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Anon
I had this for a while, but when I started taking anti-anxiety medicine at night, it went away. So for me, at least, it was anxiety-related, but they do have a medicine to treat it on its own. Like the previous reply, I recommend that you see your doctor.
WiFi Calling
Not understand why I’m in mod but has anyone used WiFi calling? My SO will be out of the country for several months and has called me using WiFi, but does my phone need to be set on WiFi calling as well? Will I still receive regular calls? What about when he is on WiFi but I am not (like when I answered at work yesterday)? I’m going to talk to Verizon to make sure I don’t get charged for any international calls but wondering if anyone else here has experience with this.
WiFi Calling
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Anon
Kat, you are going to lose followers over your mod policy. Why some posters go to mod is plain baffling
Anonymous
I am a long-time poster. About a month ago, everythkng I post from my work desk top and work laptop (regardless of whether home or work wifi) started to go into moderation, previously having no issues whatsoever. I can post from my phone without moderation, sometimes!
I emailed her about it saying it was incredibly frustrating not to be able to take part in discussions, and her response was that it must just have gotten stuck in the queue and to review the policy.
Me too!
Same! It’s only at work. But I can post everywhere else I go (reddit for example). Her response was to clear my history and cookies. Super annoying to do, and it didn’t work. When I try to post it says “not secure” as in this page is not secure. which it never did before. Glad I’m not the only one, but horribly frustrating as a long time reader and poster!!
Anonymous
You know, people have been commenting about losing followers for ages. It’s either happened and she’s fine with it, or it actually hasn’t happen. So, I guess I don’t know what you think is going to happen…
anon
Have you considered that it has something to do with your work network having tighter security than your home network? I have noticed the same thing: when I post at home it goes up immediately, but work usually goes into mod or takes 20-30 minutes to go live. My solution is to post from my phone and use data, not the company wifi network.
Lots to Learn
Would appreciate some advice on what to advise my daughter – especially from any doctors or med students out there. My daughter’s deepest desire is to be a doctor someday. She is currently a high school freshman. She loves and is good at science, but math does not come naturally to her. She is smart but has been diagnosed with “low processing speed” disorder so she doesn’t grasp tough math concepts right away, but really has to work through them. Because of this, she has always been in “regular math” but has worked hard and gotten solid to high As. She’s been offered a recommendation to move to honors math her Sophomore year and we are trying to decide if she should take it. Past teachers have recognized her high grades are due to hard work and have refused to recommend her because they are concerned that honors math will move too fast for her, and she’ll have to kill herself to keep up. But this year’s teacher seems to think she could handle it, with a good bit of extra work and effort.
On the pro side of moving to honors, she would show that she is willing to challenge herself in the STEM area, which I’d think would be important if she’s selling herself to colleges as a pre-med candidate. It would also give her a stronger foundation for AB Calculus, which she’d have to take senior year to be a viable candidate. It would also be more consistent with her self-image, which is of someone who doesn’t shy away from hard work and challenges.
On the con side of moving to honors, the school has said her grade is likely to drop an average of 10 points, which would put her at a low B or even below. Currently, all her grades are mid to high As, so that would be a real blow to her, especially since she’s shooting for pretty competitive colleges. In addition, the extra time she’d have to work to keep afloat in an honors class (after four years of regular math) would probably mean that she wouldn’t have as much time to devote to other classes, so her grades in those would likely drop, as well. And she probably wouldn’t have as much time for extracurriculars and would likely be more stressed. She would also probably be one of the weakest in the class so she’s going to be seeing herself as “dumb at math” compared to all the kids to whom math comes much easier, and who have been in honors this whole time.
What would you advise her to do? Are colleges likely to view her as having failed to push herself adequately to show a commitment to pre-med if she stays in regular? Is it better to push herself knowing that she’ll likely have Bs this year and next and have all her grades go down some, or to take what may be seen as the easy way out and stay in regular and keep very high grades all around? I know this is a first world problem to have but it’s tearing her up inside as she wrestles with the best course (which, of course, being a teenager, she thinks will affect the entire trajectory of her career aspirations for the rest of her life…) Appreciate any advice.
Anon
Gently, I think there’s a time to have a conversation about realities. How would she survive the college coursework, the MCAT, med school, and rounds with “low processing speed?” There are some professions where something like that is ok, but I don’t think medicine isn’t one of them. We want to give our children everything, but not every dream can come true and sometimes dreams change.
Anon
I disagree with this completely. Please please please don’t discourage your high school age daughter from becoming a daughter because you think she can’t handle it! She has plenty of years to figure out what’s realistic for her (although nothing in your post suggested to me that she couldn’t be a doctor!) There’s no reason to crush her dream at this age.
