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Workwear sales of note for 3.24.23:
- Ann Taylor – 40% off everything
- Athleta – 20% off shorts, swim, linen & more
- Banana Republic Factory – 40% off everything; extra 15% off purchase
- Boden – Up to 50% off
- Brooks Brothers – Clearance styles to 70% off. Some pretty serious markdowns!
- Express – 40% off dresses & tops
- J.Crew – 25% off your purchase; up to 50% off special-occasion styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 50% off everything; extra 15% off 3 styles; extra 20% off 4 styles; extra 50% off clearance
- Sephora – Up to 50% off select beauty
- Talbots – 25% off select styles; 25% off markdowns
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Me personally, I’m springing for the sequined kitty ears. Marked down to half price — now only $645! http://www.net-a-porter.com/product/323377
It will wow in your party portfolio!
I’m wondering if anybody bought them. At full price.
I know, right?
Although I would totally pay, say, $25 for them. They would have looked totes adorbs with my Cirque du Soleil sequined tank top for NYE.
And on Sequin Friday!
Amazingness! For that price, you should be able to wear them every day. until. you. die (it’s all about cost per wear).
Who would pay that when you can by the same thing at Claire’s or Accessorize for $10?
Reminds me of those LV bunny ears that were a huge hit a few years ago. I’m all for whimsical party accessories, but they shouldn’t cost more than the rest of my outfit combined.
I always carry a clutch in my pajamas.
This morning I shot an elephant in my pajamas.
How he got into my pajamas, I’ll never know…
/ Groucho Marx
Thanks folks. She’ll be here all week, remember to tip your waiter.
in Alabama, tuscaloosa
Research, Not Law
Yes, that would make a ‘statement’. LOL!
The way that belt is looped over, I’d minus 500 fashion points. It just looks so bad and distracting.
Regular poster incognito
Have any of you dealt with a stress fracture of the lower leg? My doc is “99% certain” that is what I have, though he’s sending me for MRI to confirm.
I’m stressing about it. I travel a lot for work, am on my feet doing presentations, etc. I don’t know how I could possibly do 4-6 (or sometimes 12-16) weeks of rest. If you’ve had a tibial stress fracture, is that what it took?
I had a stress fracture and, yes, unfortunately…. it took even longer than that for me. You are supposed to STAY OFF the leg, which was incredibly difficult for me, being a single person living alone. I got the stress fracture from running and I also kept thinking I was healed enough to run… and then finding out I wasn’t. I think you have to be really really serious about staying off the leg for the prescribed amount of time (i.e. try not to even go to the grocery store!), otherwise you will end up prolonging the injury like I did. =( Sorry, I know that’s not what you wanted to hear.
OMG noooooooo!!!!!! (but thank you for responding)
I got the whole lecture about how if I didn’t stay off it I would end up with a complete fracture. I assume that’s the same message you got?
Yes, I got the same lecture.
I have no idea if this would work for a fracture but I know an attorney that had to stay off one leg for weeks and he got this knee scooter thing. You stand on your good leg and kneel the bad leg on the scooter and then just ride around. It folds up so it is less cumbersome than a ride on electric scooter or wheelchair. It is also much cheaper. He also had an arm injury so regular crutches were out for him. Here is a picture of one: http://on-the-move-mobility.com/
It might not be as bad as you’re fearing. I had them in both legs (from running), but I guess they were not that severe, because “staying off” of them just meant not running for about 6 weeks. Which sucked, because running is one of the few exercises I truly enjoy, but I was still able to walk to the dog for short distances, do my regular errands, etc. Do you have pain while walking/standing? I never did (just while running or if I pressed on my shin).
I had the same. Fractured one leg running a VERY hilly 10k that I was not quite as trained up for as I should have been. I could walk around just fine and generally no pain, but it look a couple of months before I could run again without any pain. (It also didn’t help that I would try to run, thinking it must be healed because it wasn’t hurting, and then trying to run through the pain for a while…)
Thank you. Yes, I have pain when I’m not walking or running. It keeps me from going to sleep at night sometimes, which is why I finally went in to the doctor. It doesn’t hurt that much when I walk unless I walk a long way, but after I reach my destination, it kind of throbs. Running has been out of the question for a while. I’ve never really been a runner but I walk a lot.
I went sale shopping yesterday – I may have been the only New Yorker in midtown Manhattan – and had to report back to the team.
Macy’s in Herald Square has remodeled their women’s shoe department, and it’s not good, at least not for my purposes. The shoes are arranged across an entire floor in distinct brand clusters. So if you’re looking for black ankle boots with no specific brand in mind, you have to walk an entire city block.
I’ve always had a recon method of shoe shopping, where I scan the floor for what I like, and then try them all on at once. The new setup at Macy’s makes that impossible, unless you’re really good at memory games (or carry them with you, I suppose). I ended up seeing a few things I liked, but could not remember exactly where they were and could not cope with walking through it all again. Not only did I walk out without buying anything, I walked out without trying anything.
I stopped by DSW on 34th St and got a pair of simple Nine West ankle boots on sale, so all was not lost. But I’m stumped where to go now. I miss Endless for online shoe shopping, and now I miss Macy’s for IRL shopping. Where do you all go for the basics when you want a wide selection?
They have basically that same setup at the Macy’s in downtown San Francisco, which is why I almost never buy shoes there. Also, my experience is if I ask to try on something in my size (10 or 41) they almost never have it, but they’ll bring me a 8 1/2 “just to try on.” You’re better off at Nordstrom, I think.
Yes, so annoying! The WC Macy’s is definitely smaller but moderately better organized. I seem to have better luck there than in SF. And then you get Yogurt Park as a bonus.
Gail the Goldfish
It is one of the great failings of NYC that we do not have a Nordstrom in Manhattan. Nordstrom Rack, yes, but no Nordstrom :-(
Yeah my friend and I discovered that at Macy’s Herald Square when we were there in December. You can only try on in one area at a time so it takes forever, especially if it’s busy.
I routinely pick up the shoes and carry them with me as I walk through the store. The salespeople usually look a little annoyed, but there’s no other way I can figure out how to get what I need.
I haven’t lived in NYC for years, but I used to like Lord & Taylor when I needed a department store. Bloomingdale’s and Macy’s were too crowded with tourists, and Saks/Barneys/Bergdorffs were too expensive for simple basics.
