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Frugal Friday’s TPS Report: Mossimo® Women’s Ultrasoft Twist Front Sweater Dress

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Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices. Let’s ignore, for the moment, the slightly plungy neckline, and focus instead on the glowing reviews, the super low price, and the fact that this dress comes in like 11 colors. Sweater dresses always require really good foundation garments, but I like that the reviewers all note that this one is flattering because of the twisted fabric in the front. It was $29.99, but is now $22.49 at Target. Mossimo® Women’s Ultrasoft Twist Front Sweater Dress – Assorted Colors Seen a great piece you’d like to recommend? Please e-mail tps@corporette.com. (L-2)

Workwear sales of note for 10.2.23:

  • Nordstrom – 28,000 markdowns, and big beauty sale!
  • Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off all sale styles
  • Athleta – 25% off for members, 20% off core
  • Banana Republic – Up to 40% off sale styles
  • Banana Republic Factory – 40% off everything + extra 20% off purchase
  • Brooks Brothers – Extra 25% off women’s clearance (ends Monday 10/2) – some great basics on wool suits for women
  • The Fold – Mid-season sale, up to 40% off!
  • J.Crew – Extra 60% off select sale styles, 30% off fall styles, and 30% off men’s and boys’ suiting
  • J.Crew Factory – Up to 50% off everything
  • M.M.LaFleur – Sale on sale, extra 10% off
  • Reiss – Mid-season sale, up to 50% off
  • Talbots – 25% off your entire purchase
  • Theory – Friends + Family sale, 25% off sitewide
  • Zappos – 18,500+ markdowns for women!

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  1. Bianca

    Awhile back there was some discussion about space heaters. Which heater was everyone buzzing about?

    It is totally purple week here at Corporette. Love!

    • eaopm3

      I’d like to hear this again, too. My space heater (which I found in an office storage closet) is circa 1980s and it sounds like a jet engine taking off when I run it and smells like I’m burning a pizza in my office. I think I might have to bite the bullet and get a newer model. This one heats my office up quite well… but perhaps in a dangerous way.

    • Lyssa

      I have a Sunbeam, which I bought because it was dirt cheap (I’ll note that I bought in spring, so it was on sale). I loved it so much that I immediately went back and bought another one, just to have it around the house- it’s small, quiet, and heats beautifully. Love it! (Got it at Wal-mart for about 15 bucks.)

    • Bunkster

      I’m pretty sure the brand everyone recommended was Vornado. I think you can buy them through amazon.

    • Eleanor

      I bought a small Vorndado one based on that thread, and have been very pleased. It does a good job, is quiet, no smells, good safety precautions, etc. I believe it was about $30 at Target.

    • Anonymous

      I have a large Vornado in my house and love it. It raises the temp in the whole room but remains cool to the touch, rather than being like a hot coal blasting hot air into one specific area.
      Because I love that one so much, I recently bought a small Vornado for my office. I keep it under my desk, and it seems to function similarly, but keeps the warm area to my desk area, so visitors don’t get the sauna effect when they come in.

    • Laura

      How are these different then ceramic heaters? My sis-in-law asked for that for her office for xmas & I don’t know what to get!

    • JJ

      The Bounty Hunter in downtown Napa. Their beer-can chicken continues to be the best chicken I have ever eaten (order one and split it between yourself and whoever you’re with). They also specialize in really interesting, off the beaten path, wine flights. We’ve discovered a lot of new wines through them. (If you’re wine-d out, they also have a ton of great beers on tap).

    • Emma Woodhouse

      Millenium. It’s vegan, expensive, and AMAZING. We (two vegetarians) got the 5 course tasting menu with wine pairings, and I can honestly say it was the best $200 I ever spent in my life.

    • Cornerstone

      wwwDOTcornerstonesonomaDOTcom

      I haven’t been in a few years, but it was really cool.

      If you are not from the Bay Area, be forewarned: it may be part of California, but it is COLD. This time of year, you will need a winter coat, maybe even scarf/gloves/hat. So sayeth the southern Californian.

    • Herbie

      Bistro Jeanty in Napa. Best. Tomato. Soup. EVAR. So yums and completely cute, too.

      • Anonymous

        Second the Girl and the Fig. Also, between Sonoma and Napa — the Fremont Diner.

        Really delicious comfort food (one catch phrase I read somewhere was southern comfort cooking with a norcal twist)

        • darby

          sonoma: cafe la haye, el dorado kitchen, girl & fig for brunch (good quiche)
          napa: bistro don giovanni, redd (amazing tasting course, beats french laundry IMHO)
          san francisco: pizetta 211 (out of the way, but really great pizza & real neighborhood exp); frascati (on hyde st, fantastic food); zuni cafe still amazes; suppenkuche (either the beer garden for the hip factor or the restaurant for casual german fare)

          FWIW, i do not like millenium (more vegan than veg) & would suggest greens instead — it’s amazing food that appeals to both carnivores & vegitarian’s alike)

    • heatheresq

      Not a resto but if you are going with a romance partner (lol) go to Iron Horse vineyard. Absolutely beautiful and their bubblies are fantastic. I actually went with friends last year but I would love to bring a man friend there. It is so beautiful.

    • Anonymous

      Park Tavern, Txoko, Cotogna, and Tony’s Pizza Napoletana in SF.

      Farmstead at Long Meadow Ranch in Napa.

  3. Woods-comma-Elle

    Yay, Friday.

    Although I have just found out that my firm is redoing photos on our website – to introduce full-length shots.

    Why oh why would this be a good idea?!

    • Selia

      Seriously??? Wow, I would appropriately complain about that…I can’t imagine many others can be pleased about that either!

    • SB

      There was story on Above the Law when I was a summer associate about a firm that did this … I just remember the poor attorneys looked so goofy. They had a “professional shot,” but then had a link to “meet Lawyer” and it would have a full length “fun” shot. You can imagine the mean things that were said on ATL.

      • Lee

        This was my favorite ATL post of all time. I remember one of the partners was an avid cyclist, so his “fun” shot featured him wearing spandex shorts and a bike helmet. Amazing.

        To the OP, I would do some googling for tips on how to stand for a full-length picture. Slight angles and foot placement make a huge difference. Then I would practice in front of a mirror so it feels natural.

        If all else fails, just go full Posh Spice. The lady knows how to pose. Kidding (mostly).

    • eh230

      My firm tried to do this. Of course, they decided to announce this when I was 20 weeks pregnant. Despite my protest, they made my pose, bump and all. My bump made the photographer really uncomfortable, and he made me do these poses where I had to hold my jacket out to try and conceal the bump. I was horrified. The firm later told us they were not going to use the photos on our website, only to use them in a color! magazine advertisement later in the year. I was mortified! Thank goodness I work in house now; no photos except for your id badge.

  4. JJ

    Target also has a maternity version of this dress, which was an epic fail on me. At least my version had very itchy fabric (and I have 3 other maternity sweater dresses from Target, which I love) and was horribly unflattering, even for a maternity dress. I wouldn’t recommend it if you have hips and/or a backside. Of which I am amply blessed…

    • academicsocialite

      I got the maternity version too and agree on the quality. I haven’t returned it yet, but I probably will soon. The cut was flattering on me (so far still pretty straight up-and-down and still more bloated than with “bump”) but I thought it felt cheap/uncomfortable on my skin.

    • Research, Not Law

      Good to know. I was considering the potential of wearing this dress as maternity over the holidays.

      And can I just vent for sec about maternity clothes that don’t allow for ample hips? Hello – I’m pregnant! Not to mention that with this being my second pregnancy, my hips are 4 feet wide. Why don’t they account for this? /vent

  5. Mere

    You had me at the color purple :)

    Okay, ladies. Yesterday’s post made me think about the bane of all private attorneys’s existence- billable hours. How many hours do you all bill on a daily basis? I am a relatively new attorney, and I average 9+ hours a day (the yearly minimum at my firm is 1900, but most people bill significantly more).

    • Woods-comma-Elle

      It depends. This is a sore topic right now, as I’m not going to make my bonus due to lack of hours in the last month or so. On a good day it’s 7ish, that’s probably about average. Near a closing, it’s more like 13+. (Finance lawyer)

    • Former BigLaw Litigator

      When I was in private practice, it was about 2300-2700 each year. One year, it was 298X (can’t recall the exact figure, just remember thinking how close it was to starting with a 3). Now I am in-house.

      • AnonInfinity

        :O Ack.

        My firm’s minimum is 1800. There’s a wide range — some people meet it exactly, some fall under, and some go way over. I have only been licensed for a few months, but I try to get between 7 and 7.5 per day. When I was preparing for a trial, there were some days with 13 hours, but that is obviously not sustainable. I do typically bill 3-4 each weekend day as well.

    • TXAtty

      FWIW, I’m 9 years out, mid-size firm (75 lawyers), litigator, and just made partner this year. I usually bill about 10 hours/day M-F and then 10-12 total on the weekends. I average about 250 hours/month and have since I was about 2 years out. So I generally live at the office.

    • Cat

      Transactional, biglaw. Usually between 8 and 9 a day and 3 on Sunday (with a slower month or two where it’s more like 7 a day); during deal crunch time, more typically around 13-14. Personal record for one day is 20 hours (resulting from an all nighter).

      • Makeup Junkie

        When I was an associate I did a few 18-hour days. Since becoming a staff attorney, I’ve actually done a few 20+ hour days. Record for me is 32 hours for an emergency production.

    • SB

      Litigator. My firms’s requirement is 1800 to be bonus eligible … but it’s more like 2000. We’re big law, but not lockstep, so your bonus is actually based on your hours (which I kind of like). That said, most bill around 2100 (though I somehow managed to bill over 2400 this year and am super grumpy). On a normal day, though, I try to bill 10 hours, so that when I want to leave early on a Friday (like today) or a take week’s vacation, it doesn’t hurt me.

