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Wow: these espadrilles have more than 100 great reviews at Nordstrom, and come in about ten colors — if you're looking for height (4″!) with a walkable heel (2″) these might just do the trick.
I like more earthy colors with espadrilles, but that's me – they also come in a bright cobalt and fun yellow, as well as a shiny gold — there are also several beigey shades and a black. (Pictured: olive.)
They're $149, and available in sizes 5-11 and Nordstrom, Amazon, and Zappos. Alida Espadrille Platform Wedge
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Anonymous
Oh dear god are platforms in again?
Ellen
I like them b/c I am not that tall and having these are equivelent to growing to be 5’7″, which makes me look alot svelter then I do at 5foot 3. Men get more intimidated when I am just about able to look them in the eye when I talk to them. Many look away b/c I am so direct and know what I am talking about. When you are short, they look down my blouse, which is NOT where there eyes should be lookeing. FOOEY on them. I tell them to look at me, not my boobies, and that shuts them up quick!
Anonymous
I see these and I think “teenage mall rat” not “professional woman weekend wear”.
Anonymous
I’d wear these for sure, and now that it’s almost summer associate season, I expect to see very similar shoes on the women attorneys at all evening and weekend events. Just because they aren’t your style doesn’t mean they aren’t stylish for professional women.
Anonymous
And they definitely aren’t for formal dress codes. But Professional Women doesn’t automatically mean Formal dress code either.
Annie Q
Agree that the espadrilles Kat posted look like a teenager’s choice. I like Viscata’s espadrilles MUCH better. They have a more sophisticated look and come in several styles. I’m a partner in a big law firm and they’re not a work choice for me, but a great weekend choice.
https://www.amazon.com/VISCATA-Barcelona-Calella-BLACK39-Calella-Black/dp/B00GR8D0DS/ref=sr_1_81?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1522376345&sr=1-81&nodeID=7147440011&psd=1&keywords=espadrilles
Ellen
I love Espadrille’s and it has been along time (and 20 pounds) since I have been a teenager! FOOEY! I remember when I was in high school, I had a wonderful pair of Espadrille’s that made me look very tall, and since I was svelete, a lot of the boys wanted to date me, and back then, we never did anything other then kiss, tho some of the boys always wanted to put their hands on my boobies. I did NOT let them do that b/c if I did, they would want me to do stuff, which I would NOT. But Espadrille’s are what we thought got them thinking b/c we were taller and sometimes even taller then they were! What a nice memory!
KateMiddletown
I don’t have the problem of height, but I imagine if you’re “looking for height” as Kat suggested, you’d wear these on the weekends no problem.
anon
Ankle-rollers, is what I call them. Too hard to walk in. They seem to be the shoe of choice at the local vineyard, which I don’t get, because everyone wearing them is teetering around, wine in hand, trying not to fall on the grass.
Law/HR to non-law academia?
I posted this kind of late on the morning thread, so thought I’d drop it here too:
Has anyone had success transitioning from a law-adjacent career to academia? I practiced law for a few years before transitioning to human resources (now at the exec level in a nonprofit). While I care a lot about the subject matter I work often get to work with (advancing equity at work, developing leaders, dismantling workplace systems of oppression) and enjoy counseling and training employees, I realize that what I truly want to do is spend my days teaching, researching, and writing about these subjects.
I’m not thinking about trying to become a law professor–I didn’t follow that path academically–but more along the lines of community college or undergraduate programs in organizational development and related areas. FWIW, I went to a good regional law school, law review editor, good grades, etc. but certainly didn’t focus on publishing or anything. I’ve got the JD but no PhD.
I’d love to hear stories about folks who made the transition; thanks in advance!
Ellen
I have NOT made this transition, but have often been told by the Judge that I would be a great profesor b/c my breifs are so explanatory that he does NOT even have to THINK before rendereing judgement in my favor! The manageing partner says that is a great complement from the Judge, who was quite a stickler in law school (Brooklyn) back in the 1960’s. I told him I was NOT even born until the 1980’s and he said he knew! I don’t know how he knew b/c I was born on LI, not Brooklyn or Manahattan, where his chamber’s are. Anyway, I would LOVE to teach, but there is not alot of money in it, so that is why I am staying put here in my job for the time being, until I can get a guy to MARRY me and move me to Chapaqua. When I do, I might teach a course at a local college, if I have the time. But my focus will be on my home and family!!!!! YAY!
anon
As someone who made the transition from academia to law…I would just caution you that this is likely not to happen. Professor gigs are hard to get (yes, even “teaching” jobs, yes, community college and undergrad oriented jobs) even for people who are trained in the conventional ways; most schools don’t look outside the box for candidates. Especially if you have few if any publications to your name.
The most practical advice I could give you would be to work on your publication record now, before making any moves–in respected, ideally peer-reviewed journals in your target fields. I think this is an unlikely career transition at best but only remotely possible if you publish and network like crazy.
Same goes for teaching experience. I know that the people skills/training you do in HR is relevant to teaching, but you’re going to need to teach stand-alone academic-style classes for folks in academia to think of you as someone with relevant experience.
Also, JD is a terminal degree in the legal field, but it means almost nothing in most other academic fields. You probably need whatever the terminal degree is in your field of interest to be taken seriously.
You might also consider trying to get an adjunct gig at first, alongside (not instead of) your current job. Schools are more often open to people with deep professional experience, but less academic experience, in these kinds of roles. From there you can build your track record and network and understand more about what you need to do to become a prof. Again, it’s a hard transition to pull off but one of the only ways I can see this working.
