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Abigail
Inspired by the post this morning: what are the sections on your resume? And what’s your industry / career stage?
Me:
Mid 20’s data scientist
Education, Skills, Professional Experience, Volunteering, Selected Projects
Anokha
Take with a grain of salt since I haven’t updated my CV in a long time, but mid 30s lawyer: Education + Professional Experience + Bar admissions
Anon
In this order: Experience, Education, Community Involvement (for relevant volunteer experience). I’m five years out from a masters degree and my pre-grad school experience isn’t relevant at all.
Anonymous
Consultant, 12 years experience with an advanced degree.
Professional experience, education, other (systems, languages, outside work interests)
pugsnbourbon
I am a project/program coordinator in a nonprofit. Early 30s.
Mine are: Key Accomplishments, Experience, Education. Getting more into volunteering so hope to add a section soon.
Anon
Education, Experience, Bar Admissions
Anon
If I read it right, I think the post from earlier was saying no to the skills section at the top but I have one. Glad I’m not the only one.
Abigail
I read it as saying no to a “Summary” or “Objective” section. A skills section seems common, especially in technical fields.
Pompom
That thread was solely about practicing lawyer resumes, though. Having a professional/exec summary or “skills” type section is reasonably common in technical or business settings.
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Instapot vs crock pot
My modus operandi is to put stuff in a crock pot and leave for work. I don’t think that this would work with an insta pot b/c it says “using keep warm for hours will alter the integrity of the food.”
Am I right that for those of you who use instapots, you put a bunch of stuff in one when you get home from work and things cook quickly (and then you have dinner).
Do crockpot meals ever really work out well in Instapots?
I have a roast and I know how to cook in a crockpot and in the oven. If I wind up getting home late and hungry and still have to instapot cook it, it may be an experiment better started on a weekend. Or am I making this too hard?
Anon
Yeah, the whole thing about Instantpots is that things cook in like 20 minutes.
mascot
Things cook fairly quickly, but you still have to allow time for the pot to come to pressure which can take 15 minutes (think about over pre-heat time) plus time to depressurize, say another 10. So cooking a dish for 20 minutes may take closer to 45 start to finish. That’s still quicker than the over for me for something like chicken.
Baker
For folks who are concerned about food being ready ASAP, it’s important to note that when a lot of people say that something “cooks in 20 mins,” what they mean is that it cooks at pressure for 20 mins. That means it has to get up to pressure, and then release pressure. Those processes can easily add 15-20 mins to the total time. Still quick for something like a roast, but don’t expect to pop it in and literally be sitting down with food on your plate in 20 minutes.
And +1 to the poster below that pressure cookers are just way different, so you need to look up an IP recipe for roast and don’t try to just modify the slow cooker one.
Anonymous
Why get an instapot? You sound like you don’t want Or need one.
Anonymous
Good question. I got one as a wedding gift. I grew up with the stove top ones — yikes!
It may be something I need to experiment with a bit first on a weekend. The instructions only had a few recipes, so I may need to find a good source. Esp. now that I am confirmed in not just doing slow cooker things in it as I am used to doing.
waffles
We have the cookbook “Dinner in an Instant” and it has some really great recipies and tips for getting started.
Anon
Serious Eats has good pressure cooker recipes and so does Nom Nom Paleo.
Anon
Ok, sorry, first of all it’s Instantpot. It’s not like the ‘gram :)
Second of all, pressure cookers are totally different from slow cookers. Don’t expect to use them the same way. There’s a great Serious Eats article about why they’re superior if you want to learn more.
Seafinch
I find the slow cooker function on the IP is better than my old high end slowcooker.It isn’t the same and you have to make adjustments but I prefer the low and slow approach for some things like pot roast or stew (where veggie and meat are combined). I also love the pressure cooking function, so two appliances in one (plus rice and yoghurt!)
Anon
I think the best things to do in the instant pot are:
Cooking beans from dried
Making soups and stocks
Making pot roast or other meat that is supposed to fall apart
Making Indian dishes (I like the recipes from two sleevers, the butter chicken lady)
Making multiple items at the same time (like steaming rice above an Indian curry, see above)
Things it is not good for
Anything where you have to watch the temperature, like wanting something medium rare
Anything that is fresh and quick to cook on the stovetop
And so far I am unimpressed with all of the instant pot desserts, though I know many people are obsessed with instant pot cheesecakes
Baker
I also love the IP for cooking frozen meat, which means I don’t have to actually plan ahead.
