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I like the black the best, but there's also a beige and a beige and black version.
The belt is $79 at J.Crew (where they seem to have a lot of cute summer dresses on sale).
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Chl
Does anyone else read the NYTimes on their kindle? I just reached my subscription cut off and I am so bummed. I loved reading it on my kindle everyday and I just really don’t want to read it on my phone. Is it correct that there’s no way to get it now?
Ellen
I think you have to pay for it. Otherwise, you can’t get free news any more. I pay alot of money for the NYTimes, but I also have a print subscripton, so I can’t complain to much. Men love it when I tell them I play Wordle every day on the NYT App, and I am generally smarter then the men who like to nuzzle up to me at the Lambs Club.
Anon
Does anyone who carries a knife hiking or backpacking have good recommendations for a knife? I have a small multi-tool, but it is not good for cutting summer sausage (etc.). I bring a good knife for cooking when I go car camping, but that doesn’t seem to be a good hiking choice. I feel like I need something with a bit more heft but nothing in the Rambo department. Folding blade.
Anonymous
My BF carries a folding fillet knife. It could definitely cut a sausage. I can’t help you with a brand as I don’t touch it and he has left for the week and it is undoubtedly riding around in his pocket today.
Anon
Opinel
Anonymous
My advice…go into a local camping/outdoors store, go to the knife counter, and talk to someone.
We went in clueless about something for a gift and the person behind the counter for that thing was absolutely awsome in helping us get the best thing that would fit the recipient’s need.
Anon
I have a folding Opinel that lives in my travel bag. i think it’s this one: https://www.mec.ca/en/product/0902-080/traditional-%238-stainless-steel-knife
Ellen
You can’t carry these on the subway. I prefer a can of mace to protect me against weirdos who I see around midtown at night. FOOEY on them!
Mmg
A small gerber knife.
Anon
Thanks all for your advice on my family’s first go-round with COVID. My husband tested positive on Tuesday, my daughter on Wednesday, I had symptoms starting Friday but didn’t test positive until Saturday night. Husband and I both started taking Paxlovid immediately. I just took my day 3 AM dose.
Husband and daughter feel all better now, though are following CDC guidance about masking for 5 days.
I feel like hot garbage. I bought all the meds you guys recommended but I feel like none of them are really going to make me feel better – I just feel so, so tired. But not sleepy tired. Just like my body is spent.
My husband is annoying the crap out of me with his constant demand to know why I still don’t feel better when he felt lots better on day 4. He’s probably just worried about me but honestly in my mental state right now it’s just grinding on me. I don’t know why I didn’t win like you did at COVID!! (Well I do think I know, I have RA.)
Thank you for letting me vent. If you experienced COVID like this where your head and chest congestion were never that bad but you just felt exhausted, please share and let me know how you got through it and how long it took?
Anne-on
Hi – same situation here when I had it. I’ve got a chronic illness and felt like a hot mess for a good 3-4 days (I recall when even sitting upright on the couch hurt). Tell him it’s like a phone battery – you’re starting on 75% charge and he’s starting at 100%, of course you’re going to hit 0 sooner. My husband was back at crossfit workouts (at our house, not with people) on day 5/the day he finished Paxlovid.
In case it helps you feel like you know what to expect – I felt much better about 7-10 days after testing positive but it took me a solid 2 weeks to get back to normal activity levels.
Anon
This helps so much thank you for sharing!!!
Anonymous
I have no medical issues and was down for two weeks each time I got COVID, so I think it just hits people differently. I also had a man in my life constantly questioning how I could possibly be so sick when it had passed him by in about 36 hours, so I feel you.
Anon
+1 it hits people wildly differently, and anecdotally I think it tends to hit adult women harder than men. My husband barely had symptoms when he had it, but most of my close female friends were knocked out for at least a week. I suspect hormones are a factor, we’re all of reproductive age.
PolyD
I think it hits adult women harder because they are not given the chance to rest properly, between the demands of work, children, and husbands who might not understand.
Just my non medical opinion.
Anon
That certainly might be a factor too! But speaking strictly for my family, we rested the same and it was much, much harder on me.
Anon
Exact opposite for me, I had almost no symptoms and my husband was fatigued for 3 weeks.