Anon
*from becoming a doctor.
Anonymous
This.
BelleRose
If it is truly out of her reach, maybe mom can have that conversation. But as long as daughter is not killing herself with work (and I do agree with below posters; watch out for depression/anxiety), let her find her way. If she is still set on being a doctor once she makes it to college, have her go on StudentDoctor dot net forums. Some pre-meds are woefully uninformed (don’t rely on the college pre-med advisor to have all the answers), but if she makes it through a few discussions on there, she’ll have a real idea of what is needed for applications and the road to doctor-hood.
Anon
I just don’t see how you could possibly know whether it’s out of her reach – she’s only a freshman in high school. I don’t see any benefit that could come from having that kind of conversation at this age. I think you should encourage her to keep challenging herself, but don’t push her down (or away from) any particular path. It’s her life, ultimately she will have to make her own decision — but not for years.
Anon
(I meant whether OP could know whether it’s out of reach.)
BelleRose
If she struggled in ALL her academic classes, then yes, being a doctor might be a bit out of reach. If just in math, then not a problem. Like I said, mom would know her daughter best.
But I agree with you that, barring the daughter working herself to death, mom should encourage her to keep challenging herself and being supportive of her choices. Makes all the difference in the world to a high schooler :)
Anon
Even if it seems out of reach to OP, I still don’t see any good that could come of telling a young teenager that she isn’t capable of doing what she wants to do.
Also, I didn’t do particularly well in high school but got excellent grades in college, did well on the LSAT, and graduated at the top of my law school class. I know law school is different than medical school, but my point is just that people change so quickly at that age, you can’t tell now what someone’s potential is. I’m sure my high school teachers would be shocked to see where I ended up.
BelleRose
Point taken :) The more I read through this, the more I agree with Anon @ 2:23, and the less I agree with Anon @ 1:53. While I have experience with the pre-med rigmarole, I have zero experience in parenting, and probably should not have tried to give advice in that arena!
Lots to Learn
OP here. I appreciate the concern about whether doctor is a realistic goal for her given her processing speed issues, but I think it is a realistic goal. She’s at a very competitive private school in a big city and has grades in other classes ranging from 95-100 and a 97 in regular math. So she is smart and hardworking. It’s just that she doesn’t grasp new concepts quickly – she has to hear them more than once and have time to “process” them. And from what we hear, that’s one of the biggest differences between regular and honors math: honors just introduces concepts once and expects kids to get them, and thus moves much faster and covers more ground. So I think she’ll be able to handle the college and med school coursework – she just has to work a little harder and take a little longer than others. But I appreciate the concern and take it in the spirit it was intended.
Anonymous
College prof here – your position on her need to take AB Calc in order to prepare for med school … is putting a lot of pressure on a 14yo. Many, many students come in to college without having chosen a major much less prepped themselves out for their desired graduate program. She is not doomed in her STEM/med school aspirations if she takes regular math as a freshman in high school.
I would worry less about the math and much more about the pressure cooker in which you are incubating your kid. Supporting her so she can grow into a psychologically healthy high school graduate who can navigate the issues related to her disability when she enters college is much more important than the math track you’re envisioning here.
Anonymous
What part about being a doctor does she thing she likes? Is she fixated on “doctor” because she doesn’t know what else is out there? Doesn’t every kid want to be a doctor as some point?
I have a cousin that was fixated on being a dentist (her dad is one), but didn’t end up getting into dental school. Ended up doing a post-bac course for nursing, since I think the “helping people” part was what she liked/identified most with. So maybe there are other healthcare paths that might fulfill that same idea.
Alternatively, I don’t know that honors math in HS is going to make that much of a difference. I was a chem major in undergrad and got away with just doing calc my freshman year. So if she only needs a couple years of math in ugrad, then I don’t think accelerating her in HS matters as much as it would if she was thinking of engineering. Keeping her out of honors math in HS let her stay with the group that is moving at her learning pace, which is going to be better for her learning style, right? And gives her flexibility to come to the realization over the next 6-7 years that maybe med school isn’t the answer.
Lots to Learn
She has researched being a doctor pretty thoroughly. In addition to watching every episode of Grey’s Anatomy :) she is taking online epidemeology courses, has gone to a mini-med school camp for a week, is going to Georgetown this summer for a similar camp, has shadowed one doctor and has plans to shadow another, watches surgeries online in her spare time, practices sutures on grapefruits, labeled all the bones on the skeleton hanging in her room, etc. She may not like the actual practice of medicine, but I think she is doing all she can to explore medicine as a career while in HS. Appreciate the perspective on the relative value of honors math in HS.
