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LadyB
What tote do you ladies recommend for work travel?
MJ
Victorinox divine. It’s a workhorse, fits under the seat, over my suitcase, has a ton of pockets for organization and is not hideous, if you don’t mind nylon. Otherwise, Cuyana has a really fancy black tote I have been lusting after but it’s out of my budget!
Anonymous
Lo & Sons OMG or OG — I can never remember which is which. I have both sizes and go back and forth depending on whether I’m taking my personal and work laptops or just one or the other. I travel every week for 2-4 days, about 40 weeks/year.
Ellen
I LOVE the Aigner Tote. It’s expensive, but worth it at $430. The leather is as very good as good as Coach, but I think more styleish. When I carry it in the subway, women (and men– YAY!) look at me.
Myrna gave me a canvas bag she got from her firm, that I will carry my shoes in. It has the name of her firm on it, so when I carry it, everyone thinks I work at Credit Swiss. FOOEY! I do NOT even like swiss cheeze! I would prefer Credit Munster! YAY!!!
Anon
Tumi all day long. It’s made for travel. Very, very durable.
turtletorney
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wedding gift help!
My co-worker invited me to her wedding, but I could not attend due to prior travel plans. When I checked her wedding registry to send a small token, everything had already been purchased, so I figured I would brainstorm for something creative because sending money for an event I didn’t attend just felt weird. Now, it’s been two months, and I’m still stumped (and also slightly embarrassed). Any creative ideas for how to commemorate her wedding? Thank you!
Senior Attorney
Small gift card for the store at which she had her registry. Just do it. I promise she will appreciate that more than something creative.
Senior Attorney
Or… tea towels imprinted with something about the place to which you traveled on the day of her wedding. Everybody needs tea towels and it’s a little more personal and fun and will seem like a souvenir even though you bought them off the internet today.
Anonny
I would hate this as a new bride and actually think it’s making the gift more about the sender than the recipient. She has no connection to where you traveled whatsoever. She may not even remember where you traveled. And if she does, all you’re doing is reminding her of why you didn’t go–which is kind of the opposite of celebrating their event. I also think not everybody goes for tea towels. Some folks really like their kitchens to keep to a certain palette.
Senior Attorney
And… there you have it. Gift card to the registry store it is!
Anon
agreed. this is not the time for creativity. if you don’t like to do gift cards, just send an item (pitcher, vase, etc.) in the price range that you want from a store where she registered and she can return it
Jacque
Cross stitch wedding people? Like this? https://www.etsy.com/listing/519579657/custom-cross-stitch-wedding-portrait?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cross stitch wedding&ref=sr_gallery_13
You can explain the time lapse by needing to see the wedding pictures for the cross stitch.
Anonymous
Um – what is she supposed to do with that?? Gift card all the way.
Jacque
Frame it and display it. It’s not complicated.
Anonymous
Yeah …. no
Anonymous
I would politely thank them and put it straight in the Goodwill drawer
Anonymous
+1. This is cutesy and would never find a place on my wall. I save wall space for the good cross-stitch I already have.
An on
There are lots of Etsy shops selling these cross stitch families, and lots of people buying them. I’m making a couple families myself as Christmas gifts for our parents, complete with the family dogs. I think they are fun!
Katie C.
I love giving items for entertaining–it’s fun to have some cool pieces to pull out when guests come over. I recently gave a couple some nice beer glasses with the seal of their alma mater (where they met) and they seemed to really like them!
Anonymous
Most of our coworkers gave us restaurant gift cards.
Anonymous
A friend got me a custom watercolor painting of my bridal bouquet on Etsy (similar idea as the cross-stitch above, but much more my style). She knew loved my bouquet and since flowers don’t last it’s wonderful to have it memorialized in a painting. Agree that you can’t go wrong with a gift card to OpenTable or a store she registered at though.