Seafinch
I used Melissa Clark’s, “Dinner in an Instant” and absolutely loved her crème brûlée and pots du crème. I am a quite decent cook but don’t believe baking.
Equestrian Attorney
I just wanted to thank you to the ‘rettes who encouraged me to try running in the winter- I went for a run this morning (in snowy Canada) and it felt great! I’m definitely going to make this a part of my routine. I was cold for the first five minutes, and insanely warm by the end :) I spend too much time cooped up in the winter and get seasonal depression, so I’m hoping this will help.
anonarama
I missed the thread but yay! I only don’t go if it’s icy.
Anonymous
You can buy crampons and still run anyway even if it’s icy! DH trail runs yearround but has to use crampons in the winter.
CountC
+1 I have microspikes that I love on the trails in the winter!
CountC
Awesome!!
Anon
That’s great! Do you ride in the winter too?
CountC
We do! Lots of long underwear and layers!
Anonymous
Hooray! Something else I once heard that’s been useful in my winter running: dress for the second mile, not the first.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
For those of you who do CICO or MFP, how many calories is your minimum? I’ve been doing WW for so long and recently realized I’m regularly under 1000 calories except for weekends. I’ve been trying to eat more (like 1250-1500 calories a day) and of course gained weight last week.
Anyone else have stories about fixing over-dieting like this? (I have 50 pounds to lose!) TIA!
C
When I used My Fitness Pal (I’m assuming that’s what MFP stands for) the app would never advise eating fewer than 1200 calories in a day. If I had a day where I logged fewer than that and I indicated in the app that I was done for the day, I got a pop-up warning that I was likely eating too few calories for proper nutrition.
I found that intense calorie-counting wasn’t the best thing for me since I got too caught up in the overall numbers and didn’t pay enough attention to nutrition, but I’ve kept 1200 in mind as a guideline for weight loss and 1500 for maintenance. 1200 for me is restricting but doable while still eating healthy fats and proteins- it means I eat 3 meals that are around 300 calories each and 2 snacks that are around 150 each. I don’t obsess over the exact numbers anymore, but I pay attention to serving sizes and up my fruit and vegetable intake to balance.
I don’t think that anyone would say that eating less than 1000 calories in a day is healthy. I would look at your nutrition and see if you’re getting enough protein, fat, and carbs in your diet from healthy sources, then increase those accordingly.
Anon
If you’re trying to lose 50 pounds you need to maintain a calorie deficit – 1500 calories for an average sized woman is a maintenance caloric intake. You’re doing nothing wrong except you need to add about 200 calories a day to the 1000 (or whatever applicable number for a calorie deficit based on your height and weight). If WW is working for you keep doing it but consciously add one or two small things that add up to those extra couple hundred calories even if it’s an extra few points on WW – or even better, fill up on zero point items that equal 200 calories.
Anonymous
1000 is way too little. You need to rework your eating plan every day. Absolute minimum of 1200. The WW program does not encourage you to be in that amount of calorie deficit. That’s not sustainable long term. You need to eat a reasonable amount of calories to fuel your body to be active and you will see a slow steady loss. With 50lbs to lose, you shouldn’t lose more than 1lb or occasionally a week or it won’t be sustainable.
Unless you are morbidly obese and/or have different info from your doctor, how much you have to lose shouldn’t affect the pace of your weightloss. A slow steady loss is most sustainable in the long term.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
So for example this was a day that MFP said was 1077 calories, WW would have said was well within smart points, and I would have been satisfied:
– 11:30 lunch: turkey bacon (3), egg, shredded cheese: 288 calories
– midday snacks: tea, almonds (counted): 170 calories
– 6:00 dinner: 4 oz cod, 1/2 a spaghetti squash, kombucha, 1/2 T olive oil, avocado (2 oz, weighed), 1 Tb jarred guacamole salsa, mini-wontons: 601 calories
And I usually only eat a 100-calorie bag of almonds and only ate the wontons that day because my kids didn’t and I knew I had extra calories…
NOLA
The problem may be hat you aren’t eating three meals? I mean, I eat more calories than you do, but I would have the same problem if I didn’t eat breakfast.
