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Anonymous
Has anyone here tried a matchmaker? I’ve been on and off dating sites/apps for about 9 years now. Met some good guys, but it seems the apps are now all becoming versions of Tinder, and the guys put it no effort whatsoever to read my profile, my clear information about what I’m looking for, etc. I don’t have time to sort through 60+ new swipes every day. I’m going off all sites but don’t want to resort to leaving everything to chance either.
Anon
I wouldn’t bother, the matchmakers just troll the dating sites and don’t put a lot of effort into finding an actual fit. My husband agreed to go on a handful of dates for a matchmaker (he got trolled on a dating site) and said they ignored everything he said he was looking for.
Anon
I did one in NYC. Loved it! I felt like all of the guys they matched me with were definitely guys I would have gone on multiple dates with. I am now in a long term relationship with one of my matches, and we are talking about getting engaged soon.
Anonymous
Which one?
Anonymous
Awesome, and congrats! Can you share the agency? How did you select your matchmaker? Can you share cost?
Anon
I used Three Day Rule. Honestly, I went with them because they were the cheapest. $7k for 6 months, I think. I met with the matchmaker, and while she was much much younger than me (I’m in my late 30s), she had a very similar personality style and interests as me, so it felt like a good fit.
I was sick of the apps, and honestly I wasn’t very good at them. I don’t really have a “type” and I felt it was too hard to learn enough about someone from a profile, so I really struggled with finding anyone I connected with. The matchmaker was my last ditch effort before becoming a single mother by choice.
Anonymous
Thank you so much. That’s really helpful. I am heading in the single mother by choice direction in a few years if I don’t meet anyone.
Ellen
This is very encourageing! Thank you for sharing. I will show this to my Dad. I hope the guys there are interested in us for our mind’s, and focussed on what is between our ear’s, and NOT our leg’s. Every app and dating service Dad has looked at with me seem’s to attract men who are ONLY interesting in women who are willing to have s-x with them the first time we meet. FOOEY! That is NOT acceptable for women like us, who are looking for a relationship leading to marrage and children.
anonymous
Alternatively, I used a dating coach. He didn’t select matches for me, but he helped a LOT with my profile and strategy for looking for dates. Importantly, I think he helped me put into words what qualities I was really looking for in a guy, whereas before I was trying to cast a wide net and wasting a lot of time. It ended up working out really well. I’m happily in a relationship with a really great guy.
Because I know someone will ask, I worked with Evan Marc Katz. It was expensive, and I don’t agree with everything he says, but the overall experience was definitely worth it for me.
Anonymous
So I’m tempted but is he just gonna tell me I’m fat?
anonymous
I don’t know, actually. He didn’t tell me I needed to dress better or wear more makeup or anything like that.
Anonymous
OP here. I think this is probably great for some people, but I feel I already know exactly what I want and what are negotiables or not. The issue is really finding those guys in the morass that has become dating apps. I’ve read EMK’s blog and some of it is good, but some of it I find to be strategy that does not align with my personal moral views of who I am and what I want. He seems to encourage women to settle. Can you share at a high level anything you learned about the actual search rather than the personal introspection?
anonymous
Sure, I’ll try. I think your point about personal moral values is a fair one (I myself don’t totally align with him in this area, and that was a little bit of a challenge). I also hear what you’re saying about him seeming to encourage women to settle, but for whatever it’s worth, I am very happy with where I ended up and do NOT feel that I settled. This may depend on what your non-negotiables are.
I wrote out something longer, but I’ll try to distill it to two quick tips: (1) as much as possible, write your profile based on something you’ve actually done or something someone has actually done for you (e.g., I’ll throw you a surprise birthday party at the Escape Room), and (2) try to screen more up front before agreeing to a date (he calls it the 2-2-2 Rule). I know a lot of people don’t do this, and I kind of resisted it, too, but for a slower mover like myself, it actually turned out to be the right approach.
Beyond that, I’m still afraid the answer is just luck.
Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your experience and insights. My issue with EMK is partly that he seems to assume some things like height, physical fitness, career achievements, ambitions, etc. are irrelevant and petty. In some contexts, perhaps that’s true, but if we’ve discovered repeatedly we simply can’t respect, and therefore be attracted to, someone who isn’t a “do-er,” who is taller than we are, etc., who shares a similar outlook on health, then it’s not superficial. I don’t think he is saying everyone should settle, but there are echoes in his advice of that book (name escapes me) written by the older women who said we are all expecting too much and should just accept good enough. I don’t know that any of us are expecting perfect, but I’d rather stay single and hold out hope.
Airplane
I just read that EMK’s 2/2/2 rule is 2 emails on the dating site, 2 emails on Gmail, and 2 phone calls before a date. That would have been horrible for me. I do not want to talk on the phone when I haven’t met a guy in person. My mantra was always to be picky in profile swiping so that all your matches are viable, trade a few messages, then meet up early, as soon as you’ve had some banter. I don’t want to be emotionally invested in conversation with someone I won’t have chemistry with or attraction to and I can only gauge that in person. Granted, I will admit I met my SO relatively quickly on the app after a terrible breakup so I only spent about 4 months on bumble. My burnt out friends who have been single and on it for like 6 years say that this method is only fun/workable when you haven’t experienced the same cycle for years.
anonymous at 2:10 pm
Candidly, that flavor of advice in EMK’s writing had turned me off, too. Ultimately, I don’t feel that I settled on those fronts — I am dating someone who also has an advanced degree and is fairly career-oriented and ambitious and who wanted the same in a partner. I’ve struggled with the question of whether I would have found this relationship on my own (and saved some $$$ in the process!), but I think going through the coaching process helped me adjust my mindset in a way that let me be my own matchmaker, so to speak. It’s hard for me to say whether this would be a good option for you, but I am certainly happy that I did it.
Anonymous
No, but I’m in a similar situation of considering matchmakers after years on dating apps and failed dates/nonstarters. (my most recent date in DTLA could only complain about how dirty LA was after repeated nice comebacks from me, and I resisted the urge to tell him to go back to where he came from if LA was such a shock).
Am in Los Angeles so following for any recs on the West Coast.
Anon.
