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Coffee Break: Knot Point II Flats

woman wears hot pink pointy-toed flats with a knotted detail on top

I don't think we've featured these cute knot-detail pointy flats from Rothy's before, but I always ooh and aah at them when I see them on the site. I think they look perfectly preppy and cute, but also somehow a bit more modern than plain flats. (Am I reminded of trendy headbands with knot details? Hmmn.)

The shoes come in 7 colors, sizes 5-13, for $165.

Psst: Rothy's is having an archive sale, also, with pretty good savings. I got a lot of Rothy's bags before they changed their referral points system a few months ago, so here are some mini reviews if you're curious… in general I truly love how lightweight all of their bags are. (In the interest of full disclosure: You could only use referral points for so much of the cost of the bag, so I did end up paying some money for all of these, but definitely not close to full price.)

  • The Casual Crossbody – I'm wearing this now in leopard. It's a bit on the smaller side, so I was worried about it, but compared to the purse I'm transitioning from (a neon green Rebecca Minkoff from last year's NAS), this one is downright roomy.
  • The Daily Crossbody – I have this one in the orchid purple. This one is quite a bit bigger than the Casual crossbody, so it's great if you're schlepping more stuff — it's a good bag for me to grab when I'm traveling with my kids need to carry a lot of extra sunscreen and so forth with me.
  • The Lightweight Tote – This is maybe my favorite of the bunch, although I really like them all. I got this one in the black and white stripey version, and it's fabulous — I feel very put together but chic if I need a tote bag. This one is completely unstructured, though, so it can be a bit floppy if you don't have a folder or laptop with case in there — I was glad to use the attached key fob inside the bag because otherwise I'd have worried they'd have gotten buried.
  • The Lightweight Mega Tote – I got this one in the purple stripe, and it's such a pretty bag. This is an absolutely huge bag, though — I could see it being great if you're in the gym-to-work-to-cocktails phase of your life, or if you've got a lot of casual weekends away at a nearby vacation house.

Sales of note for 12.5

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  1. I am looking for a pair of child-sized sunglasses that look decently adult-ish, aren’t black, have decent sun protection, and cost under $30. Any suggestions?

    (I have a small face and kid’s size stays up better, black is too harsh with my coloring, and I firmly believe sunglasses are to be worn in situations where they’re likely to get lost or broken, therefor should be fairly inexpensive. I used to get some from Target for about $6, but they changed their styles and the only ones that aren’t obviously kiddie are so light they don’t really do much.)

    1. Have you looked at Goodr? They have frames specifically for petite faces and lots of fun designs.

      1. Not OP, but everyone here seems to love Goodr so much that I looked at them a few weeks ago and they only had one style for small faces, which I thought was kinda ugly. I was hoping for more styles, not just a few styles in lots of colors (I did like some of the other styles, I just didn’t think they’d work for my small face).

        1. Goodr also scratches really easily. I have a pair that was basically unwearable after just a few weeks.

      2. +1 Goodr designs do seem to have some gaps to me. But as a petite face I like my Goodr glasses. I think the anti-slip coating also allows for larger frame glasses to work without issues too. I own 3 pairs and they all stay on my face. I also appreciate they’re “cheap” enough that when my toddler broke one last year, I wasn’t that bummed out about it.

    3. Target has kids’ sunglasses that look pretty adult-ish, to the point where it makes me laugh how grown they make my kid look!

    4. I got some sweet glow in the dark sunnies from Zenni that are technically child-sized. You can get them without prescription lenses too, I think.

  2. I saw this question somewhere else and thought it might be fun here: What’s one thing you’ve done that would surprise your co-workers?

    My answer: I placed in the top 3 of a local bikini competition when I was 18! A friend was into that stuff so I entered with her.

    1. People are always surprised to learn I was a pretty serious figure skater as a kid because I’m very tall (5’11”) and it’s not a sport that tall women typically do.

      1. It’s not a sport for even any women now. Just girls who haven’t hit puberty yet.

        2. I learned that there is an International Adult Figure Skating Competition when a video of the winner, Midori Ito, went around the interwebs. She was 53 and she smashed it. I urge you to look it up!

          1. Midori Ito was also an Olympic silver medalist! The 1992 Olympic figure skating was a very formative experience for me. I had it on VHS and watched it 40,000 times.

