Wednesday’s Workwear Report: Floral Appliqué Sweater
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When I saw that HBO was reviving Sex and the City, I couldn’t help but wonder … how long until the giant appliqué flowers made a comeback? I’m delighted to report that they’re here and they’re bigger than ever.
This Maeve sweater may not fly in a super formal office, but I think it would look great in a business casual setting, paired with some subdued ankle pants and loafers.
The sweater is $128 at Anthropologie and comes in plus sizes 1X–3X, standard sizes XXS–XL, and petite sizes XXS–XL.
Sales of note for 1/22/25:
- Nordstrom – Cashmere on sale; AllSaints, Free People, Nike, Tory Burch, and Vince up to 60%; beauty deals up to 25% off
- AllSaints – Clearance event, now up to 70% off (some of the best leather jackets!)
- Ann Taylor – All sale dresses $40 (ends 1/23)
- Banana Republic Factory – Up to 50% off everything
- Boden – Clearance, up to 60% off!
- DeMellier – Final reductions now on, free shipping and returns — includes select options like Montreal, Vancouver, and Venice
- Eloquii – $29 and up select styles; extra 50% off all clearance, plus ELOQUII X kate spade new york collab just dropped
- Everlane – Sale of the year, up to 70% off; new markdowns just added
- J.Crew – Up to 40% off select styles; up to 50% off cashmere
- J.Crew Factory – End of season sale, extra 60-70% off clearance, online only
- Rothy's – Final Few: Up to 40% off last-chance styles
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Semi-Annual Red Door Sale – extra 50% off
Oh wow, this top is a trip down memory lane to when I used to shop at Anthropologie and wear this kind of thing all the time.
I’m bringing several sides to thanksgiving and have a family member who was just diagnosed with celiac. Anyone have gluten free versions of traditional thanksgiving sides like stuffing that they love?
I haven’t made this, but I have had gluten free cornbread stuffing with a family member who also has celiac:
https://glutenfreeonashoestring.com/gluten-free-cornbread-stuffing/
In general, a lot of Thanksgiving favorites are gluten free friendly, think sweet potatoes, cranberry sauce, green bean casserole, apple crisp using gluten-free oats in the topping mixture
Check out the Iowa Girl Eats blog. She has celiac and a bunch of holiday recipes.
Not all crispy onions (for green bean casserole) are gluten free. Whole Foods sells gluten free crispy onions.
And canned soups aren’t usually gluten free.
Do people still eat that dish?
yes. it’s delicious.
Is it delicious or familiar?
I do. I think it’s delicious as a once-a-year treat. I don’t get the hate.
It’s not thanksgiving without it, and it’s delicious. I don’t see the issue.
If you want a fancy version, Smitten Kitchen has a great one.
Delicious!
The gluten free stuffing mix from Trader Joe’s is pretty great and the package directions work well. If you prefer not to use their seasoning packet, you can always take the croutons and do whatever you want to do with them. TJ’s gluten-free stuff has never let me down, so far.
Yes, this. I have made this for my SIL with celiac’s and it seems to go over well.
Gluten-free stuffing is often really, really good! My household also has diabetes, so we do a carb-reduced almond flour version that won’t be necessary for your family. But stuffing doesn’t really rely on the “stretchiness” of gluten, so gluten-free bread crumbs or stale gluten-free bread works just fine.
Can you tell me more about the almond flour stuffing? (Also a family with diabetes and celiac!)
It looks like I saved the actual recipes we’ve used in the household Slack that I now refuse to pay for.
But I remember I preferred one of the recipes online that used a little bit of coconut flour alongside the almond (this does make the bread drier, but also less rich, so it pairs better with turkey juices in my opinion). Baking it extra long helps make it more “stale”/dry too. I think one year I used a “bread” recipe but left out the fats, and then reused it as stuffing, and another year I used a recipe that was selling itself as stuffing from the get go.
I also remember using way more celery than any recipe suggests because that’s just how I like my stuffing.
So I’m not actually very helpful except that I can say I’ve tried it a few ways and while I had preferences, it was good (just richer or less rich) each time! I prefer it to average soggy stuffing because it’s got a little more heft (maybe a bit more like the texture of cornbread stuffing, but without the corn flavor).
Seconding the TJ’s GF stuffing mix (and if i recall, the Whole foods one is good too!). TJ’s also usually has an easy GF gravy carton.
You can usually find a GF cream of mushroom can which can be used for green bean casserole too, along with Whole Foods’ GF crispy onions! I find that people can’t tell the difference.
I like to make a dish using a wild rice blend instead of bread but all of the other same stuffing ingredients (onion, celery, poultry seasoning, apples, sausage, dried cranberries).
You may have considered this already, but for celiacs trace amounts can be a big deal, so make sure to use cutting boards not used for your own bread etc. and look at the fine print on packages.
Yes, my mom has celiacs so we are careful with cross contamination. For example, don’t place the gluten free crackers next to the regular ones on a plate. (The Nut Thins crackers are great for gluten free options). Also, make sure that others know not to mix utensils – non celiacs might not think of it but don’t stick the spoon for mac and cheese into the gluten free mac, etc.
Seconding this – ask your relative with celiac what would work for them. Often people use separate dishes and pots and pans for celiac food because hand washing isn’t enough to remove contamination from gluten. Might be better to purchase something from a commercial kitchen that individual is satisfied with. Something cooked in your kitchen by someone who doesn’t know all the appropriate precautions may not cut it.
My spouse and I are hoping to purchase our first home soon and are looking at professional mortgages (i.e. JD loans, although more banks offer MD loans). Has anyone used them? We will have a jumbo loan amount and are hoping for 3-5% down. Would be curious to hear experiences with particular lenders.
Are JD loans a thing? I get why MD loans are (not that many doctors, and they all get employed at salaries that let them pay their school and real estate loans back). JDs just dont have those economics going for them. And even if you are at Latham, say, today, that may not last and your next job may pay a fraction of your current job. Sadly.
Yeah JD loans seem like a huge risk for the bank! It’s very different than doctors.
They are definitely less common than MD. We have found a couple banks that have offerings for us (spouse is partner level and has high income, we just don’t have the down payment we need for 20% yet and we’re getting antsy to buy). But, they’re small banks I’ve not heard of, which makes me nervous.
If they can fund the loan, that’s your risk. At that point, they’ve got your risk for 30ish years. On balance, I feel like it’s the bank that should be worried.
Everyone at my firm used JD Loans from Citi Private Banking. We were biglaw. It is my understanding they don’t offer the program outside of certain firms, and you had to be a 4th year or up, I believe.
Thank, this is helpful! I had tried Citi, having heard they could be helpful, and they weren’t. Makes sense it was the Private Banking branch.
