Coffee Break: Lash Kitten Heel

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1. Arizona just revived a near-total abortion ban from 1864. Women are at war for their lives in this country. I read recently that over half of Texas survey respondents (women) even realize that abortion is banned in the state – they thought it was somewhat restricted with generous exceptions. Comstock hasn’t been repealed and a de facto national ban feels imminent. I’m ready to step up fighting back. Who’s with me?

   1. Me!

   2. What do you think would be effective? Voter registration/turnout? Education that the abortion law in your state is X? Something else? I just don’t know anymore.

      1. I was already planning to write letters through Vote Forward, but now I’m on the hunt for abortion and women-specific campaigns to support. If anyone knows of any good options, please post!

   3. Cynical take from someone on the opposite side of the political aisle: you almost don’t have to worry. The pro-life movement is so busy destroying itself, alienating Americans, trying to ban the Pill (because it might maybe sometimes perhaps prevent implantation), and attacking its own supporters that abortion on demand will be here for a long, long time.

      1. I wish that were true.

         1. And also, it may be true currently for certain people (rich and white, mostly) but it’s definitely not the case for everybody.

            1. I hate this argument. Being white won’t save you if you have an ectopic pregnancy and collapse on the street in Texas. Abortion restrictions harm all women, including those who never intend to become pregnant. That’s by design. We are meant to live in fear and to change the trajectories of our lives. We need solidarity, not “white women will be fine.”

            2. Yeah, that’s exactly what I was saying, but go off.

            3. Then what were you saying?

            4. I don’t know how to simplify “it may be true currently for certain people (rich and white, mostly) but it’s definitely not the case for everybody” any more for you. Sorry.

            5. Cool, stick to your weak argument and divide women, then. I’ll keep working on behalf of all women myself – even the jerks.

            6. you are being ridiculous. Obviously these restrictions affect different groups to a different extent and obviously that poster wasn’t saying they were ok with that disparity but pointing this out as an issue!

            7. I was referring to the impending backlash.

         2. I’m liberal and pro-choice but I agree with the 3:02 poster. Abortion is clearly a winning issue for Dems. Almost nobody supports the draconian near-total abortion bans or banning IVF or birth control; a solid majority of people support Roe. Abortion being on the ballot in Arizona and other swing states is the best possible thing Democrats could hope for in this election, especially with many on the left being unenthusiastic about Biden. We need to turn out voters to win and abortion being a big issue is the best way to do it.

      2. @Anon at 3:02 – serious/sincere question: do you define “abortion on demand” to include the current state in, eg, Texas, Tennessee, Oklahoma, South Dakota etc? I’m asking because based on news reporting, basically no one can get abortions there, so I guess I don’t understand what you are trying to share with us, and I want to understand.

         1. No – I define it as the Roe/Casey/pre-Dobbs framework, more or less, or what women would encounter in Canada or many European countries.

            I know longtime, ardent pro-lifers – the types who donate money, vote pro-life or not at all – who are furious with laws that don’t allow even the mildest exceptions (eg, 12 year old girls who were, by definition, unable to consent and for whom pregnancy can cause life-altering physical problems).

            1. Understood. In that case, I don’t think it’s accurate to say that “ abortion on demand will be here for a long, long time,” because it is already not here.

      3. Abortion on demand is ALREADY not here. Where do you live?

         1. LOL. Massachusetts, NY, and California aren’t pro-choice enough for you? Would you prefer Poland, Italy, or Malta?

            1. 64,000 pregnancies resulting from rape have occurred in states that have banned abortion. It’s intellectually dishonest not to grapple with that and to act like other countries also having horrific policies is somehow proof it’s not that bad here. It’s an emergency.

            2. Nice that you think it’s a laughing matter. I would not get pregnant at all if I lived in Texas, for instance.

            3. Anon, that 64,000 number has been thoroughly debunked.

            4. Anon at 5:33 pm, I laughed at the idiotic idea that no state in America has easy access to abortion.

               But you’re right, ending human life is no laughing matter.

