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how much time do you/your friends spend gossiping about other people? DH and I hosted a bday party over the weekend and at the end were there with just a few couples and well the other women all had quite a bit to drink, while DH and I were very sober and I realize alcohol probably accounts for some of it but all they were doing was badmouthing their “friends” and talking about what they dont like about different people. got me thinking, i wonder what they are saying about me when i’m not around. i didnt want to seem like some goody two shoes as i’m not some saint who never gossips, but i wasn’t sure how to shut down the incessant talking about people behind their backs
had a similar situation this weekend with at a mom dinner. do think alcohol enhances it. i just didn’t participate, let them get it out and then brought the conversation back aground. That said, i think if i had more time to prepare i might say something like
“i read an article that saying nice things out loud makes you believe them just as much as saying not nice things so i’m trying to not gossip.” it would be hard to pull this off without sounding a little smug…. i do think total non responsiveness can be effective.
Eh this feels polyannaish. I don’t think there’s virtue in trying to gaslight yourself into thinking nice things about everyone. Few people are very bad, and few people are very good. I don’t try to convince myself the median person is very good, since I know truthfully that they aren’t.
I gossip a ton about DH’s friends, but it’s because I can’t stand them. The men are gross and at least a few voted for Trump. DH is trying to pull back a little bit, but our truce is – I will come to events, but I’m allowed to have as many judgments as I want and can vocalize them freely with other people as gossip.
With people I’m actually friends with? Literally never. If I had negative feelings or judgments I just wouldn’t be friends with them.
If your friends are complaining about minor issues with other people, they are almost definitely gossiping about you too. If they’re gossiping about big, morally objectionable things, it’s probably that they have a problem with staying friends with people they don’t actually respect.
Very, very little. I actually sometimes wish there were a little more? I feel like a lot of my friends have an unwritten zero tolerance policy for talking specifics/concretes about mutual acquaintances and what they’re going through, and sometimes it feels like it cuts down on a sense of community? But it clearly makes people uncomfortable to feel like we’re discussing someone else’s life. Maybe it’s always a little low class, like people recoil from any sense of element of entertainment in discussing someone else’s difficulties or drama or just quirks? It’s still okay to say “what I appreciate about” so-and-so without being passive aggressive though, so maybe it’s for the best. I grew up in a much more gossipy community and didn’t love that either! I’d definitely assume that people who badmouth in front of me are badmouthing about me too.
Very little. Admittedly I think it used to be more, but covid culled my group of friends and I really only spend time with the people I genuinely like.
My MIL gossips incessantly and I think that’s also encouraged me to gossip less because I find it incredibly annoying when it’s all she does. It’s boring and there are so many other interesting things in the world to discuss than so-and-so’s weight gain or whatever.
Reminds me of that Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “ Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Pompous people discuss ideas, boring people discuss events, and fun people discuss people.
No darling, that is not fun is bad manners.
Feel free to not sit by me sweetie
Hahahaha, yes.
I see a difference between talking about someone and badmouthing someone. Among a wider circle there’s some chatter but it isn’t inherently negative- more like X is clearly getting anxious that Y won’t propose, it seems like A pressured B into buying that house A doesn’t love. We’re not saying X is annoying or Y has terrible fashion sense. The latter would make me think those people are petty and will badmouth me at some point.
some of this was one mom saying that she doesnt like a certain person and then the other mom saying she also doesn’t like them, and i am not like bff with this other person, more just acquaintances, and i do see their point with this other person being somewhat annoying, but like say it once and move on. then person A was talking about person B who i thought was one of her bffs sent her a text that A’s daughter is a mean girl, sent a text to a group about how B’s husband bought B very fancy/expensive jewelry for mother’s day, how B apparently cheated on her husband (and told people this?)….i kind of wanted to be like, why on earth are you friends with this person….and then the next day A posts pics on social media with B at a kid’s performance like everyone is bff.
