Coffee Break: Nyle Mixed Media Captoe Pump

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1. OOOOOOOO Now these I love! Maybe not for the office, but would love these with skinny jeans and a blazer.

   1. I agree. These shoe’s are GORGUS!!!!

      And I LOOOOVVVVE Ivanka Trump. She is so fashionable and she has I think 2 babie’s already with Jared Kushner, who is my age and VERY rich! Dad say’s I should have married HIM, but I have never even met him so how silly is that. I wish I did, tho. Then I could be like Ivanka! YAY!!!!

      Instead, I am stuck with the manageing partner’s brother, who does not want to make babie’s but just like’s to talk big and grab my tuchus with both hand’s. What is with that and who give’s him licence to do that? Not Me! FOOEY on that! I want a guy like Jared Kushner.

2. Are round toe hopelessly out of style? I’m short and I have big feet. Pointy toes make my feet look really big.

   1. I don’t think “hopelessly” is the right word but they’re not not au courant either. Myself, I’ve always been partial to almond toe shoes as I find they come and go out of style pretty seamlessly and are generally pretty timeless – maybe that would work for you? Also, it could just be that you’re seeing your feet as bigger in pointy toed shoes even if it’s not necessarily the case. I think my feet look really wide in rounded toes but I have surveyed friends and loved ones and they swear I am insane.
      PS: These are really cute. Loved this morning’s dress, too. Homeruns, all around.

      1. +1. Most of my shoes are almond-toed.

      2. +1

         I agree that they definitely are not the style of the moment, but I don’t think they are quite as out of style as say, flared jeans. Round toe is so much more comfortable for me, and toe shape style seems to cycle relatively quickly, that I unapologetically stick with round toe. I also agree that almond may work well for you as a more updated option.

         1. Flared jeans are out of style….. :( …. ?

            I still really like them with pointy heels. I feel like they are not out of style the way they were for the entire 80’s, 90’s and into the new millenium….right?

            Skinny jeans are trendy, although getting old.

            Am I wrong?

         2. Flared jeans are back apparently. Or at least so say all the fall magazines. Maybe only high-waisted flares though.

         3. Haha, I knew whatever example I picked would be countered!

            Which goes to show why I hang onto my round toed shoes ;)

      3. +1 Ever shoe I own that I call round toe is actually almond toe.

   2. You can pry my round toes out of my cold, dead hands.

      I like, own, and wear many pointy-toed shoes, but I refuse to believe that round toes are out of style. Of course, I also wouldn’t be worried if they were.

      1. +1

         1. I’m not sure what would make them out of style. I mean, Kate Spade still sells tons of my favorite Karolina heel. Maybe runways just show pointy toed shoes, but plenty of stylish designers still sell both.

   3. Are you sure they look big, or just look big to you? I always think my feet look like boats in round toe, but other people tell me they look normal, so perhaps it’s the same for you. I think pointy toed always make a whole look look more slim and polished.

   4. I love round toed shoes, because that is the shape my feet are. I cannot fit my toes into pointy shoes. On this matter, I care not what fashion says. I just buy more shoes when there are round toes around.

      1. Who remembers square toes? Or those squared-off pointy hybrids? I loved those. 90’s, represent!

         1. Oh, me! Square toe: The style that makes no sense at all. I wonder when it will make it’s latest resurgence – 2019?

            1. It’s already making a comeback. Give it a year or two for it to trickle down to the mainstream.

            2. Ugh.

   5. I am short, have pudgy feet and only wear round toes. I think they never go out of style.

3. Oh these are gorgeous! I LOVE the blue suede.

   1. Yes, me too! Ivanka Trump shoes work so well for me, even though in general I am in the almond toe camp. Love the heel height too. I would wear these in a heartbeat.

4. Me, out loud: “ooh pretty shoes!”
   DH, watching soccer: *eyeroll*

5. Love these.

6. Okay, if you had unlimited money to spend on ONE item of clothing/accessory/pair of shoes, what would you buy? Your item can’t be jewelry or a watch, but can be scarf, sunglasses or a handbag.

   Clarification – what would the actual item be, like “a Birkin,” not just the category.

