Tuesday’s Workwear Report: A-Line Knit Skirt
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This bold A-line skirt from Me + Em is definitely a statement piece, and the statement is “Wow, this skirt is so fun.” With something this dramatic, I would keep the rest of the outfit somewhat subdued. I would love to pair it with something like the crochet sweater polo we featured on Friday, or a crisp white oxford to keep the focus on the skirt.
There is a coordinating top if you’re feeling extra bold, but that’s going to be a lot of look for a day in the office.
The skirt is on sale for $241.50 (down from $345) at Me & Em and comes in sizes XS-XL.
Sales of note for 6/19:
- Amazon Prime Day has started! You can check out our roundup here…
- Nordstrom – 25% off clearance! Nice selection of Vince, Veronica Beard, Boss, Theory, Beyond Yoga, and Zella
- Another Tomorrow – Seasonal sale, 50% off select styles
- Ann Taylor – 50% off everything + free shipping! Readers love this blouse and I always love the variety of colors/textures for this jacket (it's a great separate)
- Athleta – 30-60%off reader favorites like Brookyn and Endless pants, and the Pranayama wrap is marked down to $55. ,
- AYR – Ooh, good sale section — but lots on final sale. Readers love (LOVE) these comfy work pants and these jeans.
- Bare Necessities – Semi-annual sale, up to 70% off, plus get an additional 40% off clearance swim. Readers have sung the praises of these cooling pajamas and their bra-sized swimwear
- Boden – 15% off new women's wear styles with code
- Evereve – 20% off dresses!
- Glossier – Last day 6/19: 20-25% off almost everything (including subscriptions!)
- J.Crew – Extra 15% off your purchase (on top of up to 50% off select styles)
- J.Crew Factory – Extra 50% off clearance + extra 15% off orders over $100, and extra 20% off orders over $125 – readers love their schoolboy blazers and sweaters (down as low as $84), and they have a great selection of summer suiting in the sale. Ooh, and these scallop-trim t-shirts have major Boden vibes.
- Jenni Kayne – Semi-annual warehouse sale
- M.M.LaFleur – Archive sale! (Try code CORPORETTE15 for 15% off on other items)
- Nordstrom Rack – Clearance, new arrivals up to 75% off! Nice selection of Vince, Veronica Beard, Reiss and Rag & Bone, a ton of affordable work dresses from Calvin Klein, Maggy London, Eliza J, and Donna Morgan
- Ruti – Semi-annual sale, up to 70% off!
- Splendid – Up to 60% off women's sale!
- Talbots – 6/19 only: free shipping, no minimum! Readers love their cashmere cardigans
This looks so dowdy to me, especially in a knit.
IDK, Boden has had similar ones in the past. I feel that if you are tall and thin, sort of like Tilda Swinton, you can even make this business formal with hard accessories. I could frump this up: wearing a size too small, wrong shoes, wrong proportions, wrong top, humidity hair. Execution can be more of a challenge with some items.
I’ve always thought of Tilfa Swinton’s look as basically dowdy, but worn with such presence that it somehow still looks awesome.
I love it! haha
I love it, too! I had a similar one from J Crew but in all different colors that I loved. Finally had to get rid of it when it got an unremovable stain on the front. Alas, the one featured here would be floor-length on me.
The image just seems too stretched lengthwise
The inconsistent stripe width makes it seem messy to me. I thought it was really bad pleating at first.
I’m still not used to seeing midi/mid ankle skirts as anything other than dowdy. This would be so much cuter if it was shorter or full length.
My son is in 7th grade and I’m looking at high schools for him. I’m in north Jersey and it’s a 50 ride to UES.
He has yet to be academically challenged. He has Aspergers type autism. I’m considering supporting him applying to Regis and wanted to ask anyone on the board about their experience as a parent of the school.
My son has an IEP but the support is minimal. He struggles socially and that problem will exist no matter the school. I’m in North Jersey so the NYC magnet schools aren’t an option. Our local high school is good enough but academically it’s very stale for him.