I would be very careful of being scammed. I hired a dating coach service in NYC last year and they basically took the money and met up with me 3 times instead of the 5 times they promised. This “agency” had 3 coaches, only 1 of whom I found remotely helpful. The other two were just really sketchy characters who game me the most useless advice ever. The first one spent the whole time drawing a chart of feminine and masculine adjectives and telling me to review the chart every morning to “internalize my feminine energy.” The second one told me to watch Latin American soap drama and children to mimic how expressive they are when speaking. The third one was really helpful though and his name was Israel. You can probably find his service on Yelp by searching his first name and “dating coach.” I found him helpful in terms of giving me profile feedbacks and also figuring out what my dating issues are and how to overcome them. Oh, and they also charged me $200 for a ridiculous one-on-one dating improv session, which turned out to just be a sketchy part-time actor giving me short improv exercises for less than an hour. If I had to do this all over again, I would just hire Israel directly instead of getting scammed by all these other people. The first coach said she also worked as a matchmaker for Tawkify and put me in her system. But I found her picks for me to be really bad and somewhat racist. I’m northeast Asian, and her first match for me was an Indian American man. Her rationale was that I must be into him since he was also Asian. Her second match was a guy who I later found out was jobless, living at home with his parents, incredibly socially awkward, and whose parents paid for the matchmaking service for him. He was genuinely nice though. I also tried out another matchmaking service in DC (It’s Just Lunch) as a nonpaying member, and the men they tried to set me up with were also Indian as well. So the point is a lot of these matchmakers will try to set you up with a certain type of men, and not the men you actually want to date.
Houda
One of my new year’s resolution is to eat out less. Our office is 40 pax max any given day and we have a kitchen with pantry and fridges. Some colleagues buy things from the grocery store and make salads or microwave meals.
Any ideas of hearty meals I could make quickly at the office or buy to microwave and which don’t stink?
Most of my colleagues make a tomato avocado chicken salad.
I need something more filling and ideally also hot food.
Anonymous
What do you eat for dinner? I usually just bring in leftovers and except for fish that’s fine.
Anon
Yep. Leftovers. I like to make big batches of soup and freeze them in individual portions to have when I want them. We frequently have tacos for a quick weeknight dinner and I’ll toss some of the meat (beef, shrimp, or fish) onto a salad for the next day.
Mrs. Type A
I was going to say the same things! Soups are great. If you have an instant pot they are super easy to make. Freeze in mason jars. Put one in the fridge the night before to defrost. Then you can microwave at work. Or what I done s heat is itnup in the morning on the stove and the put in an insulated container. I find microwaving can lead to uneven heat distribution.
Also agree with taco meat. I cook a lb at a time and break down into individual portions and freeze. The night before I put together the lettuce and some veges and put the frozen meat there too in the fridge. It’s defrosted by the next day.
anon a mouse
I’m with you — I really want a hot lunch. I do a lot of beans and rice (sometimes with sausage for extra protein). I also will prep a large batch of burritos (ground beef or chicken) and freeze them, then reheat in the office microwave.
Anon
I buy the Amy’s frozen meals.
Anonymous
I confess to being bemused at the idea that most of your colleagues make the exact same salad for lunch. How does that even happen?
Make extra of whatever you eat for dinner and take it for lunch.
make extra pasta or soup and freeze in individual portions
buy frozen meals at the grocery store and heat them up
Believable
Because it has chicken and tomatoes and avocado and lettuce and is some sort of salad, in varying proportions. I completely believe this because it is both general and specific enough to be true, like “Oh, everyone eats a sandwich with chips” or “everyone is eating pasta”. Also these things are bright colors or noticeable so you might not notice someone with, say, beans or taking a black dish out of the microwave.
HSAL
I’m not 2:38 Anonymous, but I don’t think the issue is that she doesn’t believe it, but rather it’s very odd that “most” of someone’s colleagues make that very specific dish.
Houda
Most colleagues buy their lunch, but any given day, about 9-10 would make their own. We have a tesco near work so they buy bagged salad greens, an avocado, maybe a tomato and some sort of protein (chicken or salmon). It is so easy, even I was tempted to make it
Houda
I love chili con carne because tinned tomatoes and tinned beans are always in my pantry, so I can make massive batches
Anonymous
So do that? Sounds great.
emeralds
Yeah, batch-cooking soup sounds like your best bet. I do a big pot every weekend and freeze the leftovers in single-serving containers, and grab/defrost as needed. Having a rotation of frozen options also lets me change it up a little, so I’m not eating the exact same thing every single day.
Anon
Lentil soup is my go-to.
Ellen
Yay! Open Thread’s! I love Open Threads and soft PJ’s, but not one’s with short pant’s, b/c in the winter, I love to stay warm and cozy, and in the summer, long pant’s helped to keep my ex’s hands from “wandering” when I was trying to sleep. That is NOT an issue now, b/c I dumped him and do not want any man doing that when I am trying to sleep. Most men will respect that, but even so, shorts are fine only when you have a significant other that respects YOUR space and your privacy. Men generally think only of themselves, and what that is goeing to get them. FOOEY on them!
nutella
Eeks, I didn’t see it until late, but I am the original ‘nutella’, so to the writer from the previous p0st, please choose another name to avoid confusion. Thanks!
Anon
Fauxtella!
Anonymous
Twotella!
nutella
Hahaha, well done with the puns!
I was thinking nah-tella :)
Anon
Is there an instagrammer or store or heck, even a magazine, showing great complete business casual looks? I feel like I’ve been sort of stumbling around for work fashion for the last couple years. I’ll buy a piece here or there, but I don’t feel like I have a *wardrobe* – more like some random clothes in a closet that kinda make semi-decent outfits. I’m late 30s and a pear, so I feel like many stores are too young and some are too old and then plenty don’t fit my shape.
Anonymous
Have you considered a Nordstrom personal shopper? A good one will put together multiple outfits out of your purchases and show you how to wear them in different ways.
anne-on
I feel like this is REALLY hard in your late 30’s. I am much too senior for a lot of the cheaply made Ann Taylor/Loft stuff, and the Banana and JCrew quality isn’t there for the price a lot of the time. I’ve bought a lot of Brooks Brothers, but honestly I’d kill for some of the popular British brands (LK Bennett, The Fold, Reiss, etc.) to be more widely available over here, I think they really nail the ‘competent, professional, put together but not too sexy or stodgy’ look that is so freaking hard to find in stores!
