Our Commenting Policy

commenting policyWe’ve gotten a lot of e-mails lately from ladies who think they’ve been banned if their comment is marked for moderation or if it doesn’t appear immediately. As a reminder: WordPress will automatically approve most comments, particularly if you’ve posted before, but it may be held for moderation if:

  • your post includes hyperlinks (spammers use ’em)
  • your post (or any information in it — e-mail address, domain name, etc.) involves bad words (we’ve got a little list of language that we’d rather know about before it goes on the blog — so everyone keep your hate speech and sexually-charged commentary to a minimum, s’alright, ladies?)
  • other comments that WordPress decides for inexplicable reasons to hold for moderation. (Do not taunt happy fun ball.)

We have not personally “banned” anyone’s comments, and in general we approve all comments unless they are a) spam or b) an empty shill for someone else’s product or blog (without any legitimate comment on the post or discussion at hand).  (However:  yo, we have a day job, and it may be 2 or more hours before we can moderate comments.)  (If your comment does not appear within 12 hours, though, please send us an e-mail — it may have been marked as spam, which goes into a different filter that we almost never check.)

We discourage commenting under different names, particularly in the same thread. Users who do this may find themselves moved to our “manually moderate” list.

In general, though, play nicely, s’alright guys?  We want this to be a nice place. (And yes, we know that we have to find a nice spot to put this commenting policy.)

Regarding product links in the comments: We reserve the right to convert any recommended link in the comments into an affiliate link, if one exists (either manually or through software).  (Meaning: If you recommend product X and store Y, we won’t change X or Y at all.)

(Pictured:  silence, originally uploaded to Flickr by CRASH:candy.)


  1. Lol. What’s with the “s’alright” and “yo” language all of a sudden?

  2. I often get a “You are posting comments too quickly. Slow down.” message (regardless of how long it has been since I previously commented, how long it has been since the post, or (for replies to others) how long it has been since the comment appeared). Occurs in both IE and Chrome. My comment is simply erased rather than held for moderation. Anyone else?

    • It’s pretty common. I see it at least once a week, and it’s never when I add two comments in succession. It actually just popped up when I tried to post this comment.

    • happens to me all the time :(

  3. yes, also just got it here. really annoying.

  4. I’ve had comments just never show up at all, even though they had no objectionable language or links, and weren’t marked for moderation at the time I tried to post.

  5. Chicago K :

    I haven’t seen the above issues, but I usually get the “Marked for Moderation” note if I’ve typed more than a few paragraphs. I assumed longer comments might be interpreted as spam? I will give you due credit Kat, I usually see my comments appear right away, although I’ve noticed others comments showing up much later and in between one I’ve made.

  6. anonymous :

    Is there a reason that my comments keep getting marked for moderation? It just happened again. It is extremely annoying. Well, if you’re not interested in my thoughts ….

  7. This is a challenging subject. It can go either way. Honesty is always the best policy. It’s not something that should be asked in the interview/hiring process, but I would agree that disclosing it after the job is offered is at least courteous.
    Work from home positions are perfect for this situation, and works wonderfully once the child is born, especially for flexibility. Our company offers work from home positions and it works great for me.

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