I hate that setup at Macy’s in D.C. as well, especially on the clothing floors. Good luck finding a pair of black pants when everything is set up by brand.
anyone in NYC have a restaurant rec for a pre-theater dinner on saturday?
i have reservations at triomphe based on a combination of proximity and pretty good yelp reviews, but i’m not married to it. theater is on 45th between 7th & 8th.
we’re seeing glengarry glen ross, which i’m really excited about despite the mediocre reviews it’s been getting.
Just a few suggestions: Nizza (9th Ave. between 44th & 45th), Bocca di Bacco (9th Ave. between 44th & 45th), 44 & X (10th Ave. & 44th), Esca (9th Ave. & 43rd — have never eaten here, but it’s supposed to be good), Hell’s Kitchen (9th Ave. & 47th).
There’s also a bunch of Thai in the Hell’s Kitchen area. Wondee Siam III is my personal fave (on 10th Ave. & 46th). If you’re into Ethiopian, I like Meske on 47th & 10th Ave.
esca sounds fantastic – too bad i waited this long to look into something, they’re booked. working my way through the rest now – thanks!
If you want hearty French provincial fare, I’d go to Pergola des Artistes. The owner Chris is super-nice, and Grandmere often takes a seat at the bar. She’s in her late 80s, IIRC, and often wears a sequinned newsboy cap and is super charming.
252 W 46th St, New York 10036
(Btwn Broadway & 8th Ave)
sequined newsboy cap…love it.
Becco is great if you like Italian food!
I also like Bocca di Bacco for Italian, Rio & You (45th btw 8th & 9th) for sushi/Japanese, Empanada Mama (9th & 49th-ish?) for casual Latin American, and Q2 (52nd & 9th) for Thai.
Have fun! I live nearby and caught Al Pacino coming out after a performance of Glengarry one night. Would love to see the show before it ends.
I would try Marseille at 44th and 9th… the last couple of times I’ve been there it has been wonderful! Nice atmosphere, good wine list, and great food… have fun!
Anon for this
Pregnancy/OB treadjack — I’m ten weeks pregnant, and I’m not sure about my OB’s office. The issue I have with them is scheduling. They are really inflexible about scheduling — they never have early morning or lunchtime appointments available, and instead will just dictate “we have Tuesday at 2:40.” They are very close to my office (which is why I picked them), so I can duck out quickly without missing much time at work, but it’s still annoying. The latest one that’s bugging me, though, is that they won’t schedule the NT scan (12 week ultrasound) until the day before. I have to travel a lot and I am often getting jammed up with meetings, so I really need to know when it is so I can protect the time. When I asked about it, their attitude was just “relax, don’t worry about it.” Am I being unreasonable here? Is this how most OBs offices are? And if I do decide to switch, any advice on finding a doctor’s office that is NOT like this? (And just in case — any recommendations on a good OB within walking distance of Boston’s financial district?)
I work in the financial district, but I go see my OB at MGH and absolutely love her and the practice. The front desk is very busy but always very nice and helpful, and they really try to accommodate schedules and time changes if possible. The great thing about the MGH OB practice is that they have appointments very early in the morning – I think as early as 7:30 am, so if you did not want to miss work that is an option. I’m sure they have lunch appointments too. If you’re wondering, my OB is Dr. Khachadorian and she is fantastic. I’ve also seen a few other OB doctors there and everyone has been fabulous.
Also, to answer your question, my appts are always booked well in advance (never the day before, that is strange!). And I’m always given a ton of different times when booking my next appt.
Ditto, I use the same practice and see Dr Riley (she has many of the high risk patients), and they are GREAT, schedule far in advance, etc. However, they do tend to run late (but that may just be Dr Riley, not sure).
Just to add a counterpoint re: the Vincent OB practice at MGH – I had a pretty terrible experience with them after a miscarriage. They were great when I was pregnant with my first child, but I switched after the bad experience (actually multiple bad experiences rolled into one giant bad experience, but I won’t get into details because it still pains me to even think about it). I saw Dr. Huang there, who is absolutely fantastic, but he is no longer at MGH. Also be warned that there are about 20 doctors in the practice, so it’s fairly likely that you’ll get a doctor you’ve never seen for your delivery. (I lucked out and Dr. Huang was there for my daughter’s birth, but that was total dumb luck.) I always waited a long time for my appointments, and I did not like the front desk staff.
My second OB is in Brookline (had my son at BWH, which was fabulous), so it’s not convenient for you. I was working in the financial district and just drove there for appointments. In case you’re interested, my doctor was Ashley Ackerman at Commonwealth OB/GYN and I *loved* that practice. Only 4 doctors, very personal, great receptionist.
And as another counterpoint – I didn’t really care that “my doc” wasn’t there for the birth. I was just focusing on getting the baby OUT by that point. ;)
Have heard great things about the Brigham docs, but I’m not sure if they have a downtown outpost.
I’m so sorry that you had a bad experience. I had a miscarriage as well and everyone at MGH was nothing but incredibly kind and compassionate. In fact, I started sobbing on the phone several times while on the phone with the front desk and nuraes and everyone was very sweet. I also had a call with a social worker there after my miscarriage and it was very helpful to talk to her. Incidentally, my OB was also Dr. K (like Two Cents) and she is exactly the kind of doctor I wanted when going through a tough time.
I hated scheduling all those OB appointments when I was pregnant. I realized that my doctor only schedules her pregnant patients in the morning on a certain day of the week – because she does all the planned c-sections on a certain day and was always on-call on certain days. I think that drastically limited the availability of her appointments. So, that might be a similar reason why it’s so difficult for you.
However, I never had to wait until the day before the appointment to schedule ultrasounds. In fact, my doctor made me schedule every appointment from (10 weeks until 40 weeks) at the same time.
It’s definitely worth switching, though, if this really complicates your life. Towards the end of pregnancy, you’re going every two weeks and then every week. An inefficient or not-helpful front desk is more trouble than it’s worth.
The OB appointments will make you crazy; especially if you have a healthy pregnancy cause there isn’t much to do.
