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cotton biker jacket

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As we head into sweater weather, this cotton biker jacket from Saint and Sofia looks perfect for a warm fall evening.

I like that it's 100% organic cotton, and that it's handmade in Europe. I also like that Nordstrom has started carrying Saint + Sofia — the indie brand has stalked me on social media for a number of years now! For returns, note that Saint & Sofia's policy applies, not Nordstrom's — you have 90 days to return the item by mail or to a Nordstrom store. (They've started doing this a lot lately, so do make sure to check when you're checking out!)

The jacket is $179 at Nordstrom and Saint + Sofia (where they have EIGHT more colors!).

Sales of note for 5/1:

  • Ann Taylor – Friends of Ann Event, 40% off your purchase PLUS $50 off $200! Readers love this popover blouse, and their suiting is also in the sale.
  • Boden – 15% off new styles with code
  • Brooklinen – 25% off sitewide (ends 5/1) — we have and love these sateen sheets
  • Evereve – All tops on sale
  • Express – $39+ Summer Styles
  • Hatch – $15 off one of our favorite alarm clocks with code LETMOMSLEEP15
  • J.Crew – Up to 30% off wear-now styles
  • J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything, and extra 60% off clearance
  • Lands' End – 40% off sitewide – lots of ponte dresses come down under $25, and this packable raincoat in gingham is too cute
  • Loft – 60% off florals and 50% off your purchase
  • M.M.LaFleur – End of season sale. Try code CORPORETTE15 for 15% off.
  • Nordstrom – 1500+ new women's markdowns
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146 Comments

  1. Posted this late this morning, so reposting here:

    What have you bought recently that you’re genuinely awed by the quality of? A friend got me a Dandelion Chocolate package, and the paper the company uses to wrap their gift boxes is so luxurious that I actually said “wow.” (I don’t actually like chocolate, so that part is kind of a wash for me! But the paper is amazing!). Wondering what has blown you all away in quality recently, as it feels like everything is trending the opposite direction.

    (Bonus points if it’s a duvet cover.)

    3. I treated myself to a Matouk Valetto down pillow at the beginning of the year and it is HEAVEN. I am obsessed with this pillow, and even bring it when I travel because I’ve gotten so spoiled. It’s in a completely different league than the other pillows I’ve tried– wirecutter best pick, Macy’s down pillows, etc.

      It can be squished into whatever shape I want and fluffs right back up, it’s incredibly light but the weight of my head doesn’t flatten it out, and doesn’t have that crinkly feeling like cheaper feather pillows. I got mine for a very good discount with after Christmas Bloomingdale’s sale + coupon, and I’m honestly considering getting another one this year.

    4. I listen to audiobooks to go to sleep, and the bluetooth headphone i was wearing wasn’t great. I bought the Avantree Slumber 2 pillow speaker and I love it.

    5. Duvet cover – Laura Ashley. Beautiful prints, very soft cotton, very durable, fastened with real buttons that can be replaced if they fall off (rather than zippers or poppers).

      1. I recently got these for my kids and similarly impressed. Super easy to keep clean and they genuinely love drinking out of them.

        For mine, I’ll throw in a plug for Palais des Thes tea. The tea bags are made of muslin and tea tastes truly fantastic. Customer service is also great.

    7. Not recent, but my favorite duvet cover is from Comphy. I think it’s the SoftSpa version. It is so, so soft.

    8. Once upon a time, I lived near a Yves Delorme outlet and bought two duvet covers. Despite outlet prices, they were still quite expensive (to me) but 10+ years later, with wear and tear of babies/toddlers/and now tweens + dogs sleeping on the bed with us…and they’re in perfect condition. Perfect.

    9. A very nice couch (from Ethan Allen). I LOVE it – it’s both because it’s a better size for me (previous couch was so deep I had to have two pillows behind me to lean back) and because the fabric feels and looks so luxurious.

      1. I’ve had a couch from Ethan Allen that is almost 20 years old and its in great shape – it was a good investment!

      2. Do you know the model name? I am looking for a sofa where I can sit back and still have my feet on the floor and your description sounds good.

    10. I have one pair of lululemon socks and they really are better than any plain old kohls sport sock….

  2. probably not the right forum for this, but – if anyone brings in plants from outside what steps do you take to ensure there aren’t bugs? i wash my cuttings in a water with a tiny bit of Dawn and try to really pay attention to the underside of leaves and stems. I just tried baking soil, too…

    1. I do nothing. If they were covered with bugs like aphids, I’d rinse those off with water. If you’re terrified of bugs you could repot but I don’t think that’s necessary.