Anon
Thanks for understanding my rant!
Anonymous
Fatigue like that was one of my main symptoms. I went back to work (virtually) on day 6 and should not have – I was a hot mess in meetings and should have been resting. Good news is it was a looooot better by day 10 and all the way within a few weeks. I lost a lot of fitness but two months out I have it back. I don’t have an underlying diagnosis like RA though.
Anon
Thank you. Hoping it’s day 10 for me.
Anonymous
Just wait until his Paxlovid rebound.
Anon
Oh god I hope not. The only way I could even get him to take Paxlovid was by showing him a recent study that shows the “rebound” was the same for both Paxlovid and placebo populations.
Anon
Everyone I know who took Paxlovid had a rebound . . .
Anon
I think the point of the study is that everyone you know who didn’t take Paxlovid had a rebound, you just didn’t call it a Paxlovid rebound.
AnonSatOfc
I don’t have any preexisting conditions, but felt like I’d been hit by a train with my first bout in early 2023.
I noticed marked improvement after ~3 days (no longer felt like absolute death/unable to get out of bed for more than a few minutes), ~7 days (improved energy) and ~14 days (felt back to normal.) Hope you continue to feel better!
My husband also felt generally better than I did, though he was one day behind me at all steps… I truly felt sicker than I have as an adult even tho I was fully vaxxed. We did not take Paxlovid or anything other than OTC meds.
Anon
Thank you. You’ve all made me feel better about not being fully recovered by day 4!
BeenThatGuy
I also have RA and COVID took a major toll on my joints. My body was still shot long after my respiratory issues resolved. I hope it’s not the same for you but you should be aware.
Anon
Damn. I had to skip my humira on Saturday. I hope it doesn’t get too bad before I can resume.
roxie
I had brutal post-viral fatigue that lasted two weeks. it was worse than my acute covid symptoms. Nothing works but rest. (and sunshine, vitamins, hydration) – i was too tired to even look at screens, i just laid around and stared out a window. But then it was like a fog lifted and I felt almost totally better quickly. Don’t rush it if you can help it!! good luck.
Anonymous
$79 for something that looks like cheap plastic…
While I like the look, I would pay someone who crocheted to make me one, at least then I could be sure it would last longer than one or two seasons.
Anonymous
I don’t think this looks cheap or like it is made of plastic at all. I also would not prefer it in yarn or whatever would be hand-crocheted. It is raffia and looks like it is raffia.
Anonymous
To each their own…
It looks like cheap plastic to me, and I thought it was plastic until I clicked the link.
Maybe it looks different in person, I don’t know. I do know I would wear crocheted wool (genuine wool, not synthetic yarn) before I wore this.
Anon
Yeah I would haaaate crocheting a material like this.
Anon
+1
I crocheted a few trivets with cheap garden twine sisal a long time ago and it was brutal on my hands. Raffia would be less scratchy than the sisal but not fun by any means. A belt like this would be easy enough but not something I would sign up to make, and I can’t imagine a raffia belt would wear well or last long.
Anonymous
I would never ask anyone to crochet raffia, that would be…odd…to say the least.
I guess i really did need to specify that I meant wool when i said “pay to make me one”…
Anon
Can anyone help me with wording? I’m trying to explain to my mother why it’s so hurtful to hear my extended family tell me things like “You’re lucky you live now.” and “Your grandmother would have never gotten away with that.”
It’s always in response to me having an opinion they don’t agree with, or finding out that my husband does some of the “traditionally female” work, and I’m not bending over backwards to praise him. I always take it as an insult, but she seems to think it’s a compliment. I want to at least try to explain my position to her, as I think about reducing contact at least with my extended family.
Anon
I don’t think it is worth trying to explain this. I personally would say “Yes, I am so lucky that the society has progressed so much.”
Anon
+1
Anon
+2
This is the way.
Save your sanity. Numb yourself.
Anon
+3 – this isn’t worth getting worked up over at all
anonshmanon
I would find that grating too. Obviously you could take them literally and just respond ‘yes, isn’t it amazing that we don’t restrict how men and women have to behave like we used to?’. But I do that enough for fielding BS at work, I don’t care to do that in my personal life.
