Weekend Open Thread
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Happy Friday! These cords from MOTHER look great for fall — and they're on sale!
I may be a bit biased because a few years ago, I had a pair of cords this exact color (from some less auspicious brand, possibly Old Navy)… and I wore them into the ground because it was such a great color. The pants went with black! They went with navy! They went with dark fall colors like purple and green — and I even liked them with Christmas red. As it moved into January I'd pair them with lighter blues and even some pastels if it was a cold spring.
The cut of these cords is definitely trendy — I'm seeing them with lug soled boots for cold weather, and mules, clogs, sneakers, or loafers for less cool weather.
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I didn’t realize flood pants were cool.
Right? Good grief, just no.
THey have been for awhile! I actually think it’s cute when the weather isn’t cold but not practical for winter.
i would have said the same but i feel like the bootcut cords will just be dragging in snow and slush. and i feel like skinny cords are totally out.
Kick crop pants that are a hair longer than capri length look intentional and are somewhat on-trend. These are the worst of all possible worlds.
LOL these are styled terribly. I actually think that I would really like them – I like an ankle length cut right now, mostly barrel or wide leg though. I would never wear them with platform mules though like this is styled; it creates a weird cut in the leg line or something…. I agree with Kat’s suggested lug sole boots, loafers, mules.
This would have been cute if they styled the cords for appropriate fall/winter cords weather – with a high bootie, so no bare skin showing.
A friend invited me to an all-expenses paid trip to their family’s beach house. I live in a northern, landlocked, rural area so a warm beach sounds wonderful. One catch: we have to drive a car across the country to said beach house. For Reasons, we have to leave on a Friday, we would arrive at the beach house Sunday mid-day, and then we would fly back to home state on Wednesday AM. I am a partner and only ever have taken long weekends (Thursday-Sunday, Friday-Monday) off, no one at my firm really takes off a full week unless it’s a honeymoon or baby. I would like to fully mentally check out if I’m at a beach, but I’m not sure if I’ll really be able to ignore emails Monday + Tuesday. Dates and route are 100% locked in. If I don’t go, friend will find someone else to split the driving. I could probably fly there and back but it destroys the purpose of the invite, which is to split the drive (her parents will cover our food, lodging, gas, flights, etc.). What would you do?
Honestly? I would not be working at a place where it was impossible to take a full week off.
Second choice: Take the trip and check email on the theory that emails on a warm beach are better than emails in the office.
Both of these are what I’d do: beach now, new job when I get home.
Spot on. And…the risk of sounding spoiled…I can’t do the beach all day anyway. It’s nice to get out of the sun for a few hours during the midday. So option number two seems nice to me. Plus I kind of love a road trip.
I’m the same way. It’s not really healthy or fun for me to be out in the sun all day so we always build in a mid-day break on beach days. I normally read or watch TV but it wouldn’t be that terrible to have to spend 30-60 minutes reading and responding to work email.
I feel like as a partner you A: have the clout to do it and B: need to start the trend of making it okay to take a week off.
Would I find the drive annoying? Definitely, and make sure the friend is someone you want to be trapped in a car for two days with. But that’s a separate question.
yes, this was my first thought now – if a partner can’t do it, how do you think your associates feel? how do you think that feels for morale? that said i own my own business so i’ve checked email on every vacation i’ve ever been on and it isn’t so horrible.
but my other question would be when this trip is – if it’s mid-november the answer is different than next weekend.
+1 to HSAL. It’s really good if you, as a partner, start the change.
Because you say the facts are locked in, the question is: would you rather deal with emails and calls from the beach or to stay home? Only you can answer that question.
The only point on which you have influence is at your work place. Would the amount of work while at the beach (and it’s urgency) be reduced, thus making the beach option more appealing, if you tell the people you work with what you’re doing so they put forth a bit of extra effort to cover for you? If so, does that sway your decision?
