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1. Reposting from yesterday for more input.
   My brother is in a busy phase of work and childcare and has some home projects pending that he hasn’t had time to get to. I wanted to give him a Taskrabbit gift card so someone could come and install furniture (already purchased), put up curtains, etc. But Taskrabbit doesn’t offer gift cards.
   Are there other gift cards you recommend that will serve a similar function? I think he has the time to make a booking, and supervise the installer minimally when WFH, but don’t know how to logistically gift it without just giving cash or a generic card (Visa).
   He already has DashPass, otherwise I would’ve considered that.

   1. OP again – Thumbtack doesn’t offer gift cards either.
      If it were you, what would you want? Do I just give up and gift cash with the instruction to use it for this purpose?

   2. Book it yourself through TaskRabbit.

      1. That’s what I would do. Check with him about time and then just make it happen. Or give him a homemade gift card with a promise to book it after consulting with him about time and date, and then make sure to follow through.

         1. I have to agree with these. Tell him you’re doing this and give you times when it would work. Then schedule. My husband was doing a similar thing where he thought it was really kind (and it was) to give me a gift card for a massage. Then they just sat there and we’re used because I didn’t have the energy to schedule and figure out scheduling with him to be sure he’d be home to watch the kiddos. Now, he gives me a print out showing that the appointment has been scheduled, and that’s such a relief because I know that I don’t have to do the extra steps!!

   3. Check out Handy, similar concept and they might do gift cards

2. I am a mid-career attorney at a medium-sized firm. In the last few years I’ve found myself increasingly interested in the people management and operations side of my work and the firm. I’m wondering if this is something that is worth trying to pursue, and if so, what that even would mean – as I progress and become more senior, is it just inevitable that will become a bigger part of my job? Should I be considering some sort of career switch and what would I even be switching to that would make sense?

   1. I think you want to be seeking out paths to positions like practice group leader or member of the executive committee so eventually you can be considered for managing partner. People sometimes think those positions go to top rainmakers but really they often go to good people managers with lighter books and time to devote to firm management without draining firm revenue

      1. + 1 These are the roles for firm attorneys who like to manage.

         In the meantime, increase your leadership responsibilities in your practice. I’m a litigator, so for me that means taking the lead on managing junior associates, paralegals, assistants, and contractors so well that senior partners feel comfortable simply handing me matters to manage.

         Pick a Non-Billable Firm Thing that you like. I love recruiting. This year I am in charge of our summer associate program.

3. Planning a trip to Milan and the lake region for a week with some gfs this summer. Any recommendations for hotels or tours?

   1. AirB&B has some great options in that area. Lago Maggiore is gorgeous and worth a visit, especially to see the islands by boat. If you’re into cheese, try a tasting at Luigi Guffanti which is in a small town on the shores of Lago Maggiore. Personally I found Lake Como too crowded and overpriced, but that’s just my take.

      1. How does Garda compare?

   2. You can go to the Loro piana factory up there. It’s amazing!!

4. Following up on the dog discussion this morning. Kids and dogs faces are often at the same height, meaning bites often occur to face and neck. One bite, even if not fatal, can cause severe trauma (nose, lips gone) and require years of extensive surgery and forever altered appearance. Children do get killed by dogs everyday. I would never let my child play with other peoples dogs, and can only play for short moments while heavily supervised with our own dog.

   1. 15-20 children are killed each year, so definitely not every day.

      1. Wasn’t talking about US only.

      2. +1 and I believe the majority of the children who die are infants and toddlers

         1. Anyone can be maimed for life though. The injuries dogs can cause are shockingly severe.

   2. You should be teaching your children good dog etiquette and practicing it yourself, too, even if the dog owner doesn’t require it. (e.g., never put your face or your hands in a dog’s face, ask to approach another person’s dog before interacting, approach the dog from the side and pet it on its body not its face, etc.)

      1. That’s all fine for a non-reactive dog but don’t blame bad dog ownership on the kids.

         1. No one is blaming the children, but the comment starts out that dog faces and kid faces are at the same height and it strikes me that kid faces should not be near unfamiliar dog faces so perhaps this poster could be teaching a bit more to her kids during their very short and heavily supervised visits with their own household dog.

         2. Yes. Also, has nobody been around kids? Even if they’ve been taught dog skills, doesn’t mean that kids aren’t prone to going off script and acting unpredictably.