I’ll chime in and say that I think it’s bizarre that they won’t schedule the NT test more than 24 hours in advanced. There is a lot of medicine that is not very patient friendly, but this practice seems extremely so. It’s not uncommon to be offered a specific appointment, but I think it’s totally fair to push back a little bit and see what else is available. Also, it’s possible you might be able to schedule a bunch of your OB appointments in advanced so that you can get the times you want.
If you think the care you are getting is totally fabulous, I might put up with these inconveniences, but if it’s just okay, I would look elsewhere. That kind of thing is not typical, IMO.
This seems really weird. I’m in NYC, 15 weeks pregnant, and my NT was scheduled (albeit at a different office) 3 weeks in advance. When I schedule OB appointments, I usually ask for a specific date or two and time range (e.g. afternoon, morning), and they say “how about 9:30? 10? 10:15?” The only “restriction” was when I saw the genetic counselor, and that was because she only works 2 afternoons a week (seemed reasonable to me).
Random vent — why is so hard to find a plain WOOL sweater for under $100?
Dear retailers, I am freezing. It is January. I just want a plain navy or black merino pullover. I do not want cotton, a cotton/wool blend, or mystery “other fibers.” Thank you.
Sing it, sister. Me, too. I don’t want crap cashmere for under $100. I want nice 100% merino wool for under $100. Brooks Brothers has lovely merino wool, but I don’t care for the soft colors – could work for your black/navy hunt though. Lands’ End also has nice merino, but runs too big. Sigh.
I was having this problem and recently got an all-merino turtleneck from J. Crew Factory for well under $100. I find the quality there to be no worse (ha!) than regular J. Crew.
brooks brothers has a lot of sales right now.
Have you tried Uniqlo?
OP here. I am a little wary of Uniqlo, if only because I am 5-11 and most Japanese labels run small/short on me. Ideally, I’d love a really great quality women’s tall merino sweater — ha ha — maybe like JCrew-10-years-ago-in-tall. Sadly, I do not think that exists.
I find the Uniqlo fit to be boxy, but not necessarily short. Depends if your length is mostly in your torso or legs though.
I got a black one to wear under suit jackets for $60 at Lands End. I really like it.
Talbots.com and Gap.com have merino sweaters for under $100.
I actually wish all sweaters had at least 1% cotton or synthetic fibers so moths would leave them alone. My cashmere sweaters inevitably get holes in them within months so my solution is to just quit buying pure wool.
Scarves too. I wanted a basic winter scarf that would actually keep me warm and wouldn’t be too expensive, but my options were acrylic, acrylic/cashmere blend or cashmere – no wool or wool blends. Where did all the plain old wool go?
YES! This. Ugh.
Learn to knit? You get to work with all those gorgeous yarns, create exactly what you want, make friends with other knitters, and participate in Ravelry, the online community for knitters that sounds fabulous. And I will get to live vicariously since I sadly concluded that–despite my encouragement above–I was not born to be a knitter.
Most of my wool scarves are men’s. Maybe not the same color selection as in a women’s department, but I think the guys are still doing the wool.
Nordstrom item #564911 – a huge, beautiful wool wrap in several colors.
Gail the Goldfish
Merino wool sweaters – Lord and Taylor and Nordstrom. L&T probably has some pretty awesome sales right now, too
Maybe Banana Republic? Not sure if they do blends, though.
Anyone have suggestions/recommendations on drug-store hair volume products? Much appreciated!
Do you have Charles Worthington (weirdly squat, peapod shaped bottles?) I am a moose skeptic but tried this at a friend’s and it was kind of amazing.
Ha, clearly I meant mousse but I am skeptical of moose as well, they kind of freak me out.
I love this comment with all of my heart.
You can run from a moose if you have a head start. I saw a sign that said this at the Alaska Wildlife Conservation Center when we were on our honeymoon and I laughed for a good 10 minutes.
I’ve been using the Loreal Everpure mousse and like it quite a bit. I hadn’t used mousse for YEARS, but this stuff seems to work really well for my fine, chin-length hair.
I have heard really great things about aquage foam from a number of people, though it is a bit higher priced – $25 maybe?
I’ve had some luck with Aquage . I have fine but thick straight hair and when it’s shoulder length or shorter I can get some serious volume with it. Now that my hair is longer (1 inch below collarbone) it’s not doing that much for me – my hair is just too heavy.
John Frieda isn’t bad for a drugstore product.
I use their hairspray and love it.
I can very highly recommend Marc Anthony Volumizing shampoo and conditioner. It comes in an orange bottle and is available at drugstores in Canada for around $10, and I assume it’s available in the U.S. I have tried many, many volumizing shampoos and conditioners from drugstores and salons and this combo works the best by far.
Thanks ladies – I keep hearing about aquage from tons of people. I think I might just splurge! And thanks for the moose laugh :)
my winning combination, after years of trial and error (phillygirl for 7 years, jersey girl by birth), is pantene “root lifter” spray gel on the roots, with a combo of fekkai glossing creme and the original frizz-ease serum on the rest of it. when i wear my hair wavy/curly, i use the spray gel and a john frieda frizz-ease mousse.
Any ‘rettes use the FitBit? I just got one and am using it for the first time today. I am pretty pleasantly surprised – i got up to 3000 steps by just getting myself to work using my normal commute.
woo woo! i am looking forward to using the sleep tracker.
I do! It really makes things like a game since you are trying to reach the next level or take one more set of stairs. I don’t hit 10,000 everyday but average about 80-90k over the week as somedays I will be headed to work and the library and others, I will take a hike and run across town for errands, adding up to nearly 20k. I think focusing on increasing your average is the most helpful.
I don’t know if you are counting calories but I have found it helpful to sync with myfitnesspal, I have it set as sedentary and I earn calories with my activity throughout the day.
yes, and I love it! It is very enlightening to see how much a pedestrian commute actually counts for. I will gain so much weight if I ever start driving to work.
Yes, and it reminds me how very very little exercise I get on days I work from home! I really should start, like, walking a mile to the extra-yummy coffee shop, instead of going to the one down the block, or the many closer ones. But that seems like such a waste of time when the whole point of telecommuting is that I can sleep in and work in my pajamas!
I just looked it up and it looks so neat! Is there a way to set up a corporette group of some sort? I’m ordering one now!
Yes and I love it!