I have a similar kid and I will say that while she floated academically, there was something about a huge public high school that wore her dealing-with-it battery out. I think it was the lack of recess? I feel that if I could have found a high school for her like Davidson (small, nurturing, spread out so you have a lot of walking in your day), I would have sent her. Instead, autism (even if you are high functioning to the point where 50 years ago you’d have just been quirky) is a no-go from admissions if you are candid on the paperwork. Boo. Some people we know have sent their kids, mostly boys, to autism- or neurodivergent-friendly boarding schools where their kids have thrived. I am sure they tailor classes to the students so they are learning a ton even if these aren’t the Lawrenceville-type schools near you. IDK if private school elsewhere is in the mix or if Craig School is still around (Morris County), but we have many family connections there as students and teachers and if we lived in the area would also look there. I think they added a high school at some point (or many boys went to Delbarton for high school). Those kids were academically very well prepared for a rigorous high school and then college.
I have a 10th grader with AuDHD who is smart but was floating a bit in middle school. Private school, particularly a challenging private high school, was a total game changer for him/us. Being with intellectual equals (and a fair number of kids smarter than him!) has been great. “2E” (high intelligence alongside neurodivergence) is pretty common so there is a very high population of other quirky kids and he’s found his tribe and really thrived.
If that isn’t an option financially, I get it. I’d focus on honors programs in your local high schools, as well as supplemental academic programs. Classes that explore a particular hyperfocus can also really help with socializing. As I’ve said to my kiddo – in highly driven/high performing organizations there is a LOT of neurodivergence and it’s much easier (imo) to navigate when that’s more common.
+1 to customizing your experience at the public high school, if that’s an option. My AuDHD kid has thrived in AP and dif classes. Or, is an IB program an option? Accelerated courses haven’t been a total panacea for the social stuff, but it’s been markedly better than middle school. Also, extracurriculars have been huge for him. I feel like he’s basically making his own educational experience. I will say that he still needs some downtime to recover from everything.
I was undiagnosed AuDHD during high school, and honors classes/extracurriculars that let me let loose/fed into my hyperfocus were key to me feeling OK about my high school experience. I took all the AP/Honors classes that were offered, and found other kids there who were also neurodivergent to differing degrees. My parents were also very supportive of me being in band (marching, concert, jazz), where I also found some quirky, smart, hyperfocused kids.
This is to say: there are ways to make a good public school work, even if a more tailored option isn’t practical. I have fond memories of high school, and learned a lot about myself (even with no real diagnosis) that helped me learn that I needed a smaller college than either of the big State U schools that most of my classmates attended.
Last I checked, Regis was 100% scholarship. I only know adult grads, but it was a great place when they attended.
Eh, as a smart ADHD kid I did better in a big public school with a robust track of AP/honors classes (that by law had to accommodate me) than a smaller private school (which would have accommodated me depending on donation level).
I will leave a link in the next comment where you may find more specifics about Regis, as the board is NYC centric. [DC Urban Mom Metropolitan New York City Forum.]
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/71.page
I would check out Lawrenceville too, if he’s strong in academics and you’re open to boarding. Boarding plus the required sports may help him find his people. Freshman all live together, so it’s also a situation where I think you’d have a good sense after one year if it’s a solution or not.
I went there eons ago, albeit as a female day student, and it was the first place I was ever academically challenged. I think it made me the person I am more than college.
I know a similar son to OP’s son who boarded at Blair from near enough to go home to recharge as needed. I can’t remember where he went to college but he has a master’s degree now.
It’s almost markdown time for Pride stuff – anything colorful youve got your eye on?
I could hardly find anything available this year at full price. Got any good links?
I love the whole concept of Pride but really dislike the rainbow color scheme. I wish I felt differently.
I love rainbow everything—Rainbow Brite probably affected me too deeply during formative years.
Same. I’m 46 years old and love a rainbow. My son, who happens to be on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, told me to “not be cringe about it,” which made me laugh. Teens are gonna teen.
I love it, too! I was wearing rainbow stuff long before it became a Pride symbol!
I have a 6yo daughter. Rainbow is a neutral.