What would *I* do? I hate driving and multi-day road trips are my nightmare so I would never do this.
When I am on a vacation that I want to enjoy with others, but can’t shut off work, I wake up early and do 3 hours of work from 5-8am, an hour from 1-2pm when others are resting/napping after lunch, and an hour after dinner from 9-10pm . That’s usually enough to keep things moving/delegated/etc. that I can check out the rest of the time.
+1 to your second paragraph. This is what I did on many vacations when I was in Biglaw.
This is me, too. That’s what it means to be in a client service industry.
People never take a week off? That’s insane and not sustainable!
Use your position as a partner to change the culture here and take the time off. And/or job search.
that’s unusual for your firm! with effort-vs-reward calculator I would not go on this trip. Like, it’s all expense paid, but… you’re paying.
I would go. You’re splitting the driving, so you can take some of the drive time to check emails (phone or even laptop) on the road.
At the beach house, dedicate one hour on Monday and Tuesday to checking email.
Or… you have an OOO email and designate a talented and reliable senior associate to handle matters in your absence, with instructions to call you if something is on fire.
Not helpful, but I would do this only if I took the Thursday/Friday off as well. I don’t mind a long roadtrip, but I’m a true homebody who really finds relaxation in being at home, so I want a long solid block of time at the end of it at home. Plus going in for a Friday only is the worst.
That said – I probably would check in on emails intermediately (1/day) and only respond to ones on my phone where I thought something was going in the wrong direction that would be very hard to course correct when I got back. I only give direction to direct reports and make it very short/direct, and I do not respond to their normal emails that can wait. Definitely have an out of office set on email and voicemail. You have to know yourself though to know if you can check in without getting totally immersed, and if you can effectively triage emails and then let them go right away.
So I would take more time away from the office, but I would be triaging emails about 1 time a day.
I would take Fri-Wed off without guilt and check emails once or twice a day. Not so you can do actual work during your time off, but so you can be aware of what is happening and can forward messages along to your point person or provide quick responses if absolutely needed. And if you are truly so vital that you feel you cannot check out, schedule one 15 minute call each day with your team so you can respond to their questions and provide direction. Then hit the beach and enjoy.
Can’t take a full week off?! That’s insane. It’s 1 week not 3. I also don’t even understand the problem because you’re not taking a week off in this case even if you’re off the whole time? It’s a Friday to a Wednesday.
I hope this isn’t seen as piling on, but this equity partner is here to tell you that life is too short and you should take the vacation and set a tone on your team that if you work hard, you can play hard too. So even if you don’t go on this one (why don’t you fly and go on your own beach vacation where you want to go?)…take the trip and enjoy yourself.
I got extremely poor customer service recently and the person helping me specifically instructed me to leave a review. (I asked her to take an outfit off a mannequin, and she repeatedly sighed and asked if I couldn’t just order it online – I needed a suit for the next day, so I really couldn’t order online.) I assume the right thing to do is just NOT leave feedback, right? My guess is a bad/mediocre review would hurt a lot more than no review. Is that right?
I don’t know what your goal is.
Hurt who? The clerk? The store? The larger company? Are you yourself swayed by reading one disgruntled review? Are you unable to just let this go and think you will somehow restore cosmic balance if you lash out about being sighed at repeatedly?
Yes, a bad review will hurt way more than no review. Just move along.
My guess is that she isn’t great at her job, has gotten some complaints from customers before, and would like a positive review to show to her manager.
In that situation, I would leave a very constructive review. Focus on, eg, the tension between what must be store policy about taking clothes off mannequins and what your goal was (suit today, needed that particular one).
No do not provide ‘constructive criticism’ to someone paid minimum wage who was just reciting their required script.
Mannequins are shockingly expensive and a real PITA to dress/undress. She definitely could have handled it better, but I don’t think her behavior warrants you putting the effort into a review.
The staffer has probably been told to ask all customers for reviews. Just leave it.
