Threadjacks of Interest

Readers have a zillion great conversations on the blog. You can always search the site (comments are searchable), but some of the ones we've featured in our sidebar include the ones below. (Curious for more mom-related content? Check out the Threadjacks of Interest page at our sister site, CorporetteMoms!) 

The Very Latest Threadjacks of Interest

Some of our latest threadjacks include:

June 2024

May 2023

March and April 2023

February 2023

January 2023

December 2022

November 2022

October 2022

September 2022

August 2022

– what should I do in Miami if I'm not a party person?

– I struggle with having work still undone work, even on weekends – do you have any tips?

– How do you keep track of to-dos and lists if you're not at your desk 40 hours a week?

– I'm 43 and feel like so many doors are closed to me now…

– I need 2-3 light blouses or sweaters for fall – where should I look?

– What color blazers are the most versatile, other than black?

July 2022

– How did you decide whether or not to have kids?

– What are your favorite loafers for work?

– Opinions on virtual baby showers that just collect gift money?

– I gave notice and my work has dried up — what should I do with my time?

– Would you wear clothing with silver in it to work?

– What should I wear to a casual MBB recruiting event?

– I'm working for someone I can't stand.

– I’ve apparently become too senior in title for the age that I look.

– Team Backpack or Team Tote Bag?

– Should I invest in my career or “invest” in my loved ones?

June 2022

– Are tie-waist dresses appropriate for conservative offices in 2022?

– I thought my long-term boyfriend would propose at dinner in Paris, but he didn’t…

– Are jeans too informal for a “casual attire” summer event?

– I need advice on how to be more adventurous with my outfits.

– Any tips on dealing with serious work-related anxiety?

– How soon is too soon to leave after a promotion?

– Thoughts on “maternity leave” vs. “parental leave”?

– Where can I find a Chanel-like jacket to wear over a dress?

– I’m looking for the Holy Grail of laptop totes.

– What should I wear as a summer associate/clerk?

May 2022

– I'm a divorce lawyer — here's what I wish all my clients did.

– Help, I have no idea what to wear to business casual networking lunches.

– Everyone is quitting because my office went to a hybrid in-office requirement.

– Should I apply for a job I'm not totally qualified for?

– I'm single, 35, no kids, and make over $150K — can I get a Roth IRA? (Should I?) 

– I've been a caregiver for my elderly parent for 2+ years, and am now considering a bereavement leave from my BigLaw job.

– Have you ever had an alternative work schedule like 4-10 or 9-80?

– My grandboss and I don't like each other.

– How should I build my work wardrobe for a business-casual office in academia?

– I'm considering getting surgically sterilized — can you share your experiences with it?

April 2022

– Can I get a primer on nap dresses?

– Any tips for learning corporate speak and executive presence?

– How did you lose (or not lose) weight 1+ year postpartum?

– Does anyone have recommendations for stylish but conservative work dresses if I'm in between sizes?

– Did I do something wrong in this conversation with my husband?

– If you're not comfortable with indoor dining, how do you handle it with work situations?

March 2022

– Anyone experience severe reflux triggered by stress?

– A new hire isn't adapting to the company culture, at all.

– Just found out I’m having a C-section after three vaginal deliveries.

– If you have an autistic child, which school services have been helpful?

– How can I help with suicide prevention?

February 2022

– For those of you in very cyclical jobs, do you feel anxiety when anticipating the busy season?

– I need to work on lowering my cholesterol.

– I need to be better about looking for balance in my life.

– I’m having so much trouble focusing in my new WFH job.

– Any tips for managing an employee who keeps missing deadlines?

– How do I tackle a conversation about “gardening” frequency with my boyfriend?

– Any tips on little things I can do when it all just feels like too much?

– I haven’t been able to fall asleep before 4 a.m. for weeks.

– Do any other WFH people have trouble with basic hygiene during the workweek?

– My career is in the doldrums.

January 2022

– Am I being unreasonable, or is my assistant truly performing subpar?

– We want to relocate but can’t figure out where.

– Are you allowing contact between your baby and unvaccinated kids?

– When referring to your job title, do you say “the” before it?

– Advice for navigating a private home sale?

December 2021

– I am so over trying to navigate different comfort levels associated with COVID.

– My husband is in a highly toxic work environment.

– What are your favorite holiday traditions?

– What are your favorite comfortable, warm outfits for WFH video calls?

– Please help me budget for being a wedding guest!

November 2021

– I'm having an issue with a parent on my kid's soccer team.

– What should I know before leaving my job for another job?

– Favorite decluttering tricks? I can't seem to throw things away.

– I'm stopping hormonal birth control and want to track my natural cycle.

– Any advice on what to expect during a VP interview? What should I ask?

– I am considering a move to Austin, TX, for a new job.

– I feel like my voice has suddenly become much hoarser.

– I’m starting a new job and have no idea what to wear on my first day.

– Public service employees: How do you hang in?

– I’ve been asked to give a presentation as part of a job interview.

– I'm looking for advice on setting my hourly rate for a side project.

