame out of a historic – and as such, often super narrow, steep, and or twisty – stairwell.
lol, I wish I had ever in my life had a closet that was large enough to fit a mountain bike in.
Ha – I want both skis and a mountain bike but don’t have them because of storage! But also now that I’m in the office full time I don’t ski as much.
I do have a road bike and I just can’t justify a second bike in an apartment. So I only go mountain biking on occasion when I can go with a friend and borrow her wife’s bike.
Luckily my other hobbies (trail running, rowing, and soccer) are low equipment!
Keep in mind that many apartment buildings have a bike room. Definitely ask if that’s an option.
If you’re in the office 5x a week, I’d take the short commute.
In addition to saving almost an hour a day commuting, you’re also saving money by not paying for public transit.
For me, the one with a shorter commute would win out over any other criteria.
B – I live in that neighborhood in my major city and far prefer it to living downtown. Plus an extra bedroom is a no brainer.
Apt A for sure. Parking your car a few blocks away gets old fast, especially if your hobbies require bulky equipment. Being able to run errands within one block is a huge convenience. If you live alone it’s so nice having a doorman who can hold onto a spare key and grab packages. The extra bedroom sounds great in theory but mine turned into a second closet and glorified junk drawer.
+1. Street parking is the devil.
A. By so much
Reading the way you described it, I think you’ll be happier with A, unless you’re really looking to shake up your life/hobbies/routines. (Myself, I would prefer B without question, but I go camping 6-8 times a year and hike virtually every weekend, so that basement would be a huge boon for my outdoor gear.)
A unless that five block walk to entertainment stuff would be unsafe at night.
Married, two driving teens, elderly parents. Find my friend is much less invasive for Life 360 (have used on trip abroad though, but not otherwise). Glad parents aren’t driving any more, but they have broken down and have tried to figure out Uber (I would up ordering rides for them and it was nice to locate them and see that they had been picked up).
Dang — it IS a Monday. Meant to put this on the other post.
I use Find my Friend and can’t understand why people feel the need for Life 360.
Life 360 appears to be popular among parents who want to keep tabs on their teens, as it provides more information than just location. And I suppose it has a place – although I really wish they would stop when their kids start college.
Semi hypothetical. Does the concept of attractive nuisance apply to packages/mail? I have an art hobby which uses caustic chemicals. My main supplier ships USPS. Today I got a package delivered and I literally ran home because I immediately thought a porch pirate would accidentally inhale my chemicals without reading the many warning labels. Crisis averted though the package was not stolen.
I think that this deals more with “fun” things like swimming pools.
What?
I think porch pirates take small easy to steal packages, not (what I’m assuming is) heavy chemicals in a bulky box.
The boxes are pretty small, chemicals come in 1-5 lb bags because they’re powders.
Am I a terrible person for thinking it is fine for thieves to encounter the consequences of being a thief?
Yeah, same. This is not something I would worry about. Don’t f-inf steal.
So you ran home because you thought someone would steal your stuff (a criminal act), make them self sick with it in the face of warnings, and that would some how leave you with liability?
This was not a crisis and no, this is not what an attractive nuisance is. An attractive nuisance is a thing or condition on your property that can pose a danger but which is also likely to attract children who could be injured by that danger. Children cannot assess risk and aren’t charged with knowledge of the risk like adults are. Adults know better than to go onto someone else’s property and go into their pool, even if they can’t swim, but children do not reliably know this. It’s a tort law concept– property owners have a duty not to maintain a dangerous and attractive condition on their property without taking adequate precautions.
Sometimes there’s no enforcement, though – see lack of charges for Trigg Kiser’s father despite pretty clear negligence.
What does this have to do with what I said? I just googled this and this doesn’t even involve attractive nuisance.
I was responding to your point about there being a duty – which is worthless without enforcement IMO.
The enforcement mechanism for attractive nuisance is a lawsuit, not like a city official giving you a citation.
The duty a parent owes to their child is entirely separate from the duty at issue in attractive nuisance cases.
That the law is not always enforced is irrelevant to what I said. And, as another poster mentioned below, attractive nuisance is a tort law theory that can give rise to civil liability – i.e., the injured person can sue you. Criminal charges for child neglect are brought by the state.