Anon
Bloomingdale’s sell Reiss and LK Bennet, FYI. I’ve gotten some good deals there on Reiss.
Anonymous
I’m just buying all of the non-workout gear in the Athleta catalog.
Been there
I experienced these feelings, too, a few years ago. I felt like I was aging out of all the brands like Banana, etc. that I had relied on for years. The clothes just didn’t look good on me anymore. I felt like maybe I was no longer in the right demographic for those brands. I am 41 now, and the past year has been a huge transformation for me. I discovered intermittent fasting and also did some kettlebell workouts, and I ended up losing about 15 pounds. I’m now more in the midrange of normal for my BMI instead of borderline overweight. I think turning 40 also made me eager to try to slow aging, too.
After losing the weight, I needed to go on a shopping spree because I went down a size. Then I got excited about these brands again. Yes, admittedly, the quality isn’t what it used to be, but I feel like I look good in this stuff again. Skinny jeans no longer look so tight that it feels inappropriate to wear them. LOFT has some terrific discounts, too! You might take a look at Boden. I think their quality is a bit better. They have some nice ponte blazers and a million different dresses,and it seems work appropriate.
Anyway, this post is to say… I’ve been there, and well, it seems for me it wasn’t so much that I had aged out of the brands as much as I had accumulated weight over the years that made me not like the way I looked in anything anymore. Good luck!
Dee
A poster from this page turned me onto The Vivienne Files – all one word, a fashion blog focusing on capsule wardrobes based on colors. It has been VERY helpful to me!
Small Firm IP Litigator
Have you tried Boss, Theory, or if you want to splurge MaxMara? All of my more basic clothes are from these brands. DVF wraps are also great, and when I want to dress aggressively feminine, I turn to Ted Baker. I’m older than you are, but not too much.
EB
What are your tricks for wearing lipstick? When I put it on, I almost always get some on my teeth, meaning I am constantly worried about it and never want to reapply without a mirror. Are “longwearing” types better? I really want to wear it more!
Anonymous
After applying, stick your finger in your mouth close your lips around it and pull it out
NY CPA
+1
I stick my thumb in my mouth and close (like a baby sucking their thumb), and then pull my thumb out with my lips still closed (hope that makes sense?). The lipstick comes off on my thumb instead of my teeth, and I just wipe it off with a tissue and wash my hands. Works every time.
Airplane
One thing that helps – exfoliate – at the very least rub a paper towel on your lips before applying.
Two other things I alternately do:
1. Use one layer of chaptstick first, make sure you get everything you want the lipstick to cover, clean any messy edges with paper towel. Then apply lipstick. This trick makes your run of the mill drugstore lipsticks go on smoother and avoids any feathering or coloring outside the lines because the chapstick works like a guide or jesso on a canvas for paintings. Then blot a few times with a paper towel and pull the paper towel out from between your lips a little as you remove it to catch everything on the inside so it doesn’t make it to your teeth
2. Use liquid lipstick or long wear that has a top layer. Those double ended ones with the gloss top coat. Pair with the paper towel blot.
Also, this might just be the shape of your lips/teeth/mouth structure/the way you move your houth when you talk. I have a friend that does all of above and still has to do multiple mirror checks in a night because lipstick just love her teeth!
Senior Attorney
I use the liquid double-ended kind, too. I don’t bother with the top coat and the colored part lasts all day. I use Revlon Colorstay.
Small Firm IP Litigator
I put foundation and powder on my lips before I put on lipstick, and apply the first application of the day with a lipstick brush to get the edges just right. I also put concealer around the edges of my lips to prevent bleeding. I carry a small mirror with me and use that reapply – probably once a day, but just on the parts away from the edges (the edges stay well). To avoid getting on your teeth, apply with your mouth closed and don’t move your neck around to apply it (hold you neck/face/lips still). I’d also practice drinking/eating with it on – how you do this impacts how much you get on your glass, food, face, etc.
EM84
I think that genetics – position of your teeth relative to lips, shape of lips – has to do a lot with this. I almost exclusively wear red lipstick and never get it transferred on my teeth. I use MAC and Maybelline Colour Sensation (basic ones), FWIW.
Anon
Totally frivolous Friday afternoon question. I just don’t get Katherine McPhee and David Foster (he’s 69, she’s 34 – my age – and they just got engaged). He’s not a bad looking man, and he’s rich and sort of famous, I get it, but she’s rich and famous too and surely she has her pick of attractive men who aren’t 35 years older than her. I don’t think an age difference is that big a deal if you’re talking 10 or 15 years, especially if you’re in the same general stage of life. But he has grown children that are older than her, and unless she plans to bail on this marriage immediately, she’s going to be taking care of quite an elderly man while she’s still in her 40s (he’ll be 80 when she’s 45). What about that could possibly be appealing? Does anyone understand this?
Anonymous
I dunno maybe she loves him? It’s not for me but apparently it’s for her.
Anonymous
She’s something of a serial homewrecker, so I doubt she’ll be around when he’s 80 (or even 70). But it’s getting her a lot of pageviews, no? And while both people are rich by my standards, she is young and only has $ and has miles to go on little talent and no goodwill, so she needs $$$ and pageviews / publicity, which this relationship has given her.
Ok fine, a Tom & Rita split would kill me
I am of the mind that “celebrities” aren’t real people. I think there’s a level of fame one hits where you don’t really take normal, everyday person actions anymore – mostly within the context of marriages.
Don’t get me wrong, I love to read gossip news about celebrity marriages, but I can’t roll my eyes any harder when people fawn over celebrity marriages, or couples you pretend are perfect for each other. Because it’s legitimately about celebrity and publicity, etc. These marriages are totally business moves and I very much doubt that they function like relationships in the real world.
McPhee and her producer included.
Anon
There are a few that would or did hit me hard – Anna Faris and Chris Pratt, Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell -but for the most part I agree with this.
Anon
Nope..I don’t understand. I don’t understand many other couples too..but I convince myself that may be I never experienced enough love towards some one which made be to cross such boundaries.
Airplane
Eh, I think it’s a mix of delusion and denial when it comes to how she’s rationalizing caring for a man in his 80’s person when she’ll be in her 40’s. Or she’s someone who values the now more and isn’t fussing about the future.
