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Anon
I really enjoyed this morning’s discussion about exercise and wanted to throw in my all-time favorite video illustrating that mobility/strength/exercise don’t have to stop when you’re in your 70s. It’s with Betty Birrell (produced by Patagonia), who mountain bikes harder than I do at age 72 (now 73?). It’s called “You’re Never Too Old to Send” and it’s just 12 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9iuSVnfisI
This, right here, is why I exercise. It’s so I can have adventures like this for as long as possible and to have as much fun with my kid as she did with hers (as a single mom, no less).
Anonymous
Agree! My MIL is 5 years older than my parents. She still bikes and skis at 73. Our kids love spending time doing active things with her. It’s so great because the pace she has now that she is starting to slow down is perfect for elementary school age kids just learning. My parents basically want to sit around and play board games which is okay but very different. They can’t do much else. My favorite yoga class ever was a class at our town rec centre taught by a retired school teacher. I wasn’t even pregnant with my oldest when I started taking the class and 13 years later she’s still teaching the class and my daughter just started coming with me. Teacher must be over 70 by now even though I’ve never asked her age.
Anonymous
Lifelong dancer here. I’m now in my 50s and the people in their 60s and 70s at my studio inspire me to always keep dancing.
Anon
I’m convinced that dancing has got to be one of the best forms of exercise partly just from the long careers of the dance instructors I’ve known!
Anon
Dancing is very good for Alzheimer’s prevention. The combo of physical exercise + memorizing new choreography is great for brain health.
Anon
I (in my 40s and active, but not competitively athletic) get dropped on rides somewhat regularly by guys in their late 70s and 80s. It’s motivation to stay active, that’s for sure.
anon
That whole thread took a bizarre turn, and I’m afraid that one of my comments unintentionally fueled the fire. For that, I apologize. I enjoy working out and have the same goal as you do: to be mobile, healthy, and able to do things for a very long time. I work out probably 5-6 hours a week, usually in the margins of my life. I do think there’s a significant difference between taking the time to live a healthy lifestyle and Serious Training with a Capital T, in a way that takes over your whole life and affects the other people in it. I did see that with a friend who basically used a crossfit type situation to abdicate his family responsibilities, and it was a factor in his divorce. Not the entire reason, of course, but it was part of a larger pattern of putting his goals and desires before all others. Unless somebody is paying me to be an athlete (hahaha, no), that sounds very unappealing. More power to the people who want that as a lifestyle, but it’s not realistic for most people.
Anonymous
That sounds like someone using exercise as an excuse to avoid being home. Cart vs horse situation. Avoiding your spouse by spending all your time at a crossfit gym isn’t a fitness issue, it’s a marriage issue.
Many people who enjoy fitness or outdoor adventures have socialization as part of those activities. Like running friends or skiing with their cousins or a family kayak trip. And even when the fitness is not part of a family activity, it’s good modeling for kids to see lifelong activity, to see their parents set and work hard to achieve goals, and to realize their parents have lives outside of being parents.
anon
Um, ok. Thanks for preaching to the choir?
Anon
I’ve been on the fringes of my city’s running and triathlon community for years. It’s 100% obvious who the people are who are using their training as a way to escape their husbands/wives/families and meet their new, in shape flame. It’s absolutely predictable who the season’s divorces will be and is a lot of the reason why I stay to the fringes.
Anon
And some people do the same with work and other hobbies. It is very possible to seriously train and not shut everything else down. Choices and planning. Maybe you are not able to binge watch every new series, but nothing wrong with that.
Anon
I think you can seriously train for things with balance. It might be hard to envision it, but some of my friends are sponsored athletes and are perfectly normal people who aren’t training for 8 hours a day. Balance is possible.
Anon
What does it mean to be sponsored? Free shoes? Or free shoes + gear + stipend? One of my neighbors runs seriously and mentioned this once and now I’m wondering how big a deal it is.