            1. Especially toddlers!

            2. I have and the way they behave with my nonreactive, non-aggressive dog really upsets me. I tell them as they approach that my dog is afraid of children so be very gentle and approach from the side and they totally ignore me, leaving my dog shaking under their attacks.

            3. In general, I don’t think dogs and toddlers are a good mix. Unless these kids live with you, I’d just straight out keep the dogs away.

            4. I am talking about children approaching in public. I don’t take my dog to others’ homes and I do not invite toddlers into my home as it is terribly unfriendly to children, my dog being a non-issue.

   3. Agreed. My parents have two very territorial dogs who’ve been known to bite. They’ve attacked my own ankles before, so now I only go to their house in ankle protective boots. I do not feel an ounce of guilt for telling my parents that my 3 year old is not allowed to be near their dogs at any point. It’s sad because it does limit how much time kiddo can be with their grandparents.

   4. A dog tore the face off the one-year-old neighbor of my best friend. I honestly can’t believe that grown women can’t say politely but firmly say “hey your violent dog isn’t welcome at my house.” I feel really disturbed by it and like we need urgent education in schools to help women practice being assertive.

      1. OP from that post here. Yes, I agree that I need to say something. However, lest you think that I’ve personally witnessed her dogs doing anything, I haven’t. She’s been upfront that the dog has nipped at, but not broken the skin, of 2 people. That alone gives me pause, hence my question about how to handle this and whether I’m overreacting. I am not a dog person at all, which has probably caused me to doubt my instincts. Because I’d rather not be around dogs at all, nice or not. But fair point to the commenters this morning; I will be taking more precautions to not be around the friend’s dog.

      2. +100

   5. I was so angry at my mom when they dog sat over Christmas. I told her she was to keep my dog locked up while my estranged brother’s family was over (four kids). I was worried because my dog is 12 and is a small breed. Kids are super loud, active, and hang all over and ride their own dog (large breed). Came back from Christmas to discover my SiL was angry with me because my dog bit one of the kid’s hands (didn’t break the skin–probably because the dog doesn’t have half it’s teeth anymore). I’m just glad the kid wasn’t hurt or my dog–since the natural reaction of my brother is to kick and throw things when he is upset (part of why we’re estranged). I just don’t get why people are so adamant to have dogs and kids mix sometimes. And honestly, I feel really sorry for my brother’s dog. That’s a situation that’s just asking for one or both dog and kid to get hurt someday. Letting your kids lay on, ride or pull ears or tail on a dog makes you just as bad if not worse as the dog owner that isn’t keeping their dog out of harm’s way.

      Needless to say my folks will not be dog sitting again.

   6. I’ve owned multiple dogs and genuinely don’t understand the owners who keep problem dogs or don’t put humans first…or the ones who get offended at the simple request of ‘can you crate your dog…’

      1. Because most of these people like dogs more than humans. In my humble opinion, of course.

         1. I like dogs better than people. Yet when one morning mine bit unexpectedly and with zero provocation, and kept trying to attack when shoved away, she was down by noon. I was lucky that I was the one bitten. No way would I want to be responsible for harm to another person by my dog. Even if I like the dog better than the person.

         2. I do like dogs more than humans, and because of that, I take great pains to not put my dog in a situation where she could mess up, or even be perceived as messing up (ie knock someone over because she’s a big klutz).

         3. Do ya’ll know how strange that sounds, to actually prefer dogs over human beings?

            1. Have you met humans?

      2. One person confessed to me that they’re angry all the time, and the only way they express it is through the way their dogs treat people.

         A relative of mine said something kind of similar once about why her friendly dogs are untrained and allowed to jump on people.

         I am sure a lot of people are just inept, but I guess if someone tells me this in so many words, I believe them, though why they would tell me that, I don’t know!

         1. I’ve met the first person at the dog park, for sure. We don’t go to the dog park very often for that reason.

         2. I don’t even know how to respond to that. Wow.

   7. Your children can only play for short moments heavily supervised with your own dog? That’s insane.

      1. No, it’s not. Small children can easily antagonize the calmest dog. They are really not safe around dogs until age 4-5 or even older depending on how obedient the kid is.

      2. I think it’s insane too. Sure, watch an 18 month old who might pull the dogs tail. But older children can be alone with a dog.

