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Anon
Usually the SAT is weighted 50/50 verbal and math. IDK how the ACT is, but imagine that math is on it as well. Most of my co-workers went to very competitive colleges. So they must have been decently good at math to get it, even if they weren’t math majors. Why does it seem that so many of them (including a lot of men) are so quick to say that they aren’t good at math (you would not say this about reading or being detail-oriented or communication skills or logical reasoning)? Surely people at places like Wellesley and Wesleyan are not all bad at math?
Anon
The SAT covers high school math. You can do ok on the math portion without being “good at math.”
Anon
I have a quant-adjacent job that requires a good intuitive number sense. I didn’t go beyond AB Calculus and yet even doing far less math than this is now considered “OMG so good at math I can’t even.” It’s really distressing, especially to hear women do it.
Anonymous
I hear “I’m so bad at math” from a lot of male lawyers but almost never from female lawyers.
Anne-on
True. I did got a ~650(ish, it’s been a long time!) on the math portion, white knuckled my way to a 4 in AP Calc and an A in a 200 level stats course. Would that mean I’d consider myself ‘good at math’ compared to colleagues/friends I know who quite literally build complex statistical models? Nope. I’d liken that to saying ‘I’m a great driver’ to a formula 1 race car driver because I’ve never gotten a ticket. I can do the basics but beyond that I have no natural talent or interest to go further..
Anonymous
You don’t go around proclaiming yourself a bad driver just because you are not a formula 1 driver, though.
Anon
Yeah, I did AP Calculus as a sophomore in high school, sailed through college math my junior and senior years of high school and did more advanced math in college, and I didn’t get a perfect or near perfect math SAT score. I actually did better on the verbal section of the SAT, even though I went to a tech school. Getting a good score has more to do with test-taking ability than any deep understanding of math. I am confident that at the time I took the SAT I understood all the subject matter on the test, but I didn’t have the patience to double-check my work and apparently made some stupid errors.
Cat
They’re doing it to disclaim responsibility for whatever the issue is, not because they are actually that bad at math, compounded by the unfortunate culture that being “bad at math” (in the sense of being able to efficiently estimate something, appreciate the order of magnitude, etc) is something understandable and / or cute, rather than embarrassing.
AIMS
I honestly find that sentiment (“math is hard!” Or “i suck at math”) kind of annoying. I especially find it grating when lawyers joke about how they went to law school because they are bad at math. That’s when I will say that I’m actually great at math. Jokes aside, I never say I’m bad at math, esp. not at work, and super esp. not around my kids . I think this is a uniquely American thing, somehow. I’m not sure why, maybe it’s a weird form of humility or just considered cute, but I never hear “ugh math” from people who grew up in other countries.
Anon
Good for you, AIMS. Keep it up!!
Sybil
Same. I am terrific at math, but I have no interest in it.
Anonymous
Same. I usually do say that I am good at math when all the other lawyers are joking about how lawyers can’t do math. But I guess maybe it’s a use-it or lose-it skill for a lot of people, because I have worked with many lawyers who are, in fact, shockingly bad at math. Like they cannot add or subtract simple numbers on the fly without breaking out a calculator.
secretly good at math
Ok this is me, except I am not bad at math. I am great at math and have done well in every math class I’ve taken. BUT I can’t do simple math on the fly/in my head for anything. I can calculate a 20% tip (but not 18 or 22), I can add or subtract round numbers, but beyond that, I’m hopeless. No back of the napkin calculations without a calculator. So I joke that I’m bad at math because on the fly calculations are basically the only time, in the real world, that people use math skills.
Anonymous
Great have fun being good at math?
Anonymous
I was great at school math, and I still use math everyday. I’m not a mathematician and have no Uni level, so of course there’s loads I can’t do, but I’d never dream of saying I’m bad at it because I’m not a university professor…
I can do all the math needed at work, at home, when shopping, when budgeting, I can do percentages, geometry, arithmetic, trig at a pinch and I can find X and plan how much flooring to buy. And enjoy it. So if any “ugh math” people (usually children) rear their heads I just say “I like math! I enjoy it!”
Oh, yeah, and not an American, so you might be right..
LaurenB
+1 to Cat at 2:10 pm. I was a math major and I cannot stand the excuse of “being bad at math.” It’s something to correct, not something to just laugh off.
