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- Vogue reported on a new clothing line of millennial-focused workwear, The Make.
- Inc. explained why GM changed its dress code from 10 pages to simply: “dress appropriately.”
- Fashionista shared that ThirdLove is expanding its bra options to encompass bands up to a size 48, and cups from AA to H.
- Ladders named 15 office clothing choices no one should make in the summer, including leggings, flip-flops, floppy hats, and rompers. (These suggestions may be obvious to our readers, but maybe you have a colleague who could use a gentle reminder.)
- As/Is (Buzzfeed's beauty channel) offered 21 of the best foundations with sunscreen.
- Forbes interviewed Gemma Hartley, who wrote Women Aren't Nags — We're Just Fed Up, about the emotional labor women carry, and what can be done to fix it.
- Fast Company asked, what if we killed the job interview?
- But if you still need to have a job interview, The Balance provided an answer to the request, “Tell me something about yourself that is not on your resume.”
- BBC News explained why some job ads may deter women from applying.
- The Washington Post provided a roundup of 101 non-incumbent women candidates who have won their primaries this year, including an analysis of who's favored to win in November.
- For your Laugh of the Week: Buzzfeed shared 19 people who were making their lives a little bit better.
On CorporetteMoms Recently…
- We discussed family vacations and coworker jealousy.
- We offered some clothes for working moms, including some maternity basics and washable workwear.
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I have been told to find a new job due to “performance” reasons. I find it odd that this happens the same week we get a salary raise. Our firm has been really slow this past year so everyone was surprised by the raise. Anyway, I have a few months left but what do I do now? I just came back from a clerkship less than a year ago so I feel it might look bad when I interview for another firm position. In hindsight, I wish I had asked around to find out how slow the firm has been before I decided to come back.
Don’t worry, just plan for a new job and say, IF ASKED, that you are looking for more responsibiliety then you had in your current job. That is EXACTLY how I got my job now, b/c the manageing partner asked me why I was willing to move, even tho I knew NOTHING about WC law. I said I wanted more opportunity and responsibility, even tho serving subpeenies does require alot of responsibility–I did NOT say I was getting tired of getting pinched in the tuchus by my coworkers, tho I was, daily. FOOEY on them b/c I am now making more money then their whole firm’s revenue. They must be nashing thier teeth once they found out. TRIPEL FOOEY on them.
This is the dark side of salary raises, I’m afraid. You’re going to have to figure out how to spin this when you talk to other law firms. Work was too slow, you discovered after your clerkship that your former firm wasn’t as good of a fit for you as you had thought, stuff like that. Savvy lawyers will recognize that you were probably let go and that your time off for a clerkship probably contributed to your being laid off, but most people will not ask you about it directly.
I read the “Women Aren’t Nags” article and was appalled.
You shouldn’t say negative things about your spouse in public, let alone in a national magazine. You also should not expect your spouse to read your mind. Instead of her cutesy little “set him up to fail” game she played for Mother’s Day, she could have just laid it out for him. He cleans, she does other work while he’s unavailable. Cleaners vary a lot in price and quality, so finding one takes time. Would he be willing to shop around, ask their friends, and schedule this for her?
I would be out the door, tires squealing, rubber left on the road if my SO ever did to me what she’s doing to her husband.
How exactly did she set him up to fail? Just because he did fail doesn’t mean that was her plan.
Except it was obviously her plan. She set up a little test, didn’t explain to him what was going on, and then pulled a martyr routine when he tried to do the second-best thing. She never worked *with* him.
As for the other stuff: what’s so hard about this as a convo? “Imagine that I am out of town with a family emergency, or I dropped dead, or am in a coma. What would need to be done to keep the house running? (Pause to let him think) Okay, can you do about half of that without me asking? I ask the kids to help, but you’re my partner, not my child.” But splashing his Mother’s Day failures all over national media so she could get a book deal is the right move, ‘cuz feminism, amirite?
It wasn’t ‘obviously her plan’. She asked him to a hire a cleaning service. He’s not a child and it’s not rocket science. Any adult knows if you are hiring a service, you call around and get a few recommendations and quotes. Like how does he hold down a job if he can’t handle that?
Expecting your DH to be a competent adult is not setting him up for failure.
In fairness, that is not how every adult hires a cleaning service. Not everyone calls around for multiple quotes and I think the writer’s insistence that it be done that was unreasonable.
How else to you find a service if you don’t get a couple recommendations or quotes? Like just pick the first one in the yellow pages? How do you know if they’re in your budget? Genuinely confused about how this works. My friends/family ask each other for recommendations for stuff all the time.
She treated him like dirt – not explaining exactly what she wanted (his TIME) or why she wanted it, and then, her words, being “ungrateful” when he’s literally on his hands and knees.
I don’t care what her point was – she’s a witch with a capital B. Get over yourself, sweetheart.
Yea, that’s exactly what you do. Google, click, book, done.
Not trying to say it is the best method, but it’s easily done
“Google, click, book, done.”
That was apparently too much work for him though….
I was responding to anon at 3:33. I don’t care about the article.
Her husband just sounds like a child. And ya know what, you know you’re marrying a child when you’re dating. If having a clean house is important to you, then take a look around his apartment when you’re dating. Smells like dirty laundry and old food? Don’t marry him! That old acronym WYSIWYG comes in here – what you see is what you get. Don’t marry a man-child and think you can change him – we know you can’t change anyone.
Amen to don’t marry a man child!
Agreed, and it doesn’t even have to be gendered. I’m not sure if ’emotional labor’ from a feminist perspective is all that different from “one partner has their s— together, the other is kind of a mooch.”
“Even having a conversation about the imbalance of emotional labor becomes emotional labor.” THIS.
Emotional labor is the dumbest concept in the world.
Just because you’ve never done something doesn’t mean it’s dumb.
HIGHLY skeptical of that new brand, The Make. 1) Run by marketing people, not fashion people. 2) Barely any photos of, you know, clothing. 3) Their initial capsule collection of ‘work wear’ includes a jumpsuit, track suit, and t-shirt.
This isn’t a clothing brand, it’s a marketing campaign that maybe will also produce some clothes.
And the t-shirt says “trouble” on it… highly professional.
Yeah… I don’t get it.
Quick question — I’m writing a victim impact statement and the guidelines I’ve received say to address it to the judge. I know her name, but what should my salutation be?
Judge Last Name
And don’t stress about getting it exactly right. Unless you’re like ‘Hey Lisa’ the judge will probably barely notice if you use the correct salutation. They want to know about how you have been impacted by the crime.
To the Honorable First Last: