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A friend’s parent died and there is a celebration of life this Saturday from 4 to 8pm. Am I correct in assuming you can drop by like a wake, or is this more like a funeral where you attend at the beginning and stay? It’s being held at a funeral home if that makes any difference.
Best bet is to call the funeral home to confirm. Usually a time window that large is a drop in thing, but a “Celebration of Life” is typically a formal program (though not typically 4 hours). So, I understand the confusion and would call the venue for direction.
The wording here is a little vague, but most celebrations of life I’ve attended involve a formal service with readings, eulogies, and music, followed by socializing and food that can sometimes even turn into a party, depending on how seriously they take the celebration part. If you can’t clarify with someone, I’d show up at 4. Dropping by in the middle of a service would be awkward.
I would assume this is the case, too. Celebration of life usually implies some sort of formal program. Visitations are more of the drop-in style.
My last one also was a prepared program with remarks from friends and neighbors, perhaps an hour? I’d expect part of the time slot to be informal get together.
This. The formal program is unlikely to last four hours so I’d assume you can probably leave before 8. But I’d plan to be there at the beginning and not just drop in whenever.
+1. I would also assume there will be a program/remembrance of some sort at the beginning with speeches etc, and then a more relaxed celebration afterwards. I think it would be strange not to show up for the program, but fine to leave early from the celebration portion.
Two things you should never be late for – weddings and funerals. They aren’t “fashionably late” events. Either get there at the starting time or don’t go.
It is not a funeral. It is a new societal way to mark someone’s passing and that is why OP is confused. We all know the rules for viewings, wakes, and funerals.
I don’t think it is that new. My grandmother died more than 10 years ago, and my mom and her siblings organized a celebration of life to mark her passing in lieu of a funeral. In my experience (not only with my grandmother, but with other celebrations of life), they are similar in concept to a funeral, but not at a church and no one wore black.
my grandfather’s “celebration of life” (held about 6 months after he passed during COVID times) had a church service similar to a funeral at the start time and then a long reception afterward. I agree with others you need to be on time, but can probably leave early. Also agree that non-black attire is common at celebrations of life, but often communicated explicitly. My grandmother requested people wear bright colors, for example.
It actually is. That’s what they’re often called these days.
It’s a euphemism for funeral. Especially common among non-religious folks I think, since funerals are typically held at religious venues. And yes not super new, we had one for my grandfather in the 90s.
Yep. My mom’s Celebration of Life started promptly at 11AM and anyone wandering into the church later was noticeably late.
Yeah, my judgy 80s pentecostal upbringing, a celebration of life was intended specifically to thumb noses at those heathen Catholics and their wakes. Like, written into the announcement and the sermons about how much better a COL was, since it involved eternal hope instead of damnation…
Speak for yourself, I’ve never been invited to a viewing or wake and have no idea what the rules for these are. Like others I think celebration of life is just another word for funeral though often slightly less somber. I think non-black clothing is more common than it would be at a funeral.
Definitely call the funeral home. It won’t be awkward, it’s their job to share the info. If there is any doubt, show up at 4.
I would assume it is more like a funeral and you should show up at 4pm. I do not think you need to stay until 8pm unless you want to – the celebration of life portion will likely last no more than an hour, with a party to follow.
Celebration of life is often the term for those cremated as well because they can be at any time. I would definitely ask because ours have been programs with socializing after.
I have been practicing for 15 years. Leadership at my client’s organizations = mostly older (60+) men. I have recently noticed that verbal communication seems harder. I don’t think it’s volume – – I think it’s that my voice is high-pitched and they literally can’t hear me. I googled and there are tons of companies and apps that claim to help with this, but I’m a little freaked out about permanently changing my voice.
Any experience with this? Any fixes, company recommendations, etc.? Voice coach? I sang soprano in high school (25 years ago) but don’t sing any more.
They can’t hear you because they don’t listen to women. Perhaps ask them if they are hard of hearing and what you can do to accommodate that.
