Corporette.com

Updated: Nov 27, 2020 70 Comments · by

Holiday Weekend Open Thread

Weekend Open Thread

This post may contain affiliate links and Corporette® may earn commissions for purchases made through links in this post. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

I've just started poking through the Nordstrom Cyber Deals and Black Friday sale — lots of good stuff. The beauty sales in particular look great — there are a ton of things 50% off (including brushes!) and a number of palettes.

I've been impressed with Urban Decay eyeshadows over the years, so I'm kind of excited to see THREE entire different eyeshadow palettes on sale for 50% off. (They were $49, now will be $24.50.) All of the colors really seem to be of the moment, also — I'm most drawn to the more traditional “Heat” palette, pictured, but the “Naked Cherry” palette seems like it would be really fun to experiment; Naked Honey looks great for the holidays. Nice.

(Oooh, another find: lots of Dagne Dover bags on sale, as well as Aveda products and lots of Hanky Panky.)

(Psst: Happy Thanksgiving!)

Sales of note for 8.30.24

  • Nordstrom – Summer Sale, save up to 60%
  • Ann Taylor – 30% off full-price purchase; $99 jackets, dresses & shoes; extra 50% off sale
  • Banana Republic Factory – 50-70% off everything + extra 20% off
  • Bergdorf Goodman – Final Days Designer Sale, up to 75% off; extra 20% off sale
  • Boden – 20% off
  • Brooks Brothers – Extra 25% off clearance
  • Eloquii – Up to 60% off everything; extra 60% off all sale
  • J.Crew – 40% off sitewide; extra 60% off sale styles
  • J.Crew Factory – Extra 20% off orders $125+; extra 60% off clearance; 60%-70% off 100s of styles
  • Lo & Sons – Summer sale, up to 50% off (ends 9/2)
  • Madewell – Extra 40% off sale; extra 50% off select denim; 25% off fall essentials
  • M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
  • Rothy's – End of season sale, up to 50% off
  • Spanx – Lots of workwear in the big sale, some up to 70% off
  • Talbots – 25% off regular-price purchase; 70% off clearance
  • White House Black Market – Up to 70% off sale

Sales of note for 8.30.24

  • Nordstrom – Summer Sale, save up to 60%
  • Ann Taylor – 30% off full-price purchase; $99 jackets, dresses & shoes; extra 50% off sale
  • Banana Republic Factory – 50-70% off everything + extra 20% off
  • Bergdorf Goodman – Final Days Designer Sale, up to 75% off; extra 20% off sale
  • Boden – 20% off
  • Brooks Brothers – Extra 25% off clearance
  • Eloquii – Up to 60% off everything; extra 60% off all sale
  • J.Crew – 40% off sitewide; extra 60% off sale styles
  • J.Crew Factory – Extra 20% off orders $125+; extra 60% off clearance; 60%-70% off 100s of styles
  • Lo & Sons – Summer sale, up to 50% off (ends 9/2)
  • Madewell – Extra 40% off sale; extra 50% off select denim; 25% off fall essentials
  • M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
  • Rothy's – End of season sale, up to 50% off
  • Spanx – Lots of workwear in the big sale, some up to 70% off
  • Talbots – 25% off regular-price purchase; 70% off clearance
  • White House Black Market – Up to 70% off sale

Some of our latest posts here at Corporette…

RSS Error: A feed could not be found at `https://corporette.com/tag/posts/feed`; the status code is `403` and content-type is `text/html; charset=utf-8`

And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!

Some of our latest threadjacks include:

About Kat

Kat Griffin is the founder, publisher, and editor-in-chief of Corporette. You can read more about her here.

Comments

  1. Friendly Warning

    I have been intending for a while to raise an issue with the group but wanted to put some distance between the post and this reminder so as not to make the OP panic.

    A lot of professional women read this board. If you are sharing a highly specific anecdote please be aware that the person you are talking about might very well be a fellow poster. I was a bit bemused to read about myself through the eyes of a co-worker (and even more by the really, really wrong takes of some of the commenters on her original post). I thought it was amusing and harmless but the partner she was also talking about – who fortunately does not read this site – would have thought it was a lot less funny and is in a position to make that original poster’s life difficult.

    So remember this site is only as anonymous as you make it and perhaps change or leave out some details!