It kinda sounds like they are judging you for your choices, and this is a thinly veiled expression of that judgement. Understandable to limit contact imo.
Anon
What are you ultimately trying to accomplish? If you want to reduce contact, you can just do that. Just stop engaging or giving a care what they think. I wouldn’t get your mom in the middle of it.
Anonymous
Why DO you find it hurtful? Do you feel like it is an attack on your femininity? An attack on your fulfilling their expectations of you as a wife? Or that you are misunderstood as a member of a more recent generation? Or that you are disagreeing on a political issue? Something else?
Moose
To clarify, are these hurtful comments coming from a place of jealousy (and said disdainfully), or are they expressing their disapproval of your marriage dynamics? I think that would change the nature of my response, but either way, what would be hurtful to me is to have to navigate negative/judgmental comments about my relationship to family members, as we would like to have their love and support around our attempts to build a loving and trusting relationship, and overall, it’s a really sensitive subject. And we’d like those closest to us to want to build us up, rather than tear us down, and negative comments like these are not constructive criticism/tough love/genuine concern, they just make you feel like you have to defend your marriage, which is never a good feeling.
Moose
If you can relate to these thoughts I’ve shared, feel free to use them. But once you’ve tried to explain your feelings, I wouldn’t expend any more emotional energy trying to get your mom or other folks to understand why their comments are rude or hurtful, as it will not be productive to do so. Many of the detached responses people have recommended here are great.
Lily
I also find it irritating when people say I’m lucky my husband does his share of the housework and child rearing because that implies it’s not his job as much as my job. Would they say he’s lucky that I do my fair share? No. It’s a double standard. It also implies that he’s a better catch than I am.
But the thing is, when they say these things it’s from a place of jealousy. So personally I wouldn’t be hurt. I’d be annoyed, but would mostly feel bad for them. Assuming they are otherwise good people, I’d probably respond with something like, “yeah, women had it a lot harder back then when they didn’t have as many choices” or “thanks, I agree it’s great that gender norms have shifted.”
anon
+1. My mom says stuff like this, and it is jealously, 100%. Because my dad barely lifted a finger, and they have always had a very traditional marriage that is incredibly restrictive. To her, not my dad.
Anon
I have heard a lot of very weird comments that are likely from a place of jealousy or regret. I can easily imagine being elderly, looking back in life, and being sad/upset/angry/in denial that it didn’t have to be that way.
Anon
It also implies that you just got lucky instead of making a deliberate choice to marry a competent man. I hate that.
Anonymous
I’m married to an extremely competent man, but even I realize there is luck in being born at this point in life. It wasn’t all that long ago when women couldn’t have their own checking accounts. I don’t see comments like those above as an attack on the individual of now but more as anger that it couldn’t always have been this way. The reality is there were plenty of competent men in the past but norms wouldn’t have what we have now. To look at the lens of today and smugly apply it to the past thinking you or your spouse would be so much different isn’t fair either. Honestly, I wouldn’t take the comments personally at all. Not worth the mental energy of trying to read it as a slight and how to respond. I also think the gut reaction to cut someone out of your life over something like this is kind of immature. I’m all for boundaries, but that seems like taking a bomb to a fly. I’d use my words first and tell them your seeing offense and why rather than make presumptions and give no opportunity for redemption.
Anonymous
For the relatives that I used to hear things like that from it was because they found it entertaining to compare people and turn people against each other. My husband was used as either a “see *her* husband does XYZ, why doesn’t yours” or a “her husband is whipped, not like yours…” depending on a multitude of factors that only made sense to them…
Lydia
Agree about the jealousy piece. Or they had to go a certain route and assume it’s
the only / “right” way. Which is just a sad situation.
I like the “have more choices” wording because I’d want to get across “to each their own” – other women could choose to live like it’s the 1950s, but no one should be required to.
Anonymous
I realize this is going to sound petty. I used to hear every variation of those phrases my entire life for similar reasons.
I said something to the effect of “I’m not lucky. I have the women who got tired of ‘never getting away with that’ and fought to make changes to thank for the way I can live my life.”