        3. In the last decade or so, with the tiny Russian teens dominating yea. But the Russian ban has changed that! Since the 2022 world championships, which was the first major competition after the war started, a lot of the female figure skating medalists have actually been adults. Kaori Sakamoto (3x world champion) is 24, and she’s not the only top female figure skater who’s in their 20s.

    2. My co-workers are always joking about how I shock them. Jaws drop when people find out I have five kids, that I ran for Parliament, had luncheon with Queen Elizabeth, competed for Canada in a historical sailing and rowing re-creation when I was 18, debated at the World Championships the same summer, once had drinks with Robbie Williams at the Ritz Carleton in Berlin, or married a Count! I brief like a very average suburban military lawyer.

        1. Ha! Totally irrelevant but for a neat historical footnote. It garnered more attention when we were posted in Germany but otherwise is not a big deal. I would say it informs the family value system and how they behave, in subtle ways.

          Worlds in Australia in 1996 (I’m 46)!

          1. I’d be so interested in hearing about the family value system if you have any time to kill. I’ve done a bit of research on how family structures in late imperial
            Germany and post-WWI may have influenced Germans’ willingness to embrace national socialism. It’s such a fascinating subject to explore how the family can influence political orientation.

          2. Waiting for pizza to arrive in a heatwave, so I have time.
            I would say there is an underlying belief in excellence and achieving (I think it can get sort of distorted this far down the line and some entitlement comes out, which I don’t love). Modesty is highly valued and they never talk about it, at all. It’s hard to balance. My FIL was annoyed I used the family sealing ring to seal our wedding invitations (too ostentatious or something?) but was equally annoyed when his daughter didn’t use her title in her wedding invitation. Public service is considered noble and valued (they’re Prussian and were chamberlains for generations). Their side was classically “Uradel” and looked on national socialism with great disdain. The husbands of two aunts were married to two participants of the 21 July plot. The aunts and uncles were at school with a number of kids whose fathers were executed for it, i.e. Stauffenberg. Education and legacy is valued. Flashiness is not. my husband’s grandmother was one of the first women elected to the Bundestag (she was a journalist before marriage and educated) and she accepted a diplomatic appointment in her 50’s and moved to South American and then Canada and that is why they ended up here. Her husband was and award winning romantic author who was very pacifistic because he was a 16 year old on the front in WWII. His kids are all public servants, teachers, diplomats, and very politically neutral, but one daughter ran for the Green Party. She has a PhD in fine arts and was a curator.

    3. I’ve skydived 13 times, and I jump again once every year in the spring. It’s my reward for doing our taxes.

      2. I skydived only that one time, but it’s so not me that I can shock coworkers with that!

    4. I competed in (local) mixed martial arts tournaments in my 40s and have the trophies and medals to show for it!

    5. I have a bachelor’s degree in music performance and moonlight as a classical musician.

      2. Me too, but no one at work is surprised by that because everyone knows travel is my thing.

    8. I once was on the Jerry Springer show. (Was in college and the show wasn’t as raunchy as it eventually became). But nobody would expect it from me–these days I’m a vice president in a consulting role at a large company in a very dry, boring field.

    9. People seem to be surprised that I mountain bike, even though in my world it’s not uncommon for women to do that. Just wait until they hear I continued to mountain bike through the first trimester!

    10. How hardscrabble and poor and dysfunctional my childhood was. And also that I’m not 100% white. I pass on both fronts fairly well. But when people on here talk about their backgrounds and the extremely prestigious educations they have, I can’t relate at all. When that comes up in work conversations, and it does, I just kind of smile and nod.

      Sports like riding and skiing, and a background of world travel are also nothing I can relate to, though I’ve now done some travel as an older middle class adult.

      1. I can also relate to this. My four siblings and I shared a toothbrush and I frequently didn’t have menstrual products. It was very hardscrabble. But it’s weird, my grandparents were “important” and my great grandparents were on the other side. and I grew up in a very diverse community where many demographics skied. And we did. it was cheap, especially compared to hockey, which everyone does.

    11. I won a full team two truths and a lie competition when my “truth” was that I’ve climbed a glacier in Iceland. Apparently I am much more outspoken about that I absolutely despise almost all nature than I am about that I love Iceland.

        1. I got a new job and it’s crazy and also I can’t look at corporate on my work computer anymore lol

    12. Worked in a dump, was a White House intern (pre-Monica), played with the dogs of a very very famous film director, took the bar exam twice.

