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Zappos has a bunch of activewear and sneakers on sale, including reader favorite Under Armour shorts. I like this dark navy and white pair the best, but this pink-on-pink pair is also a lot of fun. The shorts are normally $25, but they're on sale for $18.75 now (25% off). Nice!
We included these and others in our recent roundup of the best women's shorts for summer.
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Sales of note for 9.30.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Fall Cyber Monday sale, 40% off sitewide and $5 shipping
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!
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- Tell me about your favorite adventure travels…
Anon
I like the look of these shorts. Anyone know how they fit? I’m 5’4″, size 12-14 and large used to be my go-to size, but now I’m on the cusp of L/XL. I always consult the size charts and it doesn’t seem to help much – I think I have a larger butt than similarly sized women.
JS
I actually tried these exact shorts earlier this summer. They were quite low-rise and I returned them. They are loose shorts so would be forgiving on size selection I think.
Career Assessment
Has anyone done a good care aptitude test or assessment to help you figure out what careers you might like? I’m a lawyer exploring other careers, but I’m honestly not sure what I’d like or be good at. I’d be willing to pay for something if it’s good and worth it.
Thank you!
Anon
I took a free one online that told me I would be an excellent neurosurgeon or fisherman’s assistant haha. So I wouldn’t put too much stock in those.
What helped me figure out what I wanted to do was to pay attention not just to tasks I enjoyed, but also to ones I actively dreaded and was neutral about, whether they were at work, school, or just in life. I ended up interviewing for a position that was in no way a dream job, but was composed entirely of things I liked or tolerated and in a field with decent long term opportunities. I don’t think the work itself would be enough for me, but combined with the office culture, benefits, and future opportunities it’s a pretty perfect fit. It also cured my paralysis from having multiple very different professional interests and feeling like I needed to lock into one.
NOLA
I did the Strong-Campbell Interest Inventory (with a psychologist) when I was between my junior and senior years in college. What it recommended is exactly what I do, which is funny because, at the time I thought, “what the heck do they even do?”
Anon
I left private practice about 3 years ago. Best thing I’ve ever done!! My only regret is not doing it sooner. I went into compliance where I have opportunities for advancement and my law degree is an asset. I mostly wanted to not worry about the billable hour, bringing in clients, or dealing with them at all. Try to think of options where your degree is an asset and the job functions would be enjoyable. I think those tests are not helpful unless you’re interested in going back to school.
Hollis
I don’t have any suggestions for tests, but when I was in your shoes, I read “Life After Law” by Liz Brown and it was inspiring. There are also various career counselors who help lawyers find other types of careers. I bounced around a lot (3 different practice groups, went in-house, went to a smaller firm, etc.) and finally found happiness in a practice area that suits my interests and plays to my strengths and then got lucky to join my current firm (after 18 years as a lawyer!), so I think it’s possible to try out other jobs/career paths without making a complete career change. If you can tell this group more about what you like and don’t like about your current situation, I bet you there are a lot of people who’ve been in your shoes before who can provide some helpful suggestions to you.
Jules
One more source for inexpensive and adjustable face masks, for the poster this morning wearing a bandana (and for a lot of us, maybe): Macy’s sells Society of Threads masks with nose wires, filter pockets and adjustable ear loops, 6 for $25 and free shipping. Now I want these, too.
Here’s one color selection: https://www.macys.com/shop/product/society-of-threads-unisex-face-mask-rose-6-pack?ID=11178817&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05MMG-268c8089-ea4d-4370-b739-48a71f53b2cd%40H7%40customers%2Balso%2Bshopped%2422672%2411178817~xcm_pos~zPos1~xcm_srcCatID~z22672
Anonymous
Maybe some of the posters with extra masks that aren’t to their preference would send those to her? (Washable/disinfected of course.)
Anon
I somehow doubt that the finances were the problem – it seemed like OP may have been a bit ignorant about how useless an ill-fitting bandanna is. However, I think this would be a great idea if there are any posters in need. Not sure how to facilitate that though – I imagine people might feel awkward about posting the need here.
