Weekend Open Thread

Chunky Heel Sandals: Splendid JaylaSomething on your mind? Chat about it here.

These block heel sandals look kind of perfect — I love the thick straps that give them a bit of an edge. They’re $158 at Zappos. Splendid Jayla Sandal

Two lower-priced options are here and here.

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Weekly News Update

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  • Fashionista reviews some of the latest lip glosses, and Racked offers advice on removing eye makeup.
  • Amanda Peet writes for Lenny about caring about your appearance while accepting some signs of aging (without turning to things like Botox).
  • Fountain of 30 rounds up several root concealer sprays to cover up the gray.
  • New York magazine’s The Cut separates fact from fiction about the size of your pores and what you can do about it.
  • A former investment banker and in-house counsel writes for Above the Law on how to leave the legal field in 21 steps.
  • The Muse gives advice on dealing with a job you hate — before you’re able to leave.
  • Fast Company tells you “Why You Should Evaluate Job Offers Like An Investor” (and how to do it).
  • Fusion looks at how women have been body hacking for years — for example, getting IUDs — while other, often male, instances of the practice are seen as new and groundbreaking.
  • Lifehacker shares tips for stopping a night of heavy drinking from ruining your sleep that night.
  • For your Laugh of the Week, The New Yorker tells you how to prolong the magic of your wedding day. One more: Alexandra Petri explains in The Washington Post the perks of holding the Woman Card.

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Frugal Friday’s Workwear Report: Ponte Flare Long Dress

Belted Dress: Uniqlo Ponte Flare Long DressOur daily workwear reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Uniqlo has a number of cute dresses right now, including this ponte flare dress. (Do check out their seersucker dresses too, though, especially for summer.) I like the simple look of this one — it seems more minimal (or elegant or some such) than the usual ponte dresses we see at this price point. The dark green is nice (try it with light gray, beige, white and navy, or even pale lavender to make it more springy), but the dress is also available in white, gray, and black. It’s $39.90 at Uniqlo, well-reviewed, and available in sizes XS-L. Uniqlo Ponte Flare Long Dress

Two plus-size options are here and here.

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Coffee Break: Michele ‘Deco II Diamond’ Diamond Dial Watch Case

Work Watch: Michele 'Deco II Diamond' Diamond Dial Watch CaseUm: this is amazing. I know the name of this watch style is “Deco,” but this particular face seems very Art Deco inspired to me (love!) — and of course the color scheme scores points with me as well. Plus some everyday bling with diamonds? Yes please. The watch face is swappable with different bands, making the whole thing a pretty solid investment. This particular watch face is $1,795; there are a few similar options. Michele ‘Deco II Diamond’ Diamond Dial Watch Case

A few lower-priced watches that have faces with colorful designs are here, here, and here, and here, as well as this one by Michele for $795.

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Making Time for Therapy

Reader C has a great question about work/life balance — and keeping a standing therapy appointment without being perceived as lazy.  I can’t wait to hear the readers’ tips!  Here’s her question:

Hi! I’m a newer BigLaw associate. The stress of the job has caused my mental health to take a hit and so, I’ve started seeing a therapist with whom I have weekly evening (8 PM) appointments. In most other professions, asking to see a therapist “after hours” would easily be okay, but given the “constant availability” expectations of my firm, I think this may be difficult. Is there a way to firmly, but respectfully carve this hour out for myself once a week without being perceived as lazy?

Great question — I think this is a pretty common thing BigLaw associates go through, and kudos to you for taking care of your mental health. We’ve talked about taking time for frequent doctors’ appointments before, but I don’t think we’ve talked explicitly about making time for therapy and other standing appointments.  Here are some tips:

  • I really believe that most employers really do want you to have a work/life balance — but also to get stuff done. I’d be shocked if people give you too much push back on having the appointment. If and when it comes up with your supervisors, I  don’t even think you need to get into too many details here — just have an apologetic note in your voice when you say, “I have a standing appointment tonight at 8:00, but…”
  • Make yourself available after the appointment as needed, and let people know that.  “I’ll be back in the office at 9:30,” or “I’ll be back on email at 9:30.” Then, do it.  I know therapy sessions can sometimes be emotional, but whatever you say you’re going to do, make sure you do it.  (You may want to check out our discussion a few weeks ago about answering work email at home.)
  • Know your colleagues. If there’s one of your superiors who only starts work at 6PM, you may have to handle him or her in a different way, and be more direct, but also more persistent by reminding them regularly that you’ll be out of pocket, checking in with them as soon as you’re you’re out of the appointment, and possibly even setting up a backup (paralegal? secretary?) who can definitely be available for the whopping 90 minutes you need to yourself.
  • Finally, know the peculiarities of your work schedule. If your work requires you to frequently have a late-night deadline (i.e., if your company has a regular pouch going from NYC to DC on a nightly basis), or if you work with colleagues or clients in a different time zone who are still in full work mode when you’re leaving at 8 PM — then I would strongly consider shifting your therapy appointment to another time, like first thing in the morning. Another option that I know some readers have mentioned is having a therapist who they only see via Facetime/Skype/or on the phone — if you find such a therapist, he or she may offer even later/earlier appointments than 8 PM (or be in a different time zone entirely so the hours are later/earlier than a local therapist could offer.)

Ladies, for those of you who go to therapy or other standing appointments, how do you make time for the appointment and let your colleagues know? What kind of pushback have you come up against, and how have you dealt with it? 

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Thursday’s Workwear Report: Orca Wrap Dress

Washable Work Dress: Shabby Apple Orca Wrap DressOur daily workwear reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Someone reminded me of Shabby Apple recently — I hadn’t checked out their site in years. They have a ton of machine washable, stretchy dresses with a slight vintage vibe, including this fun ponte dress. Customer service says that despite its name it’s not a true wrap dress — it has a “skirted wrap panel attached” — and they recommend that you machine wash it inside-out on cold using the delicate cycle. It’s $74, available in sizes 2-12. Shabby Apple Orca Wrap Dress

Here’s a plus-size option.

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