Anonymous
+1 I thought I was “good at math” b/c of school but when I tried to create an excel spreadsheet figuring out risk allocation for reinsurers (and botched it so badly it might be comical)… I learned I am actually not good at useful math.
Anon
I’m a math person who works with attorneys to explain the math to them. The math in question is addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division.
The first thing they always say to me is “I became a lawyer so I didn’t have to do math hahahah!” Which I think is so sad. You’re doing math all the time. You’re calculating settlements. You’re certainly aware of your billing rate and how much you and your firm will make on this case. You know to the penny how much your bonus will be. Come on!
Anon
Right? Like if you are needing a grade-school math tutor, how did you even go to college and manage the logic games on the LSAT?
Anonymous
One of my advanced degrees is in law and my job is also explaining math to lawyers. Also mostly arithmetic, but occasionally I have to interpret a model for them. I always get “I became a lawyer so I didn’t have to do math hahaha!” Every. Single. Time. To the point where I have started introducing myself as “the world’s only lawyer who likes math, hahaha!” And then I explain whatever simple concept to them and they understand and think I am a genius because I have made division comprehensible.
Why highly educated American adults take such pride in being willfully dumb is a mystery to me.
Anon
Last sentence, 1000%
Anon
Two of us have now quoted the exact same sentence:
“I became a lawyer so I didn’t have to do math hahaha!”
Is this on the bar exam or something? Why is it always this same exact unfunny sentence?
Anonymous
I’m a lawyer with an econ background, and I often do math (simple stuff like percentages) for the rest of the group who all say the same thing. It’s just a set of skills that you have to keep up and get rusty if you don’t use them, so I get it, but I do think it’s funny how math-phobic some people are. I don’t meet many quant-types who act like they’re afraid of writing (public speaking, maybe).
Anon
I’m an attorney with an engineering degree and really loathe how some attorneys think about math. They aren’t actually joking – they went to law school because they are intimidated by math. No one is asking you to do complex analysis – just follow the steps in order!
In response to the OP: “bad at math” is relative. Plenty of people could get good-enough grades in math and do well enough on the math SAT to get into NESCAC schools or Wellesley, with their verbal and foreign language carrying them. If you’re a rock star in foreign languages and history, you might feel “bad at math” when you get a 650 on the SAT and top out at calculus.
Vicky Austin
“Bad at math” is also extremely subjective. As people have mentioned in many places on this thread, they were good at some mathematical disciplines in school and not others, and for those of us who felt or were bad at math, it can be caused by many, many factors. I suspect OP is reading way too much into a throwaway remark that these people are probably making on reflex.
Anonymous
I got a 1450 back in the day, went to a college that competes with Those you mentioned d for students. My SAT score was like 780/670 or something like that- just fine on both but clearly stronger on the verbal. It’s also rote math concepts and I’m good at memorizing!
I am not actually incapable of math, but my husband is decidedly NOT bad at math. In a Business context, that means when we both look a numbers, they mean more to him than to me. He can do math in his head faster. He can quickly call out when something doesn’t look right on a 10k. Faster/more accurate at estimating.
Did we both probably get the SAT questions on the area of a triangle correct? Yes.
Anon
I only got through high school math by memorization (I didn’t understand any of it, just memorized formulas) and a private tutor. I still went to a top university. Never had to study math again.
But also, why do you care how well your colleagues did on the SATs?
Anonymous
There is an epidemic of bad math teaching in this country. We teach kids and teens to memorize algorithms and properties instead of deriving them.
Anon
This. If you don’t understand where the formulas come from or how they relate to each other, math will be hard. It doesn’t have to be that way.
I made a small fortune tutoring math. That would not have happened in a country with any idea how to teach it.
Anonymous
What’s most frustrating is that we teach math by rote because we don’t think kids are smart enough to understand the underlying concepts. This approach actually makes math harder, and it also turns smart kids off to math.
BeenThatGuy
Anon at 4:24 is correct. When my son was in early elementary school, I remember going crazy to figure out how in the world was he expected to learn math when they aren’t teaching it properly. Until one day, a lightbulb went off, and I realized “they think children are idiots. it’s math for idiots.”