   1. A fabulous handbag. Black leather, gold hardware. Probably from Mulberry (unless Saint Laurent decided to reissue the YSL muse dome, and then maybe that).

      1. +1, but I’m a bag lady!

      2. Or the LV Alma MM (black with gold hw)

   2. An Hermes scarf

   3. I would buy ALL THE THINGS. There are so many…I’d have trouble picking just one.

      But, perhaps a really great pair of custom knee-height brown leather boots. Or a Burberry trench coat. Or a pair of Ray-Bans.

      1. Yes to all three.

      2. I got a pair of custom knee high riding boots last year…100% worth the splurge! I have large calves and could NEVER get boots to fit them.

         1. Will you share where you got them??

            1. I am not BB but I know people who have had great success getting custom boots through Duo. My assistant has two pairs now. She was very happy both times with their service and the speed with which they arrived, and she wears her boots frequently.

            2. If you end up in South Korea, I had a pair of leather knee high, custom-designed boots made to measure in a week. I worked out the design with the cobbler (seriously, in a tiny little cobbler’s shop) and picked them up a week later for $180 give or take. The best.

   4. This:

      http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446485460

      1. And these:

         http://www.thefryecompany.com/abigail-riding/d/76172

         1. The Dorado. With the buckle. Drool. I’m supposed to be writing a presentation.

   5. I’d buy a really awesome coat. Something warm and chic and timeless so that in ten years I can still look really glam but go, “what, this old thing?”
      Maybe something like this: http://tinyurl.com/n6d9p9l

   6. Burberry trench coat!!

      1. Cosign. Mine is my favorite piece in my closet, and with proper care I hope to have it for a lifetime.

   7. The dress from this morning!

   8. Sunglasses. Not sure which pair specifically, but I’ve had to recently give up my contacts and I’ve been sans sunglasses because $$$. Probably something really classic looking, maybe tortoise shell with gold.

      1. Just as an FYI: I got a pair of Rx sunglasses at Warby Parker for $150 total and have been very happy with them. Not cheap, but not as expensive as most Rx sunglasses either.

   9. Chanel Black and gold flap in the small/medium. I would never need to buy a clutch or other evening purse.

      On a related note: does anybody own the Y ligne clutch and have user reviews/thoughts?

      1. I totally covet the traditional, quilted blag Chanel flap bag. It has a femme d’une certain age vibe that I LOVE.

   10. My custom shoe molds to have a bespoke set of shoes. Problematic feet

   11. Handbag.

       Chanel quilted 2.55 most likely. I already own BV so I don’t need any of those.

7. A good friend is going through chemo and losing her hair and I would like to buy her some beautiful head scarves. What size should I get? Is a normal square 36 by 36 ok or is some other shape better for wrapping on the head?

   1. I mean this kindly, but did she ask for scarves? Because some people (my mom included) never wear them (hassle) and prefer either a very soft knit cap or nothing at all.

      1. Yes, I feel like hair loss and dealing with the side effects of chemo is a very personal thing, and if it were me I would appreciate the gesture but maybe also feel embarassed?

      2. She did.

         1. I suggest you look at websites that sell headscarves for cancer patients. Even if you don’t buy any from these specialized sites, the measurements should be helpful.

         2. Also, I think this is a great opportunity for her to wear some really awesome hats without having to deal with hat hair. But I’m an aspirational-life hat wearer.

   2. My mom wore scarves. If she asked for one, then buy something fancy that she’ll want to keep long after, but also buy a fun cotton scarf that will let her head breath on casual days. I would also like to suggest you look into sleeping caps. My mom said her head would get cold when she slept. Several other friends said the same thing. It’s not something most people think of.

8. Another “would you fire your housekeeper for this” question. I came home from work late on the day that housekeeper came and discovered that the cord to my cell phone charger was missing. The plug that attaches to the wall was still there, but the cord was gone. I asked housekeeper about it, and she said she hadn’t seen it either.