  3. My husband arrived for a specialty medical appointment today for a flare of an old problem and the doctor refused to see him because he had opted to get a second opinion elsewhere two months ago. He didn’t even speak to my husband directly, but it was relayed through the nurse (after check-in/weigh-in/copay paid) that “he says that if you don’t trust him, you don’t need to come here anymore.” Just…wow. Ego is a dangerous drug.

    1. I had a doctor do this to me a few years ago. I had a surgery that had some complications and after a few follow ups with that dr I was pretty frustrated with progress and decided to seek second and third opinions. I saw a dr in the same health system and he was incredibly dismissive off the bat and treated me like a drug seeker when I didn’t want a prescription at all. His tone changed when he did a CT scan and saw some lingering issues the surgery didn’t address. Needless to say, I got an opinion at a different health system after that and was very happy with dr #3 who treated my issue with medication (NOT pain meds or anything controlled) and no more surgeries.

      1. The nurse said the copay will be refunded. I don’t know what they’ll try to bill to the insurance. We’re pretty angry – this is an important medical problem that shouldn’t be delayed while we try to find another doctor for him. The second opinion doctor is on parental leave.

        1. Definitely let that doctor know how bad doctor treated you, when they return from leave. Doctors talk…

    3. That is awful. I would file a formal complaint, give him a stern review online. Just …. so uncool and unethical.

      1. In my state, physicians have to formally terminate a relationship with a patient by giving them written notice and 30 days to find another provider. I’m a healthcare lawyer and have had to write a few of those letters when there was good reason. I’d google whether there’s a notice requirement in your state and, if so, report the provider to the medical board.

          1. You have a right to a second opinion. Make a formal complaint, if not for you than for others. That doctor needs a reality check. Wow.

    4. That doctor did him a favor. I would never trust a professional who reacts that way.

      2. 100%. When people tell you who they are, believe them. I would never continue with a doctor who let his ego stand before my medical care.

        1. Of course my husband won’t try to mend that fence – f that guy. But he was wrong to live him in the lurch like this when the appointment was for an acute exacerbation of what could be a serious problem.

          1. Totally agree. If it’s within your capacity to do so, I’d report him. At least to your insurance company. If not the AMA.

    6. I’m a doctor and I wholeheartedly agree that the doc can go eff himself. Your husband is better off without someone who is so mired in insecurity. Makes me really mad.

    8. I do not disagree at all, but didn’t we (“we”) tacitly sanction this when we shut down debate over COVID origins, treatment protocols, vaccine efficacy and side effects, etc.? Respected physicians, researchers and epidemiologists, not to mention skeptical patients and non-patients, were canceled for disagreeing with the official narrative. You can’t blame a regular ol’ doctor from assuming he should do the same.

      1. Nice try. Doctors throwing tantrums over second opinions has been a thing my entire life; it happens less often than it used to.

        GBD got their way in the end, but it’s never enough, is it? I’m blaming everyone who is trying to cut off access from boosters and the right to mask in public.

        1. Yeah my grandfather was a physician and there was a lot of ego around second opinions when he was practicing… and he retired in the 1970s.

    9. I had an awkward conversation with my oncologist once after getting a second opinion (the second physician’s advice on treatment course with chemo was different than his). I stuck with him and asked him about the pros and cons of the different recommendations the other physician gave. He seemed prickly at first. But I reminded him how important it was to me to make such a big decision and it was for my own piece of mind. I’ll be honest, that rubbed me wrong and even though I think he was the better physician (a lot more experience), I was kind of relieved when he retired and I hit it off with his replacement whose bedside manner is a world different. FWIW, when he retired, my health plan sent me a letter about continuing to pay for claims in progress and for a certain period after he left the network to support continuity of care (like the notice period described above). You did nothing wrong, and I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

    10. This could be patient abandonment and illegal, depending on the context. You could write to the state medical board or file a complaint with the health system.

    1. In its simplest form, it’s advancing the cost of litigation for a share in a plaintiff’s future (but uncertain) recovery. In personal injury cases, medical expenses can be included. Traditionally, plaintiffs’ firms advanced the cost of their clients’ cases in cases like personal injury or class actions. In recent years, there’s been a rise of the litigation finance industry, where third parties fund the plaintiffs’ costs in litigation.

