Splurge Monday’s Workwear Report: Floral Embroidered Silk-Cotton Crewneck Sweater
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Our daily workwear reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.
This Carolina Herrera sweater costs almost as much as the couch I just purchased, but there’s still a delusional part of my brain that thinks I should probably figure out how to make it mine.
The color is beautiful, the embroidery is exquisite, and the silk/cotton blend looks like it would be incredibly comfortable. If a four-figure sweater were in my budget right now, I’d be grabbing this up immediately.
The sweater is $1,790 at Neiman Marcus and comes in sizes XS-XL.
Sales of note for 10/2:
- Nordstrom – Extra 20% off clearance! I rounded up my top picks on the Weekend Open Thread – lots of Veronica Beard and more on DEEP discounts (lucky sizes only)
- Ann Taylor – 30% off your full price purchase, plus deal of the day: 10/2: 40% off wear-now styles
- J.Crew – 3100+ items in sale
- J.Crew Factory – 50% off all sweaters and pants
- M.M.LaFleur – Lots of blues and reds in the sale section. (Try code CORPORETTE15 for 15% off on other items)
- Nordstrom Rack – Extra 40% off select clearance
- Old Navy – The Old Navy x Altuzarra collab is in! All sizes (up to 4X!) of the blazer in the collab is still available, and it is eligible for today's Super Cash offer
- Talbots – 40% off one item, 30% off everything else
- Theory – End of season sale is on!
Recommendations for a day spa in washington DC? Thinking somewhere with a lounge in addition to my treatment(s) and I have 6-7 hours to spend there if they have a lounge. I can probably afford $500-600 total including tip. No idea how DC is but just in case, I prefer a place I can wear a swimsuit for the lounge activities.
If you don’t mind a drive, King Spa in Chantilly is good for this, but requires a spa uniform for non-pool lounging. Balian Springs is closer but way overpriced imo, you’ll probably go over your budget. The spa at the Watergate has a relaxation room and is sometimes on ResortPass which can make it a good deal!
I did the King Spa in Chantilly for my birthday last year and was a bit underwhelmed by it. I’d take a look at overall what they offer before driving out there for it.
Don’t do the watergate! SO overpriced and facilities were really not great. Maybe look into the W?
I used to like the red door spa which I think is now the Willard – but my info is dated so read some reviews
Looking for a recommendation for lash serum. Also, can lash serum be applied to brows to encourage fuller brows?
For brows, generic rogaine foam for men applied with a spoolie brush. NOT LASHES. Cheap and works. More $$$ serums did not work.
GrandeLash is incredible, I get compliments on my eyelashes frequently. It does have prostaglandins – I know some people prefer to avoid that, but I’ve found the non-hormonal ones are basically just conditioning and don’t actually help with lengthening.
Sweed lash serum – it is prostaglandin-free and worked incredibly well for me. I haven’t tried it on brows.
Good morning! I’d like to get a cuyana small tote. It’s a bit of a splurge for me but would be my everyday work bag. Usually I always go black – but leaning towards the dark olive. Has anyone seen it in person? It looks almost like a grey green which I think would be more versatile than the forest (which I do love). I’m not a fashion trendsetter, tend to wear pants and blazers in blacks greys green and blues
I haven’t seen it. But I’d go for it — or at least certainly order it. You can return if you hate the color, right?
I find my green bags to be very versatile.
I think olive is a neutral and goes with everything.
In my misspent youth, I did a lot of embroidery back when I had good eyes. I also could not “finish” pieces (like they were done, but they weren’t incorporated into anything because I was not good at hand-sewing and also didn’t have a car to get to any good fabric stores). So I probably have things sitting in storage that I could have the alterations people sew onto something I have. It seems Medieval Tradwife Adjacent, but that is sort of how things trend in the Year of Our Lord 2026, yes?
Needlepoint etc. is a decently popular hobby. There are stores that specialize in ‘finishing’ things like keyrings, bookmarks, pillows, etc.
The pictured sweater looks way, way, way too much like the color scheme from my mid-90s childhood bedroom to be appealing.
Yes, you can have them sewn onto things you have, though I’m not sure the alterations people are the ones who offer the service. I usually wear plainer clothing, but I like colorful needlepoint bags.