This reminds me of when I was a young associate at a BigLaw firm in the late 80s and the “private banking” department of our local Wells Fargo bank branch was making all kinds of sweetheart loans, including mortgages, to everybody including first-year associates, based in some cases on nothing more than an offer letter of employment. I often think they must have lost a bucketload of money on those loans.
I had one of those (from a different Too Big to Fail Bank). I already had a house and was moving cities and they didn’t even make me sell the first house before giving me something like 95% financing on the second house. 4th year associate. Law school debt still. Back then, when people were flipping houses on IO ARM loans, it seemed almost quaint and conservative.
BigLaw, equity partner, and our partner-loan lenders never do this, even for us. The best they do for is streamlined mortgages (since they have your financials anyway) and maybe a quarter point better than the market. Not NYC-CA-DC, but a city big enough for an NFL team.
When I was a big law associate I was invited to join Citi private bank, it was great. We bought our first house with them, put 15% down, no PMI, no lender costs, 120 day free rate lock. Then even after I left the firm I was allowed to continue being a client and we bought our second house through them, same deal. We were able to lock our rate in Feb 2022 (at 3%) even though we didn’t close until June.
Biglaw. We looked at Citi a while ago and found terms with a regional-ish bank that did JD loans. Back then, the big difference with MD or JD loans was that underwriting is different because it is the bank’s own money, rather than them being a mortgage service provider.
I’m feeling very down today.
Please tell me something that is bringing you joy.
I just had a very nice cup of tea!
The steady influx of lovely new cookbooks in my life! I preordered the new Smitten Kitchen one, it arrived yesterday in time for me to read through it before bedtime, and it’s a beaut. I have Ina Garten’s new one waiting on my Kindle for later. Earlier this fall I bought Molly Gilbert’s Sheet Pan Sweets and it’s fantastic (I’m a big fan of hers) and I also just finished Home Is Where The Eggs Are by Molly Yeh and have lots of lovely bookmarked recipes to copy down before it goes back to the library.
My cat laying on my legs like a tiny fluffy weighted blanket.
I’m sorry you’re feeling down. I don’t know your circumstances, but the time change/early darkness has been getting to me.
Sitting on my front porch on a brisk fall morning, drinking a cold Diet Coke.
My toddler was cranky yesterday and I just sat down next to her and quietly narrated what she was doing like a perfect parenting blog, and it worked! She started sneaking me proud smiles.
sending you love.
Oh, and if all goes well, I graduate from post chemo physical therapy/ rehab today! I’ve been done with chemo seven months.
Huge congrats, and what a cute story about your toddler!
Hooray!! Heartiest congratulations!!
Wonderful news!
Yay!
Our city just started a major storm drain project in the neighborhood designed to keep our river clean, and it involves drilling a giant mole tunnel under the street. About half the neighborhood including me is thrilled despite the inconvenience because of the opportunity to gawk at giant feats of engineering! Saving the river! Of course the other half haaaate it.
I had a project move to production this morning that I have been lead on since April, and my users love it (and me!). I’m happy that they are happy.
I am still celebrating the outcome of the election last week.
My husband and I made the first payment on our big vacation for next May. I’m excited about going to Scotland!
I’m getting picked to lead really interesting, useful projects at work, along with mentoring new staff. My team lead and manager both said that they think I have the most patience and sense of humor for handling the issues that come up.
Today I’m celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary with my spouse. Due to a our personal situation (immunocompromised kid), the pandemic continues to be rough on our social, educational and professional circumstances, but today I am just thankful that my husband and I are on the same page and continue to support each other.
He made me a card with folded origami roses – I am an origami enthusiast and pretty advanced folder so I really enjoy looking at what he has created.
Congratulations, and that’s truly amazing. I viscerally understand how rough and isolating and stressful what you’re living is, and I hope you can find respite and solace.
oooh do you have any good origami books to recommend for adults? my partner loves origami but I can’t tell what books will be good online and none of the bookstores near me have decent selection.
I actually am not tapping into books as much, as I find they quickly get way to complicated and you have to understand the specific folds and notation.
I find Youtube and blogs like https://www.origamispirit.com/ the best resources, because I can fold along, play videos slower, pause etc.
*too complicated.
Leyla Torres has a few book recommendations: https://www.origamispirit.com/books/
If you’re looking for good gifts, I always love receiving patterned paper, or an origami folding tool (bone or wood) or cutting mat.
Aww that’s lovely!
And I feel you on the pandemic situation. We don’t have an immunocompromised family member, but between the fact that we see a great deal of my high risk 70-something parents and the scary medical literature about long term organ damage from even “mild” Covid, DH and I are continuing to be very cautious, wearing masks in public indoors and still avoiding indoor dining. It is definitely socially isolating, and to a lesser degree professionally isolating, although both DH and I are lucky to have jobs where people’s opinions of us don’t really matter. But like you said, I’m glad my spouse and I are on the same page.
I am so so sorry you are going through this. Glad you can find joy in the sorrow. :)
Congratulations, how lovely (and empathy from another immunocompromised person).
Today was the first snow and my kids and I were rocking out to Christmas music at 7AM. It was awesome.
Love this. The first snow is the best.
My preschooler’s enthusiasm for snow is also keeping me going. Yesterday she was running around the house wearing her snow pants yelling “Ho Ho ho! Ho Ho ho!”
So much fun!!
I got my large, heavily used sectional sofa and four large rugs professionally cleaned this morning (for the first time ever – ew). I have a toddler, shedding dog and a husband. I am on cloud niiiiiiiiiiiiine. It was also relatively inexpensive ($700?). It’s the little things, man.
Drinking coffee while watching the shifting light over Midtown Manhattan. My little dog’s soft fur. My cozy sweatshirt on this cold Nov morning.
While driving with my daughter (early elementary), she looked out the window and said “why do all those signs talk about squift? That’s a big number of squifts!”
She was looking at a For Rent Sign with “1,500 sqft”.
Hahaha that’s adorable!
hahahaha that is hilarious!
Love this!
Cat cuddles on these cold evenings. Anticipating the fun of decorating for the holidays. My kids are in a stage of actually getting along and playing together. After a couple of very gloomy days, the sun is shining today and the air is crisp. I have a staycation planned for next week.
My parents are arriving for an extended visit today and I’m making chocolate chip scones for everyone to have for breakfast tomorrow!
My kid (middle school) retrieved a ball that had bounced out of the elementary kids’ playground. He happened to be biking past and noticed all the little kids jumping up and down at the fence and decided to help them.
Aww. Sounds like you’re raising a very kind kid!
He really can be a sweetheart.