I would be very wary about trying to change/strain your voice, as it can lead to injuries to your vocal cords. As a vocalist, you probably already have better projection than most.
What I try to do is slow down and be clear with my diction and look at the people you are talking to. Try to avoid having important conversations in crowds with lots of people talking
And no, it isn’t that they have hearing loss just in the register of your voice. That’s a old wives tale as old as time. To explain roughly – a typical woman’s voice is at a 200Hz register (how high/low). The most common type of age related hearing loss is for “higher” frequencies, usually over 2,000Hz++
Basically these men need hearing aids and they are too vain/lazy/stupid and in denial and wont get one.
This is a “them” problem, not a you problem. Do not change your voice.
I hate this so much, but an audiologist basically confirmed that my 70+ dad doesn’t hear the pitch of women’s voices as well and that it’s a common thing. Again, infuriating, but there is something to it.
That’s funny–I thought Siri etc. used women’s voices because they were easier for people to hear than men’s voices.
Interesting. I always assumed it was because women were supposed to be assistants and helpers.
People who have mild hearing loss (like me) may not realize they have been reading lips all along. One solution is to make sure you have the person’s attention and are facing them.
If they don’t want to listen to you, that’s a different problem. But if it really is a hearing loss issue, try the above.
Yes, this. My husband has very mild hearing loss and tinnitus and I have to make sure he can see me when I talk to him. I can’t just talk from the other room or with my back turned or doing something else noisy.
My husband does not have hearing loss, but I have to get eye contact and acknowledgement that he’s listening in order for him to process anything I say.
So, he likes to ignore you? He can’t be bothered to pay attention?
That is all men.
How long did it take you to decide if your therapist is the right fit? I had an intake this morning and have already planned my first sessions with the same person but looking back on it a couple hours later I am not sure. She didn’t read any of the information I had to provide about why I was seeking therapy beforehand because apparently most people forget to fill it out. She also ended the session a half hour early while I later realized we didn’t cover some basic intake topics. I’m just not sure if I should give it a try first to see if I feel better about it and would like some perspectives
Ugh, sorry. This sounds like a bad fit. That said, you could give it one more try at your next session (and bring these things up). After that, though, you should know if this will work. Don’t be afraid to listen to yourself, even if you can’t come up with a list of identifiable “reasons.”
By the way, if you paid fully for this session but it ended 1/2 early, then you should absolutely not return.
My own experiences have taught me that when there is something big that’s off about the first session, don’t bother with subsequent sessions. She ended a half hour early without covering basic intake topics? Find someone else.
I know this sounds heartless: it doesn’t matter if *some* of the professionals who completely screw up the first meeting later turn out to be good. It’s such a red flag, one that usually indicates subsequent problems. You’re not obligated to “give her a second chance.” Life isn’t always fair and you’re more than allowed to go seek a different provider.
At least 75 percent of therapists are useless or worse. Trust your judgment and move on.
Crossposting from the other post as I feel people don’t respond there as much:
Do y’all actually apply sunscreen when WFH? i don’t as i dont love the feeling of sunscreen on my face and instead just do a vit c and a moisturizer in the AM if not going out. Because of this i often end up throwing expired sunscreen. I am brown skin FWIW.
Absolutely not. Why would you?
I do it, but my home office is very bright with several big windows. I know colleagues who are more in a basement situation, in which case I might skip.
Also, I had to make an effort to find a sunscreen I liked, and finally made it a priority last year.
I use the CeraVe am moisturizer, which has sunscreen in it, so I do end up with sunscreen even when I’m inside all day. It feels more like a normal moisturizer than my stand-alone sunscreens!
If I am actually going to be inside all day, then I don’t. Sometimes when I am only going outside briefly I don’t, but I always wear a large brimmed hat in summer.
But this sounds odd…. You leave the house so infrequently that your sunscreen expires? I’m a little worried about you!
lol. Not OP but I wear sunscreen every day & it still expires. Better check the expiration dates on yours.
I put on sunscreen every day because I go outside every day. That’s nonnegotiable.