Mature adults don’t discuss those things in mixed company. If they want to indulge in catty gossip then do it one on one with a close friend. What you’re describing would make me uncomfortable, like I’m somehow endorsing their views by standing there
I don’t think that mixed company means what you think it means?
This is what I do with friends too. We definitely talked about a couple where the guy didn’t propose for the longest time. I think this is just talking about people, its not malicious gossiping.
My friend group does this. I normally try to stay out of it, unless we are gossiping/venting about our parents antics.
My general guide is that a lot of stories are not mine to tell (e.g., your trauma is not mine to share). Likewise, I will always try to give your news the joy it deserves (e.g., even if I already know, I will be just as excited as the first time I heard the news).
I’ve never met anyone who has gossiped to me who hasn’t gossiped about me.
Very little. I was part of these types of friend groups and left for this very reason. Of course my friends from childhood and I will gossip about what someone we know is up to. Or someone will share news about mutual friends but not this I don’t like this person stuff as soon as that person is gone. Just don’t be friends with that person if that’s the case.
In my experience, there are just some women who never leave middle school and the related drama behind. Most of my friends and I spend our time talking about our own lives.
Almost never. I don’t say this because I think I’m a particularly good person or anything (I am not) but I like my friends and don’t have bad things to say about them. I If I didn’t like them, I wouldn’t be friends with them.
It’s a big part of mom friend culture where I am and I really hate it and am not really close with anyone in large part because of it. If they’re gossiping to you, they’re also gossiping about you.
In my circle there will occasionally be discussions about other people, but only in a one-on-one setting and mostly in the vein of analyzing why the person about whom we are “gossiping” made certain choices and why we would make similar or different choices, or brainstorming about how to deal with a difficult person, or discussing how much we admire a certain person and why.
I have a pretty big circle of mixed female and male friends. We speak out of concern but not out of malice or gossip. Sometimes it is about someone’s relationship that seems off in some way, or it could be fear that my guy friend has anorexia, or that someone is drinking to excess and we want to figure out if there something else going on. That usually happens in a pretty small group, say three of us, and in sort of hushed tones. I can’t imagine speaking ill of friends as a sport at this stage. There is someone who regularly bad mouths my friends and I really just try to stay away from her and I often mention it to the friends – not the specifics, just that she is nasty behind their backs. They know but she goes back a long way and has some tragedy in her backstory so she is kept around.
Almost never. One of us would politely change the topic. Only exception is if it is someone who isn’t part of the friend group. Like sworn arch nemesis at past job, PTO bully who isn’t part of the group, etc. did X or embarrassed themselves by doing Y.
If it were someone in the friend group or even tangential, it would be one one-on-one and never in an unkind way. “I wish X would finally propose to Y. I don’t know why he’s waiting so long–they seem perfect together…”
I really think there’s a lot of nuance in this. There’s talking s#!t, which is always uncomfortable. But also, talking S#!t about the neighbor who made his wife move out, immediately moved in his “roommate”, and started bringing her to every single thing/role wife used to do? Nah, that guy can get gossiped about. Gossip sometimes helps set healthy societal norms.
Then there’s talking about what other people are doing in a pretty positive way, which my friends do a lot when we’re together. I think it’s very much a community building thing.
There’s also a form of gossip that is pivotal in social justice movements. like if you never talk about that sh!tty thing the boss did to the other guy, you’re never going to realize that something is systematic vs. one offs. But the spreading and collating of the stories would be deemed “gossip”.
The podcast Normal Gossip is one of my favorites, and each guest talks bout their relationship to gossip at the beginning. It really made me think way beyond the “all gossip is bad” trope.
I don’t even drink but I feel hungover after a particularily mean gossip session. I have become painfully aware that when I am feeling bad, I am more suseptable to this behavior. That said, random mean gossip in a group is different than venting about a friend. As an example have a good friend and we have another mutual friend from work. On occassion, I might say, “She is really getting on my nerves when she does this or that!” In that case, I am not wanting to pick a fight with my friend. Just seeking commisseration.