   BF found the mangled cord on top of the dust from the vacuum cleaner in the trash. I asked housekeeper about it and she said that she heard a noise but didn’t know what it was. I’m pretty shocked that 1) she would vacuum over cords, 2) she wouldn’t stop to investigate the noise that must have made, and 3) assuming the cord actually went all the way through the vacuum and didn’t get caught (which, idk if that’s even possible), she didn’t notice that there was a freaking mangled cord in the vacuum or the trash when she emptied it. So either she’s lying to me or she’s just incredibly careless.

   I’m really freaked out by and angry about this incident. She could have caused an electrical fire! Not to mention that I had to go back out to find a charger at almost midnight after a very long day at work when all I wanted to do was sleep. And there’s the possibility that she lied to me about her carelessness. I haven’t been overjoyed with the quality of her work, but I’m not that picky so I’ve just kind of figured it’s better than nothing. But I’m really considering asking her to not return after this. Am I making too big a deal out of this?

   1. I’m going to paraphrase your question for you:

      Question: “I don’t trust this person anymore – should I continue to let them into my home?”

      Answer: Nope. Many many people in this world – find a new housekeeper.

      1. You’re paying someone to do a service for you. They didn’t do it correctly and then lied to you about it. Find a new housekeeper.

   2. Yes. It’s a cellphone cord. I don’t see any reason to conclude she lied or was egregiously careless. An electrical fire? From actions that amount to pulling a cord out of the wall? No. Not how electricity works.

      If you want to fire her because you just don’t really like her, fine. But don’t pretend to yourself you were objectively compelled to do so because she practically killed children. Deep breaths and back up chargers are good things.

      1. you have no clue how electricity works. There’s no way an electrical fire would’ve occured due to vaccuuming up an iphone cord that was plugged into a wall.

      2. If there’s no possibility that it could have caused a fire, that makes me feel better. When I saw the cord, though, the plastic casing enclosing the wires had been almost completely stripped and the wires were frayed. I know that the cord was plugged in when she vacuumed over it. Hopefully you’re 100% right and the vacuum pulled the cord out of the wall before the wires frayed. It’s just pretty disconcerting to think that something with exposed, live wires might have been whirring through the vacuum.

         1. You have circuit breakers, don’t you?

         2. They weren’t live wires because the circuit isn’t complete. It’s not the same as transmission lines coming into your house. There was no risk of fire at all. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be annoyed by the situation, but you don’t need to worry about your house burning down from that.

            …says the electrical engineer.

            1. Thanks very much!

         3. Despite what I was taught as a child, they design houses with electrical systems that assume people will occasionally do dumb things.

            Is this a deal breaker? Not at all for me. I’d trust her, ask her to be more careful around cords and move on. If this is a ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ type thing, that’s a whole different issue.

            I will also say- depending on your vacuum, you may not have heard that much noise, especially if it’s a bag-less, won’t lose suction type (I have a Dyson that I’m thinking of). Mine can and has sucked up quite a few big things that made almost no sound while vacuuming something like loose dog kibble sounds awful.

            1. This. Also – I tend to wear headphones when I vacuum and I tend to turn my head when emptying the canister to avoid getting a face full of dust. Could she have been more careful? Yes. Is it totally understandable how this could happen? Also yes.

   3. I think you’re probably overreacting a touch and it wouldn’t have caused an electrical fire, but if you’re not satisfied with her in general maybe you should find someone new. It was careless and she should pay closer attention.

   4. I would assume carelessness over lying. Maybe she really just didn’t notice? Lots of people are oblivious to this kind of stuff (not saying it isn’t annoying).

      If there’s truly a safety concern, I would say talk to her after you cool down a bit. But I’m not understanding how it could have caused a fire..

   5. Yes, I think you’re making too big of a deal. My vacuum makes noise if it vacuums up a penny or a bobby pin or things like that; I usually ignore it. She may not have looked at the contents when she emptied the vacuum cleaner, or didn’t recognize what it was when she emptied it.

      If she’s otherwise been good at her job, it doesn’t make sense to spend the time to look for someone else who may or may not do a good job or be as trustworthy. It’s not a situation likely to repeat itself. It probably feels like a bigger deal than it is because it happened at an inconvenient time for you, but that’s just an unfortante coincidence.