– Tell me about interviewing, working with, or knowing of any deaf/HoH/blind/speech-impaired coworkers.

– Does anyone have MBA advice?

– Where should I stay for a quick solo trip?

October 2021

– Does anyone have tips for dealing with a very stubborn child?

– Does anyone feel like even their best is not good enough?

– I find myself yawning when tired during video calls.

– Any good suggestions for learning how to be more accepting and patient of people with different beliefs?

– I’m in a new job and I lowballed myself.

September 2021

– I’m looking for quick-but-healthy recipes.

– How do I know if my company is tracking me?

– Where do you all find in-house jobs?

– Can I wear sheer black tights with a dress?

– I cried in front of my supervisor over something incredibly minor.

August 2021

– For those with light eyebrows, how do you groom them from day to day?

– I will be managing two difficult-to-manage employees.

– Thoughts on law school debt with a lower-paying job?

– I can’t get over the fact that my husband cheated, even though he’s changed.

– Looking for ideas on how to proactively encourage my team at a time like this.

July 2021

– Should planned parental leave influence career development opportunities?

– How do I deal with my anxiety about my job before I can quit?

– Since my daughter was born my texture sensitivity has gotten almost unbearable.

– Migraine people — talk to me about ADA accommodations.

– I am realizing that my lack of confidence and insecurity is a problem.

June 2021

– I’m happily married to a man but I’m also attracted to women.

– I’m going to a golf tournament for work. What should I wear?

– Did any of you decide to freeze your eggs?

– My kids’ camp is providing lunch but it’s not what they eat.

– If you had friends/relatives who were identical twins, how did you tell them apart?

May 2021

– Getting myself and my kid ready in the morning is exhausting.

– What are your favorite ways to look busy when you don’t have much to do at work?

– My boss is letting me try my hand at project management.

– Ideas for lunch that don't have sandwich meat or sun butter, are nut-free, and do not need microwaving?

– I’ve realized I don’t have a lot of friends, and it’s making me sad.

April 2021

– I am looking for effective masks that won’t look too “medical.”

– Would you move to a city you don’t particularly like for a job you love?

– Has anyone left a high-paying job as you were nearing the most lucrative years?

– I am so burned out, and I can’t wait for the summer program to be over.

– Fellow performers, any tips for managing stage fright?

– Do you talk about money with your friends?

– My elderly dad is depressed and takes it out on my mom.

– I snack way too much throughout the day.

– I need to improve my morning routine.

– I’m daydreaming about going back to a non-managerial role.

– What should I buy myself for my milestone birthday?

– I’ve only consistently lost weight when I exercise regularly.

– Anyone have a a rec for daily face sunscreen?

– Did you change jobs and weren’t able to bring your clients with you?

– Have you ever given your boss an ultimatum?

– I need a wardrobe refresh for spring and summer.

– How do you feel when someone says your name repeatedly while arguing?

– I’m struggling with my feelings about food and weight gain.

– Looking for any advice on being at a career crossroads.

– I have mixed feelings about my new job.

March 2021

– I need advice or stories on how to lean out.

– I’m so bored at my job.

– How many of you go with a print vs. solid for a swimsuit?

– I have full cleavage when wearing a bra no matter what I buy.

– Recommendations for sunscreen with safe ingredients?

– What is your go-to body-confident affirmation?

– What are your easy/quick, healthy, packable meals?

– How would you break up a ~12-hour drive with young kids?

– Feds in the DMV: Is it easy to get into one of the affiliated daycares?

– What are your tips for people in the “sandwich generation”?

– Someone not doing her job has prevented me from doing mine.

– What makes an area feel “unsafe” for you?

– Looking for resources about how sexist language in the workplace is part of structural misogyny.

– Anyone ever get totally blocked on a single task for work?

– Do you think it has gotten harder to be a woman attorney?

– My 13-year-old wants a new dress to wear to a virtual bat mitzvah.

– Should I stick with skinny jeans?

– Does anyone have tips re out-of-control procrastination?

– Any recommendations for a cost of living adjuster?

– I need tips on being assertive when angry and not getting so frustrated I cry.

– Things are starting to catastrophically fail with WFH in my organization.

– How do you feel about “you guys” in work meetings?

– I am pregnant and can’t work this many hours anymore.

– I think my staffer is gonna quit and I’m screwed.

– I’d like to open a brokerage account for each of my kids.

February 2021

– How have you been successful in setting boundaries from work?

– Do you prefer Slack or email?

– Have you found that your skills are a better fit with certain types of organizations?

– I need advice about a job offer.

– How can I nail it in my final interview?

– I get restless after about 1.5 years in a role.

– I need suggestions for hearty, easy, healthy-ish meals.

– How do I bring up salary early in the application process?

– I think I might have PMDD.

– What system/program/app do you use to keep track of what you delegate to others?

January 2021

– Any advice for starting a new job remotely?

– I told my employer I’m not comfortable traveling internationally now.

– What are your favorite mushroom-less vegetarian recipes?