I have a crewel embroidery bell pull kit that I got AS A TEEN at a Ye Olde Colonial Village Shoppe-type place. Why? WHY?! What bells do I even have now that need pulling? And hoarder alert: why do I even have this still?
Could that be a cute wall decoration for a nursery?
I feel like you need to move to Europe and buy a castle (or maybe an abandoned monastery) with a bell tower so you can pull the bell.
Has anyone successfully turned themselves into a morning person? I hate waking up early. My ideal wake time is 8am but I have to get up at 6am M-F. It is a struggle every morning, regardless of weather, light, temperature, etc. I get plenty of sleep–most nights lights are out by 9:45-10pm. I just hate waking up early and when my alarm goes off, I have to spend at least 10-15 min convincing myself to get out of bed. Which makes the mornings more hectic than they need to be. Is there any way to make myself actually enjoy getting out of bed or at least not feel like its torture? Coffee, etc isn’t much incentive because there’s not really time M-F to enjoy it properly.
Yes. Get up earlier, like 5. Bright lights as soon as your alarm goes off, no excuses. Out of bed and go exercise, no excuses. Even 10 minutes of jumping rope is great. Just something to get the blood flowing. Then enjoy your coffee.
Screens need to be off and out of your bedroom by the time the sun goes down. Read or color or talk to your partner or whatever before bed instead.
You hate your mornings because you’re giving yourself no reason to like them. Change that, and you’ll like them. There is no such thing as a “morning person”; there’s just people who have learned how to make themselves happy in the morning.
I posted below, but this exactly. Once my mornings became me time, I couldn’t wait to get up. The wake up and exercise bit wouldn’t do that for me at all.
Not really. Sometimes it’s a blood pressure/orthostatic tolerance thing for people whose nervous system really struggles with the lying down -> standing up transition. More time sleeping can actually make this worse since it’s more time lying down!
Sometimes it’s a delayed circadian rhythm which can be worked on, but it’s work that not everyone has to do.
Maybe there can be tilt-table alarms, which gradually raise you from horizontal to vertical (or just a LazyBoy)?
Okay, sure, if you’re medically messed up, maybe not you. Most people are not messed up in that specific way.
I don’t think it’s considered “medically messed up” since it’s pretty common (does it even have a diagnosis?). The point is that a lot of people feel crummy in the morning without realizing that slightly low blood pressure is why and that they may be able to do something about it.
Sure, and those people can do the very challenging thing of just sitting up a little more slowly. Not a big deal unless you’re dramatic.
But even if you sit up slowly, the low blood pressure can last for an hour or more. Sitting up slowly is not the only intervention, nor the most effective intervention. I just want people to be aware that this can happen because they often think they’re just groggy or tired, and no doctor is ever going to just ask you about it!
There are generics differences that make people larks or night owls.
If you want to believe that you’re genetically doomed to hate your mornings every morning, bless you. I am not naturally an early riser but have managed to become one and to enjoy my life along the way, but if you want to believe you can’t, then you’re probably right. You can’t. Enjoy hating every day of your working life, I guess?
No one said “can’t.” But the way to get there may be different based on genetics.
Not really, no. Make it a joy, and you won’t have a problem.
“Just enjoy suffering!” Thanks, real helpful!
Well, thinking that you’re genetically doomed to misery is a sure way to ensure that you are. It’s a cognitive distortion, and unless you’re willing to reject that distortion, you’re going to live with the consequences of it.
Rejecting scientific research is a particularly concerning cognitive distortion. Thankfully science backed approaches to working with genetics instead of against them are more effective than lazy gaslighting.
Anonymous, you are being annoying and obtuse.
I understand there are a lot of people whose problems were mostly of their own making. They love CBT because they just needed to change their mindset and their behaviors. These people become annoying when they try to project that experience onto people whose problem doesn’t originate in “thinking wrong” or “making bad choices” in the first place. That doesn’t mean that nothing will help; it just means that it’s not as simple as reframing things in their minds. It does actually matter what the problem is. People who think “genetic” necessarily means “doomed” or “there’s nothing you can do about it” aren’t knowledgable about any of this and do need to correct their assumptions and change their mindset.
You are an embarrassment to your grandmothers if you need to reference “scientific research” to manage getting up early. I promise they managed much harder stuff by just getting on with it, and you can, too.