   6. I dunno, it’s, what, a $12 item? I doubt she could have caused a fire, those cords pull right out of the plug. I’m going to vote “not such a big deal.”

   7. OMG, you sound like a horrible person. IT’s a $5 cord that she accidentally vaccuumed. Get over it, I wish people like you couldn’t afford housekeepers, cause it’s obvious that you treat everyone else like garbage.

      I’d be embarrased to be even remotely associated with you. Mother, friend, sister, boyfriend. Get a life.

      1. And you need some Midol. Why is everyone on this board such a b**** today?

         1. +1.

      2. +1 she probably can’t afford an iPhone and doesn’t know what the charger is. Come on.

   8. Yeah, you’re overreacting, but if you don’t like her work much in general, find someone else.

   9. It is very surprising that she did not notice it when emptying the vacuum if it was sitting on top of the trash. Also, a charger cord would make a big ruckus when getting stuck in a vacuum. So it’s hard to believe she had no idea this happened. But it’s possible. Either way, I would not fire someone over this. My housekeeper mangled the vacuum in the fringe of an extremely expensive (heirloom, $10,000+) Persian rug and took it upon herself to just cut the fringe of the rug with kitchen scissors and then not say anything to me about it. I did not fire her over that, but I was very upset. Over the years she has broken things and usually tells me unless it’s dishes or glasses, which on occasion she has just put in the trash and said nothing. But she is really great otherwise, and I trust her with my keys, and everyone I used before was good the first few times, then quality always went downhill. She is very consistent and that is worth a lot.

      I see the cord as on par with the dishes–I don’t think this is a huge deal and she probably is embarrassed about it. If you are otherwise happy with her, and she does a good job at keeping your house the way you want it, I would let this one go.

   10. Oh geez. I would take it easy. Housekeepers don’t make much money. She could have not noticed (back when I was in college and cleaned houses to pay for books, I always wore headphones while I cleaned and vacuumed…I never would’ve noticed if I picked up a pin or cord). Or she could have noticed, and panicked that you’d freak out (and apparently she was right) and was scared of losing her job because she needs the money. Seriously, in the grand scheme of things, you lost 20 minutes of your life to buy a $10 cord…is that worth someone losing their income? I don’t mean to be harsh, just want to put it in perspective. It’s easy to get wrapped up in our super-stressed office lives, and forget other, more pressing, issues.

   11. For me the inconvenience of finding a new housekeeper is not worth the effort in light of this mistake on her part. Accidents sometimes happen and this isn’t a big one in my book. If you otherwise trust her in your house, have otherwise been satisfied with her I would keep her. However, if for you the inconvenience of finding a new housekeeper doesn’t outweigh your anger – time for a new housekeeper.

   12. Anytime there’s a housekeeper/nanny question here I assume it’s going to be someone overreacting to something fairly trivial. I was right this time. I think you are overreacting, but if you don’t like her or don’t trust her, just find someone else. If you don’t, you’ll surely make the both of you miserable by blowing future mistakes out of proportion.

       1. I agree with this. It sounds like there may be other things she does that make it so you don’t trust her. Fire her if you want, but not because if this incident if it’s the only bad thing she’s done.

   13. You are making a far bigger deal out of this than many people (myself included) would. But if you want to fire her, fire her.

       My feeling is that things like the occasional lost cell phone charger cord and broken dish are part of the price I pay for not having to clean my own house. YMMV.

   14. I’m also going to vote ‘overreacting’ – honestly, if this is her job, she’s probably on autopilot doing lots of things. If she was so maliciously hiding it,why did she leave it just on top of the trash for you to find? She probably emptied out the vacuum thing and pulled out some stuff and threw it out without investigating. I mean, you are perfectly within your right to find a new housekeeper for whatever reason you want, but I don’t think this particular incident is worthy of how upset you are.

   15. Do only awful people have housekeepers and nannies? Honestly, you were really freaked out by a damage to a phone charger. And you someone think that can cause an electrical fire.