Also…ick “I’ve known him since I was 21 years old, you know? He produced my first single.” Kind of sounds like Celine Dion’s marriage where the future singing sensation meets a producer at a young age and marries him later despite a huge age difference where the man could be her father. Also, I think McPhee’s dad died like 2 weeks after the engagement and might have been sick for a long time? I’ve seen that happen a few times too, women grows up in “Daddy’s girl” culture, dad gets sick or dies and woman immediately marries or commits-earlier-than-she-normally-would to whatever dude she’s with / a really old dude.
Ssg
What’s there to understand? She’s a grown a$$ single woman and he’s a grown a$$ single man? My way of saying myob!!!
Anon
No need to be so rude, I’m not saying she can’t do whatever she wants, of course they are single adults and there’s nothing illegal or immoral about their actions. But I’ve personally never felt any kind of attraction (beyond physical lust) to someone way older. I thought maybe other people here have and might have more insight.
Anonymous
“she’s going to be taking care of quite an elderly man”
Maybe this is different for the very very wealthy … she can hire the caretaking out and just enjoy his company for as long as she can?
Anon
Eh I will admit to being a regular RHOBH watcher and I thought he was a total jerk to Yolanda (I mean, she’s a bit of a pain in the ass but she really was sick and he was pretty unfeeling about it). And I don’t really like McPhee either so my feeling is, they deserve each other. As another poster said, it’s not like Hollywood marriages are forever anyway. She can have his wrinkly old ballsack.
Anon
I’m just laughing at how apparently the word “ballsack” does not get you in moderation, but other words do. Also not disagreeing with you.
Anonymous
I think I’ve told this story here before, but I have a friend from high school who married a man in his early 50s when we were in our early 20s. The story then was all about how “love doesn’t see age” and that they were a great match despite the age difference, he was so fun and so much more mature than guys her age, he had money and they had this great jet-setting lifestyle, etc. Now she is in her early 40s, and he is in his early 70s and has significant health problems (has survived prostate cancer and now has bone cancer in remission; he has some pretty serious issues as a result of the multiple rounds of chemo and radiation he went through for both cancers) that mean that all the travel, eating out, seeing shows, etc. that they did early in their marriage aren’t possible any more. She also now has regret about never having children (he had nearly-grown children when they got married and did not want any more, and at the time she was fine with it). Anyone’s story can end in any number of ways, so maybe this doesn’t happen in all May-December relationships. But my friend does spend a lot of time caregiving and has nearly the same restrictions on her life now that people with small children have. She seems frustrated and unhappy and it seems to me she thought he would stay young and vibrant forever…but I don’t know too many people that are able to keep going into their 70s the way they did in their 40s and 50s, so I feel like some of this should have been foreseeable? I don’t get it at all, but to each their own. I do wonder sometimes if the younger half of the May-December relationship isn’t secretly counting on the older person to die before intensive caregiving becomes a necessity.
Anon
I’ve seen many May-Dec relationships, including many where I knew the older partner best. I can confidently say some last to senility and death, and some last as cherished supportive friendships after breakups and remarriages. If anything, I would guess the older partner breaks it off more often, and also they more often break off amicably than “traditional” demographics, based on the anecedata I’ve seen.
Anonymous
It’s hard on any marriage when one partner is forced into caregiving for the other at any age. I think insurance should cover more home help and personal care.
kiki
OK is it weird that I haven’t even heard of either of them??
Anon
Nah, she’s a C lister at best and he’s the ex-husband of a D list reality star so they’re not really that famous.
Anony
Honestly, I once fell in love with a man who was 30 years my senior. I guess it’s just something that happens sometimes.
Endocrinologist Rec MD/DC
Can anyone recommend a good endocrinologist in the MD/DC area? The waitlist for my current doctor is insane (4 months out) and I’m already not very happy with him. This is to for a thyroid condition. The other recommendations I’ve received from friends are for doctors that don’t take insurance (I guess this is the new trend, but I just don’t have the energy to deal with it).
Anonymous
I’ve been happy with Dr. Melissa Loughney in downtown DC (19th/L).
RGH
Favorite pajamas are tanks (not fitted) or short sleeve with long bottoms (not shorts). Garnet Hill has a one like that and it’s perfect but (a) super expensive and (b) always sold out. Asian wrap short sleeved top with Capri length bottoms. Anyone have something that seems similar? Have not tried Soma but seems they might be a contender.
tesyaa
I don’t have the pajamas but Soma gowns are so soft and comfy and don’t seem to stretch out.
Anon
I like the Soma sleep camis with the seam just below the bust because they give light support. I’m wearing one now. Yay for WFH Friday! Look for them under the cool nights collection.
I wear the matching pants because i like to match and because they come in long inseam. They’re wide-legged so not for everyone but I love them.
Anon
Oh boy. My husband just texted me a picture of the new fire pit he built in the backyard. He sketched it out for me a few days ago and told me it was going to be big…but it’s an 8 ft by 8 ft square made of cinderblocks. And not even the cute textured cinderblocks, but the plain, utilitarian ones. Any ideas on how to make this behemoth, um, less of an eyesore? He’s so proud of himself!
Anon
My husband does things like this sometimes and he so proudly shows it off. I acknowledged his “achievement” and ignore it. I don’t want to mess with benign things that makes him so happy.
Senior Attorney
Tell him “wow, that’s a great start! It’s going to look amazing when you get the stone facing installed!”
https://www.houzz.com/photos/1984282/Alderwood-Landscape-contemporary-landscape-seattle
Senior Attorney
Or you could stucco over it: https://decoratw.com/inspiration-for-backyard-fire-pit-designs/
OP
As always, SA, THANK YOU! Much relief coming your way :)
Senior Attorney
Good luck! And honestly fire pits are awesome! My best advice is to bite the bullet and have a gas line run to it so you can just turn it on and off whenever you want. It’s stupidly expensive but worth it IMO.
Anonymous
Landscaping around the cinderblocks can do wonders! Maybe live with it for a few months and then propose planting some new bushes or flowers in the spring?
Anonymous
Ooh! You could build another, smaller circular or square brick pit in the middle of the 8 by 8 cinderblock square (as someone mentioned below – that is waaaay too big for a fire pit unless you regularly have bonfires) and then plant some trailing vines in between the fire pit and the cinderblock wall and train the vines to go over the cinderblock. Not sure where you live but if you’re in a warmer climate, you can plant trailing succulents and in a couple of years it would look great. I’m sure there’s something similar you can do in a colder climate, maybe English ivy? Maybe even plant some small annuals or perennials in there as well. Nothing that would dry out and catch fire, obviously.