One of my resolutions is to travel more this year! I’m located in California and looking to travel in the US with one of my girl friends. Any suggestions for places to go that are good for long weekends (maybe 4-5 days)? We would like to do touristy sightseeing things, eat at yummy restaurants, and not spend a fortune. I’m already hopefully going to Boston and Chattanooga to visit friends and have been to Seattle many times, but other than that have not seen much of the US outside of California.
I know it’s the opposite coast to you, but I really liked Charleston and Savannah. They are both really cute cities to walk around and there is tons of history and lovely restaurants.
Also, albeit across the border, Vancouver is fun for a few days and there is lots to see there.
Second Charleston. It’s a charming, fun place perfect for a girl’s weekend.
What time of year are you looking to travel? Parts of the west are really nice in the summer, especially if you like the outdoors (Colorado, New Mexico and Utah come to mind). DC during the non-tourist peak is a lot of fun too.
Hoping late spring/early summer and November or December.
Utah and Colorado will be a gamble in April and even May (but June would be perfect, and if you want to ski, Nov-Dec are good times). DC and Charleston should both be nice in late spring/early summer. Santa Fe is generally good year round.
Gail the Goldfish
Third Charleston (and nearby islands like Sullivan’s and Isle of Palms)
Yes! Come visit Vancouver! We are very tourist-friendly, AND we have great food. :-)
Completely agree with the Vancouver recommendation. I am there all the time for work and have just fallen in love with that city. Amazingly friendly people, FANTASTIC food and some of the best natural beauty around.
anon in tejas
Chicago is great
Portland was a lot of fun too
Portland! Love it there. Great foodie scene, plenty of shopping, beautiful walks along the riverfront.
I second Portland and Chicago! My fiance and I went on a road trip post-bar this past summer and also had a great time in Austin and St. Louis. Austin has a ton of tasty places to eat and we were pleasantly surprised by St. Louis – they have a free art museum, zoo and this incredibly kooky indoor playground called the Children’s Museum (definitely NOT just for kids!)
Do you mean the City Museum in St. Louis? That place is AWESOME! It’s also partially outdoors, so best to go when it’s not winter. And they have a bar :)
oh sigh. yes. the City Museum. where is my brain today? its impossible to describe, but definitely a must-do. 10 story slide and a bar! we were two almost-attorneys running around like we were 5 – it was amazing!
Just a few suggestions: Austin, DC, Portland (and Willamette), NYC. All of them can be manageable in a short period of time. DC and NYC are harder than Austin and Portland, but if you have realistic expectations about what you can accomplish in a long weekend and do some pre-planning you can definitely make it work.
I love Portland. I like the vibe of the city, food is fantastic, and Willamette (if you want to do wine tasting) is an hour away. You’re about an hour away from the Pacific (which I think is totally different in the PNW than in Southern CA or on the East Coast), and an hour away from Hood River (which is gorgeous).
I didn’t spend as much time in Austin as I would have liked (only 2 days), but it’s a really cool city, the food scene is great, and the bbq is really good as well.
+1 on the Austin and Portland recs! Great vacation cities!
How about Santa Fe? I also love Vancouver/Victoria in British Columbia — really beautiful and fun cities. New Orleans is great for a weekend trip too.
That’s a great idea. I love Santa Fe. They have amazing art galleries (more than any city but New York City, I believe) and really great food. Plus, the city is just plain beautiful and always smells like pinion wood. I love Santa Fe!!
Don’t forget the other Portland too – Portland, Maine.
Not quite in the US but a girlfriend and I visited Montreal for a 3-4 day trip and it was great – very unique. I’ll second the recommendation for Vancouver/Victoria.
my favorite eating vacation so far has been new orleans.
I’ll second New Orleans – for food and live music. I have been back three more times because I loved it so much the first time I vacationed there
I know you have Chattanooga on your list, but consider Nashville, too. It’s more than just country music.
I’ll plug Minnesota :) Minneapolis and St. Paul have lots of theater/arts/food things going on, plus a giant Mall, and a couple hour drive will get you into lake/cabin country – you can book at a resort and do the golfing/lake thing, or be adventuresome and go camping. Late spring/early summer or Sept are probably going to the be the best temp/weather wise. If you come late Aug/early Sept, you can also hit up the State Fair (2nd or 3rd largest in the country, with dedicated grounds on the St. Paul campus of the U of M) and find every food imaginable on a stick.
2nd in overall state fair attendance, #1 in terms of per day attendance. not that I pay attention to these things!
Probably the only place in the world where you can make over a million dollars selling corn on the cob for 10 days.
A bit late to the party on this one, but the sweet corn in Minnesota at the fair time of year… is worth a million dollars. Delicious.
And chocolate chip cookies. Don’t forget the cookies.
My US-based “travel wish list” is Bainbridge/Whidbey Island/Seattle & Mackinaw Island in MI. Both places sound quaint. For places I’ve been that are favorites/I’d go any time — Seattle & NOLA (I used to live in NOLA, so it’s more of a “going home” place for me than a travel destination) & NYC.
Tax question. Can anyone point me to a DETAILED summary of the fiscal cliff bill? :)
The bill is only 157 pages, but the washington post has a bullet summary. Look under wonkblog.
Thanks. I found tax prof blog and the senate finance committee summary, which is pretty good. The bill unfortunately has a lot of cross-references to the ’10 act and EGTRRA, so the details are not all there.
Oof. Do you have access to any paid subscription services? I’d be willing to bet one of the Roll Call products has to have something like this. I also can bet that 90% of the people who would put this together are finally getting to go home, so it may take a few days before you get something really good. GAO might have something good or CRS in a week or two (or you could look for the previous acts summaries within CRS now to manually cross compare). Haven’t seen any good think tank summaries yet either, but if I do I’ll post links throughout the week.
I do, but unfortunately my tax subscription’s summary was not as detailed as I would like it to be!
WSJ had a point-by-point summary within the last couple of days, though it may not be as detailed as you’re looking for (it was detailed enough for me, and I appreciated that they listed how much each provision would cost).
The manageing partner sent me this and told ME to do a sumary for our cleint’s!
You see the HIVE work’s together! Yay!
Bat signal to all those knowledgeable about LA – I’m taking the bar in Pasadena in Feb and I have two nights in the LA area before that. I opted for not staying in the bar hotel for the whole time because (1) it was exorbitant and (2) I know myself and would prefer to not be in the same place for the whole five days, three days is plenty.