Inspired by the firm above where people so very rarely take a week off… if you work somewhere like this – how? Why?
How do you get work life balance to stay sane?
I did it as an associate because every week you take “off” just means the rest of the year is worse – it’s not like you get billable credit for taking your vacation time. I paid off my loans, socked away experience, then left. Many, many others do the same!
Same. This was my BigLaw experience. There was no work life balance and I was not sane by the end. The question wasn’t how late I’d work each night or whether I’d work on the weekends, it was just how late and how many hours. It was work work balance only.
I worked at the firm for 5 years, paid my debts, and left for a government job that includes separate vacation and sick time. It’s great.
That’s fair re: a few years at BigLaw til you pay off your loans.
I guess my question was to people who have paid their dues. Why stay?!
I feel like this is the kind of thing people really regret on their deathbeds.
100%
I did it for a few years because I knew the experience would probably get me a higher level job at a more humane place. It sucked, but it worked, and I love where I ended up. I’d definitely never go back!
I worked at a firm like this. I made about $300-600k pre-tax as an associate, and I lived on about $80k post-tax (VHCOL, so that was with a roommate initially). I paid off student loans and then invested the rest. I quit after 7 years. My retirement is done. Completely done. I now do something that is wildly different.
I wouldn’t do it for anything that won’t get you done with working in under a decade. But it’s a heck of a way to stack cash if you are reasonably disciplined.
If I made that much money I could fully pay off my house and retire in 4 years. (no healthcare considerations, thanks Canada!)
Yep, exactly. It sucks to never really take a vacation or weekend, but the juice is worth the squeeze.
I’m a partner at a big law firm. I take a week at a time off (usually 4 weeks total per year). I can’t say I completely unplug, but I do generally get a significant mental break.
We encourage our associates to take time off too. They probably don’t take as much time as partners do, but we do (at least on my teams) allow the associates to be more fully “off.”
I did, once, and left for greener pastures. I was young and my boss kept telling me we had to hustle if we ever wanted to make it, but really she was just a toxic workaholic who expected her whole team to be the same. It was always fake fires, deadlines that didn’t mean anything, and poor planning with a vague promise that there were great monetary rewards in store if we just kept it up long enough (this wasn’t a startup, she was just a department lead in an established company). I’m not interested in non-existent carrots so I found better pay and sanity elsewhere. Last I heard she was fired because she drove all the good people away.
That is me. I’ve been in my job for almost 15 years. I did not take a week off until after my 4-year anniversary. And I almost got managed out as a result of being “unavailable” during that period.
My job is what it is. 24/7, year-round. I am in a niche field. Nobody has ever offered me a job that did not entail moving to SF, LA, or NYC. And I don’t want to live in those places, so.
I don’t feel sane. I cry often. I sleep as much as possible on the weekends. I don’t have a partner, or a family, or local friends, or a pet. I bought some houseplants a month ago and most of them are already dead. I do not want to live this way but I don’t have health insurance any other way. In any country with universal healthcare I would have been gone years ago.
Surely you can find a low level job with health insurance that doesn’t have demands like this. It might involve a pay cut but if health insurance is your big obstacle this seems very doable.
+1. There is no industry where there’s only ONE job available.
It doesn’t even have to be the same industry. If you’re just looking for decent health insurance there are lots and lots of jobs.
Continuing in a job that makes you miserable for 15 years without making any effort to change industries or build enough financial cushion to leave is a little crazy.
I have tried to interview for other low level roles. I get suspicious and resentful comments about my current role and how much money I must have made.
I do have significant savings, but here in these United States a single car accident or medical event can bankrupt you.
Something isn’t adding up here. But you need to remind yourself that where you work is a choice – you ALWAYS have a choice, even if none of the options check every box. Is this what you want to choose for yourself?
People will make comments, but that’s not necessarily an obstacle to changing careers.