Same. SPF 50 on my face, neck, and chest 365 days a year. It’s mostly vanity (my skin looks better than most of my peers) but both of my parents have gone through painful procedures at the dermatologist. I’d very much like to avoid that. Bottles of face sunscreen are small enough that they never expire before I finish them.
Brown skin and WFH. Yeah, I use SPF just to be consistent with my routine. I just got one from Neutrogena which is pretty lightweight. And there’s one from Biore in a blue tube that’s light and doesn’t leave a white cast.
I wear sunscreen on my face and neck every day. SPF 15 if I’m mostly indoors, 30+ if I have plans to spend significant time outside. I take regular walks around the block when I wfh, so I definitely don’t skip sunscreen on those days. I also usually wear a wide brim hat for walks, because I’m pretty pale and burn easily.
ETA, this is just Aveeno moisturizer with SPF. I break out the “real” sunscreen for hiking and pool, but I don’t like the feel of it all day every day either.
I do but I have very freckle prone skin and have gotten visible damage through a glass window before. If you didn’t know UV rays penetrate glass, consider yourself lucky!
For days where I won’t go outside I just use a moisturizer with spf rather than my heavy duty “real” SP. There are tons of options for SPF moisturizers.
I put on sunblock every day unless I’m really, truly, not setting foot outside my house. Mostly it’s to keep me in the habit of applying it as part of my routine. You really do need to find a sunblock that you’re ok wearing though, if you hate the texture it’s the wrong product. If I’m going to wear 1/4 tsp on my face I need to actively enjoy (or at least not notice) the feel of it. IMHO I have yet to find a US sunblock that I can tolerate daily so I just order a bunch of my preferred Asian sunblocks at a time. I use up a sunblock every ~2 months so they rarely expire on me.
I like Trader Joe’s Daily facial sunscreen. The texture is more like a serum than a cream & it is clear (not white).
Adding to this, for sunscreen to be effective, you need to apply more than you think. Even at using it a few times a week, you should be using it up before it expires. Can’t make any recommendations on product as when I’m tan, I’m only a shade darker than a ghost so mineral with white cast is in heavy rotation for me.
What is this obsession with using it all before it expires? Are you aware that sunscreen comes in different sizes? Are you aware that some of us have multiple tubes of sunscreen (such as one for face and one for body)? Are you aware that sunscreen can expire after just a year or two?
I also have multiple sunscreens with various levels of SPF. Oh and a regular and a tinted one.
Are you aware that it’s less effective as it ages? Don’t know why you’re being so defensive but this is just a fact.
Yeah, this is actually one of the reasons I don’t think it’s a great idea to just put it on every morning and then forget about it. It wears off. I don’t put it on in the morning, but I do put it on when I know I’m going to go outside, preferably 15-20 minutes before.
It breaks down with sun exposure. It shouldn’t become less effective throughout the day indoors unless you shower or exercise and towel off, in which case obviously yes re-apply.
I absentmindedly rub my face while sitting at my computer, blow my nose a lot, and wipe around my mouth after eating or drinking. It absolutely comes off. Plus zinc oxide is toxic to cats, so I don’t like having it on my hands and face when I’m at home around my cats who always want to come rub on me and lick my hands. I put it on when I go outside and wash it off when I come back in.
I don’t very often but I think we are still supposed to every day.
I do because I am in and out during the day. In the winter when I’m pretty sure I’m not going out, I might rely on my BB cream, which has mineral SPF.
But I also know that no one applies enough makeup to get the listed SPF. So now, during pleasant weather, I apply the full two to three fingers of sunscreen every single day so that I don’t have to worry if I decide to eat my lunch outside.
Lab muffin beauty science is a great resource for SPF information, including whether you should re-apply, and if so, how often.
Here’s a good link on reapplication
https://labmuffin.com/how-to-reapply-sunscreen-over-makeup-with-video/
I’m usually Situation 1 on normal work days and I follow her advice.