Anon
I’m sure it varies wildly but for the few people I know who are sponsored it’s apparel (shoes or clothing, depending on the brand) and race entries or fees.
I know one woman who is sponsored independently and one who is on a team that is sponsored.
They’re both runners so not gear aside from shoes / clothes.
Anon
I used to work with an attorney (male of course) who was a serious golf enthusiast. He worked long hours during the week, played at least 18 holes both days of every weekend, then was shocked Pikachu face when his wife divorced him and took the kids.
Anonymous
Agreed that this is the reason I exercise. When asked what my goal for training is, I think people always expect me to say I want to lose weight, but my response is “to get strong AF” because I know that is my best shot to sustain a happy, independent life filled with choices into old age.
Anon
I said this is on the recent thread about the dad buying a sailboat, but my mom is almost 75 and still sailing solo. She also kayaks, bikes and has way more energy for playing with my kids than I do.
Anon
My parents, aunts, and uncles are seriously impressive. They range from mid 60s to mid 70s are are collectively still doing the following: playing basketball with men half their age, surfing, sailing, open water swimming, running 5+ miles, lifting, going to 2 yoga classes a day, playing singles tennis, hiking (challenging hikes that I hike with them), going on 20 mile hilly bike rides, coaching and reffing high school sports, kayaking, SUPing, waterskiing, and playing with grandkids (shooting hoops, body surfing, and playing in the yard with grade school age grandkids; solo babysitting multiple baby and toddler grandkids at once).
They’re very cognizant that at their age (and really much younger too) it is use it or lose it and thus are focused on using it.
While they’re overall a healthy bunch, in the last 3 years some of these relatives have survived cancer (needing surgery and chemo), a car crash that resulted in broken bones, an organ transplant, and a triple heart bypass. My uncle was back to long bike rides 6 months post bypass and another was back at it 3 months post chemo.
My grandparents set such an excellent example for them as well: two of my grandparents died young (cancer) but other two lived to their mid 90s. One grandfather did all of his yardwork and home repair himself until his mid 80s: he would regularly be climbing a ladder at that age. I also have fond memories of body surfing with him when he was in his early-mid 80s. My grandmother played tennis until her mid 80s and then stopped after open heart surgery but then began a walking and lifting regimen that she kept up til her late 80s (and she did this while battling cancer).
I admire their physicality and ability to be active just as much as I admire their drive to live a healthy, active lifestyle. Clearly, I come from an active and athletic family so much of what we enjoy (myself included) is being active and being in nature. They’ve set a really excellent example of how to age well, keep active in order to keep having the ability to do the things they enjoy, and how to bounce back to these activities despite serious illness.
I think it’s such a blessing to be able to live an active lifestyle and I don’t take that for granted, even at my young age. I view keeping active as almost a duty I have out of respect for the gift I’ve been given of a healthy body.
Anon8
Wow, impressive!!
Anon
I think my mother always intended on “someday” buckling down and getting into an exercise regime. She’s now in her mid-60s and fighting age, a heart condition, weight, and decades of being a couch potato (albeit a couch potato with a good diet, at least if you ignore alcohol consumption).
I don’t ever want to say that it’s “too late” for anyone to get into shape… but man it’s definitely an uphill battle the older you get.
Anon
This is one reason I am committed to a 2-story house. I am convinced that my willingness to go up/down stairs every time I need something is half of the reason I’m reasonably fit (having a dog is the other). I wouldn’t get a puppy as an older person but it commits me to several miles of walking throughout the day. I’d love to run, but report no injuries or wear/tear from my current routine. I do try to exercise on top of this, but when I don’t, I still feel reasonably active.
Elle
My MIL passed away before I met my husband and my FIL has given me all of her old jewelry. There are quite a few nice pieces but most of them are 80s/90s style. I have two daughters and I would like to give these as gifts to them as they get older for special occasions. Would you 1. Give them the pieces as they are? 2. Have them redone in more modern style around the time of the occasion? 3. Use the stones to make a pieces with the daughters input leading up to the occasion? The third feels the most practical but I would hate to ruin the surprise.