Anonymous
Add a 200 calorie breakfast protein bar as breakfast or a snack and you’re there.
Are you doing ww with meetings? When I did it they definitely made it clear that you should not regularly undereat your dailypoints / like you might save up extra weekly points for an event like birthday, wedding, work party. You need to eat your daily points, don’t undereat.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
I used to eat a really small breakfast “just to get my metabolism going” (almonds, 1/2 a protein bar, string cheese) but then I tried an IF program and found that doing 16:8 wasn’t hard for me.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
In the new WW system you’re allowed to roll over up to 4 points so I would regularly eat to 19 or whatever so I’d have rollovers for weekend wine and restaurant food.
Anon
I’m 5’8” about 155 lbs and have a relatively sedentary lifestyle (I work at a desk). The minimum I can realistically do is about 1250-1300. I can’t maintain less than that for any extended period of time, it’s just too hard for me.
Anonymous
Yeah 1000 is too little unless you’re under a doctor’s care to be that low. Have you met with a doctor or nutritionist or done a calculation online to find how many calories you burn a day without exercise? I’m short so my resting metabolic rate is only like 1400. To lose weight, I shoot for 1200 calories/day and I exercise.
AK
Are you using a food scale? Is it possible you already are eating more than 1k calories, because you have been using volume weight (“one cup”, “one banana”) instead of weighing? The weight gain from the recent changes could be real weight or it could be water weight because of an increase in salt in your diet, or something else could be going on (menstrual cycle/hormones/whatever). Investing in a $20 Amazon scale (I use “Ozeri Pro Digital Kitchen Food Scale, 1g to 12 lbs Capacity”) has helped me a lot.
Personally, I get CRANKY under 1500 calories, and it’s not sustainable for me. I shoot for ~1800, or ~2200 if I’m being super active for weight loss.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
I use my digital scale all the time actually!
NOLA
Myfitnesspal will allow you to track calories or macros. Macros may be better for you if you’re not allowing yourself to eat enough, or if you can’t figure out what to eat. I have been using MFP since May. I told it I wanted to lose 55 lbs and that I wanted to lose a pound a week. When you close out your food diary for the day in MFP, if you’re under 1,000 calories, you’ll get an error message that you aren’t eating enough and that you really need to eat between 1200 and 1400 calories per day, as an adult woman. MFP has been allotting me 1660 calories per day before exercise and I have never eaten that much. I eat three meals a day and I feel like I eat enough and I exercise 6 days a week. I probably have been eating between 1200 and 1350 per day, or at most 1400. Doing that, I have lost 60 lbs in 7.5 months. If I had eaten as little as 1,000 or 1100, I probably wouldn’t have been eating enough. Try not to get calorie-obsessed. Eat enough! Have things in the house that are healthy and that will round out your calories. I planned for a glass of wine or prosecco every night and started having a serving of M&Ms every night. It was much better for me to relax and have a little treat at the end of the day that I was accounting for. My challenge now is to stop losing. Even with eating a large meal out with friends on Saturday night, I still lost this weekend. I’m trying to just loosen up and allow myself to eat more, but within reason.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
I started using MFP to track macros and got totally confused by the 50% of macros = carbs suggestion…
NOLA
Yeah, I don’t do it, honestly. A friend of mine, who wasn’t all that familiar with calories, is tracking macros with MFP and has lost about 100 pounds. She couldn’t figure out what to eat when she was tracking calories. She may be doing a customized version. I think she’s trying to do low carb. Whatever it is, it’s working for her, but she’s also working out with a trainer. She is looking healthy and glowing.
Anon
This might be obvious but just in case you missed it (like I did for a while) – you can adjust your macros even on the free MFP app. I adjusted mine so my goal is 40% protein, 30% fat, and 30% carbs, though often I end up with higher protein or fat and 25-27% carbs.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
that’s awesome for you to have lost that much weight with MFP, congrats! Mine also tells me 1640 calories and I’m trying to tell myself it’s OK to eat that much or close to that much. I like the idea of the WW “flexible budget” and couldn’t figure out how to do that with MFP calories/daily budget.