I like rainbows and like supporting the LGBTQ+ community, but really hesitate to make Pride-themed purchases unless it is clear that my money isn’t going to a corporate beast cashing in on a theme.
i’m watching for this one – https://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/rainbow-kaleidoscope-wreath/?catalogId=79&sku=2884185&pickuplocation=ST:%7Bstore_code%7D&cm_ven=PLA&cm_cat=Google&cm_pla=Outdoor%20%26%20Garden%20%3E%20Wreaths%20%26%20Garlands&cm_ite=2884185_14571727833_aud-1967894174833:pla-2189390105450&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=14571727833&gbraid=0AAAAADrs9cE4NzbleE6LMS4y5txqAOI9H&gclid=CjwKCAjw3ejRBhAdEiwADkqPn5jAIyo1UxwZlTlAiPp19sbIKtrXhPbtVsuAulDlj3jCFpVufpMUmBoCQcoQAvD_BwE
Does anyone know who Beanie Feldman’s stylist is? I need someone to follow who can dress a woman who isn’t a twig well. Beanie always looks fantastic.
If you google “Beanie Feldman’s stylist,” the search returns an article with the stylist.
So obvious, but thank you! I know what I am doing now on my lunch break :)
Trying to take advantage of my rising 4th grader’s national park pass and seeking recommendations for:
1) Great Smoky Mountain National Park for fall break in early October – I know this is a very busy time of year there so “off the beaten path” recs especially welcome. We’re not normally Airbnb people but seems like renting a house is the way to go here?
2) Utah Mighty 5 for spring break in mid-March — doable in 8-9 days? if not, which ones would you eliminate?
We did 4 of the 5 in a week – we did not go to Capitol Reef – so I think it’s doable. We had 8 days in Utah, but we had one full day in SLC for a sports competition and because of the timing of that we spent more time driving around than we would have if we had been focused on the parks only. You won’t get to spend days in each park, but you will have time to see parts of each one. Our youngest was 10 for that trip, and it was manageable with her. We flew into Vegas, drove up to Zion and Bryce, then went from there and ultimately flew home from SLC.
It was an incredible trip and I was blown away by the natural beauty. I knew we would see some cool things, but I honestly didn’t expect to fall so in love with that part of the country! For what it’s worth, my favorites were Bryce and Zion. I also really enjoyed the drive across Utah to Moab, probably because it’s such a different landscape from the Midwest.
What is your price range for the Smokies?
I’m taking a week-long staycation later this summer because I really need a break from work. I’m single, no kids and plan to spend the week doing crafts, going to my local pool, taking long walks, etc. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to make sure this feels like a real break even though I’m not going anywhere? My only idea so far is to give up scrolling on my phone for the week. Any other ideas for how to make this week feel like a break?
If you have the budget, staycationing in a hotel always feels much more vacation-y to me than a staycation at home. Probably because there’s no temptation to get caught up in housework.
This. Find one with a pool and hang out there.
Going to a coffee shop with my book and spending two hours reading with coffee every morning would be a big piece of it for me. Also, I would pre-do all of the household chores the same way that I do before I actually leave town, so that I’m not doing laundry and groceries on my week off. Finally, I’d decide which nights I want to go out to dinner and go to restaurants/get take out from restaurants that I either already know I enjoy but don’t go to or that are new to me, the same way that I do on a trip.
I’ve come to recognize that every vacation or trip I take involves a lot of deliberate preparation ahead of time: getting laundry done, choosing clothes, packing, taking care of house details so I can be gone, closing down work, etc. Planning activities and researching opening/closing times, setting up meetings or get-togethers, researching good restaurants or local attractions to visit. If I were you, I’d plan on putting in that same amount of work before this week — as if you were actually leaving town. Choose a theme for the week, and build around it: it sounds like you’re doing a “camp week” (crafts, pool, nature), so maybe do a Camp Staycation week.
I second the local hotel idea. I also make detailed, fun itineraries ahead of time, just like I would for a trip somewhere else. Research places to shop, eat, etc. and treat your hometown like a place you’ve never been. Get to those things you never have “time” to do.
+1. You will want a mix of comfortable relaxing things, and novel stimulating things.
I never sleep correctly in a hotel, but maybe a good one near you has a day pass and you can use their pool and eat there.
The key is to stay at a great hotel!
Even in a fairly basic 3 star hotel I sleep better than I do at home. I think it’s just person-dependent.