Feeding the Nerd Herd
Help me menu plan! My husband invited people over for boardgames this weekend, starting about 4. This group gets together fairly often, but usually mid-day and generally they bring snacks. This time, we’ve said bring your partner, so i’d like to do something a little fancier than the usual chips and salsa. Cheese board? Crockpot chili? DIY tacos? Thanks!
lsw
As a gaming nerd who hosts gaming nerds every other week, I feel uniquely positioned to answer this question. Do they typically eat while playing? If so, something to easily snack on while playing (so wouldn’t do tacos or chili, for example). Pretzels and cheese board, fancy chips, gummy candy (that might just be us, though), little hors d’ouerves (sp?) like you get from Costco if you want to do something hot, peanut butter popcorn (easy to make and always a hit), plenty of napkins or paper towels to wipe hands while gaming…
Anon
Oooh chili! You could make Frito pie! (I’m so hungry right now.)
Never too many shoes...
This is like the fifth time I have seen someone mention this…what is Frito Pie???
Anon
It’s a delicious and totally unhealthy conglomeration of junk foods that you should use your internet device to learn more about :)
NYNY
You use Fritos as your base, spoon chili on top, and top with cheese, sour cream, and whatever other fixings you like. Originally made in the single-serve Frito bags as fair food. Delicious.
Anonymous
Love Frito Pie!
anon
oh i want frito pie now but i have no chili. who makes decent chili you can buy?
anon
If you want classic frito chili pie and cannot make your own, hormel chili in a can is the way to go
Torin
I would think chili would be fine for eating while playing; you eat it with a spoon don’t you? Tacos, not so much.
lsw
Depends on what you’re playing and how much table space you have. Seems kinda messy to me. If you were snacking before playing, no problem. Or if it was gaming with long spacing between turns (and no interaction on other players’ turns).
EB0220
We’ve done this a few times and do chili. We (and our friends) loooooove Scott Jurek’s vegan chili (seriously good). Add toppings and tortilla chips and it’s perfect and easy. I cook it in the crockpot all day instead of following the instructions in the recipe.
Baconpancakes
Not to be boring, but pizza IS a classic at these kinds of gatherings for a reason.
The main thing is to make sure you have beer and cider. For mid-game snack, pretzels, grapes, and grape tomatoes are good snacks for gaming because they don’t get your hands greasy.
My group will usually eat first, or get the game set up and then eat, or eat between games.
Anon
How many shoes do you really own? Moved to a small apartment and feeling like I have too many shoes to find good storage spots for but having trouble pairing down. I own about 30 pairs of shoes.
Special Purpose shoes:
Slippers
Winter Boots
Tall rain boots (considering getting rid of these)
Short rain boots
Water proof hiking shoes
Breathable Hiking Shoes
Exercise shoes
Boots:
Vintage Fryes
Brown booties
Black Booties
Tennis shoes:
Black slip on casual sneakers
Navy Superga tennis shoes
Flats:
Orange Tieks
Green flats
Black flats (easy to dress up)
Nude for me flats (easy to dress up)
Black pattern pointy toe formal flats
Leopard flats
Heels:
Black formal heels
Nude for me Formal heels (from all those bridesmaids days)
Carmel Formal heels
Fun black heels (chunky heel)
Fun Tan heels (chunky heel)
Summer Shoes:
3 pair flip flops
3 pair summer sandals
Anon
I have:
rain boots
Chelsea boots
riding-style boots
Onitsuka Tigers
Birkenstock sandals
Sneakers for hiking/working out
Flip-flops
A few different pairs of heels for formal occasions that get almost no wear
I also have a drawer full of flats in my cubicle that I wear at work. Including the drawer, I probably have 20 pairs of shoes. Counting it all out makes it seem so excessive!
Anonymous
Honestly this seems like a pretty reasonable number of shoes to me. I guess the question is, have you worn them all within the last season they were meant to be worn?