Anonymous
I have maybe 10+ masks that don’t cut it. I’d donate (if anyone would take them, not sure if anyone would) but keep as ultimate emergency masks, figuring I could hold them on with my reading glasses or sunglasses or even hair elastics if needed (power goes out and I can’t wash the washable masks that work better for my face shape). Ugh. I suspect that they are like nursing pads — needed when needed and otherwise useless (like a crafter said “use as a coaster” and I was all OMG no b/c I can’t unsee the nursing pad).
NOLA
I have a narrow face and a narrow nose, so I’ve had a lot of problems with fit. I have a) shortened elastic straps for a better fit, b) had the mask maker do it for me, c) measured for custom fit (total disaster), d) given the ones that were too big to the dude, if they were fabrics he’d wear (he loved the cat butts fabric) and e) given a few to my landlady, who has a much larger face than I do. She has been extremely appreciative to have more masks. One was a gorgeous fabric made by my friend who has a custom bow tie business and moved to sewing masks. His are tie on rather than elastic and I found that it just didn’t work for me.
Anon
Do people sell and donate used underwear, or underwear they tried once and didn’t like? It’s kind of the same thing.
Jules
I don’t see them as the same as underwear. I imagine there are a lot of shelters,nursing homes, food pantries and the like that would welcome clean masks, even if they had been tried on or worn before.
Monday
And while we’re on the topic, gently used bras are also always needed as donations. Thrift stores accept swimsuits. I think the only item that’s a total nonstarter is used panties.
Anon
I disagree – masks are personal. Some people will certainly buy used underwear and wash it, but not the majority. This board has spent a lot of time fixating on mask purchases, just like on other purchases, but most people just deal with whatever masks they find in the store or buy disposable. I would much rather donate 500 disposable masks to a nursing home (they’re not that expensive) than donate ill-fitting used masks.
Aunt Jamesina
I mean, even used panties have a (niche) market
Nose thingies
One problem I have (in addition to them falling down when in more rigorous motion — the adjustable elastic ear loops are a needed thing for me) is that I can’t see below the mask well. Are the one with the nose loop / wire better in this regard or worse (or perhaps just different)? I am finding myself bending forward when on stairs to see what is below me and making other weird compensations to see downward.
Aunt Jamesina
I only wear masks with the nose wire now, I find them to fit so much better and mine don’t fog up my sunglasses.
Aunt Jamesina
I bought mine at LA Apparel, and they me perfectly, although the fabric is a bit heavy when it’s hot out. They have elastic which goes around your head (which I prefer), but my husband cut those and tied them to fit around his ears.
anonymous
Although they were one of the early producers of easy to find masks, it has come at a cost. It turns out the LA Apparel plant took few precautions to protect workers at the factory. Several have died, the public health department has ordered the factory to close temporarily, and over 300 staff have tested positive for COVID.
Aunt Jamesina
Ugh, anon at 4:34, why doesn’t that shock me? Although I’m very, very willing to bet that we know about this because their production is in the US. How many overseas clothing and mask production lines have had spread that we don’t hear about?
LaurenB
I wear the blue disposable surgical masks (though I re-use them, I typically get about 2-3 weeks worth of use out of one; I’m not out of the house that much, only to run errands and such, so I’m not wearing them for hours on end). Yes, the nose wire makes ALL the difference in the world.
Anon
But how many times have I seen these blue masks worn upside down! Or without the wire pinched! Oy!
LaurenB
OK – confession time – for the first 2 weeks, I didn’t realize there was a wire and I didn’t realize there was a top and a bottom, I just put them on! Oops!
Practice group transition
Reposting from the morning thread, since I was a little late…
Question for lawyers who have switched practices, and for privacy lawyers: I’m a midlevel litigation associate coming off a federal clerkship in a few months. My recruiter threw up his hands this week and said no firms are hiring in litigation in DC, partly because of economic uncertainty and partly because there’s just less litigation with the courts still mostly closed. So, I’m on my own. A friend suggested I consider privacy, and pointed out that a lot of firms are hiring for that right now. Has anyone made the litigation –> privacy transition? Or a big post-clerkship transition? Any recommendations for things to consider, or questions to ask? I would prefer to stay in litigation, but in this economy I would rather have a job than risk unemployment while I tried to find a litigation position, so I’m just trying to figure out if a switch like this is even an option.
Thanks!
Anonymous
What did you used to litigate?