Anonymous
I worry about your daughter. The fact that this is “tearing her up inside” as a freshman in high school, considering the brutal competitive path (never mind physically demanding) to becoming a doctor makes me extremely worried for her.
Math is not critical for medicine. At all. She just needs to satisfy the minimum requirements. Honestly, I don’t even remember what they are. Maybe, one calculus level class in college? Statistics is what would benefit her the most long term, and basic algebra.
It is much more important these days to be well rounded, doing extra-curriculars, having good people skills than being in the highest level math class… both for college entry and medical school.
You don’t have to be brilliant to be a doctor. You need to work very hard, be incredibly disciplined and consistent, and not burn out. It is extremely competitive. If she needs special accommodation, there is going to be a problem……. And many people don’t make it. But there are a ton of other options in the medical world that are extremely interesting, rewarding, well paid, with much shorter a road, less competition and better quality of life.
Watch closely for depression/anxiety. She is a set up for it. She is way too young to be worrying about this. She also has no idea what a doctor’s life is, so for her to be set on this now is clearly foolhardy, but that is youth.
Lots to Learn
OP here. Yes, I worry about the anxiety a lot too. She’s putting this pressure on herself because she really, really wants to become a doctor and she’s so worried that if she makes the wrong decision, it will affect her ability to get there. I think I’m going to have her talk with someone to help her manage it.
Anonymous
Great idea.
Learning skills for coping will serve her throughout her life.
BelleRose
Not a doctor or med student (yet), but currently waiting to hear back if I got accepted to med school, so some experience with the pre-med system.
First, going off of anon above: Is her “low processing speed” just in math, or in other academic areas? If just in math, she may need to work harder, but could be able to make the medical track work. If in other areas as well, I may agree with anon.
Again, if her only weakness is in math, I would advise her to stick with the regular math class and push herself to truly excel in other areas and get by in math. If she is AP/honors in all other classes and “regular” in math, that is fine. If she struggles in honors math, colleges will really only look at her grades, and it will probably not turn into the “show that she is willing to challenge herself” that you are hoping for. ECs and GPA are extremely important in the application game, so IME, an A/A- in regular math, strong ECs, and A/A- in AP/honors science will serve her exponentially better than B/C in honors math, weak ECs, and Bs in AP/honors science classes.
To get into med school, she will need pre-calculus and stats, though a few schools require calculus. Regular math should be able to get her there no problem. Again, if that is her only area of weakness and she can get through pre-calc (in HS) and stats (in college), she should be fine.
For more general pre-med advice:
If she really wants to do pre-med, go for it. There is no reason she can’t reconsider at some point, and as a parent, you want to make sure she feels no judgment for “trying and failing” (which is how a lot of ex-pre-meds feel). It is a very long and hard road to become a doctor, and you absolutely should NOT do it unless you 110% feel like there is no other career you could ever want.
It sounds like she is self-motivated and a hard worker. That’s great, but make sure she doesn’t burn out. The next 15-20 years of training (yes, that’s how much longer it will take for her to become an independent doctor) will just get harder and harder.
I typed and deleted a lot more advice, but that’s way ahead of where she and you are now. Let her continue to figure things out without stressing too much. If you really need to know more, email me at bellerose2542 at live dot com. Best of luck!
BelleRose
Wow, people posted while I was typing my novel! In the second paragraph, I was referring to anon @ 1:53pm.
BelleRose
and oops, I forgot they changed the email to bellerose2542 at outlook dot com. Haven’t used this one in a while :)
Anon
I know a number of medical students and doctors who didn’t major in pre-med (in fact, I know several who went to liberal arts schools that didn’t even offer it as a major) – so I think worrying about getting her admitted to a pre-med program is a bit premature. I also don’t think taking AB calculus in high school is an absolute pre-requisite to becoming a doctor.
I think you need to take a step back, let her dream, and focus on what’s right for her right now. If she’s having anxiety issues over it, then you need to take steps to help her address that. But figuring out how to get into medical school is just way premature at this point.
BelleRose
“Pre-med” is only a major at a few schools, but most people say it, because it’s easier than saying “I’m a biology major on the pre-med track.” As long as you take the pre-requisite science/etc classes, you can do any major to get in to med school. Statistically, a humanities major is more likely to get in to med school than a science major, and the major with the LOWEST acceptance rate to med school is pre-health!