Of course, in an awesome turn of events, the Academy Awards ceremony is also the Sunday before the bar (maybe it always is, but I had no idea) so everywhere in LA is either booked up or priced at the level of a space shuttle weekend trip. I know LA is a bit of a pain without a car (or with!) so I’d love to hear suggestions for somewhere to stay a couple of nights where I can go outside and walk around and maybe eat somewhere nice after a hard day of studying without too much drama. For the above reasons I have discounted LAX hotels and I’ve looked at Century City, but I don’t know the area at all. I also considered Santa Monica, but it’s still uber expensive.
Any suggestions for a nice neighbourhood to stay in?
Be careful of your location – you don’t want to be stuck in morning traffic. I would opt to stay in Pasadena – the Grove is nice enough and there are plenty of restaurants in the area. It would be too risky for me to stay anywhere else given the unpredictable traffic there.
Sorry, just to clarify, I’m already in Pasadena for the nights before the exam, in a hotel next door to the venue. No chance I would risk any other method of transport than my feet to get me there :)
Whew – ok – good! Westwood is adjacent to UCLA and it’s a cute area, and a little bit of a drive down Wilshire to Santa Monica, where you have the pier and 3rd Street Promenade. It’s also decent driving distance to LACMA and Rodeo Drive. There’s a really cute boutique hotel off of the 405 and Sunset that I’ve stayed at. I forget the name, Joie de Vivre or something. I can’t imagine being in LA without a car, so hopefully this is helpful. Stick to “West Los Angeles” in looking for hotels in this area. Century City is a little bit to the East, but is close enough to Beverly Hills and the museums.
THANK YOU! :)
I am so confused by this comment about the Grove. Is there more than one? I was just at the Grove last week and it was in We Ho / Fairfax. Is there a different Grove in Pasadena?
I can tell you there really aren’t any good hotels walking distance from the Grove.
I work in Century City. It’s not a fun place to stay as a tourist because it is nothing but office buildings and public transit access is poor. What about staying downtown? You’d be able to take the Gold Line to Pasadena in under half an hour (if the bar hotel is near the metro), and could walk around Japan Town, Old Town (which I find lame but other people like), maybe go to see the Lakers or visit the Disney concert hall. Plus, you’d also have access to the Red Line which can get you to some other parts of LA too (e.g., Los Feliz, which is fairly close to Griffith Park, the home of the Hollywood sign and the Griffith observatory).
O has great points. For neighborhood clarification, West Los Angeles is a wealthier part of town preferred by yuppies and people who prefer more plants and open space. Downtown has gentrified a lot, and it has different vibes depending on the area, including trendy, gritty, business-oriented, artsy, hipster and more. Old Town includes open-air malls and streets with mostly chain stores so that it’s like being in a mall. Los Feliz is a hipster part of town. Culver City feels trendy but less pretentious. The area surrounding Grove area is trendy, with more pretensiousness than Culver City. Your personality is important in figuring out a good fit.
For 2 nights before that, downtown Culver City has places to eat and some shopping, in addition to having an above-ground rail line that you can take to Pasadena. Miracle Mile/the Grove/3rd St.-Melrose/La Brea-La Cienega area does as well, and you can take a DASH shuttle (likely less than $1) to a subway stop in Hollywood to get to Pasadena.
As for avoiding drama, good luck! The town is filled with people in showbiz :-)
I can’t believe I forgot to recommend my own neighborhood! Culver City is great, and it isn’t too far from the beaches if you wanted to explore Santa Monica or the other beach communities (though I have never attempted to get there on public transit). It’s about an hour on the train to Pasadena. It’s about 20 minutes by train to Expo Park, which has some museums.
How far away are you willing to go, and how much touristy stuff do you want to do? If you want to just study somewhere relaxing and warm, you could take a bus from LAX to Santa Barbara, study at a hotel during the day, take study breaks on the beach, go wine tasting at night, and then hop the bus back to LAX and rent a car to drive into town for The Exam. It’s the off-season so pricing shouldn’t be bad and, depending where you stay, you might even be able to get away with just renting a bike in SB. For me, SB was great for dissertation writing; I’d imagine it would be a good bar-studying venue as well.
Ooh!! I”m in Pasadena!!! Would love to take you for a drink when you’re done! Let me know if you’re interested and we can coordinate!
Have you tried Glendale? It’s next door to Pasadena and has some nice new shopping areas. This one looks nice: http://www.expedia.com/Los-Angeles-Hotels-Hotel-Brandwood.h1495556.Hotel-Information?chkin=01%2F03%2F2013&chkout=01%2F06%2F2013&rm1=a2&hashTag=roomsAndRates&#roomsAndRates
I wouldn’t do Santa Monica because it’s way on the other side of town.
Never mind. Didn’t read before I posted. I second Culver City. Hubby and I like to eat at Akasha when we go to the show at the Kirk Douglas Theatre.
And yes, Santa Monica is awesome if you don’t have to worry about getting to the Bar exam. We stayed at the Georgian on the beach for our anniversary a couple of years ago and it was great!
Have you looked at Burbank? We have a Mariott near the Burbank airport that is pretty good, and close to the rail line so you could take that into downtown.
You could also do something in Glendale, we have the Americana which is Grove-like with decent shopping and good places to eat. Glendale/Burbank are also really close to Pasadena, so a cab from your Pasadena hotel to a hotel there won’t hurt too much.
I want to take advantage of end-of-year sales, but instead I have to be responsible and spend $1000 on snow tires.
I HATE BEING A GROWN UP!
Where did you get yours? I had a good experience buying mine online for significantly less. You could totally still get some sale shopping in!
Good afternoon ladies,
Can anyone offer a recommendation for an immigration attorney in the New York City area? I’m looking into applying for UK citizenship and am finding the process confusing, so I’d like to hire someone to help me out with it.
Any suggestions welcome. Thank you!!
Do they have to be based in NYC? I live in NYC but used an immigration lawyer in Baltimore and they were great with everything – Puyang & Assoc – http://www.lawppa.com
Any recommendations for a career coach in LA, especially one who is good at working with lawyers?
Manager by Day, Mom at Night
Apologies in advance if I missed an update but this is directed at “anon for this” whose DH went on a 6-week trip over Christmas and New Year’s, and refused to get her a Xmas gift. Just wanted to say I’ve been thinking of you. Hope you managed to get some rest and you and your child are doing well. Did you finish/send your email to DH?