    • no dog in fight

      OK now I have to know. Extra special happy holiday wishes to anyone who points me to this thread!

      • Friendly Warning

        I can understand the curiosity – but the whole point of waiting is that I do not want to terrify (or mortify) the person who posted it. She was not malicious and did not share any confidential information but I suspect she would not be able to look me in the eye after posting about me on a public forum.

        And it was a very specific anecdote with very specific details so I am very sure that it was me. It was definitely not a generic “law firm problems” scenario!

    • Anonie

      This is an excellent point and very kindly worded. Thank you. I am pretty new to regularly commenting on this site and, as much as I am enjoying it during these WFH times (it has replaced my previous water cooler chats with coworkers) but have wondered the same thing about anonymity. I have occasionally just stopped myself from posting when an answer to a thread I wanted to respond to would have led to me potentially sharing too much revealing information. There has been 1 time in the months I’ve been regularly commenting that someone else shared enough to make their identity pretty easily found online. My hope, of course, is that commenters here would neutralize that information and never use it against someone. Hmm a fine line with online forums.

    • Anon

      This reminds me of when I made a post about my law firm’s internal politics on Mr. Money Mustache, and someone sent me a private message because he thought he knew who I was. He was wrong. Many law firms (and other workplaces) have the same dumb problems! I was glad he reached out to me directly instead of taking it out on some poor unsuspecting associate at his office.

      • Aft

        I once had a situation come up on AskaManager that was so specific and similar to my own that I had messaged a friend who was also a reader to tell her I HAD NOT written it… And I’m not sure she believed it. The issue was that our small group was having trouble hiring lawyers because we kept hiring based on interview performance, so while it seemed specific to me, I don’t think it was that unique to the law firm world.

      • anon

        Agreed! I think a lot of people think their situation is more unusual than it actually is. I had a post once where someone claimed they knew who I was, which would have been impossible seeing as I’d changed a few details that weren’t relevant to the question to maintain anonymous status (e.g., changed genders of people involved, changed city to similar city)

    • Anon

      And on the other hand, no need to say “this will out me” when all you’re saying is something like “I work in Big Law and I wore the Etsuko dress to work today.”

    • Anonymous

      There’s a good chance you could be wrong! I made a post once and I purposely used non gendered language to discuss a staff issue and the default assumption was that it was a female and even someone who thought they worked with the same woman, it was not a woman.

    • Anon

      I work with a guy who passes ShowerThoughts content off as his own ideas, and it’s torture to pretend I don’t know anything about Reddit.

      • Anon

        Why pretend? I would totally say “ha, yeah I saw the same thing as you did on Reddit”

        • Anon

          He would never stop hounding me to tell him my username, and I just don’t want the hassle. He’d make it a point to try to out me.

          • LaurenB

            Tell him you don’t have an username, you just lurk. I don’t have a username on Reddit, but I do dip into forums fir specific topics.

    • Anon

      Let’s stop trying to infantilize and shelter ourselves in adulthood. I’ve overheard co-workers and managers gossiping about me in person since I worked my first job. Sometimes, it stings, but sometimes it can even be constructive. People have a right to comment/vent/opine, unless it is outright malicious and cruel. What would we post about here if we always had to fear someone would figure out who we are irl?

      • Friendly Warning

        As the person who started this (1) I am really quite sure the story was about me but cannot explain why without outing myself and (2) I was not offended and the story was not malicious. But if I was a different kind of person, I could make the OP’s life very difficult. And the partner involved would decidedly be unamused. If you are prepared to deal with the consequences of being outed then post away. I am just suggesting that people be a cautious. I highly doubt that the person who posted the story about me would have wanted me to know about it – if only because she is a new associate and a still a bit lacking in confidence.

        And people routinely post about personnel matters where I sincerely hope they are changing details because the very specific factual circumstances and timing could get them fired if they were identified (particularly given how many of us were clearly posting from our work computers in the before times). A suspicion could be confirmed in that case.

    • La+Di+Dah

      I post for advice very infrequently on this site, but when I do I always change some insignificant details (for example say I live in LA instead of SF or that I have 2 kids instead of 1 or 3 girls instead of 3 boys) – if you tell a long story and if someone you know reads this….they may recognize you.