Lots to Learn
OP again: I should have been more clear. What she is worried about is not so much getting into med school, but telling her “story” for college. Some kids have the story that they are an amazing cellist or that they help refugee kids. Her “story” is that she is passionate about medicine and has been pursuing that through her extracurriculars. But we didn’t want that story to be undermined by a transcript that shows just regular math. From all the responses, it sounds like we may be overthinking it. But FYI, I have heard from our college admissions counselors that most selective schools will look askance at someone who has a STEM story, but hasn’t taken calculus. So she is planning to take AB Calculus senior year, if at all possible.
BelleRose
If you want her to take an AP math class, consider if her school has AP Stats. It’s not as “mathy” as other math classes, but will look just as good for a STEM story, especially one focused on research/medicine.
BelleRose
Also, if she wants to tell the medicine story with her ECs, she’ll need to show clinical experience: a medical mission, EMT, shadowing. Otherwise, it can look very naive to be talking about how much she wants to be a doctor but not having any experience in what a doctor does.
Alanna of Trebond
So, this is harsh, but taking AB Calculus senior year is like remedial math for someone who is supposed to have a STEM story for college, especially from an elite private high school. At least take BC Calculus. Hopefully, she is also taking all the relevant AP science courses – Physics, Chemistry, Biology.
Thinking further ahead, it is easier to get into a good medical school from a lower-ranked undergrad. So that could be a strategy as well.
Anonymous
+1 for strategically considering ranking and difficulty. Going to the top ranked undergrad that has a reputation for grading hard is going to make getting into grad/profressional school a bit more challenging.
Nerfmobile
Hordes of excellent doctors did undergrad work at their state universities. Nothing wrong with aiming for more selective schools, but an undergrad degree from any reputable college can be sufficient preparation for med school. So it might be a good idea to start talking now about looking for the ‘right fit’ for college, and not just focusing on the Ivies/Stanford/MIT/etc.
Anon
Whoa okay, you shouldn’t really be thinking about her college application essay now. I don’t care if everyone else is, but it’s not helpful. It’s especially unhelpful if you are planning her coursework around it.
If your kid does not have a truly special life story, the goal of the college application essay is competence. It should show that she is a competent writer, thoughtful, and has some vague idea of why she’s doing what she’s doing.
I will echo the posters above and point out that she might be better off killing it at a good but not HYPMS type school. A kid who leaves a solid, respectable college with a sky-high GPA, loads of professor recommendations, and a very solid MCAT score is better positioned for medical school than a kid who was the tiniest fish in an ocean.
Anonymous
Wait, it’s actually a disorder now to have “low processing speed”? Are we serious?
anon
That’s really dismissive and unkind. Yes, low processing speed is a legitimate learning disorder.
Anon
I agree the tone above is unnecessarily dismissive. But to be honest, I don’t understand the difference between this disorder and just not slower at learning math. What is it that makes this a learning disorder? Not trying to be snarky, just generally curious.
Anonymous
I hear you. I wondered about that too. I certainly knew many very very smart kids in high school and college that didn’t click as well with math. And clearly it comes easy to some people. What qualifies as a learning disorder these days is unclear to me.
Maybe the OP can clarify… Does your daughter have a medical diagnosis that qualifies her for special accommodation? Or just requires a lot more study to keep up with math, and possibly needs tutoring? If she is doing so well in regular math, I can’t imagine this qualifies as a disability.
I agree with another poster that if her school offers AP stats that would be MUCH more valuable,very relevant to medicine, and under make her more memorable than another AB or BC calculus.
Anonymous
I agree here. Extrapolating from this, up to 90% of my high school class had a learning disorder.
Btw – it does not matter at all if she takes calculus in high school. I know a ton of humanities majors who went to MED school and are wonderful doctors who hate math. Colleges will not deny her for admission for not taking calculus. Medical school requires college calculus. COLLEGE. Not high school calculus.
But if she does take high school calculus and gets a B- or C, then that will jump out to everyone who reviews her transcript.
And she should not focus her college applications on only wanting to be a doctor. That will only hurt her as she will not have had sufficient life experience to determine that, and colleges know that most don’t make it. It is much more important to be well rounded, unless you are doing high level medical research/winning Westinghouse/volunteering with Doctors Without Borders.
Anon
What makes it a disorder as opposed to just someone who learns slower? Is it just whether parents push to have the kid labeled?
Anon
I did not go to med school. I was a biology (pre-med) major at a big state university. I am now a patent attorney. The single best thing I did when I was considering schools and possible grad programs was talk to admissions counselors. If I were you, I’d pick an admissions office of a med school near to me and go have a frank discussion with them (without your daughter now and maybe with her in a few years).
