Coffee Break: Tali Nylon & Mesh Backpack Bag

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1. I currently work in-house but am looking to move because I’m unhappy with my comp (I’ve explored all avenues for increasing my comp within my current organization and realized I need to move on to move up). I have a job offer from In-House Department, and they want a response by end of day Wednesday. The offer is more than I’m making now but still not great comp-wise, I think my first choice is a job with Specialized Firm where the comp will be significantly higher. I have an interview at SF on Thursday. I know someone who works there so have it on good authority that they are very interested in me and would be able to make an offer quickly if the interview goes well. Do I a) make a counter offer to IHD (which I need to do anyway because I wouldn’t accept the job at the offered comp) on Wednesday morning in the hopes that buys me more time or b) tell IHD that I need until Friday to make my decision making it fairly obvious that I’m waiting for another offer and they’re not my first choice?

   1. You must go for all options: Do the counteroffer thing, and even if they accept, tell them you will think about it. At the same time, interview for the new job, knowing that you will have to work harder then you do in house. My experence is that inhouse counsel are often lazy and inept, and rely on our expertise to do their jobs for them b/c they are not bringing home the mucho dinero like we do in law firms. However, they often treat us like hand servants, knowing that the worse that can happen is that we stop working hard for them. In my case I do NOT have this kind of option b/c there are other WC firms they can go to (at reduced costs)! So I am carful not to mess up with cleints who I otherwise would chase out the door b/c they are general a-holes! FOOEY on them!

2. Does anyone have hyperhidrosis? I have it both with respect to my hands and feet. I’ve used a variety of different antipersperant products and right now am trying Carpe, but it doesn’t seem to be working very well. Unlike my dad, my hands aren’t *literally* dripping in sweat but it’s sweaty enough that when it flares up, papers I’m writing on get a little damp. It makes shaking awkward for me and obviously makes it harder to wear shoes all day.

   Anyone suffer from this too and have suggestions on how to relieve the symptoms or any products they like? Thanks!!

   1. No suggestions. Just here to say I’m part of your club. For me, it’s hands and underarms. My hands sound a lot like yours and I’m resigned to only wearing black or white shirts. When I was a child, my mom said I’d grow out of it. I’m almost 40 now so that’s not looking promising.

   2. Would you consider botox?

   3. I do! My hands and feet both literally drop sweat (so fun), so I almost exclusively wear loafers or flats that I can wear (cotton) no-show socks with. If I wear a dress with tights and booties, I wear socks underneath my tights to absorb the sweat. Shoes lined in real leather (preferably an untreated, uncoated, plain leather) are best for me. It’s getting harder and harder to find them though which is frustrating!!

      I’ve also found that being on anti-anxiety medication really helps lessen the sweat on my hands. When I get really sweaty hands, I’ll run ice cold water over my wrists and it helps a bit.

      So much commiseration with you, it’s such an awkward disease/disorder to have and has caused me a lot of anxiety and stress in my life. I used to be SO embarrassed and now I’ve gotten better but I still dread shaking hands or holding hands or touching anyone or anything.

      Would love to connect!!!

   4. DH got botox in his armpits for this. He gets it 2x/year and it’s covered by insurance. It’s been life changing.

   5. I have it on my hands and feet too, and unfortunately, I have no good suggestions. I use Carpe on my hands, and it seemed to work well at first, but now, not so much. I’m just here to commiserate.

   6. Yes actually there is an effective medication for this called glycopyrrolate. Check with your dermatologist!

3. Any ideas for fun activities for a coed wedding shower? My mom and I are hosting a brunch for my good friend and her fiance which will include a waffle bar (with a guy who make the waffles), make-your-own-mimosas and other brunchy foods. The guests will include about 35-40 of our friends (we’re all around 30ish or so) and some folks our parents age. We currently plan to have a creative guest book which will include instant film photos. For gifts, guest have asked to bring their favorite household tool/gadget.
   Any other activities you think would be fun? Trying to avoid the embarrassing games – my friend isn’t one to like being the center of attention. We were hoping to have several ‘stations’ around the house where guests could do activities while they mingle. Appreciate the help!

   1. Depending on the crowd, a bean bag toss might be fun. I would avoid games, although if you must have a game, a trivia game (where you have the couple answer questions in advance about themselves/the other person and then quiz them during the party to see how well they know each other) is fairly harmless and can be funny (but I’d stick to PG questions).

   2. I think your party sounds lovely as-is.

      1. I agree. I think it would be difficult to coordinate games for that many people. I mean, you had me at waffle bar.

         1. +1

            1. +2

               And your gift suggestions sounds perfect.

               You are a great friend!

      2. Yup. “Brunch with champagne and waffle bar” is plenty of activity.

      3. +4

   3. I don’t think activities are necessary, but if you want optional things people can do:
      – photo album or board with pictures of the couple to look at
      – crossword puzzle with trivia about the couple people can do or not (“Amy and Bob met in this city” etc.)
      – book to write advice for a happy marriage, if this doesn’t overlap with your guestbook too much — or you could incorporate that into your guestbook

   4. The only wedding shower game that I’ve ever had fun doing is the one where you pair up and make a veil out of toilet paper. Silly, but fun. Advice for a happy marriage is also nice. I think, at mine, these were on cards that we read out loud while opening gifts.

      1. That kind of thing doesn’t really fit a co-ed shower, though. I think the waffle bar is plenty of interaction. I think it sounds lovely and the poster is just fine with her current plans.

   5. You know those date night popsicle sticks? What about a station for people to write out ideas?

4. I have a couple of pairs of jeggings that I’ve worn to death and are starting to bag out and look sloppy. Is it worth replacing them, or are jeggings on their way out? I am hoping not — they are Liverpool brand and are so freaking comfortable without having that painted-on look.

   1. I still wear jeggings. I have a couple of pairs from Old Navy in a dark rinse and black.

   2. I think there’s a couple more years left of jeggings/skinny jeans, they’re just not as low-rise as they used to be (which I appreciate as a 40-something woman)– I recently splurged a bit on a pair of Lior jeggings (in black) and they’re FANTASTIC. I have very bony knees and always struggle with pants bagging out in the knee early in the day, but I’ve worn these things many many times since I bought them around Christmas and I don’t think I’ve actually washed them yet (because they’re still snug.) That’s a little gross, now that I think about it, but the lycra is top-notch. They were about $140, but so far have been worth it.

5. This looks like a diaper backpack.

   1. Disagree.

   2. yes, it totally does!

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