I also told my mother that her generation is the one who fought for women to be able to do the things I am doing so she can keep her mouth shut, thank you very much.
anon
It says more about how they feel about gender roles in their own lives, though I realize it doesn’t feel good to you. When your mom says that it’s a compliment, I don’t think you need to go into great detail, but it’s fine to say “well, it sure doesn’t feel like one; it feels like they’re picking apart my marriage.”
Anonymous
Idk if anyone has ever said that to me in the context of gender roles, but I hear it a lot re technology. They’re remarking on the fact that they grew up doing things one way – the harder way, or the right/better way – and you wouldn’t be able to hack it in their world. It feels infantilizing and insulting, even when it’s something innocuous; ie “you’re lucky you can file with the court electronically, if you had to file by hand you’d never make the deadline” – in other words I’m a disorganized procrastinator who would blow deadlines if I couldnt e-file, which of course is nonsense especially since the people saying these things are the ones holding up the works.
Comments like that are passive aggressive and they’re intentionally crafted to allow for deniability. I’m sure if you asked them what they meant by that they would act all innocent and say they were merely pointing out how lucky you are, do you disagree that it’s wonderful that you live in today’s world with a husband who cares deeply about you? If your mom is determined not to see it then I’m not sure you’re going to change her mind.
Layla
I reply “yes I am. Women suffered so much back then and I’m glad there are more options now”. Or, “yep it’s different now that women can have their own bank accounts”.
I don’t think you can convince the person saying that that it’s a positive, but if you take it at face value it can be a pretty neutral / factual statement.
Trish
Maybe she feels you don’t understand how hard it was for her.
Moose
Any self-tanner recommendations? I am very, very fair and would love something easy to use and natural-looking. Mostly just want to not be blinding white on my legs on an upcoming vacation.
Anonanonanon
I’ve liked the Jergens daily moisturizer. It’s a little color, fairly even, and acts pretty quickly. Only downside is that it does smell (although you have to be really close to smell it, I think).
Anon
I’ve tried everything and always come back to this one. One day takes the edge off, two days worth gives me a light but believable tan for a week.
I only use it on my legs, by the way. I wouldn’t use it on my face.
Cynthia
+1
Anonymous
This is what the Jergens tanning lotion is best at. Get the one you can put on damp skin in the shower. I find that I am most likely to use it and apply it to my whole legs as part of the shower routine.
Anon
My vote is that it doesn’t matter if your legs are white on vacation. Who cares? If anyone notices, I doubt it will bother them, and if it does, that’s their problem.
Anon
+1 blindingly white and proud. It’s a skin color. It’s not something that needs to be fixed.
OP
I would like to be this evolved, trust me, and usually I give it no mind – but having a little color would make me feel more confident when I’m in a swimsuit nonstop for a whole week. As someone who has had cellulite and a not-great relationship with my thighs since puberty, it’s hard to break those negative thought patterns.
Anon
If self tanner makes you feel better, and it does make me feel better, then go for it! It’s not different than wearing makeup.
Senior Attorney
Just another thought: The thing that has helped me more than anything with my relationships with my thighs has been getting swim shorts to replace the standard bathing suit bottoms. I got these (they are 5″ but they also come in 3″) with a matching bikini top and I’m good to go! https://www.landsend.com/products/womens-5-quick-dry-elastic-waist-board-shorts-swim-cover-up-shorts-print/id_330376?attributes=14593
Anon
Thank you for sharing these. These are great.
Anonymous
Maybe OP cares. If so, my vote is for the Jergens gradual tanning lotion.
Lucille
I like the San Tropez Purity Water Gel. It’s a subtle tan, develops in 3-4 hours lasting 4-5 days, not too smelly and doesn’t stain as it is a DHA/protein-based formula with no “guide colour”. Caution though, as the lack of guide colour means you have to be pretty thorough when you rub it in to make it even.
Anonymous
PSA: I was today years old when I learned you can get audiobooks for free on Spotify. Between that and the library I’m not sure why I ever paid for Audible.
anonshmanon
Wait until you find out about librivox.
PLB
Say more!
Anon8
Wait, how?? I have Spotify premium but the audiobooks just say “you can’t buy audiobooks on Spotify but if you already own a book you can listen to it here”
Anonymous
I just looked up a book in the search and found it – Emily Henry’s Book Lovers.