      • Vegas Baby

        The minimum at my firm is 1800, but they say 2000 is a good goal. Many bill 2100-2400. I however, try to focus on getting my work done and not pay too much attention to my billables (I despise the idea of working just to meet a billable requirement). That being said, I generally bill about 7-5-8.5 hours a day.

    • Amelia Bedelia

      awwww, the billable hours. I was going to post on that attorney thread yesterday, but was swamped.

      I switched to a smaller firm about three years ago. I am so happy here. Our billable “goal” is 1750. That is a “goal” as in a lot of people don’t make it and no one cares as long as you are really good at what you do (it is a specialty firm).

      I usually bill 7-8 hours a day. I rarely, rarely work on the weekends. Maybe one Sunday every two to three months. I average about 1800 – 1840 a year.

      • Backgrounder

        I work in consulting but in order to be bonus eligible you must bill around 1750 hours. I average around 5-6 hours a day but of course mgmt wants that to be 8-10!!

    • ATC

      You all just made me feel better about not getting paid very much. I do defense side litigation in a mid-size city at a small firm – I average 6-7 hours per day. I’ll bill just shy of 1600 hours this year.

      • eaopm3

        Your job description sounds exactly like mine – right down to not getting paid very much! :)

        • ATC

          LOL! It’s literally half of a big firm salary, but apparently I’m working half as hard, too. I can live with that. No splurge Mondays for me!

    • Solo

      A different perspective:

      I’m in solo practice.

      When I’m working for private clients, I get paid one rate. But some of my work is on government contracts, which is paid at about a third of my private rate. Then I have a union rate, which is paid by local unions when I represent their members. (I also do pro bono, for free.)

      What works best for me is figuring out how much *money* (not hours) I need to bill each day. So regardless of which case I’m working on, I know that if I bill $XYZ, then I’m good. Some days it’s easy, and some days it’s tough.

  6. Anon

    I need a bathing suit fir a trip I am leaving for . . . Today. I live in Houston, so we have all the major stores. I already looked at Target, but their suits are not made for my figure. Any ideas of what stores would have swimsuits in December? I don’t have a lot of time to shop so was hoping I could just dart in.

    • Supra

      There must be a specialty bathing suit/lingere store. in Houston. I’m thinking of a place that sells all sizes of bras and carries swimsuits all year round. There’s also a chain called Everything But Water and google tells me there’s two in Houston.

      2503 Amherst Street
      Houston
      (713) 526-1385

      780 W Sam Houston Pkwy N # 700
      Houston
      (713) 461-2672

      • L

        Second Everything But Water. I picked up a suit there in Houston last year around this time, and there was a good selection.

    • Sydney Bristow

      I think department stores like Macys have a limited collection of swimsuits year round. Have a great trip!

    • Jenn

      I got a bathing suit at Academy a couple of weeks ago. They’ve got some cute ones and they’re all on MAJOR sale.

    • Anon

      Most store bring in the resort lines about this time of year. Anything from Macys and Dillards to Nordstrom, Saks or Neimans should have a collection. Call the store ahead of time, ask for a personal shopper, explain your sitauation and have them pull some suits for you to try on when you arrive. That will save you considerable time.

  8. Maddie Ross

    I have this dress in black and the heathered blue color. For some people, it may be a bit much, but with spanx and a cami, it’s perfectly respectable for my office (and my style). Bonus points for the fact that it comes all the way to my knees (and I’m 5’8″-ish). This “Ultrasoft” material that Target has this winter is great. I’m sure it won’t last long or wear well, but it feels like wearing pjs.

    • Emily I

      May I be presumptuous and ask about your figure? I’m 5’9″, 145 lbs with no chest to speak of. This looks like a great choice for my firm’s casual holiday party, but I’m on the fence about what size to order, as I generally take a 6 in dresses and 8 in pants.

      • Maddie Ross

        I don’t mind — I think I’m just about your size. I weigh about the same as you and similarly take a 6 in most dresses (unless they are narrow in the skirt) and an 8 in pants. I’m about a B-cup (on a good day). The skirt is not as narrow as some sweater dresses in my opinion and the twist helps give me a little bit of a chest (not overtly sexy, just not completely pancake). I take a medium in this dress.

    • mamabear

      I will not be buying this dress because no one needs that much information about my mummy tummy, but I want to put in a plug for the “ultrasoft” knits from Target. I have now bought four sweaters in this knit and I love them. They were originally my washable stand-ins for cashmere on the weekends, but now I find myself reaching for them instead of my cashmere even during the week.

      I don’t think they’ll hold up much beyond a season, but they’ve each been washed a handful of times and still look great for now.

      Have fun with the dress!

  10. 312

    Leaving for a little Key West get away tomorrow. Any tips/must do’s? Thanks! Will have an umbrella drink on the beach for you all.

    • AIMS

      Have key lime pie & a mojito. Go to Hemingway’s House Museum.
      Also go to NYTimes dot com –> 36 hours in Key West. Great rundown. If it doesn’t come up in search, go to travel section –> destination US –> FL –> FL Keys. Enjoy & watch out for all the rooster.

      • kw

        Truman’s little white house
        the aquarium is worth popping in esp at feeding time (open air concept)
        check out the art galleries along Duval

    • RRugosa

      Daytime and evening walks through the quiet neighbourhoods off Duvall Street. Big variety of domestic architecture, very interesting and usually charming.

      If you have time, a catamaran daytrip to Fort Jefferson, which is within Dry Tortugas National Park. Take your snorkelling gear, the swimming along the old fort’s perimeter is wonderful.

    • Pippit

      See the Shipwreck Historeum! Part historical house, part museum. The aquarium is small but well done. And sunset in Mallory Square- people congregate to watch, and there are lots of street performers.

    • Anon

      Turtle Kralls for pulled pork sandwiches at the marina, and Louie’s Backyard for sunset drinks and dinner (a MUST do). Other than that, rent bikes and cycle around, and head just over the bridge off the island on the right to Lazy Dog for standup paddleboard rentals – you can even borrow a dog to take with you!

    • Anon

      Visit Santiago’s Bodega for an awesome meal! It’s tappas, which I am usually not a fan of, and completely amazing.

      It’s slightly off the beaten path but by far the best restaurant on the keys, IMO.

      I also really enjoyed the beignet place on the main drag. I am blanking on the name but I’m sure it will come up on yelp.

      We also tried Sarabeth’s for brunch and it was just ok. I come from a major city where we take brunch very seriously and was definitely less than impressed. If this place was not on the keys, it would be considered an ok neighborhood type place, nothing more. I also got really rude service and as a former waittress I cut people a tremendous amount of slack. This place was also really expensive. It cost like $40 for brunch for two people without any booze.

      Beyond the food, I really enjoy just renting a beach chair and umbrella on the public beach by the navy station and hanging out. Such a nice change to sit in the sun after weeks of cold weather.

  11. made me happy

    Quick threadjack that I think will make you all happy: at my dentist appt. yesterday, the lady dealing with the billing had input my insurance incorrectly. My husband had been to the same dentist earlier, so I told her that she could just use his info, since he is the primary on the account anyways. She then says, “The system requires that I assign one head of the household. Who should I put as the head for you?” I’m in the south, and was quite floored that a slightly older woman didn’t just automatically put my husband down for “head of the household”. Anyways, thought you would all appreciate her consideration that maybe I was the head in our household :)

    • Bee

      I’ve done her job; I’m familiar with dental insurance and dental software. She really just needs to know whose name is primary on the insurance, and whose name you want on any bills from the dental office. That doesn’t always translate to “head of household”. I’d bet her system just says something like “primary name” or “subscriber #1”.

  12. Madeline

    I had a Mirena inserted in September and have had rather severe cramps and my period almost constantly since then. I expected spotty bleeding for the first several months, but this is more than that. When I went for a followup last month, my GYN tells me this is normal. But I’m nearing the end of the my rope…I don’t want to have it removed, so I’m hoping to hear from some of you who have an IUD – is this normal?! Does it go away eventually?

    • Been There

      Is it hormonal or non-hormonal? I had a non-hormonal IUD last year and bled for 6-7 months before I finally had them yank it. My doctor (no longer my doctor!) failed to inform me that the non-hormonal ones don’t actively do anything to stop you from bleeding. Who would want to live that way??

      Also, I could always feel it “flicking” me. Not fantastic.

    • TCFKAG

      That stinks! I never had any of these symptoms (I never even had spotting) after my insertion. I do occasionally get cramping, but I have no idea if its related to the IUD and its certainly not constant.

      Sorry I can’t be more help, but that really sucks. Did you really communicate with your GYN how uncomfortable you are? Maybe she could prescribe something to help with the pain?

      :-(

    • My Greatest Love

      Is my IUD. I mean it. I LOVE it. It is by far the single best health decision I have ever made. The drawbacks (now all oh-so-distant in my rearview mirror) were initial heavy periods — prob for about 8-10 months — and one week of cramps when they put it in. But, the heavy periods were ONLY around my period time, I didn’t bleed other times, so if that is your experience I can imagine that would be a huge pain! Of course, I’m not a doctor and you should not stick with anything that’s making you uncomfortable, but I will just chalk one up on the board for the IUD, because for me, it’s been a dream. I haven’t thought about birth control (or pregnancy — high effectiveness and no user error) for over five years, and every time I even hear the word IUD, I feel a surge of gratitude for mine!

    • I Heart IUDs

      I have had a series of IUDs since 1984 (first the Copper 7 and then, when they stopped making it, the Copper T). All of mine have been withOUT hormones. I have experienced minor spotting and moderately painful cramps the day of insertion and heavier periods (although that stopped when I had a uterine ablation four years ago), but I have never had mid-cycle spotting or bleeding. Maybe you need a non-hormonal IUD. Or a second opinion re proper placement within the uterus? Or a second opinion re whether your uterus is a good candidate for an IUD at all (maybe you have something going on with the lining that no one has looked for or seen yet?)?