Anonymous
I once tutored a delightful elementary school girl who was convinced she was bad at math. It took about 10 minutes of having her derive the algorithm for converting fractions using a set of fraction towers for her to realize that she was, in fact, quite good at math.
Anon
To be fair, any time there’s so much as an attempt to teach math by any other way than rote, parents go bananas, particularly the Moms for Liberty types who think anything other than times tables are the work of the Woke Ministry of Education and al-Gebra.
Anonymous
The right way to teach math isn’t the nonsense they have tried in schools over the past 20 years. It’s 1) deriving formulas and properties and algorithms or having the kids derive them for themselves using manipulatives or activities and 2) memorizing arithmetic facts really well.
Anon
Years ago, people were angry that there was a Barbie who said “math is hard.” And yet math is hard because it has right and wrong answers, requires careful reading, computational ability, and attention to detail. We expected children to learn it by watching videos during the pandemic in lieu of actual instruction and working problem sets (like attending a gymnastics zoom and then expecting kids to do a back flip). And that is for people with attention spans. It’s hard, but it is like any other skill that you can learn (driving a car? cooking?). We don’t like to see pink-wearing Barbies say something that everyone says. It’s a bit annoying but I think that people who are always refinancing their mortgages when rates drop are better at math than they let on.
Anon
I got a 33 on the math portion of my ACT. I got a 36/perfect score on the other three sections. So, by comparison I would say I’m “bad at math.” But I say that knowing that my “bad at math” is very different from the average person. I am guessing it is similar for your coworkers, who are likely the type of individuals who are used to being automatically good at things. Math is just a lot less intuitive to me.
Vicky Austin
It’s practically an American cultural cliche at this point to “hate math,” and I desperately wish it weren’t – I gave myself many years of deep-seated anxiety and self-doubt when I could have been enjoying math.
It’s also extremely easy to fact-check someone who outright brags that they’re good at math; perhaps your colleagues are just doing the old underpromise and overdeliver thing.
Anon
This is a cop-out from people who 1) are too lazy to want to try to help you out when anything might possibly involve a number or 2) are worried that they’d be seen doing something that is wrong from a black/white perspective when quantifying something.
For what I do, the “math” is like solving for X in middle school. And yet, the cop-out for not helping is that “I’m bad at math.” Surely we all got through seventh grade??? Like how do people not know if their financial advisors are ripping them off, if their taxes are correct (sure, you can hire an accountant, but you sign the forms under penalty of perjury), or if they are bonus-eligible? I assure you, they watch their bonus status like a hawk.
Anon
I can do basic arithmetic which is all I need for my taxes or my bonus check. I can add, subtract, multiple and divide. If pressed I can calculate percentages. When I say I am bad at math, I mean that I can memorize (or these days Google) the rules but do not understand them and cannot go beyond them.
I was good at basic algebra but horrible at geometry and trigonometry in high school. I took calculus in college because my father (who was paying for it) made that his only condition. The professor might as well have been speaking Greek for all I understood and I made it through to my only C with a lot of tutoring. I did not “get” it – and I really tried (it wrecked my GPA among other things). My poor father was completely unable to understand because he is good at math.
The point of this being that not everyone’s brain works the same way and some of us are genuinely bad at math!
Anonymous
You probably don’t understand the rules because no one taught them to you in the right way.
anon
On the SAT, I got the same score (700) on the verbal and math portions. On the ACT, I got the same score (30) on each of the 4 sections (and that score was equivalent to my SAT score). So, objectively, I’m fine at math. But my mom and husband and even my 7-year-old are so much better at conceptual math, doing calculations in their head, estimating efficiently, etc. Of course I know more math than my 2nd grader, but there’s something different about the way he groups numbers and calculates in his head, his spatial organization, his pattern recognition, etc. I’ve just never had that intuition. I made it through AP calculus (the easier one) in high school and never had to take a math class in college. I struggled through but ultimately did well in an Economics class and a Political Science stats class, but it took more effort than dashing off a paper at 2 am in the computer lab like I did in many of my other classes.
I’m a lawyer, and I don’t joke that I’m bad at math. I know I do math all the time.
anon
Also, not everyone who did well on the Verbal portion of the SAT is good at writing. And that says nothing of their critical thinking skills.