– Have any of you been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult?

– Please give me your podcast recommendations.

– I need to cut down on scrolling on my phone and increase my reading.

– My assistant left behind a giant disaster behind.

– What meditation apps do you like?

– Should I buy and start building up equity or keep renting and saving cash?

– My body image has been on a downward spiral over the past few months.

December 2020

– I’m struggling at my job and considering leaving.

– How do you deal with a mismatch in leisure time needs between spouses?

– How do I break this cycle of unmotivated days?

– Short-waisted people: Where do you get your dresses and jackets?

– I used to work all the time; now I’m slowing down significantly.

– How can I plan my time off at home?

– Tell me your stories about successfully reinventing your job.

– I need winter shoes. 

– Do you consider yourself intellectual?

– What is your best advice for managing up?

– I’d like to use this locked-down winter to learn some things.

– My relationship with my assistant has severely degraded recently.

– When you make a minor mistake at work or say something stupid in a meeting, what do you do?

– I find myself suddenly outfit-claustrophobic.

– I keep making mistakes at work and forgetting things.

November 2020

– What do you do after work these days?

– What did you do in lockdown round one that worked for you?

– How can I help my stressed-out spouse?

– I never feel rested.

– Talk some sense into me as I’m about to quit my job.

– Should I let my friend know that her resume needs revising?

– I think I am dangerously close to alcoholism.

– An acquaintance from my office building asked me to hang out.

– I just turned 40 and am struggling to feel excited about next year.

– Any tips for making it work in a toxic workplace?

– Does anyone have any ideas for low-cost virtual social events?

– What Christmas couples’ traditions could we start?

– I need a gift idea for an employee. 

– I need Christmas dinner ideas.

– What can I do before bed to tell my body to calm down overnight?

October 2020

– Has anyone lived with their in-laws in a separate unit of their home?

– Home is no longer a sanctuary because I am here ALL THE TIME.

– My last employer has received a very bad write-up in the trade press.

– How are you deciding whether to send kids back to school?

– How do you increase motivation and responsibility in an elementary school kid?

– How are you keeping your mind occupied on anything other than the pandemic/election/etc.?

– We’re all just staying home this winter, right?

– Does anyone have corporate gifts they recommend?

– My law firm culture is suffering from not seeing people for several months.

– Any ideas for safe outdoor socializing this winter?

– Being single is expensive and time-consuming!

– If you’re in consulting (esp. MBB/Big 4), what is your work life like?

– I need to get on the right track with saving, investing, etc.

– I need advice on whether to take this new job.

– What stage of your life do you miss the most?

September 2020

– Should I avoid divorce because of my son?

– What should you do when someone close to you is depressed?

– Looking for book suggestions for my SIL.

– Any tips to stay sleeping on my back?

– What are you considering to protect your property rights if SCOTUS turns 6-3?

– What did you wish you knew as a junior attorney?

– Anyone with health anxiety or partners with health anxiety?

– I want to create a good home office setup.

– How do you deal with physical manifestations of stress when you can’t avoid the stress?

– My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I’m struggling.

– I’m struggling to offload responsibilities I used to handle as an associate.

– How do you become more confident in correcting someone?

– How do you organize your books?

– I need some sort of black dress to wear under blazers.

– What should I buy as a present for a canceled wedding?

August 2020

– I’m struggling to figure out what I’m doing with my life.

– How do I fix myself and be a better partner right now?

– What is your go-to when you really need to unplug?

– If you have someone in your life with anxiety, how do you handle it?

– How long would you wait after starting a new job until TTC?

– I can’t seem to get out of this volunteer commitment.

– Any advice for explaining “no charged” hours with my billing diaries?

– How can I ask COVID-related questions while job-hunting?

– Morning workout tips?

– When is it appropriate to sign up for daycare?

July 2020

– Do you think remote work is here to stay?

– We want to move from our small, urban rowhome to somewhere with more space.

– I’m taking a new job but want to receive my annual bonus.

– When should you refinance a mortgage?

– Is this worth a consult with an employment lawyer?

– I think I’m developing an eating disorder.

– I need some advice on a job search plan.

– I’ve significantly mellowed out over the years, to my detriment.

– WFH has made me realize how dirty we’ve let our home get.

– My boss insists on conference calls that we’re all “depressed working at home.”

June 2020

– Here’s a PSA for anyone looking for plain/casual WFH t-shirts.

– My office isn’t doing much to prevent coronavirus.

– What should a compensation package look like for this position?

– What makes an outfit more polished?

– Should I report my employer for violating reopening regulations?

– I’m worried about my daughter going to college during the pandemic.

– Anyone else get mental blocks about particular tasks for no reason?

– I’m managing projects in areas I have no experience in.

– My friend is judging me for not social distancing.

– Please tell me dating is better outside of NYC.

May 2020

– Anyone else have a fantasy of “normalcy”?

– I have hit the quarantine wall.

– Anyone selling more of their investments these days?

– My office has “reopened” and it sucks.