I’m very aware that my grandmother and her mother suffered needlessly because science wasn’t advanced enough to help them out more yet. I’m not impoverished or uneducated, so I don’t need to opt in to all of their struggles. I have many better things to spend sheer willpower on.
Oh god, you also think that *they* “suffered needlessly” by, horror of horrors, getting up early? Yikes. I would not say any women in my lineage were “suffering” due to when they woke up, because they were beyond capable of handling things that were actually hard…
Why are you bullying people for having different genetics from you? Is this just flexing or boasting? You are clearly just projecting your experience of feeling generally okay when you wake up early onto people who don’t feel okay. I could tell stories about what things were like for my grandmother when she was trying to get kids ready for school, but you clearly actively despise her for being so inferior to you.
There are definitely people who are naturally wired to wake up earlier and to become functional more quickly after waking up. My husband brings me coffee in bed and I have time set aside for reading and doing puzzles before I have to get up, and I still have a very hard time waking up.
But you do it. And you’re fine.
Turn on the lights before you wake up! A sunrise alarm clock is life changing.
If you hate getting up at 6 then get up at 5 instead is exactly the kind of advice I come here for.
😹 just make it a joy and you will have no problems!!
Yes, doing things that make you happy will probably make you happy. Love how foreign a concept that is for women here.
If something makes you miserable, just have it make you happy instead! Keep trying for years, I’m sure it will start making you happy any day now!
I have no doubt you will remain miserable for the rest of your life, so please don’t think that my advice applies to you!
I mean yes? Reframing your approach to things is how to get stuff done. You can be determined to hate your life or you can take steps to make it enjoyable.
It is not psychologically healthy to just browbeat yourself over what you do and don’t enjoy and try to make yourself enjoy something different. It’s not morally superior to “reframing your approach” in your head.
It is not morally inferior to get a sunrise alarm clock (or open the blinds or step outside into the sun if it’s sunny early enough where you live), set a timed coffee maker so the coffee is ready without AM time or effort, take a B complex, and make sure you don’t need a CPAP.
I wouldn’t say that I turned into a morning person, but I was able to bump my wake time back by seeing an internist and a sleep neurologist to troubleshoot sleep quality. Sleep hygiene was not enough (I had that in place already), but they have me taking some vitamins and minerals and a med relevant to a condition it turned out I’ve always had, and now I can get away with sleeping fewer hours and waking earlier.
I’m still absolutely terrible at waking up earlier than usual though (like for a flight; I’m a total mess).
Yes, but the thing that drove it was a baby and then various related logistics (timing traffic and drop-offs). So it’s an 18Y one-way commitment.
Signed,
Went to afternoon kindergarten back when that was a thing
Haha, yes, kids force your schedule in ways you never expect. My kid was an early riser – in the summertime, night was over at 5-5:30am, so sometimes at 8:00am we’d already be in a park, and by 10am they had their lunch and long nap right after.
Yep. Babies force you to get up early and by the time you’re able to sleep in again, you’re out of the habit and it’s too late.
I did this about 15 years ago. The key for me was getting up much earlier than I used to (5:30am instead of 7:30 for work) so that I could just enjoy sitting in bed with coffee and the news or a book. I started by moving my wake time back 15 minutes every week until I got to 5:30. I love my early mornings so much now, I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I also started going to bed earlier, I don’t remember what I used to do, but now I’m lights out by 10.
Similar here. I get out of bed, get coffee ready and get warm water with salt/lemon and take it all in to my den, where I have a cozy little slow time.
I also have throughout the house lamps on auto timers that go off at 5:30am and turn off when we go to work. Not all of the lamps, just a few – a Himalayan salt lamp in the living room, an antique flower lamp (inherited from my grandmother) and a curtain of twinkle lights in the den. Especially this time of year when it’s still dark in the mornings when I’m getting up, it’s nice to have those low warm lights automatically turn on so I don’t have to turn on overhead lights which feels too abrupt to me.
I’m naturally a morning person, but sometimes I need more than 8 hours of sleep and sleep later than usual. Can you try slowly shifting bedtime earlier to see that helps you feel well-rested and ready to get up?