When he had a birthday party last year (very small!), he invited a girl he didn’t know very well because, “She’s really close to So-and-So and I thought it would be nice for So-and-So to have a good friend at my party.” And this girl was DELIGHTFUL – the kind of self-possessed young tween who can pull of a suit with shorts!
I love this!
I’m throwing a big 75th birthday party for my sweet husband on Saturday and I can’t wait! It’s extra sweet because we had to postpone it for a month when he got a bad case of COVID, and he’s finally bouncing back to his old self.
Also, I found a great Christmas gift to surprise him with — personalized Chateau Mr. Senior Attorney’s Name wooden wine crates for the wine he makes from the grapes he grows.
Also the semi-feral pandemic kitties, Felix and Oscar, are getting less feral and more friendly every day!
Mr. Senior Attorney is both an amateur conductor and a vintner? Amazing.
I always love a Felix and Oscar update.
Mr. Senior Attorney is a true Renaissance man! <3
I feel you—I’ve had a weird week. Trying to do little things for joy. Today, I lit a favorite candle and put on holiday music. Might take a very bubbly bath later.
My 16-month old toddler is just finding a few words and is pretty hilarious. Yesterday he pointed at the dog’s butt and said “stinky” and it made me laugh so much.
OMG that’s the best new word!
My 14 month old made a good attempt at saying cracker last night! I was so impressed.
My formerly feral kitty didn’t come home last night before we went to bed. The blink cameras caught him up by our back door at around 2AM when we were already asleep. This morning, it took us 15 minutes of calling to get him to come, but he ran in, scarfed down some food, and is now asleep in front of a heater vent.
Poor guy! It was cold last night (Bay Area) but not freezing, and my joy is watching him snooze in his super warm nap spot and knowing that he’s ok.
Aww!! Bless his little kitty heart!
Update: He has finally abandoned his heater vent position and wandered into my office to accept some pets. I take this as an “all is forgiven.” More joy.
I’m applying to a job in higher Ed and am interested in this board’s perspective on the field. I work in public health and safety, I worked in government and NGOs for years and now am in a corporate job I dislike. The higher ed job actually pays considerably better than my corporate job, and obviously the benefits are incredible (my corporate benefits are meh). I had never seriously considered a job in higher Ed but a friend recommended this position to me and it does look interesting.
So, just wondering if there’s anything I should be considering about the field that I’m not thinking about. I thought pay would be the downside but it’d be a 22% raise for me. I have the (very unique) technical expertise that the job requires, but admittedly no official higher Ed experience (though i do volunteer at my alma mater and did my work study in undergrad in a similar office).
One thing I loved about my government job was the mission and I hate the lack of mission and bending to appease executives in my corporate job. I think working with students and working in health/safety would fulfill that but I’m not sure. Additionally, most of my extended family are teachers and I’ve always felt like I’m missing out not being in that kind of environment. I was recently on campus for my alma mater for the first time in years and I loved the energy and environment of being on a campus.
I know several people who work in higher ed and love it. I will say that there can be weirdly archaic ‘rules’ to get things done (like, ‘oh, we can’t submit that until the reclusive chair of the Department tells us we can’ or not being able to hire who you want necessarily), and also that they tend to put a higher emphasis on degrees than most jobs. So, I’ve observed that they’re more likely to hire a PhD with one year of experience than someone with a master’s but 5 years of experience.
Is the position/department one makes buckets of money for the university or that upper management (President, Provost, VPFA, VP Student Affairs) believes in or supports, or is it there to check a box? Depending on which it is, your experience will be a lot different. If the former, it will be awesome. If the latter, it will be an uphill slog against inertia and you will get overrulled any time what you’re implementing faces even a whiff of opposition.
I don’t agree with this (15+ year career in higher ed), but I work in two year colleges where nothing makes buckets of money. Sector of higher ed definitely matters.
My experience was in finance at a state flagship R1. If the position is created because of a new regulatory requirement or audit finding, if the upper admin thinks that it’s a BS requirement, it’ll be an uphill slog to get anything implemented beyond the bare minimum required to maintain accreditation/stay out of the news. Because the bare minimum is unlikely to be something actually useful, it’ll be treated as the extra regulatory burden that it is, rather than a helpful service that it could be if given the resources to implement correctly.
I work in higher ed and love it. My colleagues are uniformly smart and considerate and the work is cutting edge and interesting. There’s headline risk on nearly everything I touch which I love.
Depending in what you would be doing, you might want to familiarize yourself with the Clery Act. As appropriate in the interview, you would want to ask who is responsible for Clery Act functions, safety warnings, etc.
Will the job involve working with students? If so, you might consider reading the student newspaper to see what students perceive as issues and how the students who are active in the space have worked with administration and what their expectations are.
I was an academic advisor at a big university for a few years. 75% of the time I loved the job for the work of helping students, the great energy on campus, and opportunity to see/hear/learn cool things at on campus lectures, free classes, specialized libraries. 25% of the time I hated the arcane bureaucracy, academic snobbery, and decentralized HR/supervision system that made it difficult to get opportunities for growth and promotion. Overall, though, it can be a great industry. Good luck on your interview!
It sounds like you know the salary, but if it’s based on a salary range, be careful. At least at my public university, it’s pretty rare to get anywhere near the top of the posted salary range (I’ve mostly seen it happen when the search has already failed at least once). Also, raises and promotions tend to be pretty minimal for most staff (2-3% per year at most, some years with none), so make sure that’s a salary you’ll be happy with for a while. The only time you really have leverage to negotiate is when you get an initial offer or if you have a competing offer later, so do your best to get a good offer to start out with because you can’t count on getting any raises after that. We’ve been having a hard time hiring for a lot of positions at my university, so you might have more ability than normal to negotiate a good offer, though I have no experience with this area specifically.
I agree with this. Get the salary as high as you can to start.
This is really going to depend on role and funciton. I worked in higher education for years, and I mostly loved it. I worked in a unit where there was a very clear heirarchy between faculty and staff though, and that really sucked for staff.
This is a team that is only made up of staff, not sure if that matters
It still matters. It’s an institutional thing not a team thing.
It’s so dependent on the institution itself, and what role you will be playing. Things I love about being in higher ed: There’s always something going on. There’s always something new and interesting to learn about; boredom has not been an issue! At least in my area, my colleagues are incredibly bright and hard-working. When people on this board complain about folks in higher ed not taking their jobs seriously enough and sort of coasting, that doesn’t reflect my experience at all. The mission does keep me going on the days when I’m frustrated. In general, I enjoy the work that I do.