9. I’m having my staff + SOs and spouses over for dinner and drinks next Friday night. 10 adults total (1 of them a pescetarian) and I need menu help! I don’t want to grill b/c our grill is modestly sized and I think it’d be hard to coordinate so everything was cooked together at the right time — I do, however, have a double oven and a nice big five-burner gas stove, plus I love to cook. I was thinking a big lasagna or something but it’s still in the upper 70’s, sometimes 80’s, around here and that feels too hot for a heavy pasta meal. Suggestions?

   1. Baked salmon with lemon and herbs, crusty french bread, salad, and a good ratatouille? I made one last night (recipe from http://www.thekitchn.com), with in-season veggies from the farmer’s market (eggplant, tomato, peppers, zucchini) and it was AMAZING. I left out the basil and added the fresh herbs I was using with my roast chicken, to complement it. Also, it was awesome because it’s time consuming beforehand (sauteing veggies individually), but then you basically just start simmering all the vegetables together an hour or an hour and a half before you want to eat. Meaning not a lot of involvement when your guests are around.

      Sorry, that was long. But it was a really, really good dinner.

      1. Just a PSA: many, many people despise salmon, so please take that into consideration when inviting guests over. It is a huge misconception that salmon is something everyone likes. I had a friend describe it to me as “the most offensive of all fish”–and I wholeheartedly agree.

   2. My favorite summer entree for company: penne tossed with olive oil and sautéed fresh vegetables. Yes it’s pasta but it is so light and summery especially if you use tons of veggies. I include some combination of tomatoes (sautee them too, just for a bit), baby portobellos, asparagus, red peppers, zucchini and yellow squash, sun dried tomatoes. Can add shrimp too altho it’s delicious vegetarian. I toss with EVOO, shredded fresh basil, fresh cracked pepper and some shredded Parmesan. YUM.

   3. I’d do a big filet of steak, and one of poached salmon. Sides of roasted tomatoes, sauteed zucchini sprinkled with fresh Parmesan while it’s hot, and good bread. Start with an individually plated salad of shrimp, avocado, and grapefruit segments, or nectarines, basil, a little red onion, and mozzarella. For dessert a homemade ice cream cake or trifle.

      Or if you’re going for a more casual feel, tacos. Carnitas, chicken, shrimp, great home made salsa and guacamole, a corn salad, a green salad, starters could be little bite sized crab cakes and bruschetta, and a Carvel ice cream cake with ” go team” frosted on it.

      ETA: those are my picks because I’ve made them all before and am confident in execution and timing. If you’ve never cooked salmon before I wouldn’t pick a team dinner as time to start!

      1. “and a Carvel ice cream cake with ” go team” frosted on it.”

         Let it be known that I want to be invited to team dinner’s at Anne Shirley’s house :)

         (also both of your main meal ideas are fab)

         1. Me, too! Both options sound incredible – and I even hate salmon.

            My manger’s manger recently hosted an event at her home and went the taco route. It was a huge success. Customizable is an easy win for dietary restrictions, and it set the casual tone that she wanted.

   4. Second the salmon idea, either baked or poached and served with pesto. I would make Joy the baker’s heirloom tomato tart (probably x4) http://joythebaker.com/2013/08/heirloom-tomato-tart/, a big salad with fresh veggies, and buy something for dessert.

   5. If you want something pasta-ish but light, Ina Garden has a good recipe for a roasted vegetable orzo that would go well with fish. Or you like the idea of grilled foods, you could even grill veggies before they arrive and put them in a quinoa salad.

   6. I’ve made the farro tomato one-pot dish for guests (from SK) and it’s easy and a hit. Or try a cold farro salad you can make ahead of time.

   7. Make your own Salad Nicoise. Sear your tuna ahead of time, then lay everything out buffet style (boiled colorful potatoes, steamed green beans, capers, nicoise olives, hard boiled eggs, greens, vinaigrette, sauteed/roasted red and yellow peppers if desired). Guests assemble. Everything is prepared ahead of time, so it is easy. Add crusty bread and Carvel ice cream cake if desired.