I am not a morning person, would naturally prefer to wake at 8:30. For the past few years, I have for ed myself to get up early. I am in my office by 7:30. The only way it works for me is that I do not hit snooze and I get out of bed immediately when the alarm rings. The consequences for my commute is I dally are severe, so I tell myself that the early schedule gives me an extra 45 minutes a day by cutting my commute time. Every few months, there will be an external schedule constraint that forces me to a later commute time, and that renews my motivation. On WFH days, I sleep in an extra 75 minutes and that is lifesaving.
No, there is no one way.
I have to get up at 5:45am due to my kid’s school schedule (bus at 7:15am).
I hate it, and it’s hard, especially since the evening hours after bedtime are when I get household or personal admin stuff done, or even catch up on work. I’m rarely in bed before 10pm, so definitely not getting my recommended 8 hours of sleep.
The only upside to getting up early I see is that by 7:30am, I sit on my desk at home with a large cup of coffee and crank out emails. I also start meetings with EU timezones at 7:30am, so that by 9:30am, I have already had 2-4 meetings and am ready for a decent morning break (usually, short 15 min walk around the block).
It’s my justification also to sign off at 4pm if I can, since I’ve put in the work early.
When you wake up at 8, are you ready and excited to get going? And if you get up at 8 regularly, are you still happy to go to sleep at 9:45pm?
That’ll help you narrow down the solution to “better weekday mornings” (ie. if the only days you wake up at 8 are weekends, of course those feel better!) vs “total sleep” (even if you’re getting 8 hrs regularly, maybe your body wants more & sometimes that’s indicative of a solvable medical problem) vs “shift your sleep schedule” solutions
I feel the same, and it’s tough! What has worked for me was not allowing “time to wake up” in bed in the mornings. My alarm goes off 5 minutes before I need to be in the shower. That’s enough time that I’m oriented and not likely to trip on the laundry basket but not enough time to begin ruminating about my day. During my morning routine I don’t allow myself to think beyond the next step in getting ready: Getting into a warm shower with nice-smelling body wash, having a tasty breakfast, etc.
I also “zombie proof” the morning – lunch packed and ready to grab, work bag packed and ready, outfit planned and ironed, car has plenty of gas. Reduces stress that might keep me in bed thinking up excuses not to get up.
Some of this is genetic (look it up!). But you can do things like consistently get up early –even on weekends–to train yourself. Start gradually going earlier and earlier.
I had a baby and now I never sleep in
Same!
I am similar and I’ve just accepted that I will feel groggy and won’t feel rested when I wake up early, even if I get a reasonable amount of sleep. I have to force myself to get up as once I get going and have my first coffee I feel better and I know that the extra 10-15 minutes half sleeping and snoozing doesn’t help me feel any better than if I just get up when my alarm goes off.
I had to do this about 15 years ago because my work schedule changed, and a sunrise alarm was absolutely key. I went from miserable waking up to feeling perfectly normal. I actually think I’m permanently a morning person now.
I hate waking up early as well. What helps me is to build an extra 20 minutes into my routine (counter-intuitive I know lol) so that I can get up and shower and then get back in bed for 20 minutes with my coffee and either scroll or read. It helps me to get up if I can tell myself I can get back in bed after.
There’s a spectrum; some people will always struggle getting up early and others can successfully become a “morning person”. But improvements can always be made so even if you’re never going to be a morning person, it doesn’t have to suck so much.
The tips I think make a difference (and have already come up here):
– good nutrition
– the “right” amount of sleep, not too much and not too little
– bright lights as soon as you get up
– some movement, even if it’s just puttering around the kitchen making breakfast. (I find if I can avoid sitting or lying down for 15 minutes my body gets the memo that it’s not sleepy time anymore, whereas if I’m sitting or lying down my body begs to go back to sleep.)
– don’t do a regular weekend sleep in, try and keep a consistent wake up time
– give yourself something nice to do/have in the mornings to make it pleasant
Exercise helps me. I value being a person who exercises every (week)day. But I also hate getting up early.
It’s so hard to start a good habit, once I’m in the habit I fight hard to not lose it.