Moose
If I was your daughter, it would be really fun to design something together (assuming you want to cover the costs of the redesign). And you never know – they may like the original design!
pugsnbourbon
+1 – I love this idea!
Anon
Agree with all of this. For people who weren’t alive in the ‘80s, they might be adorably vintage.
Cat
I think 3 would be really fun!
No Face
I like asking for their input. Depending on their personalities, they may want to change or keep them as is.
I got some very 80s clothes from my grandmother when she died and I enjoy wearing them in all their glory.
Seventh Sister
I feel like the very, very 80s jewelry pieces my daughter will inherit from my MIL will be back in style by the time my daughter gets them. If not, I’ll definitely let her redesign them at my jewelers.
Anonymous
I like the idea of 3. You can still make it a surprise, it just might not be a surprise that commemorates but predates the occasion. And if you go pick up the piece and wrap it and present it on the day, that is also a “surprise.”
Anon
I would give them the pieces as is with the offer to redesign it or reuse the stones in a new piece if they’d prefer. Basically, let your daughters be the ones to make the decision.
My dad’s mom died before he met my mom, and I know very little about my grandmother. Sometimes I think it would be cool to have jewelry that was hers as a connection to her and other times I think it would be weird because she is a stranger to me. But, my dad has sisters so they have all of her jewelry so it’s a non-issue.
On the other hand, I was very close with my mom’s mom (who died when I was 12). I don’t have anything of hers either (my mom has a lot and it will be mine eventually / I can borrow her jewelry if I want) but I would never change those pieces because of the memories associated with her.
Both
Why not gift the item as is, let your husband reminisce with your daughter about where it came from or a time his Mom wore it, and then raise the issue of re-setting/re-designing and if she is interested, introduce her to the important skill of working with jewelers?
Anon
I have two friends who have bad family jewelry redesigned. It’s such a fun progress (I got to tag along!) The number one thing is to develop a good relationship with a local bench jeweler. Start with something small/less precious and see if you like the results and the process.
And yes to letting your daughters have a hand in the design – within reason. If I’d taken my daughter in when she was 10-11 years old, she would have had everything made into an owl shape, or something equally cutesy. But now that’s she’s older, she has minimalist taste and she would hate that. So definitely guide them toward more classic shapes – and styles.
Anonymous
How old are your daughters? If they’re young I’d hold on to the jewelry as is. I have a bunch of 1960s jewelry from my grandmother. It’s cool now but was probably horribly dated in the 1990s.
Anon.
In addition to 3, I would also take pictures of the items, and make a photo book – maybe you can even add some backstory for the pices if known (e.g. “this was MIL’s engagement ring/necklace she wore to church etc”)
That way, even if everything is reworked, the book could be a nice keepsake.
New Sibling
Does anyone here have experience with discovering “new” half-siblings through DNA testing services?
I discovered earlier this week that I have 2 half-brothers. I was conceived while their mom was pregnant with the younger brother. Their mom and my bio father divorced a few years later. I’ve made the decision not to contact my bio father for a variety of reasons, but I’ve already texted some with one half-brother and I had a long phone conversation with their mother who was INCREDIBLY nice and open with me about my bio father, their relationship, and how he knew my mother. None of them knew about me, but they are not terribly surprised, if that makes sense.
My mother was a single mother who passed away when I was very young, and I was then adopted. I’ve never known who my bio father was, but I’ve always known it’s probable I have half-siblings out there– it’s just a weird feeling to know who they actually are!
I am just kind of wondering if anyone has had previous experience with this and how you navigated? We have all been cordial and have exchanged a few photos through text. Everyone is also kind of reeling from so much new information. As it stands right now, I think I’d like to get to know them more if they are open to that, but I don’t want to be pushy or make them think I’m after an “insta family” (I am not; I am content with the family I have known!)