Torin
I probably have about the same amount. The only ones I’m considering getting rid of are the 3 pairs of pumps I still own. I haven’t worn any of them in 2 years since I switched over to flats. I kept them “just in case” but I feel like if “just in case” hasn’t happened in 2 years it’s time to get rid of them. I hate heels. Also “just in case” what? “Just in case” I have a foot transplant and am suddenly a person who finds them anything other than hideously uncomfortable?
kag
I own 39 pairs (flats, heels, boots, sandals & flip-flows, rainboots, garden shoes, slippers, etc.; excluding sport shoes, such as hiking boots and a few pairs of dancing shoes to fit different costumes). I’ve found this number somewhat rudiculous and I’ve been thinking to cut down on at least a few pairs, but I wear them all and they are in a still decent condition. I’ve decided to keep them for now and plan not to replace some as they wear down (though it’s hard to resist buying a new pair every few months…). Living in a small place myself, I find the under-bed drawers the best option for shoe storage, especially when it comes to tall boots.
NYNY
I have:
Work shoes:
– black pumps
– navy pumps
– grey pumps
– grey leopard pumps
– plum pumps
– black suede pointy mary janes
– nude block heel pumps
– black block heel oxfords
Boots:
– black knee-high block heel boots
– black knee-high stiletto heel boots
– black knee-high flat boots
– green cowboy boots
– black heeled booties
– silver snow boots
Casual shoes:
– running shoes
– black & white pumas
– silver chucks
– red mesh slip-ons
– red & grey wedge slides
– black wedge sandals
– black flat sandals
Party shoes:
– silver slingbacks
– orange suede sandals
– black, grey, and brown platform sandals
I would like to get a new pair of red pumps and black heeled loafers. So we’re close in number and variety. I wear all of them, so no shame in my game!
Anonymous
can you recommend your black knee-high flat boots and grey leopard pumps?
NYNY
Both are sadly unavailable. The grey leopard pumps are Halogen calf hair half-d’Orsay pumps from NAS as few years ago. Really great quality, but they are likely only going to last me one more season (I wear them in the warmer half of the year because I don’t like them with tights). The boots are from Duo, and were a closeout two years ago. Duo is fantastic, because they do calf width sizes. I have big calves, but they do regular and narrow sizes, as well, measured to the centimeter.
These are similar to my boots: https://us.duoboots.com/collections/womens-boots/products/lynx-black-leather
Katie C.
Agree this seems like a pretty reasonable list (and not too different than mine!). For storage, an over-the-door hanging organizer can be really helpful. And I keep a few pairs under my desk at work (where I wear them most frequently), which also opens up a good bit of closet space.
http://www.thepolishedblog.com
Anon
I have one pair each of:
White Nikes
Black booties
Brown booties
Burgundy booties
Riding boots
Cowboy boots
Hiking boots
Black Pumps
Snakeskin Pumps
Black bow flats
Black menswear inspired flats (lace up)
Grey Oxfords
Pink house shoes
PS I’m going to send this thread to my Hubs: he thinks I have too many shoes. :: eye roll ::
Never too many shoes...
He should meet my husband – that would set him straight for sure ;)
kag
Just out of curiosity, since I am trying to downsize: is it correct that you don’t own a single pair of sandals, flip-flops or sports shoes (hiking, running, whatever)?
Never too many shoes...
Well, I presently have 32 pairs…at work. Plus the pair on my feet.
So maybe I am the wrong person to ask!
TheElms
I definitely own way too many shoes. This is what I can think of and I’m probably missing a few pairs.
Specialty shoes
– Purple hunter boots (should sell or give away, they don’t fit over my calves comfortably)
– Black crocs
– Hiking shoes
– Hiking boots
– Wet/dry hiking shoes ( I don’t know what these are really called but they are mesh sneaker things that you can wear on wet summer hikes)
– Costco “Uggs”
– Sperry rain boots
Work shoes
– New black wedges (still being broken in)
– Old black wedges (on last legs, but comfortable)
– Black almond toe block heel
– Black patent skinny heel
– Maroon wedges
– Cole Haan maroon wedges (should sell or give away, not comfortable)
– Grey snakeskin skinny heel
– Patent nude for me skinny heel
– Black buckle flats
– Blue suede flats
– Nude for my pointy toe flats (should wear more!)
– Black suede booties
– Camel suede block heel
Tall Boots – I should sell or give away all of these since I don’t think any fit over my calves anymore
– Brown flat boots
– Brown heeled boots
– Black suede skinny heeled boots
– Black leather chunky heeled boots
– Black flat boots (these might still fit)
Casual shoes ( I have way to many of these!)