In my firm, bankruptcy and insolvency/restructuring are quasi-litigation practices.
Practice group transition
I used to do IP, a mix of patent/trademark/copyright/false advertising, but I’ve broadened into general litigation during the clerkship. I had heard that about restructuring, and also heard that many firms are responding to the recession by hiring restructuring associates–is that accurate in your experience? Is any specific subject matter expertise required? Thanks!
Anonymous
I feel like you need to know something about the bankruptcy code and Mali’s how restructuring actually works. Maybe you can have a chat with friends who do this (but they are probably busy on forbearances now and watching for chapter 11 filings).
Anonymous
Trade secrets, product liability, and antitrust are areas you could look into.
Anonymous
Latham is looking for an IP litigator in DC
Two Cents
If you want to stay in litigation, have you considered going to the government? Not sure where you are located but my fed agency in DC recently hired two litigators and other agencies I know are hiring as well. Even if you’re not in DC, you could consider your state AG’s office, US Attorney’s office, etc.
anon
At my firm, antitrust is also quasi-litigation.
Would you consider moving? My firm has a couple of openings, but not in DC.
anon
Can you explain a bit more what you mean by quasi-litigation (particularly as concerns antitrust)? I am not the OP, but am a patent litigation midlevel. Litigation as I know it isn’t the right fit for me. Would love to pivot but trying to figure out what different practice areas would look like in the day-to-day.
Anonymous
Not the person who commented, but antitrust associates at firms I’ve worked at only do a small amount of litigation. They more often work on corporate transactions advising on antitrust issues/filings, or counsel clients in industries with significant antitrust concerns (like sports leagues).
Anonymous
Do you like tax? That can have a litigation and admin law lit lite aspect to it. I am a transactional tax lawyer who’s has to do my litigators won’t because . . . They think it is all math? It sounds hard? So there is work out there.
Ultimately, I think you have to litigate X as a subject matter expert and it is easier to stay in. Or do something like internal investigations (like the woman hired re the Refskins harassment drama).
anon privacy lawyer
So I’m currently hiring for a privacy role. I am considering litigators (I want someone with really good writing skills, and litigators tend to fit that profile), but if they have never done any privacy they will need to take a haircut in class years. My firm is pretty tough on people “re-tooling” in terms of class years, but we’ve had great success hiring ex-litigators. When I’m interviewing, I try to get a sense of whether this person really wants to do privacy, or if they just want to get out of litigation. If you have taken the CIPP exam, I might be more convinced that you are actually interested in privacy. If you can speak somewhat fluently about the CCPA, GDPR, HIPAA, COPPA etc in the interview, I might want to invite you for a callback. But I will suss out pretty quickly if you’re just trying to jump from your current practice to whatever area is hiring right now.
The privacy job market is HOT. Everyone is looking for good privacy attorneys. It’s a great field to be in, if you like a fast paced practice, a nice mix of regulatory and advisory work (with lots of risk assessment / judgments to be made – that’s the difficult part), and a nonstop changing legislative landscape (just this week was nuts with the EU privacy shield invalidation).
Anonymous
Lots of people with CS or EE backgrounds have transitioned from IP to privacy, knowing how systems actually work is a good foundation. If so, I would feature that and then do the privacy certificates and CLE so you look like a genuine candidate. Folks in that area can advise what would be most helpful.
Anonymizes
Could I put in a plug for eDiscovery? I find it to be an interesting and rewarding practice. It includes aspects of privacy, as well as litigation and technical skills. I am not really looking at the moment, but I hear there are jobs out there.
Anonymous
I have seen several IP jobs in the past few months in the DC area. I wonder if some firms are not using recruiters right now. Sometimes gobiglaw.com will provide leads
Anonymous
It’s time for a king bed at my house. Any mattress recommendations? I would love to not have to buy a box spring too but it seems like all the platform beds look better with nothing underneath, and we like to store stuff under our bed. Any recs for where I could get a cheap box spring and frame? Sadly Costco is not coming through for me.
Anonymous
It’s time for a king bed at my house. Any mattress recommendations? I would love to not have to buy a box spring too but it seems like all the platform beds look better with nothing underneath, and we like to store stuff under our bed. Any recs for where I could get a cheap box spring and frame? Sadly Costco is not coming through for me.