    • BAB

      I spotted for five months when I first had my Mirena inserted. Don’t remember cramps, but I take tylenol everyday for another reason, so that could have been masking the cramps.

    • eaopm3

      I had to have mine removed after three months of incredibly painful, constant cramping and spotting. I won’t go into details, but the cramps felt different than period cramps and I seriously thought something was wrong with me. I was on some form of pain medicine for that entire time and couldn’t handle it any longer. I called my OB’s office, they prescribed me a Valium (because the insertion process was so horrid that I was freaking out about the removal) and I got it taken out, which was NBD at all. Best thing I ever did.
      FWIW – I have never had children or a pregnancy and my OB told me that some women’s bodies simply will not accommodate an IUD.
      I know the cramping and spotting is normal, but I wasn’t willing to live with it for one more day after three months.

      • MelD

        I was told the same about Mirena. The Mirena is fairly large and many women who have not had children to not have enough space in the uterus to accommodate it. I heard that they may be coming out with a smaller version at some point.

        • eaopm3

          That’s good to know, but I am too much a weenie to try it again. Though, childbirth will probably be painful enough to make the insertion of an IUD seem like a piece of cake. So, maybe after we have a baby…

          • Fashion Faux Pas

            I got a Paraguard inserted 8 weeks after giving birth. I was really freaked out, but it was no big deal at all, especially after labor. One very brief menstral-like cramp, and that was it. Some moderate lower back pain for a couple of weeks and mild cramps. It’s been three weeks now and I’m fine.

    • Montana

      I just had mirena inserted (before Thanksgiving) and ran a race a week later – minimal spotting, minimal cramping. Sorry I can’t help with your experience. My SIL, however, spent a month vomiting after her insertion and had to have it removed. I guess we’re the extremes?

      A side- question (TMI, embarrassing, etc. – sorry): My husband is on the, erm, “larger” side – and sometimes it seems like I can feel it, like it gets jarred or something. Not pleasant, but not frequent. Anyone else experience this or heard about it? I’ve never heard of this happening…

      Thanks everyone!

      • Madeline

        Thanks, everyone, for sharing! This confirms that experiences are all across the board. I’m going to schedule an appt for a second opinion with a different GYN, and if all is “normal,” I’ll try to stick it out for a few more months to see if my experience improves. As of now, I’m willing to deal with a few more rough months for long-term ease.

      • RegularButAnon

        Ahem. I also have Mirena, and I was also one of the “lucky” ones in that I did not have much spotting and felt quite fine after insertion.

        Although I have never “felt” Mirena get jarred or whatever, my husband has expressed that he can feel it. Unless it comes out (in which case you need to use backup bc and see your doctor), I would not panic, but it’s certainly worth mentioning to your doc.

      • Anon for this

        Second the other advice – you need to get the strings trimmed. My husband could feel the strings before they were trimmed. However, please ask your OBGYN not to trim them too much – I just had my Mirena removed and a new one inserted (Mirena is only good for 5 years), and it took a lot of time for my OBGYN to “fish” the old one out. He told me that the strings were trimmed dangerously short, and that Mirena with too-short strings can get lost in the uterus, which will require a surgical removal.

    • DBG

      Had the exact same experience and suffered for a year. Finally had it removed and had a uterine ablation (not an option if you still wish to have children). Best thing I ever did, and wondered why I hadn’t done it sooner.

    • cbackson

      No help, unfortunately. I had mine inserted in June, and I’m still having 10-15 days of spotting/bleeding each month. I’m considering whether to have it removed (which would suck, because I paid out of pocket for it) or to see if a cycle or two taking a progesterone-only pill in addition to the Mirena would help reduce the bleeding. I can’t take estrogen-containing BC because I have migraines with aura.

      I’m pretty disappointed, frankly – my periods were 3-4 days every 3 months on Seasonale. I really miss that.

      • oaks

        give it more time. I am at almost 2 years with mine and now I barely notice my cycles. I also think it’s the best health care choice I’ve made, it is totally worth it for many years of completely worry-free birth control.

  13. anonette

    I am very, very tempted to buy that dress. Must as part of my two week shopping hiatus…

    Anyone up for a Friday what are you wearing Threadjack?

    I’m taking advantage of kind of casual Friday — skinny grey pants tucked into knee high brown boots, white untucked blouse, and navy blue V-neck fitted sweater (that I scored at Zara for $14 on Black Friday!) My usual watch, teardrop earrings, and a gold necklace with a little bow on it.

    • Sydney Bristow

      In a rush this morning, so my outfit is totally boring. Black Gap premium pants, gray crew neck sweater, gray and black swirl scarf, and black flats. I am rocking some deep wine colored nails, but that’s the only real color I’ve got going on today.

    • JJ

      I’m in. Casual Friday at my office today. Heathered purple long-sleeve v/neck Gap maternity top, dark wash Gap maternity trouser jeans, variegated purple/green/beige infinity scarf from Urban Outfitters, and brown snake print Naturalizer pumps. Silver band ring (because my fingers are so swollen that my wedding ring doesn’t fit anymore….yay), usual silver watch and multicolored chandelier earrings.

    • victoria

      Black turtleneck, charcoal khakis, black Mary Janes with green & blue argyle socks. I didn’t get much sleep last night so I went for what was the easiest.

      • Bmore MBA

        We have our office holiday lunch today so I am not in businessy clothes. A blue midi skirt with yellow roses on it (from anthropologie), mustard yellow sweater, and riding boots.

        • Eleanor

          I think I know the skirt you’re talking about from anthropologie; this outfit sounds really cute.

    • Mere

      Brown tweed skirt suit from AT (paid $136, originally >$400), hunter green silk blouse, large glass pearl necklace, pearl drop earrings, pearl ring, taupe pumps, and sausage casings (pantyhose). Oh the joys of working in a conservative law firm.

    • TCFKAG

      I’ve been sick all week so my outfit today is boring. Black Ann Taylor suit pants, navy wrap-type shirt, and a black cardigan.

    • ANP

      It’s casual Friday here too, but I had to go to the wake of a donor’s family member — so I’m on the dressy side. Wearing The Skirt in a deep red (love love love), white Gap crewneck top, gray Target crewneck cardigan, black leather Target pumps and gray tights. I feel cheerful and subdued all at the same time!

      Any one up for a mini-threadjack to discuss the best place to get shells/shirts to go under cardigans and blazers? I need a wardrobe upgrade in this area.

    • Bunkster

      Okay. Navy tweed split-neck sheath dress that I got at Talbots for $12. Black tights. Black wedges. Black Banana Republic cashmere cardigan. Black Armani tank watch. 4 silver bangle and one blue enamel bangle. Forgot to put on earrings this morning.

    • kmm

      Dept. store grey cashmere v-neck sweater, Lands’ End green plaid button-up shirt with a ruffle on the placket, Not Your Daughter’s Jeans dark denim straightleg jeans, terrible green striped socks from J.Crew that are 10 years old and keep falling down, and black Naturalizer flats. Citizen Eco-Drive watch, Cape Cod bracelet, moissanite e-ring, and moissanite studs.

    • Michelle

      Casual Friday… dark rinse skinny jeans (Calvin Klein), blue cable v-neck cashmere pullover, and black motorcycle boots. Love Casual Fridays.

    • EC MD

      My jammies.

      We had our medical staff holiday party last night, and my nanny took my son for a special date and an overnight at her house. My husband left for an early meeting. Today is my day off, so I’m currently laying in bed, sipping coffee, catching up on corporette.

      Sorry, that was mean. But it’s been a cruddy week, I’ve literally not had this kind of morning in eons, and I felt like bragging.

    • Lydia

      Also casual Friday. Skinny purple pants from H&M, white camisole, gray empire waist sweater from AT Loft, diamond earrings, Italian glass bead necklace from Acorn, brown riding boots.

      • Ashley

        Did they happen to have a nice burgundy or cranberry pair of skinny pants or leggings while you were at H&M? I want some bottoms that color to wear under dresses, but I prefer the fit of leggings over tights.

    • AJ

      Jeans tucked into tall brown boots, heathery gray cable sweater from Loft, tortoiseshell headband.

      Making an effort this morning wasn’t happening.

    • IA_Eng

      Casual Friday and also not making much of an effort…Dark rinse Gap curvy boot jeans, purple BR turtleneck (I think all the purple on the site this week influenced me), Naturalizer brown wedge mary janes, wedding and engagement rings, CZ studs.

    • Nonny

      In disguise. Chose my black pant suit for my interview this afternoon so am wearing the pants with a *very* casual mariniere-striped top. Though it turns out my fears about people noticing were probably unfounded since there is practically no-one in the office today, including my boss.

      Stomach in knots about the interview, even though I am not even sure the firm is the right one for me. I hope it goes OK, and part of me even hopes that the firm turns out to feel right, despite my misgivings, which are based on factual observations. But when the day is over I get a reward – am going to see a concert by my favourite pop artist ever tonight!

    • mamabear

      black handknit (by me) cabled cardgian
      black tee
      black denim skirt
      brown riding boots
      jade earrings
      second day hair (sigh)

    • Herbie

      Gold shawl-collared sweater over black tank. Jeans. Laceless Chucks. Watch plus copper-colored large bead bracelets, stacked.

    • Jas

      I’m just getting over a really bad bout of stomach flu yesterday, so I’m half-assing it today. Jeans, dark grey knit shirt with a button-up high collar, a light gray cardigan, and black cowboy boots. No jewelry, no perfume, very little makeup. I showed up, what more do they want?!

    • Baby lawyer

      Overslept today so nothing particularly interesting. Black Theory betty tailor sheath dress, black tights, bright blue/green Ann Taylor cardigan, black patent round-toe pumps, my usual watch. No other jewelry.