– Black booties
– Nude for me flats with metallic toe
– Puma navy athletic type flats
– Grey suede shoeties
– Grey suede orthotic type flats (these are ugly but sooooo comfortable)
– Keds version of boat shoes
– Sperry boat shoes (failed at breaking these in, should sell or give away)
– Black flats (hurt my feet, hoping I can break them in)
– Blue cross-training sneakers (to wear to the gym but also not that ugly)
– Grey fashion sneakers (on last legs)
– 3 pairs flip flops (Black, brown, white)
– Croc multi-color sandals
Party shoes
– Black suede open toe sandals
– Purple suede pointy toe skinny heels with black accents
– Blue suede heels (wedding shoes)
– Gold heels
– Gold sandals (hurt so much – should give away)
– Silver heels
– Black wedge sandals (can’t recall the last time I wore these)
– Black slides (can’t recall the last time I wore these)
JustNML
Hi Cole Haan wedges and Sperrys,
Please tell me you’re a 7.5.
TheElms
The Cole Haans are a 7.5, the Sperrys are either 7.5 or 8.
Baconpancakes
Oh this is fun! I have:
Flat knee high boots
Tan suede booties
Black heeled shooties
Serious Sorel winter boots
Peep toe perforated blush booties
Brown lace-up heeled oxford booties
Hiking boots
Black leather wedges
Black suede with snakeskin heels
Emerald patent heels
Nude patent heels
Red suede and cognac leather heels
Mint snakeskin heels
Silver d’orsay heels
Gold strappy sandals
Nude strappy block heel sandals
Floral and cognac wedge sandals
Black ballet flats
Black loafers
Nude almond toe flats
Silverish d’orsay flats
Black sneakers
Gym sneakers
Beat up keds
Pink perforated slip on sneakers
Tan driving mocs
Black dansko clog sandals
White wide-strap walking sandals
Black flat walking sandals
Gold beach flip flops
Brown flip flops
Also black athletic mary janes and pirate boots, but those are only for costumes.
C
I don’t think of myself as a shoe person because it’s a pain to fit my feet, but I really love the pairs I have.
Basic black flats
Nude snakeskin flats
Basic black pumps
Basic nude pumps
Cork and gold wedges
Strappy nude heels
Black sandals
Sneakers
Cognac booties
Black riding boots
Flip-flops (ancient Rainbows I’ll never give up)
CountC
What’s out now for winter/fall is over 50.
I also have a load of running shoes, and a couple of pairs flip flops, Danskos for the barn . . . Eek
Anon
Hahah I have WAY more than this. I love shoes. NO RAGRETS
Sloan Sabbith
Flat black riding-type boots
Hunter knee-high rain boots
Bogs winter boots (that are a b to get on and off and I kinda hate)
Black kids Uggs that I love more than I should love Uggs
Legit North Face snow boots (down insulated, so great)
Black Toms wedge booties
Light brown Toms wedge booties
Grey heathered Toms wedge booties
Wine block heeled Trolley BP booties
Lucky low-heel black leather booties
Black Ona Target flats
Brown Ona target flats
Leopard print Ona target flats
Blush patent Ona target flats
Tweed black and white Ona target flats
Wine very-low wedge/almost flat Target flats
Brand I’m forgetting brown pointy-toe flats that are super comfortable
Trashed Toms canvas ballet flats I can’t really wear except to barre/grocery store/pharmacy they’re so gross
Pink driving mocs
Black flowered Toms oxfords
Black wedge heels with a lace overlay stripe on the toe
Grey patent wedge heels
Cole Haan low-wedge oxford-ish heels
Pink Old Navy sandals
Brown Old Navy sandals
Toms wedge sandals
Black strappy sandals
Green flip flops
Brown and pink Reef flip flops
Super high black wedge sandals I should get rid of since they are uncomfortable
Pink and blue actual-sneakers
Black and purple fancy sneakers
Grey and pink actual-sneakers
There may be more? I don’t know.