Things I don’t love: The very clear delineation between faculty and staff can be grating at times, but it’s not a dealbreaker. It is really hard to set boundaries, however. If your provost says you need to do something, there is very little room for pushback (and it may be coming from his boss or even beyond that). Legacy projects can be a problem; nobody ever wants to let anything go, even when it’s served its purpose and the value is diminishing. Yet new projects are ALWAYS coming up, so it can quickly become a workload issue (see again: hard to set boundaries). Despite what I hear about bloat in higher ed administration, I can assure you that, if anything, we’re understaffed and doing a high volume of work with the resources we have.
There are times when I think about leaving, mainly because of the boundary issue, but the benefits and leave time are too good to quit at this point in my life. I love having time off at Christmas, no questions asked, with my kids. I am happy with my pay and benefits and absolutely wouldn’t find them in the nonprofit world, which is another career option I’ve considered.
I hate working in higher ed and am actively trying to get out. The benefits are the only good thing about my job, and even then it’s really just the PTO that’s good. My health insurance is pretty bad – I have a crazy high deductible even for in-network care. But the plans with lower deductibles have very high premiums. There isn’t a great option for insurance at my school. It you’re an adult who rarely gets sick and never sees a doctor for anything except preventive care the HDHP probably works pretty well, but if you have a kid it gets very expensive very fast because all kids need the doctor for illness occasionally.
The main issue with pay is that raises don’t really exist for staff, as someone else noted. My university gives 2% most years to employees who “exceed expectations.” Many people get nothing. So starting salaries can be totally fine, but you don’t get a pay increase that keeps pace with inflation even if you’re a real superstar. The only way to get “promoted” is to leave or move jobs within the university so you’ll have to be constantly applying to jobs if you want to chase promotion and higher pay, which just seems exhausting.
The biggest issue at my university is that it’s very difficult to get fired and also very difficult to get promoted as I discussed above. So there’s really no incentive for people to be anything other than bad to mediocre employees. It results in a lot of burned out, super jaded people who don’t want to do anything but also want to blame others when things don’t get done well.
Lastly these are more job/team specific, but the work I do is incredibly monotonous and after five* years I can almost literally do it in my sleep, and my grandboss is a real a-hole who plays favorites and is trying to get his whole team back to b*tt in seat all day every day despite our university generally being remote work friendly.
yes, i work in higher ed and it works for me right now in my stage of life with young kids and a DH with a big job and big salary. i would say that promotions within department and raises tend to happen more regularly at business schools at the mba level than the general institution, but raises and promotions are rare. i have a good boss and decent flexibility, but if i didn’t it might be hard for me to stick it out
Yeah, I agree that it can be a great fit for the little kid stage of life because of the generous PTO and flexibility. And university-run daycares/preschools tend to be really awesome. My kid is getting older now and going to school right near our house instead of on-campus daycare, and between that and the terrible pay and how much of a jerk my grandboss is, I’m feeling ready for a change. But if we wanted a second kid I think I would be inclined to stay for the benefits and childcare convenience. And I do agree with you that the money situation really depends on the department, and definitely business (and law and med) schools are more flush with cash than other areas.
Thanks for the input. It’s for sure less positive than I thought it might be!
I used to work in global health at an ngo then went to a county health department and then to a corporate EHS role. The role is at a large public university working in global health / safety for students studying abroad. It sounds interesting and aligned with some of my background. Havjng bounced from sector to sector so much Im still struggling to determine my longer term career goals. I’d love something both international and public health focused but with w more family friendly work life balance than my previous roles.
I like the benefits: 5 weeks vacation, separate sick leave, 8% retirement match, cheap but comprehensive healthcare (with a university hospital), free tuition (I don’t have an mph somehow, but want one).
I’m 30, would like to have kids but no plans to do so all that soon, I have an MPA but want a MPH.
My friend from my NGO says works for the university so I’ve been talking to her about university culture.
Oh and I’m sadly all too used to years and years without a single raise or COLA from my previous careers.
PULSE is the name of the association for folks in this field. Look them up and email some folks. This is a risk management job, regardless of how it’s portrayed. Is that appealing to you? If so, cool.
If the job is part of the university’s study abroad program and reports to the director of the study abroad program, it could be a really, really great job. If the scope is the entire university (non-credit study abroad programs, unfunded student travel, faculty, staff)… it’s a tough gig and a fast trip to burnout. I’ve seen it break both ways. You do NOT want to be dealing with the faculty side of this… trying to please both the nervous Nellies AND the would-be Indiana Joneses is crazy-making.
100% agree with this!
One last thing: make sure the program is solvent. Many study abroad programs took HUGE financial hits because of COVID. These programs are either auxiliaries or direct support organizations and don’t, as a rule receive university funds. A year or so with no students did a number on a lot of programs.
The free classes are a huge benefit if you really want that MPH. Also lets you dip a toe in other fields to see if that’s a direction you want to go.
I think I was the most negative person on the thread (most of the other comments actually seemed pretty positive?) and if you’re prepared for the stagnant salary and really drawn to the benefits than it sounds like a good fit for you. I took a big pay cut for this job and I made peace with the initial cut, but I just really wasn’t prepared for the lack of salary increases, and that has compounded with other factors that aren’t higher ed specific (like bad upper management and boring work) to make me really unhappy here. I make less in today’s dollars than I did when I started more than five years ago, despite working hard and generally getting really good reviews, and that’s been hard for me to accept. But if you go into it with your eyes open about your expected salary over time, then you may have a better experience. The vacation time is definitely awesome, and I’ve never had any problem using all of it.
If you’re the poster who’s been posting about hating their corporate job because they miss having a mission, then this seems like a good fit. It’s much more likely to be reasonable hours than your previous jobs, though this particular job sounds like it could be one of the ones that does have more of an expectation to always be on call, especially with the international component. As with all jobs, a lot will just depend on the specifics of this university and the people you work with, but once you have some experience, these types of jobs exist at lots of universities and some of them are now hiring remotely, so you would have options to look elsewhere if you decide you like the work generally but you want a change from the specifics of this job. I don’t know a lot about this part of the university, but my husband is a staff member who interacts with people in these roles occasionally so I hear a bit about it. Good luck!
Are people still wearing ankle pants? I’m seeing full length pants and jeans everywhere. Not snark; genuinely curious.
Yes bc I already own them and there’s nothing wrong with them. They look nice with my Chelsea boots. I’m done with replacing perfectly nice clothes because of trends.
That said, I have seized the moment to buy some full length pants since they were scarce for a few years.
yes, plenty of people including me. Around my office it generally still looks like the 2019-2020 winter.
Yes, of course. An emerging trend doesn’t quickly change people’s closets.
But also, no. It’s getting colder. I wear ankle pants all the time, but not in the winter. Now that it’s easier to find full-length pants and jeans again, I’ll happily wear them all winter. I won’t, however, be wearing them next summer.