Anon
You more than likely found a podcast version of the book that a random person (not the publisher) uploaded. When you look for it under the audiobooks category it is locked until you purchase it.
Anonymous
What is the right thing to do when you see a dog in a car with the windows up on a warm day? Do you try to open the doors? Call the police non emergency line? Go into the store to ask them to make an announcement over the PA system (if that’s still a thing)? I was walking into a bigbox store over the weekend and saw a dog in a car with the windows up. I called the local police nonemergency line and they asked me to wait with the car. I waited in my car, where I could still see the dog. The owner came back and left before the police arrived, so I called back the same line and told them she was gone. I didn’t try the doors – what if the car alarm went off, or the dog attacked me, or the dog ran away – and I didn’t confront the owner when she returned. Did I do the right thing? I’m not a dog person at all but I didn’t want to see an animal suffer.
Anon
I’m an animal lover, but I think the right thing to do is mind your own business. Even on a hot day. Deaths in hot cars mainly result from parents who forgot to drop their kids at daycare and left the kid in the car all day. Running into a store for 5-10 minutes isn’t going to cause a dog’s death. I once had someone try to break into my car to “rescue” my dog and although the facts were a little different than your fact pattern (the windows were cracked) it was *extremely* annoying, and I sincerely wish they had minded their own business.
Anon
No, it’s good for bystanders to intervene to save an animal’s life if it’s indicated. Car interiors can get to over 100 degrees very quickly on days you wouldn’t consider that hot.
Anon
This x 100
Anon
It really depends on things like cloud cover and if your car is tinted. My car is tinted and there was no way my car was getting anywhere near 100 that day, even without the windows cracked.
OP
It’s definitely not the type of store you could be in and out of in under 10 minutes, I think I’d have had a different reaction if it was convenience store or similar. Obviously I have no clue how long the dog was there before I arrived, but the owner came back about 20 minutes after I first saw the dog.
Anonymous
Actually, it can easily cause an animal’s death. A car can heat up 20 F in your “10 minutes” to run into a store (https://www.insider.com/guides/health/treatments/how-hot-does-a-car-get-in-the-sun). The reality is car windows don’t break easily and police don’t instantly just show up. So in the time people are hemming and hawing, it can quickly be too late.
There is an easy answer to having “people mind their business” and not try to open your car. Don’t be the jerk putting an animal in that position where it is even getting questioned. There is a whole lot of suffering in that window of “it’s too hot”t before actual heatstroke death. And do you honestly think anyone wants to be the bystander in this scenario? Really? The gall that you somehow think you not only were the wronged party but feel the need to instruct others to act in a similar fashion is beyond the pale.
Anon
+1. Don’t put other people in that position. It’s agonizing for them.
Anon
I think it’s fair to assess the situation, determine whether the dog seems to be in any distress, and see if the owner comes back in a short period of amount of time before doing anything. Even on a hot day, it’s okay to sit in the car for 2-3 minutes while quickly running in to drop something off or pick something off. I’d start to get concerned if it was longer than that if it was very hot, the dog was flat faced, or if it otherwise seemed to be in distress. But I wouldn’t immediately assume that the dog owner was doing something terrible just because they left for a few minutes.
Anon
Yeah, if you can, I would keep an eye on it for up to five minutes before making a call. But I would have no qualms about calling after that point. People do not take dog safety in vehicles seriously enough and it needs to stop.
Anon
Agree with all of this. Definitely don’t try opening the door-
The dog is more likely to get hit by another car than die of heat stroke, and now you’re responsible for its death.
Oh so anon
I would do absolutely nothing and mind my own business. I certainly wouldn’t bother the police about it!
Anon
Yeah I feel like people here must live in very utopian towns where the police don’t have much to do? If you called police in my city about this they would laugh at you. They have real problems to solve.
Anonymous
This is exactly what the non emergency line is for though. No one is saying call 911 because of a dog.
Anon
Haha good luck getting a return call next week on the non emergency number. There aren’t separate emergency and non emergency staff to come out and look at your compliant. The staff are busy on real emergencies.
Anon
+1 even in my small town, if you call the police non-emergency line your call won’t be returned for hours at minimum and more likely days or weeks. It has “non-emergency” in the name, they’re not going to get to it quickly.