I am Old and for me the answer is “no, I cannot turn myself into a morning person”. I have diligently tried many times. I have done all the things. When I was in law school I was on the crew team and had to get up at 5:00. I did all the right things. I kept a strict schedule. I did this for two years. I never adjusted and suffered the notoriety of being the person who fell fully asleep in law school twice. Normal office hours do not accommodate my biological clock, but at this point in life I’ve managed to slide my waking hour as late as possible and still not be problematically late to work. That’s the best I can do.
Not fully successfully, but I’ve had to because of work. Getting enough sleep in the first place is key. Some other things that have helped:
– Putting my phone/alarm far away so I have to get out of bed to turn it off
– Automating some things, like my coffee maker and lights so they turn on when I’m supposed to be awake. I also really hate waking up into darkness so this has been important. A sunrise alarm helped too.
– Prepare as much as you can the night before. For me the slightest inconvenience makes me want to go back to bed. Lay your clothes out, plan out breakfast, pack your bag
– As others said, make the morning something you look forward too. I’m much happier if I get to drink said coffee in peace doing absolutely nothing else.
Agree with everyone who said, can successfully do it but don’t love it. When I had to commute, I switched my showers to evenings, I tried to plan my outfit and lunch the night before, set my coffee to brew right before my alarm so it’s ready, etc. I also start the day with a happy playlist and keep my morning routine very short.
I have never been able to do more cognitive work in the morning because my brain isn’t a morning brain. This has never changed even when I had to get up at 6 am or worked out in the mornings. So I had to have enough time in the evenings to get that me time before bed.
This sweater brings back mid 90’s vibes for this high school class of ‘94 girl. Which back in that time gave kind of 1940’s vibes? Anyone else vibe that? Which means I do like it, although I’d prefer an embroidered cardigan.
This sweater is full grandma territory for me, and not in a good way. Pass.
I recognize that the fabric is high-quality and the hand embroidery is beautiful. It is probably stunning in person.
However when I saw the thumbnail I thought “weird – never saw an Alfred Dunner sweater on Corpor*tte before.”
My grandmother was an Alfred Dunner stan.
absolutely agreed. This looks like something my grandma would have worn in the 1990s. And it would have been frumpy back then.
I am getting the 40s vibes though the reason it’s for sale again is probably the 90s precedent.
I agree that I’d rather see it on the cardigan!
I’m not used to a sweater being the sole top piece that someone wears. Usually there is a button-up or some other layer (that is not completely hidden) that keeps the sweater from needing to be laundered so extensively (which would harm the embroidery).
I mean, if you want to launder less wear an undershirt. This does not require a ton of imagination to figure out.
This never worked for me. I’m not even a person who sweats excessively, but I sweat through an undershirt, and the top sweater gets smelly.
I would wear this every day. I love it.
Same. Except there’s no way I’d spend that much money on knitwear because it would only develop mysterious little holes in the belly button area and then I would be sad.
I am new to delegating more work and working directly with/overseeing junior lawyers. I feel like I need a ‘things to know when working with me’ to give to juniors. This would be my list:
– Please ensure spelling and grammar are correct
– If using precedents, please change all names appropriate and make any formatting adjustments to match documents (remove any two spaces between sentences, justify margins to match)
– All letters, pleadings, and research memos should be justified
– All dates and deadlines, including any work product due to me, should be diarized in our calendars (I specifically ask the associate to do that as not everyone has this practice)
– Any files added to our electronic management system should match our firm nomenclature, and so we know what the document is about without having to look
– When drafting emails on my behalf, try to match my tone and style (trying is enough, doesn’t have to be perfect)
What would be on your ‘things to know when working with me’ list?
I’ve been a lawyer for 30 years and started in big law and have no idea what you’re getting at with points two and three.
2 means “don’t just dump a paragraph from the precedent into the file without double-checking defined terms / names and fixing the formatting to match the new document”
3 means the document should be set up as fully ‘justified’ margins, not left or right only.
You don’t? Really? They’re pretty straightforward.
Might be helpful to specify “justified” means “fully justified” not left-justified.
I would add drafts should be ready to file/send, no blanks/highlighting for me to fill in and no comments. (Comments should be in cover email to me.) If you don’t know because something involves a client strategy decision, raise with me, or make an informed decision in the document that we can use as a recommendation to the client.
Also, kudos to you for doing this. I just left a boutique litigation firm where I had to learn all of this the hard way.