    2. I check them over and if they look OK, I bring them in. Maybe hose them down once before. I just don’t worry about it that much!

    3. For cuttings I just shake them off, maybe rinse if they are really bad.

      When I move my potted plants inside for the winter I spray them with the hose first. That gets most of them.

    4. I spray my flowers down (especially ones like peonies which ants love) outside and then at the kitchen sink. Otherwise, I don’t usually have a problem.

    5. For potted plants that come in during the winter, i use Captain Jack granules in the soil a few weeks before the plants come inside. A few days before they come in, I spray down everything with the hose. The day I bring them in, I wipe down the pots, leaves, stems, etc. to clear out any spider webs and get pollen and dirt off the leaves.

  3. I grew up once I started working wearing suits to work. I’ve been trying to adapt to a casual office, but I am struggling. I like a jacket / blazer, but it’s hard for me to find something besides solid black pants, solid white pants, or jeans to pair with them. Not everything works with black! And if those two works, I feel that then you’re left with the boringest solid shirt to wear with it. And somehow finding shoes to tie in. My struggle lies in being a magpie of sorts who loves texture, so while I have many white or black shirts, many are a mix of color, pattern, or texture (ditto what I call “fun jackets). Is this so much of a struggle to others? I hate to think of it, but I’m starting to miss suits. If a suit could have a bit of ease in the pants and stretch in the jacket (without being a 1970s era polyester leisure suit — although I now see why they were so popular), I might dive back in.

    1. I’m having a bit of a hard time following your post, so I’m not sure I understand the exact struggle you’re having. Is it that you have plenty of fun jackets, and plenty of colorful blouses, but you don’t know how to put them together into outfits, or you’re lacking the right trousers to wear with them?

      If it’s that you can’t make outfits, is the issue that the items you have aren’t proportioned well to work together, or that the colors don’t work — or both?

    2. I’m not sure what you miss or what the struggle is? If you want, you could start small, wearing patterned blouses. There are plenty. You could add navy, burgundy, or camel to your wardrobe.

      Alternatively, buy suits and wear them as separates, adding in patterned blouses or colors as you see fit. A column of color with textural differences sounds chic, too.

    3. I haven’t given up suits, and have found many with some ease/stretch of late. Honestly, I just like the simplicity of a suit. And in the last three years I have made an effort to find, buy, and invest in some interesting blouses to liven them up. Come in . . . the water is warm.

    4. What exactly is the struggle? I wear blazers all the time. I also buy pants in other colors… green, gray (many shades), burgundy, navy (lots of navy options), camel, brown. If my blazer is a pattern or texture than usually I’ll wear a solid colored shirt. If the blazer is solid colored (with or without texture), then I’ll maybe have some pattern in the shell. As long as all three of your pieces are clashing patterns/colors, I don’t see the issue. I also have fun with shoes and always wear jewelry (including some larger necklaces and earrings sometimes). Full suits are for court only. I never mastered the blazer with a dress though (unless sold as suit separates / designed together) so I tend to buy dresses with sleeves.

    5. This has happened to me: It’s fun to buy the fun items! Now, if I buy something colorful, textured, unusual, etc., I make sure I have things plain and simple to go with it. You’ve named black and white as neutrals and I think you can expand this to include camel, dark gray, navy, and maroon/cordovan/wine in solids. Also, I think you’d do well buying a couple of sweater blazers. The Schoolboy Sweater Blazer from J.Crew Factory is on sale for $45 right now. https://factory.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/sweaters/cotton-sweaters/schoolboy-sweater-blazer/CM625

    6. I get this. I think basically you have identified a genuine issue in that when shirt/pants/blazer are all different colours you can’t really have too much going on in any one of those domains, even if one is a neutral. Going back to suits is absolutely an option, but if you don’t want to some other ways of thinking about it are:
      – do you always need the blazer? I think you’ll be struggling to wear a lot of your interestingly textured tops if you want a blazer over the top. Could you just… not wear a blazer?
      – A blazer that is in a solid colour and picks up one of the colors of a fun shirt would work, with neutral pants or jeans. But depending on what sort of color spectrum of tops we’re talking about that might mean a LOT of new blazers.
      – for your fun jackets you may just need to buy some boring tops to go underneath. I think it would be hard to wear a fun jacket with any sort of interesting top.