If your passion is teaching, research, and writing, then you may be better off thinking about how you can weave those activities more into your current career path than in trying to transition to a highly competitive, snobbish, and closed-minded field where your experience and credentials won’t translate. Academia is not nearly as fun as it sounds.
Love at work
I’m in a new relationship with a coworker, and it’s… wonderful. We’d been friends for a few years before I joined the company. It’s everything you tell yourself not to do, for very obvious reasons, but he’s 1) not a supervisor; 2) it hasn’t been an issue at work; and 3) I’m confident that if we decide it doesn’t work out, we can remain professional. Ironically, I have a high percentage of friends who met their spouses through work, but it’s not something I’d normally condone. Has anyone had a similar experience?
anon8
I met my spouse at work. However, I just worked there one summer during college.
Anonymous
half of my friends from my old firm met their spouses their — I can think of 5 or 6 long term couples right off the bat.
Anonymous
doh met their spouses THERE. sigh.
K
My current boyfriend works at the same company as me. Huge, Fortune 500 company. We met through mutual friends. He works in a different department, in a different building. So working together and being professional won’t be an issue. As long as you’re sure you can stay professional about it at work then I don’t see an issue.
Love at work
Agreed!
Anonymous
I would also check to make sure your employer doesn’t have a policy where you need to notify them of the relationship. Mine does. Better safe than sorry!
Nati
I used to sit right beside my now-girlfriend at work. Like, we could’ve reached out our arms and touched each other. I took a risk and told her how I felt and over a year later we’re about to be engaged to be married. She left the company once we got serious because it was too weird for so much of our lives to be interconnected. I think the workplace can be a great meeting place (assuming you can be respectful and professional) because you get to see someone regularly and in a wide range of situations.
Housecounsel
I married a senior associate who was part of the team who interviewed me for my first firm job. That was more than 20 very happy years ago. I am almost embarrassed to tell the story, because I ended up practicing employment law and I know how badly things can turn. But it worked out beautifully for us. We didn’t start dating for about a year after we started working together. He told our partner and we stopped working on the same cases, and made sure he was never in a position to evaluate my work.
Ellen
You are lucky, and congratulation’s by the way. I do not have this issue b/c there is no man at my firm that is within 25 years of me, and all are married or divorced and not capable of giving me children. When I had Mason, he was younger then me, but he was an idiot, and I could NEVER fathom dateing him, let alone any kind of s-xueal activity with him or worse yet MARRAGE!
Next week, my new associate is joining, and she is 10 years younger then me. Since I am interested in MEN, this will not be an issue for us. If Iworked in Biglaw, I’m sure that there would be plenty of eligible men, but not eligible for ME b/c all they would want to do is to have s-x, and that is not what I want at this stage of my life, unless it is to have a child and get MARRIED! YAY!!!!
Anonymous
As long as you’re not breaking a policy in your workplace and neither of you is supervising the other, I’m not sure why you would worry.
My partner and I met at work and spent some time establishing good communication practices such that if we were to break up we’d still be friends and still be able to work with each other. We did break up briefly (his divorce was being finalized and it was pretty stressful for him; let me emphasize that they had been separated for years and had already filed before we began dating.) It was tough, but we worked hard to maintain the work relationship and to keep having lunch with colleagues, etc. When we resumed dating I was very confident that he was a good human being and we had sorted out the issues that caused the breakup. We’re now very solid and although it could have been awful to work together, date, break up, keep working together, and resume dating, it was actually ok.
TL:dr – if he’s a good person and you’re a good person and you agree upfront to be adults should the relationship end, you’ll be fine.
On the road
I have seven days to drive from Portland, OR to Minneapolis. Any suggestions for what to see and where to spend the most time along the way? So far, I’m thinking of focusing on Montana (Glacier in particular, which I know could be a week long trip in of itself!).
TK
I’ve done this trip – moved to MPLS from PDX 15 years ago. Stop in Glacier but be prepared for loooooong stretches of nothing for the rest of the trip. It’s just hours upon hours of brown dirt thereafter, whether you’re taking 90 or 94. But Minneapolis is great once you get here.
Mpls
I’ve got MT/ND comments for your trip :) These are all things you can do (if you have time), but can’t guarantee you have time for all of them. I do recommend taking I94 thru MT/ND/MN
1. turn south when you are done in Glacier, and stop at the cherry orchards on Flathead lake. Continue south to Missoula and get on the interstate there.
2. Stop in Butte – See the Berkeley Pit – open pit mine that has filled with water. Beautiful color, very acidic.
3. Stop in Bozeman at the Museum of the Rockies. Really good dinosaur exhibit and all fossils are from SE MT (Hell Creek formation in the Missouri Breaks).
4. East of Bozeman is going to be…sparsely populated. Gauge your bathroom breaks carefully.
5. Stop in Glendive and do a little hiking in Makoshika State Park – this is the Badlands part for MT. I think it’s really pretty, but I’m biased as my family is from about an hour north of the area.
6. Western ND – Beach (Exit 2) is your last bathroom for the next 2 hours. The next 2 hours are a really pretty drive through the ND Badlands. You’ll be in Teddy Roosevelt Nat’l Park for parts of it. Stop at the South Unit Visitor Center (it’s an exit off of I94, if it’s open) and look at the overview. It’s fantastic.