      The dress fit perfectly when I bought it, but since I got busier and stopped going to the gym, it’s a little tighter/shorter than it should be. Although there are certainly many people in my office who would have no problem with it, I tend to dress more conservatively. I still love it, but now pretty much only wear it on Fridays (when fewer people are around). Clearly just need to start running again.

    • Samantha

      Casual Friday at my office too.
      I’m wearing Gap Curvy jeans that you all recommended, and true to Corporette Fridays, a Target cardigan (green with tiny white polka dots) that makes me feel cheerful. Also small drop CZ earrings.

    • Hel-lo

      Charcoal gray shawl-collar sweater dress from Burlington, with an olive-green tee peeking out in the chest area (to match my olive-green eyes). Brown boots. Lighter gray leggings. Black/multi-colored tousade necklace.

  14. Life Alert-Type Recommendations

    I would appreciate recommendations for/against life-alert type products. My mother had a fall and is living with me for now, and I would like to get something along these lines for her. Thanks in advance!

    • TackyMum

      A few years ago when my father had had some stroke-like symptoms, he signed up for a life alert program. Weeks later he experienced the same symptoms again and even though he was unable to talk, the life alert people were able to get the paramedics to him in just minutes and he was in the local ER 15 minutes later. Totally worth it.

    • RRugosa

      Is there a good senior centre anywhere near you? You can call them and ask if they have/can recommend a consultant to talk to you about different options. I volunteer at our town’s s.c., they have very good resources themselves for all kinds of issues and can put people in touch with other advisors.

    • Bee

      Two things to consider: will she cooperate, and will she be near the phone? The product we got for MIL worked in the home, but was dependant on proximity to her home phone. It would not help if she was out somewhere away from home. She cancelled the service when her husband came home after dealing with his own fall; she refused to acknowledge he was too ill to depend on for help.

      The product itself was a good one, and the monthly fee quite reasonable.

  15. Godzilla

    I’m gonna ask a question that I’m really insecure about but Corporette is kinda the best place for this: Where do you all hang out? I’m 26 and single and my favorite place to hang out is at home and I’m kind of disappointed in that. I’m not into the bar scene so where do smart, professional and nice people hang out to do nothing when they’re not at home or work? I want to make friends – I’m not into sports and I like reading (I know, I sound like a catch) but they’re not suddenly appearing in my home. Do people chill at libraries? Bookstores? Is it really coffee shop or bust? Dang, I miss school and the automatic friend shopping I could do there =/.

    • Sydney Bristow

      I’m the same way, so I’m looking forward to the answers. One additional related question, how do you feel comfortable hanging out wherever it is? I always have my headphones and that makes me feel comfortable, but clearly that only hurts the ability to meet people.

    • anon

      I’m the same – I don’t really “hang out” any where (and I really look forward to coming home and curling up on my couch after a day at work). I have found that its a bit of a shift in thinking – in school, it was just a lot more natural to hang out places between classes, where as its not when you are working.

      Working seems to require more scheduled events to get you out of the house and in public. For example, the orchestra in my city has a young patrons group that plans events (happy hour, brunch, tours of music-related places) and that’s been my biggest source of meeting new people. Or volunteering with an organization that you find interesting/valuable.

    • Cajunqueen

      I’m not 26, but for what it’s worth – For making friends, what about where you work? Once I was out of school and my school friends were too far flung to see regularly, my close friends became people my age that I met at my office and we would go out after work once or twice a week. If I need to get out of the house and I have no one to “hang” with, I would go to a bookstore or a coffee shop (bring something to read). Even if I’m not meeting or talking to anyone, it makes me feel good to be around people there. Also, do you belong to a gym? Just going to the gym often enough at around the same time of day guarantees that you will see the same people over again. I joined a gym 2 years ago, and now I have “gym friends.” Meanwhile, my brother the barfly will tell you there’s nothing like a neighborhood tavern or pub (NOT a singles bar), but a place where people from the neighborhood go to have a beer or whatever. Make friends with the bartender – this way, you have someone to talk to when you get there.

    • My List

      When I was single and in trial for over a year, I made a list of things I wanted to do when the trial ended. I rated each item on the list for the likelihood that I would meet people doing it, based on a scale of 0-5. Cleaning my closet = 0 (as far as I could recall, no one lived there). Going to a museum = 3 (there are other people there, but you have to actually talk to them in order to meet them). Speedating = 5 (there are other people there, and you must talk to them). When the trial ended, I cleaned my closet, went to the bookstore, went to the museum, sat in a coffee shop reading, did speedating, etc.

      I met my partner seven years later, at a networking event where I had hoped to meet new clients. Go figure.

    • anon

      Are you in a biggish city? I’m 35 and suburban now *but* these are places/ways that I and my friends used to socialize when we were in our 20s and more interesting, relatively speaking :) (I’m assuming, btw, that you’re not talking about looking for dates, but just friends.)
      – reading groups, book clubs, lectures, talks given at bookstores or libraries and the like
      – charitable activities, whether it’s an actual charity function, semi-regular volunteering, serving on charitable boards or just getting involved in a group that does something 1x/month or week
      – young patron’s groups – for example, lots of museums and symphonies and performing arts organizations have young member’s societies and events
      – meetup.com type of things
      – live music in small coffeeshops/independent bars/etc.
      – group travel, group vacations
      – group hiking trips sponsored by the local audubon society etc.
      – industry specific events, career networking events
      – school alumni groups and events

      Even if you don’t drink, you can still enjoy yourself at an event that happens to be at a bar – like a book signing or a networking event. And for whatever you *are* interested in – art? music? bocce? gardening? – the odds are that there’s a group of some sort in your town that does it.

      It’s not the easiest thing, but there are options out there.

      • Hel-lo

        No one tells you how hard it is to find friends after you’re out of school.

        If you don’t meet them it at work, you actually have to make an effort outside of work.

        These are all really good suggestions. I would also add community sports leagues (kickball, softball, etc.).

    • AnonInfinity

      You say you don’t like sports, but do you like exercise or outdoor activities (I think that they’re different). I’ve met some of my non-work friends through athletic clubs and gyms.

      If you don’t like that, you can use the same idea — a group for a hobby you like or want to develop. Yarn stores will sometimes have knitting circles, we have a bookstore with book clubs open to everyone, chess club. Some local kitchen stores offer cooking classes. Art classes? Volunteer organizations are great, too.

      I find it hard to really meet someone when “hanging out” somewhere. Like, if I go to a book store and read with a cup of coffee, I’m not necessarily giong to feel comfortable striking up a conversation with the person who’s browsing beside me. But if I’m in a club or a class or something, it’s a lot easier to actually talk to the other participants.

      • Jr. Prof

        Along these lines, I met a good friend in a Spanish class – you have to pair up and practice conversations.

        Also met many friends (originally friends-of-friends) at the climbing gym. One key to meeting non-work friends is hooking into a network of people who like to do what you like to do – from cooking to windsurfing to climbing to reading. Then you get together to do Hobby X. Not everyone will be a lifelong friend, but it’s ok because you’re engaging in something you love doing anyway.

    • Midwest Attorney

      If you like reading, see if you can join a book club with people near your age. I joined one where I only knew one person at first and that really expanded my social circle (although the new additions were, for the most part, female).

      I talk to people I run into at coffee shops, but nothing has amounted to anything beyond the few minutes we chat. There’s potential there, I suppose.

      You can always look into classes or groups of some sort – e.g. cooking classes, join a board, volunteer for a cause you support, etc… I do beach cleanups and see the same people pretty regularly. By the end of the summer, we’re comfortable enough with each other to grab a drink after the beach-cleanup.

      Some cities have young professional groups or other young social groups. Perhaps your university has an alumni society in your town? My city also has a social group – Newaukee – that is specifically for the young up and coming crowd that puts on regular events or happy hours for people who are new to the city or just looking to expand social circles. This particular group may be a bit too bar- and drinking-focused for you personally, but your city may have a more sophisticated group along similar lines.

      If I go out to dinner alone, I eat at the restaurant’s bar and can usually strike up a conversation with whoever is nearby. My husband found a great fishing buddy this way when he wound up sitting next to a guy who was also new to the area and looking for friends his own age!

    • Godzilla

      More info – I live in NYC (yes, I know, there are a gazillion people here but there are just TOO MANY PEOPLE). I’ve taken advantage of groupon and have done some interesting activities because of that (outdoor bootcamps, random cooking and other fitness classes). I do like outdoor activities and whatnot so that could definitely be something I look into.

      As for work – I work in NJ. Completely different world from NYC. Everybody is male (oh, the joys of engineering) and the few that are my age and VERY MUCH into sports bars. Plus, we all live in very different places so eh. I am part of a few professional organizations but the younger member groups organize happy hours and hockey games. I don’t know how it became so stereotypical. I mentioned doing different things a few times (hey, we’re engineers, let’s go, you know, build stuff and help society) and while it was well received, nobody was willing to organize it, myself included. There’s very much an old (and young) boys network.

      I’m totally ok with going to places by myself, with or without headphones. I just want friends. With or without activities. And without gaining weight in various restaurants/coffee shops =).

      • anon

        there are a ton of ideas above. if you’re comfortable going places alone, i suggest you pick an area of personal interest and then just find a group of people that’s doing it – whether it’s knitting, running, reading, listening to new authors, cooking, volunteering, or whatever it is.

        NYCares, the big volunteer organization, is apparently a very popular way for young singles to meet each other (for romantic reasons or otherwise).

      • Sydney Bristow

        We need to set up the NYC meetup so that we can all meet and maybe find new friends to hang out with.

      • TCFKAG

        I also suggest checking out the “platonic” and groups section of Craigslist. People are frequently starting book clubs on there.

        I also made great friends doing a charity run organization. I also made friends in DC when I took Italian classes. You could try a cooking class!

        Seriously though, I don’t think you’ll make many friends just hanging out in a coffee shop or other place (especially in NY) — most people put their guard up in places like that and go just to be quiet or meet friends they already have.