Anon
The SAT is not a good judge of either math or verbal ability IMO. I am definitely a STEM brain, was way more accelerated in math/science than English in high school, and went to a tech school for college, and my SAT verbal score was higher than my math score. I think there’s a lot of randomness to it, like it depends on the specific questions on the day you take the test.
Anon
The SAT and ACT are not at all applicable to real life. It’s bizarre that you would try to make this link to an adult’s professional capabilities.
Anon
Low scores on these gatekeeping tests likely weed out a certain degree of “really not good at math” people from these types of schools.
Anon
Eh, I got high 700s in the verbal and writing portions of the SATs and mid 500s on the math (after a LOT of tutoring). I took four AP history classes, both AP Englishs and AP French and also was in remedial math and somehow convinced my school to let me not take a science class senior year (which would have been Physics). I went to a good college that’s actually known for its engineering though I certainly was not an engineer.
I have spent a lot of time pushing back on people who swear that there’s no such thing as being bad at math or that girls who think they are bad at math are conditioned to think so. I’m a smart person who cannot understand math. I’d say it’s like Greek to me, but in high school Latin we did a Greek unit and Greek came easy to me and math does not. My mom is a math teacher, so clearly I was not receiving any subliminal messaging that women shouldn’t be good at math. Some of my earliest school memories are not “getting” math.
Growing up in this “STEM or bust” era and being bad at math was hard. The over-emphasis on STEM leads to kids thinking that either you’re good at STEM or your’e dumb. You have a STEM adjacent job or you’re dumb. Some people’s brains just don’t work that way and its really frustrating.
On the flip side, I have a lot of friends who are engineers, work in computer science, work in medicine, or work in finance and many of them say that they are bad writers, they can’t write, etc. and those statements are fine. I’m an intelligence analyst and so obviously spend a lot of time writing reports and even some of my coworkers are just awful writers. I am constantly surprised at the poor writing skills of many of my STEM friends but also of my intel coworkers…
Anonymous
There is no excuse for the level of mathematical illiteracy that is tolerated in our schools. There are in fact kids to whom math does not come easily. Some of them have dyscalculia and need specialized assistance. Some of them can learn quite a lot of math if it’s just taught better. You don’t need to be doing econometrics, but pretty much anyone can get through algebra, basic stats, and single-variable calculus if they are taught properly.
Similarly, there is no excuse for the terrible writing I see from some social scientists I work with. Writing and organized thinking are executive skills that can be improved with proper instruction.
Bottom line: Not everyone can be Einstein or Shakespeare, but we are too quick to shrug our shoulders and give up on teaching kids the basic skills they should have to be educated citizens of the world.
Anonymous
I posted below but I’ve noticed a huge discrepancy in diagnoses for dyscalculia vs diagnoses for dyslexia. I think a lot of people who are bad at math have dyscalculia and don’t know it because it isn’t screened the way dyslexia is
Anon
I worry about this as a parent. I have a kid who was good at math pre-COVID. Now, it’s just a hot mess. She is really good in any other subject, but now I feel like she is ruling out entire career fields based on the fallout from something that’s not really her fault. And based on being relatively worse at math than other subjects (and certainly struggling along with her peers). I had great actual teachers, not links to YouTube videos, and am good enough in math to work with bond investments and securitization, so not a math-whiz, but a person who is financially literate and can read financial statements and understand AUP letters.
AIMS
Consider a tutor. I was good at math without trying much until I started to get placed in advanced placement classes and then the not trying became a real issue because I was quickly behind. My mom found a good math teacher to help me and it literally changed my whole school year. I went from failing math to getting a near perfect score on the regents. It also made me realize that I wasn’t “bad” at math, i just needed to pay attention.
Anon
*you’re
Anonymous
I often think to myself that I am “bad at math” but it is really more that I am intimidated by math because it does not come as easily to me as other subjects. I have also noticed that a lot of lawyers say that they are bad at math, but they really mean that they are not comfortable with advanced functions in excel.
Anonymous
I had a harder time learning math than other subjects in high school and honestly struggled with college-level algebra, but did great in statistics so used statistics and the advanced version for my math credits in college. However, somehow out of all the sections on the ACT, I scored highest in math. I attribute this almost entirely to lucky guessing. I am now a lawyer. My kids are in middle school and I have a hard time helping them. Some stuff I have just forgotten how to do and a quick youtube video reminds me. But some of it is hard for me to figure out. As a lawyer, I only ever have to do basic math.