– Should you take 0% financing if you can pay in full?

– I’m dealing with two potential job offers.

– My husband is having work issues. What should I say?

– I’m in a role where I inherited and manage some messy situations.

– I’m wondering about checking accounts vs. savings.

– My office is having webinars about reentry and what it looks like.

– How do I get started with bike commuting?

– How do you deal with your parents if they do whatever they like during the pandemic?

– I’m divorcing my husband and I’m the breadwinner.

– My boss complained about my overtime.

– I’m pregnant — how can I set “unreachable” times for work?

– Does anyone have suggestions for WFH clothes, particularly pants?

– How is your workplace dealing with employees exposed to COVID-19?

– My Biglaw firm isn’t closing their offices.

– How is everyone handling increased demands right now?

– My partner said I can’t move in with him right now.

April 2020

– How do you deal with a senior associate who dislikes you?

– I decided to go off birth control and see if my body regulates.

– Is it going to be bad to explain a COVID-related resume gap?

– My heart races and I get shaky when I open emails from my boss.

– I need resources for female CFOS and new CFOs.

– I took a quiz to find out my Myers-Briggs personality type.

– I’ve never been let go before and I have no idea what to do next.

– I’m assuming I should hold off on TTC.

– My voice sounds really nasal and lacks intonation on the phone.

– I’m in BigLaw and wondering how to manage up.

– I’m wondering whether I should delay TTC.

– I’m finding it so hard to get work done.

– Is anybody else considering BIG changes when this is over?

– How do I make working from home more ergonomic?

– I’m terrified there won’t be any food at our stores.

– I am really struggling with working from home.

– My job makes me feel like I need to jump ship ASAP.

– I’m not cut out for working from home, particularly with kids.

– My firm is busier than ever — and I’m not OK.

– The discussions yesterday about law firm layoffs have me really worried.

March 2020

– I NEED a break from work, but don’t want to staycation.

– What should I bring from the office to work from home?

– My boss doesn’t like that staff are working from home.

– What are some self-care tips during crazy work periods?

– For those of you in Biglaw, what have your offices said about remote work?

– Teleworking is important to stop the spread of COVID-19, but I’m dreading it.

– I work in an area where there is coronavirus, and I’m not handling it well.

– Should my family move to the Bay Area from our MCOL city?

– How do I fill my time while unemployed?

– I’m the secretary of a nonprofit board, and our chair has dementia.

February 2020

– How do I handle getting a disappointing bonus?

– Has anyone dealt with a narcissistic or insecure boss?

– I am burned out but can’t quit and don’t want to.

– Meetings are killing my productivity.

– I need advice on dealing with a colleague who always drops the ball.

– I’m eating less meat and finding it hard to eat enough protein.

– How do I handle slightly judge-y pride or self-importance about work?

– I’m exhausted thinking about retirement.

– How do you explain to junior associates that law is not a 9-4:30 gig?

– The managing partner wants a “very frank” exit interview “off the record.”

– Readers in VHCOL/HCOL cities, how do you budget?

– I’m looking for weekend getaway recommendations.

– I dread going to work and cry in my office most days.

– I’m worried about my husband’s feelings being the traveling/supporting spouse.

– I made a minor mistake at work and can’t get past it.

January 2020

– Should I try to make partner or leave my firm?

– A partner I’m working with is talking inappropriately about a client.

– Should I say something to my friends about their kids?

– How should I handle my aunt’s memory loss and confusion?

– How can I support my husband, who is depressed?

December 2019

– HR says my raise was in error and I have to pay it back.

– Does anyone work a 9/80 schedule?

– Can I ask for a higher salary if I don’t use the health/dental/FSA?

– Does anyone have advice for resetting your mood?

– Help me learn to deal with my opinionated mom!

– How much of dating and relationships is luck vs. personality? 

– How soon after an interview can I make a feedback inquiry?

– Does anyone else hate choosing a health insurance plan?

– I’m having problems with dependent care FSA reimbursement.

– I’m not OK with how gray I am for my age.

– What’s the difference between needing antidepressants and bootstrapping yourself out of it?

– As a scientist, what should I wear for interviews for tenure-track positions?

– What number should I give during salary negotiations?

– I work in a very male-dominated and conservative field.

– My coworkers made off-color jokes about witnesses and opposing counsel.

– How should I approach a second interview?

November 2019

– How should I email this client about a non-work topic?

– How do I help someone with severe morning sickness?

– What holiday bonuses should I give my employees?

– Where do you shop for “corporate” gifts?

– How should my SO and I discuss sharing expenses?

– How can I support a father who’s depressed and an alcoholic?

– How do I negotiate maternity leave as a new employee?

– My firm has high turnover.

– How did you transition from law to writing?

October 2019

– How do you budget if you’re not big on strict budgeting?

– Does anyone here go to work without makeup?

– What are high-paying jobs that don’t require a lot of experience?

– When I’m worn out, I start losing my words.

– People ask me, “What are you going to do when your boss terms out?”

– How do I ask friends and colleagues for help finding a job?