7. Then….it’s a lot of nothing. New Salem Sue (giant Holstien statue visible from the interstate), Jamestown has a big bison statute. Bismark/Mandan will be in there somewhere.
8. Both MN and ND have a pretty good system of rest stops. I recommend the app iExit to help you keep track of what’s coming up and how long to the next rest stop.
If you like geology, there are a series of books call “Roadside Geolgoy” that wlll explain the geology visible along the major roads in various states.
Echo
6. Beach has an incredible pottery studio, Prairie Fire Pottery. HIGHLY recommend a stop. Agreed on Teddy Roosevelt National Park; the painted cliffs are gorgeous.
For eastern Montana, stop in Miles City and go to the co-op for delicious food, and the Montana store for amazing Montana goods (everything huckleberry).
Definitely read about the geology– the way the glaciers carved up this area is amazing.
Anonymous
Mpls, great suggestions! Also, hi from a Billings native with relatives in Sidney!
Mpls
snort – I guess there isn’t that much north of Glendive is there? Actually headed out that way soon.
MT Anon
These are all excellent suggestions (but do you mean I90, not I94?). If you have time, after Butte take a swing south through the Big Hole and visit Big Hole Battlefield Monument and the small town of Wisdom. (And as an audiobook for that trip, I recommend Ivan Doig’s Last Bus to Wisdom). If it’s in the summer, end that detour with a visit to Poor Orphan creamery (eat all the cheese and visit their icelandic sheep) and come out through Virginia City (and old gold rush town – mostly only open in summer). Soak in Norris Hot Springs and take Norris Canyon through to Bozeman. Then keep following Mpls’s recommendations. :)
Mpls
I meant I94 so that you go through North Dakota. I90 will take you through South Dakota. I guess it is I90 thru MT and it doesn’t split until east of Billings. :)
MT Anon
I see. I’ve only done the MT part. Didn’t realize it splits. I need to explore east of MT at some point!
Anonymous
When you’re doing Glacier, spend a bit of time in Whitefish – some nice restaurants and it’s an interesting little town. In Kalispell, don’t miss Sweet Peaks for ice cream.
I highly recommend taking the free shuttles on the Going to the Sun highway – parking is crowded at the top, the drive itself is white-knuckle for many stretches, and the parking at the shuttle stop is free. The view is not to be missed, and if you’re late enough in the season there’s hiking at the top.
Anon in NYC
Opposite direction from Glacier, but have you ever been to Yellowstone/Grand Tetons? I’d suggest driving along Beartooth Highway (so freaking beautiful), either from Montana and backtracking a bit to stop in the parks or stop in the parks first and then drive out the NE corner of Yellowstone and continue on to Minneapolis.
Anonymous
check the weather reports for glacier before you go. its still a bit early in the year for some roads to be open – still some snow up there i think. yellowstone is also good right now before the june crowds start. you can also check out chico hot springs as a short break. id also suggest devils tower, badlands national park or if you do the northern route in the dakotas you can go to teddy roosevelt (state?) park.
Anon
I’ve done this drive! It depends what time of year you’re going, but I spent some time in Yellowstone and the Tetons and did the Beartooth Highway, which I highly recommend, as long as it’s not still too snowy. I also was surprisingly impressed with North Dakota in late summer. We stopped briefly at Roosevelt National Park and a number of the Lewis and Clark historical sites (I was with a Lewis and Clark buff and we’d both read the diaries, so you may or may not have the same interest). Alternately, you can go through South Dakota and hit the Badlands, which are interesting.
Mpls
Teddy Roosevelt Nat’l Park is one of my favorites – but I also spent quite a few summers driving between MN and MT to visit grandparents.
Anonymous
OOO! You could do the Ice Age Floods National Geologic Trail, which I just found out is a thing! I’ve been to quite a few of the WA and OR sites included on it though, and would particularly recommend the Gingko Petrified Forest and Palouse Falls. Link for an awesome website to follow, if you aren’t familiar with the Missoula floods.
Anonymous
https://www.dnr.wa.gov/programs-and-services/geology/glaciers#the-missoula-floods.4
Anon
Another Montana native here (Wolf Point). For me, Glacier and Yellowstone are both musts, even if you only have a little time in each – but if you only have time for one, I’d recommend Glacier. The Izaak Walton Inn at Essex is an interesting place to stay near the park, though it lacks a lot of modern amenities. Many Glacier is also a great home base for exploring the park. Hopefully you are going late enough in the season that Going-to-the-Sun is open. If you have time and interest, the Museum of the Plains Indian in Browning is also fascinating. I’d also second the recommendations for the Museum of the Rockies and Makoshika. If you’re a history buff, Pompeys Pillar (outside of Billings) is a fun, quick detour.
Violet
My SO isn’t much of a texter. How do you maintain a connection throughout the day? TIA.
Lana Del Raygun
I mostly don’t; we just talk before and after work. Are you working really long hours or non-overlapping shifts or something so that non-work time isn’t enough?
Torin
We just catch up when we get home. I tend to text him even though he doesn’t always respond, and frequently he asks me about it when we’re eating dinner. He reads what I send, just doesn’t always respond.
banana
+1 I don’t habitually talk to my husband during the day. I’m probably in your SOs camp in this regard – constant texting disrupts my concentration and I find it more disruptive than comforting. How about a 10 minute phone chat? We’ve been known to do those. A phone chat feels like I’m concentrating on that person, alone, for 10 minutes. Texting feels like I’m constantly being interrupted.