Anon
I have a casper mattress on a Room & Board bed frame — it’s not cheap but the slats are metal and super sturdy. I’ve moved it 4 times or so and it’s like new (no wobbling). It’s also surprisingly easy to take apart. I’ve had a few people sleep in my bed over the years (hehe….) and they have all commented on how great my mattress is.
Jules
How about a platform bed with storage, then you can get just a mattress. There are a large number of them available on Wayfair and Overstock. For a mattress, my 25-y-o really likes the Zinus brand that we got at Amazon.
Carmen Sandiego
We got a Helix recently, and really love it. So much less motion transfer so I sleep more soundly, and good for side sleepers! I was having hip and shoulder pain constantly, and feel much better now!
Carmen Sandiego
Should also add that we don’t have a box spring with it – platform bed.
Aunt Jamesina
If you don’t want to buy a box spring but end up with a bed frame that needs one, you can buy a bunky board instead.
Ribena
We don’t typically have box springs on this side of the pond, so I’m not sure where they come in, but if you’re trying to avoid one, my set up is that I have a Casper mattress on a metal bedstead with sprung slats. You can Google “Dreams Westbrook” to get an image of how it looks, though of course that doesn’t help with actual sourcing.
Anon
We love our Purple mattress.
If you get a platform bed, please make sure that it comes apart and will fit through your door. We ordered a platform bed from a local maker, and it was built in one piece– so no way to fit through our door into the house or into our room. Also, no way to disassemble to rebuild in our bedroom. (We have no idea how anyone’s house could have fit what the guy sent us and think he must have been trying to deliver the same platform bed to different houses for years.)
Pink
I know people are struggling but I’ve had my fill of dumb (vaguely sexist) work interactions this week. On Monday, a (male) colleague emailed me, the only woman programmer on the team, “I need a spreadsheet updated.” I was trying to be accommodating so I said “Sure. Send me the spreadsheet you need updated.” I never got a response. Today he chats me (trying to avoid a paper trail, no doubt) “Hey how’s that spreadsheet coming?” I responded “Um, it’s not because you never sent it to me?” No doubt he will go to his boss, like he did last time, complaining about me “Not being a team player” because he’s “sure he sent the spreadsheet and I just didn’t update it.” His boss will ask for the paper trail, he won’t produce it, he’ll get a finger wag and that will be that. SIGH. It is Friday, right?
Anon
Be proactive and send the paper trail yourself. I don’t doubt that there is sexism at play, there definitely is, but why accommodate it? This sounds like an instance where you could easily shut it down.
Monday
+1. I’m a huge fan of digging up the email thread. You can forward him your sent email asking him which spreadsheet, and say “again please see my question below.” Make sure you leave that date stamp on too!
I hate this shizz. One time I got an email from a man asking me to do some outside contract work (i.e. not my employer). I wrote back with a question about pay and never heard anything back. Fine, I figured–he doesn’t want to pay me–moving on. Over a month later he included me on a thread with his client representing that I was going to be doing the work for them. I was furious that he’d committed me to it and would make me look unprofessional in backing out because he had never replied about payment. I did like 5 drafts of my furious email to him, eventually making it civil, and he replied “Oh, I’m glad you brought that up.” He wasn’t going to pay me, and I never worked with him again.
Vicky Austin
+1. Find the email where you asked him for the spreadsheet. Forward it to him again. CC his boss if you’re really feeling salty. (JK, probably too early in the asshattery to do that.)
anon
Your boss tolerates whining about easily resolved “disputes” between coworkers? I’m amazed he doesn’t realize he’s making himself look like a petty, infantile jerk.
Cat
my company archives all chats into an email folder called Conversation History… if that type of thing is available, you can forward the chat as an email to Dude, say “hey just checking in since I didn’t hear back on the below, let me know if you still need help Monday.”
Otherwise… take charge and send him basically the same email yourself, omitting the “below” part.
Anon
Also, I would suggest responding with something firmer when he chats you. “Um, it’s not because you never sent it to me?” sounds apologetic or tentative. “I am still waiting for you to send the spreadsheet” puts the onus on him much more strongly.
anonymous
This, exactly. He has no possible reasonable response except to agree and send the spreadsheet.
The Original ...
