Coffee Break: Woven Clutch

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1. Anyone live near a pickleball court? We just went to an open house and were warned off of similar houses closer to the park where the pickleball courts are – apparently there are massive fights and an actual lawsuit underway complaining about the incessant noise. I think we’re already convinced not to consider the houses closest to the park but curious if others have come across this and found the noise truly that bad.

   1. so my inlaws neighbors at their beach house have a pickleball court. it is quite noisy. when i am there visiting and try to sit reading by the pool it can be annoying, though eventually i guess i get used to it and it becomes background noise, but this is only one pickleball court. if it was many/multiple i think it would be super super annoying, especially if it was an area where people played pickleball at night

   2. This is so bizarre, is it a poor neighbourhood where the unsavoury types congregate at the pickleball court? It’s a very bougie hobby in my neighborhood and people (mostly older folks and SAHM) are very serious about booking their times, but like it’s just a competitive sport, no violence.

      1. they mean fights about the noise pollution, trying to set more restrictive hours, etc., not physical fighting at pickleball. at least that’s the case in the burbs by me!

      2. ‘massive fight’ means emotionally angry people about the noise and lights, not literal fistfights on the courts :)

         1. LOL, I image the well-off elderly folks at my neighborhood pickle ball courts getting into a brawl over a game… That would be a sight to behold.

            1. Lol

      3. “Poor neighbourhood where the unsavoury types congregate” omg, please reframe your thinking on this and all things.

         1. You’re not wrong, but neighborhoods are definitely saliently different even if we reframe how we talk about it.

            1. Way to miss the point.

         2. Agree, ugh

      4. They’re talking about noise from the ball hitting the court, not “unsavory types” congregating at the court.

   3. yes, the ‘pop’ noise made by the ball is very distinctive and really carries. Avoid.

      1. Agree. If you’ve ever lived with or near kids that love to play basketball, and that noise annoys you (the ball bouncing repetitively, specifically, not the kids having fun!), then pickleball will be 10000x worse.

         1. lol my husband and I work from home next to a kid who loves the basketball hoop. we call it “basketball hour” and it’s like daily. (honestly i’m impressed he’s so dedicated but it’s sooooo annoying.)

            1. SAME! I never know when it’s hit 2:30 or 3pm…until I start hearing the basketball. They’re having a ball, literally, and I just try to tune it out. Kids make noise, rich old people playing pickleball make noise, dogs bark, the world keeps turning lol

      2. I don’t live near a court or play the sport, but this is what a friend says who does. She never commented when the court was a tennis court and she says that was fine. But she says the pop of the pickleballs is annoying enough to keep her inside and consider moving.

      3. 100% this. DH and I live next to a neighborhood park that added two pickleball courts and suddenly our street was flooded with Karens who clearly did not live in the neighborhood and caused a lot of “unsavory” behavior, IMO… y’all wanna see someone get SUPER heated, try and take “their” pickleball court. I was WFH during that time, and it drove me NUTS, and was so loud that people on my Zoom calls could hear it! TL;DR, the neighborhood group banded together and was able to get the courts converted to other activities. RUN FAR AWAY from any real estate within earshot!

   4. For me the benefits of being near the park would outweigh the downsides of the noise

   5. Do a little bit of research on the number of sound events in an hour of pickle ball and I think your decision will make itself. It’s not constant sound like a fan, more like water dripping but at a faster pave and louder. And also, of course, players shout. You will easily find articles on the multiple lawsuits and complaints.

2. Has anyone had a FWB situation? How do you stay emotionally unattached? Was it fun or did it just complicate your life? I’m considering one with a friend and trying to decide. We don’t work together at least ha.

   1. I much prefer an AWB situation.

      1. had to google it to come up with acquaintances… i can see that, but at a certain point you have to get to know them to trust them in your bed, right?

         1. Somewhat. Doesn’t mean they are a friend. It’s not for everybody, though.

   2. for me it doesn’t work with an actual friend. If I like someone’s personality enough to be friends with them, AND they’re someone I want to garden with.. I’m gonna catch feelings and want to date them.

      It worked when I didn’t actually like their personality or they had other obvious dealbreakers but we had good chemistry. Obviously don’t recommend if you’re also trying to find a spouse etc. – it’s just a distraction – but it’s right for some phases in life!

   3. Yes, he was kind of a twat of a human, but really hot. Fundamental incompatibility meant I couldn’t catch feelings, but damn he was good looking.

   4. Yes and it was fun. Just elect not to develop feelings. You’re in charge of your emotions, not the other way around.

      1. You and I live very different lives. The feelings happen to me, and I decide what to do with them, but goodness knows I don’t get to decide what emotions I’m feeling. Best I can do is try and create an environment conducive to the feelings I would like to experience and hope.

   5. Yes; you can try but you will fail; it’ll complicate your life.

   6. Yes, but I was acquaintances not friends. The thing to consider universally with FWB is that you need to be honest about your desire to be in a relationship with this person. I like my FWB person and would remain “friends” with them but I don’t want to be in a relationship with them. If either of you start down the relationship behavior path, then it becomes complicated.