Flats Only
You did exactly right. How embarrassing to “save” a dog that then then ran out and got hit in traffic or bit you and had to be put down. Let the pros deal with the actual extraction of the dog from the car.
Anon
No, Karen, you did not. And don’t go calling the cops when you see children, either unless you are in the freaking desert.
Anonymous
What? If you see a baby in a locked car with all the windows up on a warm day you call 911. The child could die. If the parent truly was in the store for “5 minutes” then they’ll be back before the ambulance arrives.
Anonymous
No, we’re not calling someone a sexist slur (1) period (2) for taking action to safeguard the life of another living being.
Anon
Has anyone been on Qelbree for ADHD? It’s one of the newer ADHD meds, so looking for annecdata since no one I know has tried it (or had a kid on it).
Anon
I tried it for my 18 severely year old autistic son. He does ok on Ritalin, but he was having some side effects that concerned the pediatric neurologist. The kindest thing I can say about Qelbree was it was a disaster – he became extremely jumpy and anxious and acted out accordingly. He was also extremely sleepy for the first couple of weeks. I made it clear to the neuro that there was no way the Ritalin side effects could be any more problematic than the Qelbree. Also, I didn’t see any decrease in hyperactivity.
Anonymous
Does anyone have both Sam’s Club and Costco memberships? What things do you get where?
Anon
I have debated this endlessly and now keep a Sam’s membership. I use it for gas (20 cents/gallon savings, usually), canned tomatoes/sauce/paste, canned black beans, flour, sugar, Parmesan cheese, chicken thighs that I grind up for chicken meatballs, paper towels, toilet paper, Pom juice, frozen fruit and goat cheese. Fresh produce is usually cheaper there, but I am not always ready to commit to the quantity required. My list used to be more expansive, but (1) they no longer carry a lot of the items I bought regularly; (2) Walmart now is cheaper than Sam’s for some items; and (3) a ton of their items are no cheaper than my regular grocery store-you really have to pay attention. My membership renews in July, and I will probably drop it and do Costco for a while. My Sam’s membership was $8 during a July 4th sale last year, so keep that in mind, as I think it is a regular offer. That is what really made me go with Sam’s this year.
Sybil
I just recently started going to Sam’s because they had an offer for $10/year, and the fact that they offer pickup and delivery is huge for me. There are still a handful of things that only Costco has and it’s honestly probably worth it to me to maintain both memberships. $60 is worth not having to ask my mom to pick something up every couple months.
anon a mouse
We have Costco, and the discounts on car rentals and contact lenses alone justify keeping it year after year.
Anonymous
We have costco and use it especially for beans, tomato sauce, chicken breast, diapers, soda water, paper towels, and gas. Also picked up some great items from their random selection of other stuff. They have some great basic clothes for my husband too.
Cerulean
Our crank neighbor just texted my husband and said we “need” to cut down our native grasses in the front yard. They’re in a deliberately landscaped bed, it’s not like we just let our lawn go wild and wooly (and lots of our neighbors have similar landscaping to ours). Her yard is of the planet killing golf course variety with perfectly sheared boxwood and zero charm. And we verrrrrry strongly suspect it was she who mowed over our wildflower patch while we were away at work a few years back; this pretty much confirms it.
Anon
Oh, how horrible about the wildflower decapitations….
I would just reply with the simple truth.
“No. They are in a deliberately landscaped bed. Please leave them as they are.”
Anon
And I would turn your doorbell camera onto your grasses….
Cerulean
Apparently my husband texted back that he’ll “take a look” and his plan is to promptly forget the request was ever made. That will be our response if she asks in-person!
Anon
ha ha
Anon
Text back “Unsubscribe”. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Anon
I would ignore her text and pretend you didn’t get it or see it. Also, bad move giving your number to your nutty neighbor!
Anon
This. It’s a losing game to even consider playing.
Cerulean
She got my husband’s number from another neighbor!
Anonymous
Under these circumstances I wouldn’t ignore her, she seems the type to “help” a neighbor by cutting their grass for them.
Explorette
As evidenced by her already mowing the wildflowers! I’d text back and say “We looked at it and that is how they are intended to look.” Any further response from her would lead me to tell her to mind her own gd business, she landscaped her lawn the way she wanted, and you have landscaped your lawn the way you want.