– Are social clubs beneficial for professional development?

– A devastating performance review completely caught me by surprise.

– My team hired someone with less experience at a higher salary.

– I got fired via phone because of client complaints.

September 2019

– How should I handle 401k contributions with a big bonus?

– Are there basic flash card apps for language learning?

– I’m really anxious about moving and changing jobs.

– A senior associate claims my ideas as hers.

– I am sick of the office kitchenette being disgusting.

– My boss severely micromanages everyone.

– Tips for business development while overwhelmed with billable work?

– My awesome secretary has been written up for BS reasons.

– Advice on whether to stay in Biglaw or go in house?

– People here work from home whenever they want/need to.

– I’d like tips about taking extended medical leave.

– Is this a common phase of the fed-up female’s midlife crisis?

– Should I start job-hunting after four months in my job?

– If you’re 35+ and single, how do you spend your weekends?

– I’m giving notice today, but my boss will react badly.

August 2019

– My firm has a retirement/messaging problem.

– I seem to get bored/impatient with a job after 2-3 years.

– Know of any part-time remote legal work?

– I am reluctant to list my current supervisor as a reference.

– I’ve become someone who complains a lot.

– Do you do chores before work?

– How do I say goodbye to coworkers who are leaving?

– Why should people join service or professional organizations?

– How do you avoid having your life revolve around your kids?

– How have you handled managing more experienced reports?

– I need to organize school papers, etc.

– My coworker is being nosy about my schedule.

– My coworker is planning a badly-timed birthday party.

– What do you do when you hate your job but can’t quit?

– My replacement-to-be is not performing well.

– My boss takes credit for my ideas.

– I’m stuck doing interviews with someone I really dislike.

– My boss is rude and demanding and disrespectful.

– Do most professional men wear black dress pants?

– How do you cope with an extreme busy season?

– Would love comments on this job offer!

– Any recommendations for books, podcasts, or articles about assessing risk?

– With the fed rate drop, are you refinancing?

– Does anyone have family that is very rigid and judgmental?

– Has anyone switched their practice area while pretty senior?

July 2019

– A supervisor called me at home and yelled at me.

– How do you plan for the last 20 years of life if you don’t want kids?

– I need a new checklist app.

– Does your organization have different maternity policies for employee groups?

– I keep comparing myself to a coworker.

– How should I try to get this federal job?

– How do you make it clear that you don’t work weekends?

– How do you get through slow periods at work?

– My stress is starting to show at work.

– Are you friends with your female colleagues?

– Turning 40 is bothering me.

– I keep getting assigned work due while I’m on vacation.

– My salary will be reduced by about 25%.

– Has anyone done a major relocation?

– What work-appropriate fashion blogs do you follow?

June 2019

– I need to tell a senior partner I’ll turn in a project late.

– Are you worried about your student loan debt?

– What are some of your favorite teambuilding activities?

– I am a woman in my late 50s and feel invisible at work.

– Would you ever paint your nails in the office?

– Married folks – how do you split finances?

– My client sexually harassed me.

– I want to switch to a backpack for commuting.

– How do you get out of a slump?

– I want to use my phone less.

– Should I negotiate salary for this offer?

– Should employers allow working from home during a heat wave?

– Any advice for conducting an out-of-state job search?

– What are your favorite office gadgets/knickknacks?

– I need ideas for gifts for members of my team.

– How can I handle fallouts between my partner and her family?

– Pride Month ideas for a professional service firm?

– I am having near-daily panic attacks because of work.

– I’m being held accountable for my boss’s assistant’s mistakes.

– What’s your personal narrative around saving for retirement?

May 2019

– I’m having to fake being productive 8+ hours a day.

– What are your hobbies?

– My office has gone jeans casual for the summer.

– I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me.

– I’m taking my first solo trip this summer.

– My coworkers are being insensitive about an employee’s suicide.

– Speeding/parking tickets and a run for office.

– What is your summer work wardrobe?

– How do you stay warm in office A/C?

– If you went from Biglaw to in-house, how did you find your job?

– Tell me how couples with kids deal with time for hobbies.

– I’m used to wearing jeans — what should I wear for this interview?

– What habits have made a big impact on your daily life?

– Can’t you share your hobbies with your kids?

– Is it okay to not wear a bra at work?

– I need advice for my first day of a new job.

– Do I leave something that’s pretty good for something that could be great?

– My attorney spouse is deciding between two opportunities.

– ‪I hate my job. I hate most people here too.

– We’re having problems with a very angry ex-employee.

April 2019

– My company hired a belligerent conman as a senior exec.

– I need advice on planning a work baby shower.

– Does Skype couples’ therapy exist?

– If you graduated during the recession, how is your career?

– I’m looking for parenting podcasts.

– How do I tell my husband about this surprise pregnancy?

– What’s wrong with having opinions about appearances of people you date?

– Help me dress better with “smart casual” at my new job.

– Parents: How does restricting screen time help?

– My manager can’t seem to decide anything.