      Your wardrobe sounds fun by the way and to be honest you sound like a perfect candidate for some of the new fun suits, like in lilac or whatever. They pull a lot more casual so I think would work for your more relaxed dress code.

    7. My formula is simple: 1 print (or very striking texture) in a 2 or 3-piece outfit (not including shoes/accessories). If my blazer is patterned (herringbone, plaid, print, etc.), my top/pants/skirt/dress are in a solid color, either coordinating or neutral. If my blazer is a solid color, I may incorporate another print or pattern in the outfit. If a piece in my outfit is a bold texture that I want to be the focal point of the outfit, I keep the other pieces simple and neutral. You will need to figure out what colors in your wardrobe complement each other. As others have stated, it doesn’t need to only be black and white. I find that anything in the blue/purple/burgundy family works for me to incorporate with black/white/grey. Things in the pink/ivory/cream family pair well with browns and taupe. For greens and reds, it depends on if it’s on the warm or cool side. It sounds like you have a lot of pieces to play with, so maybe start with your favorite statement pieces and figure out how to style them with simple pieces that complement them without detracting attention.

  4. Gift ideas for a one-year-old? Need help finding something…what have your kids loved at that age?

      1. I guess up to $200 – it’s for a special family member/circumstance. They live in an apartment though so limited by size.

        1. Balance bike, Lovevery kits, personalized kid furniture (like the Pottery Barn Anywhere Chair), a nice winter jacket (Patagonia, North Face)

        2. If the parents have room and agree to it, Pottery Barn Anywhere Chair. Get the full-sized one, not the tiny toddler one.

        3. That’s tricky. You could ask if they’d like a play kitchen, pikler set, or nugget, but I would assume they wouldn’t love those. My kids loved a shopping cart and ride-on toys at that age, but they can be annoying. Wooden Montessori-type toys are “nicer” and may be well-received. I would avoid things that light up and make noise, except for maybe a Tonie Box, which is this trendy music player for toddlers.

        1. Here’s another favorite of my kids’ at that age:

          https://www.target.com/p/fisher-price-corn-popper/-/A-13921055?sid=2767S&afid=google&TCID=OGS&CPNG=Toys&adgroup=204-10

          My daughter loved baby dolls (my son didn’t really care about them) so she loved a baby doll stroller at that age. It was just the right size for her.

          They both also loved that pull behind toy with the dog.

          One year olds are, or will be soon, ALL ABOUT walking, so toys that involve walking quickly become the favorites.

      3. Normally love giving books, but they have a ton and it’s what I gave at birth and Christmas. I’d rather do a fun toy of some kind (and I know that would be appreciated).

    3. Board books with high-contrast black and white illustrations, textures and noise. Things that make noise. Things with noisy gift wrap.

      One-year-olds really don’t need gifts, so maybe try to please the parents instead? Heritage illustration plate and cutlery set (Peter Rabbit, Moomin), heritage jewelry or national costume element (opal necklace, silver or gold charm necklace or spoon, tradtional knife), nostalgic books, high quality wool throw?

      1. I disagree with all of this. High-contrast black and white is for newborns. One-year-olds can appreciate colorful illustrations.

        The second paragraph is all expensive junk that we never used or displayed but felt obligated to store in perpetuity.

        1. Agree by one they are past the black and white book stage. My one and a bit year old loves books with clear real pictures of things she can point to and start to name. Or with pull out/lift the flap bits. Priddy books are all great and the ms Rachel first 100 words is a hit (we don’t watch her but the book is great and applicable to real life)

        2. Sorry but +1 to the last sentence. I still remember the weight lifted when I allowed myself to just get rid of the weird Tiffany baby dishes that I had awkwardly had on display (??) for a couple of years. I realized holding on to them was silly since I didn’t even have fond memories of using them. What on earth is the use case, unless you frequently host fancy dinner parties babies are somehow a part of?? I don’t even remember if I sold them, I think I gave them away.

    4. Alphabet trains in the kiddos name. It looks super cute for presentation and it hooks up to brio trains. My kids played with those for years.

    5. I’ve been ordering personalized books from Wonderbly for my baby granddaughter. Maybe a personalized alphabet or counting book from them?