            5. Okay, so a lot of people don’t live in those states and can’t travel to them. I’m not sure why you think “abortion on demand” is here. Very weird and bad take.

            6. I totally agree that ending human life is no laughing matter. That’s why I don’t pretend that women aren’t dying for lack of medical care. Or wait – women aren’t human, right?

            7. You are laughing at a comment no one made? Who said that no state in America has easy access to abortion? I hope that you revisit this thread and apologize for your misunderstandings. We do not have abortion on demand in America because there are states where you cannot get one.

            8. Fetus, particularly not viable, is not the same thing as a “human.” Mother is human. Her body, her choice with her doctor *as a medical decision.* I’m all in on forcing fetus births provided there is full health care, day care, mother care, family care, etc. Sadly, saving human life stops at birth for staunch anti-abortionists. Frankly, it all comes down to straight up misogyny.

      4. As a big lefty liberal who is glad a conservative is seeing the fissures in the pro-life movement, I’d like to apologize for all the people who seem to be tearing you apart for saying it.

      5. And yet RvW was overturned so I somehow doubt this. I wouldn’t be surprised if most of the country had significant abortion restrictions.

         1. Roe v Wade was not overturned by popular vote, and would not have been. Abortion rights referendums have won even in dark red states like Kansas.

2. Inspired by the post this morning where one commenter mentioned her step-grandparents bringing her (a Jewish college kid) a Christmas gift every year so she wouldn’t feel left out while her younger half-siblings opened gifts, can we do a little thread telling the stories of random kindnesses you’ve received over the years?

   I’ll reply with mine.

   1. When I was in high school and dating a boy, I was invited to go to the big city (so to speak) for dinner and a movie with him and his parents. I came from a family where we ordered the same thing at the same local Chinese restaurant for 20+ years, got water to drink and never inquired about the dessert menu. So when we ended up at a more upscale Asian fusion place with his family, and his dad offered for me to choose the appetizer, his mom clocked how uncomfortable I was, and came to the rescue, suggesting her favorite appetizers and telling me, “They have such good orange chicken here, you should order it!” (Did she actually give a damn about the orange chicken? Was it actually any good? I doubt it.)

      I can only be endlessly grateful that she helped me save face like that. That boyfriend and I were nothing but trouble to our collective parents, so I’d spent months at this point stuck in a cycle of earning teenage freedoms and immediately losing them again because I used them to sneak off and make out with him in alleys for hours at a time. She treated me like an adult in an adult situation when I didn’t deserve it, and I’ll never forget it.

   2. My mom was big on derision of things and complaining in conversation. I cultivated a strong sarcastic side in response to that, and also thought complaining and derision was bonding. When I was a freshman at college I got to be friendly with some older students. One of them in particular i bonded with. One night at dinner, when it was just the two of us, he kindly and gently told me that it would be more fun hanging out with me if i didn’t complain as much. The context was clearly “you are a nice, funny and good person. Shift this approach and you can enjoy life more.” It meant so much to me that a person could give advice without being mean (which i hadn’t experienced within my family much). I wanted very much to be connected with other people so I took his words to heart, and it helped me grow tremendously in my early 20s.

   3. I was flying to a town totally unfamiliar to me for a job interview and called up my cousin to ask for some recommendations on logistics. His wife (who I had met maybe once) took over the conversation and insisted on picking me up from the airport, taking me to dinner, driving me past the interview location and then dropped me at the hotel later that night. It was a random Tuesday night and I was close to a stranger to them, but we had the best time. They set the mood for an amazing interview and it wasn’t until after I moved out there that I realized what a PITA it was for them to get to me and take me out that night.

      1. Similarly, on my first ever business trip, I dutifully checked my bag and then waited at baggage carousel for what seemed like hours. Oops they forgot to load my bag, no problem they said, it will be here tomorrow. The majority of my meetings were the next morning!