      • AIMS

        Agree with above. You can meet lots of people by volunteering. For ex., there is a great ASPCA shelter on E 94th & 1st, where you can volunteer to walk dogs on weekends (even if it’s one dog for one hour). Lots of nice, young people, and everyone is super nice. Plus, when you walk a dog that says adopt me, everyone is going to talk to you.

        If that’s not your thing, there are a million similar things you can do.
        As a random sampling, there are independent cafe/bookstore such as Housing Works Bookstore Cafe (126 Corsby; or Bluestockings; you can take a knitting or quilting class (purl in soho is a good option); you can go to random stuff at the 92nd st. Y (lots of good speaker series, etc.); you can join a bowling league; and, last but not least, you can go to happy hours and just not drink (get a seltzer with lime, no one will care).

      • Vivian

        Hey Godzilla,

        You said that you mentioned various activities to do your co-workers and it was well received, but no one was up for organizing it. If you want to make more friends, you have to be willing to be the organizer, at least at first. I know it’s uncomfortable to put yourself out there and face the few minor rejections that could occur, but it’s really the only way. Otherwise, it’ll take much longer to really connect with people you might like. At my work, people are open to doing things, but no one takes the initiative. So I’ve been the one to organize a few things like going out to coffee, getting lunch, and going to industry events. I am so glad I did those things! Afterwards, my co-workers always comment that we should do this more often, and it’s so refreshing to get to know them on a deeper level.

        Also, don’t be afraid to attend an event alone (especially through meetup dot com). It’s only scary the first time. After that, you’ll build your confidence to put yourself out there more, and your life will be full of so many more exciting possibilities.

        So get out there and be proactive!

    • Anon

      I moved somewhere new and have similar challenges. Perhaps a book club for young women would work. I found one in my area on meetup.com, and they also go to plays and movies on occasion. In addition, it helps if the book selections have a democratic approach and lean in the direction of the type of books you like to read.

      As for volunteering, be strategic and choose situations where you will interact with people. I volunteered at a garden a few times, and had to speak up, because the volunteer coordinators would assign the people who showed up in a group to a group project, and I would be assigned to go pick up sticks in the corner alone.

    • RRugosa

      Does your local public library have a book club that meets at a convenient time? Larger ones even have topic-specific book clubs – all mysteries, all history, etc.

    • Jas

      I’m also 26 and until recently was single. Like you, I’m pretty happy sitting at home reading and not really into sports, but that’s a terrible way to make friends.

      -Before I moved to my current town where the coffee shops close at 4:30, I used to take a book and go to a coffee shop and read/work for a few hours.
      -In my old town I joined a Stitch ‘n Bitch that was a lot of fun.
      -I go to a book club through the local library. I’m the only one under the age of 40 there, but it’s still fun to go and chat with a bunch of snarky old ladies once a month
      – I haven’t found the gym or yoga to be very helpful because people are just really focused on what they’re doing
      – It turns out bowling is surprisingly fun! See if there’s a bowling league in town. You don’t have to be good, at my boyfriend’s league night there’s a girl who still bowls by rolling the ball two-handed between her legs.
      – Rock climbing is also surprisingly fun, even if you don’t like regular sports. There’s no running and it’s not competitive. Sign up for a belay course at your local climbing gym and they’ll teach you the basics of climbing. Then grab everyone in your course’s phone number so that you can get a partner to climb with. If you can’t find someone to go with you, just go and boulder for a bit and if you see someone else doing the same ask them if they want you to belay for them.

    • Research, Not Law

      I’m no help. When I was that age, single, and out of school, my evenings were spent at the gym and Friday nights were spent watching Dirty Jobs with my roommates. (Not surprisingly, there were a lot of eHarmony ads).

      I made a friend at work and have some other coworkers that I enjoyed while at work. Otherwise, I didn’t have much success making new friends. Maybe I do it wrong, but I don’t understand how I’d make friends at a coffee shop. I’d join an activity group (check meet-up dot com) or take some classes that interest you. The best way I found to make friends is through existing friends. My friends scattered after school, but sometimes friends of theirs would wind up in my city.

    • Lydia

      I am in NYC. I don’t have a particular place where I hang out, but I try to be social. You are not into sports as in you don’t like watching them? But how about signing up for a social sports league such as Zogsports or NYC Social Sports. You don’t have to be into sports to join. There are a lot of stuff that is just for fun – such as dodgeball, kickball or bowling. Really the point of a lot of the leagues is not really the games, but the hanging out afterwards. Zog also sometimes organizes day trips. I’ve also met people through volunteering. Look into charityhappenings dot org – it lists a lot of the charity events in the city – I think you can even sort by young professionals. It will give you an idea of what organizations are out there and perhaps you will see one that interests you. Also, look into your alumni group for your college or your sorority (if you were in one). Outdoor bound organizes hiking trips out of NYC, and most people who were on the trip I went on were young professionals. Finally, are you on facebook? Most people I meet randomly in the city link up to me on fb. It seems to be the easiest way to remain in contact with people you meet and to be on their radar to be invited to events, etc.

  16. annie

    kat, i love your blog and all the help you’ve given me over the years. but lately it seems that your finds are either entirely splurgey (with my law school loans, there’s no way i can afford a wardrobe’s worth of $1200 suits) or clothes from target. you used to provide a good in between but i feel that’s fallen by the wayside, which really disappoints me. i obviously love the $3000 blazers you post, which aren’t realistic, and i feel like i’ve gotten to a point in my life where i deserve more than target clothes.

    i’m not trying to be rude. it’s your blog and you generously provide excellent content. this just seems to be an issue facing a number of my new lawyer friends and i was hoping you could help us out.

    • nona

      Well, this is the first Target item in about a month, and Monday’s are always splurges. Are you skipping the Wednesday and Thursday posts all together? Because those seem to be the days/price ranges right up your alley.

    • Bunkster

      If you look at the week’s progression, you’ll see that each day has a different price point. Mondays are splurges, Tuesdays are on the expensive side, Wednesdays usually max out at about $150, Thursdays are under $100 and Fridays are under $50.

      In the under $50 range, most items are likely to come from Target or The Limited, unless there are sales. I appreciate the end of the week items because they fit my budget, but the beginning of the week items are interesting conversation pieces (either because they’re gorgeous or because they’re controversial).

    • Maddie Ross

      One of the nice things about this site, in my opinion, is that Kat gives ideas for pieces that are certain colors or certain styles, as well as ideas for new online stores that I can try. While I love quality pieces, I’m pretty thrifty and like to shop the sales. I also like buying items at Target for certain trends. I almost never buy exactly what Kat features (today was an exception where I already had it) but I often take her suggestions and shop myself. I think you should use this as a jumping off point – not a shopping list.

  17. Lawgirl

    Hey Nona, I used to be put off by the prices for many items on this site (especially when I was at my brokest), but be patient. While I wouldn’t call this a bargain shopper website by *any* means, Kat continually surprises me with $50 or less choices that have been absolute hits from non-Target places (Banana Republic, Mango, Loft, Nordstrom, etc).

    I think it would be nice if she added a “get the look for less” alternative to the “splurges.” We can all hope, right? :-)

    • EC MD

      OOOH! I love that idea. Monday AM could be the splurge, and then Monday coffee break could be look for less.

      But only if Kat wants. I don’t want to put too much on her plate.

  18. momentsofabsurdity

    Anyone have an suggestions of where to look for an ugly holiday sweater? I have a party this weekend and have a Fair Isle crop sweater I could resort to if I find nothing else but a) I bought it this season and I don’t actually think it’s ugly! Or at least, it’s on the cuter side of ugly with a tank top, skinny jeans, and boots! and b) the only thing that makes it “holiday” is the Fair Isle knit – it’s black and gray and not very festive.

    I checked Marshalls and while they have plenty of plain red or green sweaters, nothing that really screams “ugly holiday.” I’m going to check WalMart on my lunch break. I live in a college area so I am almost positive (but I haven’t checked) that the thrift stores are generally out of all ugly holiday sweaters.

        • Gooseberry

          I was HOPING you would say that! There are tons of sweaters (or were as of last week) at the Garment District in Kendall. I’d call them and just see if they have any left. Seriously, there were TONS. (And, now I wonder if we are going to the same party tonight! I’ll be in a green elf hat and a priceless “BELIEVE” sweater, if we happen to cross paths!)

          • momentsofabsurdity

            Oh and I’d let you know what I’ll be wearing but I am not yet sure!

          • Bunkster

            Wow. That is classic.

            Maybe we should invite her to next week’s Thirsty Thursdays Boston meet-up. Actually, we should probably let people know that this is a monthly event anyway.

    • another anon

      Are you crafty at all? Maybe you could buy an inexpensive red or green sweater and decorate it?

      Otherwise, I think Walmart might be your best bet. Or maybe coldwater creek, but that would probably be pretty expensive for something you aren’t going to wear again.

    • SunnyD

      Salvation Army/Goodwill. A friend hosts an annual “wear ugly Christmas clothes” party. I think everyone gets their stuff (sweaters, vests, sweaterdresses, etc.) from SA or GW. Good luck. If you’re pretty short, you can also pick up some green tights in the girls section at Target. Those help with the bad outfits too.

      • momentsofabsurdity

        Yeah my only worry re: Salvation Army/Goodwill/other thrift stores is that in my college area, I imagine there’s a run on ugly sweaters for precisely this reason. I will definitely check it out though!

        • Gooseberry

          Just to save you some time, I already checked the thrift stores in the Central/Kendall area and there were no ugly sweaters (other than Garment District).

    • RRugosa

      I once had need of an Ugly Christmas Sweater but couldn’t find one. I wore an existing plain red sweater and found a plain scarf in a Christmas-y green. Tie scarf around neck in pussy bow. Voila. Ugly Christmas look. It went over fine.