And I think punishing parents for tragic accidents is cruel and unnecessary. What good will it do? And how far do with go with negligence? It was the mom who didn’t want a fence because it wasn’t her aesthetic.
It’s not an unpredictable accident if someone repeatedly refuses to obey the law, which requires fencing around pools in homes with children, despite being well aware of that obligation and the risk. It’s like driving without a seatbelt at 100 mph – something incredibly stupid and predictable in its outcome. The outcome for the child was tragic, but it wasn’t unstoppable.
Umm, it wasn’t really an accident if it’s a reasonably-forseeable response to an action taken or not taken by the parents, is it? (“the aesthetic”? Come on. . . ) I get that punishing parents for accidents feels cruel, but sometimes it’s the only deterrent we have.
To me, there is a huge difference between a parent accidentally leaving a child in a hot car after getting no sleep for three days and a parent choosing to regularly leave a child in a hot car while they run in for Starbucks each day because it’s more convenient that way. The same is true for drowning scenarios; a child slipping out past three doors and scaling a pool fence at 2 am is a tragic accident. A child running outside during the day to an uncovered pool while under a parent’s care is negligence.
I believe they were in compliance with the law…their state did not require a separate fence around the pool, the regular backyard fence sufficed, as they had a special cover instead. The cover was off because they had been swimming. So while they were careless, I don’t know that it rises to negligence (I know there’s a legal definition)
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For those of you who write letters, who do you write to? I have a love for stationery and yet feel that I have no one to write to as my parents and older (largely female) relatives have died. I send a Christmas card, but it’s just texting, even with college friends who wrote to each other back when phone calls were expensive and we had time for writing. I also miss getting mail. I guess the boxes of stationery are making me feel unconnected and missing human connections in a tangible way. I love a text also, but stationery is so pretty to use.
I have one friend that I started exchanging letters with in early Covid days and he was outside of my bubble. We’re taking it up again since he moved abroad and thought it’d be fun to do some international letter writing.
My close friend group will occasionally send cards as well (either thank yous or thinking of yous), even though we see each other literally once a week. Sometimes it’s just fun to drop a random note in the mail that says i love you.
I have one friend with whom I exchange letters only. And we both love it. Each of us probably writes 2 letters per month.
I don’t have my own kids, but one of my friend’s kids is my pen pal. He’s in 4th grade. He’s a bit less reliable and certainly prefers to receive mail than to send it, but he knows he has to keep sending mail for me to write back. I probably write 2-3 letters for every 1 that he does.
I mail 10 or so birthday cards each year to people who I could easily text. Usually people are quite excited to receive them, and I get enthusiastic responses. However the response is almost always via text. It works for me to basically be the bringer of joy, but if I expected reciprocity it would be disappointing. So ymmv!
If you have relatives in college or any kids (elementary-early middle school age), they might be a great audience. Receiving mail is so special, and even if college kids are texters, it might be nice for them to receive mail. And pre-high school kids might be encouraged to write back!
I use my nice stationery for thank you notes for dinners, gifts, etc. Also I can’t think of a single person on the planet who wouldn’t be delighted to receive an occasional handwritten note in the mail — so just do it for no reason!
Moving recently has uncovered quite the postcard collection. I sent a postcard every day to my kid at camp (and also sent the email through the camp administration). Also with my nicer stationery — my other son’s teacher wanted “encouragement notes” each day of standardized testing. I wrote 1 for each day of testing to my child and 1 each day of testing to a random child who did not get cards from their grownup.
I am excited to write short letters to friends and tell them about my new house!
I write letters to my nieces. They are in elementary school. When they were younger, we would send hand-drawn pictures back and forth. Now that they are learning to read and write, we send letters. I love it!
I am also a criminal defense attorney and most of my clients are incarcerated and so I send letters to them. I don’t use fancy stationary though and I type my letters. But they hand write them and I send handwritten notes at Christmas since our prisons no longer allow cards.
Where are you buying your pretty stationary?
Are there any truly comfy fashion sneakers? Or do my tired high arch feet just need to be in Hokas? Casual office and I was looking forward to wearing cute sneakers to work but even my faux Rothys are more comfy.