Yes, but not in the colder season. Bare ankles is not an option until May. If
Yup, all the time! Easier to wear than full-length, in my opinion, since you don’t have to fret about hem length.
Me too. I’m in Texas so they work almost year round for me.
Yes, with my fake doc martens. If not in a summer fabric.
Still wearing the ones I have but not buying more. Now I pair with loafers vs. flats. I do think that very short ankle pants (several inches above the ankle bone) or skinny cuts are much more dated than a slim-cut only at or a smidge above the ankle bone. The latter are nearly classic imo.
This is where I am, not buying any more. As a tall, ankle pants hit well above my ankles. Full length straight leg pants often hit just below my ankle, but that’s the best I can do (talls are much rarer than petite sizes)
I’m wearing the ones I have but not buying new ones.
Never go into them, so no. Partly due to having short legs so cropped pants were regular length on me, partly because I feel the cold so much.
Now that is is cold, I am trying to figure out clothes in 2022. Skinny jeans. Leggings. High boots with heels. High flat boots. Do any of these things go together? Or is it just boots + tights + a-line skirt or ruffle puff dresses? And boots with boot cut pants or flares? I haven’t seen enough people in the wild since I WFH or am in the office with lots of finance dudes in sweater fleeces.
I’m seeing a lot of heeled tall boots with dresses and skirts, and a lot of straight leg, bootcut, or wide leg pants with loafers or ankle boots (but the boots need to hit above your ankle bone, and should ideally have a lug sole, block heel, or kitten heel. Almond or square toe is more current than rounded.) I think flares are still a bit early for most people. Skinny jeans with any shoe are not popular in my large city. I think Everlane’s flats and ankle boots atm are very current as examples.
I recently found @pumpsandpushups on IG. She has some great outfit ideas that actually work for real life and not just influencer-life.
Thanks for this recommendation! I’m struggling to readjust too, and as a short person her blog is particularly useful.
Jeggings? Gone forever? Or much better to tuck into tall boots than skinnies?
IMO these are gone forever, sorry to say. If you have a black or charcoal pair, I miiiight be willing to tuck into black tall boots for a column of color.
High boots with heels go with skirts and dresses only.
Flat knee high boots – more current if black over black (leggings or tights + skirt) than brown over skinny jeans (dated).
Go check out Charly Goss on instagram and she will guide you!
Skinny jeans are out. Straight or trouser legs are in. No leggings as real clothes. Just ask Charly Goss.
Omg two comments in a row. Does she post here or something?? Oh wait, someone from her staff probably does.
ruffle puff dress and cold seem at odds.
ruffle puff dress and 2023 also seem at odds.
Calm my anxiety or tell me I really screwed up?
I got an email from a colleague asking why ‘Bob’ is leading a projects so I replied that “I’m not sure why Bob is leading the project as it wasn’t part of the staffing plan, I can only speculate there were conversations we weren’t privy to”
I was trying to lay out the facts (staffing plan) and unknowns (there’s surely a reason for the change, I just don’t know it) but as soon as I pressed send my heart sank because I realized that my response can be viewed as gossipy and I shouldn’t have put it in writing. Now I’m just kicking myself.
I wouldn’t view that as gossipy unless I already knew you to be a sh-t stirrer. I imagine you’re just fine. :)
I don’t see anything wrong with your response. It’s actually something I would have written myself. My boss is notorious for private conversations that change the scope and staff of a project.
Nah, not at all. If it helps, I read that as the professional version of:
“No idea, dude. I wasn’t in the room.’
Agree.
It’s better than what I would have sent, which is: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
snort
Lol.
I think you’re overthinking. Read the email outloud in several ways: gossipy, matter of fact, distracted etc. You’ll realize it could go either way. Then commit to your preferred approach, both internally in your brain and externally if anyone asks.
Totally fine. While there’s an undercurrent of “man, I wish I knew too!” if that’s a common occurrence, I think the words are neutral and professional.
If you are in a really gossipy culture where this could be viewed as inappropriate, just remember that next time, but as a stranger on the internet, I think you’re fine.
I think it’s NBD! But this is why I have a 30 second delayed send on my emails, it’s saved me from so many potential gaffes.
Oh my 1 minute delay is my best friend.
I feel like it needs to be the default setting. Who doesn’t want the ability to stop an email?
I think you’re fine but it’s a good reminder that sometimes less is more and just because someone asks a question doesn’t mean you have to come up with a helpful answer. I end up in situations like this all the time, where I try to be super helpful but just end up saying too much or saying the wrong thing, when I would have been fine providing much less information.
In this case, a perfectly fine response from you would be, “I’m not sure either! Maybe XX would have more info,” where XX is a person in the know. You don’t have to provide the context about the staffing plan or speculate on conversations that may have been going on – the answer to the question is just that you don’t know why Bob is leading. Talk less, smile more, etc.
Thanks for all the cornbread recipes yesterday! Excited to try all the different ones now that chili season is upon us!
One more recommendation for you, in case no one else mentioned it: My Favorite Cornbread (that’s the recipe title) from Sally’s Baking Addiction.
That’s my preferred. It definitely skews cake more than bread but the kids love it.
Haven’t made her cornbread but Sally is my go to for all things baking!
My dad is rolling in his South Carolina grave at the mention of sweet, cake-like cornbread!!
I posted about this yesterday! In the South, cornbread is coarse-textured and not sweet. A lot of the recipes people were posting are a lot more like what we would call corn pudding.
Sometimes nice to know that regional differences still exist!
I wouldn’t call the Sally recipe sweet or cake like unless I’m thinking of the wrong one. I’m not a southerner but I love southern food and travel there a lot, and Sally’s recipe tastes like cornbread I’ve had in the south. I thought corn pudding was mushier and whole corn kernels in it. Is that not right?
The Trader Joe’s mix is also a good one!
I missed yesterday’s thread, but here’s a Deep South pro tip. Put a half a stick of butter in your cast iron skillet and let it melt and brown in the oven while the skillet preheats. When you’re ready to bake your cornbread, pour the brown butter into the batter, give it a quick stir and then bake. The butter still in the pan makes the crust perfect and crispy and the butter in the batter will cure any sadness.
I experienced the stuff of academic nightmares yesterday…I went to give a guest lecture in a class yesterday and I opened up the slides, and they were half done, like slides had titles but no text? I just had never finished them, despite it being ticked off my to do list. I had to make a flimsy excuse about OneDrive syncing issue and just totally wing it – 60 minutes, 70 students. Somehow I survived but my goodness.
OMG that sounds terrifying. Congrats for surviving that!