I would call it “right justified.” (And now the word “justified” is sounding really weird in my head…)
I get that this isn’t likely to be misunderstood, but I think you actually want right and left justified (right justified only is a real thing).
I think if an associate does right-justified only then they’ve failed the most basic common sense test and that’s valuable information. ;)
I’d add more things in the working with me – How do you like to get questions – emails along the way, one big email with questions, pick up the phone, etc.? How often do you want them to check in with you? Are you willing to read very rough drafts (without judgment) if someone isn’t sure they are on the right track? I am someone that processes things while talking so I have no issues with people popping in or messaging to talk something out. My husband is someone that will wait to ask all of his questions at the end, after he has firmly established that he cannot do it himself.
“Paste without formatting” helps with some issues (doesn’t fix two spaces after final punctuation though).
-Best way to follow up with you on questions
-How to handle unknowns in a draft (brackets and highlighting? Comment bubble flagging what is open?)
-If I forget to tell you (junior) how long I think something should take, ask me, and revisit if based on your initial work it’s looking like it will take significantly longer
-Make sure their time entries make sense with yours for sending bills out
-What you mean when you say “I need this by the end of the day” does that mean 5? 7? Midnight?
I personally have found that making a checklist is more effective (assuming they use it, because some don’t, there are human lemons). Try and be a little more specific too. Detail what the firm nomenclature is or link to a how-to, etc.
My list is
– title documents yyyy/mm/dd – file name – deliverable name
– Calibri font
– Spell check (different versions of English depending on the project)
– Use firm templates (linked here)
– Decks only use images owned by firm (linked here)
– Decks only use firm official colors (RGB and hex codes linked here)
– Terminology glossary for correct legal terms for our field linked here
Yes, I’m not a lawyer, but if you want to “operationalize” something for your team, providing this kind of documentation is key, whether it’s a style guide, checklist, standard operating procedure, etc.
I was a partner at MBB consulting firm, and it was standard for team leads and partners to give a “how to work well with me” single slide to their teams that covered everything from slide design preferences to review cadence and how to ask for help etc
Hahahahahaha 2 spaces after sentences 4 LYFE
It just makes you look old.
In your first draft of a major document, I would rather have well-considered content on time than perfect formatting and substantive flaws or delay.
What do you wish you did before moving into your house? We’re refinishing the wood floors and wiping down the inside of drawers and cabinets. I’m trying to think of other tasks that are a PITA once your stuff is in the house.
Paint. Mostly because I #*$&% hate painting.
Painting. If there is carpet, getting them professionally cleaned.
Paint and floors. Always.
If you’re planning on electrifying, it’s a bit easier to have the old appliances hauled out, then the electrician in to run wires, then the new appliances installed when you have more time and don’t need it all to happen in a tight sequence so you don’t go without a given appliance for long.
That said, I did this while living in my house. It’s not as disruptive as painting or floor refinishing.
Controversial but based on my experience: figure out floor plans and lighting now. Figuring out how you’ll live in the space in real time is a nice idea but it’s not really how we create beautiful functional homes. Take on the headache of figuring out where everything goes now so you can properly plan and install lighting. Trust me that properly placed picture lights, pendants and sconces are more important to your everyday environment than the false comfort of assuring yourself that you somehow live in a space so uniquely that it cannot be reasonably anticipated where the dining table goes.
If you need to get a bathtub or counter refinished, this is the time.
Getting rid of stuff. If it never enters the house then it can’t clutter the house.
#1 Paint while it’s empty. Easier and cheaper if you’re hiring out for this. #2 Cleaned the window sills. Noticed this while prepping to paint.
Electrical- do you want to add any outlets or ceiling fans? (Before painters, obvi, adding to the chorus there)
Plumbing- do you want to switch to a tankless system? Easier to do when your Stuff isn’t in the way wherever the unit will be installed.
Home security, do you plan to mount any interior cameras or alarms where a ladder will be annoying to work around furniture?
Closets- how does the configuration in your new place compare to the old? I literally measured how many feet of each type of rod we had (like single rod for long clothes and double rod) and made sure the new closets would accommodate.
If you’re going to replace the windows, do it before you move in. I thought our old windows would just pop out and new ones would pop in. No. The process was closer to a bit of construction with a lot of noise and dust and, of course, windows missing for a couple of hours at a time.