Why don’t you put insoles into fashion sneakers?
+1
superfeet green are teh solution to your problems.
They’re over $50!
They also last years.
I also find Naturalizer Morrison to be super-comfy and I don’t put my superfeet green in them, but in all my running shoes, this high arch gal uses SF Green.
Seriously- they’d be cheap at twice the price.
That’s $350 cheaper than my custom orthos from the podiatrist that are barely covered by insurance – and I put them into fashion sneakers. And they last years
I don’t get the hype about Hokas. Mine have fallen apart in less than a year and they’re priced into the stratosphere.
And – not cute.
I’d shop with a plan to put your own insoles in.
Golden Goose are the most comfortable shoes I’ve ever worn.
GG’s are deceptively comfy for me if that’s your style. At that price point, I also find the Gucci sneakers are pretty comfy (did a whole day at Disney in them). You could also try the Nike low dunks which come in tons of fun (and not so out-there) colors.
If you want a non-500 version, try Naturalizer Morrison. They’re very pillowy but supportive.
Yes! I have these and have worn them to the office too.
I need good arch support and I hated Hokas! I like my Birkenstock sneakers and I just got a pair of Adidas Handball Spezial which have a ton of arch support.
The closest I’ve gotten is a pair of New Balance 574s. But really, if I’m doing a ton of walking, I want my very cushy Brooks Ghost runners. (Also have high arches and find most fashion sneakers to be abysmal in terms of comfort and support.)
I have high arches and removed the Kizik (don’t know if that they count as fashion sneakers) insoles and replaced them and now I can walk for miles. Getting good insoles is the key.
I just ordered another pair of Cariumas after walking my first pair into the ground (lots of dog walking, so I wasn’t surprised/annoyed about the original pair wearing out, they got plenty of mileage). They come with really nice insoles and are more fashiony than a running shoe. Plus the canvas kind are machine washable!
My feet really like Adidas court shoes. It took me ordering & returning just about everything in my size from Zappos to figure this out. I thought I wanted Cole Haan zero grands like most of my office, but they felt like wearing shoeboxes. No amount of insole would fix that.
I suggest trying on a bunch of different options to find a brand and style that works for you.
I found the Dolce Vita Notice Sneakers comfortable. I have also put insoles into Vejas.
Interviewing for two jobs. Job A is through a retained search recruiter (who I’ve known forever and have a great relationship with) and Job B is direct with the hiring manager and their HR person.
I don’t know which job I’d prefer. Major pros and cons of each, and theyre super different, but the reality is I dont have either yet. Job A hiring manager has said they want to hire me but are required to run a search for “benchmarking.” Job B hiring manager just told me there’s one person to talk to but, from the hiring manager’s mouth, “I promise this isn’t a waste of time.”
Job A recruiter knows about the Job B process in concept and asked me to tell her if things speed up so she can take that in to account on their process. I don’t have an offer from Job B but body language is strong. I know that nothing’s done until it’s done, but should I be telling Job A recruiter about where things stand with Job B? Do I save that for if/when I get a formal offer? How do I navigate this…. TIA!
Unclear post…. Job B hiring manager told me there’s one MORE person to interview with, but it’s not a waste of time.
You tell Job B that you’ve got an offer, but you’re extremely interested in them because of (reasons). Ask if there’s any way to expedite their process.
You ask Job A for a written offer and a few days to think about it in the mean times.
And do not turn down offer A on the assurances of the hiring manager for B.
She doesn’t have an offer at all from either company.
You don’t know where things stand or have any news to share
If it was a done deal at Job B, you wouldn’t have to talk to the final person. Breathe in, breathe out. There’s nothing to do right now.
I know it’s not a done deal. Very aware. Just unsure at what point I update Job A to try to motivate them to speed up . Sounds like that should only happen once I have an offer from B. A has been slow so was hoping to give them some form of heads up to get moving but sounds like that not appropriate until I have a legit offer.
FWIW, I already had that last interview on Friday. It was a causal conversation at most. Hoping to have an update by mid this week. Eeeep.