Violet
That’s a really good idea. I’m of a completely opposite brain, and like long message chats with friends on my breaks, but SO is great on the phone.
Anon
This is what I would do it. It will take a little getting used to, but your SO will really, really appreciate it. Texts can be really disruptive if you are not used to it and mind the interruption. Also, for some people it can signal as a bit needy, even if it isn’t the case.
Anonymous
My SO works in a facility where he can’t have his phone (or access to common internet, like email or social media) — we just don’t. We sync up before/after work, and if I need to get in contact with him (or vice versa), I have his direct line.
If he doesn’t mind, you can just send him messages during the day and he can look at them all later, or could you do a phone check-in if you need to talk for some reason? If I want to remember to tell him something, I’ll put it in my notebook/planner or a note in my phone.
Anonymous
When I’m at work, I am working.
For me, texting is for FYI stuff: flight is delayed, swim practice is cancelled, please pick up Chinese where I have info to relay and it’s less annoying than calling on the phone and leaving a message
Pompom
Gchat if we both happen to be at our desks, not pressed and busy, and need to chat. Otherwise, we save it up for a little couple debrief time when we get home.
Anonymous
I don’t think it’s necessary to maintain a connection during the day.
Anonymous
Gosh, how did relationships survive before texting existed?
Anonymous
We don’t brcause we are adults with jobs.
Anonymous
Is it really about texting for him or does he not need to communicate much when you’re not together? Some people need to keep the connection alive when they’re apart and some people… don’t. If you and SO are mismatched in this regard, it’s something you’ll need to talk through to find a middle ground that works for both of you.
Ime sometimes “I don’t like to text” is an easy stand in for, “In person connection is enough for me.” So you spin your wheels calling or messaging or whatever and then feel rejected when SO doesn’t take you up on that. It’s much easier to find a solution when you know what the issue actually is.
Violet
I think this is it; it’s how we connect when we’re not together. I’m much more of a texter, he prefers phone. Just different styles, I guess.
Senior Attorney
Gently, why do you have to constantly connect when you’re not together? As I told my son when he was living with us a while back, “How can I miss you when you won’t go away?”
January
+1 (from a non-texter who was sort of baffled by the question)
January
Also, I guess as to staying connected by text — sometimes I think it’s helpful to ask whether the need to communicate with them at that moment is important enough that you would bother calling if texting weren’t available. If not, maybe either save it for later or don’t expect an immediate response.
Pretty Primadonna
Gchat of Facebook Messenger. But, I suppose those can be considered “texting” and so don’t offer you much by way of suggestions.
Anonymous
I must be old enough that this question doesn’t even make sense to me. Most of my life was spent this way — periods of non-contact with those in my life punctuated by periods of getting back in touch by whatever means were available. Don’t get me wrong, my husband and I both text, but during the workday it is factual need-to-know information. I would find it immensely distracting and tbh pretty annoying if he attempted to keep in touch with me during the course of my workday with any method — phone, email, texting, or dropping by. We reconnect after work.
Velma
+1. Right. Texting for logistical matters only. Connect at home; work is for working.
anon
You realize that you care about each other even if you’re not constantly “connected” via communication because actual connection that sustains a relationship is an emotional state involving vulnerability and trust with your partner and not simply …. constant talking.
Checking in is fine, but being expected to maintain a conversation or multiple texts throughout the workday is maddening and exhausting to lots of people (I, obviously, am one of them).
Parfait
I don’t. I get one text a day from him most workdays: “Homing.” And I reply, “Yay.” That’s it. We are busy and we need to do our work at work.
I will send a quick email if I think of something I want to tell him and don’t want to risk forgetting about it.
Kat Sitlington
I have it both ways – some days I’ll get a barrage of texts and links to “Watch this video” or “Read this article”, and other days I might get no more than “Leaving at 4”. It was fun when I was a stay-at-home-mom, a little less fun when I was working full time. I’m in between jobs right now, so I can answer the barrages and I’m not chuffed at the silences, but some days I wish he’d make up his mind which way he wants to be. :)
Anonymous
I guess I’m an outlier, but my husband calls me at lunch every day. Started when we were dating and we still do it. We both have high pressure jobs, but I work at home, and can usually swing it. It doesn’t happen every day, but I really enjoy it and I know he does too. We text occasionally if it’s something quick, but it’s very nice to hear his voice in the middle of the day.
Anonymous
Ugh I wish we had an edit button because I realize I said every day and then not every day. It happens most days. If one of us is busy, it obviously doesn’t happen.
Anonymous
Last year, I had a boring job and my husband also had a boring job. We texted a lot during the day mostly as a way to alleviate our boredom.
Now, I have a crazy-busy job and my husband still has his boring job, and he wants to text during the day but I don’t.have.time. So we don’t.
I don’t think “staying connected” during the day is all that critical if you’re connecting in your non-work hours.
Cookbooks paging IHHtown
You suggested a protein treatment when I asked about my too soft/overconditioned hair. I was too nervous to try Aphogee (that’s serious protein!), but did go protein heavy, and it’s definitely made a difference! So thank you!
Anonymous
where was that thread? i’m so confused every time I read about protein for hair.
Cookbooks
Here: https://corporette.com/thursdays-workwear-report-asymmetrical-pencil-skirt/#comment-3804153
Cookbooks
Blah, it got stuck in moderation. But it was in the Thursday post about the asymmetrical pencil skirt.