Ugh, the horror! I’ve done stuff like that. Made it through, and I know in the long run its not the end of the world, but I still cringe at the memory!
Had to furiously google Justin Trudeau’s instagram (teaching about social media and politics). If I hadn’t been covering for a colleague, I’d have had them get started on their assignments, etc. 2 more weeks to go, this has been a really exhausting term.
Well if its any comfort, Cb, I always love your tales! I mean, its pretty cool to have the kind of job where ‘furiously googling Justin Trudeau’s instagram’ is a sensible work option. In my next life I want to be a political science professor living in Scotland (I think?) just like you.
Haha, true :) I do live in Scotland, unfortunately I work in Northern Ireland, which is absurd but weirdly doable.
2 more weeks. 2 more weeks.
Let’s count down together.
And we are on strike next Friday so I get to cross off a lecture on my big “before 2023” to do list.
If it makes you feel any better, 99% of the time I prefer no slides during a lecture. Unless you have really good visuals or media clips, it’s usually more effective and engaging just to speak and write or draw on the board as you go.
That’s actually a good excuse, putting that one in my pocket lol
Haha right? Darn OneDrive!
Big respect to you for pushing through it! You should be impressed with yourself that you knew the info that thoroughly. I’ve seen all kinds of horror scenarios with presentations. One poor guy couldn’t figure out how to turn off the function that auto advanced his slides. For an hour long presentation he was rushing along as the slides decided when it was time for the next one! Or the guy whose entire presentation was showing video demonstrations of a pilot technology… and his Mac file decided it couldn’t play videos on the conference room’s PC. It could’ve been so much worse :) Sounds like you think well on your feet!
I had a client presentation a few months ago where the computer just said ‘no’ and I didn’t get any of my slides. Luckily it was a presentation I’d given loads of times before and I was able to visualise the slides in my head well enough to talk through. Heart stopping moment for the guy in charge of the slides for the session though!
I’m from the Bay Area and I’m going to visit the upper midwest for Christmas and I’m going to be making snow people, snow balls, and generally playing in the snow with my kids.
Do I want waterproof gloves or waterproof mittens? I generally prefer gloves, but I’m wondering if I should just go for the mittens given the extra warmth of fingers together and the bulk of gloves designed for playing in the snow.
I probably won’t use them at home, unless I need to bike on a particularly cold/rainy morning and my usual light gloves won’t cut it.
For snow play, I generally prefer mittens.
I wouldn’t count on snow these days. I grew up in MN, but most years that I’ve been home for the holidays recently there hasn’t been much snow. If you’re not going to use them regularly, I’d probably go with gloves, as they’re more versatile, though I agree mittens are warmer.
Agree. In December, it might snow and it might not. It’s good to be prepared and water proof gloves are nice. But I’d hold back on making your children think it will be like going to the North Pole in the movie Elf. The time of year you can depend on snow on the ground is late february and that’s hard permasnow, not fun fluffy snow.
Agree. I’m in the Chicago area and white Christmases are rare. If there is snow, it’s like an inch, not something you can play in. I assume heavy snow at Christmas is more common in Wisconsin and Minnesota but definitely not something you can count on. We get the bulk of our snow in January and February.
I’d go with mittens both for snow play and for cold biking. I pretty much only wear gloves when I’m dressed up (like leather gloves with a wool coat for work) or when I’m running. Mittens are warmer and more comfortable in my book.
I know mittens are technically warmer but I get so annoyed with the lack of dexterity that I end up taking them off a million times to adjust my zipper, grab something from my pocket, etc. Which means my hands get colder than if I just wore gloves. Waterproof is a good idea if you think you’ll play in the snow.
I’d just get gloves. If you were skiing I’d say mittens.
Waterproof mittens over liner gloves for the best of both worlds. It’s a “know your body” thing and where I live now doesn’t get cold enough for it to be necessary for me. My hands and feet are the first things to sweat, so I have to be careful not to overdress or I end up cold and wet/sweaty.
When I am in the snow, my go-to is gloves under mittens. That way if the mittens get wet, I can take them off and still have warm hands.
This is the way to go. I prefer thin stretchy gloves under thick waterproof mittens for any type of working in the snow. Basically, you don’t want something that is going to soak up melting snow and then make your fingers freeze.
Also agree that snow is not guaranteed here this time of year. It’s usually January before we can depend on it being present, at least in my area. On the other hand, my area currently has half a foot on the ground with more in the forecast, so it is anyone’s guess this year.
+1!
+3!
Does anyone have high end dinner recommendations in Salt Lake City? I’m organizing a small team dinner (4 people).
I don’t really think of “high end” and Salt Lake City, but maybe Takashi if you like sushi? Or Pago. Or Valters if you like Italian.
Do not hit Pago at 9th & 9th, they have excellent ideas and terrible execution. (Food is raw/cold/over salted, etc). Haven’t tried Pago downtown.
In order of recommendation:
Valter’s Osteria (sadly, Valter recently passed away).
Table X (Tasting Menu)
Log Haven in Millcreek Canyon
My friend’s in-laws from Italy loved Osteria Amore for authentic Italian
The Copper Onion is a good bet.
The Copper Onion is A+ in my book. They will also do dietary restriction variants of their set menu if you call ahead (or at least they did a few years ago) and the wine list is great.
Not high end but make sure you go to Bruges! Best French fries I’ve ever had.
I’d also look at Current Fish and Oyster Bar, Varley & Ivy, Caffe Molise, or Stanza Italian Bistro.
Also, hiiiii to all my fellow SLC-ers!
Ugh — my appetite hasn’t adjusted to standard time. It’s 930, I’ve had breakfast, and I’m starving.
I hear you on this! Last night I had dinner at 5:30p because it was dark out and I was already hungry, then it sort of threw off the rest of my evening!
Is there any way to follow-up on a job application in this day and age? With applying for jobs in the company portal online, I don’t have any contact information to follow-up. Working my network isn’t an option.
Does their website not list a general HR contact to email?
Used a bad word, oops. Does their webs-te not list a general HR contact to email?
unless you’ve heard from a human, it’s really hard. Does the s!te have a portal so that you can see a status there at least?
I gave my two week notice the other day and I am having a VERY hard time focusing on working and wrapping things up…I just don’t care enough.
Give me permission to slack off these next couple weeks? Haha
Of course you can slack off! Everyone does.
100% slack off, go for long lunches, connect with people so you can preserve your network.
Granted.
Of course you have permission to slack off. 100% focus in this situation would be nearly impossible.
Of course you have permission! Just try to leave your colleagues in a good place if you have a decent relationship. Otherwise, come in late, leave early etc.