I was interviewing at two companies. I told the recruiter at the first company that I had a final interview scheduled on a certain date and that the first company was my top choice and I was letting them know in hopes the timing worked out. The recruiter didn’t respond. Later, after I received an offer from the second company, I told the first, and they responded immediately and expedited their process and gave me an offer a few days later. It’s ok to keep parties informed, if you are tactful.
I’d love a recommendation for a really good red lip stain. I have decided I’d like to do minimal makeup and make a red lip the focal point. The stain part is important because I’d like not to have to reapply constantly. Even better if you can recommend a cool toned red. Thank you!
Unless you have smooth plump lips this will not look good
What a weird comment
Lip stain settling into lines is a very ageing look. It’s not cute.
This is OP. Thanks for your concern (and unsolicited feedback) which I’m sure was offered with nothing but kindness. This is not an issue for me.
It’s not weird (du mb call out) I’ve had the same experience and wasted 20 dollars. It’s called relaying experience.
Stilla Beso is what AOC uses and Sephora has an in-house version
Good to know. Thank you!
I’ve stopped using Benefit’s because it doesn’t get great EWG scores, but if that’s not something that bothers you it’s by far the best I’ve found.
Hear me out–because I know it’s expensive. But someone recommended Chanel duo to me, and I will never wear a red in anything else. It’s staying power is amazing while still being really comfortable on the lip. You apply the creamy stain, let it dry and then paint with a clear gloss. Doesn’t budge and doesn’t look glossy or feel overly sticky (or dry) and doesn’t settle into lip texture. Seriously GOAT lip product and worth every penny.
This is OP. If this is the GOAT I am happy to shell out the $. I had a long wearing Chanel lipstick that was discontinued and I will look into this.
It finally happened, I’ve run into an IRL Chadwick! (well, on an invite list for an event). Thankfully I was on mute when the name came up for discussion as I fully snort laughed during the call.
My super-fancy private school near LA was called that, and it makes me snort to know that it’s our “Todd” name here.
Plenty of names are fine for schools but not people, lol.
But Chadwick just makes me think of Chadwick Boseman so to be honest I’ve never really gotten the association with obnoxious white bros. The more generic Chad makes more sense to me for this stereotype.
Relative supervisor OP here. Thank you all for the responses on the morning thread. I have been seriously job searching for a year and four months. Nothing yet. It’s never taken me this long to find a new role, so I originally didn’t take the situation seriously enough thinking I’l be out of here soon and it will resolve itself. But now I am really scared. And under so much strain. I’m still in the pressure cooker environment that led to the bad decision not to disclose the family relationship to begin with and now under additional pressure because this person erratically doing a bad job affects me at unpredictable times. I need him on the team until I can find a way to replace his niche skillset, which I haven’t had the time or enough system permissions to learn myself. He has delegated some of it but I don’t even have a good understanding of the full scope. Given this, the best advice seems to be a demotion. I’ve had performance conversations with him and he’s acknowledged the issues with some general improvement but obviously not enough. I think he will be receptive to the demotion idea, and maybe even relieved. Has anyone done this before? I’m in the middle of another reorg, so I can swing a lower-rung IC position specializing in the niche subject. I think it will be questioned why someone seen as a rising leader (he has good presence and is intelligent) wants to take a step back.
You all are right that the family consideration might be a red herring and shouldn’t stand in the way of standard management and I’m of the same opinion 80% of the day. Occasionally, I can’t help thinking 10 years down the line, when we have no work relationship but have to collaborate to make difficult end-of-life decisions, I don’t want this episode to influence what is bound to be a very hard season of life for all involved. Which is exactly why you shouldn’t supervise your relatives since it inevitably creates a conflict of interest, for all the youngins reading. Learn from this dumb old manager.
You sound pretty overwhelmed by stress. I hope this situation resolves with minimal agony (and no job loss!) for you and your relative. Please take care of yourself and try to give yourself some grace. Even if your worst fears come true you need to be on your own side moving forward. Everything will be so much harder if you are hating on yourself.
+1. You’re figuring out a difficult situation, and you deserve grace and patience while you do it. No need for self-flagellation — you’re dealing with something tough with clear eyes, and that’s not easy to do, nor is it all that common.