In connection with a job role change, my manager and I had discussed my being eligible to earn bonuses in the new role. Afterward, a much higher-up forbade her from offering me bonuses. She wants to compensate by offering me something else that I’d value.
I have paid holidays, PTO separate from sick days, and the standard tuition reimbursement. I don’t want fewer in office days. My company is small and there’s no promotion / advancement path from my new role. I’m 60 and this will likely be my last job in the paid workforce.
Something that motivates me is the opportunity for overseas business travel. In the last couple of years I’ve been selected for that travel due to my expertise and contacts. I think I’d prefer to earn the travel that way, rather than ask for it as a benefit.
If you were in my shoes, what would you ask for? Thanks!
i don’t understand– your boss said they wont give you a bonus but would “pay” you in some other way? like a first class airline ticket? i’ve never heard of anything like this…..
I would ask for a higher salary and/or more PTO – something with cash value.
Higher base salary. More vacation days. That’s it. They need you to do the travel, that’s a business need not a reward to you personally and you should be compensated for it.
If you live in a state where PTO is cashed out at the end of your time at a company, definitely ask for PTO (and make sure your rollover isn’t capped each year). This would mean real money/a big check given to you at the end of your time at that company.
I would also ask for higher base. Give them something that they can negotiate to save face with their boss–she asked for X, I gave her X-Y, to make it seem like they’re playing ball with both of you.
OP here – because she can’t give the bonus, she’s looking for something that she has the authority to offer in lieu. She suggested fewer in-office days, but that’s not important to me (it is something my peers would value).
How flexible are your hours? If you have finished your work, can you leave early? What about summer hours (so long as work is getting done, you can leave at noon on Fridays?)
How would we know what she has the authority to offer you? Maybe go home at 3 pm every Friday?
Logging off early Friday afternoons in summer, extra guaranteed PTO surrounding holidays (Wednesday to Friday the week of Thanksgiving, Friday before Labor Day weekend), annual stipend of $X for things like an ergonomic keyboard or portable monitor or airpods, expensing $X for lunch each month, upgrading flights to business class
The moms site is full of deeply in-the-weeds questions today, and it’s got me pondering the longer view. So, parents with grown(ish) kids: looking back, what were the things that mattered and what didn’t? I’m specifically interested in the surprising answers – what did you tie yourself in knots over that ended up being a stage…and what did you kind of ignore or “mess up” that had a bigger impact than you expected?
I noticed that too – SO in the weeds. Nothing wrong with that but it feels very different from the parenting many of us grew up with.
My kid is young, but I will say that I’ve heard from multiple generations of family members that focusing on body weight and diets was really, really damaging to kids. Multiple people have repeated negative comments they received as kids (from their parents) absolutely verbatim decades later.
I’ll add on this to go even a bit further. My mom had (has) an eating disorder which has lasted her 2/3rds of her life. When I was younger, she used to say all the time “you NEVER comment on a woman’s weight.” She even told some of my male friends this. She was so adamant and talked about not talking about it so often that it did the opposite of her intent. Because of course the implication is that there’s something of interest about me to comment on! And truly I believe all she was trying to do was stop someone making some kind of damaging comment that put me on the same lifelong path as her.
Anyways, with my daughter, I hope to never speak of anything other than how to be healthy, but who knows…maybe that will be the thing she remembers I did which traumatized her.
With the caveat that we are still in the early years, I have cared way less about sleep hygiene (dark room, sound machine, wake windows, etc.) with my second than I did with my first. The results have been basically the same, but the stress has been 95% less.
I think my biggest thing I feel I messed up was keeping my kid at a school that was a poor fit socially because it had a prestigious immersion program and fed into a “better” high school. I should have pulled her from that school earlier- the teachers and students at our home school were much kinder and my kid was a lot happier once we left the toxic first school.