Definitely not. I have super pale skin that burns easily, but it’s also really sensitive and does best when I avoid putting anything on it. I WFH nowhere near the windows and alternate between workouts in my basement and outside early in the morning when the sun’s barely up and it’s cool enough to stay all covered up. I wear sunscreen if I’ll really be outside after 7 or so, but that’s actually not a lot of days.
Every single day inside or outside. I have red hair, blue eyes, very fair skin, big windows and family members who died of melanoma.
High five from my sunscreened Fitzpatrick Type I hand to yours.
So much overkill in these comments. Most people on this site do not need daily sunscreen for their sedentary lives.
+1.
Okay but for some it’s a habit and it’s really not hurting anything!
I never wear sunscreen on days when I am at home. If I am going to go out in the middle of the day to run an errand, I will throw on a visor or a hat. I am less concerned with sun protection in the morning or later afternoon hours.
ai don’t use it at all except on my hands when driving (if I remember) unless I am going to be sitting in the sun for a long period of time, like at the beach or pool or on a long hike or daytime outdoor concert.
Outlier here but absolutely not. I only wear sunscreen when I’m going to be in the sun, like at a pool for the day. I do not wear it otherwise. Lots out there debunking the need for it all the time.
Your dermatologist will enjoy your regular business when you hit your 60s.
Already there friend and no, I don’t have issues.
One thing I want to add to all of this is to pay attention to your neck, chest, and particularly your hands. I was always pretty good about my chest and neck, but I regret all the time my hands spent in the sun unprotected. They look older than the rest of me!
So even if I’m throwing on a cap rather than reapplying sunscreen when I take my dog for a quick walk, I put a little SPF on the backs of my hands now. I keep a tube of it in my key basket, so it’s right there. No excuses.
I don’t if it’s a typical day where I’m only going outside to check the mail. If I’m driving, I do. If I’m going to sit outside, I do. But you don’t have to wear sunscreen indoors with no sunlight exposure.
Help! I’m about to board a 15 hour flight and have nothing I want to read on my kindle. I skew toward lit fic and (not super gory) mystery but don’t want anything too heavy while traveling. I read one Elin Hilderbrand and liked it so I downloaded a couple more of hers for the flight but they’re so bad I can’t keep going.
Looking for something older than I can get asap. I’ve read the full catalogues of people like Taylor JR, Liane Moriarty, Ann Patchett, Celeste Ng and Curtis Sittenfeld.
I would download all the Cormoran Strike books and enjoy. There’s a bit of gore but it’s manageable IMO.
I read them all! Thank you though, definitely a good suggestion.
Gone Girl?
Compelling history-reads-like-fiction Eric Larson (Dead Wake, Devil in the White City, etc)
Good Dirt or Black Cale by Charmaine WIlkerson are both excellent though closer to Ann Patchett and Taylor JR/Lian Moriarty. I take it you’ve read The Wedding People? Lady Tan’s Circle of Women was great. Deanna Raybourne has a fun 2-book series – Killers of a Certain Age, and Kills Well with Others (not very gory but there are murders).
Abbi Waxman’s books remind me of Taylor JR, and I’d also suggest Ashley Poston if you’re ok with romance.
Horowitz – Magpie Murders
Diaz – Trust
The wedding people.
Sandra Brown if you just need a mindless mystery. Good for girl meets boy, have good time while solving mystery.
Tana French?
Oryx and Craic (and the sequels) or any other Atwood?
I like the authors you listed. Some others I enjoy: Abbi Waxman (but not her most recent), Rebecca Makai, Claire Messud, esp. The Emperor’s Children, Kevin Wilson. I also have enjoyed the Maid series by Nita Prose.
Thank you! I have read Makkai and Wilson but not the others.
I got an Abby Waxman and it’s good! Thank you
Lighter mystery: Benjamin Stevenson, Anthony Horowitz, Deanna Raybourn, Richard Osman.
Lit Fic: Amor Towles, Colson Whitehead.
just checked my books spreadsheet and remembered I loved Cloud Cuckoo Land by Anthony Doerr, and it might be old enough to be available now.
