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1. Out of curiosity has anyone joined Chief? just got an ad for it.

   1. Would be nice if you included a one liner of your own research before posting/asking.

      1. Oh get over yourself. That isn’t necessary.

         1. What? Agree with the other person–add a sentence about what you’re talking about. Otherwise you’ll get no engagement.

            1. She got meaningful engagement literally 7 minutes after this useless comment.

      2. She’s asking for feedback from members. If you don’t know what Chief is (I don’t), this post isn’t intended for you!

   2. I spoke at an event for a local Chief chapter. I’m not a member, but visited one of the co-working spaces to have coffee with a current member. She said that it’s great for her to have the nice co-working space and networking events because she’s a consultant who works remotely.

      Most of members that I met at the event have gone solo after climbing the ladder at larger companies, so they like being able to socialize with other career-driven women.

      It’s expensive to get the office add-on, and the networking doesn’t seem so much better than what you can get by going to conferences and/or being intentional about LinkedIn.

   3. OP – the ad I saw was pretty unclear and when I tried to click on it I just got a form. It’s something for senior level women (a club? a group? a membership?) and they want to know how high level you are before you get to know more information I think

      Maybe it’s the new 85 Broads / Levo League?

      1. I feel like I’m in a time warp here and had to check the date of your comment. I literally got recruited for Chief in 2019. I am shocked women on this board don’t know what it is?!

   4. I was targeted a few years back shortly after it got funding. I wasn’t interested as it seemed like a lot of money to be able to network with people who are either already in my network, or have a connection in coming. It felt a bit icky and I also don’t only want to network with women. I do have membership of the local professional chapter where I live, and a women’s group from my Alma mater, so I can see how if someone didn’t have those associations, there might be value if your company is willing to pay for it?

2. I’m curious for other people’s thought on this (but fully expect most people don’t have any thoughts one way or another, and that’s ok, this post is definitely frivolous).

   I’m continually blown away by the sheer excess of some of the outfits posted/worn by certain influencers- I’m specifically thinking of Julia Berolzheimer. Some of her outfits easily cost $10k, yet she rarely repeats outfits and posts at least several every week. So let’s say, conservatively, she’s spending $20k on clothes every week (which would not include her frequent purchases of expensive bags and jewelry). I know her husband is wealthy and I know they make a lot of money from her work. But even then, is she really spending $1m+ a year on clothes? Do we think some of them are being gifted to her without disclosing it, or that she’s wearing and then returning some of them? I’m just genuinely so curious.

   1. dang she doesn’t have a single disclosure anywhere i can see on that site — isn’t that against the law? even places like Wirecutter and Allure have disclosures at the top.

      1. Yes, it’s false advertising. But that’s why I suspect maybe she is NOT being gifted things. She would know better and her risk of exposure would be high.

      2. Hi yes small time bl*gger here who carefully discloses every $20 product or $50 restaurant gift card I get. Yes, what she’s doing is extremely illegal and frustrating to all of us out there following the law.

   2. I’m not sure and i don’t know this influencer but i have wondered that about others. I think they must buy stuff and return or they’re loaned it.

   3. Probably most of it is gifted but there are legal requirements to disclose that.

   4. I have a theory that most of the home try on content (ie: not blatantly wearing it out) is buy and return.

   5. I honestly find her less troublesome than the fast fashion influencers where all the clothes are going into the dumpster. She is probably doing some combination of buying clothes (including on sale), renting purses (those are the big money items for the outfits), and wearing and returning the clothes. I also think most of her outfits are closer to $1000 when you exclude the marque bag or statement coat. In a lot of her outfits, the items that are not linked are pretty old (esp. shoes), so there is probably more re-wearing than you think. Personally, I love Carla Rockmore’s content a lot more who I think just has a really deep closet of vintage clothes to play with that she’s acquired over decades.

3. Reading this morning’s thread late and in a bit of disbelief.

   My grandmother had breast cancer, but she was older, it was caught/treated, and she lived another 15 uneventful years. OB/PCP are aware. Then my mother got and died from pancreatic cancer. OB/PCP are aware. No one has ever recommended any sort of genetic screening. They are both with practices affiliated with a large nonprofit hospital chain in my state (they have a rival system that is similar). Are these doctors not informed? It seems like a screening of some sort should be in order, but no one has ever mentioned it, even though it’s on my forms and we’ve actually discussed it (and I go annually, so it was going back many years for my grandmother and during/after my mother’s cancer).

   I’m glad you all are here. Life is never not a choose-your-own adventure game.

   1. some doctors like to think that you shouldn’t do the screening so you don’t freak yourself out. plus then you’ll push for more testing and so forth and be a pain. i seriously think this is how some think, especially about women. i think mary clare haver even had an mneumonic or something they used at med school for hysterical women.

   2. You should be tested for the ATM gene. I have it – it raises the risk of breast cancer, colon cancer, pancreatic cancer, and sometimes skin cancer. The gene would have come up if you did preconception genetic screening as inheriting two copies causes a life limiting genetic disorder. It’s in the same pathway as BRCA but usually doesn’t raise your cancer risk as much as a BRCA gene does (though it depends on the variant). The increased risk of cancer it causes is somewhat recently discovered.

      1. Oh, yikes for me. I did genetic counseling, but since we’re not Amish or Jewish or having sickle-cell in our families, it was mostly focused on age-related screenings, which I felt like were no more informative than googling the risk of various trisomies. Some blood tests indicated lower risk than average, but other than that, this stuff 100% did not come up and was not even an offered item of discussion (and I was >35, in a major US city).