Hang in there.
Hi, that was me. Thanks for thinking of me. I wrote an email last night but haven’t hit send, in part because I am reluctant to start a long distance fight, and in part because I’m still not happy with the tone. I’ll update everyone once there is some sort of resolution, but I am still on the fence about whether I should wait to say anything until he gets back.
I totally understand about not wanting to start a long-distance fight. However, I had a thought that if he doesn’t know how upset you are, he won’t be able to do anything about it (or at least, he may not think of doing anything). If you are able to speak/write to him now, it gives him the chance to make some changes now, which may help you out. In any event, hope you are able to get some sleep.
I didn’t comment when you posted originally, because it hit a little too close to home, but I’ve been thinking about you.
In my experience, the email was inflammatory and the long-distance fight absolutely futile. I suggest you arrange for a nanny/friend/family member to look after your children for a day or weekend after your SO returns, so that you can discuss the problem face-to-face without time, work and home pressures. It will be so different when you have time to explain your side right (and time to explain it a few times if it doesn’t come out right the first time), and he has time to process and respond to you without being miles away and working.
Sending lots of hugs your way!
Thanks guys. You both make valid points. Maybe I will try to convey some of my hurt feelings without turning it into a fight. Part of the reason I’ve been holding back is that time is so limited (both by the time difference, my hectic schedule, inability to call him when I’m free (due to technological issues related to where he is), me having to try to talk to him while playing keep away from a toddler who thinks phones are great toys, especially pushing the buttons and hanging up). So while I want to lay it all out there, it doesn’t seem practical to do so by phone. And email tone is so easy to misinterpret. I’m just sort of thinking out loud here.
Hearing this, I think you should wait. Not because it isn’t important, but because it is important and deserves time. You probably don’t have time right now juggling work and your additional family responsibilities to think completely clearly. Your SO won’t be able to talk to you once he gets your email, because of the time difference and technology issues, and he may be forced to push it aside while he finishes the work project he’s doing. I think it’s a great idea to write your thoughts down in an email or journal, but don’t hit send at a time when dealing with the problem can’t be a priority for you or SO.
Zero judgment in whatever you decide to do, of course. You are managing your work and family like a champion, and can absolutely handle this too :)
So, the above thread about OBs is giving me the courage to ask this question. Am currently TTC and am looking for a good OB in Manhattan (preferably downtown but midtown is fine) or downtown Brooklyn. Prefer a female doctor and an office that us flexible about appointment and wont make you wait hours in the waiting room (yes, I know, asking for a lot). I feel weird asking friends because I don’t want to broadcast that we are currently trying. Thanks so much!
Almost everyone I know goes to Downtown Women or Spring Street — both are good practices, both deliver at NYU, and both have the same model (5-6 practitioners – you see them all during pregnancy so you will definitely know the OB who delivers you.)
I very highly recommend Spring Ob Gyn – it’s on 135 Spring St. I have been going to them for 5 years now. I had major pelvic dysfunction issues when I started seeing them and they were amazingly supportive, helping me overcome that, then through TTC and now I am 14 weeks pregnant. I have seen Dr. Feldman and Dr. Flagg there and they are both great. They are very flex abt appointments and easily accessible by subway if that’s a consideration. The front office staff and the nurses and technicians are all super nice and helpful.
OMG I see them too! And I love them! I’ve never had to significantly wait for any appointment.
My best friend and roommate had a very traumatic experience recently, and I am hoping to reach out for ideas on how we should best cope with this. Without too many details, my roommate was a victim of a rape a few weeks ago. It was a date-rape like situation that happened in our home, while I was asleep. As soon as he left she ran into my room, woke me up, and we went directly to the hospital. In the aftermath, I know she is feeling very lost and traumatized, and I want to make sure I am doing everything to help her cope and recover. Thank you in advance for any advice.
I’m so sorry to you both, I cannot imagine how horrible this must be for both of you, in different ways, but still unimaginable. Are there any victim advocate type groups in your area, or resources that you can tap into for professional advice on this, ways to help you get to the point where the apartment will still feel like home and not be a constant reminder of what happened?
That is awful. I am so sorry for you both. Perhaps you could go back to the hospital’s patient services department and see if they could direct you to some local resources. You may also be able to call RAIIN and they could help you find something. A third option which may sound weird, but if you have a college/university near by, you could reach out to their health clinic. They often have resources for this and could maybe help guide you all in the right directions.
From a logistical point of view, in case you haven’t done so yet, immediately provide a photo of the person that did this to your building’s management and tell them under no circumstances are they allowed to be in your building. If your roommate isn’t comfortable sharing why/hasn’t gone to the police you can simply say that you can’t provide details pending a possible investigation. If he was a former friend/regular guest, your front desk people may not think about buzzing him up without asking, so it’s good to go on high alert.
I’m so very sorry for you both. Please keep us all posted.
Also anon friend of victims
I have had 2 close friends who were raped, both in fact as victims of random violent crime (the pulled into the alley at knife point type). I can only imagine how horrifically traumatic both experiences were, and to this day, I wonder as a friend if I supported them in the best way. I think though I would doubt myself no matter what I had done. You see your loved ones in pain and I think the default reaction is to assume you haven’t done enough. So, the advice here is to comfort yourself that you are trying your best and not let yourself get too upset at you for not being able to be perfect for fix the situation.
That said, I think what helped my friends the most was for me to just let them talk at their own pace. I tried not to press them for details if they didn’t want to give them. I consistently let them know I was thinking of them, asked if I could do anything for them, asked if they wanted to spend time together having some nice time out. I tried not to explicitly ask them things that might trigger too much. If they wanted to talk about it or bring it up on their own, I listened for as long as they needed me to. Your situation might be different because it is your roomate, but I would just consistently remind her you are here to help her however she needs and you care for her very much. If you want to be bolder, you can explicitly ask her, what do you need from me? What can I give you?
This was just me, but to make myself feel better, the day one of my friends was raped, I made a donation to a charitable organization that I believed help fight this sort of thing from happening. I have supported that organization since. I know that doesn’t take away my friends’ pain, but at least I know I am contributing a little bit towards an organization that works to prevent these sorts of things from happening to others.