Anonymous
Black almond toe pumps
Navy peep-toe slingback kitten heels (vintage)
Nude for me kitten heel sandals
Ivory satin pumps (my wedding shoes)
Black Crocs wedge
Fuchsia Crocs wedge (same style as the black)
Brown Crocs ballet flat
Pewter leather ballet flat
Black leather boots, knee high
Hiking boots
Rain boots
Flip flops for the pool
I work from home, so my business shoe needs are minimal, but this is pretty awful. The pewter flats and leather boots both look really worn out at this point, which leaves me with the black pumps as the only presentable fall/winter option!
Diana Barry
PSA for 529 poster: if your in-laws have the means, they can front-load gifts to a 529 plan, so they can make 5 years’ worth of exclusion gifts at once (14K per person in 2017, 15K in 2018) and as long as they file a gift tax return and don’t make any other gifts to your child within the 5 years, the gifts are all annual exclusion gifts: https://www.ameriprise.com/research-market-insights/financial-articles/insurance-estate-planning/estate-planning-and-529-plans/
Anon
LADIES – Continuing the Weds vent, even though it’s Thursday. I went back to law school later…so I am in my mid-thirties. My first biglaw firm is awful–people yell and throw things. It’s nuts. So I am looking. I’ve been on five interviews in the past month, and every single person says to me, “My you have a lot of experience!” which I guess is just a euphemism for “Gee, you’re not 27.” It’s really frustrating. In the same breath that they say that, they say things like, “You’ve job-hopped a lot” when I totally didn’t–my last stint pre-law-school was for 3.5 years!
I don’t know what I want from the interwebs except maybe prayers and an open mind. Experience (in the same field, natch!) is a good thing, not a bad thing. I feel like I live in the twilight zone. So frustrated.
Moonstone
I’m hopeful this will get better for you. You must be presenting yourself well to get the opportunity to interview. Maybe something will still come of those interviews — a month is not long in hiring.
LAJen
I took several years off before law school, too. Job experience is actually a useful thing! Is there any way you can get out in front of those questions with your storyline rather than waiting until they ask about it? Then you can frame in a way that shows why that job experience was useful. Also, how long have you been at your current firm? If it’s only been a few months or even just a year, that is what is looking suspicious, not your prior work experience (unless your prior work experience included changing jobs every year). Either way, you can add into your pitch about yourself that you’re looking for the right firm to really grow with and contribute to for the long term. It’s all about messaging.
Anonymous
Reading about the Louis CK and Roy Moore cases today – I am so angry I feel like I’m having difficulty breathing. These women are so strong. I am so proud of them. I can’t imagine the difficulty. I am so, so angry at all of these men. I don’t even know why I am posting this other than to perhaps cathartically push out some anger so I can actually get to work.
Anonymous
Lindy West had a great piece yesterday about why we need to stay angry https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/08/opinion/anger-women-weinstein-assault.html (caveat that she doesn’t given enough credit to how much this is exponentially harder for black women given the societal pressures they face to not be perceived as ‘angry’).
And if you haven’t seen the Uma video where she says she is too angry to comment, watch it. It’s been given be strength all week.
Anon
Lindy West is definitely aware of the different experiences black women face. I mean, Ijeoma Oluo is her sister-in-law after all.
Anonymous
Right, but my point is that basically her only reference to it in this piece is to stay “black women suffer disproportionately under this paradigm”. I don’t think that’s sufficient acknowledgment of that issue when her piece is expressly a call to action to stay angry and be angry. That’s asking a lot more of black women than white women and it should be acknowledged.
New Tampanian
Don’t you think, though, that would be better coming from a black woman? I’d rather hear from black women about their experiences and have Lindy amplify a black writer than have her write about it when she herself hasn’t lived that experience.
Anonymous
But she doesn’t amplify either – she ignores the issue other than that one mention. She should acknowledge the issue/the difference in what she is asking of black women and amplify their voice.
Anonymous
Just because a white woman is married to a black man does not mean that she understand the experiences that that community faces.