I would probably respond from the chat in an actual email, “on Monday, you asked me for help with a spreadsheet and I asked you send it to me so I could help you. You chatted me yesterday asking how it was coming and I reminded you that you hadn’t yet sent it to me. I can’t see what you need help with to know if I am the right person to teach you until I see it so please send it over if you still need assistance.” This way it’s clear that he was asking for help and that your response will be to teach him to do it. This way, either he doesn’t respond and you have proof OR he doesn’t want to look weak or stupid so he responds that he does not need help or to be taught and then you don’t have to do more. (This is probably a know your office thing though)
Anonymous
Oof. This is pretty wordy.
Ellen
I wonder if he is trying to control you or otherwise mark his territory, like a dog or like my ex did. By making you feel smaller, he will feel bigger, and that is what my ex did b/c he was a small person (emotionally) and had to make up for it by trying to make me feel small.
Law firms are weird
Zoom HH with coworkers last night when a familiar looking man walks across the room behind one attendee, tells her he is taking the dog for a walk, bends down to say “hi” to everyone else, and then walks out. She is completely nonchalant about it.
It turns out I may have been the last person at my firm to find out that one of the (really nice) senior associates on my team is living with an equity partner at our firm (kind of a jerk, workaholic, impossible standards and she is the only person who has managed to stay on his team for more than a few years). It is apparently common knowledge in certain circles and I am honestly shocked in this environment that the firm has not at least forced her off the team. (Except, as a coworker i called to talk about it after HH ended pointed out, he has a multi-million dollar book of business in a very niche practice and therefore has a lot of power and she is the only person who can actually work with him happily. Also, he was apparently even worse right after his divorce and everyone is so glad she moderated that they don’t care about the ethics of it. Coworker could not believe I had not figured it out since she has been known to openly tell him he is being impossible and to cut it out.)
I confess I do not understand what she sees in him (he has to be 15 years older than she is and she is just a really nice, friendly helpful person while he is – – not) and this is going to be a bit awkward. How do your firms handle this sort of thing? Our official guidelines prohibit it but those are clearly being ignored.
Anon
I’m really over the feel good “we-are-essential-and-treat-our-workers-amazing-and-everyone-loves-working-here” commercials from Amazon. Anyone else?
Anon
I haven’t seen the commercials but that is such a laughable idea.
anonshmanon
sounds about as authentic as the ‘visit our happy farms with sunshine and daisies’ commercials from McDonalds!
Anon for this
I have been locked down with family for 4.5 months and counting (with no end in sight, thanks to locking down due to logic while living in a red state and now it’s looking like we will be locked down forever). I am dreaming of living solo again and am thinking of moving back to NYC where I lived a long time ago. I wonder if rentals for studios and 1 bdrms will drop as people stay locked down and as economies change and as some work jobs become forever able to be done remotely so people will move away. I don’t even dream of something fancy and giant, even a tiny studio with a comfy couch and a dvr filled with my stuff that no one erases to make room for their own and food in the fridge that no one eats while I’m asleep sounds heavenly.
I’m just so exhausted by juggling every aspect of my life, never turning down contract work (who can risk not being offered more later?!), and now the dynamics of multiple relatives. sigh.
Anon
I think rental prices have already dropped as dyed in the wool New Yorkers suddenly want to become suburbanites with a yard.
Be careful what you wish for, on both sides. That is a really, really big adjustment in lifestyle.
Anonymous
Rental prices have dropped, this is a good time to make the move and lock in a less expensive lease.
Toothapple
:) I’ve been locked down in NYC for 4 months in a studio apartment with a comfy couch and dvr and my own fridge like you dream of- might work fo you if you were an introvert but– I found myself craving human interaction. Even the eye contact from fruit vendors or take-out delivery guy have meant more to me than… they did before.
I guess from someone on the other side, I’m very jealous that you have family who have taken you into your home!
NYC seems to be emptying out (three of my previous coworkers moved out of the city), apartment above me has been empty for months… so you may be able to make that change happen.
Anon for this-OP
I had moved in with them and contribute to costs just before the lockdown began, when I had planned to be in and out, working and traveling. I am very lucky to have them in my life, no question, but I am an introvert who works a lot and it is so hard not to be able to be left alone with a tv or to have the snack not eaten after I bribed myself with it all day during working time. I’m sure it’s tough on everyone, no question, I just feel like my plan to move back to NYC in a year or so seems like a better idea to do ASAP.