– How do I decline a work goodbye lunch?

– Will the “nail art” trend ever die?

– I don’t know whether I want to make partner.

– Parents: Do you have a favorite child?

– I need tips for having an important talk with my spouse.

– I feel SO out of place at some social events.

– I have trouble talking with untalkative people.

– How can I be less judgy?

– I want kids; my boyfriend doesn’t.

– How do you and your SO handle finances?

– Do you tell colleagues when you say nice things about them to their superiors?

– How can I make company polos not hideous?

– I’m required to set my retirement contributions as a percentage of income.

– I’m dating a guy at my friend’s employer.

– I’m trying to figure out what I want for my life.

March 2019

– I think my boss is dealing with mental health issues.

– Should I tell my employer that I’m unhappy?

– I need professional help putting together outfits.

– My unemployed husband was only applying for “stretch” jobs.

– Does anyone feel discouraged about their retirement savings?

– Does anyone follow up on job applications anymore?

– How do you know your career is stagnating?

– Help me think through these job options.

– What are your travel must-haves?

– I am ready to leave my job without anything lined up.

– In-house lawyers: Do I need to change outside counsel or my expectations?

– Tips for dealing with post-illness brain fog?

– Transfer to satellite office or apply elsewhere?

– How should exempt workers handle their schedules?

– Am I overreacting about partners’ handwritten edits?

– Should I disclose my migraines to coworkers?

– What kinds of volunteer work do you do?

– I feel demoralized at work and want to move on.

– How long should I wait post-promotion for a vacation?

– My new employee always stops by to chat.

– Many of my “friends” look down on me for leaving biglaw.

– I’m an underemployed in-house attorney.

– Share your Lent ideas.

– Starting a new job with a bear of a commute soon.

– What are your best interview tips?

– How do you avoid developing confusing accents?

– How often do you wear a traditional suit?

– My abusive ex is my opposing counsel.

– How do you not sound too “nice” in written work?

– I just made partner and I’m burned out.

February 2019

– How do I ask partners for more work?

– How many of you get migraines?

– Should I bid on proposals if I’m leaving?

– My husband needs better boundaries with work.

– Does anyone else not work a lot?

– Offer me your simple wedding advice.

– How much blame do you put on the “other woman/man”?

– I desperately want to find a good guy.

– What to consider with a new job or a promotion?

– Have you used FMLA for depression/anxiety?

– Talk to me about not losing your mind job searching.

– My boss never compliments my work.

– Does anyone track their wardrobe? 

– I need resources for anxiety besides therapy.

– What little things bring you joy at work?

– I feel like everyone thinks I’m ugly, awkward, and stupid.

– Do you believe in the concept of a dream job?

– What’s it like in Jackson, MS?

– I’ve been having intrusive thoughts.

– Advice on low-key anger management?

– I hate preparing work lunches.

– How do you list job titles on your resume?

– How can I support a spouse with anxiety and depression?

– Managers, any thoughts on managing across?

– How would both parents working an 80% schedule work?

– What helps when you’re feeling mildly depressed?

– What diversity initiatives are good for a law firm?

– I have to bring my kids to a conference.

– I need maternity clothes in cusp sizes.

– What would you outsource if money was no object?

– A coworker told HR she felt threatened by me.

– Do you disclose salaries with coworkers?

– My parents failed to plan for retirement.

– My employer isn’t letting us work from home in bad weather.

January 2019

– What should I wear for a casual dress code?

– Would short-term disability cover maternity leave?

– I’m thinking of having an affair.

– My coworker gave a project to someone else.

– How much should I put in an HSA?

– I have a great salary/benefits but my job isn’t fulfilling.

– I’m baffled by decisions made by the leadership team.

– Tips on dressing for big, cold cities?

– I need tote bag recommendations.

– What chores do your kids do?

– While I wait for a new job, I’m considering part time.

– My SO has a lot of debt.

– I got a new job but I’m sad about leaving.

– Should I continue part-time consulting?

– My new job will involve a lot of travel.

– With post-work, active hobbies, when do you eat dinner?

– How can I track New Year’s resolutions during the year?

– How to split travel costs with family?

– What to wear for a final-round interview at a small nonprofit?

– How can I make up for a bad first impression at work?

– I’m kicking myself for not taking today off.

– What work retreat activities are most valuable?

– Advice about not letting field sales reps finish 2 weeks and “walking them out”?

– Good things to do during unplanned time off?

– What are your thoughts on heels vs. flats?

December 2018

– Tips for first meetings with difficult parents of an SO?

– I need to do a 30-min. career day presentation.

– My friendships are struggling from lack of time spent together.

– A reference told me he can’t recommend me for partnership.

– I’m looking for suggestions for my exit interview.

– How did you pay for your grad degree?

– How can I have more fun without compromising work?

– How long does it take to move on from a layoff?

– How do I lose weight in an office with unlimited snacks?

– How many of you have to work 8-hour days not counting breaks?

– Finding a balance between celebrating Christmas and mourning my FIL?