    6. Ask the parents before buying either, but a Nugget or toy kitchen are kind of the classic “big” toys for 1 year olds.

    7. The kind of ride-on toy that they sit on and scoot with their feet. The Wheely Bug is adorable and there is a wide selection of animals. A play kitchen. A play tent with a tunnel that attaches.

      1. We got our daughter a ride-on bumblebee for Christmas when she was ~18 months old, and it’s still a hit a year and a half later. Excellent suggestion here!

      2. This would be my suggestion as well. My daughter got a ride-on horse from my SIL and BIL for her first birthday that was a huge hit for years. She’s 7 now and she and her friends *still* sometimes play with it in a silly way even though they’re way too big for it. It will probably go to her newborn cousin soon, but definitely one of the most used toys we’ve ever had.
        Play kitchens are also great but check with the parents first, especially if they have a small space.

        I know I’m in the minority, but I don’t love giving or receiving books. At this age they tend to be so duplicative, and even as a voracious reader I’ve never had a ton of interest in owning large numbers of books – that’s what the public library is for, imo. And this is less applicable to 1 year olds, but with older kids reading level and interest is so individual that it’s really hard to give books without a very specific recommendation from the parents. I do love a bookstore giftcard for older kids though.

    9. Books. Definitely books! I recommend Buffalo Fluffalo, the Escargot series, and all the crinkle books you can get your hands on.

  5. Chapter 13 here with an update…I found a job! For those who missed my update last time, I detailed how I lost my job with the federal government. This summer has been an incredibly trying time, but I’m so excited to not only start a new job in a few weeks, but to start one where I am getting paid $50k MORE than what I was making in government. I’m so thankful. However, I’m not out of the woods yet – I still have to pass the background check. The job is with a Big 4 in the U.S. If anyone has any experience with their background checks (or in general), please share. I already told the recruiter that they would find the Ch. 13 during my credit check and she thanked me for being honest, but didn’t say one way or the other if she thought it would be ok. I’m very anxious.

      2. You are doing great! All the fingers and toes crossed for the background check!

    2. Good luck!! When I went to work for Big 4 I had to pass a credit check. A bankruptcy would have eliminated me from consideration, however that was 15 years ago so hopefully times change.

      1. Can you share more? Did they tell you a bankruptcy would have eliminated you? My credit is about 600 so not sure if that is “pass” worthy.

        1. Yes they said I did not pass the credit check. There were enough other applicants that did. Maybe I was not special enough to overcome it.

    3. I work at a Big 4 firm. The background check was much more involved than any I’ve had at other companies. I had some back and forth with the person doing my background check to answer questions that came up. My responses were detailed and accepted without comment. I’m not sure how a bankruptcy would factor in. I wish you the best of luck and congrats!!

    5. I work in a Big 4. It depends on what your vertical is – if you’re covering financial institutions, bankruptcy will rule you out. For other sectors, they’re much more relaxed.

    6. Ex big4. I had an issue because I had more than $10k on a credit card each month. It was my ex husbands company expenses for travel that were reimbursed in full. All they did was reassign me to another client within the same group.

      Big4 struggle to recruit the talent they want. The fact they have offered you a position is huge. They will figure out how they can get you on the bench.

      1. She wants mask mandates (i.e. infection control with PPE) in healthcare facilities.

        Outside of healthcare facilities, she talked about cleaner indoor air (filtration, sanitation, ventilation) and mask availability.

          1. My understanding is that she was well connected even before she became an activist. She’s not the first or last kid with opinions and strong feelings to address an audience of adults!

          2. What is the difference between having an opinion, having a noisy opinion, and being an activist?

          1. I think the idea is that it is a children’s rights issue if children are needlessly exposed to infection by adult caretakers in school facilities with worse air quality than would currently be legal for housing livestock.

      2. Not just mask mandates. It was also about cleaner air, which I think is actually much more realistic. You can’t get 8 billion individuals to wear masks all the time but large venues and venues with vulnerable people (nursing homes etc) could definitely step up air filtration.

      1. This is a RW talking point. It’s not a weird obsession ask hospitals to follow established guidelines for protecting patients and staff from airborne contagion.

        1. I hate to sound like a lawyer but how does a celebrity kid fit into this at all? Is she a nurse or other healthcare worker? Seems like stunt casting.

          2. She has a post-viral condition and has been advocating for air quality and masking policies for like three years now.

          3. More resources to advocate for change when affected by something.

            It is kind of morbid, but there are a lot of diseases that didn’t get widespread acknowledgment or funding until a famous person was affected.