         By this time all the stores were closed.

         I called a college friend who I hadn’t seen since we graduated, who I knew had gotten a job in that midsize city. She came and got me in my near-tears state, brought me to her apartment, dressed me in her clothes, and then took me to my hotel. I wore her suit to the meeting the next morning. She really saved the day!

   4. The week after my husband and I decided to get a divorce, my friends rented an Airbnb for me so I could join them at a conference in another city to get my mind off of things and make some very interesting professional contacts.

   5. When I was a naive college student I was studying abroad with a Eurail pass. I had decided to surprise a friend in a small town in Germany. But of course, I had no plan as to how I was going to get to her place or no idea where she lived. When I arrived at the town I must have looked lost. A kind German man asked me if I needed help, then got his map out, and then drove me to the address!

      1. I ounce was staying at a small town near Nice and had figured out how to get the bus into the city to take the train. But then the bus never showed up because it was July 14th and my attempt to get a cab was equally unsuccessful. We were pretty clearly going to miss the train, so I held up a “Nice TGV” sign and a random dude stopped and picked us up (with my then boyfriend), drove us 40 minutes to the station, and categorically refused the cash I tried to give him. He also told us his whole life story on the way. I love travel stories like that :)

      2. I studied abroad in Italy and every single person I encountered while lost/bewildered on train platforms or in cities tried so kindly to help me as best they could. This was a godsend pre-smart phone days. I always try to pay it forward and help out tourists or lost looking young people traveling.

         1. We went to Japan when I was in high school and my parents got lost and asked a young adult for directions. He insisted on buying us our subway tickets and rode with us to our destination, then got out of the subway at the stop and led us on foot to the entrance of the palace or whatever it was that we were trying to find. It was wild – I’ve met friendly people all over the world but I’ve never experienced hospitality like that.

   6. Post bar trip included a stop in Paris. I needed to mail a package back but couldn’t understand the person in the post office. Instead of getting mad at me, she acted out flying while saying Par avion?

3. I asked about pantyhose a few weeks ago when I started a new job in the federal government. Most commenters said they hadn’t seen pantyhose worn in probably a decade. I tended to agree as I hadn’t seen it in banking either. Well, over the course of the past few weeks, I’ve noticed my new boss AND her boss both wear nude pantyhose, lol.

   1. This. My legs aren’t naturally tan yet and its still cooler out in the Northeast so I wear nude pantyhose and also see others wearing them. Now in the summer, NO ONE is wearing pantyhose.

4. Can you tell me about a time when a former partner held you back from living the life you wanted to live and it was the correct decision to live them?

   I am in a relationship with a lovely person who lives a different lifestyle (8-8 vs my 9-5), has different attitudes towards money such that I have to drag him to spend money on experiences, and different interests. There is a lot of love there and we love spending time and having fun together but sometimes I feel like I am growing and they are not, or at least not fast enough for me. I feel like I have to push him to be his best self instead of him wanting it for himself, when it comes to career, personal goals, etc. Sometimes I feel like a parent and not a partner.

   Yet – “wanting more” doesn’t feel like a good enough reason to break up. My friends tell me he is wonderful (which he is!) and that they all had some compromises to make. However I feel like I am dragging him sometimes.

   TIA!

   1. *to leave them

   2. you should break up because you don’t respect his preferences, not because one of you is “right” about what a “best life” means.

      1. +1 and it doesn’t matter if your friends think he is wonderful. He doesn’t sound like a wonderful match FOR YOU. And HECK YES, wanting more is absolutely a perfectly fine and good reason to break up and go looking for your more!

         Life is too short.

      2. +1 You’ll both be much happier.

      3. Agree with this. And he deserves to be with somebody who loves AND respects him.

   3. Break up with him. The life you want is not compatible and it will only become a bigger deal as you get older.

   4. “I feel like I have to push him to be his best self instead of him wanting it for himself, when it comes to career, personal goals, etc.”