Trish
Same. I struggled with Cs and Ds in algebra 1 and 2 but do well in geometry and statistics. My score on the LSAT was substantially better than my score on the GRE.
Anonymous
I went to Wellesley. I was great at math in high school! Did fantastic on the math sats. And then never did math again and wouldn’t now say I’m good at it.
Anon
Right? No one thinks illiteracy is cute, I don’t understand how innumeracy is any different. It’s one of many things I don’t understand about our present culture.
Nesprin
It’s so disappointing to hear the educated women on this board say that “they don’t have a math brain”.
Math requires practice, thought, more practice, good education and more practice, and people who get it quickly just did their practicing where you couldn’t see it. It’s such a shame we are so bad as a society at teaching math, or recognizing that there’s lots of different kinds of math (seriously, topology and fluid mechanics are opposite ends of math), or nurturing the idea that if you don’t get it today, you’ll get it tomorrow.
Anonymous
I think a lot of people who say they don’t have a math brain (myself included) have discalculia. Schools are pretty good at screening for verbal learning disabilities but I didn’t know that math learning disabilities were a thing until I was 30. I don’t get math and never have, but I just thought I was bad at math. My cousin who doesn’t get reading the way I don’t get math has his dyslexia diagnosed by the time he was 10…
He took AP Calc as a sophomore in high school but still really struggles to read. I’m in grad school for a social science right now and has a professor tell me I’ve written some of the best papers he’s ever graded but I still have to count on my fingers…
Anon
and I just learned about it from you!
Anon
I’m working on my masters in computer science (CS is fundamentally an applied math degree) and every single test you can hear pencils tapping on desks and see people counting on their fingers. We all do it and needing to doesn’t make you bad at math. A pox on any teachers or parents who discourage students from doing it. Seriously… I’m wrapping up a proof that if someone read it out loud would probably summon a demon. I still count on my fingers.
Seventh Sister
I went to a place like that for college. While I don’t say I’m bad at math (retail makes you great at arithmetic when you’re a bored college kid on a slow day), I’m rarely the one figuring out how to divide a dinner check because I don’t like the responsibility of setting an amount/chasing people around for the check.
When I was in high school, everything that was covered on the SAT was included in the standard curriculum for Geometry, Algebra 1 and Algebra 2. No trig, no calc. Even if you scored pretty high on the math portion, that’s not a lot of math. FWIW, the people I knew from high school who went into very math-y professions got near-perfect scores on the math SAT. The rest of the selective-college-bound were definitely in the average-to-high-average percentile.
Anon
Anyone here have experience with drawer style dishwashers? I like the option to run a smaller load but am worried about what I’ve read is an increased risk for leaks (based on reviews that are now several years old). All feedback welcome.
Anonymous
Most modern dishwashers will sense the load size and adjust energy and water usage accordingly.
Anon
My MIL has one and it is horrid. In addition to the leaking, which is very much a thing, the two drawers are too small to fit anything but small dishes (like, full size plates have to go in carefully on an angle or they are too tall for the drawer to close). They don’t drain well and so they stink frequently, it clogs often, and is very loud. Sometimes it just doesn’t want to run and she has spent more in service calls than it would cost to replace the thing at this point. In theory she needs it for ADA purposes, although watching her struggle with it I really don’t see how it is any easier for her to access than a normal dishwasher would be.
You can find normal dishwashers that will run a half-load if that is your concern.
Anon
I liked mine a lot for all the reasons you mentioned, but when I moved and rented the house out, it was quickly trashed by the tenants and they are prohibitively expensive to fix.
Anonymous
I had one for 2 years in a rental. It never leaked, but it did move around and scratch the wood floors when opened. It was very tiny, and I could only wash dishes from 1 meal and 1 or 2 people in it. It was too small height wise for pots or pans.
Wheels
A friend has two and one broke after about 15 years but the other is still going strong. Like you said, this might be a problem with older versions.
Next revamp I do, I’m planning to get two.
Anon
any recommendations on cotton not nylon or Performance tshirts for men? husband needs more and last few orders have been disappointing (stretch out and lose color easily).
thank you
NYNY
My husband has some sensory issues and seeks out 100% cotton for all clothing that touches his skin. He also lives in a uniform of jeans and a black t-shirt. He recently started wearing American Giant classic cotton tees, and they are impressive. Substantial fabric, maintain shape and color well, and hit the sweet spot of being soft without being clingy. They’re pricey, but the quality seems worth it.