Anon
Just because a white woman is married to a black man does not mean that she understand the experiences that that community faces.
Anonymous
To further quote (or paraphrase) Lindy West, who really has been putting out some amazing columns:
We are witches. And we are hunting you.
Never too many shoes...
+1M. I love Lindy generally but that quote is perfection.
TK
I love Lindy too. She’s vaguely a friend of a friend. I loved her 2015 piece in the guardian about being a fat bride (her words) and was thrilled to see her get a column in the NYT.
Never too many shoes...
That was also *excellent*. The only place we have ever really disagreed was over Love Actually.
anon
The anger is not productive. Don’t get angry, get even. This equality thing isn’t about how you feel. It’s about affecting real change. All the anger and self expression in the world isn’t going to change the situation if people don’t start using their actions to back up words.
Anon
+1 to all of that.
Anon
I know, I am having a RAGE STROKE at my desk right now.
Anon
I feel you. I’m actually in Alabama and have called representatives/senators demanding that they unequivocally renounce any support for Roy Moore. the phone calls may be useless, but I sure do feel better.
Anonymous
Thank you!
Katie C.
Love this bag, Kat! I tend to like to invest in bags for work, since those are the ones I use most frequently, and get the bag equivalent of “costume jewelry” for outside of work, so thanks for posting the more affordable options as well!
http://www.thepolishedblog.com
Anon
Share something you can’t stop thinking about – like a fun fact.
Puddlejumper
I can’t stop thinking about the statistic that 25% more people than the average daily amount have heart attacks in the USA the day after losing an hour of sleep due to daylight savings time and 21% less people have them the day they get one more hour of sleep!!!
Sleep is so important: https://www.reuters.com/article/us-heart-daylightsaving/daylight-saving-time-linked-to-heart-attacks-study-idUSBREA2S0D420140329
Anonymous
Sharks are older than trees.
Puddlejumper
Woah! I had to google that to read more about it and now my mind is blown. For anyone curious: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/respect-sharks-are-older-than-trees-3818/
Lana Del Raygun
Whaaaaaaat
Thank you for sharing this!
Anonymous
There’s one about Cleopatra ruling nearer to our time than the construction of the pyramids that always amazes me.
Anonymous
WHAT
Anonymous
I found where I read it:
“In Egypt, the Pyramids of Giza were built around 4,000 years ago, although there have been claims that they’re even older. This also means that Cleopatra’s time on Earth is actually closer to us in history than to the construction of the pyramids.” https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/02/26/historical-facts-time_n_4832325.html
also: “the Stegosaurus was older to the Tyrannosaurus rex than the T. rex is to us” https://www.buzzfeed.com/andyneuenschwander/23-mind-blowing-facts-about-time-thatll-make-you-say-whoa?utm_term=.soLaVPvXz#.nxyryVk1L
Lana Del Raygun
I’m OBSESSED with the paradox of the false positive. If you’re testing for a rare enough condition, most positive test results will be false, even with a low false-positive rate. The chance of a person actually getting a false positive result is false positive rate (low) x the rate of not having the condition (very high); whereas the chance of getting a true positive result is the true positive rate (high) x the chance of actually having the condition (very low). I learned about this in intro to stats and for some reason it’s my favorite thing from that class and I tell people about it at parties if I can possibly squeeze it into the conversation.
http://ime.math.arizona.edu/g-teams/Profiles/RS/false_positive_mammography.pdf
Anonymous
WWI (in my mind, a modern war) is the approximately the same period of time from my birth, as the Civil War was from my parents’.
Anon
Wooooaaaaahhhhhhh.
This one is going to take me a while to digest.
Anon
Crazy! I think it really is a more modern war, though, because the way wars are fought has changed so much.
hello
Do you mean your grandparents? That’s how the math works out for me.
Cat
Depends on how old the OP is — the math is close. Parents born in the 50’s — 90 years post Civil War. Self born in the 90’s — 80 years post WWI.
Anonymous
No, my parents. It’s 65-80 years for each.
Baconpancakes
In Virginia, farm wineries are not subject to the Fire Code or the Building Code and the tasting rooms, event spaces, etc undergo no safety inspections.