BeenThatGuy
I have 3 friends that have gone through this in the last several years. I’m happy to share that 2 of the 3 have amazing relationships with their new found siblings. Everyone was cautious at first but developed closeness over time.
The 3rd friend was a different/complex situation. It turned out that her father, was actually her uncle. So all of her cousins, were actually her siblings. And he siblings were actually he cousins. For various reasons, she’s kept all this information to herself.
BeenThatGuy
Sorry for the typos!
Anon
The people she thought were siblings are still siblings (well half-siblings) if they shared the same mom, right? I don’t get why having a different dad would make your sibling your cousin.
Anon
Her mother conceived her with her then-husband’s brother?
Anon
Her mother conceived her with her then-husband’s brother?
Anon
I have a friend who adopted an adorable girl several years ago. And this is exactly what happened in her birth family (husband’s brother was the father). It happens.
Anom
And yet, when I look at my BiLs, the concept is rather horrifying (and I *like* them as people)…
Anon
I have a friend who is her aunt’s biological child and was adopted by her parents at birth because the aunt was young and not ready to get married.
Anon
I know a man this happened to (found a daughter that way). It is funny to me that women KNOW how many children they have and for guys it is so, so different. Often not for bad reasons — this guy was in the military and was young and the woman never contacted him (back when there was a lot of shame re out of wedlock births and a lot of pressure to enter a marriage that may not have been right for either parent). The daughter is lovely and grown and the extended family has met and it has gone well even if the relationship has the closeness of the niece/cousin variety vs daughter/sibling. It helps, I think, that the man wasn’t cheating on his later wife when the daughter was conceived but was a single young guy. Cheating can just be very different for some families if all parents are alive and local to each other.
Anon
I know what you mean re: many men never being completely certain about how many children they have, but want to point out that some men are certain. DH, DH’s parents, and one of his brothers all waited until marriage.
This is not judgement of people who live their lives differently, just pointing out that it’s a combination of biology and choices for men.
anonshmanon
also condoms exist…
Anon
Condoms aren’t perfect though. All birth control has some chance of failure except abstinenence (not advocating abstinence, just saying…)
Anon
Not even abstinence is perfect. Look at what happened to Mary!
Anon
Anon at 4:17, what happened to Mary is, from a Christian perspective, perfect. Also, she had the option of refusing to get pregnant.
Anon
One of my husband’s friends found out that he had a daughter he had never known about, born when he was in college. He’d moved to a beach community for a summer to be a lifeguard and had kind of a “summer fling” with one of the local residents. Went back to college; never went back to that community and never saw the woman again (and said she never tried to call or write him, or if she did, he never got the messages/letters). Turns out the woman had gotten pregnant and had the baby and just never contacted him. Her daughter did a DNA test, though, and figured out who he was and got in contact. They have a regular correspondence although I don’t know that I’d call it a “close relationship.” His daughter’s mother married and had other children and I guess has no interest in being in contact with him, but doesn’t mind if the daughter is. Of course, husband’s friend was substantially freaked out when his daughter got in contact, but he’s settled into the idea and seems to be appreciative to know her (he had been married at one point, but he and his wife hadn’t gotten around to having children when she died of cancer at 38, after having been sick for a few years). I think it’s kind of nice for him to have someone in his life he has a biological connection to.
Anonymous
My FIL found out about an adult child he did not know existed and could not have known existed (complicated and hopefully extremely unusual situation and I won’t share details so as not to out the family; there was no cheating or anything). He has enjoyed getting to know this person and this person’s child as he has little extended family. My spouse and spouse’s sibling haven’t really had any interest in getting to know the new sibling, which I find interesting. If it were me I’d want to get to know them.
anon
I don’t blame your DH, nor his sibling. Knowing about the existence of another sibling, with whom you did not share any formative life experiences, is a lot.