   7. I did a bunch on college. No regrets. As long as you are clear on what it is/isn’t (and why it’s not more), and you are both on the same page, I think it can be a lot of fun

   8. Yes, running for more than a decade now (with obvious lulls as either/both of us have been partnered over that time) and the only reason it works now, for me, is because I’ve reached a point where I recognize that I have feelings for him obviously – wouldn’t want the WB part otherwise – and also I’m clear eyed that this is all it will ever be. It took years to get here.

3. I just read that Bill Ackman donated $10k to the GoFundMe for ICE agent Ross, who shot Renee Good. This is very clearly, once again, Ackman encouraging strengthening a police state to suppress speech. I can’t imagine having “F U money” and literally using it to F the American people.

   1. TBF a lot of money is spent on exactly this.

   2. He said he also was trying to donate to the fund for Renee Good but it closed too early??? Like sir you can courier a check to her widow just fine.

4. Please, please pay attention to what’s happening in Minneapolis. I kind of can’t believe how little national news coverage we’re getting.
   Multiple members of the MN AG office quit today after being pressured to find something to accuse Renee Good’s widow of.
   They are kidnapping minors from their retail jobs.
   ICE is targeting a local, well-known restaurant (owned by a white couple FYI) after they gave away meals this weekend.
   follow mprnews on instagram at the very least. It is really, really bad here.

   1. NYT has an article on the best bagels in NYC higher than any news on this. It is not OK.

      1. It’s the top story on nytimes.com for me.

         1. Me too. It all over my news (both NYT and other sources; if your algorithm is not showing it that might be a settings issue for you).

         2. It’s top for me (but I’m all over this). But I agree with OP- I cannot believe it took so long for them to publish this article, and don’t think it’s getting nearly enough attention.

            For days the entire issue, including the shooting, was way down the page. I care about Venezuela, I care about the protests in Iran, but I care about both issues less than this.

   2. I feel like the national news won’t shut up about it, if that helps.

      1. Disagree. I’m an avid digital newspaper reader (but not social media for news) – I’m scanning NYT, my local city news, WSJ, all day. In the last 24 hours, I’ve seen a lot about Jerome Powell, Iran, this morning’s inflation report, Supreme Court. Very little, and nothing above the fold, about Minneapolis or Renee.

         1. It’s literally top of the NYT right now.

            I wouldn’t expect the WSJ to focus on it because it has a very limited nexus to Wall Street, and WSJ has a narrower focus than other national papers.

   3. Thanks, agreed, i have realized that joining all the right Reddit forums is doing me more good than my (paid at that) subscriptions to multiple “serious” news outlets!

      1. Curious – which are these Reddit forums? Thanks!

         1. News and politics are quite good. Local subs to MN and Minn are also covering in a different way.

      2. There is no way being on Reddit is doing you any good!

         1. not sure about this; subreddits can have wildly different cultures than the reddit hivemind!

   4. I’m so sorry about what’s going on, but FWIW it’s the top three 3 stories (the prosecutor resignations, the presence of ice, the targeting of Somalis) on my NYT front page.

      1. Same. Earlier today the best-bagel story was the first one in the right-hand column, where lighther stories usually are featured. The lawsuit brought by Illinois and Minnesota was the third item in the WaPo daily newsletter.

   5. It was the Minnesota U.S. Attorney’s office who had six prosecutors resign, not the AG’s office. I’m not trying to be pedantic. The difference matters because they are (according to “sources,” but I am hearing the same from inside the courthouse) protesting the federal government’s (their employer) directives.

      The Minnesota Attorney General filed a lawsuit against Noem, along with the Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul.

      1. This is a really important distinction. Thanks for clarifying!

   6. Small corrections — it was attorneys from the United States Attorney’s Office (part of the US department of Justice and a federal agency) that were pressured to find some charges. It wasn’t the MN AG’s office (a state agency), headed by a democrat. It’s depressing how little news this is all getting.

   7. It’s currently the top three stories on my NYT too, but it does feel like they’ve been a little slow to pick up on it. For the last however many days it seems like it’s just been story after story about their interview with Trump. I’m in MN, so paying attention and seeing a lot of news elsewhere, but I do agree that the NYT in particular has been slow on this one.

   8. Has there been a lack of coverage? I’ve heard/seen stories from national outlets and public media in my area. And my small town local rag that generally isn’t worth lining a bird cage with had multiple front page stories on the situation this morning.

5. Yikes – looked at Bluesky and threw down the phone in disgust, then looked at the NYT to see the exact same stories and footage. (Except for the bit that the ICE agents are robbing people also? Phones, cash, groceries?!?) Some people on Bluesky were saying they’re trying to push people to get to martial law.

   Here’s my question: who is the leader of the resistance? There are too many voices. Who has some greater strategy beyond reactionary at this point? It sure AF ain’t Chuck Schumer or any elected official.

6. For the person who was seeking a real estate agent in Northern Virginia — contact Mitchell Schneider. He is nearing retirement, so he may be able to speak your elderly relative’s language. He is very experienced in the region, and can provide expert advice as well as list and sell the property for the appropriate price. Good luck!

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