Anon
thanks, that’s really helpful
No Face
American Giant is great. I bought my husband a jacket from there and he wore it every single day in fall and winter for years. Only replacing it now because he ruined it on a job site by getting chemicals and paint on it.
Anon
Head to Target. They have tons of options.
Anan
Uniqlo
Wheels
Uniqlo is my go to for these.
Anon
Anyone have any experience with Al-Anon or Adult Children of Alcoholics? My therapist recommended I go to an ACA meeting and I’m a bit nervous about it…
Anon
Not that specific group, but most 12 step type programs have a drop into a meeting anytime kind of philosophy. I do think it would be helpful to call or look on the website and see which ones are good for people new to the program, but you can go and just listen. You do not have to contribute.
Anon
i do not know why I am in m0d all day
attend a meeting. look online for the one that’s good for beginners. You can just listen, you don’t have to participate. Everyone there feels awkward to be there, or did at first. The only way to figure out whether the meetings will be helpful to you is to see what they’re like.
Anonymous
Question for all the partnered ladies: how did you know you’d met The One?
Cat
Gut feeling, tbh, like the more time we spent together the more time we wanted to spend together.
Backed up by general lifestyle compatibility, no evidence of manchild behavior (he could cook and kept his apartment clean without having to be asked, remembered people’s birthdays, made firm plans and kept them, etc), pride in introducing to friends and family, etc.
Anom
You set a high bar.
Cat
It was quite refreshing after a series of guys who were nice enough but felt like projects! Still can’t believe my luck :)
Anonymous
Gosh! This comment makes me so sad. This is not a high bar. This is kind of the basic bar.
anon a mouse
When I realized I would rather be with him than spend time by myself – I really, really like my alone time. (Still do, and still get plenty of it in my marriage, but I also like being together a whole lot.)
Vicky Austin
Compatible senses of humor, enjoying time spent together no matter what we did (including nothing), his family liked me without my having to be inauthentically well-behaved around them (and vice versa).
Vicky Austin
Coming back, inspired by others’ responses, to add that kindness in a crisis was another one. My sister got married this summer and my dad told the story of how her now-husband took her to the urgent care in her college town (for something sort of gross and embarrassing, to boot) after having known her two weeks. Even if they hadn’t been head over heels for each other already, we (her family) were head over heels for him after that!
Anon
It wasn’t hard. We were aligned in what we wanted – there wasn’t tension between one of us wanting to be more serious and the other wanting to be more casual. My prior relationships had a lot more drama, but drama/controversy/disagreement was totally absent in the start of my relationship (and for the most part the rest of it!)
AIMS
in no particular order, he was (repeatedly) really great in a crisis, was patient with a super obnoxious friend of mine, and looked at me (me still does) like I was the most amazing person in the world. I don’t know that there is any one moment that you “know”(and I am someone who questions all assumptions I make anyway), but the way he behaved made it clear that he was someone I wanted to go thru life with, bad and good.
Anon
Pretty much the day I met him. He’s my second husband, I met him not too long after getting divorced, and I just knew. We’ve now been married for 20+ years and have college aged kids.
I’m not usually a go with your gut person – I’m usually very analytical. But I know that this isn’t something that can be strictly analyzed.
Anon
We were roommates first, so we already knew that we were happy living together, and like someone else said, I really like to be alone and I’d still rather be with him than be alone. By the time we actually started dating, I was 100% sure we were going to be together for good. We’ve been together 15 years and life hasn’t been easy during that time, but being together has always been the easiest part of it.
Wheels
It was easy. The relationship wasn’t hard work, or stressful. We agreed about most things, or could speak about them until we came to an agreement. He supported my career by taking on much, much more of the household tasks. My friends liked him.
Married
I loved him. We agreed on how we wanted our lives to go. We gave each other room to be our own people. He stood up for me to his family. He is kind and hardworking. We trust each other. I didn’t meet anyone in the time we were dating until we were married who I thought, huh, I’d rather be with you.
Anon
I felt like no one had ever understood me as naturally and easily and also our s*xual connection was amazing.