  2. Cordy

    I know we have discussed this before, but would be interested in hearing any friendship fadeout stories. I am going through one now and I’m sort of…fine with it? I think it made me realize that my close friendship was sort of superficial even though it felt deep. I feel like I duped myself just based on geography, time, and our kids liking each other. Does this make sense to anyone?

    • Anon

      I’m interested too, as someone I considered a best friend and whom I have been friends with for over 20 years and I have substantially grown apart this year. The crux of it (I believe, we haven’t spoken about it) is that during the pandemic, her small business that was centered around serving tourism-focused businesses was significantly impacted, and she decided to shut it down. Her husband makes plenty of money and she doesn’t really need to work, so she has decided to functionally retire and raise show dogs. Like, that is her new life endeavor. I am younger than her, and feel like I still have a lot of career mileage ahead of me, and I honestly can’t relate to her life any more. She and I met when we were both young professionals and had similar goals and ideals, and now it’s a struggle to find anything we can talk about. The last time we spoke (which was early this fall) I was talking about work problems, and she was talking about how hard it is to find good equipment for training her dogs that could be delivered to her house. Like, same planet, different worlds. It didn’t help that she acted super-dismissive of anything I was talking about, like yeah, I am so glad to be out of the workforce and not dealing with that any more. And then she would go back to talking about her dogs’ bloodlines. I felt like, good for you but this is going to be my life for at least the next 15-20 years; I need you to at least listen to me a little. I don’t know if the gap is bridgeable. I have friends who are not professionals working in offices (including a couple of SAHMs and some people who have freelanced their whole careers) but this just feels…different. I feel like I should be sadder at the potential loss of this longtime friendship but I’m kind of – not. I am also wondering if once the pandemic is over and things shift back to something more like normalcy, there will be an opportunity to reconnect.

    • Full of ideas

      Not exactly the same thing, but during the pandemic I have some friends (including my SIL) who aren’t taking COVID seriously. Instead of constantly being the bad guy, reminding them what they are doing is not safe, I’ve just pulled away from them. It’s sad, especially with my SIL, but I can accept her behavior, so I prefer to just not hear about it. We went from talking a few times a month and texting a couple times a week, now we really don’t talk at all. I miss her, but I don’t miss getting mad when I hear her tell me how she was at a house party last weekend… Maybe there’s a better way to deal with this, and I’d be happy to hear others’ thoughts.

  3. Anon

    I made salaried partner this year. I am not even a little excited by this fact. I kind of stumbled into my job in the recession and have stayed because I like the people I work with and what I do is mildly interesting, but I don’t want to do it forever and law firm partner was never a career goal and quite frankly just sounds exhausting. I don’t really have a question here, other than maybe is it normal to feel like that, and how do I get a new non-firm job as a litigator with a very niche practice?

    • Anonymous

      Did I write this in a fugue state? This is my exact story. Made partner 2 years ago. It’s been as unfulfilling and exhausting as I expected it to be. Looking for an exit now but still not sure what comes next.

  4. Anon

    I have been avoiding non-essential things, but I think it’s time for a haircut. Today I was crouched while trying to pull a pair of slippers out from under my bed, didn’t realize I was stepping on my hair, tried to get up, and kneed myself in the eye socket.

    I’ve always worn my hair long, but apparently there’s a point at which I become a danger to myself.

    • Anonymous

      Ha! That’s hilarious. I don’t know that I’m quite there yet (or maybe I just wear my hair in a ponytail most of the time to protect myself?) but my curly hair reaches my hips if you straighten it, so I know the feeling. I think it’s at the point when I have to put my foot down and just cut it. Maybe next weekend. Except I’ve said that every weekend for months. But maybe next weekend for real this time? *sigh*

      • SSJD

        You can do it! I cut my own chin-length curly hair this summer (my husband helped), and it turned out great. It made me really happy to do something about it. I’ll soon need to cut it again. Just take a pair of scissors and go for it!

    • Anonymous

      I let my husband cut mine. He like went zooming past my back in one giant pass and cut off like 5 inches. I just stood there sort of shocked. I guess I had just taken it for granted that he would go slow and precise like a stylist. Team pony for life now (or until a decent rate of vaccination).

      I was like—what the hell? And he honestly seemed surprised. Men! Like a 6 year old with a Barbie!

    • Anonymous

      So funny! I gave up and cut mine myself when I started getting tangled in it at night. I used a YouTube video for long layers.