    2. It is a vehicle by which a third party funds the pursuit of a lawsuit anticipated to result in a collectible judgment for the party being funded. It is sometimes how people can afford to pursue cases even when the litigant can’t afford to pay the lawyer’s fees and expenses during the pendency of the case. The funder pays and then recovers their money plus more if there is a payout at the end. It used to be a small specialized industry funding big, strong cases (like tobacco litigation) but given the cold contacts I get for cases entirely unsuited to funding, it seems littered now with amateurs hoping to stumble onto something. These people reach out to me when I am representing defendants in small matters who are not even seeking to recover their litigation costs. It is silliness. They scattershot emails based on a cursory review of a court docket, say in the email this is exactly the kind of case they want to fund, and don’t bother to even read to see who my client is, much less the strength and value of the claims.

    3. Happens in government, too when disadvantaged groups sue the government but don’t necessarily have the funds to pursue protracted litigation. I have done a bunch of these (in addition to standard personal injury claims). I always explained it to the Generals I was briefing as an advance against the final settlement.

  5. PSA: If any of you are looking for inexpensive work-appropriate dresses, especially if you’re plus sized, I just scored some major deals on DKNY sheaths at BFHO. Lot of other options in solid colors with simple silhouettes. I’m set for so many conferences and work meetings now. Too good not to share.

    2. i used to buy almost all of my work clothes from their eBay store in the early 2010s! I was poor but dressed in Theory, DVF, and Elie Tahari thanks to them. nice to know they’re still around.

      1. Yeah, I’ve bought tons of eBay stuff from them over the years. Sometimes they have coupons within eBay.

  6. I had my 360 review today and was so stressed out about it – it was completely fine. Performance reviews and the like stress me out. But my boss basically said I’m doing a great job. My direct reports has one small thing they want me to be clearer about but overall had good things to say. This was just so not a thing I had to get this worked up about

    2. That’s awesome! Feedback is a gift! Definitely thank them for the feedback and hold yourself accountable. Way to go, boss!

  7. I have a last name that is uncommon but composed of normal English sounds. People habitually misspell and mispronounce it by replacing one of the vowel sounds – like “Andeerson” instead of “Anderson”. It happens at work, even when the correct spelling is in my email or on the zoom screen and I’ve just said my name, and my kindergartener came home having learned how to spell and pronounce her name incorrectly because the teacher thought that the name I had written on her lunchbox was wrong.

    I try to always do a quick, light, “It’s actually Anderson” immediately the first time someone screws it up, but what do I do when it happens again and again, or when I’ve met with the kindergarten teacher, she said she’d correct it, and then doesn’t correct it? I don’t want to make a huge deal of this because sometimes I think people don’t even hear themselves saying it wrong – “Andeerson” vs. “Anderson” is not a *huge* vowel shift.

    1. my maiden name was like yours and I annoyingly had to be funny-defensive about it because when I’d be spelling it after saying it, the person on the receiving end would give me this LOOK like “you seriously think I don’t know how to spell that” (assume it’s something like Watson but spelled Wahtson). So I’d have to be all “I know it sounds normal but just wait!” to get around the autopilot.

      places where it didn’t matter (store loyalty accounts, whatever) I just let it go.

    2. People get the wrong last name for me altogether. Say Johnson instead of Jones or or Phillips instead of Phelps. People are lazy, and many of them just suck.

    3. I also have a basic sounding but uncommon name that no one seems to accept. I say it out loud and they repeat it right back incorrectly, adding flair, different emphasis, or a different vowel sound, almost every time. Once a judge asked twice and still got it wrong in four different ways over only about 20 minutes. I don’t know what you should do about the teacher issue, which would be frustrating, but I generally just ignore it. I have sometimes said “rhymes with”, and I thought to do that at a hearing yesterday and didn’t, and the (different) judge got it wrong each time she said it

    4. The teacher example is super annoying and to me in a different class than random coworkers getting it wrong.
      I have a name with feminine and masculine versions (like Justin vs Justine) and I cannot count the number of times people incorrectly use the masculine version in both pronunciation and email. I no longer bother correcting it and have raised my threshold for caring, but occasionally when I’m having a disagreement with someone if they do it, it makes me nuts.

    5. My maiden name is longer and more unusual than my married name. I continued to use my maiden name after I married, but over the years the married name was increasingly used. I have just realized that the fact that it is just four letters and also the name of a chain of gas stations etc. probably contributed.

    6. My last name is a common word in the English language but as a name it’s spelled differently. I just automatically spell it each and every time.

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