I wonder how long rent prices will be low before they return to pre-covid rates! I also wonder if there’ll be more room to negotiate if you are someone who is still employed or who does not have an eviction on their record considering everything happening. sigh to the injustices to that!
Anon
As if dating online during this time was not bad enough, I thought I might be able to find a workaround by texting with a couple of guys who were just wrong place or wrong time people at the time. I thought maybe now would be right or that at least there’d be someone to flirt with and pass the time with even if we never went past texting. However, I find that this (as well as online dating with swiping) somehow now feels worse than before. Now it feels like I can’t even pretend someone is just busy and hasn’t checked their phone but that they did, saw it was me, and decided not to respond. At this point, I don’t even care if it was someone with no actual potential for a relationship, it’d be nice just to have someone to chat with and flirt with. (Of course, I’m also the only one of my friends who is unattached, so they either don’t get it or think I am just not making an effort to try to meet someone somehow.)
Anon
I understand how you feel. Online dating feels so empty to me right now. I’m thinking about just taking a break. I’m at the point where I, too, am just looking for decent conversation and flirting, but I can’t even find that. It’s like the guys I’m matching with aren’t capable of holding a conversation.
On the flip side, I’m really in need of some girl friends. I’m thinking about flipping my Bumble profile to Bumble BFF mode, just for some stimulating conversation. What are we to do during a pandemic? Sigh.
Anon
If you have a burner email, post it, I’ll be your new friend!
Soon to be laid off
So a very similar branch to my branch has been shut down. My branch has very similar stats (not unprofitable but not a huge profit due to COVID decline kind of deal). We heard about the other branch shut down on Monday and management finally addressed it today basically saying we need to double profit by September or we will likely meet the same fate (haha).
This is a side job (I’m the only part time employee) but I enjoy it and I will be sad once it’s over. It will also be awkward these next few weeks while people are applying for other jobs and preemptively packing up their stuff. Morale is basically zero. Very bleak. Anyway, a bad start to the weekend.
Anon
This feels a bit weird, but hey – it’s the anonymous hive, right? I’m in finance and have no idea what law salary structures are like, but I know many of you are in law and have discussed salaries here before. I’m curious what salary ballpark the guy I’m starting to see is in – he’s in Big Law in DC, about 9-10 years in. Any idea?
Anon
I should have added 9-10 years in, but not all at the current firm. He’s in litigation, if it matters.
Cat
Somewhere between 300-400K base, plus a hefty bonus. Once you’re past 8th year, it’s not as easy to find info since the first 8 years are pretty well published as a lockstep scale, and moving may or may not have cost him a year or two in seniority.
Anonymous
Just an FYI that most law firms are up or out, so the BigLaw associate $$ can vanish suddenly.
Alanna of Trebond
Is he an associate or a partner? If he is a partner, his salary could be substantially more than $300-$400,000 — as high as $1M in a lockstep or semi-lockstep firm, and higher/lower depending on how much business he brings in at other firms. If he is an associate he likely makes at least $500,000 with a bonus.
Anon
Wishing adjunct teaching positions and instructional design/curricula type work weren’t so much word of mouth, I just don’t seem to know enough people to pick up more, though I sure wish I did! With everything online and no in-person networking or conferences, it seems like jobs are more “who you know” than ever with fewer opportunities to meet new people!
Anon
Earlier this week, a crown fell out. I caught it in time and went to the dentist the next day. He cleaned it, added new cement, and said the others are fine, I did not do anything wrong, I just have short teeth and it had been 8ish years so sometimes this happens. The experience of both it falling out and me being lucky enough to be awake and to catch it rather than to bite down or swallow or aspirate it plus the seeing of the underneath tooth was sort of traumatizing. How do I stop thinking about it every time I eat?!
AIMS
I think it does happen and the only thing is to give it time. After a week or so of it not happening I bet you will Start to think about it less and then eventually you’ll just stop.
Anon
Time?
Go for it
It takes time says the person who had had it happen a bunch of times!
