Coffee Break: Belted Suede Tote
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I know Toteme is a respected brand but I still feel like they're underrated — I love so many of their iterations on bags, shoes, and dresses. This tote (hobo? bucket bag?) is a great case in point. I love the angular lines, and it feels slimmer than a lot of the similar bags out there right now.
NET-A-PORTER has an exclusive on the bag, offering it in chocolate, black, and off-white suede for $1300. Love.
Sales of note for 9/23/25
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- Ann Taylor – 30% off tops and sweaters
- Banana Republic Factory – 40% off everything + extra 15% off
- Boden – Up to 40% off
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Y’all: I have done The Thing. I am eyeing the satchel from Frank Clegg. I have ordered the leather swatches. I am struggling between a caramel (because I have So Many other black bags) and the black (b/c I am from outside NYC and feel that that is my natural Moira Rose shade for anything). Help me pick!
Hmm, the lightest leather I see on their website is a cognac (which is lovely). Do you mean that one?
Yes — that’s the one.
Now I’m hesitating — will a lighter brown be something that I scuff up into oblivion? Or is that what we call patina?
I love Frank Clegg! The leather satchel was too heavy for me, and they were lovely about the types of fabrics they could use instead. I have a fantastic brown suede tote from them that was a pandemic purchase. The quality of their leather is next level.
Have you considered asking them about how your options will age? I was really concerned about my brown suede aging and getting gross. Five years later it looks great, and I take it everywhere. What about your accessories? I say go with the dark if it goes with everything else.
I just looked and there are Rothys stores. There is one in my state (not my city) and I can include it as a stop the next time I visit. Has anyone gone into one? I had the round-toe ones until my daughter “borrowed” them and now we both need new ones. I’ve wanted points but was worried the sizing wouldn’t be exact to the round-toe ones; now I’d prefer the bow ones. Do the stores stock most styles in the 8ish-9 range? And colors? I’d love just to figure out sizes for a few styles.
Yes, I’ve been to the one at King of Prussia, and it was a super useful stop – nice to get a sense of how the different styles fit and look in person, even if they don’t carry the entire line.
We have a small store in the Bay Area and it’s helpful, but they don’t carry a ton of inventory from a color perspective. It was helpful for me to go in for my very first pair, because I was able to try on all styles in multiple sizes, even though they didn’t have all the color options that I wanted.
One option: ship shoes to the store for pickup, that way you can do multiple sizes and styles, and just return them immediately while you’re standing there.
Yes, I’ve been a Rothy’s fan for years but as the styles have evolved I’ve found it more difficult to know my size. I’ve visited their stores while in Chicago and Boston and always left with something new. Also good to know: they take old shoes back for recycling and provide a discount for future purchases, but they only accept old shoes at the stores (no mail in option).
I’m a 8-8/2, they always have the size in store for try on. You can also order any of the shoes in store for home delivery including ones on final sale. The sizing can be weird so it’s always good to try on if you can.
Has anyone gotten a T-shirt quilt made from Project Repeat? Looks like a great gift idea.
I did, quite a few years ago. I can’t remember the exact size. It is fine. I made the mistake of pre-cutting my shirts and sending them in, so I think the sizing wasn’t as perfect. Definitely just send in the shirt and let them do the work.
Also, it is really more of a throw than a quilt – the shirts are put on a felt backing. Not a lot of complicated stitching.
I’m thinking about getting a second cat. Mostly because I adore cats. Also, my current cat has insane energy and may benefit from having a non-human friend to play with. My current cat is still young (under 2), so I’m thinking an older kitten might be the way to go, just to make sure Queen Orange retains her alpha girl status, lol. I do worry about the introduction period, though. Our house is very open, so keeping the cats separate will be tricky. Queen Orange lived with other animals when she was little, but it’s been a while. She was the last kitten in the litter to be adopted, otherwise we probably would’ve tried to get a sibling. Any thoughts/ideas on introducing unrelated cats?
A lot of rescue groups have experience introducing a cat into a multi-cat home (which cats may see as a cat colony). This is different and in my opinion easier than introducing a cat into a single cat home, so don’t feel bad if it is harder than a rescue suggests it will be! I know that separation is the rule, but your cat is young, so you may want to see if it’s not too late for more of a kitten-to-kitten introduction (I don’t know the answer). Kittens don’t always tolerate separation well and it can cause its own problems, so it’s just tricky (I do agree that an older kitten may be the best bet though! Seek advice on girl vs boy; cats are basically matriarchal).