          4. I haven’t followed this closely at all so correct me if I’m wrong but I think she had either long COVID or some serious post-viral complication.

        2. OH NO!! A RW talking point is in our midst. Beware, and arm yourselves with LW talking points so we all stay safe.

      2. Oh, for the love. She has a post-viral condition that has made her more active about cleaner air and mask mandates. She is using whatever platform she has to get audiences, much like many, many people before her, including Jon Stewart, Mr. Rogers, Frank Zappa, Richard Gere, etc.

        This is nothing, except that it gives sh*t-stirrers something to stir.

          1. Irrelevant. She has a platform, for whatever reason. She’s using it, in this really small way.

            Paris Hilton has testified in front of Congress, as has Kim Kardashian. Talent has zero to do with this, and it is so non-controversial that I feel dumber for having commented on this thread at all. That’s on me.

          2. Thanks for reminding people that this is normal. Media is being weird about it, but we should all work on not being fully credulous to weird media narratives.

          3. I’m sorry this 19 year old girl is not up to your standards. I’m also sorry that your standards allow you to spend your weekend shitting on 19 year old girls.

        1. If somebody doesn’t want to get sick from other people in a space who may be contagious, wearing a respirator is still medically recommended. Improving air quality to cut down on disease transmission is an idea as old as medicine that really isn’t controversial at all. And most of us can still remember a time when hospitals were expected not to introduce new infections to patients.

  7. I’d like to treat myself to a nice pajama / lounge set. Slight preference for a long sleeve top and shorts or pants, but open to a nightgown / robe option too (I’m tall, so would just prefer it’s not too short). Any recommendations from recent purchases?

    1. i really love my printfresh jammies if you like any of the patterns! otherwise i’ve been dying for a pair from lunya.

    2. It doesn’t sound glamorous, but Soma Cool Nights pjs. They have longs in many but not all styles.

    3. Lake pajamas. They’re expensive, but worth it. I recently bought some pjs from Kyte and Nordstrom that pilled within a couple months; my Lake sets went years without pilling.

      It says not to dry them, but I’ve had no issues throwing them in the dryer.

      And if you get pants, make sure to purchase them in tall! I’m 5’8” and find their bottoms pretty cropped. Nightgowns are a good length though.

      1. Lake does have a set with a long sleeve top, shorts, and pants. This seems like a winner for OP.

    5. I have a Cosabella cotton-modal blend pajama set that I love. The fabric is very soft and not flimsy, and they have held up very well in the wash. Available in various combinations of short or long sleeves and short or long pants. I’m 5’10” with long legs, and the long pants are acceptably long on me.

    7. I just bought a pajama set from Petite Plume. The construction is very good and the cotton is beautifully soft and smooth.

  8. What are your skincare and makeup “category killers”?

    I mean things like, I’ve found the perfect mascara (L’Oreal Panorama) so I never need to try any others again.

    Other than the mascara, I also love the NYX mechanical eyeliners, the Revlon sheer lipstick in 003 Glossed Up Rose, my Beauty Pie niacinamide superdrops, and my Biore Aqua UV sunscreen (the Japanese version only.)

    Interested to hear yours!

    1. Mine would be Nars soft matte concealer, Dior addict lip glow balm, and Supergoop Unseen sunscreen.

    2. Avon Glimmersticks brow pencil – when they go on sale for $3, I order half a dozen. They last forever and are a perfect match for my hair.

      Elf 16 hour camo concealer – a champ on my dark under eye circles. Lasts and doesn’t make my fine lines look worse.

      Smashbox always sharp eyeliner that sharpens itself – sharpening a pencil (or a dull pencil) ruins my morning, and this product is the best of the bunch

    3. L’Oreal true match tinted serum. I will never, ever buy another tinted serum or foundation.

      E.l.f. Wow brow gel

      Tarte tubing mascara

      Palladio I’m Blushing 2-in-1 Cheek and Lip Tint, but I only use it for blush

      I loved the old version of the Sephora collection liquid eyeliner and lip stain but don’t like the new ones. I akso don’t wear eye liner anymore.

      I like to play around with my lip color, so I don’t think I’ll ever be done trying new ones. But I also haven’t the right one for me yet.