NOLA
I ignore the budget mostly. I mean, on the days I don’t work out, my daily wrap up is far higher, but I have rehearsals on that night, so I eat less. I have never eaten the calories I “earned” from exercise. I set my own goals and just used MFP track and keep me accountable.
Anon
The UN recommends 2,100 calories minimum for people in refugee camps and you’re eating like you’re in a concentration camp. You may want to consider seeing a nutritionist or a therapist to work out why that is. If you’re gaining weight on 1,200 calories, you have probably screwed up your metabolism so badly that you have some serious repair work to do. I recommend checking out intuitive eating.
Anon
MFP will recommend the amount of calories you should have based on activity level, weight, how much you want to lose, etc. I have been going to a registered dietitian and she also calculated it for me, but then we discovered that the MFP calculation was pretty accurate. I work a desk job so RD advised me to set it at the sedentary level and then add any exercise I do and allow myself to eat those calories. For example, my normal is 1700 calories a day (aiming to lose about a pound a week) but if I do a spin class (burning 500 – 700 calories based on HR) I should eat another 500 calories to make up for the exercise.
Before I started working with an RD, I was eating in the 1200 – 1400 range and struggling to lose weight. Since I started eating an appropriate amount my weight has slowly been declining (about a pound a week – sometimes, e.g. when traveling, less). YMMV.
Apparently 1000 calories is too little
that’s promising! I only became aware of how little I was eating in December so I’ve been trying to assess my food intake objectively.
Anonymous
How do you get MFP to allot you that many calories? If I tell it I am sedentary and want to lose 1 lb per week, it tells me to eat 1200 calories per day, which is insane. If I eat less than about 1700 calories on a non-workout day, I cannot function.
Anon
I just turned my MFP on after a long period of not using it based on this thread – it told me at the “Active” activity level I should be eating 2,300 calories + the 595 I burned in spin for a whopping 2,800 calories. Yikes – in addition to intermittent fasting, most of my meals are home-cooked and I’m off added sugar so I’m not even sure how I could get anywhere near that in my 8 hour window. I actually bumped my activity level to the lowest, because during the winter, though I still exercise daily, I walk a lot less. That got me down to a 1,700 baseline + the spin class.
Anon
If you’re using the “Active” level, you don’t add in your exercise calories. It’s confusing, but it tries to guess how many calories it burns when you’re active. If what is making you active are the spin classes you’re also logging (rather than your job as like a lumberjack that you’re not tracking), it’s double counting them.
Senior Attorney
If you’re losing weight the way you’re eating, and you’re averaging more than 1000 calories a day when you include the weekends, I don’t think you have a problem. I’d say if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.
Anon
Why are you enabling an OP who admits to eating fewer than 1,000 calories most days of the week? There is not a single medical organization that would back that or a shred of evidence to suggest that is healthy or advantageous in any way. God, I hate diet culture.
Senior Attorney
How is this substantially different from “intermittent fasting” which is all the rage around here?
I’m a small person and if I want to have a big meal or two with alcohol on the weekend I need to really cut back during the week if I don’t want to gain weight. You can hate diet culture all you want but that’s the reality for a lot of people. And yes, my doctor knows all about it.
Dahlia
Agree with SA. I think if you asked any doctor, health organization or registered dietician, they would agree that the focus should be on the particular health of the individual (their BMI, their vitamin levels and whether they have any deficiencies, their calcium intake and bone density, blood glucose and HbA1c, cholesterol, %body fat, etc, etc). Population-based estimates of required caloric intake are just that- estimates- and need to be adjusted for the individual. There’s no magic number, and the needed caloric intake to maintain energy and get all required nutrients is not the same across all women. A 5’0 sedentary woman with excess fat that she is trying to get her body to break down for use needs a very different caloric intake that a 6’0 active woman.
I personally have many days where I am under 1000 calories (and many days where I well am over it), and I’m just fine with that. It’s a marathon, not a sprint, and as long as the overall picture is improvement in my health and moving towards my goals I’m not going to force myself to eat more than I want in order to hit some mis-applied population-based estimate. I think working with a dietician is great, and seeing your PCP for a health maintenance appt to check to all your nutrition labs is a great idea. If things are working well and all your numbers are looking good and this is a sustainable lifestyle that feels good for you- I wouldn’t change it.