Auntie
How much do you care about photos of other peoples babies?
I’m in a group chat where one person recently had a child and sends pics of the
baby almost every day. First off, I’m obviously not going to say anything to the people sending them. I’m just thinking out loud to this anonymous group.
I like Tiktoks of cute babies but I realized I hadnt watched or reacted to the last couple days worth of short baby videos. Tbh I think I would be more interested once the kid is old enough to do things other than . . . blink
Anon
I like baby pictures but I do not like pictures of babies smeared with food.
Anon
Most babies are actually sort of ugly until they’re at least a few months ago old. I obviously don’t tell their parents that, but definitely zero interest in frequent pics of new babies, unless they’re with happy parents or curious pets.
Anon
That I’m not related to? 0%
Of my nieces and nephews? Sure I like to see them.
That I send of my daughter? 5+ a day (yes, I’m a huge hypocrite. In my defense, it’s a separate text thread that family members specifically signed up for and can mute)
Anon
I like seeing pics of other people’s babies but I get all kinds of group texts that I’m not interested in and I ignore. You’re free to do the same.
Anon
I care 0% about photos of most people’s babies. Assume the recipient doesn’t want them unless they specifically asked for pictures. When my male coworkers assume I love babies despite never indicating this I find the photos actively annoying.
Anonymous
+1
anon
+1
anon
+3. I don’t mind seeing them occasionally if they are children of my close friends, but besides that, I don’t want to see anyone’s children and I also never send pics of my own kids (other than to my immediate family and in-laws).
towelie
friends’ babies? only a little bit. The occasionally instagram post suffices.
my niece/nephew is almost daily but it’s a small family group chat and there’s no pressure to respond back each time
Anon
I have zero interest in strangers’ babies. I like seeing photos of my close friends’ babies (who I think of as my nieces and nephews) although once a day is a bit much, especially once they’re no longer infants. We never shared regular photos with anyone other than the grandparents.
I used to feel like you – that babies are way more interesting as they get older – but now that I have kids I actually find daily photos more reasonable in the very early days. They change so much the first year and the difference between, say, 5 months and 6 months is huge. A kid who is 3 years and 1 month looks exactly like they will at 3 years and 2 months; there’s absolutely no need for daily photos at that age.
Anonymous
I am so confused – can anyone explain this to me like I’m 5? I have a health insurance company and they use Express Scripts for pharmacy things. So would I need my insurance company or Express Scripts (or both) to cover a drug? Would there be two separate prior authorizations, or are they sequential? Why are there two formulary lists, my insurance company and Express Scripts?
(Looking into the GLP-1 meds for obesity/weight loss if anyone has any tips…)
Healthcare in Texas
I think it depends on the medication. In my plan, if it’s a standard medication, you ask the insurance company and they will tell you (and you can buy it wherever you want, thought it can be cheaper from ExpressScripts). If it’s a very expensive “specialty” drug, then the ExpressScripts people get involved to approve/deny and you can buy it only from ExpressScripts. At least, this is the way it works for us.
Anon
Injectables are often covered by specialty pharmacy, which can be an entirely separate group from your normal pharmacy benefits manager (express scripts, in your case). They have a completely separate process. Haven’t dealt with obesity drugs, though, so I can’t say for sure…
Anon
My insurance company covers prescriptions at my local pharmacy, but I can’t get a 90 day supply of my daily med unless I order it through Express Scripts.
Anon
Express scripts is doing this on behalf of your insurance company. For routine drugs this should be fine.
If you’re on a complicated, expensive drug, it may be outside Expeess Script’s authority and they will have to refer it to your insurer.
Anon
I have Express Scripts. I recently got knee injections. The doctor ordered them via my health insurance, but the (and the approval) was through Accredo (which is part of Express Scripts). The process was super annoying and the doctor had to approve twice and I had to approve the cost twice (and there was never any question of it not being covered).
Anonymous
Express Scripts is a mail order pharmacy that can send you stuff. They have a list of run of the mill meds they can send you. They can’t send you specialty meds, you need to have your prescription sent to another pharmacy that can handle it.