– Our accountant at work always screws things up.

– I need a concise daily news podcast.

– Should I go to law school?

– Advice for expressing unhappiness with late nights?

– How did you meet your spouse?

– How do you plan weekends when you’re dieting?

– I asked for a raise but I’m looking to leave.

– How do you detox from a toxic job before a new one?

– What are your favorite Christmas family traditions?

– Tips for working with a stomach bug?

– I have decision fatigue with what to wear.

– I need advice on giving notice.

– The worst person at my old company is coming to my new one.

– What are your pantry splurges?

– I’m trying to lose 20-25 lbs.

– I’m going from Biglaw to a small, young litigation boutique.

– The nonprofit board I’m on has an odd idea for an ED search.

– What appropriate ring can I wear as a young widow?

November 2018

– My coworker didn’t do her part of a project.

– Who do you purchase holiday gifts for?

– How much do you spend on food?

– My friend only shows up when she has big news.

– Suggestions for books about people with spending problems?

– My boss edits my writing to make it worse.

– Have you driven for a rideshare company?

– What should I do with boxes full of old memories?

– What’s your current workout routine?

– I need recipe suggestions for a work retreat.

– Used to be a lawyer? What do you do now?

– How do you care for yourself when you’re overwhelmed?

– How do you find out if a job is work-from-home friendly?

– Moving from labor and employment to HR: happy with your decision?

– Suggestions for gifting to important referral sources?

– My commute makes me want to quit.

– My in-laws bully me to be a SAHM.

– I’m trying to get used to a Diva Cup.

– I’m unhappy in my marriage.

– Tips for surviving a long car commute?

October 2018

– My job has no chance of upward mobility.

– I have a problem with confidence.

– How do you compare salaries for mid-size firms?

– I have to ask my partner to do his chores.

– How do I determine what makeup/hairstyle/clothes work best?

– What budget categories do you use?

– Ideas for a rare chance to be alone?

– What’s your best life hack or habit?

– I have a difficult time concentrating.

– My husband complains about caring for our dog.

– What are winter wardrobe essentials for work?

– Looking for good experiences as a part-time lawyer.

– My company announced a global restructuring.

– What do you do after work when you’re exhausted?

– The guy I’m dating doesn’t compliment my looks.

– My commute is unsafe.

– I would like to try biking to work.

– How do you wear pants with booties?

– My coworker tells me comments she hears about me.

– How do you know when it’s time to quit a job?

– I recently hooked up with a coworker.

– How do you style cords for a casual office?

– How do I figure what I want?

– I want to go from law to healthcare administration.

– Advice for dealing with a loved one's alcoholism?

– My husband can't deal with toddler behavior.

– Talk to me about working from home.

– Computer screens hurt my eyes.

– My office is freezing!

– Favorite everyday eyeshadow palettes?

– Can I interview in a slightly too-tight suit?

– Do I turn down a job to build my speaking business?

– DH has plunged into a bout of depression.

– I’m dating a new guy but we don’t have interesting conversations.

September 2018

– My partner’s dog is ruining our relationship.

– My friend finds every office to be a bad fit.

– Should I go back to a previous employer?

– How do I adjust to my new job?

– My SO has been calling an old girlfriend.

– Suggestions for a solo beach vacation?

– How do you keep natural nails presentable?

– How important is a full suit for interviews?

– I need a suit for a Very Important Meeting.

– Should I have a separate work cell phone?

– DH needs a more casual wardrobe!

– How do I tell my beloved coworkers I'm quitting?

– Seeking tips for working after kids go to bed.

– BF, a heavy sleeper, and wants me to wake him up.

– I made a big mistake at work.

– Is my work outfit dated?

– How to with someone who ignores deadlines.

– CA and TX law firms vs. NY law firms.

– How do you budget and plan for travel?

– My new legal assistant is not doing a good job.

August 2018

– Male bicyclists yell at me while trying to pass.

– Is it a huge difference to go from 3 to 4 kids?

– What’s do you spend money on that your parents wouldn’t?

– My colleague is out of the office allll the time.

– I recently started a new job and the adjustment has been hard and kind of draining.

– I’ve hired a college student for 20 hours a week. She is going to do daycare dropoff, but I’m trying to think of other things.

– Does starting a new career at 30+ still give a person plenty of time to climb the ladder and start a family?

– Can I get your best tips for working with legal interns?

– I’m a senior associate in Big Law and frankly, I’m tired.

– I work for a nonprofit organization and I feel they’re making unnecessary demands.

– Would appreciate advice on reaching out to an old friend.

– During a phone interview. I asked if they would be open to working from home 1-2 days a week.

– I’m starting a new job where the dress code is still fairly casual but where jeans are forbidden.

– Recently had my review (law firm) and was told that I am doing well but still need to keep improving my time management.

– If anything knocked you off the career ladder, how did you get back on that horse?

– Someone in my office sent an email full of insane things attributed to me that I would never say.

– How do you do your hair for work?

– I am a C-level executive, and I feel I’m being judged for not being as mature, successful, or professional.