I haven’t had friends that have been raped but I’ve been around when they’ve been going through traumatic experiences and I found that asking them explicitly what they want is helpful, because people have different ideas of what helps in a time of trauma.
I also really like the idea of donations to help you feel like you’re making a difference!
Would you mind sharing the name of the charity you support? I am on the lookout for more charities that prevent violence against women
Also anon friend of victims
HK, might not be the answer you are looking for, but I began donations to the NRA and have donated consistently ever since. My friends were both victims of horrific and random violent crime (not saying date rape isn’t horrific and violent, but it is just a bit different than being pulled into an alley way randomly under threat of weapon). I am convinced to this day that were they carrying concealed weapons, they may very well likely not have been raped. They both were victims in violent cities where citizens are generally not armed, but criminals are. Even if they had wanted to try to get carry permits or legal firearms, they probably couldn’t have. So, I now support the NRA because I want them to fight for better concealed carry laws that allow citizens like my friends to arm themselves so they are protected in the event of awful crimes like this. Once this happened to my friends, I guess it just hit me in the face that this sort of awful thing really happens (it could happen to me or anybody) and we need recourse to protect ourselves. This sort of thing just doesn’t happen only on Law and Order episodes. After my first friend’s event, I attempted to pursue permitting/hand gun purchase and training myself, but unfortunately at the time, I also lived in a city where this would have been near impossible (nevermind my school wouldn’t have allowed me to keep a gun anyway even if I had managed to jump through the state’s legal loopholes to be trained and legally own, purchase, and carry a weapon). After it happened to my second friend (2 friends! seriously), I became even more staunchly convinced in the cause and now pursue as a more formal hobby (bad word, not sure what else to use) if you will.
However, you could easily make a donation to Planned Parenthood (or local clinic), RAIIN, national suicide hotline, local church (if there is a local church you like that provides counceling services), local rape or pregnancy crisis center/women’s shelter… there are many places to donate to that help fight and deal with this sort of thing in one way or another. I choose to donate to the defense aspect, but certainly many other aspects need donations and support too.
Also anon – thanks for your reply and for explaining your rationale in detail. Although I am okay with concealed handguns for personal protection, I can’t get behind the NRA for some of their other stances. But I do agree with you that the defense aspect is really important and when something like this hits close to home, you do feel like you need to have some recourse or option for protecting yourself. I have been following news coverage of the rape that happened in India recently and it made me rethink some of my views. As you rightly said, a situation where criminals carry guns but law abiding citizens do not is an unfair one and you either need to restrict access to firearms heavily for everyone or figure out a way for women to protect themselves.
Try to be supportive of whatever decisions she makes. In my past I would have thought I would be the “report and prosecute” type. Now that I represent victims and see what they go through and how rarely cases are prosecuted, let alone lead to conviction, I wouldn’t bother. From my perspective, the victims end up re-victimized, particularly with date rape he-said / she-said. There really is no way to prove that beyond a reasonable doubt if the other party concedes that sex happened but argues it was consensual. This is just my opinion and my observation of the way crap is handled in my state. My point is, if she wants to report it, support her, if she doesn’t, don’t try to force her.
anon in tejas
my mind automatically goes to legal protections available to her.
she may not want to temporarily or permanently stay in the apartment. please be aware of this. some states include provisions that if a domestic violence or sexual assault took place at the residence, it can allow the lessee to get out of a lease. this does often require a report to the police. not sure if that’s something that she’s comfortable with.
if that’s not an option, perhaps switching rooms maybe something very helpful to her.
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My turn to ask for help: I eat when I’m stressed. It’s mostly healthy food but still high-calorie and high fat. I don’t like the way my body feels with these 15 extra pounds. It’s not a huge amount and I don’t have any serious eating disorders so I’m embarrassed to be struggling with this when other people have much harder food/weight loss challenges. However, I need to make this change for my health and it’s not easy! I’m trying to walk daily and am contemplating hand sewing as a way of keeping my hands busy at home (same theory as taking up knitting when trying to quit smoking) or when socializing sometimes (sewing is not appropriate for all social situations).
Re other forms of exercise: I hate spending time in gyms; I love swimming but get bronchitis if I swim in the winter (even in an indoor pool); and I can’t run because of fragile knees. I’m probably going to supplement the walking with some exercises at home for strength or flexibility.
Maybe I don’t need suggestions…just moral support or public accountability. Thanks in advance.
Yoga ? I used to do it more than I do now, and really enjoyed the flexibility that I came to have as well as the whole non competitive vibe. I spend so much time of my day “competing” and trying to “win”, it was nice to have that little bit of time that was stress free. It’s also really beginner friendly, with lots of modifications for various poses.
Do you get the opportunity to take stairs? Something that has helped me melt off a few lbs without really changing my diet or exercise habits is just getting into the mindset of moving more. The simple thing I do is almost ALWAYS take the stairs. I go up and down 6 flights at work, but only 1 at home since I now live in a townhome. I also try to park further away in the garage at work so I walk a tiny bit further. If you need to wear heels to work, carry a pair of small flats (I have the corso como ballsox foldable flats) so I can’t use that as an excuse and just chnage into heels right before I enter the office door. Every little bit really helps!
The little things do help! I bought a fitbit which tracks steps and stairs and it has definitely become like a game to see if I can hit an even number of steps or flights.
*tea & sympathy*
Don’t be embarrassed about being unhappy with the additional 15lbs. That’s at least a dress size, and if you’ve had to buy new clothes, then that’s expensive, and frustrating, on top of the annoyance of being in a shape that seems alien to you. If you haven’t bought new clothes, then the existing clothes might not feel comfortable anymore, and then that becomes a constant reminder of this new shape that you aren’t comfortable with. It’s natural to find it weird and not to your liking if you haven’t intended to gain the weight.