…we got divorced after three years of marriage.
I now no longer believe in “the” one, but rather that there are a lot of potential partners out there for most of us. My second husband was a friend for years; I realized I loved him when I realized our lives had become so intertwined that we’d already started shaping each others futures and I wanted that to go on forever. This one has worked out a lot better.
anon
I didn’t second guess myself or strategize about saying I love you. It was just clear I felt that way, and wanted to make sure he knows I am serious about the relationship.
Anonymous
I got married fairly young, but I married my best friend. We did a fair bit of growing up together.
At the time, I wanted to be with him more than anyone else.
In hindsight, the reason we’ve been together for 18 years, 13 kids, and some really (really) rough times is because we fight fair and at the end of the day assume good intentions.
Liza
Our first date was SO easy. All my first dates had been awkward and I wasn’t really attracted to the guys and I felt compelled to get drunk to compensate – until this guy! We talked for hours and hours and it just flowed naturally, and it was genuinely fun. I’d had enough mediocre and bad first dates at that point to know that was special.
anon
I have a really cute crocheted dress that is now starting to stretch out. I usually don’t wash that sort of thing very often bc it doesn’t stink and I just manage not to spill on it. But then when things stretch, my first reaction is to wash and dry. What would you do with a crochet dress that says hand wash?
(I will try to reply with the link.)
anon
https://www.libertylondon.com/us/Bunty-Blanket-Stripe-Midi-Dress-R469675006.html?istCompanyId=af7aa0e2-46f2-46c6-a62b-ff11c9767f95&istFeedId=24144226-95f4-4409-a465-81e92473af9e&istItemId=parqaatxl&istBid=t&gclid=CjwKCAjw-rOaBhA9EiwAUkLV4jPXMBGaMWObJ3lkgieKkYOL7rsSw9L6SbezYdCEVeN2weqdBdlJGRoCwYUQAvD_BwE
Anon
Mist with water and dry in the sun.
Anon
lay flat to dry!
Mouse
As a knitter/crocheter, I really like Soak wash for things like these, because you don’t have to agitate the item much (which can cause damage) and you don’t have to rinse it at all. Use Soak in cold water, gently squeeze out excess water, lay item flat to dry in the shape you want. Should work great!
Anon
It’s cotton, so there’s no reason you can’t put it in the wash. It won’t felt like wool would. I’d wash and dry on low/gentle. Check on it and take it out while it’s still a little bit damp.
Anon
Cotton yarn is very stretchy so it does have a tendency to bag. I’d be careful washing it because any direction you hang it in, it’s going to stretch in that direction. Do you have a place you can lay it completely flat to dry? I’d do that.
I’m a knitter and here’s how I wash handknits. Soak in a tub of lukewarm water that has some no-rinse detergent meant for wool dissolved in it. The Laundress and Euclan both make this. After soaking, drain basin with garment still in it, as much as you can, then press garment and squeeze garment without wringing or pulling to extract as much water as possible. Lay out a clean towel. Fold or crumple the garment in the sink or basin before moving to the towel so it’s not hanging as you transfer it. Plop the garment into the middle of the towel and gently unfold/uncrumple it to the length of the towel without pulling. Roll the towel with the garment inside. You can push on the towel to try to get more water out or just let it sit there for a while until the towel is pretty wet. Then transfer the same way to a flat drying surface (maybe another towel) and let it dry all the way before you store it.
Anon
I have a long comment in m0d for I’m guessing the tr-ns reason.
I’m a knitter and here’s how I wash handknits. Soak in a tub of lukewarm water that has some no-rinse detergent meant for wool dissolved in it. The Laundress and Euclan both make this. After soaking, drain basin with garment still in it, as much as you can, then press garment and squeeze garment without wringing or pulling to extract as much water as possible. Lay out a clean towel. Fold or crumple the garment in the sink or basin before moving to the towel so it’s not hanging as you tr-nsfer it. Plop the garment into the middle of the towel and gently unfold/uncrumple it to the length of the towel without pulling. Roll the towel with the garment inside. You can push on the towel to try to get more water out or just let it sit there for a while until the towel is pretty wet. Then tr-nsfer the same way to a flat drying surface (maybe another towel) and let it dry all the way before you store it.
Anonymous
I would hand wash it