      2. Tarte tubing mascara! I have no idea why I waited this long to move to it, after having raccoon eyes for 25 years

    4. May Lindstrom Youth Dew for night time skincare. Juice Beauty primer in lieu of any kind of foundation and don’t even think to try something else. Olio E Esso balm in French Melon for cheeks every day. Every now and then I try something for my brows other than Glossier’s Boy Brow, but I always come right back to that product.

    5. Chanel duo lipsticks. Longwearing and the right feel on my lips and never drying. I do wish they had more colors though. They retired my favorite two shades and the new colors coming out are too nude or brown for my liking.

      Merit face oil (and I’ve tried a bunch!)

      1. Oh man, it just shows how individual this stuff is – I hate the Merit face oil. It’s so thin and it squirts out really messy. I prefer a dropper. Sunday Riley Luna is my fav for night.

    6. Better than sex liquid eyeliner

      IT Cosmetics full coverage concealer/foundation

    7. I’ve bought lots of expensive options, but I still come back to my Olay moisturizer and Cerave face wash. Plus Dove body wash. I don’t know if I will ever find the perfect concealer that completely covers my dark circles.

    8. Loreal Midnight Serum and Midnight Cream. – The most lux on the market. Beats La Mer any day of the week.
      Roc retinol eye cream.
      Vaseline lip therapy.
      Peter Thomas Roth cloud cleanser.

  9. Book thread! What’s new on your to be read list?
    Mary Roach has a new one on body parts, it’s on hold at my library.
    Just finished: Jane Austen’s Bookshelf, by Rebecca Romney, which is about the female authors who influenced Austen.

    1. Just finished The Hallmarked Man – loved (as I do all in the series) but not as much as Troubled Blood and The Running Grave. Now looking for something new that can compare.

      1. I just picked this up and the new Dan Brown book. I can always do without depictions of Robert Langdon’s live life, but I’ll suffer through it to get to the rest of it.

  10. I need to vent:
    In my late 20’s I had a boyfriend of the same age, I was already a woman he was a boy. We have kept in contact these 25 years with brief “happy birthday/happy Xmas” texts, no real idea about his life but for a couple of enconunters in the city I knew he was from one GF to another (probably all of them great women) and when we were 40 he said “I’m now dating women 30’s”
    This week it has been his 52 birthday and with the “Happy birthday” message I got a repply “I have just had a baby girl”.
    I was so annoyed and I couldnt really point a finger in exactly was going on inside me until I saw this morning this article about Noel Fitzpatrick on FB. Biology or society are so unfair for women. Why men feel entitled to be fathers (better say to conceive children) at any time and (of course) with younger women? I saw the comments and they were expresing exactly my feelings (I copy only one) “Code: Fear of getting old has crept in and I am looking for a woman almost half my age to wipe my a$$ when I can no longer do it myself. Having kids means she is more likely to stay with me when I am decrepit. Awww how sweet.”
    https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/celebrity/article/noel-fitzpatrick-supervet-interview-children

    1. I don’t know, I wouldn’t have a baby at 50 even if it was biologically possible and didn’t increase the risk of genetic conditions (which it does, even for men). I’ll be an empty nester at 50. I can’t imagine starting over at that age. Even at 40 (my current age) I feel too old to start over. I know women have babies at 40+ often for very valid reasons like not meeting their partner until late 35 but I don’t think I’d personally want that. So I don’t feel much jealousy of men being able to do it late.

      1. Yeah, my first husband was a lot older than I was, and we had our baby when I was 27 and he was 45. I remember when I turned 45 and our kid was 18 (we were long divorced by that time), I thought “holy cow, there is no way I’d want to be starting at this point, instead of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel!”

        1. I don’t think I realized your first husband was so much older than you, makes all the stories even more gross. I’m sorry, so glad you finally found happiness.

          1. Haha, thanks but the bad husband was Number Two. He was only 7 years older. First one was an okay guy, just not meant to be married. Strangely, today is the first anniversary of his passing away.

    2. This seems like a lot of bitterness and energy to spend on someone you haven’t really known for 25 years.

      If you can’t be genuinely happy for him, cut off contact. You do no one any good by engaging in pleasantries while silently being annoyed by someone else’s life. It’s toxic. You’re old enough to not do that.

    3. I understand your vent. It is unfair and the double standards are real. Feel free to express these irritations here.

    4. Especially since we have decent evidence that old men having kids actually causes autism. Unlike tylenol or vaccines.

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