      • RRugosa

        I once had need of an Ugly Christmas Sweater but couldn’t find one. I wore an existing plain red sweater and found a plain scarf in a Christmas-y green. Tie scarf around neck in a KITTEN* bow. Voila. Ugly Christmas look. It went over fine.

        * I used the other word often used to describe this type of bow, and it put me in moderation. There. Fixed.

  19. Green Atty

    I am currently seven weeks pregnant, and am queasy/sick/exhausted just about all day. It helps to eat a lot of small healthy meals, but I have food aversions like no one’s business.

    I am traveling to a meeting on Monday that will require an early morning flight, then an all day meeting in a conference room from 9 until 6, then a late flight home. I need to bring some food with me so I can sneak food in the restroom during breaks and don’t hurl all over the conference table, but granola bars are one of my biggest food aversions right now. Any other suggestions? The other trick is that I’ll obviously be using a carry-on only, and the senior partner I’m traveling with doesn’t know (and I really don’t want to tell work yet).

    Thanks!

    • Gooseberry

      A friend of mine swore by packets of Lorna Doone shortbread cookies during a rough first trimester. They are “carby” (should be a word anyway), so my sense is that they help a lot with queasiness, and they are easy to fit into your purse.

    • academicsocialite

      I ate like a toddler through my first trimester, so hard to pick out things that don’t seem like a dead giveaway that something is up. Will you have enough space in your bag for a cold pack of some kind? I lived on cheese and crackers, Vitatops, pretzels for the salt cravings, and Annie’s honey grahams. If you/your stomach can handle cheese or a small yogurt, or even some nuts, those might help you get through the day than just simple carbs. My doctor was really pushing the protein, but hard to think of things that travel well. Good luck!

    • JJ

      Good luck! Saltines, Ritz crackers, and Cheez-Its (seriously) got me through my first trimester nausea at work. Can you pack some crackers and a little container of peanut butter (I don’t know if that’s “liquidy” enough to set off alarm bells by TSA)? I tried a bunch of different trail mixes with dried fruit, as well. I know it only works for some people, but candied ginger also helped calm my stomach.

      • zora

        best peanut butter for traveling: Trader Joe’s peanut butter filled pretzels. I always take a bag with me when I’m flying. Peanut butter without the mess.

    • eh230

      Lemonheads candy for queasiness (it is kind of like ginger, works for some people and not for others). Milk, if you don’t have a dairy aversion; and Lance peanut butter crackers.

      • TNT

        ice packs will get flagged by TSA even if they’re frozen. They’re considered a gel.

        You told us what you can’t eat. What is working for you?

        • TNT

          P.S. I travelled with a colleague/friend who had to carry medication in her hand luggage. It needed to be refrigerated, and I think she got through with an ice pack for that. I don’t recall her ever having to produce documentation of needing the ice pack, but I think it was on the bottle label in case she was asked.

      • EM

        I ate lemonheads too! Chewing mint gum seemed to help as well. If the smell of these don’t turn your stomach, you could pack some of those peanut butter on toastchee cracker sandwich thingys.

    • Green Atty

      These are great ideas! Thanks so much all. The “carb-y” options are ideal; I plan to stock up on pretzels, Lorne Doone, and ritz crackers, and will bring a little container of Jif for protein, which is a great suggestion (PB has been my friend this month). I feel better about the trip already.

      I guess I’ve also found the only upside to being the only female present in a group that will consist of 2 fact witnesses and at least 2 attorneys from four different firms – no one will observe me chowing down in the restroom! But seriously, it still astounds me that I’m the only woman in this group.

      • zora

        just said this above, but if you can get to a trader joe’s: peanut butter filled pretzels are in the chips aisle: pretzels and PB all in a neat little package!! they have salted and unsalted, too.

    • Anne-on

      I rotated through the options below when my food aversions were at my worst. I also found it helpful to have lots of options as what worked one day would not the next. I’d suggest the “cheese cracker” and peanut butter sandwiches you used to eat as a kid – the protein helped me, plain cheese or pretzel goldfish crackers, saltines, wheat thins, unroasted and unsalted almonds (again for protein), dried fruit (I liked tart cherries), and shortbread cookies. I found that sour flavors helped nausea, so a packet of sour patch kids was a standard travel indulgence for me.
      Also – ask your doctor about zofran and/or motion sickness pills. I did 10+ trips in my first 5 months of pregnancy and simply would not have been able to fly without the help of medication.

    • Not telling

      Too funny – I’m also 7 weeks and not telling at work yet!

      This is my second and luckily, no nausea yet. With the last one, I really liked ginger cookies. And it’s a perfect time of year for them to not look weird because everyone is exchaning gingerbread cookies! Try sucking on hard ginger candy also.

      I also ate a lot of dry cereal (oatmeal squares was my favorite) so you could keep baggies of that in your bag and reach in for a handful every now and then.

    • RRugosa

      Trader Joe sells boxes of bite-sized crackers with either peanut butter or cheese in between. The cheese ones are a bit salty. Oyster crackers? They are bite-size, and so maybe less crumb-scattering. Hope the trip goes well for you, it sounds plenty miserable, really not what you need right now.

    • Bursting out

      I liked Lara Bars for the emergency blood sugar dips. They seemed easier to digest than Luna or Clif bars, and there are enough flavor varieties that I could usually find one that was appealing.

      Speaking of ‘appealing’: bananas were great for settling my stomach, too.

    • JAS1

      I know a woman who lived on animal crackers and watermelon jolly ranchers the first few months she was pregnant.

    • victoria

      When I was pregnant I was in and out of the hospital for hyperemesis, and the last time I was admitted the doctor recommended that I eat candy — it’s digested so quickly that you stand a fighting chance of absorbing some of it before you get sick. Starburst (and, of all things, Hillshire Farms Polish Sausage) were all I could eat for a solid month.

    • Research, Not Law

      Take half a unisom sleep tab (NOT gel cap) the night before your flight. It’s actually an anti-nausea med that made people so sleepy that they marketed it as a sleeping pill. It’s completely safe during pregnancy. A half pill will let you wake up when you need, but you’ll feel much, much less nauseous. B-6 is helpful for many people as well, although I never could tell a difference.

      Bring whatever you can eat. I’d be bringing pretzels, mixed nuts, and apple sauce cups. I’ve been eating those fruit c_cktail cups like crazy during this pregnancy.

      And don’t fret: If you’re the only woman, chances are, none of the guys will think you’re pregnant. If they do ask (which I highly doubt), just say you’re feeling a bit under the weather.

      And not to be gross, but I’d make sure that I had a puke bag at my seat for the flight. GL!!

    • Louise

      I don’t have any food suggestions, but advise that you do NOT click on the link for the ugly Christmas sweater vest from Sears in the previous thread.

      If you are already queasy, that sweater will turn you green and want to drive the porcelain bus.

  20. Mrs. Q

    I’m heading to Puerto Rico (San Juan and Farjado) on Monday for a much needed break. Any suggestions for restaurants or things to do?

    • Anon

      A day trip to Vieques Island is a must. Its one of the most beautiful place on earth. No need to stay overnight, as there’s not much there besides the beach. Hike from one side of the island to the “private side” through a path.

      • MeliaraofTlanth

        Second Vieques. Though if you stay overnight, you can kayak in the bioluminescent bay, which is pretty awesome. And if you do stay for dinner time, restaurant suggestion: El Quenepo.

    • Niktaw

      If you travel east of San Juan, e.g. to visit the National Forest, stop at Luquillo kioskos, or food shacks. Mind you, even though they are “shacks”, not all are cheap.
      http://www.puertoricodaytrips.com/luquillo-kiosks/
      Tripadvisor has reviews on a few to help you decide.
      Also in Luquillo, there is a quaint little place Pasta y Pueblo. Tripadvisor has rave reviews and it’s hard to get a reservation because they are so small. We went, it was good but not OMG amazing, even though most of our family loves pasta.

      • RRugosa

        Tripadvisor is a great resource, now they seem to have fixed the fake-review issue. We used it on a long trip through Southeast Asia – it was invaluable. They really do read the reviews posted – I wrote one that was, I now realise, sloppy and off-topic. They caught it, removed it, and notified me, very pleasantly.

    • anon too

      I would drive to El Junque (the rainforest).

      Also, my husband and I stayed at guest house where the couple ran a hang gliding school. We do not hang glide. In addition to hang gliding, they were able to take you ocean kayaking to see monkey island (an island covered in monkeys studied by scientists).

      We also spent time on Culebra. Smaller than Vieques- as you can walk all over the island. One of the nicest beaches ever.

      We thought about going to a yoga retreat center in the middle of the country, but then found out the yoga instructor was going to be away.

      When I went to PR with my sister, we did find one good restaurant in Old San Juan, which is a fun place to check out the fort and shop, but I do not remember its name.

      • Anon

        Actually, I think I was on Culebra instead of Vieques. Gah. Bad advice-giving on my part. Sorry.

    • PR tips

      A fantastic (and not too touristy or expensive) restaurant in Old San Juan is Verde Mesa (vegetarian plus fish). It’s marked as closed on Yelp, but they actually just moved to a new location: 201B Calle Tetuan. I had lunch here probably twice a week when I was working nearby, and it’s delicious! Vegetarians and non-vegetarians alike love it.

      As for sites, one cool “off the beaten path” site on the east side of the island is Charco Frio (means something like “cold pool,” but not freezing since it’s in PR!) near Ceiba — you can walk to an area of this river with a natural water slide carved into the rock and rope swings in another spot. Google “puerto rico day trips” for a website all about PR day trips, which includes detailed instructions on getting to Charco Frio (and also lots of other day trips that you can check out).

      As others have said, Vieques is also very nice and the bio bay is pretty cool!

      Enjoy!

  21. Dorianne

    While I love the dresses, can I ask a totally unrelated question? I have a black tie event to go to for attorneys. What do I wear? I have dresses for other events I have attended, but was told I should just go with a suit. Any point in the right direction would be much appreciated!