Cats can be particular about other cats. Make up your mind if you want them to be friends or just tolerate each other. There will always be pressure to fill up your home with cats who just tolerate each other since there aren’t enough homes to go around, but it’s okay to insist that they actually get along. It’s not rare that a cat likes one cat and not another!
We adopted a rescue kitten when our cat was slightly older (3). It was for the best that we introduced them when the kitten was younger because she is twice the size of our other cat but is still deferential to the first cat as she’s the ‘big’ sister. There was lots of hissing/swatting at first but after a week or so they got along fine.
They definitely are not besties but will play together, sleep together, and tease our big sweet dog together. Our kids fell in love with the kitten at a PetCo adoption event and as teens/tweens we felt they were old enough to take care of another pet together – which they do!
That sounds like a very good outcome!
We have three unrelated cats that we got at separate times and we occasionally foster other cats. There is definitely an adjustment period and I think it is best to introduce them slowly. We start by keeping the new cat in one of the bedrooms. The other cats will paw at the door and meow at the new cat. After a couple of days of that, we will let the new cat out of the room but keep everyone supervised. Sometimes there is hissing and swatting. We keep the new cat in the bedroom at night for the first few weeks and only let the cats around each other while supervised. I have one grumpy old man cat who will intervene if the other cats are not getting along. But after a couple of weeks, they can be around each other unsupervised.
Do it! It is so good for young cats especially to have pals. In terms of intros – there is a lot of advice on the internet about this. We live in an apartment, and our standard MO is:
Step 1 – new kitty moves into the bathroom. Put a litter box, food, water, etc in there. It’s fine if it is tiny. Kitty decompresses. Other cats start to smell the new cat. (If the cat is super tame, you could potentially skip this step, but we are often adopting ones with sketchy social skills). This lasts a couple days or longer if there is a need for quarantine or the cat is really freaked out (e.g. hiding behind the toilet at all times).
Step 2 – When the cat is acting confident and/or we get sick of them being in the bathroom, new kitty graduates to our bedroom, door stays closed to keep other cats out. Again, food and litter etc obviously move with the cat. New kitty gets more used to being around us and our scent, and has access to a high-status room in our apartment. This lasts a couple days or longer, depending on how long step 1 went and how everyone is doing.
This is where it gets less regimented. Depending on how new kitty and other cat(s) are doing and whether they have accidentally met, we often get lax here. But I think best practice is to feed the cats on either side of a closed door from each other for a few days to get them used to smelling each other while doing something with positive associations. And/or, doing site swapping – so the cats are still separated but going back and forth between each other’s spaces. At some point, we start doing supervised introductions, where we let them go up and sniff each other, but only when we can watch. Depending on the level of interest, hissing, etc, we may continue to keep them separate or let them loose in the apartment. Eventually, they generally work things out, even if they seem to hate each other at first. But take it slow.
This is helpful. Resident cat currently sleeps in our room, so we might have to rethink that part.
Yeah, we don’t let any cats sleep in our room normally, so that helps.
PPS – sorry I am invested in your cat! This is from a cat rescue near me – see guide on pp. 12-13. We don’t usually take a full month as we get impatient, but you certainly could. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ExdysI0_WghQbjPB07WJLbCzP22Lv_Bp-lsIIdq_lDw/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.dzc2mvkw0i9m
I have a long reply in mod with a how to based on my experiences with doing this in a small apartment.
But one other thought – I think it is impossible to predict whether the cats will be besties or not – that seems like a crapshoot. We typically have 3 cats at any given time, and their personalities and social dynamics change whenever one dies and/or a new one comes into the house. Either way, I think getting another cat is a good idea. Playful young cats will generally play together, even if they don’t do adorable things like nap together.
Ask the rescue for a cat that specifically they think will be good with others, agree with others that a smaller/ younger/ beta is probably the way to go. I have always started with liter mates. One outlived his sister and we adopted an older cat who had been abandoned at a kennel. they were never as close as he was with this sister but definitely played/slept/swatted. good luck! there are so many cats that need homes….
anecdotally i think a male female pair would bond more easily
Favorite lip balm when your lips are actually chapped? I keep buying cute ones and they’re hard and aren’t moisturizing enough.
I feel like drugstore is your friend here – Nivea, Aquaphor, etc.
Burts Bees.
I slather my lips in aquaphor at home. It’s the only thing that works for me.
If you are currently chapped, listen to your body and increase your water intake. Rub your lips with a warm wet towel and then use the aquaphor.