Senior Attorney
Mares eat oats, and does eat oats, and little lambs eat ivy…
embees
a kid’ll eat ivy too, wouldn’t you?
(Thanks for the earworm, and bringing to mind fond memories of my Grandma who used to sing this)
New Tampanian
Daylight savings times has an effect on cats like on us. I know this because mine have started acting like a-holes in the morning exactly an hour earlier than they did a week ago.
Anon
If you take opioids for three days you have a 20% chance of being on them one year later.
If you take opioids for seven days you have a 35% chance of being on them one year later.
If you take opioids for twenty one days you have a 50% chance of still being on them five years later.
This includes the Vicodin you got for your dental procedure, by the way. Next time someone asks you if you got the good drugs, remember – they’re not good.
Anonymous
Wow, this is wild.
Never too many shoes...
I am so glad I turned down the 20 oxycontin tablets that an intern offered after my c-section! OTC Tylenol was fine.
MKB
90M US households are estimated to have Amazon Prime… which is something like 71%.
DCR
wow … I can’t believe that one, especially given how many people I know “share” prime accounts
anon
Guys, I had a diva cup disaster at work this morning. My lunch hour consisted of running to Target to buy new underwear, pants and Shout wipes for my office chair. Heavy flow day, emptied it twice this morning — and still, disaster. This is the second cycle I’ve used this thing and I think I’m done. I love the idea, but I can’t get it situated in the right spot (consistently, at least) and it is so much messier than I want to deal with.
Puddlejumper
So sorry to hear that! I have used it for over 10 years without this problem so here are some problem solving thoughts:
1) Are the holes on the side clogged? Then you can’t get a good seal.
2) Have you trimmed the little plastic tip to the right length for you?
3) When you put it in do you put it in and turn it until it turns freely? When it can 100% go around in a circle then its in the right spot.
4) Did you buy the right size? There is one for pre child birth and post child birth.
Also my cousin has a cervix that is turned up and it meant she couldn’t use it because it wouldn’t seal So you could ask your gyno about that.
very anon
I just finished my first cycle with a cup and am having mixed feelings about it. Light flow here and I leaked the first night (should have worn a liner) without any further leaking. Inserting/placing/removing was very uncomfortable. Removing was not quite painful and I think it will get better, but I CAN FEEL THE THING inside me. I really really HATE feeling it. I have never liked tampons and have avoided them other than a handful of swimming-required events over the past 20+ years so maybe I will get used to it. Pads feel like diapers and I despise the mess and inconvenience, but I’m not sold on this whole cup thing.
anon
YES. I have tried two sizes and with both, I can feel the cup. It is super annoying. I don’t have that issue with tampons.
Puddlejumper
Is it the bottom part you are feeling? Because you can cut that part really short.
very anon
No, it’s the whole cup and not just the stem. It just feels kind of rough and scratchy inside. I’m trying the Sckoon cup and although I have delivered vaginally, I wonder if the larger size is just too big. May try the Luna cup. It looks less irritable.
Anon
Try the softcup instead. Sits in a different location than the Diva Cup.
Anonymous
I gave it up too. I tried for over a year and never got it to work. I squeezed it, rotated it, carried a pin to clean out the holes, felt for a seal, folded it, wiggled it, and tried different body positions. All I got was messiness and bloody fingernails.
Good riddance to bad rubbish is what I think of the diva cup.
BabyAssociate
This is…awesome. Thanks for sharing this fantastic fact.
BabyAssociate
Blarg, meant for shark fact above!
tz
Lol this cracked me up
Sloan Sabbith
This is totally random, except that we were talking about greek yogurt this morning- I picked up a Zoi Greek Yogurt at a local coffee shop just now and it’s disgusting- it’s got a bizarre texture that’s like….cottage cheese? Which I hate. Also, fruit on the bottom is a pet peeve.
Baconpancakes
If it was kind of grainy, it means the yogurt was warmed and started to curdle. Won’t make you sick, but it’s just not as nice to eat.
Sloan Sabbith
Great.