Ellen
Dad told me to eat less then I need to burn every day in order to loose weight. I have done this by drinking alot of water rather then soda and milk and juice, and each time I want to eat something good, I choose carrots and celery and popcorn, which helps promote my “regularity”. I dont have a problem b/c I am working hard to shrink my tuchus. I want to be able to go to Europe next January for a CLE and they have women with small tuchuses there, and I do NOT want to stand out with mine. Hope I make it and I will with the HIVE’s support! YAY!!!!
anonymouslee
Reposting from this morning’s thread because I got to it very late:
I could use some advice from the thoughtful ladies on this board. My awesome SIL recently had a long-wished-for baby, but found out in the process that she will be unable to have any other children. She and my BIL have both been very vocal for as long as I’ve known them about wanting two children and wanting them to be very close in age.
My husband and I recently found out that we are expecting our second (a surprise, but a very happy and welcome one). Does anyone have any advice on how and when to share this news? I have no doubt that my SIL will be gracious and happy for us, but I want to avoid causing her any sadness if that’s possible. I also want to give her enough time and space to feel like everyone’s attention is on her new baby right now (I know people are capable of focusing on more than one thing at a time, but my MIL gets over-the-top excited about things and will jump into crazy baby-planning mode as soon as we tell her the news; my BIL is quite self-centered and will think we are stealing his thunder no matter what we do). Should we tell her separately ahead of a larger family announcement? Wait until a little later than the traditional end-of-first trimester? One thought I had was to announce it to family once we’ve found out the gender so we can announce that at the same time in a low-key way (my SIL had a huge gender reveal for hers and my husband’s family tends to do big gender reveals – they aren’t my thing and we didn’t do one the first time either). Thank you for your thoughts!
Anon
Not to sound callous but your SIL just had a baby so she’s focused on the child, you say your BIL is going to be pissy no matter what, and you don’t want to do a big to-do on announcing so I don’t think there is really anything to do. Just tell the family in a non-dramatic way on a normal timeline and don’t make a big deal out of it – at most tell Grandma ahead of time and tell her to be sensitive and not overbearing – and do you really think she’ll ignore current here baby over future baby in you? Doubtful. You treating your SIL like she’s fragile or doesn’t want or appreciate the current baby, and is kind of insulting. Tbh if she’s also pissy about you happening to get pregnant after she just had a baby, she’s the problem not you. You’ll seem like you’re trying to steal thunder if you disclose in an abnormal way.
Anonymous
I would tell her via email before you tell MIL and ask her not to tell MIL yet/let her know your plan for when you will tell MIL.
If your DH’s family/MIL is stuck on a big gender reveal, talk to SIL and ask if she’d prefer you schedule it for a weekday/end when she cannot attend so that she doesn’t have the pressure of going.
Anonymous
+1 I was in a similar situation with a close friend of mine and I told her via email before telling the rest of our friend group. She told me later that she appreciated the opportunity to process her feelings alone and ahead of time rather than having to manage he reaction in “public” in real time. She is also now our second’s godmother.
Anon
I think it would be kind to tell her separately first. I don’t think you have to wait until you know the sex, but if you feel ok waiting and doing only one big announcement instead of two, that also makes sense to me, especially if you think it will shift focus off her baby (although in my experience most people care way more about first babies than second or later babies).
anonymouslee
Thanks, I like your’s and Anonymous’s suggestions about telling her separately first and asking her to hold off on telling MIL (once MIL knows the whole world knows, anyways). And I think asking her about scheduling any baby events so she has an easy out is very thoughtful, thank you for that tip.
Obviously I’m not trying to be insulting or insinuate that SIL doesn’t appreciate her current baby. She’s a great mom. I just know that she was really sad to find out she won’t be able to have another. I think you can be happy about something and sad about something else at the same time, and that doesn’t warrant not being considerate if it’s easy to be.
laptop bag
My laptop bag needs replacing, and hoping for recommendations for something great….
* 14″ laptop – prefer something briefcase style with an optional shoulder strap.
* Need to be able to carry a small number of additional items (2 notebooks, charger, wallet etc), but don’t want a huge bag.
* Nylon ok, but plastic trim that will crack/wear fast not ok.