Same. We send one kid to a competitive arts school that her elementary school suggested. It was for some performing arts kids, but not everyone can star in every play and middle school is a rough place, even for the super-stars. Too many kids in mental health crises, no one caring, making bad friends. This all has had a long tail that I regret immensely. Initially, I leaned on “kid picked this and will be broken by moving her,” but she was broken more by proximity to a bad crowd that really broke and bullied her worse than her basic neighborhood school.
+1 my kid is younger, but we pulled her out of her district’s gifted class that was a good fit academically and a terrible fit socially and we have no regrets. She’s so much happier in mainstream classes. She is still on track to take the most advanced classes in high school (if she wants), but honestly even if she weren’t, being tormented by the hypercompetitive “gifted kids” (who I fully believe are mostly just uber-tiger parented and not actually all that smart) was not worth it.
Man, I’m deep, deep, deep in the weeds with decisions that feel really weighty for tweens, and so I’m anxiously awaiting responses to this thread to help give me perspective.
I’m one of the posters who is probably too in the weeds on kid social stuff, but it’s because I really struggled in this area as a kid and I think my parents should have done more to help me. I basically didn’t have friends as a child until high school when one other social outcast girl and I became friends basically by default, and we didn’t even really like each other, we just didn’t have anyone else to talk to. My parents aren’t socially adept themselves and some of this is clearly innate personality so I’m not sure they could have entirely fixed the issue but as an adult it’s really odd to me that they didn’t notice or care that I had zero friends or make any attempts to help me make friends. So yeah I know I worry about my kids’ social stuff too much but it’s because I’ve seen the impacts of under-worrying.
On 95% of other parenting issues – sleep, feeding, sports, academics – I think I’m pretty chill and not helicoptery.
+1
We tend to over-parent in the areas where our parents under-parented.
I would tread cautiously here if you didn’t “get it” yourself, seek some guidance from friends who were socially adept and be prepared to listen to their advice.
Yup that’s what I’m saying — that’s why I post a lot about social stuff on the moms page. On other issues I trust my gut and the gut is usually “it doesn’t matter.”
My mom could tell I was a nerdy kid and pushed me to be more well-rounded, into pop culture, etc. Like specifically telling me, after having overheard a conversation, that I needed to be more lighthearted and not be so excited about how a thing we’d learned in science class was happening IRL on the swingset, or discouraging me from hanging out with kids she thought were geeky.
This had some real benefits long-term for career advancement, as I can both nerd out on specifics and also communicate well, etc. And some of it – like keeping up with style – is actually fun for me. However, it’s made it hard to form deeper friendships since I was so well taught how to modify my “real self” for the public. My husband and my best friend are the exceptions!
This is so interesting. I can definitely see the career benefits part, but also the hiding part. My mom did a little bit of this (but honestly I was very oblivious to it) and I think its an issue for me in dating bc I feel like in social situations I should keep a front up. I don’t do it at work or with friends though. For work I’ve found a career path where I can have my true personality, and I do wish that I had always been told that I could be the way I am instead of modifying it. Sure maybe I could tone it down but there was never any need to modify it that much. And it made me upset and nervous, which was a worse outcome.
She did you a solid. Somewhere along the way (much later than it should have been) I was advised not to talk about homework for small talk (or “work, work” now that I’m an adult). Has helped tremendously. Young me thought it was just bonding. Now I’ve learned that folks don’t want to unwind by thinking about… work.
OP of this comment. You’re totally right about not just talking about work all the time! I’m just curious what my life would have looked like if I’d been allowed to be social on my own terms. My example came from a school thing but could just as easily have come from, say, curiosity over the behind-the-scenes logistics of cruise ship operations if a friend was going on a cruise vacation. Mom would have said “OP, next time ask her about what swimsuits she’s bringing, rather than talking about how hard it must be to predict what everyone will eat the most of.”
Your mom was right, you probably have a lot more friends and have done better professionally because of her guidance here. There’s always going to be the one person who gets into a subject, but it’s not most people.