Anonymous
Was this maybe the original vision from OP’s husband? To have a smaller fire pit in the middle of a larger gravel area (which would then not have any potential tinder in it.
If that was the plan, then obviously you using edging brick or terracing stone and not cinderblock, though :)
Anon
Heh, my husband did something similar a few years ago. I figured he’s more important to me than the aesthetics of whatever it was, so I made a big fuss over him and how great it was.
In your case, maybe you can add some plants or planters around it? Maybe some tiki torches?
anon
I laughed out loud, mainly because I could easily find myself in the same predicament. DH can build things and does a great job with the base structure, but he’s not much of a finish carpenter.
Anonymous
Ugh yes. I still have an unfinished wine rack that an ex built “for me” years ago. It’s raw wood (no stain or paint – you can still see the stamp from Home Depot on a bunch of the slats) and no part of it was ever sanded – including the ends (which were cut with either a power tool or hand saw) – so it’s pretty splintery. But it’s sort of functional and it’s too massive to get out of my basement so thus is my life.
Anon
Maybe you could point out how much firewood it’ll take to fill that pit and he’ll make it smaller. 8×8 is a bonfire pit!
Anon
Just read this and wanted to share – as someone who is getting married soon and hopes to have children and a career, this is very depressing: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/31/opinion/childbirth-injury-motherhood-misogyny.html.
Anon
I don’t disagree with the author’s point that our society is incredibly sexist and there’s a huge double standard when it comes to how we approach s3x and pleasure in men vs women, and yeah there are plenty of women out there who would benefit from pelvic floor therapy but haven’t had it. But please know that her experience is incredibly rare. Being injured so badly that you can’t walk for two months after birth is probably 1:10,000 odds or something like that. I had very bad tearing when I gave birth and was living normal life (minus s3x) pain free in about a week. S3x was painful for longer, but not forever and my OB was a huge help to me when I told her intercourse was painful, and treated it like a serious medical problem that demanded attention.
Idea
A girlfriend from college had a similar injury, actually, during her labor. I am not sure about any prolonged injury or pain, during i n t e r course or otherwise, but these injuries do happen and more people should know about them. Another friend went back to the hospital when her newborn was just a few days old and demanded to be seen for a blood clot (she was admitted). Please don’t dismiss these concerns – that’s exactly what the article is about – raising awareness
Anon
I’m not dismissing them and of course they happen to some people, but I think it’s overly cautious to be worrying about these things before you get married, just because you think you want children eventually. When you get in the car to drive to work every day, do you get depressed because you might be killed in a car accident on the drive? I don’t have exact statistics, but it seems similarly remote.
Anon
That is not at all what Anon @ 3:03 was doing.
Anon
Many of my friends had severe issues from childbirth- it’s a lot more common than you’d think.
Anonymous
Out of curiosity, what part do you find most depressing? The risk of a childbirth injury (agree with above – it’s rare that it’s as bad as described in the article, but it happens)? Or the misogyny? I mean, I’m an attorney, and I don’t think I’ve experienced any worse treatment as a female-mom than I did as a female-non-mom.
Anon
You will have to learn to be a very vocal advocate for yourself and your child. This is just how it is.
Cat
JCrew Factory discount codes that I don’t need – up for grabs. They’re for 20% off a purchase of $100 or more, good through the 13th. Card says it can’t be combined with other promos.
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For the poster on the morning thread re: bathroom/ shower remodel. I just left a reply over there with some ideas that were new. Good luck.
Nape/Hairline waxing?
Does anyone get their nape or hairline waxed? I was MOH in a wedding last month and a few days before the ceremony when the bride and us wedding party were at the spa getting things like our eyebrows and nails done, one of the things the bride had put on the list for everyone was to have the nape of her neck waxed. I didn’t even know it was a thing. I didn’t like the idea, it looked painful and I didn’t think it was necessary so I declined and no one said anything or pressured me to do it.
Now seeing the photos I realize how awful I look. The updos of the bride and the bridesmaid look so clean and neat. I have hair down my neck and my updo looks unruly. All of us have dark brown or black hair and my hairy neck is visible in several shots, including one from the side where the bride is saying her vows and I am right next to her, several of our “pre-wedding” getting ready photos and one of the wedding party from behind where we are showing off the detail in the backs of our dresses. Other people have noticed it and my great aunt who is in her 70s and has no filter mentioned it when my sister-in-law showed her a picture of me in my dress at Christmas. My SIL, my cousin and a couple of my friends say they do it.
I never thought of this before but now I am noticing it in several non-wedding photos of me as well. I didn’t know neck and hairline waxing was a thing. An internet search reveals lots of celebrities do it. Does anyone here do it? The bride and bridesmaids all said they get it done regularly. Part of me is annoyed this is just another pain expected of women for beauty now that I know some women do it? Is it something I should be doing to look more polished or is my first reaction that it is out of the norm correct.
TIA! Have a good weekend everyone.
Anon
G-d no (very dark brown hair here). Why do you think you look “bad” in the photos? Because you look different from everyone else? It’s normal to have hair there. It would never occur to me to remove it. I feel the same way about waxing/bleaching arm hair, which I know some dark-haired women do.
Anonymous
Good lord, I hope not. I have never heard of this.
Anon
I have never heard of that and it seems utterly ridiculous and unnecessary. We’re mammals — we have hair for christ’s sake!
Anonymous
This never occurred to me either. Big nope.
Anonymous
I’m blonde, so this has literally never come up, but I could see how waxing the fine hairs there could make for cleaner photos in that setting or a red-carpet look. That said, I would never (even with darker hair) do that as regular maintenance. That’s ridic.
Vicky Austin
I have never heard of this, but you said it yourself already: “I didn’t like the idea, it looked painful and I didn’t think it was necessary.” You made the right choice for you at the time, and just because people are making comments doesn’t make them right and you wrong.
anon
I am a light skinned brunette (so the contrast between hair and skin is noticeable, especially on places like my arms and stomach) and this has never been in my realm of knowledge, despite being in several weddings when updos were encouraged or mandated. I would have thought it would be in the purvue of the hair stylist to get all those baby hairs sufficiently secured up with the updo.