Anonymous
My husband’s family found out that one of their aunts had a child she gave up for adoption without anyone knowing. This aunt had already passed away, but the rest of the family has been very welcoming to the child (well, not child because she was in her late 50’s when the connection was made through one of the DNA sites.) Anyway, things moved slowly, but she now attends some family events and has been happy to sit and talk with those who remember her mother and hear stories and see pictures. The father’s family has been the opposite and was not happy to hear from her (the circumstances around her birth were kind of of scandal) so she has not had further contact with them.
Anon
Um I think your husband is my cousin. If not – this exact same thing happened in my family!
Anon
I have a “new” half cousin who was the product of a teen pregnancy and adopted at birth. We reconnected through the magic of DNA so now my first cousins have a much older half brother. He wasn’t rejecting his adoptive family at all. He just had questions about his genetic heritage due to a chronic illness.
At this point after the initial flurry of excitement, I’d say he has a Facebook relationship with his bio dad and his half sibs, but it seems like he hit it off with one half sib in particular and they have a friendship. Not really a brother sister relationship, but they’re friends. Everyone lives very far from each other so that’s a complication. Maybe they’d be closer if they were a drive rather than a flight away.
Anyway. No one seems to be UNhappy about the discovery, which is good.
Smokey
You might want to read the book Inheritance, by Dani Shapiro, which deals with these themes. She learns through DNA testing that her father is not her blood relative.
Anonymous
My dad’s best friend discovered he had a half brother. His dad cheated on his mom with a woman in town who have the child up for adoption. They now visit each other twice a year and Zoom frequently. Both of his half brothers parents had passed away by the time he did the DNA test, and my dad’s best friend and his siblings have been very welcoming. His half brother is close with his adoptive family and my dads friend has met them too!
Anon
You might not come back and read this, but on the off chance you do…
My dad died when I was 5. He was, to borrow a line from Hamilton, “reliable with the ladies.” I have an assortment of half siblings all across the country (and wouldn’t be surprised in the least to learn of half sibs abroad), including two whose birthdays fall six months on either side of mine.
When I was a teen being raised by a single mom and looking for a sense of belonging, I reached out to those half siblings. Due to baby mama drama (aka, the women all hated each other and consequently poisoned their kids against each other), no relationships ever formed there.
A couple years ago, I discovered that a cousin from my dad’s side lives here in the same city I do. On paper, she and I have lots in common – we work in related fields, have some similar features to our childhoods, similar interests… But in person, try as we might, it just doesn’t click. She’s nice, I’m nice, but it just doesn’t come naturally.
So we’ve swapped the handful of stories we know about our respective parents, that kind of thing, and have just drifted after meeting shortly before covid. I’d love to stay in touch with her more, but she’s not on social media, so it’s hard. Anyways, just a warning going in that the relationship you form could be anything from lifelong besties to oil and water and anything in between. Good luck.
anon
I recently rescued a senior german shepherd when she was out of time at the shelter. She’s incredibly sweet and friendly, and very respectful and gentle with my toddler. However, she has quickly become very attached to me and cries when I leave the room. She can’t manage the stairs in our house, so when I’m working in my home office upstairs she cries for me. She will accept affection from my husband but sort of seems like she could take or leave him, whereas she always wants me in her line of vision. I figured I’d give her lots of time to decompress and feel safe and secure (she’s only been with us 3 weeks) but she seems to get worse. She doesn’t like other dogs so getting her a companion isn’t really an option. There’s usually someone around at home all day so she’s rarely alone. She doesn’t show any guarding or protective behavior with me in the house, so that’s good. I just feel so sad for her. I’ve had shepherd mixes before who have definitely seen me as their primary person but have been pretty chill about not seeing me at all times.
Any tips? (Side note: my toddler is also going through a mom-only phase and also screams when I leave the room. It’s nice to feel wanted, I guess?)