Lanolips is amazing.
Yes, I use this at night and never have chapped lips.
aquaphor
Aquaphor or Vaseline. Nothing else works.
Blistex serum
Vaseline or aquaphor for daytime, and lansinoh (nipple ointment) at night – it’s thick but really works. I also put it on my cuticles.
Burt’s bees grapefruit. The OG leaves a weird cast on my lips but the grapefruit is my jam! Also, Aquaphor lip balm at night.
Elizabeth Arden 8 hour cream. It’s a clear ointment type cream (thick but not gloopy) and is amazing as an overnight treatment, as well as during the day. Bonus, it’s great for most skin problems, and is a staple for the medicine cabinet.
Flexitol
Vaseline.
Marin
Blistex in the squeeze tube (not chapstick style).
1) Vaseline
2) Violette Fr BALM AMOUR Nourishing Lip Treatment with Peptides
3) Clinique Moisture Surge Lip Hydro-Plump Treatment
4) essence The Super Peptide Glossy Lip Treatment (only $4.99!)
Help me find a new lightweight jacket / third piece for fall. I want something like what a corduroy blazer would have done 10 years ago – professor vibes. I’m busty, petite, size 14-16, and mostly wearing blue jeans. Any tips? I feel like my crepe and wool blazers are too workwear and my velvet blazers are too wintry. I wound up wearing a hip length sweater last night when I wanted to go out with family.
Maybe something tweedy? Lands End, Massimo Dutti, Chicos would be likely sources.
If you want old-school professor vibes, I vote a tweed or corduroy jacket, or a tweedy cardigan with leather elbow patches.
If you’re on 10 year budget maybe check out Veronica beard? I just picked up a patra jacket but it’s more letterman than professional. I spent a lot of time on sidelines so I wanted something casual. They also have corduroy blazers. Also, would a Barbour barn jacket work? My friend has one with a plaid lining and it’s really a great classic piece.
Boden and H&M have nice corduroy jackets right now
Nic+Zoe sometimes has longer knit petite blazers that might hit the mark. Tailored but not suiting vibes.
You might want to consider a short suede leather jacket in a dark color, or a short quilted cotton collarless jacket, in black. Also, check out Aritzia for lightweight jackets, they have nice, quality outerwear.
There were a spate of medical posters here over the summer – lots of colonoscopies, mammograms, vague bloodwork stuff, etc. How’d things turn out for you?
I had posted about going to the ER in the middle of the night because things felt off. We never figured out what was wrong and I haven’t felt that way since that week. All the tests and bills were about $3k though so that’s fun.
My colonoscopy a few weeks ago showed no cancer or polyps. This was huge for me as I was diagnosed with Stage 2 colon cancer in 2021. Back then, I had really low iron levels and came in for a routine physical before my insurance changed with a job change––and I owe my life to my internal medicine physician, who didn’t dismiss it as menstruation and ordered a colonoscopy and endoscopy. I actually fought her a bit on the need since I was under the average screening age (which is 45 BTW). I used Sutab tablets this time. Nothing gross to drink. And when I got home I had a lovely nap on my back deck in the sun listening to an audible book someone from this site recommended (it was the Holly Gibney book by Stephan King–I had some chapters left after a road trip). Dog slept on my lap. Honestly, it was such a lovely day off. (Who would think I would ever refer to it that way?!)
I remember the story about your great internist. What a great update on how it is going!
I’m the poster with the possible broken toe and I think it’s not broken after all. The crazy red streak went totally away and the swelling is way down. For the poster who was worried about amputation, I’m glad to report that it didn’t happen 😃
Also had a colonoscopy that fortunately found nothing worse than a hemorrhoid. I strongly encourage all women to pay attention to symptoms in that area and take it seriously.
I’m glad things are okay!
I posted about post-menopausal bleeding, which can be a sign of cervical cancer. Just got the results of my endometrial biopsy: benign polyp, yippee!
Wow – great news. Congrats! Good for you for checking it out though.
I’ve been interviewing for two roles slowly in parallel and one has just sped up and leapfrogged the other, with a meeting with their CEO now set for next week. So, two questions: 1) What’s the best way to reach out to the slower job to let them know and check in about next steps? I have had contact with the HR manager formally, and informally with the hiring manager, not sure who to best get in touch with. 2) Any advice for these kinds of “meet the CEO” interviews? I’ve never done one before. I’d be senior staff, reporting to the CEO’s direct report, and am in a specialized field.