I’m standing up in a wedding soon and getting my makeup done professionally for the first time. How much direction do you normally give the makeup artist? Is it like a haircut where it helps to bring inspiration photos? Or are you supposed to just let them do their thing? I wear makeup every day so I know what colors work on me (I have unusual undertones) and some opinions on the general look. One last question: is it a good idea to bring my own makeup for touch-ups throughout the day? I know they use high quality products but I’m scheduled to get my makeup done twelve hours before the reception starts. Thanks!
You’re not the bride? Let them do their thing except for direction on undertones.
Make-up artists vary hugely in skill. My sister hated the way they did her for my wedding. They were used to clients with more contrast and they just didn’t handle her nuanced complexion well. I would definitely bring some of your own things for touch ups, though in the best case at max you’ll need the lipstick.
Agreed with this. I’ve had my makeup done a number of times and the absolute worst hair and makeup I’ve ever had done was for my sister’s wedding. I would suggest bringing a small bag with your own makeup for touch ups (not like a full set but mascara/concealer/lipstick).
They thought I (naturally blonde brows, dark blonde hair which I highlight to a medium blonde) really REALLY needed a ‘strong brow’ and somehow the request ‘um, can you lighten these please? It seems to be photographing dark’ was heard as ‘HEY. You know what color I really want you to make my brows? Old lady style red-brown.
The contrast thing is real. I am pretty low-contrast, and the number of times somebody has botched a smoky eye on me. I am not averse to makeup, at all, but anything harsh is just a no-go. Dark eyeliner also doesn’t do me any favors. I’m a brunette, so I think some makeup artists get confused about how much contrast I can actually do without looking like Avril Lavigne in 2004.
I have oily skin and can’t imagine feeling fresh and good in 12-hour old makeup that I’ve already worn for a full day of events (I’m assuming it’s going to be a full day if you have to get your makeup done 12 hours before the reception). So I’d be bringing my own make-up and probably even washing my face and starting over.
I’d definitely bring your own complexion products/lipstick if you’re normally hard to match or if you just want touch ups throughout the day. I’d also be VERY direct (and pictures help) in terms of what you want. Most of my friends got married during the early aughts/2010s full glam era and in two separate weddings I had the pro ignore my request for subtle and natural makeup with and I wound up wiping it off/redoing it myself. I think if the artist does a lot of ‘editorial’ looks they aren’t always used to doing more ‘my face but better’ makeup for us civilians. If they offer airbrush foundation I’d do that – when I’ve done it for events it has worn well and been comfortable on.
Oh man, I had the craziest makeup at a friend’s wedding in 2012. I asked for natural and she toned it down from her usual look, but my husband literally didn’t recognize me at first when he saw me!
Same, in 2015. My kid saw a picture recently and did not recognize me.
Twelve hours is a long time! At my sister’s wedding we were all done up about 4 hours before the ceremony. The artists did plan for touchups but they left once those were done (probably about 3 hours before ceremony time and we were on our own after that).
I gave the artists a clean slate because I don’t know enough about makeup, but you could absolutely tell them you prefer how X shade of foundation makes you look, or whatever. They asked me if I wanted anything specific when I sat down. My mom asked the artists to soften some lines for her once they’d done her whole face, and my sister’s MIL, who wears dramatic makeup as part of her daily look, asked them to bring her eyeliner out to the point she was most used to having it.
The itinerary for this day is brutal. We’re getting our makeup done before the sun rises, 10 hours before the ceremony and 12+ hours before the reception starts. My jaw hit the floor when the bride sent out the details. I have a feeling the day isn’t scheduled efficiently but it’s too late to gently suggest changes. So I’m keeping my mouth shut and wondering if there’s enough caffeine in the world to help me survive this.
I think getting makeup done 10+ hours early is brutal, but please do not “gently suggest” anything. It’s so passive aggressive… just own that you don’t like the choices she made.
Which is why I said I’m keeping my mouth shut…
You’re lecturing OP for a thing she said she wouldn’t do…
That is a loooong day. I had airbrushed foundation at my wedding and it held up incredibly well, maybe that’s an option? Or just bring your own stuff to freshen up.
When we had early-AM makeup done for my SIL’s wedding, the artist gave me a tiny amount of lipstick for touch-ups. I looked shiny but still reasonable by the end of the night
Definitely do a consultation first! Your make up artist will want you to be very happy with the results… No sense spending all that money and time if you’re just gonna wipe off half of it.
You can also talk to her about what you’re doing with your hair and jewelry.
You may want to think about having false eyelashes applied- They make a big difference in photos!
This is really, really dependent on the makeup artist. A couple of things to keep in mind … the MUA will likely be doing your face for photos, not “in real life” and with that timeline, with an eye to making sure it lasts. It may look incredibly overdone to you, and depending on the MUA’s skill, it might be.
I would bring my own supplies, and offer to the artist, but they will likely want to work with products they are confident in. But at the very least, it’ll be really helpful in choosing good shades for you.
Finally, I would just roll with whatever the look is (even if it didn’t totally suit me … they may be going for a consistent look) and then after photos are done, tone it down/touch it up (or even re-do, if it wouldn’t be super obvious) for the rest of the night.
My car flooded to the floorboards 5 years ago and the car was treated with a fungicide to stop mold. I recently had my car detailed at a car wash and when they shampooed the carpets it reactivated the mold. Does anyone know of a fungicide product they would recommend for treating the carpeting in the car? I want something stronger than white vinegar. I saw a product called concrobium, does anyone have experience with that? Otherwise the car is in good condition and I’m not able to consider buying a new car right now.
Borax? That’s my go-to for mold or mildew.
Not asking to be snarky, but because the response differs depending on the answer. What makes you think 5 year old dormant mold has been reactivated after being treated with fungicide 5 years ago? Is it visible in the same spots as before, just generally smelly, or something else (allergic reaction)? Has the carpet dried completely since the shampooing?
If it’s visible mold, then obviously a harsher attack is merited. If just kind of stinky, maybe make sure it’s not wet dog syndrome and just ensure things dry thoroughly before going nuclear? If an allergic reaction, make sure it isn’t the shampoo or some other chemical they used rather than assuming zombie fungus.
I would like to have a freeze proof case for my contact lenses. I travel a lot, and would like to keep a few pairs in my vehicle trunk and in my garage. I live in a really cold climate and wear daily contacts. Is there any kind of packaging that would help them not freeze? I tried googling this but may not be using the right phrases!
Based on my understanding of physics, I don’t think this exists. You could put them in something insulated, but that will only slow down cooling, it won’t let you leave them in below freezing temperatures indefinitely. Storing them in antifreeze would work, but is almost certainly not optometrist approved.