Toothapple
I’m glad your dentist explained to you that you have short teeth- it just happens with short teeth. Kinda like wearing flip flops and running? Sometimes people make the choice of getting teeth taken out, if the crown falling out so much is a problem & can get implants…
(I used to be a dentist)
Anon -OP
I have a fluoride allergy and had almost 5 yrs with braces, which collectively did a number on my teeth. After lots of fillings, when I got my first big job, I wanted to replace the aging fillings but the dentist said I didn’t have enough tooth, I should do crowns. We did the top front 6 plus a back molar, all the fancy expensive stuff. They were so white and so big that it was awful. The guy ground the back one down so much that the silver is visible (so no point in the expensive at all). It was horrible and he refused to fix it. A month later, I moved states, went elsewhere, we had to rip it all out and start over. Whole experience was over 10k (I earn about 30 per year before taxes, so this was a huge expense that took years to pay off). Crowns are now about 8 years old and this was the first time this happened. But between the fear of cost to replace and having had teeth falling out dreams, now it just seems like one more thing to be anxious about! (wow, this turned into a novel, apologies!)
LaurenB
I have had nightmares about teeth falling out for years, and in those nightmares, I’m driving around trying to find a dentist and I can’t get one, and my teeth are chipping / falling out in the meantime, so I feel your fear. I too have short teeth. Last year, I was traveling, bit into a soft pretzel and my entire bridge came out (!). I immediately called my dentist and she said just to brush it, get Polident denture cream and put it back in place until I came back (this was on a Friday and I wasn’t going to be back in town til Tuesday), that it wasn’t necessary to see a dentist there. I did so and it was fine. I had another crown fall out and they just cement it back in. It’s not painful and honestly, the chances that you’ll swallow and choke are really incredibly remote — I mean, technically you could swallow anything you eat wrong and choke on it, but you don’t worry about your regular meals, right?
Dating Anon
Was having a pleasant enough surface-level chat with a man online via an app. Then he said, “you are smiling in all of your photos, very happy go lucky. Do you know how to be serious?” I immediately unmatched. I am just sharing this because it reminded me that no matter what we do, some people are just jerks so we might as well stop trying to hard not to get commented about and just live our lives.
Anon
What in the world? I am the poster from this morning who had a man tell me I should smile more in his first message to me. On to the next one.
eertmeert
Have you and Anon @ 7:43 thought about just smiling more and smiling less at the same time? Maybe lift up the right side of your mouth and turn down the left side. No one can accuse you of looking too serious or too happy then! These gentlemen are giving such wonderful feedback.
anonshmanon
I love this.
Ses
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Bed help
Have a heavy spouse. As a result, our bed has a divot where he typically lies. Is there any way to fix this? The mattress is not the kind that can be flipped and rotating it would just put me in the divot instead.
Anonymous
Make sure the mattress has good firm support underneath. But you probably need to buy a new mattress
Mathy
Yep, this. Things got better when we purchased a very, very sturdy frame, but we still budget purchasing a new mattress every couple of years. We have found traditional spring mattresses are better than the tuft and needle types.
The Original ...
Hey All!
In the midst of all the feelings, I’ve got two watch recommendations for y’all and hope you’ll share what you’re watching too…
1. We Are Freestyle Love Supreme on Hulu (It just came out this week, it chronicles a group that includes some big Broadway names but it’s really just a story about a group of nerdy guys who become friends, support one another, and do great things together.) If you’re looking for an easy watch with some feel-good-ness, this is a good one.
2. Hannah Gadsby’s Douglas on Netflix (It came out in 2020. If you haven’t seen her first special, Nanette, start there.) Her comedy style is more thinking and intellectual than the typical stand-up and there are some deep moments in each of her pieces, but there were also some great gems that made me tear up with laughter. At a time when it’s nice not to think about covid or the president, but to not feel talked down to, her stuff is excellent.
Also, I want to throw in another vote for Babysitters Club, which is an easy to marathon flashback (doesn’t require you to have read the books or anything) that’s just, well, darling. If you’re looking for a series to marathon, I am forever voting for Crazy Ex-Girlfriend which is smart and unique and fun (and the cast is doing a reunion very soon for charity.) If you need something totally mindless and aren’t yet ready to commit to the 90 day fiance series, I also recommend any of the Below Deck seasons; easy to watch, pretty locations, zero real depth.