Anonymous
time and training! When you leave or enter, don’t make it an emotional thing. You could have a routine though or introduce treats so she knows you leaving is positive (like a treats in a rolled up towel). Great that you rescued a senior GSD. Good luck!
Anonymous
Does she have a specific space for herself? Our Lab doesn’t like the crate with the door closed but she likes her bed in her cozy crate and then her crate in a penned area. She won’t sleep at night until we close the door on her pen. She sleeps better there – when she falls asleep on the carpet it’s like she wakes up every time we move to or from the room.
Does she have anything to chew or lick? Licky mats with peanut butter or yoghurt can be very calming. Bully sticks or antler splits are great for chewing. Stick to a routine as much as possible. I actually go to bed slightly earlier now because doggy has decided she needs to go to bed at 11pm so I settle her and stop watching tv then. She gets up and has breakfast at 7:30 every day. Sleep with a blanket for a few days and then put it in her pen/crate/bed so it smells like you.
Anonymous
Our husky/shepherd mix would cry in his crate if it was uncovered. Once we covered it up, he would settle down and sleep. The vet said some animals like feeling like they are in a den or cave and so the dark, enclosed space was comforting.
anon
She has two beds – one in a quiet corner and one in the living room. I may try a crate. She wouldn’t go into the crate at the groomer’s, but she knew I was leaving her there. Great tip re: the licky mat. She likes her food so perhaps if I give her something to keep her occupied when I leave the house she will not get so upset.
Anonymous
Try leaving her alone in her pen or crate for periods when you are in the house. Don’t make it two hours away from the house every time. Try 20 minutes while you do laundry or something. So it’s not a negative association.
Shanananana
3 weeks is around the time they transition into starting to feel like this is home but they aren’t fully comfortable yet and it tends to be when you see some odd behavioral things pop up. There is a 333 saying in rescue where its 3 days to break out of the initial where am I, 3 weeks to get to feeling more at home and 3 months before they truly feel like this is there new home and they are safe here.
Things that may help – clothes or a blanket that smells like you for her spot downstairs, sound machine/low volume tv or radio so she can’t fixate on your voice where she can’t get to you. I will also add depending on why she struggles with your stairs – I had wood stairs at my last house and had to add little stair rugs for my older dog so he could navigate them. The wood stairs were just slippery enough that as his balance declined he would similarly sit at the bottom and whine. The stair rugs bought us about another year.
Anon OP
OP here. Tell me more about these stair rugs? Do you stick them on to the stairs? This might help all of us with the slippery stairs (they’re hard for my toddler too). They staircase is curved so I couldn’t do one straight rug.
She was temporarily in another home before ours and got returned because she chased the cat, so I can see that she doesn’t feel fully secure or settled yet. She also lived in an outdoor pen at the shelter so now all she wants is to be indoors, even though we have a lovely sunny backyard.
shanananana
I found them on the river site or way fair, can’t remember for sure, and they came with grippers on the back that were enough for me, but they also sell better rug backings/double side tape options if you are concerned. Look for Stair Treads.
Anon OP
perfect, thanks!
Anon
Thank you for adopting a rescue. My dog is a rescue who was rehomed a few times, and he was definitely insecurely attached to us at first. He is much calmer now! I would just like to give you hope for the future.
In the short run, I agree on the crate. The other thing that was super effective for us was obedience training. It just really establishes the owner/alpha in the relationship, and I’ve always said a trained dog is a happy dog. We took inexpensive courses through the local AKC, which I highly recommend.
Jody Okrzesik
This is late, but GSDs are widely known as Velcro dogs, i.e., once they pick their person, their working dog genetics kicks in and they feel disloyal if their person is not Right There. If you’re that person, you will never be alone in the bathroom! At night, after everyone is safely asleep, my girl heads to the living room and keeps watch for the night since it is the most centralized location. They are just incredible dogs! There are a couple of great GSD Facebook groups with some long-time passionate owners who will share lots of good informarion on this special breed. Good luck and thanks for rescuing!