I went from a stereotypically high-paying industry (law) to a stereotypically low-paying one (higher ed admin), and I got a lot of comments about how much I must have made in the past and some questions about why I wanted to take such a big pay cut, but I answered truthfully-ish (deemphasizing the work-life balance aspect a bit) and got the job.
In reality, mom & pop law firms in college towns don’t pay anywhere near what NYC Big Law does, so while it was a pay cut it was much less than a lot of people were envisioning.
I think you should consider reframing your thinking. You are not a victim of your circumstances, which you are perfectly capable of changing. You have money in savings, but you’re scared to act because of the remote possibility of a major medical event? That’s no way to live. I won’t pretend to know what you need, but I know your life can be better than how you’re describing it.
That seems really bad even in Big Law. I worked at a firm where you couldn’t take *2 weeks* except for a honeymoon but 1 week vacations were standard and normal for all levels. And even then, I took two longer vacations in ~5 years: a 2 week trip for my honeymoon plus another 2 week trip when we knew I knew I was on the way out due to a geographic move for my husband’s job. People weren’t happy about the second trip but they got over it.
When I was a Vice President (not in law) I took a week vacation and just let people know I was checking email exactly twice a day to put out fires and that worked very well. I eventually left that job because it was too much. I cannot imagine being in a job where I couldn’t take a week off. Not sustainable.
I work as a lawyer in TinyLaw and I don’t take a full week vacation anywhere where I can’t check email and do a small amount of work at least twice a day. The truth is that my clients don’t really give a F whether I’m on vacation or not – they just need to get their deals done and are often under time pressure, so they just ignore my out of office messages anyway and assume that I will respond. Heck, they just call or text me on my phone if they need to discuss something with me right away. Why? Well, I love what I do and it provides way more flexibility than an 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. M-F job. I can leave for any appointments during the day, pick up my kids at 3 p.m. to take them to soccer or whatever, and work from home 4 days a week. Also, I get paid a lot of money and I can use that money to fund more trips, pay for pedicures and lunches and fancy coffees, and my kids’ college funds. I feel like my work life balance is better than most, since my job has higher pay and better hours than my friend who is a judge and my friend who works as in-house counsel.
I think this is completely different than not being able to take a week off at all.
This was me until I moved in-house. In litigation, people with client facing roles and case handling responsibility find it hard to be completely out of pocket for more than a few days. I might not have worked more than necessary to review email, respond to anything critical and maybe take a phone call – but except for maternity leave I did not take a complete week off for 20 years. And even 10 hours of billing was one fewer Saturday I had to work to make up the hours from being out. (People who have not lived with a billable hour requirement cannot really appreciate how much of your life revolves around all those .10s).
Firm expectations notwithstanding (and my firm had a written policy that unless you were on leave or in the hospital, any email from a client must be responded to within 24 hours), clients (and in some cases judges) expect 24/7 availability. And when a magistrate judge says “well find her” to my secretary, my secretary is going to find me.
And while I was pretty bitter about the discovery conference from a beach hotel, I mostly did not mind. It bought me flexibility.
I don’t think I ever took more than a week off in my 20s because I simply couldn’t afford a long vacation plus I had barely any PTO until I was about 26 and finally had a well paying corporate job. Even after I was married my husband and I basically went on our honeymoon and then just a long weekend here or there because we were saving up to have kids/buy a house. I mostly take vacations now because I have kids and I’d rather go somewhere during their school breaks vs. sit at home.
When I was an associate I was scared to take too much time off. I was also not that great at billing, so always felt like I was behind and needed to be there to catch up. As I grew and developed neither of those things are the case anymore, and I take the time I want. But the poster above said she was a partner. That was the odd part. As a partner, are you not in control of your own situation?
BigLaw non-equity partner who is hustling to grow my book so I can make equity. I don’t take a week off (fully unplugged – I do go on vacation, I just work on vacation) not because my firm would say “you can’t take a week” but because I’m trying to bill enough, develop my deal teams and increase my client contact so taking time off only hurts me later.