      If I knew my partner wrote that about me, I’d want out.

      1. Exactly.

      2. Yup. Maybe the life he’s currently living is his version of his best self or best life

   5. This man works 12 hours a day and you seem to think he doesn’t have career goals? Did I misunderstand what you meant by 8-8?

      1. Some people are just a hamster on a wheel, feeling busy, without any real direction or strategy. Maybe this?

         1. Maybe. And OP can obviously have whatever opinions she wants and find a better suited partner. But it’s sad that we view maintaining status quo as “less than” and need to always have goals and be striving for more.

            1. And if he’s truly working 8-8, I’m sorry, but that doesn’t leave a whole lot of mind space for “wanting more.”

            2. Coming from a kid who grew up poor, having contempt for anyone who has grind in them seems so privileged and out of touch to me.

            3. my interpretation was different… if she’s Gen Z or Millennial, “best life” might mean working as little as possible and going for hot girl walks or something.

   6. Staying in this relationship is how you end up divorced and unhappy. You want more, girl break up and go get it!

      1. You don’t even need to call it “more.” You just want “different” and that is reason enough.

         1. This

   7. I felt this way about my ex husband, though his career limitations and choices had a negative effect on my early career, which led to resentment, and less love on my end.

      Ultimately, this kind of tension was a fundamental incompatibility between us. He was not and is not a bad person, there were no betrayals, but we were just not suited well to each other. We stayed together much longer than we should have, but 4+ years post divorce, we are both happier and more fulfilled apart than we were together. I still think he is an excellent person (just not a good partner for me, or me for him), and I am glad to see him happy and living the life he wants. For my part, I met my partner about a year post divorce, and I am happier than I ever thought possible. But even alone, I was much happier than when I was with my ex husband.

      My advice is to break up.

      1. My ex and I were that person to eachother. We dated for 4+ years. If we’d married, we would have hung on, been miserable, maybe had kids…but I ended up meeting my now husband, ripping off the breakup band-aid, and after he was heartbroken for a couple weeks he met his now wife. We are all friendly now, 20 years out. In hindsight we are just fundamentally different people that want different things.

   8. having these feelings about your partner means you should break up, IMO. Regardless of if you are right to push or he’s right to be content or whatever – you want a different life than he does. THAT is a great reason to break up.

      honestly any time you need to ask for advice about whether to break up, it’s probably a strong sign you should.

   9. He is allowed to set his own career and personal goals. Would you want someone setting those goals for you?

      1. He is allude to set his own goals, but if their goals are not compatible it’s a good reason to break up. No one has to be “wrong” for them to be incompatible.

         1. *allowed

   10. I disagree with everyone else. At the end of the day the question to ask is would you be happier alone or with him? What is the alternative for other guys who you could date? I know everyone here is very much DTMFA but I would think twice before leaving what essentially sounds like a great guy. The question to really ask is are his flaws dealbreakers, and what is the alternative (and is it any better)?

       1. Terrible question to ask yourself for two reasons — 1) People are really afraid of change! I bet nobody could correctly predict how they would feel if they were single when they’re in a bad or even just mediocre relationship. There are so many people here with stories about how much happier they ended up when they ended relationships, but I bet most of them felt hesitation to do so! 2) There are other men out there, it’s not like this guy is OP’s only choice in the world.

          1. I agree.

       2. I don’t really agree. My husband and I have a smaller scale version of this issue (he wants to work more and travel less than I do). I love him and I don’t think I’d be happier single, but I do fear for what our old age will look like (he never wants to retire) and this wasn’t an issue when we were dating at all. So if it’s already a big issue for OP, it likely won’t improve and will become a bigger and bigger issue as they get older and have more disposable income. It sounds like they want really different things from life and I think sometimes you have to end things with someone you love if you don’t have a shared vision of the future. I see it as similar to breaking up because you can’t agree on whether to have kids. Neither party is objectively wrong, but you want different things and it’s not something you can effectively compromise on.