Can people just not take feedback any more? Especially when it’s not among peers but senior to junior or permanent hire to intern?
I half think that the only people who get listened to without any arguing back or ignoring are coaches in high level youth sports.
My juniors don’t argue back but I’m certain they aren’t listening because it’s in one ear out the other. No improvement. I send follow up emails to have documentation.
Not in my experience. So I’ve just had to insist on the last word (at least when it comes to my direct reports.) Even had to use “this is me directing you to do task this way.”
I am convinced that 95% of people have become so dumb that they can’t even imagine that there might be anything to learn or any way to improve. What’s worse than juniors who won’t take feedback is people who hire you for your expertise and then argue when you try to do your job.
I did give our very gen Z intern feedback about how to interact with clients and she did take it extremely well and implement it. She honestly was just normal intern clueless, not trying to be resistant or anything.
I was defensive when I was young, but now I accept feedback with grace. I think it’s something a lot of people have to learn through experience.
I think there’s also a in-between state where people want to fix not just the mistake, but the thought process that led to the mistake. That can look (or even feel) like defensiveness but it’s more “if this endpoint is wrong, was I also wrong to think x, y, and z” but it can come out as “but x, y, and z!!”
do you sleep in a bra? and if so, what?
absolutely not, I love myself
I love myself too and sleeping in a cami with a gentle built-in shelf bra is more comfortable than getting my boob stuck when rolling over.
Mine are large and in charge and I’ve never once had one get stuck?
DH and I are cuddly sleepers and as we shift around during the night, sometimes a boob is laying the wrong way vs. an arm. Cami fixes the issue
Yes, True & Co from Target. I started when I was pregnant. My kids are still young-ish and I help them get ready in the morning before I get myself dressed and I feel extremely uncomfortable and sweaty free-b00bing because they are large and floppy.
I’m perfectly comfortable sleeping in a bra, and I do it if I’m eg. winter camping and know I won’t want to have to take my base layers off to put on a bra in the frigid morning, or if I’m sleeping in a Walmart parking lot on a road trip and want to be “fully dressed” in case of problems, but at home, never
This isn’t meant to be snarky in any way but how often do you sleep in a wal-mart parking lot on road trips? Is this a thing people do that I just never knew about? Not judging just genuinely curious. I admittedly haven’t road tripped much but always assumed it was a rest area or motel 6 type situation.
(and on topic, yes, makes sense to not get fully undressed in this situation).
I don’t usually, but sometimes I do when staying with friends or camping. I like the Seamless Raceback Bralette from the Gap – it controls some jiggle but provides no structure or real support. I’ve had mine for years and they last, but I don’t put them in the dryer. In a regular bra, I wear a 34C. I bought these in medium.
https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=855020022&vid=1&pcid=34524&cid=34524#pdp-page-content
Wireless sports bra. Anita is the brand. I started after I had my first kid. I’m 30DDD and after nursing 2 kids and age, I’m droopy and I feel more comfortable supported by a bra. The bra is my anti gravity device. I don’t wear it as tightly as I would a daytime bra.
Always. I want to be comfortable while I’m sleeping, not just while I’m awake. Just whatever my best and most comfortable bra is.
whats your fav dark brown eyebrow pencil that is ideally available at ulta? bonus if it can also be used as eyeliner, but not strictly necessary. tia!
I like the NYX micro brow pencil. It’s definitely way too thin to be used for a liner though. Not the type of product you want to do double duty IMO, much better to have two products that excel at their different applications.
Hi Corporettes! I am based in DC and looking for an employment attorney to help with a non-compete contract and separation agreement that my current employer has presented to me, in advance of me starting my own consulting firm effective October 15. I’ve reached out to 5 (!!!) lawyers since last week, but haven’t heard back from anyone, and I’m keen to get an expert’s eyes on what my current company has presented to me. Thank you!
Just a follow up on fashion advice I asked for; I asked for suggestions a few months ago for a dress for my brother’s wedding and someone suggested Sue Sartor. I ended up with the silk flounce dress and it was perfect and got lots of compliments. Thank you, whoever that was!
Me again on Germany:
DH is looking for specific Christmas market recommendations near Bitte:
Help!