Agreed, this doesn’t exist. Keep spare contacts in your suitcase, travel toiletry kit, and an inner pocket of your purse. If this is a frequent problem consider buying an extra pair of backup glasses for your car. FWIW my friend says LASIK and an IUD eliminated 99% of her travel worries. I’m not a candidate for either one and I envy her.
Lasik is the most life changing amazing thing I’ve ever done.
I’ve gotta get Lasik, weird eyes be damned. If the apocalypse truly comes I don’t wanna be faffing around with glasses and contacts.
+1 except to the antifreeze part. The antifreeze itself won’t freeze until about -36F (-38C), but anything “kept” in it will still be the same temperature and will therefore freeze at its normal freezing point.
My answer was based on the premise that contact lenses are largely water and that if you replace the water/contact solution with antifreeze the lenses themselves won’t freeze, but I’m not an expert on the properties of silicon hydrogels, so you can definitely correct me if I’m wrong. Either way, it seems like a bad idea!
Since I also wear daily contacts and get them mail delivered, I’ve actually looked up storage stability, and they say that they won’t freeze in the saline solution until about 5 degrees F and that even if they do, it should be fine as long as you let them thaw slowly. I probably wouldn’t let them freeze-thaw repeatedly like keeping them in the car, though, as multiple cycles of ice crystal build up could eventually damage the lenses.
I keep extra contacts in a small bag in my purse. I wear dailys too but I am always switching them out and I like knowing I have access to a pair as needed.
I wear monthlies and keep an extra pair in my “in case of emergency” pouch in my tote – contacts, lip balm, bandaids, advil, tylenol, tampon, etc.
Hard lenses? They can be stored dry.
I wear dailies because I kept getting eye infections with the 2 week ones. I just keep spares in every handbag I own.
Give me your NYC suggestions! Going in January for the first time as a grown a** adult. Did a lot of the touristy things as a teen. It’s not a long trip but I would love your suggestions on the top things I should see, do, or eat while there. I know it’s a broad question, but would love your suggestions if you’re forced to think of the top 2-3 things.
I love to just walk Broadway all the way from south of Chelsea though the Upper West Side and then cut over to Riverside Park. It’s a long walk, but the variety is amazing. I also love the Cloisters and Flushing.
Cloisters and the Frick.
MMA has a Tudors exhibit I’d love to see.
The Met
Bonus points if you go for tea there.
+1 I’m going in a few weeks and welcome all the Christmasy suggestions!
My in-laws live in NYC and we’ve been a few times at Christmas. We’ve done a few of the classic touristy things like the Rock*ttes, skating at Rockefeller Center and the Fifth Ave shop windows. My favorite holiday display in the city is the giant stars at Columbus Circle that change colors.
For Midtown/Central Park – start at either 34th or Rockefeller center and walk up 5th Ave or Madison to window shop and see any holiday displays that are still up. Pop into your choice of the big fancy department stores and browse your section of choice (I’m partial to perfume and Bergdorf has the best selection IMHO). Head over to either Moma/Frick/Met/Guggenheim (depending on your favorite style of art) and visit only your favorites for 1-2 hours. Restaurants are rough in the museum areas – an Irish pub may be your best bet, MoMa is easier if you walk over towards Lex/3rd where more people live.
Other things to do depending on your interests – any specialty hobbies/interests you have will have entire stores devoted to them (yarn/Kbeauty/fashion district for fabrics/comics/bookstores/etc.) pick one and spend another 1-2 hours there. I’d also do a walk from Nolita to Tribeca (through Soho) ending at dinner time – they’re amazingly beautiful neighborhoods and the architecture is incredible.
Ohhh, any fabric store recommendations?
Mood, B&J, Pacific Trim, Steinlauf & Stoller, Mendel Goldberg Fabrics, and Elliott Bergman Textiles
MOMA – they had a recent expansion so it’s a lot bigger than you might remember from being a teen. I’d go see NYCB or ABT instead of a Broadway show, but that’s just me. Also, Neue Galerie and/or the Guggenheim for art and fancy lunch/snack.
Going for dumplings or hot pot in either Manhattan Chinatown or Flushing Chinatown would be a good cold-weather NYC activity. Eater NY or NY Mag have good lists of restaurants to use as starting off points.
I second the recommendation to walk the length of Broadway, it’s a nice way to knit the city together in your mind.
Rockefeller Center has a number of new fancy restaurants opening, could be a fun scene while the tree is up. Brooklyn Bridge Park is fun to walk around and has great views, but might be very cold this time of year.
If you’re looking for shows, beyond Broadway and Lincoln Center, some really special NYC venues include the Park Avenue Armory, the Joyce, Brooklyn Academy of Music, and St. Ann’s Warehouse.
I love Flushing, but if this is the first trip as an adult, I would stick with Manhattan. Flushing is too much of a detour.
It’s an hour on the train, but feels like changing continents, which is why I love it.
Try to get a dinner reservation at One White Street in Tribeca. You won’t be disappointed!
I would also go to the 9/11 museum and Freedom Tower if you have not been. You could also plan for a long walk in Central Park (I enjoy it year round, but YMMV depending on January weather) paired with a museum visit. The Met, MoMA, Guggenheim, Frick, or Neue Galerie are all good options and close-ish to the park depending on your preferences (the Hall of Gems at the Natural History Museum is also beautiful).
If you are in Midtown, Rockefeller Center has some surprisingly decent food options… Le Rock, Lodi and Pebble Bar are all worth a visit.
The Met, the 9/11 museum, shopping in Soho.
Fwiw I was in NYC last week for work and we preferred the shopping in NoLita to Soho (it was a meeting with 80% women and we all used some of our downtime for pre-Xmas shopping!). Lots of ‘internet famous’ brands like printfresh/rothys and fewer less of a crush than soho.
And while you’re in the neighborhood of the 9/11 museum, check out the Irish Hunger Memorial in Battery Park. I just stumbled on it and it was amazing.
The 9/11 museum is wonderful but extremely moving. Be prepared to be emotional for the rest of the day after visiting.
I agree with the recommendations to see the 9-11 museum, but it is extremely sad and I would not suggest going there unless you are ready for a heavy experience.
does anyone own a chappywrap blanket?
My MIL does. It’s nice enough but I don’t get the price point.
Adding – my very social-media-involved SIL gave it to her as a gift. I had been wondering if it was a brand that only influencers partnered with for the purpose of giving freebies to other influencers, lol.
It’s definitely a very influencer-y brand. @Carly just launched a big partnership with them.
The fact that the website calls the blankets ‘heirloom quality’ yet they’re made with synthetics is pretty funny.
I have doubts about this sweater. I’ve heard of wearing your heart on your sleeve but not your uterus on your shoulder.
It’s got big Carrie Bradshaw energy