No great suggestions but I’m in the same boat — need to lose about 15lbs (it was 12 before the holidays but I think I need to round up now). I think it’s actually harder than losing a bigger amount, at least in the beginning, because you aren’t likely to get a few weeks of losing big numbers right off the bat to keep you motivated. My weight has been slowly creeping up since I met my husband about 4 1/2 years ago, and I’ve always had to fight to stay slim-ish so the combination of having less alone time (which meant more exercise time) and having more guy foods around the house (Mr. TBK loves his bacon and cheese) has meant more pounds. What I’m going to try is finding a good rough estimate of calories needed (there are WILDLY different numbers online — if anyone has a reliable estimator, let me know) then come up with about six or eight different breakfasts, lunches, dinners, and snacks, each within a set calorie range (e.g., 250-300 for breakfast) and that have a good balance of carbs/fats/proteins. Then I can just pick one of each for my day and know they roughly add up to the right amount. I’m just so sick of tracking everything on earth and playing the “if I run three miles, I can have that piece of cake,” which I just don’t think is a healthy way to approach food and exercise.
Unfortunately, I don’ t know if there is a reliable calculator because I think its so dependent on your body. I agree with aiming for a number and also exercising, rather than play the whole “I burned xx calories, so I can eat xx thing.” 1800 is probably a reasonable number if you really eat that and don’t underestimate what you are actually eating. Eventually, you’ll figure out what is working and what is not working, but you’ll probably feel pretty good if you eat 1800 calories of wholesome, non-empty calorie food (food that has actual nutrients and vitamins, etc.) and move a little bit.
I use a combination of ball-parking calories and focusing on non-white, non-fried and non-sugary foods. I try to load up on fruits and veggies because I can eat more of them without as much of a calorie hit.
I really like Bethany Frankel’s book. She really explained the idea of eating healthy in a reasonable and simple way. She describes balancing splurges with cutting back and making sure things are really worth it before you indulge.
1800 calories is a lot. For weight loss, my recommended calorie intake is 1200-1300.
Research, Not Law
The most accurate method is to log your food and activity for several, typical days (a mix of weekday and weekend) and weigh yourself at the beginning and end of the month. You can calculate your maintenance calories from that. Then you can decide how much food to cut and/or activity to add for your desired weight loss.
And, yes, husbands are not easy on the waistline ;)
TBK if you come up with that list of 6-8 meals, I’m sure many of us would love to see it.
anon in tejas
myfitnesspal worked very well for me.
it calculated the amount of calories based on my weight, height, activity level and work outs. it adds more calories if you work out. I tried sparkpeople before, and the calorie count was just far too low. I lost close to 30# with myfitnesspal.
I had a huge sweet tooth, and limiting my sweets to every other day or every third day made a huge difference. As did limiting cheese/high calorie/fat dairy to one serving a day.
My Fitness Pal is a very good app for tracking calories and exercise. I used it for awhile, and it seemed to accurately tell me how many calories I needed to maintain my current weight. It also opened my eyes to some unhealthy eating habits I had even though I usually met my calorie goal.
Apparently I eat too much sugar and need to work on getting more calcium and other vitamins.
I tried My Fitness Pal and was very diligent but lost no weight (same issue with Weight Watchers and other online trackers). I think I’m one of those people who just can’t eat the same number of calories as most people. I’m 5’9″ but if I eat 1800 cal/day, there’s no way I’ll lose weight. I’m thinking 1600-1700 plus working out is about right for me.
I’m late to the party, but I liked the Livestrong.com MyPlate function. They have apps, too, and they all link together so I could track while I was on the go. They also have a calorie calculator to help you try to estimate how many calories you can eat to meet your weight goals. It really helped me when I was trying to lose weight before my wedding (and I’ve been thinking that I should probably go back to using it on a regular basis).
Myrna taught me that If you drink a lot of water you will get full without CALORIES! Yay! Myrna is so happy about the $100 but now Frank is asking about a 1099 for her. I said FOOEY just give me cash to give her! My dad insist’s that the other $300 BE SENT TO HIM TO DEPOSIT b/c he does NOT want me to spend it. FOOEY I told him! I lost the pound’s!
I would not waste it b/c the 2 supermarkit guy’s are to meet me FRIDAY. Yay! If I can snag these guys I should be Abel to get bonus hours in JANUARY!
Research, Not Law
It can be hard. I have terrible self-control and find myself snacking without thinking about it, especially when doing the dishes. Keeping busy definitely helps me, so good luck with the sewing!
Have you considered water aerobics in the winter? You don’t have to get your head wet and don’t submerse your lungs. You can also get a surprisingly killer workout, and it’s easy on your knees. It’s a bit weird to be the only one under 60, but I’ve come to really love it.
You could start taking dancing classes or other active, non-gym activity. I know people who have lost weight doing the wii/xbox dancing games.
Is anyone here planning on attending the DRI seminar in March in Miami ? I was planning on going and hubby was going to tag along, but now due to some work issues, hubby can’t go. I may still go on my own, but I was a little “meh” on the whole thing anyway. It would be fun if some other ‘rettes were going to be there.
I will be there! Supposedly one other atty from my office is going, but I’m not convinced she will end up going. I’d love a r e t t e meetup or mini meet up (if its just the two of us).
Have you been to one before? This will be my first Women in the Law conference.
Can anyone recommend a good online savings account? My major goal this year is to fully fund my emergency fund – so I’m looking for something that I can put money into but not necessarily readily withdraw it. And can someone explain to me how exactly it works to get the money there if I want to transfer it from a “normal” bank account?
I know this has been talked about on here, but I’m very short on time this week/month to go searching! Thank you for your help, in advance!
I’ve used ING Direct (which was recently acquired by Capital One and will apparently soon be changing its name to something with Capital One in it) for years. Easy peasy. You link your ING account to your regular checking account and you do all the transfers online. Plus I have an ING interest-bearing checking account with a debit card for when I need the money instantly. The interest rate is only .75% but that’s better than what my brick-and-mortar bank is paying.
Ally had some good short term rates and came highly recommended. We are opening an acct this week.
I just opened an Ally account. The rate is .95%. To transfer to it I put in my normal account’s routing number and account number. Then, because they couldn’t verify my login info the deposit 2 sets of 0.XX into my account and I told them the amount. Then they transfered the money to the Ally account. I think it would be relatively easy to transfer back.
It isn’t really harder than withdrawing from your regular account but there would be a delay. So, go to a different site, log in, transfer and then waith 24 hours for the transfer to clear. Even though my fund isn’t big, the diference between $2 a year and $50 a year seemed worth it.
Long Tall Sally
Are there any construction lawyers in the Hive? And are any of you involved in the ABA Forum on the Construction Industry?