5. I’m having a small Seder tomorrow with one vegan, one vegetarian, and three omnivores. Last year I made a vegan stew, quinoa, and sumac-lemon chicken, and it was a hit, but I’d like to mix it up this year. Any suggestions for vegan, kosher-for-passover dishes that can sit unattended on the stove top for at least an hour? And for a chicken or beef dish in a similar culinary style? It’s going to be so hot here I would rather not turn on the oven. I’ve been poking around on websites and in cookbooks but nothing is really jumping out at me.

   Thanks, and happy Passover!

   1. Happy Passover! Alison Roman has good Passover recipes and menus in general. Definitely more of a side dish than a main, but I made her fennel horseradish salad last year and my mother is repeating it this year, no better vote of confidence in my mind, hah. A poached or slow-roasted salmon with citrus could be good. What about Cauliflower steak or stuffed squash? Ottolenghi has a chicken with Arak and clementines recipe that I really like and would be fine after sitting for a while. Smitten Kitchen has a wild mushroom pate that I really love, it’s great cold or room temp.

   2. I think this would be vegan and Kosher. I love the Spicy white bean stew with broccoli rabe from the NYT. Very easy, it calls for canned beans, you can sub whatever hearty green you want/have, easy to make and let sit in a crock pot for hours. I’m not vegan and it is one of my favorites. Do use some preserved lemon or at least some lemon juice.

      1. I almost suggested a lentil and chick pea stew that is similar. Some people don’t eat legumes during Passover (I do, so I don’t know the rules about which legumes/beans are OK).

   3. How about a Moroccan chicken stew for the meat dish? If you search that term there are tons of recipes. Or a chicken tagine. There’s a good one on Epicurious via Bon Appétit that I have personally made, and one by Florence Fabricant on NYT cooking that I would definitely try.

      1. You could certainly make a vegan tagine, as well, so everything ne is effectively eating the same thing.

   4. Do you have access to a copy of Joan Nathan’s “Jewish Cooking in America?” Her baked Moroccan fish is excellent (I add black olives and slices of lemon). So is the eggplant and green pepper kugel (it can be bland, so add salt and cilantro, plus I add tomatoes and mushrooms). The San Francisco Seder with Scacchi, Roman Layered Vegetable Dish fits your request (I’m not a huge fan, but people like it). I love the American haroset (double the wine and quadruple the pecans and make sure they are toasted). My favorite dessert is the Orange Compote.

6. Hit me with your best easy-ish non-chocolate desserts… thank you!!

   1. Lemon bars.

   2. Panna Cotta. Super easy!

   3. Sweet mango sticky rice
      Rice pudding
      There’s an Indian dessert I can’t remember the name of that is basically the same thing as rice putting except it’s carrots instead of rice in the milk, with spices and raisins stirred in..mmmm.

      1. +1 to rice pudding! And if you have an Instant Pot, it’s super easy to make in there

      2. Gajar halwa

   4. store bought pound cake or shortcake, fresh berries, fresh whipped cream. maybe some jam for added sweetness! my moms church friends whip this up constantly and its si good

   5. olive oil cake topped with good whipped cream and berries

   6. Blondies, fruit crisps, many types of cookies. A banana icebox cake or trifle using store bought Nilla wafers and pudding mix tends to impress with very little effort.

   7. For me, it’s always cobbler. You can use frozen fruit if necessary, and the batter for the top mixes up in a few minutes without dragging the mixer out. Get some really good vanilla ice cream for the top; people love it. I’ve never come home from a get-together with a bite of cobbler left in the dish.

      1. I’m like this but with crisps. You make a streusel topping and scatter it over fruit mixed with sugar. Couldn’t be easier.

         I also like a galette made using a store-bought pie crust (the kind that are rolled up in the yogurt section). I have a plum tree that ripped all at once so I have tired lots and lots of fruit based desserts!

         1. https://www.glamour.com/story/the-perfect-easy-winter-weathe

         2. My plum tree *ripens all at once!

   8. Trifle.

   9. Peanut better pie. It’s basically peanut butter and cool whip (look up recipes) that you freeze in a pre-made graham crust. Always a big hit and super simple. (Assuming no one has nut allergies)

   10. Angel food cake with strawberries and whipped cream

   11. Tiramisu

       1. Hawaiian coconut pudding (instant mix packet), plus fresh fruit. It’s like making jello and then add whatever fruit you want on top. Easy, kid friendly, delicious.