   11. As someone who often works until 8, it’s incredibly hard to believe how those 3 hours after work are “holding you back” from greatness or a major lifestyle shift, and I kind of eyeroll if you can’t go out to dinner with friends or to an exercise class by yourself. It also maybe sounds like you and your partner are in different generations, perhaps?

       Agree with others that you should probably just break up.

       1. I agree that they should break up, but I think you’re being defensive about your work schedule. It’s fine for that to be an incompatibility. I’m somebody who likes to go to bed at 9:00 or 9:30 and getting to spend only one hour post-work with my partner would be a big bummer. Yes, I can do things by myself, but I actually also want to spend time with the person I love.

          1. +1
             Also this might be unpopular here and there are some exceptions but I think for the most part people who consistently stay in the office until 8 pm are bad at time management and could leave work earlier if they worked more efficiently. and it says to me that I’m not a priority if you don’t mind goofing off during the work day and staying late to make up for it.

             1. +1000. Very few careers *require* 12-hour shifts daily. That’s a choice.

       2. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who works until 8 every night. It might not hold her back in terms of her own hobbies but it holds her back in terms of spending time with her partner.

   12. If he is not what you want, break up. I don’t think everyone must always be trying to “improve” themselves; it is actually really wonderful to be happy with who you are and what you have. But if you are not happy with who he is and what he wants in life, then he is not the right person for you, and you are not the right person for him. I broke up with a boyfriend I loved and was otherwise happy with after dating for a couple of years because I knew he would never want children, and I knew I eventually would. I was in my late 20s; he was 20 years older. (In hindsight, I now believe the age difference would also have caused problems eventually but it wasn’t an issue at 25/45). I have never regretted that.

   13. You have contempt for him, OP. Let him go and let him find someone who doesn’t.

       1. This is really the bottom line.

       2. This but also let yourself out of this situation so you can find someone more compatible or even be happy single! It’s not all about him.

   14. This isn’t to advocate a specific answer to your situation, but I’m here to say I recently read a book about how we tend to overestimate grit and underestimate the benefits of quitting, and I found it enjoyable and thought provoking. It’s called Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away. I am a little uncomfortable applying this reasoning to relationships, because that feels to me a little like treating people like objects/projects. I’m recommending the book because the author gives a lot of attention to how we can improve our decision-making processes regarding when to quit and when to stick with things, as well as why we should always be exploring more alternatives before we are forced to quit something (or something quits on us).

   15. Maybe your friends can date him if they think he’s such a great catch.

       Don’t ever waste your time on someone you have to drag along. “Wanting more” is absolutely a reason to break up.

   16. If you regularly find yourself pushing him that probably means you aren’t a fan or accepting of who he is now. If that’s the case, you aren’t going to magically get over that some day – you need to decide if you want to do the personal work on acceptance. If not, he isn’t going to magically transform one day either so it is probably time to move on.

   17. If you are not in alignment and you feel you want more, yes it’s time to break up. I broke up with a partner I adored but I realized we didn’t have a shared vision for the future. When this really came to a head I remember thinking that staying with him was going to prevent me from meeting someone who was more aligned with me. The decision was hard and the breakup was painful. Now that I’m on the other side, I’m so much happier single. Even if I don’t meet the “right” partner, I know this was the best choice for me. We don’t realize how much a not quite right relationship eats at us if until we are well and truly out of it. Or at least, that was the case for me.

   18. My grandmother married my grandfather, who was quite happy working with his hands, and she pushed him to go to college and get a business degree and pushed him to start a business with my mother.

       He resented her so much for doing that, that their marriage was very unhappy. I remember talking to her about it after he died, and she said, “I wanted so much for him to get his degree and do this, this and this.” – but he didn’t want what she wanted. She missed the opportunity to develop herself and pursue her goals because she was so into trying to make him into something he didn’t want to be.