OK, but the moms board is a safe space to be in the weeds so you don’t bore your family and friends with these details.
I have a teen and some of the stuff that I saw becoming a problem is, in fact, a problem. Even though we were trying to coach him through it, some of the social stuff that was a problem when he was a young kid is … still a problem.
Oh for sure! I ask my share of weeds questions, too. But most of us have like 10 years of data (tops) and while we think we know…perhaps we have no idea, lol. My oldest is almost 10 and I have four kids; I feel like I have a solid grasp on babies and toddlers, but I still wonder about the paths our choices are sending us down.
I don’t want to derail with a lightning rod, but screen time and travel sports are very contentious topics over there, and while people chime in that their kid did X and is doing great…the kid is 11 so do we actually know?
Honestly, I think parents are hesitant to limit screen time for many reasons, but there seem to be real, measurable differences in behavior for a lot of families when limits are in place. I’ve heard countless friends and family members say that at this point. It’s a more complex subject than can be dealt with here, but long story short, it seems like the peer-reviewed and anecdotal evidence agree that lots of screen time for young kids is bad in the short and long term.
Sheesh, it obviously wasn’t a criticism.
Oh – the. number of things that parenting groups and books told me were so important and that were just not (at least for us):
(1). All the sleep stuff.
(2) Food. Feed your kids moderate amounts of all the different kinds of food they want to eat including sugar and snacks. Stop stressing about the details. The occasional cupcake or Lunchable is not going to kill them or lead to a lifetime of unhealthy eating.
(3). TV. Let your kid watch whatever age appropriate things they want to watch in moderation. Half an hour of Barney is not going to rot their brains and will make your life so much easier. Same for playing a game on an iPad during a long dinner or plane travel. Kids can understand that the rules are different on vacation or the three hour wedding reception.
(4). College selection. Turns out that kid is doing just fine career wise with the definitely mid-range school she got in to and that fit her personality and interests. She would have been much happier in middle and high school if I had gotten off the high pressure train sooner (although I jumped off her junior year when it became clear it was really bad for her mental health).
What I think they were actually right about? Social media and smart phone use really is the devil and should be avoided as long as possible.
I think smartphones for young kids and social media are huge mistakes – and it’s not just what I think, but what’s borne out in the data.
This is a funny comment because “the data” can’t reflect adults or any numbers of significance because social media hasn’t been around that long. It’s intuitive, but I don’t buy data driven.
Teen mental health has plummeted into the basement since smartphones were introduced. It doesn’t appear to be purely correlation.
I am a longtime poster on the moms’ site whose kid is now an older teen. I think the parenting “experts” are to blame for a lot of the angst over seemingly small matters, and it’s not just a new phenomenon sparked by the rise of the “influencers.” Back when my teen was an infant Dr. Spock’s attachment parenting and Dr. Karp’s Happiest Baby on the Block, along with the La Leche League and lacation consultants, were huge sources of pressure for new moms. My pediatrician, who was a disciple of Spock, told me I’d damage the baby’s brain if I set her down to cry so I could eat something or use the bathroom or take a shower. For at least the past two or three decades, society has decided that any problem a child has for the rest of his or her life is the direct result of faulty mothering, which forces mothers to try and optimize every aspect of their infants’ lives. What I learned early on is that you can’t fight nature. You have to let babies sleep when they are programmed to sleep and eat when and what they are programmed to eat. My life improved immensely when I stopped trying to put my night-owl baby to bed at 7:00 p.m. and let her stay up until 1:00, when she was apparently genetically programmed to fall into a deep sleep for 8 hours. I now deeply regret BF’ing and wish I’d simply followed my baby’s preference for bottle-feeding instead of making heroic efforts to BF. Over and over again, I had to learn to let her take the lead instead of forcing her to live out my dreams for her or my vision of what parenting should be like. We insisted on certain things such as doing her best in school, treating others with dignity and politeness, learning basic adulting skills, etc., but we let her choose her own passions and path even when we thought we knew better. I have some pangs of envy when I see other kids doing certain things I think mine should have done, but on the other hand when I compare her to the tiger moms’ kids she’s every bit as successful and much happier.