    • TCFKAG

      A business suit at a black-tie affair? That would be odd (unless that’s what everyone else will be wearing). You should call the organizers to see if they can give you input on what people generally wear.

      I think last year at this time, Kat did a post on formal black tie dresses that are appropriate for work events. I think a long black sheath dress with nice jewelry and a colored wrap would be pretty. Or a dressy cocktail length black dress. I always shoot to be in the middle of dressiness for these events.

    • TCFKAG

      Got stuck in moderation for writing about a —tail dress.

      A business suit at a black-tie affair? That would be odd (unless that’s what everyone else will be wearing). You should call the organizers to see if they can give you input on what people generally wear.

      I think last year at this time, Kat did a post on formal black tie dresses that are appropriate for work events. I think a long black sheath dress with nice jewelry and a colored wrap would be pretty. Or a dressy knee length black dress. I always shoot to be in the middle of dressiness for these events.

      • Dorianne

        Thanks to you both. I think i am just going to call the hosts and see what they suggest. I hate being the most overdressed/underdressed.

  22. Anonny

    PSA: Women’s apparel and accessories are 40 percent off at Brooks Brothers today.

  23. Canadian

    Any suggestions for not-ugly office appropriate shoes that you can wear with actual socks? My toes are getting freezing from only ever wearing nylon ankle socks/sockettes/whatever you call them with my flats/pumps. Or is this why the space heater comments have been so popular??

    So far, I have only found boots to solve this problem.

    • AIMS

      I think your options are booties or nylons. I don’t think there’s much besides an oxford for actual socks, but that’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

    • Margaret

      I wear my heeled oxfords with socks. I know opinions on heeled oxfords are split, but I think they’re downright cute.

    • Research, Not Law

      Trotter’s Jenn loafers. Okay, they aren’t the sexiest thing in the world, but they have a tailored look and are nice peaking out from pants. Much nicer than dansko, in my opinion. And they are the most comfortable shoes in the entire world. You can quote me. I wear mine with smartwool socks all the time. Thick ones are a bit crowded, but fine, but the smartwool trouser-like socks are prefect and warm.

  24. Can you wink?

    REALLY weird question, my boyfriend can’t wink. Has anyone else ever heard of this? I didn’t believe him, and tried to “teach” him how to wink by saying “ok now just shut one eye and leave the other open” (thinking I would eventually speed up the process and it would turn into a wink) and he can’t do it. When I tell him to do that (while making the one eye squeezed shut face) he just makes two squinty eyes. I don’t get it, because the ability to shut one eye while leaving the other open is kind of like the ability to wiggle my fingers… you don’t have to learn how, everyone can just do it. I mean I don’t care if he ever winks or not, but what is wrong with him!?

    • Tired Squared

      I’m not POSITIVE that it’s genetic, but I’m pretty sure it’s “one of those things,” like being able to roll your tongue, arch a single eyebrow, etc. So I wouldn’t worry too much about something being wrong with him :)

      • momentsofabsurdity

        I taught myself to raise one eyebrow – was definitely not genetic for me. I never taught myself to raise the other one though, I keep meaning to do that.

        • mamabear

          I can raise one eyebrow and cross one pinky toe over the adjacent toe, but if I try to do either on the opposite side, I can’t even comprehend how it might be done.

          Both on the same side (left), by the way.

          It must be genetic.

          You know what else is genetic? Asparagus pee.

          • Tired Squared

            I had absolutely NO idea what asparagus pee was until I went on a date, and the guy ordered asparagus as one of his side dishes. After the waiter left, he looked at me and said, “Don’t worry, I’ll keep the door closed when I do my business.”

            I didn’t get it (and I guess I made a confused face) … because he then proceeded to explain how asparagus creates a strange bathroom smell. And then told me not to worry, since he would “get it out of the way before we made love.”

            … which we did not.

          • another anon

            mamabear- It’s both actually. There are four types of people:

            (1) smelly smellers
            (2) nonsmelly smellers
            (3) smelly nonsmellers
            (4) nonsmelly nonsmellers

          • Emma Woodhouse

            I’m so glad that someone other than me cares enough to know about this. I refuse to eat asparagus for this reason and the few people I’ve told – the genetic smell part – think I’m insane. Corporettes FTW!

          • Herbie

            @Tired Squared – there should be a hall of fame for best Corporette comments. I would nominate your asparagus pee date story immediately.

          • N.

            Another wrinkle in the asparagus pee story — I had “late onset” asparagus pee smelling abilities; I wasn’t able to smell it until sometime in my 20s. My (somewhat weird) family discussed this at length when I was a kid and we had me down on the side of non-smellers, until one day in college when I had some asparagus, went to the bathroom, and suddenly *finally* understood what everyone else had been talking about for years!

          • Godzilla

            Ditto Herbie, that was an EXCELLENT story, TiredSquared. Mamabear, that article was fascinating. I’m considering gorging on asparagus this weekend now.

        • Tired Squared

          Ah, then I guess I was wrong! I’ll use your story to inspire my brother before Christmas get-togethers this year, though–he’s always wanted to replicate my arched-eyebrow look that stops my father in the middle of political rants!

          • momentsofabsurdity

            It took about a year – I was like 15 when I taught myself. The side effect is now one of my eyebrow muscles is way stronger than the other.

            The best part is the one arched eyebrow look I’m able to to throw out.

          • zora

            ha! when i was in high-school, I taught myself to raise one eyebrow, too! I thought it would come in handy if I wanted to play a vulcan on Star Trek. and I taught myself the Elvis lip curl, too. Hello, I am a nerd. ;o)

          • Godzilla

            OOooohhhh, Elvis lip curl! It’s really easy for me to do it on the left side but I specifically remember teaching myself to curl my lip on the right side as a kid because I liked symmetry….yep, still easier on the left.

        • no crow's feet

          An old classmate was complaining on Facebook about crow’s feet around the outer corners of her eyes. I looked in the mirror to see if I was getting crow’s feet too, and I’m not. At all. Because I can’t wrinkle the outer corners of my eyes. At all. No matter how much I squint.

      • North Shore

        My husband and son can raise one eyebrow (either one, independently), but I cannot. My son first did it as a baby, so I suspect some people are just born with more independent use of facial muscles or something. I guess the same could be true for winking.

    • Anonymous

      Neither me nor my mother can wink. I also cannot raise one eyebrow, wiggle my ears, nor whistle! Basically I suck at any sort of facial gymnastics.

    • RRugosa

      There’s nothing wrong with him. Not everyone can wink – me, for instance. I can raise one eyebrow, but can’t wink. It’s just a minor variance in small muscle control.

    • Coalea

      I can only wink out of one eye (the left) – and I do a pretty poor job of it, subjecting me to endless mocking by family and friends. I basically look like a parody of someone winking, or a “stage wink” in a play (like, the audience should see it but the other actors should not). So sad.

    • TK1

      I can only wink with my left eye, not my right. This provides my family with hours of entertainment trying to get me to blink. I also can’t roll my tongue. I vaguely remember learning in HS that it was a genetic thing, but I could be wrong.

    • Bee

      I can’t roll my tongue, and I can’t whistle. I’ve had people insist that of course I could, or try to make me show them… just try showing what you CAN’T do! Having someone focus on some stupid thing you can’t do is frustrating. And sometimes embarassing.

    • meme

      On a kind of related topic, I don’t get brain freeze. I’ve never had it and my husband and kids think I’m crazy. I can’t be the only one right?

      • Jesse

        +1. I’ve never gotten a brain freeze either, even when I’d tried to “induce” one. My brother also doesn’t believe me on that one. Shrug.

      • Eleanor

        I’ve never had it, either. My mom and brother get it, but my dad is like me (us). I think if you’re going to be freakish in some way, this is a good way to be, but I do feel a bit like I’m missing out on a near-universal human experience.

    • Amelia Bedelia

      hahahahaha – this is the best thread EVER!!!!!
      thank you for making my Friday better.

    • Done It Many Times

      I traveled alone through most of western Europe in my 20s and 30s. Here are my tips:

      * try to stay at nice hotels. They are in safer parts of town and they have concierges who can make your life a lot easier.
      * do a LOT of research in advance. I would buy Fodors (I also like Eyewitness) and read it cover to cover before I went. Then I would carry it around with me all day.
      * I was up early to spend all day running around town. I would pick a nice, safe dinner restaurant and then come home to the hotel after dinner. Late night partying alone just seemed unwise.
      * Carry books everywhere. A lovely park is boring alone once you’ve seen the flowes and fountain, but with a novel it is a five hour experience.
      * My small-ish backpack every day contained: camera/lens, wallet, passport, guide book (if I bought the country version and it was too big, I would rip out the city chapter and carry only that), my novel, a sketchbook and pencils, first aid kit, snacks.
      * Try to wear something with pockets. Put a small amount of cash (for water, postcards etc) in your pocket. Put your wallet (with the rest of your money for the day and credit card) at the bottom of your backpack. Your backpack should be either leather or one of those PacSafe ones that cannot be shredded with a knife so the contents spill out.
      * Take a business card from the hotel and carry it with you plus enough cash in local currency to take a cab back to the hotel from anywhere in town. This way, you flag a cab, show the driver the business card, and get home safely.
      * ENJOY! You will have a fabulous time and you will be really, really glad later, when you are old and have a family, that you did this.
      * Ask people to take your picture in front of landmarks. It is a little hard at first, but people are happy to do it and otherwise you will come home with no photos of you. Ask them to take two or three each time; not everyone knows how to frame a shot or use auto-focus.

      • RRugosa

        Good ideas, DIMT. Would you say that 3 stars = a reasonable guideline for getting a hotel that is neither too expensive nor too scary? Books and websites and their star-assignment vary, but on a recent long trip we went by 3 stars and it worked out ok.

        • Done It Many Times

          I think 3 stars works, yes.