– Any suggestions for how to deal with admins that don’t want to be admins?

– My company’s having an org shift, and I’m getting traded for another employee.

– I was just about to tell my boss I'm quitting when he told me someone else quit.

– Could you share type of workplace and parental leave policy?

– Help me look more sophisticated?

– In a job interview, do you think it’s a decent strategy to admit when you aren’t an expert in something?

– How do you reset your sleep cycle?

– Do you ever get surprised when you see people, esp. work people, in their regular lives?

– For the attorneys: What are your feelings about legal aid?

– I like my job but don’t love my practice area.

– I just feel like lying on the couch and watching TV all day instead of job-hunting.

– I’m currently 11.2 weeks pregnant and deciding when to tell my BigLaw job.

– Any advice on how to pivot after being let go from my job?

– How do I get better at picking out errors in my work?

– I’m replacing a more senior person. My start date is not immediately after his departure.

– I’m going back to a firm that gave me an offer — for a second look. What do I wear?

– Please share your stories of doing multiple big life changes at once!

– What are career options in your field that are less tied to being at your desk and in the office?

– I’m having trouble being productive at work without the sense of urgency of my last job.

– Tomorrow, I need to interview as part of a competition to make my promotion permanent.

– When I find out another friend got engaged, I turn into a mess.

– I’m taking my first section of the CPA exam tomorrow and I’m so nervous!

– I’ve been unhappy at my job since we moved to mostly open office space 6 weeks ago.

– Any tips on rebuilding a friend group (or individuals) once you’re past college age?

– Any advice on looking for remote jobs?

– I’m looking to update my weekend style. Do you have any blogs that you like?

– CPA ladies: What do you do, how much do you make, and how do you like it?

July 2018

– I’ve accepted a position (Job A) that I’m excited about, but a few days after accepting, I got an offer to interview for Job B at a federal government agency.

– How do you deal with the loss of a pet at work?

– Did you take time off between leaving your current company and starting at a new company?

– We have a coworker who is notorious for stiffing the person picking up a group gift, etc., after promising to pitch in.

– I am having FOMO because it is so lonely working in an office (BigLaw) — and vicarious FOMO for my children.

– I often have to send around those “Hi Staff, Please don’t do X Stupid thing. Thank you, Management” emails.

– I’m a disorganized person who I force into being slightly organized by treating myself like a preschooler.

– I need a script for a pushy mom who thinks that our good fortune should automatically extend to her.

– Anyone have a favorite “to do” list app?

– I have to watch surgical videos this week with the client while they explain what’s going on and I’m REALLY stressed.

– What do you wear to work when it’s hot outside?

– Is access to birth control at risk now that Kennedy has retired?

– What do you do at work when you are bored?

– Any suggestions for dealing with anxiety in the workplace?

–I don’t know when my boss wants my opinion and when he wants me to do things.

– I’m agonizing about a job choice.

– I had a mentor who would tell all woman law students to consider having children in law school.

– My BigLaw office is doing a casual week this week since the holiday falls awkwardly and many people are out.

– Does anyone have tips for taking impromptu headshots that don’t look terrible?

June 2018

– Does anyone have advice for dealing with insecurity in a new relationship?

– Inexpensive work dress suggestions? My favorite work dress of all time came from Loft a few years back.

– Does anyone have suggestions for fun, lighthearted things I could do when I need a 10-minute distraction to get out of a downward anxiety spiral?

– What is the best advice you could give a first-year law student (and not “don’t go to law school”)?

– Looking for suggestions on how you make paper calendars work in your life when the office runs solely on Outlook.

– DH is working remotely now and has turned into a schlub.

– Any other big law ladies freaking out about when/if other firms will match the salary raises?

– What shoes do people wear for work (with a walk/subway commute) in warm weather rain?

– How to fix feelings of resentment with a partner that doesn’t bring nearly as much as you do to the table?

– Has anyone ever moved to Europe for the medium-to-long term?

– How do you stay motivated in the day-to-day grind?

– How do you verify that an employee is working a full 8 hours if they want to start their day later?

– I need the lowdown on working for a solo practioner.

– I would love a new and more challenging job, but it’s just not the right time.

– I’m moving in-house from Biglaw and I have a 3-month notice period.

May 2018

– What is the maximum pay cut you’re willing to take in order to pursue your “dream job”?

– How do I keep walking to work without showing up like a sweaty mess?

– I’m looking at making a career change in the next 2.5 years or so from law to CPA.

– Do you regularly nap at work?

– Anyone have solutions to a work environment where poor performance is rewarded and pro-active problem solvers are not?

– I returned to work this week, and it is so so so hard leaving my kids.

– If you are participating in a 5K, half marathon, triathlon, etc., do you expect your SO to come support you?

– I’m being bullied my the partner I work for, back-to-back 100-hour weeks while the rest of the group doesn’t seem as busy.

– I received an extremely unexpected and very generous raise. Script for a thank you note?

– Any tips for keeping work from occupying all of your mental energy?

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