   8. Make your own Salad Nicoise. Sear your tuna ahead of time, then lay everything out buffet style (boiled colorful potatoes, steamed green beans, capers, nicoise olives, hard boiled eggs, greens, v i n a i g r e t t e, sauteed/roasted red and yellow peppers if desired). Guests assemble. Everything is prepared ahead of time, so it is easy. Add crusty bread and Carvel ice cream cake if desired.

10. Is it worth taking Vit D in adulthood? I live in a region with little sunlight (ie, little opportunity to make Vit D) and recently had my Vit D tested for the first time. It came back normal, but on the low end of the range. I’ve also had my bone density measured twice in the last 10 years and it was in the low end of the normal range. I’m in my early 30’s and in good health. The tests (vit D and bone density) were not for health concerns – they were routine screening or research studies. Should I take Vit D? I know it’s important for bone health, and I know that my bones are past the serious development period – but I also know I’m somewhat borderline.

    I will speak to my doctor about this next month, but I also know there are a lot of health-knowledgeable folks here who could give me some perspective.

    1. I had to have some blood work done this year for unrelated issues and each time, my calcium and Vitamin D came back low. My doctor recommended I take 2000 IU of Vitamin D daily. I am not suggesting you take the same dosage, as I am not a medical doctor — I’m just giving you this information as reference point. I’m also early 30s, FWIW.

    2. The vitamin D recommendations were apparently set in the past based solely upon levels needed for bone health, and more data is coming out every day about the ways that a lack of Vitamin D is or may be involved in a number of diseases, including autoimmune and neurodegenerative disease (which is my personal area of interest). (Things like working indoors, wearing sunscreen, and eating less fish all impact Vitamin D levels and may all contribute to a rise in these lifestyle diseases). The “learned” consensus is that Vitamin D recommendations are probably too low. That said, there isn’t a consensus as to where they should be re-set. The average doctor is not likely to be up to speed on this – even those that practice in the disease areas where most of the research is being done.

       All that to say, it’s worth doing your own investigation, and your doctor may not be up to date on the latest.

       Check out vitamindwiki and the Vitamin D Council for more information. They have their biases, but offer lots of links to the scientific research.

    3. Vitamin D impacts a lot more than just your bone development. Google it: a deficiency can cause depression, anxiety, increase cancer risk, etc.

    4. Anecdata: I was prescribed 30 days of Vitamin D around the dosage Duchess was, followed by a lower maintenance dosage, because my level was about zero. I felt markedly less exhausted on the vitamin.

       Also, I recently saw an article reporting on a recent study that linked Vitamin D deficiency to Alzheimer’s. Not a doctor, do your own research, but it was compelling to me.

    5. Thank you, all! Great food for thought.

       1. PS – an easy way to up your Vit D is to spend time outside without sunscreen, until the point where you start to get pink. On a sunny day in the summer at mid-US latitudes, it may take as little as 15 min to get 10,000 IU. In the winter at mid-US latitudes there isn’t enough sun to get any IU’s (which is why many diseases have peak activity in the winter).

11. 2 career related TJs:
    (1) Would it be considered impolite to email a contact who also knows the hiring manager to find out if they already interviewed for a position? In this case my contact was leaving the organization to work elsewhere, and the position in question is in her former group and was partly to replace her i.e. do the work she did plus take on some new projects.

    (2) How do you politely remind someone who agreed to a (phone) appointment but is yet to reply to your email about times they prefer–without sounding pushy?

    1. For (1), I assume you’re interested in the position. Have you applied and not heard back, or are you considering a late application?

       For (2), forward the initial email suggesting dates and say something like “I hope we can still make one of these options work.” Adjust the formality as appropriate for your relationship.

       1. For (1) I applied for the position and have not heard back yet.

          1. Why do you care if they are interviewing someone else? I assume most places interview more than one person for each opening.

12. I know I’m off the posting time-frame here but I’m in need of a referral. A colleague in Mongolia has a relative in Pennsylvania who needs an immigration lawyer. Unfortunately, I don’t know what city the relative is in but assuming it’s one of the big ones or near a university (Pittsburg, Philly, State College) can anyone recommend someone or tell me where to look? I don’t think they have a lot of money but I really have no idea how much this type of thing costs. Will try to repost tomorrow if no one catches this. TIA.

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