Why? I have four kids in private school and a stay-at-home spouse. And even though I work a lot/don’t get time off, I also hung out at my daughter’s preschool this morning for a bit and didn’t start work until 10, and yesterday I left at 3 to go to my son’s track meet (and logged back on after bedtime). On Tuesday I woke up early to bill but then left in the middle of the day for a doctor’s appointment and lunch with a potential client.
And I didn’t have to ask or tell anyone, I just did it. As long as I respond to emails and answer the phone, I can pretty much go where I want and do what I want on my own schedule. That trade-off is worth it to me.
When I was an associate I did take three fully-unplugged six-month maternity leaves, and honestly would have another baby just for another six-month leave…
is anyone selling stock right now? feels like the market is so crazy high.
No, because trying to time the market is a fool’s errand.
I sold a little stock last week to cash flow a home improvement project. But it was my bad plumbing that led to the timing, not the market.
I don’t explicitly time the market, but I have re-evaluated my risk tolerance and rebalanced my investments. Current conditions do make me nervous, with the way our economy will take some blows in the short term, and the world will shift in the long term. So I rebalance so I can sleep at night.
50% US stocks (mostly index funds)
30% bonds/MMF (mostly bond funds)
20% International stocks (index funds)
This is what’s making me seriously question it. There was an article in the NYT saying to sit tight unless you need to rebalance, in which case this is a fine time. I’m 50 and 91% in stocks… so I should be rebalancing. Lots of funds but 6 figures of stocks for big tech.
Hey doctor avoidant poster reporting back. I went to my appointment today and got some bad news. I don’t even have test results yet but it looks like I’ll need an ob gyn procedure best case scenario. Obviously I hate this. It’s embarrassing and I’m angry at my body.
I got pretty upset, which in my defense I think is understandable, and provider asked if I see a therapist. I don’t but given that my actual nightmares seem to be coming true I’m inclined to take any help i can in getting through the medical procedure on the immediate horizon. Any tips or advice on seeking one out?
Sorry about the news OP. Therapy sounds like a good idea to deal with the roller coaster. Do you have access through EAP at work? Does your medical insurance cover? That might be a place to start.
I’m sorry you got bad news, but this internet stranger is proud of you for following through with your appointment.
Couple ways to find a therapist – you could ask the doc who suggested it for any recommendations. You could also use your insurance’s website to search for providers. Know that it might take a couple tries to find someone you click with, and you can stop seeing someone at any time if it doesn’t seem to be working out.
My ob gyn recommended one in the same building.
Even though it didn’t turn out exactly the way you’d hoped, I’m very glad you went to the doc! I found my fabulous therapist on the Psychology Today web site. You can sort by all kinds of things including insurance coverage, treatment theory, and location.
No advice on finding a therapist but I’m proud of you for going and going forward — I know it’s really scary. And better to have a procedure as the result of an early intervention as opposed to a situation where something was off for months and you put it off and put it off and then it’s stage 4 or emergency or whatever.
Than you. I appreciate the kind words but I’m not out of the woods on that. It really feels like I’m in my own personal nightmare right now. Even the best case scenario involves complete humiliation.
Good for you for going to the doctor! I’m sorry that you’ve gotten bad news. I’m not making any inquiry as to the condition and want to fully respect your implicit request for privacy on that, but whatever the problem is, it is likely that catching it and addressing it now is much better than doing so later. Good on you for seeing that done! And best wishes as you go through the process.
Maybe a fun question – what drugs have you tried, street or scrip?
I remember a friend saying clonapin was so amazing.
I try to avoid everything except for Advil and pot. And Wellbutrin. Never tried Coke, Molly, etc.
I took chemistry in university so I would never ever trust street drugs. A few post docs made drugs in the lab, I never personally tried them but if I was so inclined I would trust them.