Happy watching!
Seventh Sister
We’ve been watching Call My Agent on Netflix, which is a French series about a small movie agency. It’s very cute and funny, not serious at all.
If you liked Nanette and Douglas (I actually saw Douglas in person), you might like Fleabag and/or Catastrophe. I do think the second season of Fleabag is more fun than the first season. Also, Derry Girls is a gem, but unless you grew up in NI (and maybe even then), put on the subtitles. The insults/jokes are pretty fast and furious.
Hulu has King of the Hill, which is darling and such a nice flashback to the early 2000s.
Toothapple
I’m considering moving out of NYC and feeling very nervous about the decision.
In 2020, I ended a relationship and lost my job. I had pictured my life playing out a certain way and NYC played a big role in that narrative. I wanted to stay in the city for better dating prospects (I’m in my early 30’s) but haven’t dated due to the covid situation & job prospects may be better elsewhere.
Has anyone else made such changes as a single woman- what books/podcasts/articles helped you? I did enjoy “Designing Your Life”. Also, how to prepare for a fulfilling single life? I find myself saying, “okay, all this will be worth it IF I eventually find a partner.” I want to be happy independent of my marital outcome. My hobbies/travel/lifestyle were heavily affected by my partner and I have the feeling of being untetherered/unanchored in the world.
poppy
Hi toothapple, I’m in a very similar boat (though I haven’t lost my job, just hate it and want a new one). I’ve been happy in NYC for 15 years and assumed I’d live here indefinitely, but given what life is like here right now and how alone I feel now that I’m single, I’ve really been questioning that. I don’t think I’d leave unless I found a great job OR found a boyfriend who lived elsewhere, but I would be willing to move for either of these unlikely scenarios. I own my apartment which makes it a bit harder to say I’m just going to move and see what happens. I can’t say there are books/podcasts/articles that have helped, I just try to get through one day at a time, and keep trying online dating even though the process makes me horribly miserable.
I don’t have an answer, but you aren’t alone being in this crappy situation.
LaurenB
Why and how is NYC appreciably different from any other major city when it comes to the dating scene and availability of partners? Seriously, how does dating in NYC differ from dating in, say, Chicago or San Francisco? Isn’t big-city life at some point big-city life?
The Original ...
Are you me?! I did the exact same thing at the same age range. I realized that I needed to figure out who I am as a person and what I want my life to look like. I thought it was related to financial stability so I moved to a very low cost city. I loved the financial aspect but dating did not fit for me as my life plans aren’t traditional. I tried moving to another large city but I didn’t feel at home there either. In the end, I think I have realized that where I fit in the world has to take priority (do I want a home with a yard? do I want a tiny studio near a pizza place?). I also realized that dating sucks everywhere. However, the type of politics and life goals and ambition I have is more likely to be a fit in a few specific places than in most of the country, so I set my dating app for there. Am I likely to move back to NYC? Yes, it seems inevitable at this point. But I needed to take those steps to figure those details out. I’m happy to discuss more if you want to drop a burner email!
Toothapple
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Anonymous
I think readers here have expressed that the NYC dating scene is not good for those who want to settle down, so maybe do some more research into that before making the move
Anon
Not sure if I understand if you’re looking for mattress, boxspring, and/or bedframe recos. Anyway, we love our Thuma platform frame and Avocado mattress. No boxspring. Less than $2,000 for a Full sized setup for teen, which seemed reasonable to me. Plus we got discounts and free shipping on both for Mem Day sale. Thuma is solid wood, 9” under the bed giving you storage for things like suitcases, and relatively inexpensive for solid wood (downside is self assembly but it’s easy). The Avocado mattress is comfy. We opted for that instead of Charles P Rogers Estate 5000 mattress (which older teen has and loves) bc we’re in Cal and bed ships from NJ, taking weeks using third party trucking company, and I wasn’t comfortable with uncertainties during COVID (what if these companies go bankrupt while mattress in transit!).
Anonymous
Was in house for 2 years. Went to a law firm to get more deal experience. Been here 1 year and I hate it. How long do I need to stick it out for resume / interview narrative purposes?
Terri Campbell
Back to the shorts, what are some really good workout brands that are longer enough to cover my big thighs that are still very flattering?