Similar reading taste here. Have you read Amor Towels? Rules of Civility is my favorite.
Other things that come to mind:
Absolution by Alice McDermott
Long Bright River or God of the Woods by Liz Moore
Blue Sisters by Coco Mellors
The Rachel Incident by Caroline O’Donoghue
All Adults Here by Emma Straub
Writers & Lovers by Lily King
Yes I love Amor Towles! Love him and Liz Moore and The Rachel Incident.
I know you didn’t mention sci fi, but Isaac Asmiov is classic and might be good for a flight.
More contemporary sci fi with a literary bent, Klara and the Sun by Ishiguro is lovely.
Donna Leon’s Brunetti mysteries
Alan Bradley’s Flavia de Luce mysteries
Thursday Murder Club
This request is stressing me out! I cannot imagine boarding that long a flight without books and movies all downloaded, plus music and podcasts.
Ha well the flight has in-flight entertainment and is overnight so I will spend a lot of it sleeping, hopefully. I do have a bunch of books downloaded but they are mostly for my 7 year old daughter, she shares my iPad. Since the library limits you to 10 digital loans at once, I only had two books for myself and then they both sucked.
My fiance got me a lab diamond for my engagement ring, at my insistence. It’s a 2ish carat oval in a simple setting. We posted our engagement announcement over the weekend, and one of his close friends called him afterwards. The friend immediately said, “That looks like a big rock. Is it a lab diamond or real? How much did it cost?” When fiance answered, the friend said “Wow, you are such a cheapskate. My parents would never let me do a lab diamond.”
Is this weird? I feel a bit self-conscious about my ring now, and very judged. Fiance and I both come from very wealthy families and make good money ourselves. He could’ve afforded a natural version of my ring, but I never would’ve wanted him to spend that much money on a piece of jewelry. Fiance’s family is extremely wealthy and well-known, and this friend has frequently made allusions to fiance being rich. He’s made other put-downs of my fiance that I chalked up to insecurity, but I am wondering if everyone will have similar thoughts about my ring as well or if we will have to field questions like this going forward.
Some friends you have.
Hopefully no one else you know will be rude enough to quiz you guys on the cost of your ring. If they are, it’s up to them to feel bad—you don’t need to start feeling bad.
You can’t do anything about what they THINK, and hopefully, you’ll never find out, because they will be gracious enough to keep their thoughts to themselves.
As a born-and-bred Midwesterner, I love when people tell me they got a bargain or saved a lot of money on something.
Your fiance’s friend is weird and gauche.
My work bestie was not from the Midwest but is Chinese American. He loved to tell me that when someone complimented anything his was wearing, she’d say “guess how much!” Her favorite was when things were an “additional” % off. :)
*his MOM
There’s a comedian who has a Netflix special called “Guess How Much” — Jimmy O Yang
people are going to judge you and your decisions for all sorts of dumb reasons. Most of them are at least smart enough not to tell you. Some friend!
The friend is dumb and rude. The fact that he asked shows that most people will not know it’s a lab diamond. And if they do — who cares? Please don’t waste one more moment of brain space on this non issue.
That friend is outrageously rude. It sounds like he has a history of counting other people’s money so don’t put any stock in his opinions. In my circle the lab vs mined decision is more closely linked to how much the couple cares about appearances than their actual wealth.
That’s insane. I feel bad that you need to defend yourselves on the grounds that your fiance is, in fact, rich. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with lab diamonds and there are reasons to get them beyond cost savings.
+1, my ring is a lab diamond for ethics reasons.
Your second paragraph answers the question.
Pre-today’s lab diamonds, my friend got his fiancée a moissanite engagement ring. They chose it together.
At the big reveal, both of their families of origin were there.
His mom (of modest means) said “that’s an awfully big diamond,” implying he spent too much.
So my friend told the assembled family that the stone was a moissanite, and they both explained what moissanite is.