i mean hindsight is 20/20, right? if we could all parent and make decisions with the benefit of hindsight life would be so much easier.
each kid is just SO different that i think it is hard to know what is really important and that can vary from kid to kid. im still in the parenting stage, but i can think of two things my parents did, that i’m sure they. meant well with but gave me major self confidence issues. (1) one was that in middle/high school i didnt have a ton of friends, and my parents were very very social people (like went out every single saturday night with another couple). i was always pressured to make plans, and felt like there was something wrong with me if i didnt have plans…but i think i would’ve been perfectly content relaxing at home on a saturday night sometimes, but i was always made to feel bad about it. as an adult, i’m an introvert, but also feel bad/like i have no friends if i dont have plans with other people which i think is rooted in that. (2) the second is that i was told that i was ‘bad’ at “English” (as a school subject, not as a language) well, there are definitely people out there who are much more gifted writers than i am, and English was the one class in high school i didnt take as honors/advanced, but I purposefully pursued a major in college that didnt involve writing papers, and idk if its bc i was genuinely more interested in the topic i chose or bc i did not like writing papers, and maybe i didnt like writing papers bc i was supposedly bad at it? i couldn’t have been THAT bad as I attended an ivy for undergrad and a top 5 law school, but to this day i have an internal narrative that im not a good writer and often think i’m far from the smartest in the room
I agree with this comment. The comments above about wishing parents had pushed kids to be more normal socially are interesting but don’t resonate with my experience. I had a lot of social problems, especially in high school (interestingly, middle school was better, which I think is not the norm) and I think the single best thing my parents did was never make me feel like a loser for being home with them on Friday nights. I knew I was weird and had no friends, I didn’t need my parents reminding me of that fact and it did wonders for my self-esteem that they pretended it was nice and normal for a teen to be at home on a Friday night hanging out with them and not at the football game or the hockey game or the movies or whatever. I have some qualms with their parenting, but that’s a big thing they got right.
What does matter: Making them feel loved and secure, teaching them to cope with emotions and to work hard and to be self-sufficient, keeping their academic options open (which usually means taking the most advanced courses offered and doing as well as possible in them), identifying and addressing learning differences early on, teaching them to recognize and reject toxic cultural norms, teaching them to read and write and think critically because school certainly won’t do that, teaching them to stand up for themselves and their values.
What doesn’t matter: What travel soccer team they make at age 7, whether they are allowed to eat birthday cake at age 1, sleep schedules, chore charts, preventing them from ever watching any educational television, whether they get the citizen of the month award in elementary school.
I regret all of the energy I wasted by pumping and by beating myself up about not pumping as long as some other women. I also regret any time I wasted reading anything by Dr. Sears (the attachment parenting guy) because it made me miserable and anxious about much I was harming my kid over things like sticking them in a bouncer so I could shower.
My kids are teens and they are fine even though they slept in their own cribs and their own rooms.
I am helping my elderly dad manage some bills. He prepaid two insurance policies, one for his house (under contract when the bill came with a septic system repair that could have delayed the closing into the policy period) and the other for cars (one totalled during the policy period, and two sold before the period began). The house sold before the policy period began (miraculously). I keep calling the agent and e-mailing and . . . crickets. My understanding is that if you let insurance lapse, something horrible happens and you are screwed. But paying for insurance that you could never claim on seems to be refundable and the agent hasn’t said no refunds, but the agent also doesn’t do anything to refund the $. Call State Farm’s main office? Get on twitter and rant? I don’t know how to move forward on this and it has been months and months. Ugh. I’ve kept records of my e-mails to him, but calling is pleasant but nothing results that I can see.
So you said “I’m requesting cancellation and a refund” and he said “nice weather we’re having”?