   3. I’m sorry for your losses. I think it’s likely that they’re already taking the family history into account if you’ve discussed it, and it matters even if genetic screening wouldn’t show anything. But it’s also okay to ask whether there are any results that would change your prevention plan.

      1. FWIW, my OB said that they generally train at teaching hospitals with a large Medicaid population, so the care and populations they train on is not the care and populations they need to have outside of residency. IDK why that is, but training on Medicare-eligible people when that is a large part of any patient population seems to fundamentally underserve the majority of women who are past child-bearing years, which is when many problems predictably arise.

   4. Why not ask your doctors about whether they recommend it and discuss the pros/cons?

   5. How old are you, OP? Not saying you shouldn’t go get screened – I’m 41 and would get a colonoscopy tomorrow if I could get it covered, but if you’re of a certain age and they’re still not recommending, I’d call that straight negligence.

   6. Yep, genetic screening for 1st degree relatives of pancreatic cancer patients is often recommended. My DH’s father died of pancreatic cancer as did his grandmother (DH’s father’s mother). DH is incredibly fearful of a genetic link given the family history and has been tested, as was his father, and no known genetic mutation was found. That’s not to say that one won’t be discovered in the future. He’s also part of that John’s Hopkins program that recommends more frequent screenings etc.

      My family also has a history on my paternal grandmother’s side of various types of related cancers – pancreatic, uterine, colon, melanoma. I want to get tested for a genetic mutation but I’m nervous to do so. I also don’t want to disqualify myself from obtaining life insurance. This might be the sign i need to just get it done. Sigh.

      1. FYI – early data is showing that folks at high risk for pancreatic cancer who are part of the early screening program that your husband is in are having very good outcomes by catching cancer early. Early surgery. Curing it!

         I understand your fears. I waited over 10 years after my mother died before doing my genetic testing. Thank goodness I finally did. Now I’m on a good screening program, I could alert my siblings and cousins what they needed to screen for, and better protect the women in my family who are now at higher risk of breast cancer.

         So yes – get that Life insurance set up, and get testing.

   7. My doc never mentioned it either despite disclosed cancer among many family members on both sides. After a good friend of mine who is a physician did screening and discovered BRCA, I asked my PCP for a referral to a genetic counselor in the big university hospital where I do a lot of my medical care. My PCP didn’t even blink because of my family history and sent me right over. Insurance paid for the whole thing, but I was told that my out-of-pocket cost if it had not done so would have been about $500, which I would have spent to get the information that I got.

   8. I responded earlier. I was referred to a genetic counselor when my sister was diagnosed with br$$st cancer premenopausal. The rest of my family cancer history was post menopausal, which was not considered as alarming (even though there’s a lot). I’m not as familiar with pancreatic, but they tested me for all genetic causes known at the time (which can change over time—I met with the counselor 2x, 5 years apart, first time they didn’t recommend the genetic test, second time they did).
      And, while any expert I speak with remarks on my crazy strong family history of cancer (now including me), there’s no known genetic component. (Just means the science isn’t there yet.)

   9. Most general doctors (OB/PCP) are not well educated on screening recommendations for the less common cancers. Even the current screening recs for the common ones aren’t followed! For example, many women are not getting the appropriate screening for breast cancer, cervical cancer, and colon cancer (nevermind skin cancers). So it is impossible to expect that general doctors keep track of all of the National Guidelines for more rare cancer screenings. Also, guidelines are being updated constantly and published in dense medical papers. It is just too much material to keep track of. And honestly, these days appointments are so rushed that family history is often not even gathered in detail. You are lucky if they ask you on your first visit, but then it is typically forgotten.

      At every visit with your main doctor (PCP ideally) you should update them if there has been any new family history that could impact you. Cancer is a big one.

4. maybe a fun question for today if you’ve had a few jobs: what is the most annoying part of your job that hasn’t gone away as you’ve gotten more senior? friends were talking about this the other day and i’m still pondering

   1. Men that are more confident in their knowledge than they should be.

      1. Just men

         1. I just switched careers to a female-dominated industry and so far one of my favorite things about it is that I rarely have to interact with men

      2. lol, timeless alas

   2. Being sent pdf files for signing that aren’t working with my pdf writer so it takes a bunch of steps to sign & also reminding staff to follow procedures/read directions.

      1. My pet peeve is being sent word documents to sign which I have to convert to PDF (yes, admin can do it, but by the time I send the e-mail I could just do it myself).

   3. Talking on the phone.

   4. In one of my first internships, a lot of my job was copying/pasting information from one place into another. This task is still part of my job today as a midlevel person.

   5. I’m retired but last week I did a short gig for pay and I was the most senior person there and was in charge of the proceedings. I kid you not, a very self-confident white man of about my age came into the room and said, “Oh, hi. Are you the stenographer?”

      1. !!!! that is infuriating. I could barely handle it when I was a first year associate and people asked me if I was the court reporter. At your seniority level? I would have murdered him!

         1. Right? Everybody else in the room was just horrified, which was gratifying. I just smiled and said “Wow. That’s the first time anybody has said that to me for, like, 35 years!”

      2. It NEVER ends!

      3. Ugh!

   6. Being told that something is the #1 priority, working hard to deliver on that priority, and then receiving half a dozen emails asking about the status of X, Y, and Z. What do you think the status is?

   7. Finding files on Box.
      Authentication apps.

      1. Amen.

   8. Scheduling meetings for groups across multiple time zones.

   9. entering my time.

      1. Always and forever.

   10. Never enough time to do anything as well as it should be done.
       And the stakes are high.
       Bad combination.

5. has anyone seen colorful pendant necklaces like this? or are they not in now?

   1. Vintage jade pieces are timeless.

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