          Based on others comments, I have some additions:

          * second the comment about credit cards with chips.
          * telephone your credit card companies before you leave and tell them which countries you will be visiting. Otherwise, they will block your charges as potentially fraudulent.
          * deal with your cell phone carrier before you leave (this one gives me hives, so I won’t elaborate).
          * I am compulsive about never letting my passport out of my sight.
          * No expensive jewelry and no jewelry that looks expensive even if it isn’t. People might mistake it for the real thing and either: (1) try to steal it/hurt you, or (2) refuse to bargain as low as they might on prices.
          * bring extra passport photos in case you need them and can’t find a kiosk open.
          * bring an official copy of your birth certificate.
          * bring a xerox of your passport (all pages).
          * post the last two on google docs (or email them to yourself) in case you lose *everything* and need someplace to start.

          • zora

            ditto on copy of the passport. I always carry the copy of the front page of my passport where it is easy to access: pocket, wallet. And keep my real passport hidden away: usually money belt under my clothes. For most purposes, the copy will suffice: checking in at a hotel, other times I’m asked to show ID, and the less i have to get my passport out and mess with it, the less likely I am to do something stupid and lose it, or give someone an opportunity to steal it.

            and great idea about keeping your copies on google docs in case you need to replace things. I would also include the copies of the fronts and backs of all your credit cards, etc, so you can quickly access the phone numbers to call and cancel them if necessary.

            Altho, I will say, I have traveled a lot my whole life, and i have never lost my wallet, or had anything stolen, so this is all just being prepared so that you don’t have to worry. It’s not very likely that you will lose anything, if you are careful and aware of your surroundings.

    • RRugosa

      Buy a Kindle and load it with the latest books by all your favourite authors. Excellent for long plane/train trips, nights in your hotel room when you’re tired and can’t be bothered to go out. Also, in some countries they’re fairly new/unknown, and can be good conversation starters.

    • AT

      Second the Kindle. Always keep a small flashlight handy. Consider one of those hotel door alarms (google it). If you’re staying at a hostel, stick with women only rooms. A nice sleep mask and ear plugs are a worthy investment. If you have a smartphone, consider downloading map/city tour apps. I prefer these to guidebooks for when you’re out and about, b/c staring at your smartphone as you try to figure out where the closest metro stop is, or which museum is closest, is far more subtle and less “touristy” than looking at a guidebook. Some are free, some are a few bucks, but the best are the ones that you can use when your wifi and data are turned off, and which integrate indexes of attractions and public transport maps. Embrace trains — they are such a great way to travel. If you go to the national sites you will get better prices than the sites that aggregate everything and are targeted at tourists. Just google “country” + train. In the Netherlands, its nshispeed.nl/en, in Germany, bahn.com.

      Finally, see if you can get a credit card with a chip in it (and the PIN code), because it can be difficult in some places to use an American (chip-less) credit card. Not all banks offer them, but I think there was an article about this in Practical Traveler on NYT a few months ago. I live in Europe, so I have my European bank cards and credit card with the chip, but it’s been an issue for some guests visiting from the US.

      • RRugosa

        You can buy a little clip-on light for the Kindle that works as a make-do flashlight. Enough so you don’t trip over things.

    • zora

      only tip: Do It! it is amazing, and easy. Europe is very safe, there is tons to do and see. Almost anywhere you go along the main travel routes/big cities, there will be someone around who can help you in English. Have a great time!

    • Research, Not Law

      — Research where you want to go to have a general plan before you leave but be open. When I travel for pleasure (by myself or with others), I have arrangements for the first couple of days after I land and then play it by ear from then on out.
      — Depending on the location, you can just walk into a travel agency or tourist info center and get your train/bus/ferry tickets or even accommodations arranged. I love doing this if I’m not sure how the system works in the area or if I don’t speak the native language.
      — Realize that sometimes the slow trip is part of the adventure – but sometimes the fast train or airplane is well worth the money.
      — Look like you belong there. Wear the same types of things as everyone else. Ie, if you were going to walk through downtown in your own city, you probably wouldn’t be wearing sneakers and a visor. If everyone else is carrying their purse comfortably, then don’t keep yours in high-security. It just makes you stand out like a novice. Besides, you want to look cute for pictures :)
      — Keep in mind that, in my experience, only people in the tourist industry are crabby. Most every day folks are nice, so don’t fear them.
      — More people know English than it may appear; don’t say anything stupid or offensive thinking they don’t understand you.
      — Don’t feel weird about asking people to take your pic. Most likely, they’ll ask you to do the same. But word to the wise: observe people taking pics before you do and pick someone who seems to know what they are doing.
      — Under no circumstances let someone on the street help you with an ATM. If you have problems, go inside the bank. I’ve never had a problem, but I’ve known people to be stranded with a fake card while a thief is using theirs.
      — Don’t bother with traveler’s checks. They are just a pain. Convert some currency before you go (~$200) and bring your credit card. Most places take credit cards. When you need cash, get a couple hundred from an ATM, since most banks charge a fee per use. If you’ll be gone long, shop around at banks for the lowest fees and best availability/partnerships. If you’ll be gone for a very long time, considering opening an account at a local bank.
      — Get a train/rail pass.
      — Stay in nice areas. It doesn’t have to be a fancy hotel, but pay the extra for a hostel in a nicer area.
      — I preferred to leave my baggage and extra cash locked in my room (or in luggage room at a hostel) and travel lightly during the day.
      — Make friends with other solo travelers, even if you don’t speak the same language. Breakfast at a hostel is a great opportunity.
      — Similarly, make dinner arrangements with other travelers. I liked to travel solo during the day, but then meet up for dinner. It was nice to have the company, but mainly I liked having someone accompany me home.
      — When it’s time to come home, stay at a place near/at the airport. The headache of travel difficulties that make you miss (or nearly miss) your flight are not worth it.

      Have fun!!!

      • Research, Not Law

        Oh, one more solo female tip: Avoid being too friendly with random guys. Social norms can vary quite dramatically, and sometimes even a smile and “hello” can give the impression you’re interested. Most likely, the guy isn’t a serial rapist and you are in no danger, but he may follow you around for a while or come on too strong. It’s just not worth it.

        • NDR

          I even invested in a cheapie “gol”d band to wear when I was traveling alone. Of course, it’s not going to deter all unwanted attention, but it helps you out if you want a cover story for being not interested.

  26. Lockstep/Target question

    For everyone in lockstep firms – what happens if you don’t meet your target (hours) that year? Do you still bump up to the next step in pay? Are there any ramifications for not making your target?

    • anon too

      Unless you are a lot below the target, they generally move you up. It may affect your bonus. They may tell you to increase your hours as a goal for next year.

      If you are a lot below the target, they will not move you up, let you go, and/or talk to you about your hours.

  27. Ellen

    The price is RIGHT, but I do NOT think I could wear this into work b/c the manageing partner would want to know to many things about my dress and the other clothes that I wear. FOOEY!

  28. CT

    Dear Corporettes, I need clothing advice please. I’m a legal intern at a law firm. What should I wear to the office holiday party (it’s tonight!)? The invitation says “holiday attire” so that’s not very helpful. It’s being held at the office, so the venue doesn’t give any hints. My mom said “a sparkly sweater” but unfortunately I don’t have one of those. Any suggestions? Thanks so much!

    • mamabear

      Dear CT,
      One thing you do not want to be is that memorable intern that showed up in the tight, skimpy, sequined dress that one time, remember her? (Yes, this is still discussed in my office.)

      So, wear what you wear to work but festive it up a little. You could wear your regular black skirt or pants, but wear your mom’s suggestion of a fancy sweater. Or a red jacket. Or a satiny blouse. Maybe a regular jacket with a sparlky brooch.

      That’s all you have to do – really.

      • Research, Not Law

        This!

        If you don’t have anything in your closet, add bolder jewelry than normal.

    • Emily I

      I once wore a pair of winter white slacks, bright pink sweater and vintage blingy pin to a similar event and felt great. I’ve also done a red and black skirt in a sort of tapesty fabric with a plain black top, black tights and heels. I think a good way to attack this is to pair tasteful, conservative pieces with one thing that is more “festive.”

    • TCFKAG

      When I was a legal intern, I ran out before the holiday party and bought a gold blazer. I now have a black sparkly blazer for just these instances.

      Other options, do you have a velvet blazer? Red or green sweater? Sparkly jewelry?

      Festive attire in my experience just means business casual attire with some glitter. :-)

      • Nonny

        This reminds me a a former boss, who had a gold-and-black zebra-striped tuxedo jacket that he wore to Christmas parties, and only to Christmas parties. It was kind of his equivalent to the tacky Christmas sweater, but SO much more fun. I looked forward to every Christmas just to see that jacket. It was even better because usually he was a very classic, low-key dresser and this just showed a completely unexpected side of his character.

        Not to say that your sparkly blazer is like that – I am sure it is fabulous. But it reminded me of this and how much I loved it.

    • CT

      Thanks to everyone! This is kind of what I was thinking, but it really helps to have confirmation from you all.
      I’ll let you know on Monday if there were any crazy stories or outfits at the party!

  29. A to Z

    Does anyone really care whether a dress is $29.99 or $24.49? What kind of suckers are we?

    • anon

      I get excited when CVS has buy one/get one free shampoo, and i save $5. What the heck, I get excited by saving 30 cents on yogurt. (not EXCITED, but, yay, chobani is on sale!)

      I’m not into this dress, but discounts are always nice.

    • Godzilla

      The kind that would celebrate saving $5 by getting a completely unnecessary and sugar latte =).

    • F

      What a horribly narrow-minded perspective. Maybe some people don’t have it as good as you and have to be on a pretty strict budget where five dollars here and there make a difference. Have you really always lived such a spoiled life of luxury that you can only think of people with limited means as “suckers”?

      • WC

        Although a good point for all of us to keep in mind, I’m calling you and this comment out… I didn’t find this to be offensive to the point that this response was necessary and I’m sorry you did.

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