OP basically yes, exactly.
Are you asking him pretty please, he’s not answering, and you then just kind of go “okay” and hope for the best? Or are you informing him you are canceling and expect a refund as of the date your request was first entered, and then staying on the line/in his office until his written confirmation arrives?
Next step for me would be my bank to see about clawing back payments, and the state insurance regulator.
Yes, start going up the chain. Call the main office and tell them that you’re having a problem and that no one is getting back to you. Ask for a specific place to email/call.
https://www.statefarm.com/customer-care/manage-your-accounts/cancel-my-policy
can you circumvent your agent by calling the 1-800 number for the car insurance, or writing a letter about both to request cancellation? I don’t see anything about backdating your cancellation though.
The above link also has a link to “change my agent” — maybe that would be most helpful?
Has anyone purchased a couch from Joybird? What was your experience? I’m looking at a sectional from them.
Any recent tv shows you recommend? I need something new to watch with DH
We just finished The Four Seasons on Netflix. Really funny, with some depth
Friends and Neighbors on Apple. Jon Hamm is basically playing a 2025 version of Don Draper but it’s so good.
Yellowjackets. It’s terribly dark. But I love that they show a 40s woman who is realistic (except for the murder bits).
Lollllll the woman who is realistic. I know what you mean though.
It is terrible dark, but DH and I just watched the second season and now I keep making references to it that no one in my real life understands. So I need more people to watch this please.
We’re a little late to the game, but we’re watching The Pitt. Next on the list is the next season of The Last of Us.
Co-sign The Pitt. And if you are having withdrawal now that the season is over, there are plenty of “doctor reaction to The Pitt” videos on You Tube that are actually enjoyable.
I am from NJ. I played a team sport. I now drive a minivan. I look “realistic.” I am watching just for Shauna.
The Residence on Netflix
We stumbled on a TV version of Murderbot (I learned about the books on here and read them all and loved them) on Apple TV last night and both my husband (who hasn’t read the books) and I really enjoyed it. Only problem is they only drop one episode a week.
The Pitt. It’s so good.
The best thing I’ve seen this year is Andor, and I’m not a huge Star Wars fan. Not so new but still good: Shrinking, Say Nothing, Shogun, Somebody Somewhere, Slow Horses, The Sympathizer.
Shrinking was so good.
Also it was shot in Pasadena, CA and the shelter porn is out of this world!
This made me chuckle just because of the preponderance of S! (Esses?)
I stumbled upon Naked and afraid the other day. The novelty of seeing neked people bumbling around in the woods made it quite amusing for the first episode. After that, I realized i was just watching people starve for 2 weeks. So, it’s good for one episode.
We are watching the last of us. I think it’s scary.
We loved The Residence, are halfway through Man on the Inside and are enjoyingthe first few episodes of the second season of Poker Face. (If you haven’t seen season 1, start there. It’s on Peacock).
+1 to the Residence!
I liked the first season of Poker Face but haven’t watched S2 yet. Ditto for whatever season this is for Hacks.
Ghosts (in US and UK) are both excellent!
Paradise on Hulu
New seasons of White Lotus, Yellow jackets, Handmaid’s Tale, and The Chi have kept me occupied. Hacks is next. Then I want to watch Slow Horses and finally knock out Severance. I keep starting and restarting Severance, I think because I tend to do something while watching and it needs attention.
Slow Horses is great!!
The two shows I’ve most loved in recent years are Somebody, Somewhere (HBO, 3 seasons) and Dark Winds (AMC, 3 seasons so far). I also love Yellowjackets, but my husband is scared of them lol.
Season 2 of Andor is hands-down the best Star Wars content ever created other than the three original movies. Even if you don’t like Star Wars, it’s just great television with timely themes.
Dark Winds is also great.
Also: Thank you, Kat, for finally getting the name and email fields to stay populated!
Agreed! I might have said “yay” out loud at my desk on Friday when I noticed that…