   19. I dunno, I may be the sole voice in the desert on this, but I don’t think women should break up with men solely on “he’s not ambitious enough / he can’t keep up with me”. Hard-charging businessmen often choose low key Type B women to support them and be their “rock”, not other Type A high flyers (exceptions like George Clooney exist, obviously).
       Unless he has actually negative habits and drawbacks, “he’s not evolving fast enough” feels like it might be old wounds and patterns rearing their head to keep you anxious and in a comfort zone that’s not actually healthy.
       I would back all the way off on pushing and see if you can tolerate this person without molding them into the man you want. If you can’t, okay fair. But sometimes people are slow thinkers, late bloomers, cautious, etc.

   20. Do not sell yourself short. Irrespective of the reason, if this isn’t the right track for YOU, let it go. “Not a good enough reason to break up” means putting years of resentment on top of the current feelings. Imagine 40 years of taking the lead on kids, vacations, “experiences”, bills, whatever. How long is long enough to “drag him…?” Not all relationships are partnerships.

5. Slingbacks have come back, but they never stay on my heels (much narrower than my duck feet). Are there any cute t-bar t-strap (whatever the name is) flats out there? My feet need for shoes to be securely strapped on.

   1. I also have that slingback problem. Just commiseration, no suggestions.

   2. I just cruised thru Zappos and there aren’t any work-appropriate t-strap flats that I can find. I think these are cute, but definitely not flats: https://www.zappos.com/p/seychelles-soulmate-taupe-suede/product/9902829/color/691

      I found these, which are slingbacks but the straps are chunkier. They’re kinda bold but I really like them: https://www.zappos.com/p/steve-madden-graya-black-patent/product/9959628/color/89

      1. Here’s an option that’s a bit sleeker: https://www.zappos.com/p/steve-madden-baskin-black-patent/product/9965058/color/89?zlfid=191&ref=pd_detail-v2-1-sims_cv

         1. This is the style I, as a person who can’t keep slingbacks on my feet, tend to wear instead.

6. what is the best insole for overpronators? i have really pricey Aetrex but wanted to get something for my growing pre-teen… thx!

   1. Best to consult with a podiatrist if they are having issues. A pre-teen’s foot is still growing, and way too dynamic to make any sort of blind recommendations.

   2. Superfeet green (for athletic or larger soled-shoes) or vionics insoles.

      Also, Dr. Scholl’s makes 3/4 length plantar faciatis arch supports that work great for me. (I don’t have PF, but as an overpronator, I need the support).

      1. I have flat feet that were causing me ankle pain (note to people who WFH: wear shoes). My orthopedist recommended Superfeet green.

         1. I’ve worn Green Superfeet for 15-ish years. They’re great!

7. We are taking a last-minute anniversary weekend trip to NYC next weekend. Born and bred Brooklyner here, but haven’t been back in years. I want to show my partner where I grew up so we will spend a ~half day in BK but the rest will be in the city. Planned things there are ESB and a Broadway show, but that’s it. Any reccs for:
   – fun things to do (we like music, theater, parks, botanical gardens, the water) or sites where I can find what’s happening in town that weekend
   – favorite Marriott properties in the city
   – favorite spots for coffee, bagels, knishes (partner has never had one – a TRAVESTY), and any fave spots in general

   THANKS!

   1. It’s a perfect time of year for the Brooklyn Botanic Garden. I’ll be there next weekend too :)
      Walking across the Brooklyn Bridge is fun.
      I like the knishes at Zabar’s the best of all the places I’ve tried in NYC (I’m not a native NY-er but am Jewish and have had lots of knishes including homemade by bubbe)

   2. UWS: Hungarian Pastry Shop (I am partial to Dobosh cake, rainbow cookies and rigo yanczhy (spelling?) chocolate cake, but it is all “I am in Europe and it is afternoon and I am having coffee and cake like a civilized person does” good) and St. John The Divine across the street.