Even when I am in very nice hotels (work puts me up in 4+ stars), I can’t get myself to think of them as a destination in and of themselves. They are just a place to stay while I do the other stuff.
I am more likely to have a vacation-like staycation if I treat my house the same way: it’s a place to sleep while I do the staycation stuff. Practically, that means getting absorbed in my craft without getting distracted by my sofa & TV, treating my home as a landing spot before I go to the pool and then for brunch and a walk, etc. Front-loading the chores and laundry so I don’t spend all my time off on them also helps with the staycation satisfaction.
Meh, the beauty of a staycation is sleeping in my own bed. (I don’t sleep well in hotels.)
Doing the things that you never take the time to do – otherwise it will just feel like a long weekend of normal life! Like, there’s a botanical garden half an hour away? Take your long walk there. Get reservations at places that are hard to get into because you’re flexible on the time. Etc.
A long weekend of normal life is a beautiful thing. I’d pick it any day over schlepping to botanical gardens.
OP, maybe find a good recipe from a trip you took once and recreate it.
When I think back to vacations that felt long and a true break, it’s because each day was a little different – even for island vacations, hopping around to different beaches, or a boat excursion, or a hike. So, if you don’t want to “schlep” then my advice is still adding some variety to distinguish this from regular routines!
+1. The best way to leave a staycation feeling like crap is to just “hang out at home.”
On the other hand, the most restorative vacation I’ve ever taken was sailing in the Caribbean and every day was pretty much exactly the same. I think it depends on your personality but some people thrive on routine.
I hope with a sailing trip that you had the novelty of navigating, experiencing different islands / coves, etc. and not just staying at the same spot the whole time!
We were moving, yes, but fundamentally the days were exactly the same, and we didn’t go on land at all.
I’ve also done lake/beach vacations where I was literally in the same spot the whole time and ended feeling very restored. Not everyone needs novelty. It just depends on your personality and what rejuvenates you.
OP, I’d reflect on some of your favorite vacations and what made them great for you. Are you someone who likes to go to a lake cabin or beach house, where the routine is laid back and pretty similar every day? Or do you want novelty and variety? I think if you want a good staycation, you should mirror it as closely as possible to good vacations. If crafting, laying by the pool, and taking long walks sounds lovely and restorative to you, do that.
You need patio drinks.
Go out to lunch.
Go to a few shops that you never take the time to go to.
Take a class – sip and paint, trapeze, whatever. Go see a live performance. Don’t “putter” for more than a few hours, whatever you do. Puttering has a time and place but absolutely not for when you want to have a good vacation.
Puttering is my favorite thing. I’d probably use this time to dump out all of my drawers and put them back together, tossing the trash and putting together a good will pile.
That’s a chore, not a vacation. Enjoying it is fine but it’s literally not a vacation
I mean, a paint and sip class sounds like absolute torture. Everyone refreshes differently.
Also, check out this podcast and see what type of rest resonates with you.
https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/lazy/kindsofrest
For me, part of the fun of a vacation is the anticipation, so I would make specific plans. Choose the crafts you’re going to make and gather the materials for them, go to your local bookstore and buy a book to read at the pool, plan a neighborhood to walk in and choose a couple of new-to-you places you might want to stop along the way. Make reservations for a class or tour or restaurant. Make plans with a friend. You could even plan your outfits ahead of time and make sure they’re all clean and ready to go.
Don’t answer emails. If you’re off work, be off work 100%.
Other than that, treat it like you would a vacation. Go out to eat in your neighborhood. Pack a picnic to the pool. If you drink, have a glass of wine with lunch or sleep in and make brunch. Whatever you normally do during the work week, turn it into an excuse to linger somewhere.
In high school, I loved reading short stories. Is that still a genre now? The ones then were so excellent. Now, I read mainly nonfiction because I have such varied chunks of time that I can’t hang onto complex fiction well. But if I read something shorter where I could start and finish in one sitting, I think I’d read more of that. But where is it? Is that just magazine articles (whoops — still nonfiction). I miss the good stuff from English class and feel that there has to be more of that out there, somewhere. Yes?