Anonymous
thank you!
IHHtown
Glad it helped! On the road to healthy hair ftw! And yes, the Aphogee treatment is generally for very serious damage or colored hair, which is why I only do it every 3-6 mths. The line has a two minute protein conditioner (put on in shower, wait two minutes, rinse off) that is a lot less intense and still delivers a good boost of moisture. I use that one every couple of weeks.
Relocating
Do you address why you’re looking to change cities in a cover letter if you’re relocating? I’m from a major east coast city and moved to DC for work (international affairs). I’ve been in DC for 2 years and am looking to move back to my home city. I’m looking at jobs which are the domestic equivalent of what I’ve been doing, but not sure how/if I should mention why I’m relocating. One of the jobs I’m applying to has specifically asked for applicants who are familiar with the city.
Anon
I don’t have a good answer for your question but I’m very intrigued about what jobs are the “domestic equivalent” of your current job in international affairs (and about you in general!) I’m dying to break into that industry and move to DC – I’m looking at grad school options now.
Pompom
“I am excited/motivated to return to my home city and apply my experience and skills to Domestic Issue You Work On.”
Anonymous
Yes! I think if you don’t address the fact that you’re relocating, you’re unlikely to get great responses. I would for sure mention that it is your home city. Otherwise an employer might question your commitment to sticking around.
biglawatty
Yes, I noted my desire to relocate in the first para of my cover letter and I also included [Relocating to City/St] on my resume under my address since it was not in City, ST where I was applying, just in case somebody skipped over the cover letter and went straight to my resume.
Anon
I did this recently and people were less concerned about why (returning home was sufficient) than what was my relocation plan – I.e. am I looking for a relocation package? I wasn’t and was just pretty up front about that even saying that I was already moved before I really was (used a family address knowing I could fly home on short notice if needed). I was very clear with recruiters that I was moving with or without a job and doing it for personal reasons and no one ever asked me to elaborate on that but being able to say I grew up there probably helped.
Anonymous
Does anyone have a Veronica Beard blazer? Does they work for broad shoulders / full bust?
I’m a total dork, but I really like their concept of the dickies for blazers.
Anonymous
anyone have a favorite running belt? they seem so dorky but i’m tired of shoving my phone in my bra! thanks!
Anonymous
I have a flip belt and like it. It stays put and holds my iPhone 7+ just fine.
givemyregards
Seconding the flip belt – for long runs I also like the thin/slightly curved water bottle that fits in it. If I’m wearing headphones connected to my phone, though, I prefer the armband strap.
Torin
+1
It fits my pixel 2 easily, would likely not fit any phone larger than that though.
Lana Del Raygun
I just wear a fanny pack :)
Honeycrisp
The RooSport. The two larger sized models are big enough to hold a phone. I have both a small and a large sized RooSport. I cannot recommend it highly enough.
http://theroosport.com/
anonshmanon
I went with a sleeve that holds my phone instead.
Houda
A bit of a segue. Some running pants (e.g. Lululemon or their imitations) have 2 pockets aong your thigh which are meant for your phone.
Tetra
I need to sell my old car in the next few weeks. Any advice on how to get as high a price as I can? I am not looking to trade it in, since I’m inheriting a new(er) car and just want to get rid of my old one. Thanks!
IHHtown
Do you favor ease and quickness or a high price more? You can go to CarMax for a fair, though not the highest, price very easily.
Senior Attorney
+1
Ellen
Yes, Ed sold his old sport’s car last month at Car Max b/c it was one that he had b/f he was married, and they bought it from him even tho he did NOT need to buy a car. That is what they call WEEBEESEDIBO! We buy your car even if you don’t buy our’s! Rosa told him she did NOT want that car around the garage any more b/c he and dated other women with it, and she would NOT ride in it and she absolutely prohibited ED from driving the kids around in it. Since Ed did NOT want to ride it himself any more, he got rid of it and bought a new INFINITY SUV that he can take the kids around in. YAY FOR WEBEESEDIBO!
Torin
I have said this here before and had people disagree but: Craigslist. I used a one page bill of sale I downloaded from somewhere, can’t remember, but they’re not hard to find. Have the car detailed and take lots of photos in good lighting. Sign the bill of sale and the title over after they give you cash, et viola. If you don’t need the cash to purchase a new car since you’re inheriting another one, you can take your time about it and this is really a good option.
Pompom
+1
Anonymous
Yes. Selling my car was one of my easiest Craigslist transactions and very satisfying. I priced it based on KBB. I went with the buyer to her bank and watched her get the cashier’s check for me and I signed over my title on the back (I’m guessing this format is specific to my State, maybe not). I didn’t do a bill of sale.
Anonymous
Get it detailed. Keep it super clean. Get a car wash before every single person comes to see it, unless you’ve had a car wash in the last few days (or haven’t driven since the last car wash AND it was parked indoors). Make sure it’s up-to-date on all the recalls (you can go to your manufacturer website and enter your VIN, and they’ll tell you any open recalls). Have service records.
Of Mercer
Kat included Of Mercer in the suit roundup last week. I’m not familiar with the brand. I really like a number of items and am thinking about ordering a dress (or two). Any reviews? How is the quality? Do they run true to size?
Anon
Their dresses are cut short – I’m 5’3″ and they are sometimes above the knee. I dont think they work well for taller ladies, but if you’re on the shorter side it’s convenient!