Nice try, officer
How do you do fellow kids?
I have always been so curious about trying the brain altering drugs, but I am too scared. I have seen people who have had psychosis or strokes and worse after using an array of substances, and would never take the risk myself. My family also has a history of mental illness so I know these drugs are higher risk for me.
I have used alcohol, which is a nice for lessening anxiety / disinhibition.
When I was very sick from a medical problem, I was given high dose of steroids. They threw me into a hypomanic state. While it was awful because I couldn’t sleep and it caused me to feel anxious and agitated, it was also wonderful. Music sounded so beautiful. I went to a museum and discovered this amazing Spanish artist I had never heard of before and her work moved me to tears immediately. My mind was racing and I could think so fast and finish my writing with incredible insight. Life was just so lush and exciting. Just… WOW. I suddenly understood why there were a strikingly large number of artists who had mental illness. It was like my creative side was just electrified, and part of me wished that could continue.
Hardest drugs I’ve ever done were the IVF stims.
Marijuana is the “hardest” I’ve ever done. No interest in any others.
You’re lucky if you can take drugs electively. I have to be on a bunch of routine meds for the rest of my life due to chronic conditions. Sigh.
Seriously. I’ve also found out after many surgeries that I hate the way almost every painkiller makes me feel (morphine makes me itch like crazy, percocet makes me violently ill, etc.). The last major surgery I had I was on tylenol with codeine for 2 days and then just advil.
I used to take Klonopin daily. I was paralyzingly shy but on Klonopin I was extremely loud and friendly and had no inhibitions. At the time I was a very pretty college girl, so being completely uninhibited felt like a superpower. After stopping taking it, my teeth chattered for months and I was a nervous wreck.
I’m on Zoloft now but slowly weaning off. I’d say, truthfully, if you have severe social anxiety, using substances for a period to work as exposure therapy and rewire how you relate to people can be life-changing. Though if you’re neurotypical I think benzos are absolutely net-negative.
As an ASD girlie who was too pretty for her own good I think Klonopin would have just resulted in even more assault and traumatizing experiences.
Yes, I’m the klonopin poster and it resulted in the same for me. Is shy pretty girls getting predated on a universal experience?
I think girls getting preyed on is a universal experience…. You don’t need the adjectives “shy” or “pretty.”
Neurodivergence unfortunately makes women ‘easier’ prey. Add in conventional beauty and not being able to fully grasp what’s going on and it’s a recipe for disaster.
The best I’ve ever felt might have been high on Percocet—like floating on a soft, warm cloud that enveloped my whole body, where I felt no pain or anxiety, just a gentle drift. I was taking it as prescribed by my doctor, before anyone was talking about how dangerous those drugs were, but after my first few days I could tell I liked it too much. I threw it out and switched to Tylenol. That experience made me feel so much empathy for people struggling with opioid addiction because I truly think, there but for the grace of God go I.
Other than that, I’ve smoked pot occasionally (just makes me spacey and sleepy, not my thing), molly once (had a fun night and then the worst hangover of my life, no desire to repeat). In my party girl era I got into enough with alcohol, I didn’t really feel the need to experiment with drugs.
I’ve never done any street dr*gs, not even p0t.
For prescription meds, the most “exciting” ones are probably anti-thyroid meds and an anti-anxiety med for insomnia, although I take the latter sparingly and it doesn’t create dependence like a benzo.
none. A neighbor was using diet pills in the 90s and gave some to my mom and I to try. I felt jittery and jumpy and that was enough to keep me off non-OTC or dr-prescribed meds for life, apparently.
I credit Pulp Fiction and that Sweet Valley High book where Regina dies after trying coke that’s laced with something from keeping me off coke or any other hard stuff. LOL.
Same!
After seeing a family member undergo what we suspect was marijuana-induced psychosis, any lingering desire I had to try anything interesting disappeared.