There are great short story collections. I really like Laurie Colwin’s work from the 70s and 80s, Lauren Groff is probably one of the best contemporary short story writers (albeit a bit dark for me), Claire Keegan’s work is beautiful.
The New Yorker publishes a lot of short fiction, but I find I prefer 20th century work, or non-American short stories. There’s a cynical tone I don’t always love.
A lot of well known novelists also have short story collections. Jhumpa Lahiri, Curtis Sittenfeld, Amor Towles, Zadie Smith are some I can think of off the top my head.
Those are all great shouts. Curtis Sittenfield’s stories are so intensely uncomfortable, but so good.
Ahh, she is one of my favorite authors. She captures the awkwardness of being human so well.
That’s exactly what I tell people when they ask why she’s my favorite author!
Check out Ted Chiang!
Exhalation is one of the most beautiful short story collections of all time IMHO.
Lauren Groff’s new book of short stories is also excellent, but a bit of a gut punch, so be forewarned if you’re already in a dark mood.
+1
You Think It, I’ll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld
Table for Two by Amor Towels
Mr Salary by Sally Rooney
Five Tuesday in Winter by Lily King
I love short stories too. The Rock Eaters by Brenda Peynado is spectacular collection of stories. I think it’s the best short story collection in English of the last ten years.
For older stories, if you haven’t read them already, William Trevor is very very good. Looking forward to seeing other people’s recs!
Just dropping a few favorite short story collections:
Anything is Possible by Elizabeth Strout (the stories are linked but stand on their own)
Normal Rules Don’t Apply and It’s Not the End of the World by Kate Atkinson
Also, would a novella be too long? I recently loved Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan, which is probably one third the length of a typical full novel.
+1 to Small Things Like These. I re-read this yearly.
Hellions by Julia Elliott and Good Citizens Need Not Fear by Maria Reva are both solid picks for short stories. Good Citizens has a throughline but is structured as a series of stories.
You might also look at a subscription to The Bitter Southerner. It’s a nice combination of long-form journalism, short stories, poetry and art.
Ask your library for recent short story complications or anthologies!
I would always look for editions of the Best American Short Stories series at library sales.
yes I got several of these books and always enjoyed the stories.
I read almost nothing but short stories these days.
Recent reads:
– Go Down Moses by Faulkner
– any of the Sherlock Holmes stories by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
– British Library Crime Classics edited by Martin Edwards
– Everyman’s Library story collections
– American Mystery Classics edited by Penzler
I always like Kelly Link’s short stories
I highly recommend The Secret Lives of Church Ladies short story collection by Deesha Philyaw. Excellent as an audiobook as well.
https://shortstoryproject.com/ could be of interest! Especially if there are some classics you missed back in high school.
Just this year, Lauren Groff, Louise Erdrich, and Colm Toibin have had short story collections published. I haven’t read those yet, but here are some of my favorites.
– Recitatif by Toni Morrison (just one story, but I think about it all the time)
– The Secret Lives of Church Ladies by Deesha Philyaw
– Jollof Rice and Other Revolutions by Omolola Ijeoma Ogunyemi
– Afterparties by Anthony Veasna So
– What It Means When a Man Falls From the Sky by Lesley Nnekah Arimah
If you want more of a sampling, there’s a yearly anthology of The Best American Short Stories. The guest editor changes every year, so if there’s a fiction author you enjoy on the list of guest editors, you could read the collection from that author’s year.
LeVar Burton (from Reading Rainbow) had a podcast where he read short stories aloud. The podcast has ended now, but there are over 200 episodes, and they include stories from all over the world, in different genres, and by new authors and some of the most iconic authors.
There are still magazines that publish individual short stories. I would browse your library’s catalogue, including its digital catalogue, to see what you have access to. If you read any of the anthologies, they’ll tell you where each story was originally published, so after a while, you might find a few publications with a vibe you like enough to support.
I have an over full toiletries closet. Most of it was for guests – I used to have friends and family stay with me several times a year (I’m near a common tourist city). Over the last year, I got cancer and haven’t been hosting (I’m doing ok but need rest). I am purging closets. Some of these products are still “good”/not expired. 99% are open. like my niece used the L’Oréal shampoo and my brother opened a different bottle. I called a local shelter and they do not take opened products. I don’t have social media. Is my best option throwing things away? I can’t use 10 bottles of shampoo before they expire, even as body wash, and can’t use some of these chemicals anyway.