Anonymous
Can’t say about size but the feel of the garments is very good. Not crappy lightweight/see through/polyester/flammable stuff.
Anon
I agree with others here that the length of the dresses is shorter, but their clothes have generally not worked for me. I am 5’4” and short-waisted, normally have to wear “petite” clothes. Most of their clothes that say they are for petites tend to be shorter but do not have petite proportions. For example, every dress I have tried of theirs has still had the waist be way too long for me. Also, just be aware that their sizing is inconsistent– I would look at their garment measurements before ordering.
Sorry that was so negative– I love the brand in theory but have just had terrible luck ordering items from them.
Ariadne
I’m searching for mainly knit/ jersey summer tops ‘with a twist.’ Something like a t shirt with a peplum, or a knot, or perhaps other interesting details or prints. I’m a 34h cup, so prefer something flattering and a bit fitted, but not tight, if that makes sense. I’m in Canada, but in a major city, so near nordstom, anthropologie, simons, and loft stores, as well as lots of other options. Going on a European summer holiday, so looking to buy three or five tops befor I leave. TIA!
Pretty Primadonna
J. Crew Factory has lots of cute tops that fit what you have described. I also got a cute knotted back knit top from Gap recently.
Ariadne
Thank you– thinking of going to Crew facory and Gap later today, so this is timely.
anon
Was just going to recommend J. Crew Factory. I found some cute tie-front t-shirts recently.
Blueberries
Amour Vert Agnes halter tank
Ariadne
Thanks again — This looks gorgeous — will check it out to see if I will need a camisole (I normally wear a cami, but I’m going in July August, so would love to wear this cami-free!
Blueberries
I have a similar bra size and don’t need a camisole—it covers up my chest nicely. I do need a bra with a T-shape in the back or that clips together in the back to avoid my straps showing, though. I agree that it’s gorgeous!
Ariadne
Good to hear — I am not intrigued and want to try this ASAP!
Ariadne
Sorry, I mean ‘now’ intrigued — sigh… small screen!
Ariadne
Thank you — love the way tie fronts/ twists at the waist accentuate my waist:)
Favorite summer sheets?
Anyone have any favorite summer sheets? Looking for a splurge for my partner and myself – thanks!
anon
Restoration Hardware linen sheets. Actually, they are amazing year round. So cool and comfortable in the summer and warm in the winter.
MJ
Target’s Threshold Percale sheets. They are crispy and sleep cool. They are not expensive, and they’re all cotton (so they wrinkle, but not more than you’d expect). I love them and they are much better than fancy higher-threadcount sheets.
Anonymous
Casper sheets. They’re crisp and cool but soften up nicely after a few washes. I bought them on a rec from The Wirecutter and I’ve been very happy with them.
Tourist shoes
ISO reasonably attractive shoes that will be comfy for long periods of standing and walking during summer travel. Something that feels as good as an athletic shoe but doesn’t scream tourist and ideally looks good with a variety of outfits (linen pants, jeans, casual dresses).
anon
Worishofer sandals
Lydia
YES love these. they do wear down quickly though. and avoid white or opal unless you want to look like a vintage nurse in a broadway musical.
Never too many shoes...
I have to ask (having just googled those), do you wear those ironically? Because while I understand wanting comfort, my grandmother would have turned up her nose at the frump factor. I am stymied at how one could make those look good. Or even passably attractive.
Anonymous
Must agree. My 78 year old mother wouldn’t wear these.
Anon
If you like Worishofer, maybe check out SAS? Some SAS sandals are less attractive than these, but others are cuter.
Ariadne
The naot kayla, and krista — as well as some of the other sandals have really saved my high arch-pronating-painful feet, especially in summer. I’m a city dweller so I walk LOTS, and I’m not sure I would be able to go on long walks (10km +) without these!
Eeertmeert
Check out the Barking Dogs shoe blog – tons of options that meet your criteria
To the poster wanting to learn Indian/Bollywood dancing
1. Go for it
2. Indians are generally v welcoming people, Indian culture has always been pretty accepting of outsiders
3. Don’t let people on this board put you off (most Indians wont know what “cultural appropriation” means)
4. Indians wear dresses, skirts and pants and speak English without worrying that they’re appropriating western culture, for God’s sake
5. I learn piano and my Daughter learns ballet – hope W Europe and Russia don’t accuse us of appropriating their culture.
Signed
Indian
Anon
Many of my friends are from either India or Taiwan (a function of my job) and they are to a person perplexed at the whole cultural appropriation argument. They can and do distinguish between a costume that perpetuates a negative stereotype or misuses something of actual religious significance and someone wearing or displaying something from their culture. For example, one of the women from Taiwan was completely confused about the internet brouhaha over the teenager who worse a Chinese style dress to prom. Having said that, the people who are going to potentially accuse OP of cultural appropriation are not from India. They are liberal, college-educated white people from the USA who are unable or unwilling to distinguish between drunk frat boys dressing up as slave and owner and a 5 year old dressing up as Moana. And this is coming from a liberal, college educated white person from the USA.
Anonymous
Wth @ “most Indians wont know what ‘cultural appropriation’ means.” That’s inappropriate even if you are desi. And “I learn piano and my Daughter learns ballet” – the risk of misappropriation is really low when the minority is adopting elements of the majority culture to fit in, esp. by doing things that were never looked down on in the first place.
OP
Thanks for reaching out! I just think it looks fun and cool, nothing more.