I would reach out to HR to ask about their hiring timeline in the context of your having another opportunity. When in a similar position last year, the second job was very happy I told them about my competing timeline, sped things up, and that is the job I wanted and accepted.
Reach out to the recruiter to ask about the timeline for next steps, mentioning that you are still very interested in the opportunity but are also interviewing elsewhere. A good recruiter will either speed things up if you’re a top candidate, or politely say they’re moving ahead with other candidates. Hiring managers are busy doing their day job and do not want to manage candidate relationships.
I hope this is a fun and not controversial topic: would you want your children to go to your alma mater? If cost is an issue, would your answer change if you were extremely wealthy or if scholarships were available for your children?
Cost aside, I would love for my son to go to my NESCAC school; he’s only six, but I can see how he would thrive there with his smart but laid-back personality.
My son is about to submit his application to my alma mater. I’m thrilled, although it’s much further away than I would like him to be. I’ve let him make his own way with picking colleges to apply to, with one restriction: if I feel the area is unsafe after visiting, that he can’t apply. Luckily, we that never happened!
Bruh, my kids are teens and are still revealing themselves to me. But my SLAC had kegs when I was there and no A/C. I lived on the third floor of an all women’s dorm in the SEUS. It’s just not the same now. It’s like HGTV got hold of the place and it seems very Potemkin Village / sanitized. IDK where I’d be most happy in that same exact way in 2025, but suspect that I could grow where I am planted or root where the wind takes me, SLAC, giant SEC school, community college.
Your alma mater sounds like mine (small Episcopal college by any chance?) including the third floor of a women’s dorm. I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone not from the South, as this Angelena was a real fish out of water there.
Sewanee?
Nope! It is now overpriced for the quality of education it provides.
Yes 100% I would if it’s what they also wanted, but I went to HYP so I have absolutely no illusions that they will. Even though they’re really young, I am already working pretty hard to not lionize it around them or imply that it’s as a path that is more relevant than any other for them. Most importantly, I hope they love their early adulthood experience as much as I did and make as deep friendships and get challenged the way I did, whether that’s at my alma mater, another college, or down a different life path.
I think this can be a very tough thing. From my own personal experience, too much pressure to go to a certain school can be devastating if the kid doesn’t get in. My best friend in high school had a parent and two siblings that went to a particular college. The whole family was diehard fans of the athletics and the academics. Unfortunately, friend did not get in. Devastation all around. Also, to add salt to the wound, I had also applied there mainly because I wanted to be where she was going, and I got in.
So much this. It’s such a great thing when everything works out as you want. But I don’t want my kids to feel so much pressure to live a dream I have.
Yeah a friend applied early decision to her parents Ivy alma mater and didn’t get in. She had not planned to apply to any other schools and had to start scrambling. I think it would have been a better situation if she had been more open about the possibility of being happy at a range of schools.
I went to my state’s flagship SEC school and loved it. I’m your typical super-loyal SEC fan, so from that aspect -YES. Though for us, that would mean OOS tuition now. Her dad went to one of our big rivals (and the state school where we live now), so….
But in reality – I want her to choose the college that is the best fit for her. There will be monetary restraints, of course.
She’s also 5 and just in kindergarten, so we have plenty of time.
I would be pleased if they went to my alma mater, but I won’t push it, if that makes sense. I feel pretty strongly that my kids need to follow their own path (within reason and finances, of course). They will be more familiar with my alma mater at the outset because they’ve spent time there, but ultimately it’s their decision about whether that’s the school for them.
I think so. I went to State U, a smaller campus for undergrad and the main, large campus for law school. We live in the main campus city and are about 2 hours away from the smaller one. My kids are tweens, and I would selfishly like for them to go to the nearby campus – it’s a good school and cost effective, and I would like them nearby. Accepting that they may decide to go further, I’d be happy with the campus I went to or one of a few other similarly distant public universities around – they are all pretty decent, and the smaller one is probably nicer for undergrad (and I do think that distance is pretty ideal for most kids).
I’d be disappointed if they decided to go so far away that traveling was a big deal, and I’d take issue with them going to a more expensive school unless they have a good plan to pay for it. So I guess I’m sort of neutral on the school itself, but attracted to the practicalities. Small/private colleges never seemed appealing to me on cost/benefits.
I don’t have any particularly strong feelings about my alma mater and my goal wasn’t to raise a mini-me. It would have been fine if my child chose it, but they picked a different (very similar) state university that has a stronger focus on their area of interest and it was a good place for them.