    • Anon

      I have a friend with long hair who cut it during the pandemic, following online instructions about dividing into two pigtails and cutting above the elastics. She filmed it and sent me the video, with before and after pictures. The outcome was surprisingly good.

    • Coach Laura

      I cut my 20-something daughter’s hair this summer and she thought I did ok. She switched to the curly girl method this summer and it was her first haircut after that. I looked at a dozen youtube videos and followed the dry-cutting advice, cutting each curl separately. She had a lot of end damage and it looks nicer now. I haven’t cut her hair since she was 2.

  5. Anonymous

    Hmm, I don’t really go all out on any Black Friday sales. I do find November to be a really good time to buy seriously discounted summer clothing and just stocked up on summer weight athletic gear, shorts, t-shirts, and for work a dress, a skirt, a couple of pairs of linen pants and a few lightweight cotton and linen sweaters. When I switch my closets next year I can top up on anything I missed but usually that is a short list.

  6. Anon

    I have rheumatoid arthritis and I finally emailed my doctor (rheumatologist) about something I thought might be a side effect of my medication. He agreed with me and changed my medication immediately.

    I post this mainly because I’m so shocked. It’s weird to me to believed by my doctor, after years of trying to navigate the medical system and probably having RA for a long time with no one believing what I was describing was a problem. By the time I was finally diagnosed, all of my blood tests for RA were off the chart.

    I feel so frustrated that I the majority of doctors I’ve interacted with have seemed to think I’m exaggerating or even making stuff up. This includes my current primary care doctor, and yes, I absolutely know I need to find another! It has gotten into my head that I must be imagining things and overreacting, and I doubt myself. I put off writing to my doctor about my side effect because of this. I don’t doubt for a second that this happens because I’m a woman.

    • Anonymous

      So glad to hear you now have a responsive care team member. I used to think the doctor thing was gender based as well and then I interacted with two female doctors who similarly had to be convinced something was really wrong. So now I push back if the initial answers I get are not helpful. It worries me, though, how I am going to be able to advocate for good health care when I am elderly.

      • Anon

        My primary care physician is a woman. I don’t think that’s a magic bullet for believing women. My husband has the same PCP and he feels like she listens to him. She interrupts me and dismisses just about anything I say.

        I really am trying to find another but the ones with good reviews in my area are not taking new patients.

      • Anon

        Medical education instills prejudice against women’s health complaints in both male and female doctors. Less money is invested in researching women’s health in the first place. I don’t think it has anything to do with personal prejudices for the most part (though on the other hand, I was told to quit working and let my husband support me, and to have a baby to see if it helped, when I was seeking help for symptoms of an autoimmune condition that was diagnosed later the first time a doctor tested for it).

    • Anon

      The last time I saw a specialist who believed me, I left the appointment and broke down crying. That’s not something I normally do, and I thought I was pretty damn jaded about healthcare. But the stakes are so high. I have experienced in my body and life the difference between treatment (treatment that was available all along!) and neglect.

    • Seventh Sister

      I really, really liked my OBs with both of my kids, all women, but they seemed to have a “suck it up buttercup” attitude that seemed fair enough given my mostly-uncomplicated pregnancies. When I had to see one of the male OBs in their group due to a scheduling issue, I was surprised/touched that he was very empathetic about a smallish problem. I’d seen so many male doctors that were sort of dismissive/really egotistical that I’d just assumed there weren’t any nice ones.

    • Anon

      I have this problem also. It has gotten far worse as I have gotten older. I am single and not rich, and I think that plays into their opinion of me…Like I’m lonely, depressed, in need of attention/social interaction.

      As someone else recently stated, it doesn’t help that these derogatory opinions end up in EMRs that you can’t hide from anyone and will be there until you die. It’s not like they need to be there when if you really were a PIA pt, a seasoned doc could see that from a mile away.

  7. Target toy catalog

    Does anyone know how to get the Target holiday toy catalog? I used to get it in the mail but haven’t this year or last. I went to our local Target today and asked customer service and they didn’t have any and were not helpful in letting me know how to get one.

  8. Anon

    Happy Thanksgiving!
    I need to say it somewhere (I.e. brag a bit) to get it out of my head: I have been killing it at work this year and this week negotiated a raise which makes my salary low six figures for the first time.
    It’s not my first raise but it’s the one I had to fight for the hardest. I come from a culture where you just don’t talk of your own achievements ever, or ask for raises, especially if you are a woman – so it still blows my own mind that I can do this successfully and I feel very empowered.