Buy nothing group. I also put a bunch of stuff in a community centre bathroom (perfumes, hair products, nothing that would come into contact with skin) and 80% was gone in an hour.
We have a basket like this at work.
Put them in a box on your porch and post that they’re available for free on your local buy nothing group. They’ll be gone within an hour and a half.
Agree with others that a Buy Nothing group is the right forum, but at least where I am, those operate on Facebook and you don’t have social media. Do you have a nearby friend who might do the posting for you? I’d happily do that for a pal.
Yes please just trash them. If you have the energy to rinse and recycle great. You had cancer! Life is too short to waste it lovingly rehoming used shampoo
Churches are often happy to take things like this.
I used to live next to a fire department and they would also accept opened products. Not for distribution, but for the station’s own facilities. Apparently strawberry body wash was popular amongst the firemen.
I have never given a shampoo’s expiration date a second thought — if they’re products you would use, just not for a year or two, by all means just keep them and use them as you get to them. For the rest, you’ve done enough. Trash is fine.
Has anyone found any fantastic “executive” very low heel or flat shoes this summer? My neuroma is acting up and I just want to invest in good shoes with the right profile for work (mostly ankle length tropical wool pants and dresses with longer skirts, both of which look OK in flat shoes to my eye). I wanted a pair from Me & Em, but they are sold out in my size. What else good is out there now? I’m good on loafers and fashion sneakers at the moment.
I have hammertoes and bad feet in general, never wear any sort of heel, and I just bought a few pairs of low block heels which are actually comfortable.
This one has executive style: Miz Mooz Gilda Heel. May not be low enough for you though.
The other one is slightly more trendy: Cole Haan Paxton Mary Jane.
ooh, love the Paxton — and I’ve never seen anything so corporate from Miz Mooz! off to google if they’ve been bought
I honestly planned to return one or both, but I am having a hard time sending either of them back!
I got a pair of Naturalizer Cosmic Mary Janes iin pewter and they have been real workhorses this summer. Note I had to size up a half size.
IDK why I am sad about Daveigh Chase (among other roles, Rhonda Volmer in Big Love, which she was chilling and terrific in) dying. I guess it seems so familiar: an accident, a legitimate Rx for pain meds from a doctor, descent, bad friends. I saw her mom on the news and her story just was so awful — searching for her daughter, seeing in the news that she had died.
I didn’t follow any of her work, but it is really horrible to think about. And it adds to my opinion that child acting, at least in any substantial amounts, should simply be illegal.
Here, though, it could have happened to any of us. How many times did I get an Rx for a week’s worth of pain meds to take as needed? I think once (in my 20s), I took all of them since I was used to how antibiotics worked where you have to finish the bottle. It’s really upsetting in retrospect. I was not a child actor, just someone with a sinus infection that I couldn’t shake that was putting all the pressure on every last part of my face and head.
Sometimes that’s actually correct (to stay ahead of the pain) vs. taking as needed. They should have been clear though!
They need to do a lot more to identify who is susceptible. It’s not good enough to do big studies and average across people and then find out the hard way later on how different people respond.
It is very sad!
Checking in on Ch. 13, if she’s still reading here.
I saw yesterday that Jill Smokler, who founded Scary Mommy back in the day, died from glioblastoma. Way too young. Although I don’t read SM much anymore, I give her credit for starting a place to talk about the harder side of motherhood.
Also, glioblastoma is an awful disease, and I hate it so much. (My mom was diagnosed in late 2025 and is lucky to still be alive.)
I’m sorry to hear that.
i saw that on facebook – it annoyed me that there wasn’t an obit in the NYT. there was such a nice outpouring of memories from fans in the FB page.
Do you use a daily moisturizer with spf or two separate products?
Two separate products. I like to wear SPF 50 on my face, neck, and chest. I don’t think a combo product can provide the same level of protection. And you need a plain moisturizer before bed anyway.
Revision Intellishade!
