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Herbie
Corporettes… this is sad, but I wanted to share with you because I think it’s so amazing. A classmate of mine from high school is expected to lose his struggle with cancer in the next few days. He’s only 30. He’s been keeping a blog documenting his fight. It’s brutally honest at times and sprinkled with humor at others. Anyway, this is potentially his last post, and I wanted to share it with you because of the grace, dignity, and courage he shows. I don’t know him well, but I am proud to have known someone like him at all. I hope I can be half as brave in dealing with my future obstacles.
http://jeffsfightwithcancer.blogspot.com/2011/06/no-more-cords-procedures-or-tests.html
LALaw
Thank you for sharing, Herbie. Prayers and comfort to your former classmate, his family and friends.
Louise
Wow, Herbie, Jeff sounds like a really strong a special person. Thanks for sharing his words and his story.
houda
Wow. Jeff has a strong personality and dignity. I pray that he leaves in comfort and that his family will find the strength to last after his loss.
Runnin' for it
That is really gorgeous. It is a little much for my office (federal government litigation, business casual offfice where most of the men wear khakis), but I would wear this in a heartbeat with a cocktail dress out on the town or on a date.
Valleygirl
I just wanted to share some good news I just found out – my husband (marketing/media writer by day/aspiring screenwriter by night) just found out he placed in a pretty prestigious screenwriting contest :) Super exciting because the contest publicizes the winners and nearly all past winners have gotten representation/their scripts purchased. I’m doing a mini-victory dance for him at my desk and just so happy for him because he’s been working his butt off for so long at this and it seems like it’s finally paying off.
IT Geek
Major congrats!
Ru
That’s awesome, congratulations!
Lynnet
That’s awesome! Congratulations to him on breaking into an enormously difficult field.
houda
he must be very happy! congrats and let us know the movie name once it gets on screen
Valleygirl
I just wanted to share some good news I just found out – my husband (marketing/media writer by day/aspiring screenwriter by night) just found out he placed in a pretty prestigious screenwriting contest :) Super exciting because the contest publicizes the winners and nearly all past winners have gotten representation/their scripts purchased. I’m doing a mini-victory dance for him at my desk and just so happy for him because he’s been working his butt off for so long at this and it seems like it’s finally paying off.
Awful Lawful
Wow. I think this is beautiful and a good price for the look (especially given the discount!). Would this be appropriate for work or is it too flashy? I really like it, but I’m having trouble envisioning how I would wear it to the office.
b23
I agree, this is beautiful. I think it would look fantastic with a white button up, for one thing. And it’s long enough that it wouldn’t be weird with the collar. That and a navy pencil skirt would be awesome.
Pam
Hi ladies. I need some advice. I’m a first year attorney at a NY biglaw firm. I am very good friends with another first year in my practice group. We get along great at work and we hang out outside of work as well. I am so thankful every day that I have someone to turn to when I’m stressed/nervous/upset/confused about my work, the partners, firm life in general, etc. All good.
But here’s the dilemma – we’re both relatively young for our group, and I worry that she comes off as a bit immature at times. I’m not trying to pretend like I am the absolute epitome of professionalism at all times, but I try to be conscious of the fact that others likely perceive us as young. I don’t think she is quite as aware of that. Assuming I’m right that others in our practice do view her as a bit immature, do I run the risk of being considered young/immature/naive because I am friends with her? And if so, what do I do about it? She is a great friend, and I’m not looking to end our friendship. I just want to know if there’s anything I can do to change how others might be viewing me. Thanks!
Lydia
It certainly is possible that who your friends are at work can be seen as a reflection on you. That doesn’t mean you should drop her as a friend since she seems to be a good friend to you. I think they key is to avoid being considered a pair. When one attorney thinks of her, he or she should not automatically think of you. Therefore, I would try to hang out more often (if you don’t already) in group settings at work. Don’t always be seen at work together – lunch just the two of you, coffee break just the two of you or hanging out in each other’s offices. If you guys want time for just the two of you together, save it for weekends or after work.
Anonymous
I often feel like I’m the “immature” friend. Depsite my law degree, my marriage, and my son, I try not to take life or myself too seriously. I’ve befriended the clerks at our office (who are playful and fun). And while I always take my work seriously, I try to keep a positive and bright environment. I’m a playful and cheerful person and perhaps that comes across as a bit immature. I just can’t be stuffy and boring but I hope it doesn’t get me into trouble….
Honey Bear
I agree with Lydia.
anonymous
Speaking as a partner, I have to say that I think that most of the time most of us are oblivious to who is friends with whom, and even when we learn about friendships we don’t really care. Just don’t hang out giggling in the hallways and you should be okay.
Burnout
For the past couple weeks I’ve been incapable of doing anything at work. I have so much to do but end up just sitting at my desk reading news, checking email etc., and sometimes just want to cry for no particular reason. I still like my job and can’t imagine doing anything else. I’ve been going at marathon speed for about two years. Could I just be burned out?
Herbie
Yes.
MaggieLizer
Sounds like it’s time for a vacation. Preferably somewhere warm. With a fruity drink with a little umbrella.
Fiona
I don’t know where you are in the country, but here in Boston, I’ve been having a hard time at work now that the summer is here. It feels like torture to be inside at my desk when it’s so beautiful and sunny outside. I think years and years of “last day of school” and summer break around this time burned into my psyche. I’ve personally been combatting it with lunches outside as much as possible, but even now I’m on Corporette and staring out the window dreaming of grilled corn and ice cream instead of focusing at work.