    • Marie

      Awesome! You have every reason to feel proud of yourself for this, and for what it’s worth, without going into specifics on $$, I think it can be very helpful to share this type of success with other women. Many feel that it is uncomfortable/they will be rejected/it’s not worth bringing up, but when they hear others have been able to succeed in negotiating, it may encourage them to advocate for themselves when the situation presents itself. Once age, congratulations!

  9. BBG or Sweat App

    For everyone who talks up BBG do you do the Sweat app or just Bbg? They’ve got a 50% off cyber deal today so I’m wondering if I should try.

    • Seafinch

      I do the App and absolutely love it. I haven’t missed a single of my 7-8 workouts a week since January. I think it is well worth the small fee and I didn’t even know you could just do BBG outside the app. I follow my programme religiously but cherry pick extra workouts and try other things all the time so really like having the entire interface and the calendar etc. The results have been fantastic and noticeable and I am a life long fitness fan and am in the army.

  10. Anon

    Y’all. Today was not a happy Thanksgiving for me. Tell me your Happy Thanksgiving stories from your day to get my mind off things!

    • Anon

      I sat around with one sibling (we both live alone)
      Zoomed the rest of the family
      Got contactless pickup from a grocery store earlier this week – full dinner plus leftovers for $40, just needed to reheat… does it taste like Grandma’s? No. Was it affordable and meant I didn’t need to cook or worry about exposing Grandma? Yes. Worth it.

      And now I’m watching action movies with my sibling chowing on popcorn and pie.

      • Anon

        That sounds lovely! The reason my Thanksgiving was not a happy one was due to a huge relationship ending blowout with a sibling. It does make me happy though to hear that you seem to have a nice relationship with yours.

    • Coach Laura

      Im sorry about your sibling blowout. I hope the pain eases.

      I made turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, stuffing and Brussels sprouts with bacon and pumpkin, apple and pecan pie all by myself because I like to cook. Extra turkey and pie went to my MIL, who is at a retirement home but they are not allowed to have indoor visitors or have dinner in the dining room.

      My two adult kids, who both work with covid patients in healthcare, are here locally but we can’t have them to dinner because I’m high risk. So I packaged up all their food and put it in a “cooler” that I heated up to make it into a “warmer”. We met at a park and walked with masks in the sunset with all three of the dogs and gave them their food. They sent me a photo later with happy grins and full plates. That was rewarding for me as we didn’t risk covid but we had happy times. Looking forward to next year to see parents, MIL, siblings and my kids in person.

  11. body pillows

    Any body pillow recs?

    Looking for one that is large/firm/holds it shape. It is for a male elderly relative that is over 6 foot tall and needs it for safety/positioning in bed. The prices vary so much online that I a suspect some are overpriced and others collapse in a week.

    Thanks!

  12. GYN Recommendations near Alexandria, VA?

    Any chance someone can recommend a GYN near Alexandria, VA? Thanks!

  13. Anon

    I am being totally honest with MyFitnessPal about my vacation eating habits, and I think it’s trying to break up with me.

    Can you turn the shaming comments off?

    • Anonymous

      LL Bean Rangeley. I have had mine for 11 years and it still looks like new. They also have a few other styles without footboards. Solid wood for a good price.

  15. Partner Exodus

    Can anyone speak to leaving biglaw as an income partner to be a principal at a big four accounting firm? lifestyle? pension? buy-in? interest of work?
    I’m in the beginning exploration with two Big4. It seems a bit too good to be true.

  16. Anon

    I just had an interview for a job I really wanted. I don’t have practical experience in the field but it is quasi-legal so my experience is relevant. That said, now I’m pretty sure that I didn’t come across well – I had just travelled for 25 hours (I couldn’t choose the date) and was in quarantine in a hotel with my husband and kids. Maybe it is the fact that I am currently halfway through my two-week-quarantine and starting to struggle mentally but I am feeling sorry for myself. I know it doesn’t define me and that there will be new opportunities but it is hard to get interviews in that field without practical experience and I know I blew it, even though I also know that I would have been great.

Back to Top

About

Work with Corporette®

Serious Stuff

work fashion blog press mentions