Anonymous
*information
anon
Thank you! Good idea to check out some FB groups. Yes, she’s definitely showing full on velcro tendencies. As I mentioned above I’ve had shepherd mixes that had some of the GSD traits like smarts and loyalty, but I think their shepherd-ness was a bit diluted and they were less intense about it. It’s a fun learning process! She’s just the sweetest – she seems so happy to be out of the shelter that she won’t stop wagging her tail and smiling at me.
Anonymous
What do you do when you can’t fall asleep but are exhausted? Had one of those nights last night.
anon
I listen to a sleep channel on Amazon music or a podcast that is mellow and won’t wind me up too much. It’s like my brain needs something to focus on for my body to fully relax and sleep.
Anon
I have a hydroxyzine prescription and I take it on nights when I really can’t sleep. Thankfully they’re pretty rare now – mostly before early flights when I know adrenaline/anxiety will keep me up all night.
Anon
Sleeping wind down session from Headspace.
Moose
I have to distract my brain – nonfiction reading helps with that (nothing too interesting!). Also the occasional benadryl. Also, also, it sometimes really helps to get out of bed for a few minutes, then try to sleep again.
Nina
Take a melatonin. I’ve also found that listening to audiobooks, particularly of childrens books or books I’ve read before, helps me fall asleep
Anon
Gabapentin, 300mg. My doctor prescribed it for me for hot flashes and perimenopausal sleep disruption. It really, really helps with nighttime hot flashes/night sweats, if you’re experiencing that.
I will also use melatonin, but only 2.5 mg; I figured out that a higher dose leaves me groggy the next day, especially if I take it too late.
I tried all the non-medication/supplement recommendations to get to sleep and none of them ever worked for me, especially once I hit perimenopause.
Anon
Eat a strawberry pop-tart. I did that and now I can’t stay awake at my desk.
Anon
LOL!!!!
Amberwitch
Hehe
Anonymous
I just got an ad for a Supergoop product stick that the model smeared all over her face so she looked wet and shiny, and then she applied more product (ysl tint) on top of it. I’m a little horrified, is this #goals now?!
Anon
I am not sure of your question but if you are talking about the product I think you are it is literally called a “glow stick”. It is meant to be shiny. My skin is not dry enough that it works for me but a lot of people with dry skin love it because it is hydrating, does not leave a white cast, and it is easy to be sure you are wearing enough.
Supergoop makes an invisible sunscreen as well if that is your preference.
At any rate I think #goals is to be sure you are wearing enough sunscreen to protect your skin.
rb
As an Old, I can confirm that the “glow” trend is just shiny. I don’t really like it on myself, even though I do really like a lot of hydration at this point. Shiny to me just takes me back to my younger, oily-faced and acne-prone days.
I like a relatively matte sunscreen (even if they’re shiny going on, non-glow products usually dry down) and a moisturizing tinted moisturizer like NARS radiant and Estee Lauder Futurist. My current favorite sunscreen is Rohto Skin Aqua UV Gold, which you can buy from asian beauty sites or Uncle Jeff, but I’m always open to new ones because I like a lot of skincare layers and I’m forever in search for the perfect combo.
If you’re into sunscreens, follow fiddysnails / Jude Chao on IG.
Nora
I posted the other day about a new WFH job – thank you for all the suggestions! Given the space constraints and how my apartment is set up one thing I wanted to was buy a nice looking laptop bag that could also fit a few other items (notebook, pens). Sort of like a briefcase? In my ideal world I could carry this bag by itself but it would be fairly sleek and look more like a laptop case than a purse/backpack. Any ideas?
Elle
Maybe not what you’re looking for but I have the Beis work tote and I like it. One of my friends has the Calpak Kaya. They’re both a little more fashion-y but say laptop bag to me