I think your first reaction that it is out of the norm is correct. Go forth and don’t fret.
Anonymous
As evidenced by other comments I am out of the norm but I have been getting my hairline waxed for years. Sometimes those baby hairs won’t cooperate and sometimes (like in my case) I have long trails of black hair going down my neck on top of the baby hairs. I started having it done after seeing a video on YouTube. There are several of them on there now and I know several women who get this done as part of their beauty routine.
Anonymous
I don’t wax my hairline, but I do have a partial widow’s peak (it has never grown in fully and is just about 8-10 hairs that look randomly placed, not like a real widow’s peak which I would actually love to have) and I tweeze those hairs because it bothers me.
My husband is super-hirsute and gets the back of his neck shaved at the barber.
Other than that I have never heard of a woman getting their neck or hairline waxed and I would never accede to someone doing that to me for any reason. Just because you looked different than the others doesn’t mean you looked bad. Also, with all waxing, once you do it you have to keep it up or let it grow back in and look awkward. I think you made the right choice.
Anon
I really want to know more – this has always bugged me but I didn’t know it was a thing. Where do you go for this?
Anon
Omg what? Please do not start doing this. How bizarre and unnecessary and expensive and shallow it would be to do that regularly…
Anonymous
I occasionally use a tinkle razor there. I have light, fine hair though so ymmv.
Cat
Don’t fret. I’ve only heard of one non-celebrity doing this — Abra Belke of Cap Hill Style. And her beauty regimen was notoriously excessive.
Anonymous
I’ve never heard of this. But now I want to investigate it for my life-long baby hairs on my forehead that truly drive me nuts. ;-)
Anon
I have heard of it and seen it on spa menus when I’ve traveled internationally, but my impression is that it’s more popular in the Middle East / southeast Asia than it is in my suburban white American area.
Hairy
I’ve had that area lasered off, as it was almost like I had sideburns going down the back of my neck and looked really messy and unsightly in photos. I’m so happy I did it. The pain wasn’t horrific and now I’m no longer self concious with my hair up. My hair is medium brown for reference.
Emma
I’m also a super hairy and Italian/middle eastern. I’ve heard of this and it always seemed to annoying and painful (I have been doing my brows since 12). I’ll occasionally shave my face and I did get my legs lasered and love it- I wouldn’t do it to my face, but would on my back/neck if it bothered me, my brother actually did and was super happy with the results.
Monte
I have my nape taken care of whenever I get my hair done, and I have a small electric razor at home for touch ups. But I am a black woman, and in my experience our ideas on shaping up hairlines are different than white women.
Snick
I’ve never heard of waxing the nape/hairline, but I usually wear my hair in a short bob and my stylist always shaves off the strays on my nape with an electric trimmer. That would have been a much less painful option for a wedding updo than waxing.
Wants to Look Fancy ;-)
I need help looking more put together. I am truly horrible at hair and make up. I always have been. But I just feel like I am at an age where I want to give off a fancier look. I have no clue where to start or even an idea of more specific questions to ask. Please help!
anon
First objective: get on board with the idea that getting ready to get out the door is going to take you significantly more time. I am not particularly high maintenance but also don’t like to rush and I count on a two-hour time frame from getting in the shower to arriving at the event (assuming a 15 to 30 min drive). Doing my hair takes up most of that time–I have hair down to my mid-back and getting it to look great takes time. Time to wash and condition, time to dry, time to style, time to cool off in between because I get sweaty with all the hot tools.
As for where to start: find a great hair stylist. Look around at the people in your life and start asking who they see. Ask strangers if you see someone with hair similar to yours but styled “better.” If you are only willing to spend X minutes on your hair, be very clear about that and if the stylist doesn’t respect that, look elsewhere! If it takes them an hour to dry and style your hair it’s going to take AT LEAST that at home, probably somewhat longer.
I’d also tackle figuring out a good go-to makeup look pretty early on. A department store makeup counter is a decent place to start but isn’t necessarily going to get you from 0 to 60. I have found it is very hit and miss and takes time to figure out what you like and are comfortable doing day in and day out.
I’m sure others will have more to add. :) But, don’t be too hard on yourself! Find ways to improve one little thing and be proud of that! It takes time, effort, and money to look perfectly put together. I certainly prioritize when I care and when I don’t, and even then I’d only consider myself about 75% put together!
Anonymous
For makeup, go to Sephora or Ulta on a non-busy day (so either after work or on a weekend as soon as the store opens) or a makeup counter in a department store. I like Laura Mercier for a more neutral, every day look. If you want to go Fancy then maybe MAC – but that’s way more effort than I want to put into my face on a daily basis. I’d encourage you to try more than one store/makeup person – everyone will have a different eye for what looks good, and will have different tips and techniques. Don’t be discouraged if the first time isn’t EXACTLY what you want. Sephora also has makeup classes, but ime they’re pretty advanced. It’s a great girls night out though!
Vicky Austin
Hello, me six months ago! ;)
Re makeup, I had a million friends recommend r/makeupeducation to me. I wasn’t trying to become an expert at “beating my face,” I just wanted to know what I was doing. So I skimmed the front page one day and read a few “I’m a novice help me!” threads, made a list of four or five product types that kept cropping up over and over again, took a Paula’s Choice skin quiz, messed around on Beautypedia, went to Ulta to get a foundation shade matched, winged the rest myself, and was on my way. I still don’t have a steady hand with eyeliner or a handle on blending concealer so it doesn’t look like concealer, but I had a relatively painless journey with a ton of research that was actually rather fun. (I only ended up with one Paula’s Choice product, even after how hard Beautypedia plugs them, but it does work really well for me.)
Also, the thing that has elevated my look the most is wearing earrings as often as I remember to. It does wonders for making it look like I put a ton of thought into my outfit, and it’s so simple. (Of course, my “look” is a very university-esque sweater/jean thing, so.)