Anon
I’m struggling with keeping friendships and even getting along with the women I work with. They are so gossipy and not trust worthy and the competition is getting ridiculous, down to them buying a new car because I bought one (yes this happened) same car too! Or discussing home renovations and they do the exact same thing! So stupid! I’m 36 and even my long time friends are falling away, as if we have nothing in common but kids. I feel like I’m always the one reaching out first. I always offer my home with wine of course! For play dates or nights away or swimming in the summer and I’m sick of having no one reach out to me! Anyone else? Feeling terribly lonely and don’t know how to fix this!!
Anon
I’m wondering how you even have time to think about this with kids, a husband, and a job. I’m too tired to think about friends and I don’t have a husband or kids.
As for the co-workers, be nice and don’t take them seriously.
Gegeee
Work consumes us for so much of the day. The cattiness at my job is awful. Especially now that we have interns! I think women need friends at least a couple close ones. I agree on finding an activity for you. I wear headphones at work now, tune them out!!
Anon
That sounds extreme. I also worked at a company where women were very catty – kind of like middle school cliques and gossip – and it was terrible. Can you think of one or two friends you have that are genuine great people? Then I would put more of your energy into those relationships and don’t worry about the rest. Think of the other people as hang-out buddies but don’t expect much else. As for loneliness, join a regular activity if you can like a church or volunteer group or sports team. It takes effort but you can connect with people more meaningfully if it’s a regular thing.
Housecounsel
If you’re upset that people are buying the same car as you have, or copying your decorating ideas, you may be part of the problem. Half the families in my suburban neighborhood have the same Acura family truckster, and we are all painting our interiors light gray. It never occurred to me to be upset about this.
Andi
I don’t think she’s the problem.
Not everyone where I live has the same car.
I can see being upset if you spent a ton of money to make your kitchen a certain way and someone you knew copied everything, this happened to me! It really made me mad! And that seems stupid but it did.
Kat Sitlington
They say “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery” but I’d be a little chuffed (and more than a little weirded out) if someone copied everything in a room of my house. Like, can’t you get on Pinterest or one of the other decorating sites and pull your OWN ideas?
Then again, my house is a bog-standard gray/granite/white/dark floors as it gets, which I’m assured will be passé in a few years but eh, I like it.
Housecounsel
What are our thoughts about Meghan’s dress and the wedding in general? Her dress was plainer than I would have chosen (and did choose), but it was beautifully constructed and classy IMHO. Prince Harry is GORGEOUS and obviously smitten. Loved the sermon and the choir. I was not about to wake up early to see the wedding live, but the first thing I did when I woke up was grab my phone and start scrolling through pictures.
Anonymous
P.S. there is a highlights video on WaPo. I cried as soon as I saw Meghan’s mother’s teared-up face.
Jo March
I loved her dress! I feel like if she had gone the lace route, she would’ve been compared to Kate Middleton’s dress (which was beautiful in its own way). I loved how in love they looked.
Nothing to do with the dress, but I loved the diversity in the ceremony itself, especially the choir singing Stand by Me. There seemed to be some clutching of pearls on twitter that she didn’t curtsy to the queen, but apparently she did and the camera angles just missed it or something. I thought it was a lovely wedding, and I think the fact that Harry will never be king allowed them more opportunities to personalize it to them as a couple rather having an official state event.
Kat Sitlington
I loved her dress, but I think it was a little loose. That could be attributed to weight loss from her family’s shenanigans in the weeks leading up the wedding. But other than that, it was classic, beautiful, fit her frame well, and was all-around a good choice.
Calico
I loved it! So elegant. And she looked like herself, simple hair, classic makeup, which was lovely. The sermon and choir made my week. Such a joyous event.
Calico
I have a question about customs. The Duchess of Cambridge’s ensemble looked ivory/off white to me. Is avoiding white not a thing like it is in the US? Or is it more like, I’m gonna be queen so I can wear white if I want to?
Ann
Her dress was an Alexander McQueen, very pale yellow:
https://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a20106828/kate-middleton-royal-wedding-dress/
I figured she was loosely following the yellow/green color scheme set by the Queen and Meghan’s mother.
Anonymous
It’s cream and definitely wouldn’t be appropriate in the US. That said, a friend pointed out that Kate’s outfits always draw attention and by rewearing something she’s worn several times – and a fairly understated outfit at that – she was probably doing her best not to draw attention from the bride. If she’d worn a dramatic gown – even in red or blue or whatever – it would have gotten a lot more attention.
Anon
Didn’t care for the dress! I was so disappointed. I mean elegant but you could have done so much!!!
Calico
I’m hoping the rumored “second dress” will be more daring.
Housecounsel
oooh there is a second dress?? I am here for it!
Anonymous
I think it’s pretty meh. I liked the first one more.
Anon
I was underwhelmed by her dress but I loved the neckline. I didn’t expect her to do lace because of Kate, but I thought it wouldn’t be quite so simple.
Funny, I was thinking Harry was not nearly as cute as I remembered – he looked heavier and a bit balding. But agree that they both seemed very smitten and that was adorable.
I loved the gospel choir and Bishop Curry’s sermon, but I was disappointed to see most of the royals smirking at it so noticeably. I would expect the Queen and Prince Philip to be a little shocked but it was off-putting to see the younger generation (Will, Kate, Zara, etc.) so visibly surprised and bemused, almost mocking. It really drove home the point about how much that family needs Meghan.