K
Burned out and possibly depressed. Probably worth it to check in with your doctor.
LawyrChk
Sounds likely. *hugs* I’ve been struggling with this lately but not to the extent you are (and my hours haven’t started improving yet, either, which doesn’t help). You need a break, and better to take it sooner. Even a mental health Monday or Friday helps me feel better — I just use it to sleep late, read a novel, and catch up with friends. A few of these do wonders for my mood.
Karoline
Hi ladies, I love this piece, wasn’t sure if it was a little too dressy for the office so I went to Thomas Laine’s website and found some fabulous pieces marked at huge sale prices…some as many as 70% off !!!!Thanks for the recommendation.
LinLondon
Hi gals, I tried this in the weekend open thread but will give it a shot again- Can any NY Corporettes recommend a decent place in Midtown to get a blowout for not an exorbitant amount of money?
(I have a feeling this is aiming too high and it’s the hair gods’ way of telling me I should just let it go curly, haha)
Kat
There’s a place I used to go to on 8th Ave and 35th that was around $35 for a blowout — tons of places, especially in midtown, will have M-W deals if you look around. Also check Yelp.
Scully
I’m not in Manhattan, but I do have a suggestion. You might want to try a beauty school, like Aveda Institute. The price is right and the students really appreciate the practice. The times I’ve gone to my location, the students have done a great job and the supervisor is right there if they have questions. Sometimes it does take a few more minutes than a professional salon but the cost savings are so worth it IMHO.
Ru
There’s a beauty school on 34th btwn 5th and 6th as well, I don’t remember the name of it but it should be easily searchable.
Kanye East
There’s an Aveda Institute in SoHo. I used to go there all the time for highlights & it was a steal, though I’m not sure if they offer just blowouts. They book up pretty far in advance from what I remember.
Is it Too Late for Some Great Ideas?
Threadjack: I’m not sure if it’s too late to be the beneficiary of some advice but hopefully a few of the westcoast-ers are still around. I was just asked to participate at career day at my good friend’s school (she’s a teacher)…. tomorrow morning. They had a handful of parents back out last minute. I have to give a 15 min talk about what I do and I have no clue what to even say. The kids are in 8th grade and I’m an attorney that represents a well-known company. What the heck to I tell an 8th grader about being a lawyer and how can I make the talk at least somewhat interesting for them? I don’t have kids so this is not coming easy to me. I would LOVE some ideas!!!
Anon
Find ways to make it relatable. Most kids have watched courtroom dramas… tell them how your job is or is not similar.
As well, find interesting tidbits about your job that they may not realize lawyers help with. If you work in the IP, did you ever help with a cool patent or trademark (that you can discuss)? Or did you ever get to help on a project that has name recognition or a big number attached? Additionally, find interesting antecodotes from your former jobs and or law school. If you’re excited, chances are, you can get them excited, too.
You’ll probably be impressed with how savvy some 8th graders are.
Cat
East coasters are still at work too :)
Some ideas:
– If your theme is to encourage interest in the career, maybe highlight what you were good at in school that translated into being a good lawyer (English? Analyzing the plot of a book or different characters –> anticipating people’s motives and what they want in a contract? Math was my favorite subject, and I’m convinced that all the practice with the logic behind it helps me with drafting complicated clauses). When I was a young teenager I thought lawyer = Matlock, and never even thought about it as a career until my senior year English teacher complimented a persuasive essay.
– Set up a simple fact pattern (you want to hire someone to mow your lawn, or whatever). Ask the kids what they might want to write in the contract (if they seem like a group that’s ready to talk – maybe scout that with your friend). Then have them switch sides and tell you what the lawn person might want.
Is it Too Late for Some Great Ideas?
Great ideas! I love the idea of giving them an easy and relatable fact pattern and also talking with them about the different types of lawyers that are out there because you’re right, so many kids (and even adults) think all lawyers end up in a courtroom. I have a feeling these 8th graders are indeed savvy. My friend teaches a lower grade and her students are pretty amazing and much more advanced than I was at that age.
MelD
As a former teacher, that’s something I’d plan for a full 45-minute period, not 15 minutes. I think you need to narrow it down a bit- talk about what they think lawyers do and then perhaps you could briefly touch on things they do in their daily lives that might be something a lawyer would do. E.g. if they want Mom to get them an xbox, maybe they could negotiate to mow the lawn for dad for two months, babysit for the little brother 5 times while mom and dad go to watch the older brother’s soccer games, etc.
meme
I did this! I had 30 minutes to speak to a room of 6th graders. I gave them a little bit of background regarding what I do and the education it took to get to this field. Then I talked about how to be persuasive. They were studying persuasion (which is why they asked me to come), and I figured that is one lawyering skill everyone can use. You can come up with your own list, but I talked about being respectful, being sincere, being knowledgeble about your subject, being confident in your position, etc. as important elements of persuasion that they can use today (and probably they do use some of these without realizing it). We discussed examples where they use persuasion in their lives and suggestions for improving.
Then I opened it up for questions. They had lots of great, thoughtful questions.
Nonny
Something that I’ve done before is to split them into two groups and have each group come up with arguments for/against a resolution – kind of like a debating exercise, but you can present it in a way that has them thinking about how lawyers build arguments. One topic I’ve used before to great success is “schools should be boys only or girls only rather than co-ed”, then split the group into girls and boys. You might need longer than 15 minutes to do this, but grade 8s like hands-on activities and are not so keen to be talked at….