OMW to Fancy
I interpret this to mean that you’re looking to get more stylish or pulled together. If so, this is a quest I’ve been on for a few years, and I think I’m mostly there (with a few tiny things I’ve been working on). I now regularly get compliments on my outfits and my hair, etc., which was absolutely never the case when I started. TBH, I’ve enlisted the help of professionals for a lot of it, but not all at once. The overarching key for me is that I will only stick to steps that feel simple. Once I master those little steps, I add something else. So, one step could be not wearing t-shirts for a month, or adding curl cream to my routine in the morning, or adding an eye cream, just whatever. But I don’t add anything until I’m consistently doing the thing I previously added (or until I’ve decided I don’t want to do that thing anymore for whatever reason). I look put together mostly all the time now with effort that doesn’t seem terrible, but is more than 5 mins per day. So that’s one thing– I have to devote actual time and some money to this.
The first thing I wanted to improve was my hair because it used to be a frizzy mess because I’d try to blow dry it straight every day even though I have very curly hair. So, for me, this meant embracing my natural texture and figuring out how to highlight the curls. I wear my hair down basically every day. The key to this aspect for me is an EXCELLENT hair cut and color. I go every 6-8 weeks, religiously. I seriously have my hair appointments booked out through June right now. My hairdresser covers my roots and cuts a tiny tiny amount off the ends. This keeps my hair in the right shape and ensures that I don’t really get visible roots.
The next thing I wanted to improve was clothes because I have a tendency to wear t-shirts (like, with sayings on them) from Target and jeans if left to my own devices. I went to Anthropolgie one day and spent hours there with one of the sales people, trying on almost everything in the store with her. She showed me ways to put outfits together and kind of talked about her reasoning for why a lot of it worked. This helped me tremendously because I felt more confident putting outfits together. She also helped me find some quirky but flattering pieces that I love. Now before I buy something, I try it on always, and I ask myself, “Do I love this?” The key is that I ask that, no matter the cost of the item! So even if it’s on sale at Target for $10, I still ask, “Do I love this?” If the answer is, “No” or “Maybe” or “I’d love it if…” or “I love it for $10,” then I do not get it. I try to construct my outfits so that they’re: Shirt, bottom, shoes, + 1/2 “extras”. The extras can be jewelry (I’ve picked up a bunch of funky and cool necklaces at festivals and estate sales), a jacket, a scarf, a cool belt, or whatever. Probably twice a year I go back to Anthro (that’s just a store I love that’s close to me and has a wide variety of clothes that I tend to like) and get a few things to refresh. I also read a few fashion reddits or blogs from time to time to learn a little more about examples of looks that I like. Most of my clothes are mix-and-match. I also wear a lot of dresses, which I think look quite polished without much effort.
Finally– make up! I’m really just now getting into make up and skincare. My best friend loves it, so I had her look at all my makeup and teach me some very very basics, like how to put on foundation and powder. She went shopping with me and helped me understand what she thinks is worth spending money on, vs what she thought I could just get at the drugstore. After I did the routine she taught me for a while (a 5-minute-face type routine that you can find on YouTube no problem), I decided I wanted to step it up. I got a gift card to a make up counter in a nice dept store in my city that sells lots of different brands of make up and scheduled an appointment with one of the artists with an intention the whole time for her to teach me how to look polished. I got her to teach me a routine that takes a little less than 10 minutes in the morning and can easily transition to a date or happy hour or anything. She also taught me about some skin care, so I’ve been religiously sticking to the routine she recommended, which I think is helping a ton on the days when I just put on BB cream and mascara.
This is a super long answer and probably looks overwhelming if you’re new at all of this. I was as well, about 5 years ago. But I just started integrating small little steps over time and it’s added up to me feeling really great about how polished I look on an average day. It just takes some thought and effort and not being afraid to ask folks for help, even if it seems like stupid questions!
Ariadne
Not the op, but want to say this is amazing advice to read!
I have curley hair and leave way too much time between cuts….like three months, when I know my curls need freshening up every six weeks. I Just made a hair appointment for tomorrow morning, and I feel better already. Thank you for this detailed breakdown— as it offers me a valuable reminder to take time and do these things.
Miss
For makeup I really love Lisa Eldridge. She has a ton of videos for a variety of different looks and many of them would be very appropriate in a professional setting. I hate doing my hair and wear a ponytail 85% of the tike, so can’t help you with that.
Anon
So I have a very fancy look, and I think it’s because of a few details – I have “polished hair” (this just means it’s styled when I go out – it can be casual but I never look like I rolled out of bed); I wear makeup when I go out too (nothing major, just a little powder foundation, mascara and lip gloss); I wear jewelry with my clothes (again, simple but real – diamond studs, wedding ring always, sometimes a necklace). Clothes are not wrinkled (and are pretty classic), shoes are not scruffy. None of this takes much effort so the amount of comments I get for being “fancy” surprises me a bit. Sharing since you’re looking for ways to do it.
Anon.
I found hiring a makeup artist to give me an individualized coaching session really helpful. Department makeovers never teach me much, because their goals are to sell a particular product to as many customer as possible. My makeup coach caught mistake I was making in my wings that made a huge difference in how I come across. Granted, I grew up in a household where my mom never wore makeup and is more clueless than me. So my skills are probably rudimentary to begin with. But I can’t believe I spent the ten years before this coach going around with such horrible makeup and wish I had done it earlier. It was pricy though, but money well spent. And because she didn’t have any incentive to sell me products, I found the products she liked to use turned out to be actually effective.
Lobbyist
I was you. And I knew I lacked the skills to do it myself. So I hired people. They exist. They are stylists and I am now on my second one, my first having moved away after five years. First they will come over and look through your clothes and have you try them on and keep what fits and looks good and then donate what doesn’t. Then you go shopping with them (they go shopping first, put stuff on hold then you come in and try on and buy some of it.) Then you go back home and make up outfits integrating your old and new clothes (and take photos so you can remember and then know which shoes, purses and jewelry goes with the outfit. I dress way better now. I am about to turn 50 and still do minimal makeup, I may be willing to venture out for help with that aspect in this year.
Good luck. At first it felt wierd, but now I like it and people who didnt know me before think I am stylish.
In-House in Houston
To the OP who asked about a leather padfolio this morning, I got this and I love it. The left side is a weekly calendar, the right side is an entire page to take notes. Now I don’t use this as my primary calendar (I use outlook) but to take to meetings to jot notes down on, this is really working for me. I got the XL size, but they also have smaller sizes. Many on the thread this morning recommended Moleskin…that’s what this is. I got it on Amazon; great colors and a pocket on the back.