Then his fiancée’s dad (a wealthy man) said “you couldn’t buy my daughter a real diamond?”
Honestly, you can’t win.
At the end of the day, it’s no one’s business! Enjoy your ring, OP!
Why did he tell you?
It is definitely rude but I don’t think it’s as uncommon as others seem to think.
Yikes in my view lab diamonds are much preferable to mined diamonds (with the exception of vintage/second hand). We don’t need to be harming humans or the planet.
Eh, I know why this judgement from a so-called friend feels a bit crappy. Even though you made an informed choice, and your fiance agreed, we are social creatures and it sucks when friends judge us. Best advice I can give you: think about you and your husband 30 years from now. Will you wish that you’d spent more on the ring? Will this matter? Will you continue to make prudent financial decisions and your friends will have opinions about them?
I don’t have a clue what kind of rings my close friends have. Honestly, i couldn’t even describe how they look or tell you what color the metal is or what color the stones are. Except the one friend who has a ring tattoo; that one I know.
Who even GAF about someone else’s jewelry??k
I don’t have a clue what kind of rings my close friends have. Honestly, i couldn’t even describe how they look or tell you what color the metal is or what color the stones are. Except the one friend who has a ring tattoo; that one I know.
Who even GAF about someone else’s jewelry??k
Anyone have brilliant tips on how to fix your posture? I appear to be continuing to age and my hunched-over posture is starting to hurt. Do any of the posture-fixing gimmicks (electronics, fancy sports bras) actually work or do I need to just remember to sit up straight?
Adult ballet class.
I have a kid with autism and had to explain “adult superstore” on an I-77 the other week. IDK if other languages are like this, but it is crazy how we use (and don’t use” “adult” as an adjective. Next thing you know, she is asking to confirm each instance she sees of it (beverages, coloring books, and now ballet classes). Chuckling.
My autistic adult self finds this hilarious because my brain has to mentally differentiate words with multiple meanings such as adult.
lol
I hosted a birthday party for families (grownups and kids) so I got a pinata for the kids and one for the grownups. Because who doesn’t love bashing a pinata.
My mistake was calling it the Adult Pinata. There were participants who were unpleasantly surprised that it burst open to reveal only candy.
Farmers walks
How much weight do you carry and how far do you go? I know the general idea but not the specifics.
I do 30 pounds in each had but started with 15. I keep my back straight (try to touch my shoulder blades) and walk one foot in front of the other in a heel/toe movement.
Usually I go across the gym floor and back again x3.
No, none of those gimmicks work.
Have an ergonomic work-place – chair, computer monitor set up.
Every time I am up and standing/waiting, I clasp my arms behind my back. One hand encircling the wrist of the other. My Yoga teacher taught me that one. Forces you to stand up straight, opens up the the chest, shoulders back. It reminds you of good posture so you will be more likely to do it more.
Yoga. Pilates. Strengthen the core.
Most people have poor posture. It really ages you. Curved hunched shoulders, back hump, wrinkly neck (tech neck).
And don’t surf on your phone. Terrible posture there.
Social media suggests taking walks with your hands clasped behind your back like an old person. Seems reasonable.
I find that I have better posture when I walk with a weighted vest.
The support garments work great as reminders for me. They’re not holding me up for me, but they make it slightly irritating not to have good posture, so I hold myself up and maintain good posture more often while I’m not focusing on it.
When I remember, I try to imagine a string pulling the top of my head upwards
Core strength is important. If your core is weak, everything else suffers. For me, swimming and yoga are fantastic.
What kind of pans do you recommend? I’ve been using ceramic coated nonstick pans, but my latest set only lasted about 5 years before getting pretty scratched up (and I don’t use metal utensils ever, I think it’s from normal cleaning). Should I take the plunge on stainless? I find cast iron too heavy for daily use.
I only use nonstick for pancakes and eggs. Stainless is great for everything else and lasts forever. I had some cheap ones from Cuisinart for 20 years and they were great. I had to replace them when we got an induction stove and went with All-Clad, which I love.