I loved my alma mater, and my dad also went there and I met DH there (and DH also got his grad degree there in addition to his undergrad). if you’d asked me before October 2023 my answer would’ve definitely been yes, but let’s just say I attended one of the institutions whose presidents were called to testify in front of congress. I’d want my kids to attend my Alma mater if the student population was like what it was when i was there, but it’s not. We also now live in a completely different part of the country and while i loved college so much i almost never went home, i did like that it was only a 2-3 hour drive away, but since we no longer live in the northeast/midatlantic where there are a plethora of fantastic colleges nearby, my kids will likely have to fly to school
I don’t think going to school a plane flight away is a big deal. I’m an only child who was very attached to my parents, relatively young for my grade (turned 18 a couple months before starting college) and probably pretty emotionally immature for my age, but I went to school in the northeast from the Midwest and it was fine. My parents always made it clear that I could home (at their expense) for any of the longer school breaks like Thanksgiving, Christmas and spring break, and they usually visited for parents weekend in October. But I think I only went home for every break freshman year. After that I usually stayed with local friends or traveled.
Attending my alma mater was probably the best choice I made in my life. I want my kid to feel the same way about their school. If they choose my school, awesome! If they don’t, also fine!
Even though we live nearish my alma mater we almost never go, it’s a smaller school so we can’t watch the sports teams on TV, and the kids maybe have 1 shirt? So, our family culture is definitely not about my alma mater (or my husband’s).
Overall, I got a great education that set me up very well for life, I had a lot of fun, I made great life-long friends, and I got some really awesome, unique and life changing experiences so I would totally recommend my school if a kid was interested.
But also, if they’re not interested in my school (or in higher education), that’s fine too! I want them to feel like they made the best choice for THEMSELVES.
Undergrad, top-ranked niche program at a top national public university in my home state: No way would I want my kid to go through that. A lot of kids in other programs had trouble graduating in 4 years because courses weren’t available. Competition was cutthroat. In my department, the applied faculty were lazy and disengaged and did not do a lot of things that are standard in the field.
Postbac, top liberal arts school in the northeast: I loved it, but it’s been hijacked by the culture wars and I wouldn’t want my kid to go there now. I am paying for her to get an education so she can fight injustice and make the world a better place through her career, not to boycott classes to engage in performative useless nonsense.
Grad/law school, selective small public university in our current state: This was my kid’s backup school. She was admitted to the honors program but turned it down in favor of a SLAC that is a better fit culturally, has a stronger program in her major, and offered her enough merit aid that it was actually cheaper.
No. My kid is not aggressive enough to flourish at my alma mater.
Yes but I am pregnant with a boy and I went to a women’s college so I’ll be forced to let him select his own school, although I work in higher ed and would push whatever school I’m at for the tuition remission if it were acceptable.
My eldest is applying to mine, and it’s an amazing school, but I want her to choose her own path in life. It was a great place for ME, but she might really enjoy a different school. Also, I worry that my alma mater has gotten more intense, more focused on specific areas, and less fun than it was in the 90s.
As the alumna of a service academy, I am torn on this topic!
We serve the American people and the Constitution, not the president but… the president is still the commander in chief which gives me pause, obviously.
I, like probably every other service academy graduate of all time, had days when I loved my unconventional life and I had days where I desperately regretted not going to a “normal college”. As a graduate, I love being in this little fraternity of graduates but I do sometimes have FOMO when people talk about their normal college experiences.
Overall, I’m glad I went to a service academy and I did love my time there and my career afterwards. You have to really want to be there, so I’d never, ever push a kid to attend.
The free college and guaranteed good job after graduation are certainly things I wouldn’t mind as the parent though :)
I loved my college experience, and it really changed the course of my life in terms of economic mobility, but I don’t really have a strong desire for this one way or the other. There are lots of wonderful schools, different ones are better fits for different kids, and mine is only 5. I want him to find his own path.
I didn’t feel like I had any particular affinity for my alma mater (I had a good time, it was an insane amount of money, probably would have enjoyed most other places as well). But we just visited the city this past weekend for a wedding and I daydreamed about my 4 year old being able to go to school there. I will say I (secretly) hope she goes to somewhere driving distance rather than flying distance.
I loved, loved, loved college. But I’m 51 and my memories are of amazing friends and teachers long gone from the campus. So would be an entirely different experience. And also just came to mind how one of the major lecture buildings where I had so many wonderful memories is now gone. There was a school shooting a few years after I graduated and it was too painful of a reminder for the community to let it stand. I wish I could give today’s generation the school memories and freedom I had. They may have better dorms but I had so much more living in a time where you had a much lighter head and heart.