* Full zip closure on the top
Industry is biz casual, but will sometimes wear full suit for client meetings.
I’ve been using this one now for several years, and it’s beyond worn out. It’s been great, but a bit on the small side.
https://www.amazon.com/Knomo-Charlotte-Slim-Briefcase-Marine/dp/B00ECVRO7A
Anon
This is my bag. It’s not technically a laptop bag (i usually hate those- all that Velcro) but i carry my 14” laptop in it every day
https://www.cuyana.com/classic-leather-zipper-tote.html#burgundy
Anon Lawyer
IVF rant – I have my egg retrieval tomorrow (first cycle) and I’m SO nervous. Not so much about the procedure itself, which sounds like a snap, but about the outcome. Paying completely out-of-pocket, so I’m not sure how many cycles I can afford to do. This feels like my best chance with my own eggs. I hear about women doing 5-10 cycles but that would be 6 figures – not even low 6 figures!
They saw ten large follicles on the ultrasound yesterday and a handful of smaller ones. I know people have had success with worse results, but it doesn’t sound that promising to me. I’ve read that the “magical” number of eggs retrieved to balance quality and quantity is 15. I know everyone is individual but . . .
RR
I had two IVF cycles, each with less than 10 follicles. In each cycle, we only had 3 viable embryos for a 3 day transfer (and the non-transferred ones didn’t make it to day 5 for freezing. First cycle, transferred 2, had twins. Second cycle, transferred 2, had one. I have always thought that it was much more about quality than quantity–for everyone. You don’t need 15 embryos. You just need one good one.
And I hear you on out of pocket. We were about $14,000 each time (6 and 11 years ago), and we celebrated finally “paying off” our kids.
Best of luck!!!!
Anon Lawyer
Thanks! Congrats on your 3 kids!
Either costs have increased or I need to investigate out-of-state clinics. I’m paying nearly $30k for one cycle ,with meds.
Anon
I didn’t pursue it, but the price sheet I got from George Washington University Hospital’s clinic said $9,800 to $15,800 per cycle, plus meds.
Cat
$30K is insane! That’s about double the going rate based on the 4 people I know who have gone through it (no insurance coverage applicable).
AnonIVF
As a data point, I’m in Boston and my first ER cycle was ~ 16K incl meds.
RR
I know people who spent a lot more, but I was in a medium Midwestern city, and that was the high end of options here. $30,000 would have been prohibitively expensive when we were going through our cycles–I can’t imagine how that must add to the stress of what is already so stressful!
Anon
I had an unsuccessful cycle with 18 large follicles, followed by a successful cycle with 11 large follicles. It is so stressful. I am sending you every good wish for success!!
AnonIVF
It totally varies. I had my first retrieval cycle in October, with 9 eggs retrieved, and ended up with no euploid embryos. A good friend had 3 eggs from her first cycle, and one of them is her lovely 2 year old. Shrug?
I’m on BC now and start injections soon for cycle 2. We were self-pay last year but fortunately covered now (husband’s insurance turned out to be waaaaaay better than mine!).
Good luck!!!!!
Background Check
I got a job offer (yay!) and have to go through a background check before my start date can be confirmed. Would you authorize the background check company to contact your current employer? I have not given notice to my firm, nor do I want to alert HR to my departure earlier than I need to … am I being overly paranoid? The alternative is to upload a redacted W-2/paystub which also seems like a PITA. What should I do?
Anonymous
Upload the redacted pay stub obviously. That isn’t hard at all.
Anonymous
I would totally upload a redacted paystub.
RR
I did not authorize them to contact my current employer. I didn’t have to do the pay stub, but I would have done it without question.
Anon
Upload the pay stub, no questions.
Cuyana turtleneck
I have a great wool turtleneck that is in a great slightly cropped shape. It is really pilling and I’d like to upgrade to the Cuyana “slightly cropped” turtleneck. Does anyone have it? I hate that there are no reviews on their site. I’m 5-4 and hoping I’d love it. Any insights on how their clothes fit? So tired of “model is 5-11 and wearing an XXS.”
Anon
I don’t have that turtleneck but my experience with their clothing is that it tends to be loose in the body, tight in the sleeves – intentionally. That’s their asthetic. You can also message them or call them for garment measurements.