Get All Clad and you’ll have it for the rest of your life.
I only keep a small nonstick pan for eggs. You do not need a nonstick pan for basically anything else, and I know some people are gonna argue with me about the eggs.
I have Le Creuset for Dutch oven type cooking, but for sauteeing and normal stovetop cooking, the All Clad gets used 95% of the time.
I wish we could upload photos so I could show my near-perfectly clean stainless steel pan after making scrambled eggs. All I ask is that people acknowledge that it can be done and it’s not even hard.
QED
We got a set of All-Clad for our wedding almost 20 years ago, and after supplementing with cheaper non-stick pans for years, we finally converted our whole collection to All-Clad. It’s GREAT!
I only use stainless and will never use nonstick again – it’s so toxic (directly applying PFAS chemicals to your food under heat is bad in lots of ways) and it’s a money sink replacing them anyway. You do not need nonstick for eggs; I eat eggs daily using my stainless pans. The trick is to heat the pans fully before adding the oil.
This trick works. The stainless steel egg pan is the cleanest pan I put in the dishwasher every day.
Only wish someone had taught it to me sooner so I could skip fussing over nonstick pans altogether.
We have a mix of stainless, cast iron and other non-stick pans. The base model AllClad D3 stainless has held up well, and barkeeps best friend will get it shiny again. Also recommend going to William Sonoma to look at their house brand. It is all manufactured by the big names (but for a fraction of the Hestan price).
Cast iron. My burners on my stove hold the weight, not sure what’s wrong with your setup if that’s an issue.
In high school, I had some friends who were “service academy or bust.” Some of them even did a post-grad year of high school to try again to get in (you can’t transfer into those schools). Many made it and have spent their lives in the military and many had to do fund college this way due to budgetary constraints (but otherwise wanted this as a career). I have friends who did ROTC in college or joined the military after college. I am close to a kid who has wanted to go to the USNA all the time I’ve known her (since grade school). She is a senior this year and would be a great candidate, but I think it’s a crapshoot. If you’ve been in the military, either from a service academy or ROTC, am I right to think that each is a valid and good path? I think that traditional college is so different than a service academy, but an upside it may be hard to see is that you only really get to do college once and that it will be a very special time doing it and looking back on? Like I know she will be so disappointed if she doesn’t get into Annapolis, but it’s no slight on her and she will ultimately be able to do what she wants at any other school that is lucky to have her? [Intellectually, I know that this is true and have friends on both sides, but I think it can be prickly to ask in person and I value you all telling me if I’m hella wrong.]
What? You know somebody and you’re skeptical of her very reasonable ambitions? Keep that opinion to yourself.
This sounds like one of those random college hypotheticals. Again.
I think it’s the same anxious poster writing word salad.
What is your question? At this point you say nothing and let kid pursue her dream. If she doesn’t get in, which is a real possibility, you can then be supportive of other paths.
Huh?
OP is asking if not getting into USNA in Annapolis and instead pursuing a career through ROTC will allow similar career paths and opportunities.
Why is everyone struggling so much with reading comprehension today?
Because the question is incomprehensible.
+1. I don’t think that’s her question.
Why on earth are you posting this? Just be supportive of her. This seems to have actually nothing to do with you at all
Did she ask for your opinion?
I think what you’re searching for here is : “Congratulations on your decision! I’m rooting for you!”
I mean, if she wants to be a General, service academy is a better start on the politics you need to play than ROTC. But both commissioning paths (as well as non-ROTC, just commission and go to OCS once you have a degree) will get you some bars on your shoulder and a career. It really doesn’t matter THAT much. Officers typically need advanced degrees to get promoted past O4, so she’ll have another chance to get fancy ed credentials if she makes a career of military service.
However…you don’t need to bring any of this up. If she’s disappointed about not getting into the USNA, you commiserate that sometimes things don’t go as planned but you’re sure she’ll land on her feet. If she is excited about being accepted to a ROTC program at a different university, you congratulate her without comparison to USNA.