      Queens: I’ve always wanted to go to the Noguchi Museum and have never made it.

   3. Favorite Marriott property is the Lexington hotel.

   4. Sleep No More is closing 5/27/24, so if you haven’t been do that

      1. I love Punchdrunk productions so much and can’t wait for the next one!

   5. Tenement Museum walking tour or tour for which group he may be descended from. Incredibly moving and so well executed. You need tickets per tour, it’s not like a museum where you can go and wander around.

      McSorley’s ale house

      Whatever is at the Minetta Theater

      Eat somewhere cute on West Fourth Street (west of 6th Avenue).

   6. Neue Gallerie on Upper East Side (near the Metropolitan Museum) has a terrific Viennese cafe. The museum part is pretty cool, too, but the cafe is not to be missed!

   7. Post where you’re staying and going in BK in the morning for more specific recommendations.

8. what hobby are you into right now that you never thought you’d be into? i’ll go first… i’m really into flowers and plants this year, and feel like i’m constantly thinking about flowers.

   1. :) I have been obsessed with flowers and gardening (the kind with soil and plants) in past years and this is the first year I’m giving myself a bit of a break. My tomatoes weren’t worth the effort last year, and most of my available planting area is full of pretty flowers, so I am not doing any veggies this year.

      I’ve been obsessed with perfume for a long time, and that’s still going strong.

      I got an apple watch and am currently really dedicated to long walks outdoors so I can see everyone else’s garden and close my rings. It’s surprisingly motivating, even though it seemed like a stupid gimmick when I got the phone.

   2. We’ve been asked to walk in a colonial themed parade, and I have completely fallen down the rabbit hole of costumed interpreters.

      1. I could have predicted a few answers to this question, but not yours!

   3. Should I stop practicing law if I win the lottery and enroll in the Royal College of Needlework? Signs point to yes. Practicing in case it matters.

      1. Oh man, I am obsessed with them!! I would love to just embroider royal wedding dresses for a living.

   4. Birding.

      1. Me too!

         1. Third!!

   5. Bridge! I started a year ago and can’t get enough!

   6. I’m really into making handmade greeting cards. It’s a fun way to do something tactile and play with colors and textures.

      And I can’t wait to get my garden started!

      Also, I’m really into nail polish and watch way too many YouTube videos about new releases.

9. repost – I’m probably a bit late for you east coasters. I have questions about casual vs athletic sneakers. What properties telegraph that the shoe is for casual wear and not for, say, running?

   I am getting over a broken foot and have been walking/not running a lot while wearing basically walking/running shoes. I tend to wear them all day because they’re supportive & my podiatrist signed off on them. My eye still hasn’t adjusted to sneakers with work clothes, so I have a long way to go. What casual sneakers would you wear this summer with lightweight cottons?

   1. Golden Goose, Converse canvas, Valentino.

   2. Ecco soft seven

   3. New Balance (the slimmer ones), Adiddas, Gola (available on Amazon).

   4. to me, casual/fashion sneakers have a uniform sole that is typically the same color across all of the bottom and relatively flat as well.
      vejas are the fancy sneakers of choice in my company.

   5. I’ve broken my foot three times. I work in a casual office and have a lot of leeway, but if at all possible, err on the side of supportive rather than cute. I made the mistake of wearing my Converse and Vans often after the second break, but even with insoles they were hard on my foot. Since the last break, I have exclusively worn On Clouds, New Balance (and Birkenstocks) to work (I’m on my feet at least half the day) and I haven’t had any problems

      1. Last summer I wore keds pretty often and I know for sure it didn’t help my feet (plantar fasciitis) and then the “dancer’s fracture” in my 5th metatarsal… no idea how that happened! Yes, I dance like an idiot in my kitchen – hope that’s not why!

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