Anon
I agree that it was disappointing to see their disrespectful reaction. Really poor form.
Anonymous
I loved it all except the sermon, which felt too long and over the top.
That said, the royals smirks made me really sad and worried for Meghan’s welcome in this family. The Firm needs to be shaken up but it’s a lot to put on one woman’s shoulders.
Kat in Va
I think Harry is adorable, but I’m married to a redhead so I might be a weeeee bit biased.
Alanna of Trebond
I thought that the dress did not fit and was boring. It looked like a sweatshirt from the waist up. He also had a miss on what he was wearing – what were those weird things hanging off the front? And why the beard? Makes him look old. But she and Harry clearly love each other, which is the most important thing!
CountC
I also thought it looked like it did not fit. I likes the styled, although it was plain, but I wish they had tailored it to her better!
I did love that you could see her freckles still!
Anonymous
I liked the dress a lot (I’m a minimalist) and thought it fit her fine, but felt like that neckline was crying out for a necklace of some kind. I realize she had a lot of bling with the tiara, but a simple pearl pendant or something understated would have been flattering. I also liked that she didn’t have them mask her freckles with makeup.
Katie
I loved it. Her style is chic and minimal, which I find elegant. I like clean lines, and it set off her veil and face so well. Plus, it’s designed by the first female head designer of Givenchy, who is also British.
Robin Givhan’s take in the Washington Post puts it well: she avoided both Hollywood flashiness and princess fantasy (ala Diana’s wedding gown), signally that she is different. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/arts-and-entertainment/wp/2018/05/19/meghan-markles-givenchy-wedding-gown-was-beautiful-but-the-woman-wearing-it-was-unforgettable/?utm_term=.33ec1079012f
Anon
Maybe I’m not explaining it correctly…I don’t mind having the same as someone but to literally copy people at this age..and I’m not in a suburban neighborhood where everyone has the same car or color house. I literally paint my kids room, coworker does the same. Bought outdoor furniture, another bought the same…maybe I should think I have good taste? :) I’m not necessarily upset about it, just feels like it’s competing and it’s always a conversation around what someone else has or is going to get, so I try to stay away and then I’m the awful coworker not involved in the conversations (which if you work in corporate America this is the time you become the outcast). Maybe I just need a new job!
Anonymous
Why can’t you accept it as flattery? Can’t they just like your stuff without it being competitive?
Susan
I think it has to do with the individual and how it’s presented.
Feels like someone is always trying to one up someone else in my office, but I’m in sales and these women are ruthless! And the men, they are always talking about their recent purchases after big deals. I honestly find it funny. Like who cares if you bought a boat! Ugh.
DD
I work in similar place.
People are competitive, but it is how it’s presented. It could be flattery from one person but competition from another. You might be secure with your choices in whatever it is and they have no idea what they want so they just take ideas from everyone else.
Some people can feel jealousy too. I feel it when someone gets something I’ve been pining over but I get over pretty quickly.
Anonymous
Why in the world to your work-mates know these details of your life?
They know what outdoor furniture you bought?!?! There is no way that should happen unless you went to the extreme length of sharing every random purchase down to the exact details so they could imitate it. With outdoor furniture. Why would you do this?
Either they are your friends and you enjoy sharing all of these details about your life to them, so you should be flattered by their compliment of imitation. Or they are co-workers and you shouldn’t be sharing these details of your house with them anyway, so why are you doing it?
I can’t imagine sharing with a co-worker this stuff….
Rachel
I’m kind of in same boat, my office is small and we literally talk about everything while working. Do other people not? There’s 18 people on my floor and we chit chat every day about life in general or things in the media. Do other people not do this? I need to be in an office where this doesn’t happen at all. I’m tired of talking to my coworkers LOL!!
Mo
I completely get what your saying!
For me it’s finding people you have stuff in common but they aren’t competitive about it. Women have their own sense of style, decor, and you can say we you like it but you don’t have to have it to keep up with me.
I don’t like competition with women about this stupid, materialistic crap
Anonymous
I’m sorry, it’s not just you, but…have people totally forgotten how to thread comments all of a sudden? There are like, four threads related to the same original post. When people don’t thread discussions, it makes it hard to skip over content I have no interest in. Thanks.
Anon
The reply button isn’t working on mobile. It brings you down to the bottom of the page as if you are replying, but then it posts a new thread.
CountC
If you switch to desktop mode, the reply function works properly.
Rach
Does anyone have a handbag they love that’s good for work and looks professional for client meetings and around executives? I need something but there’s sooooo many choices!! I’m at a loss. to many brands these days. Thank you!
Anonymous
It depends a lot on what you need to carry. A small notebook or your laptop/water bottle/extra scarf? Do you plan to use it for travel too?
Rach
Laptop, water bottle, notebook, and yes for travel occasionally, and maybe one day of travel or going to clients home with documents and my computer, good questions, should have said all of that! Don’t want it to fall apart either! Good quality, holds a lot, looks great.
Hollis
I see this as flattery too – they like your taste and want to do the same, so if I were in your shoes, I would not be offended. However, I have also never shown anyone at my office my kids rooms or my patio furniture, and I would be surprised if anyone knew what type or model car I drove since I rarely run into them in the parking lot. If it bothers you to have people steal your ideas, maybe you should not share a whole lot of those types of personal details with people at work?
Anon
I LOVE Serena Williams’s dress from the royal wedding. Any ideas from something similar at a semi-reasonable price point (under $500)?