   12. This is a little fussy to make but it’s delicious and impressive and as a bonus it’s gluten free: http://www.domesticdaddy.net/2012/04/04/lavender-almond-roulade/

7. I have narrow hips but a round stomach (I thought I had fibroids, but it’s all me apparently). I liked mid-rise pants because it visually broke up that area, but if too tight caused a muffin-top. But now, higher-rise pants really put the whole area on display in a way that makes me present very tummy-forward, visually. Is there such a thing as a 3/4 rise? No 2023- mid-rise pants have worked (tried on a whole Abercrombie store, to no avail) and many gaps / BRFs / JC. I can find pants and khakis that work that have a rise lower than high-rise that hits at the right place, but no jeans or denim. I just want less-prominent pooch and can be fine with no denim, but long-term, just need to have jeans that fit b/c it’s now a hole in my closet. I sized up since COVID and my current jeans have a lower rise and now create a muffin top even though they technically fit (so I can wear with sweaters, but not with anything tucked in). Is this as simple as “GO TO TALBOTS,” which seems to be the usual answer (and I know I’m too cool for Talbots but I guess I should bite the bullet and just go).

   1. I’m similar, I feel you. Used to be pear but now pear with tummy.
      Can you wear longer shirts and/or blazers that break up that area visually? I do not tuck in my tops for this reason.

      1. +1 Tucked in tops are often very unflattering.

      2. I am still new to this pear-with-tummy thing, and it’s throwing me for a loop. I love curvy cuts for the extra room in the hips and thighs, but now they’re pretty tight across the stomach.

   2. I would size up until they’re not as tight across your stomach and then get them tailored where they’re too loose.

      I also have a belly pooch and I just…wear pants that fit without having a crisis over it.

   3. I always feel like Madwell jeans really cinch in my stomach. Like, when I zip them up I can feel it pulling everything in. I am an hourglass and always go for their curvy line.

   4. I think you could go to Nordstrom’s if you’re not ready for Talbots. There are a few brands there that may work, like maybe Madewell or Wit & Wisdom.

   5. get out your jeans or pants that fit you really well and measure the rise so you know what rise you’re looking for. Then hunt for that number rather than looking only at what the store has named the pants. There’s no consistent rise measurement that gets label high rise or mid-rise, so if you know the measurement you’re looking for, you might find it labeled in a bunch of different ways.

      Or play with sizes and proportions to get what you want. Buy mid-rise pants in a tall to get a longer rise, and then have them hemmed. Or buy high-rise pants in a petite, if you can make the leg-length work for you.

   6. Mid 2010s Jcrew fits this bill. If you can find the matchstick jeans on poshmark that would be worth a try. Hard to find new stuff with that rise though.

   7. I bemoaned my post partum belly to my OBGYN & she just said “that’s why we don’t tuck in our tops” – advice that has always worked for me. I don’t think a high waisted pant with a tucked top is going to be your look either.

   8. I have your body shape. Old navy wow loose jeans in the high rise are magical. They have more stretch which probably means they will rub between the thigjs faster so I bought a back up pair for when that happens.

8. I’m a BigLaw partner who has been given a ton of firm management roles. I have good instincts, but zero training on actual management. Any suggestions for how I can get better at management? Books, courses, any ideas?

   1. The HBR series on management topics are generally good.

9. On the _itchiness scale from 1 to 10, this is like an 11, right?

   Hi Accountant,

   As I’ve explained multiple times each tax season for the past three years – including three times this tax season – Name, CC’d, is the POC for anything dealing with the First Last Estate. Thanks so much.

   But no really. How many times do I have to tell yall? I don’t have this information, Name does!

   Is there a better way to word this? ‘Cause I’m seeing red and can’t think of it.

   1. Hi Accountant,

      Per previous emails, questions about the John Smith estate should be directed to the executor, Jane Doe. Her contract information is:

      (Fill in)

      She is also cc-ed on this email.

      Thank you,

      Seeing Red

      ——

      I know it’s aggravating, but it might help if you think of it as the accountant asking you to find the information, rather than what you have yourself. I also wonder if there is a confidentiality issue at play, wherein the accountant does not want to go to third parties.

   2. or just forward the email question to Name and CC, with the note “as per previous conversations, Accountant, Name is the person who would know this: repeat question.” but what the other person said is less bitchy than mine.

   3. I don’t think it is unusual or inappropriate for the accountant to expect you to collect the information from the third party and convey it to the accountant.

      1. +1

   4. I’d cut out the “each tax season for the past three years – including three times this tax season” as there’s no benefit there other than coming off as sort of difficult, and just say “As previously explained, you should reach out to ____ for anything related to the Estate” and copy them.

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