Moleskine Classic Soft Cover 2019 12 Month Weekly Planner, XL (7.5″ x 9.75″) Scarlet Red – Weekly Planner for Students & Professionals, for Organizing and Planning
OP from this morning
Thank you! I like that it’s sleek but still has the pocket at the back.
Mrs. Maisel
I just got a job offer! I had a second interview yesterday and got the call today! The offer was lower than I was hoping for, but they are open to negotiate. I’m glad I was able to assertively ask for what I wanted and justify why I was worth that. I’ve read so much advice on this topic on this website so I wanted to say thank you! Special shout out to the ‘rette who offered to answer questions about her experience in a similar role when I posted a few weeks ago! Lots to consider this weekend!
OP
Congrats!
Senior Attorney
Hooray!! Congratulations!!
Curious but don't want to google
City person here who has been on a horse one time but has never taken horseback riding lessons. I’ve learned more about horses on this site and I have a totally dumb question for you ladies in the know. Why is horseback riding a female sport when back in the olden days, most cowboys were men? Do boys have no interest in riding? I think I’ve met more parents who have their sons do dance than parents who encourage their sons to ride horses. Am I missing something? I asked someone in real life and she made a comment about how girls enjoy riding for other reasons (i.e. self gardening), and I think she was joking but then again, I don’t know? Sorry for the dumb question – sincerely asking here so please don’t flame me.
Anon
Lolol your comment went another direction quickly. Men still ride plenty in the upper echelons of English riding (Grand Prix, Olympics) and in Western. I’m sure there are some narrow-minded people out there who think it’s truly a “girl sport” or that their sons are “sissies” for wanting to ride, but I hope they are the minority.
Your friend is definitely joking, btw.
Anonymous
I don’t know how the transition from male dominated to female dominated happened, but I can tell you that I am someone who spent a lot of time and money to find a saddle that worked with my anatomy and didn’t put me in a lot of pain while riding. I’ve never heard of a woman getting off while riding (and we are a small world gossipy bunch) – I’ve been riding for over 30 years.
LAnon
It’s a good question – somehow in the US, horseback riding (esp English riding) has gotten a reputation as being feminine. It’s odd because when you look at the top international ranks, many (if not most) of the top riders are men. I think there’s a lot more media (books, TV shows, movies) aim at little girls about how great horses are.
With regards to “self-gardening” – my experience has been that yes, occasionally when you are riding, you can shift a certain way and your weight/pressure gives you a momentary “zing”. Usually this is actually caused by a fabric seam pushing against you, like in your jeans, rather than by the saddle itself. If you’re sitting correctly, your most sensitive part is not going to be against the saddle. My typical response when this happens is just to shift my weight differently or adjust my jeans, because I’m focused on my riding and that sort of physical sensation is a distraction. It typically doesn’t even really register as pleasure, more as just pressure on a sensitive area.
So, while there is the tiniest grain of truth that occasionally you can have a momentary sensation similar to “self-gardening”… I do not know anyone who rides who gives it any thought at all. Plus… if you were to reach your “goal”… you’d probably fall off the horse!!
LAnon
Oh and also – don’t worry, this sort of rumor has gone around for literally hundreds of years! Part of the reason it used to be considered inappropriate for women to ride astride (instead of side saddle) was this exact rumor.
Ellen
I agree b/c Rosa has always loved horses and is a big rider now in Chapaqua, and neither Rosa or me ever got any kind of s-xueal “sensation” from horse riding. If we did, we would both have spent a lot more time at the stabels self-gardening (with the saddles) . Rosa says that Ed learned early on how to garden, and she confirmed that she prefers him to any leather saddle for gardening. She says that is virtually the ONLEY true reason we have to put up with men and their BS. YAY!!
anon
Not a dumb question at all- I asked the same thing when I was a kid, and still no one has been able to satisfactorily answer it for me. I have a completely made-up guess: English style riding (what you mostly read about here- jumps in arenas, tight breeches, expensive well-trained horses) is associated with thethe aristocratic lifestyle. That no long represents power and masculinity in our society- no one would use the male leads from Downton Abbey to sell alcohol. Therefore, that kind of riding has become a feminine sport (especially because women are still supposed to be “ladies”).
I can also say that Western style riding (cowboys and rodeos, big ostentatious boots and saddles) is still a very macho, gender-segregted sport. At best, people who have spent their lives learning to handle wild horses are known and treated with great respect. But in the common practice, rodeos give massive cash prizes and material endorsements to the hard-drinking, toxicly masculine “champions” and choose teenage girls based on their looks and morality as “princesses”.
Auto lease question
I am near the end of my three-year car lease and would like to buy the car. I really like the car, and the payoff cost is a little lower than the KBB value. I have never leased a car before. Is the payoff amount negotiable?
Anon
Yes
Anonymous
Anyone have any tips to share on how to work out during the day at work and not look like a mess afterward? I just moved into an office that is right next door to the company gym and want to take advantage when I have days where I can take an hour or so and go work out.
Monte
A couple of tips: when I workout midday, I choose an intense but quick workout (usually as hard a 25 min run as I can manage) so that I have enough time to shower and cool down. Some people don’t break a sweat to make grooming after a workout easier, but that is not a choice I am willing to make.
I take very quick showers in general, so a very quick and cold shower helps me cool down and not waste time. I wear my hair up, so I just brush out and restyle after my shower (but I don’t wash my hair that often anyway). Not having to spend time blow drying (and thus not also getting hot again after the shower) is probably the most important thing for me. Finally, I do even less makeup than usual — tinted moisturizer, mascara, matte lipstick — both for time and also because it take a while to cool down. Lipstick helps because I feel put together and intentional even if my makeup is otherwise pretty light.
Midday workouts are great — on top of the endorphin rush, I feel super organized and efficient when I manage to squeeze them in.
Mrs. Type A
Are there classes at lunchtime?
You could try to do something that won’t get you too sweaty or messy. Something like barre. I feel like every gym I’ve been to has barre classes at noon and I think it’s because people want a good workout without getting too sweaty.
Hari
I would like to ask for a promotion. I have two bosses, one who is my boss in the system, and one who is more my boss in real life. Should I set the meeting with both of them? And what should the subject of the meeting be? Thanks so much.