I had a great experience at a SLAC and love the people and the community. But my kids would be second gen college students, so they may be able to build on my experience and go farther at another school… or just have totally different interests or personality.
I genuinely don’t care one way or another. I liked where I went to college and it was a good experience, but I really don’t understand the (over)attachment people have to where they went to school.
Same. I had a great experience both socially and academically, but I think I could have gotten that at any number of similar colleges.
I even played a sport in college, and I still don’t feel overly devoted to my school.
I agree. I went to UCLA and had a great experience there, but feels like a lifetime ago. (It kind of was – I’m 42.) I think I could have had a similar experience at a number of other schools and ended up in a similar place as I am now.
I grew up in CA, so a UC school was comparatively cheap compared to most other schools. We don’t live in CA, so I kind of doubt my kids will end up there, and that’s fine.
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Not really. DH and I went to different Ivy+ schools. We both had a great four years, but neither of us feels like we ended up in a materially different place than we would have coming from Flagship State U. And he has a “prestigious” job (tenured STEM professor at a top 20 university) but in academia your grad degree institution matters much than undergrad, and all the elite grad schools take undergrads from the better State Us.
Our philosophy, which we’ll obviously be upfront with our kid about when she’s getting ready to apply, is that we’ll pay for any private or public college that’s more selective than our in-state flagship State U and will consider less selective schools on a case-by-case basis. For example, we’d be inclined to pay for a less selective SLAC because it’s such a different experience than State U, but aren’t going to pay out of state tuition at a less selective State U absent a compelling reason, like an entire degree program our State U doesn’t have.
Love this nuanced take on what to pay for!
I went to MIT and no, I don’t particularly hope my kids go there. Socially it was a great experience but academically it was really rough for me. Professors are very hard on you and I think the personality type that thrives there is the type that wants to prove people wrong when they doubt you or underestimate you. I’m the type that gets beaten down by criticism and generally does better with more encouragement. I wouldn’t say I need to be coddled or have my hand held, but so many of my professors there were just so mean and dismissive to anyone who wasn’t at the tippy top of the class. Which maybe makes sense at some podunk junior college, but at MIT there are plenty of students outside the top 10% who are incredibly capable. Also the lack of grade inflation compared to similarly elite schools is brutal and makes it harder post-college because our GPAs don’t seem very good. Most of my junior/senior level STEM classes were curved to a B-/C+ average, which is pretty low compared to the Ivies. So I guess selfishly if my kids have the grades and test scores for an elite college, I’d encourage them to go somewhere where it will be easier to graduate with an excellent GPA.
Too many suicides at MIT when I was there. I wonder if it is changed.
I was there shortly after Elizabeth Shin died and during the resulting litigation, so it was a hot topic and the admin purported to be really concerned about the issue, but yeah… it isn’t a great environment for mental health.
I’ve been invited to the corporate hospitality tent at a big golf tournament this weekend. Any suggestions on what to wear? I don’t have anything that constitutes “golf clothes,” so I can’t wear the typical skirt/polo golf outfit you sometimes see on women. And of course, I’m just observing.
Check with the golf course to see if they have requirements on shoes – heels might not be allowed if you’re walking near course.
Golfy/preppy is the way to go here so if you don’t have actual golf clothes, wear something business-casual adjacent. Maybe khaki shorts and a crewneck sweater? A knee-length t-shirt dress with a sweater over your shoulders and sneakers? Button down shirt and tailored trousers… you get the gist. Look at any golf brand website and see what you can mimic from there, or look at the event’s IG page and see if you can get ideas from last year’s crowd. Definitely flat shoes.
If you are going to Ryder Cup search online for photos. Red white and blue.
I wore a structured cotton midi dress and classic Tomsbto a golf tournament recently, after asking for advice here, and I felt very comfortable in that.
Observers don’t have to wear golf attire. Like if you look at the crowd at the big tournaments, some women are in maxi dresses, etc. I’d go for preppy and comfortable – flat shoes, if it’s warm something like cropped linen pants and a short sleeved blouse, etc.
I had something like this for a work event recently. I wore a cute dress from Vineyard Vines and sneakers. I packed a cute visor in case folks were leaning more athletic.
Is this the Ryder Cup? If so, there will be lots of people dressed in red, white and blue. I would probably go with a casual ish dress and sneakers.