New Tampanian
fruit on the bottom is disgusting and deserves to be thrown in the garbage immediately.
Anonymous
Unless it’s Noosa. Yummmmm.
Anon
Mmmmmmm mango noosa
I just typed that and it looks like a random arrangement of letters to me
Anonymous
So weird. I don’t understand fruit yogurt without fruit on the bottom. It is so much less delicious.
Sloan Sabbith
I later realized I like it just fine on the bottom in Chobani but this particular cup was too small to mix it very well. So it was still just….yogurt with a bit of fruit in some places and also all over the table.
anon
Boden is 20% off right now. Is that good for them, or should I wait for more off?
To Anon looking for Estate Atty in Phoenix
I commented and left you two names under your original comment on the morning thread.
turtletorney
OMG 100%
Is he just not that into me?
9ish dates in, over the course of 5 weeks. When we’re together, he definitely seems interested and engaged in learning more about me. It’s not just physical; we go rock climbing together, make dinner, a good amount of talking/cuddling. But he is hardly ever the one to initiate hanging out, and usually not the one to initiate texting either. Sometimes slow to reply to texts if it isn’t something urgent, but will reply within 48 hours. But when I suggest hanging out, he always enthusiastically agrees. Is he not that into me, or is he just not a social-initiator type of person?
Anon
Ask him!
Anonymous
If it’s the latter (not a social-initiator) is that going to bother you in the long run? If it is, does it matter why he’s not initiating?
I’d consider just asking him – you’ve noticed you’ve been doing all the planning and is that his MO?
Scarlett
I read a great quote, probably here, but it was “if he/she likes you, you’ll know, otherwise you’ll be confused”. In my experience, the kind of into it guys are just buying time until they meet their person. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I wouldn’t invest much emotionally into this relationship.
anonymous
it was from a reader comment in cup of jo
Anonymous
You are in the friend zone. He’s not that into you.
tz
Curious as to what the ladies here have to say
Hubby and I signed up for a new equinox gym in our neighborhood. We have been members of LA fitness for a while but tired of having to go to a smelly, crowded gym where we have to literally pounce on the machines we want before they get taken. We have until Saturday to decide if we want to sign a year long contract. I like the classes, not having to wait for the gym, not having to carry a towel and the ability to walk to the gym but Idk how I feel about spending so much money on a gym membership.
We both work and make decent money, put some money towards our loans, savings/investment, max out our retirements. While the gym membership is affordable it would make things a wee-bit tighter. We won’t be able to go out as much or have spontaneous dinners. I also want to build up our savings in case I need to take time off work when we decide to have children. I also want to travel more while we have the time and child-free life.
I am very torn on which would be a wiser choice, do we pop into restaurants and keep eating/traveling or do we prioritize our health and eliminate the daily annoyances that come with our current gym. Curious to see what others think.
Anonymous
Sign up!
Anonymous
How much enjoyment do you get from the gym and how often do you go? For me, the gym membership is worth it, but I spend a fair amount of time there and don’t ever want to have to worry about time limits on a treadmill, since I regularly do 90 min runs on them. But if I went to the gym less regularly and it impacted my savings and it took away from an activity my spouse and I enjoy, I would reevaluate (especially since travel and restaurants are also hobbies of mine).
tz
I go fairly regularly when I’m being good (aka daily). Then i’ll fall off the healthy train and go 2 times a week or once a week for a couple weeks in a row. Part of the reason we signed up was hoping the guilt of paying all this money would make us more regular. Plus I really do enjoy the variety of classes offered, I did two back to back classes this morning, something I wouldn’t dream of doing at the smelly gym.
Anonymous
You’ve probably considered this, but just in case: do either of you get a gym reimbursement benefit through your employer? (E.g., you submit documentation that you went X number of time during the month, and they reimburse you Y dollars.) Some gyms also have discounts on memberships based on health insurance provider. Neither is going to make Equinox cheap, but might help.
tz
Haven’t looked into this. Thanks for the tip!
Anonymous
frankly, if you still have student loans, I would not do it. That money would be better spent paying off your loans. But I realize it’s an extreme view