If you have a sibling living at home with your mom and your mom has fallen and you need to call 911 to get her up, how long would it be before you mentioned that to other siblings? What if it happens twice in a month?
Everyone is on speaking terms. Mom hasn’t fallen before (that I know about; put a big asterisk there for now).
It depends on whether telling my sibling would help or hurt (add to the guilt, complain about what a terrible job I’m doing, swoop in and cause further issues, embarrass mom).
I’m confused about this. they called 911 to “get her up” in that A. they could not physically get her upright without help or she’d fallen in a way they were worried moving could cause further injury? or B. the fall actually resulted in a serious injury such that she was transported to the hospital for treatment?
If A, I’d mention it the next time I normally would have talked to my siblings. If B, I’d probably call or text from the hospital that mom broke her hip and is heading into surgery / doesn’t need surgery but will be in a wheelchair for a couple months.
I think it is a vanilla fall, but even that is something where help is needed.
My GF (80+ and very tall/lanky) was too frail to help my GM (much shorter but about the same weight) up when she fell. Lifting her could have taken both of them out. That was a sign that living at home, just the two of them, was not safe and since there was nowhere to move them to (and they didn’t want to leave and likely couldn’t have afforded it), my mom arranged for at least daytime sitters for many hours (not all, not overnight). It was better than nothing.
I agree with 12:11 Anon – if mom is ok but you couldn’t lift her without help, this is not “call immediately” territory but the next time you talked to your sibling, assuming that’s within a few days or a week from the incident. If it was an actual emergency, that’s same-day call, when the sibling on-hand has a chance in the middle of the logistics of all of it.
I’m used to hearing about these things same day.
In my own family, I would expect a phone call same day that a sibling called 911 for our parent, even if it’s minor or a non-event. If it’s a non-event, then at least a text like “FYI, wanted to let you know that Mom fell, and I had to call 911 to get assistance and an evaluation. No injuries, but I’ll keep you posted!”
My sibling (late 20s) lives with our dad (in his 60s) on the other side of the country. My dad has fallen several times in the last few years requiring medical care (just stitches, nothing more serious). I only hear about that during my weekly-ish phone calls with my dad. I would not expect my sibling to tell me unless there is something more serious or concerning beyond the dog leash occasionally causing chaos. In fact, I suspect my sibling doesn’t usually find out until after the fact, as they are often at work when these incidents happen.
Within a couple hours max, extending grace/cushion for the sibling on the scene who is dealing with all of it real time, shuffling their own schedule/day to get to the hospital, etc. In my family, though, notice would be pretty immediate – a call or text would be placed while mom was en route to the hospital.
The one caveat that is bubbling up in my family is that I have a sibling who over dramatizes everything and is unhelpful at all times. So, we’ve been known to delay telling her things until we have answers because she’d show up at the hospital and attempt to “help”, leaning on her knowledge from The Pitt and Greys. So maybe do a split second of self reflection and make sure you’re not not being told because of anything like that.
ASAP
Same day notification (or next day if it happens at night). It doesn’t have to be dramatic, but a quick text that it happened and Mom’s okay is appropriate.
I would expect a 911 call to be same-day news.
In our family that is a same-day text, typically as soon as the parent is at the ER.
Where I live, it is 90 degrees with lots of humidity, and basically has been for months, so I’ve forgotten how to dress in non-sticky hot weather. next week traveling to Disneyland where the high is mid 70s and sunny and the low is in the 60s. Will we be cold in shorts?
I don’t like wearing shorts in situations where my skin might stick to seats. Personally, I would opt for long pants and short sleeves in that weather, probably with a removable long sleeve top layer.
It gets cold at night in So Cal (also early morning). I am too cold in shorts when it’s in the 60s. YMMV.
I also don’t like shorts for theme parks. I’d probably wear linen pants and a t-shirt. I wouldn’t need a top layer but I’m always hot (thanks perimenopause).
You will get chilly in the early morning/late evening in shorts because there is no humidity. I’d wear lightweight long pants, short sleeves, and a light long-sleeved layer.
This is like October weather for me, though I’d wear jeans then given the sun isn’t as strong that time of year. I’d wear linen pants, a breathable tee, and have a long-sleeved tee or light sweatshirt for mornings and evenings.