I’m pretty drug-averse overall except for caffeine (coffee every day).
marijuana (one time in college when I was in a location where it was decriminalized)
alcohol (seldom)
ibuprofen and acetaminophen (seldom)
diclegis (for 12 weeks for pregnancy nausea)
zoloft (for 12 weeks for postpartum depression)
hydrocodone (for a few days after my c-sections). This was when I became very appreciative of efforts to provide pain relief and felt we have gone overboard in trying to restrict access to opioids; I had intense, severe pain, and every time the next prescribed dose of hydrocodone was due the nurse tried to delay giving it to me, told me not to take it, told me I would become a drug addict, said that other women got by just fine with advil and tylenol, and meanwhile I was crying, sweating, disassociating, hyperventilating with pain. I tapered off within a few days but for those few days post-surgery, I really needed it.
I assume I was also given multiple other drugs during the c-sections, which were all very high-risk, but I don’t know what they were and didn’t intentionally take/try them.
I wish websites wouldn’t use models with implants for bras. It makes it impossible to figure out the amount of lift and support.
Isn’t that true of literally any model who isn’t your specific band/cup size and tissue placement?
No if it’s real flesh (even if different from my own) you can see how it’s being supported.
I think you are really underestimating Photoshop.
+1 and now AI
Besides SKIMS, which websites use models with implants for bras?
Going through some tough stuff personally (parent with terminal illness, breakup with SO of five years) and instead of work being my haven, I am distracted, stressed, and not doing well. I work for a really small company so I have zero FMLA or other medical leave in my state. I have 6 days of PTO left and have been trying to use it carefully in half-day chunks to see my dad. My performance is meeting expectations but this is a downgrade from previously being a go-getter. Any tips to get through? I need this job, but it is really hard some days to not be distracted from the bad news.
I’m sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time. It really sounds like you need a break, just for yourself.
Do you have any siblings who can help with the parent visits? Even to take one or two of your PTO days off and have a long weekend to yourself is helpful. You can still “have coffee” or “watch a movie” with your loved one on Zoom.
It is ok to not be a go-getter at work right now. Now is the time to take care of yourself, and meeting expectations is ok.
Does work know about your dad? Surely they can be more flexible with you during this time!
It is really okay to be less than stellar when you are going through something awful. Unless your supervisor is terrible, they will likely recognize that this is temporary, and that replacing you would not only be evil but also probably bad for the company, as hiring, onboard, and training new people wastes a lot of time. I’m saying this as someone who has supervised an employee in a similar situation. EVERYONE goes through periods like this at some point in their working life, and most supervisors understand this.
Any recs for Mackinac Island? I’m going soon with my 8 year old. We both like food (+coffee in my case), light hiking, scenic views, horses and fudge. I had hoped to take her horseback riding but it looks like the stables have a minimum age of 10, which is a real bummer because she’s done trail rides before and been fine, but oh well. I’m a little worried we’re not really going to be able to fill 4 days. I did book a hotel with an indoor pool so if all else fails we’ll just have a lot of pool time (and she’ll be happy as a clam) but want to make sure I’m not missing out on local stuff.
I would call the stable and ask if an exception can be made.
I did, unfortunately they said no :(
We could probably lie and get away with it because she’s very tall but I don’t want to put her in that position.
Unhinged to think the rules shouldn’t apply to you.
?? Unhinged to ask if they could make an exception because my kid has previous riding experience? They said no, I accepted it. How is that unreasonable?
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I went with my brother a few years back and we rented bikes and biked around the island, with stops along the way. It’s a flat and easy ride, and for a younger kid if you bring a picnic lunch/snacks and find somewhere fun to stop (there are benches and things by the trail) it’s very doable.
For the person asking about their spouse’s overactive bladder, I commented late today – you may want to ask about a neuro screen for MS. Bladder issues are one of the ways it shows up esp in men, who typically don’t have these types of bladder issues due to physics.