I do not think getting into a pre-med program is competitive unless the college itself is competitive. What is competitive is getting into med school. In a few years, I’d find a couple target med schools and talk to them about your daughter’s goals and what undergrad program they recommend. At my state’s primary med school, the college that has the highest success rate for applicants is a small private college. That is probably a setting where your daughter would get the support she needs to do well enough in math. Talk to admissions – they are a wealth of helpful knowledge.
Also, this “low processing speed” and good grades, etc. is the type of material med schools eat up in admissions essays and interviews. That along with good grades, an extra-curricular leadership experience, and a solid history of volunteer work would make a great application.
PatsyStone
I think let her take the honors class if you/her have funds and time to hire a well-regarded tutor. This really does sound stressful, so I would make a tutor part of the bargain. In HS I was right on the line for taking the “upper” math classes, and that was great until I managed to actually fail calculus senior year! It was way too much for me. But that was a decent way for me to realize on my own. that any STEM field my not be right for my individual skill set FWIW.
I have no insight into how this choice would affect undergraduate admissions at a really competitive school.
anon
I would not have her go into the honors math class. If she’s struggling to keep up, that’s going to affect her ability to perform well in other classes, not to mention her self-esteem in general. I can’t speak to how colleges would view that choice, but just keep in mind that a highly competitive, prestigious college is not the only path to medical school.
Anon
Have another response caught in mod. I think she should take honors math. No med school is going to care how she did in HS in math. What matters are her college grades/MCAT scores/leadership/volunteer experiences. If she truly struggles with math, you’d really rather have her take AP calculus in HS. Not necessarily to get out of it in college but to learn the concepts in a more supportive environment before she takes calculus in college. Essentially she’d be retaking calculus in college, and that grade will matter more than what she does in HS. Getting into “pre-med” is not competitive unless the actual college is competitive to get into overall. So unless she’s looking at ultra competitive undergrad programs generally, one or two grades aren’t going to matter. And this would be a great opportunity to teach her balance. Getting a few Bs to not burn out is a good lesson.
Anon
Encourage your daughter, but if at all possible, make your decision based on the teacher. Ask around, particularly to parents of older kids, who the best math teachers are. I’m sorry to say that there are a lot of really terrible math teachers out there and over time, they usually get stuck with the lower classes.
However, an exception is a new math teacher. A bright, young, enthusiastic math teacher that can really inspire kids sometimes gets the lower math classes to start with, because the more tenured teachers want the “easier” students (behaviorally easier).
Find out the situation at your daughters school if at all possible, and put your daughter wherever the best teacher happens to be teaching. That will make more difference than whether it’s regular or honors math.
(Source: former math teacher, current math professional, mother of high school junior and freshman)
MSec show
I have to comment to say I am loving the Netflix show Madam Secretary! I find myself really admiring the woman’s style and personality. She is a mom of 3 and handling really thorny international relations (even war!) at work along with sometimes nasty coworkers and it has been educational to me to see how she maintains her cool.
In one episode, her daughter is melting down and having a crisis, her boss second guesses her, a male colleague (Sec of Defense) tells her to her face she’s incompetent and that is why he was brought in. After that, she is at home and picks up a binder from work to read in bed, and has an insightful solution arising out of that. I know it’s fiction but I love the message coming out of it – not just luck but it’s hard work that matters in the end. Just putting in the hours and separating one’s emotional life and being able to intellectually problem solve with a clear mind despite everything. She doesn’t raise her voice with her kids either, just drops it into a worried frowny one when needed. A good example for this poster who was ashamed about yelling at her three year old during the morning rush all day yesterday.
Saguaro
I just started watching this yesterday (just the first episode), and really liked it, but after your comment now I am really looking forward to seeing the rest!
Hermione Granger
I love this show. It is so real and I love her and her style and the characters.
busybee
Anyone have any tricks for removing a splinter? I went to Ann Taylor today to celebrate a long weekend. Had to get a different pair of pants and just walked in my socks the ten feet to the table. On my way back I got the biggest splinter I’ve ever seen in my life. About half of it is still wedged about half an inch into the ball of my foot.
I’ve tried soaking it and tweezing it out but no luck and it hurts like a devil. Trying to avoid having to spend the rest of the day at Urgent Care, and really want to get my weekend runs in.
Anonymous
I am not a medical professional in any way, shape, or form, but the last time I had a splinter in the bottom of my foot I tried every single DIY online solution. I finally had to resort to a sterilized safety pin to dig it out.
Anonymous
+1
Just light a match to sterilize the tip of a safety pin and dig it out. Wear reading glasses if you need them. If you can’t do it, invite a friend or relative over to do it. Wash well with soap, and bandaid. Treat them to a Friday night pizza and beer.
Do not go to urgent care for this. Seriously. This is a life skill you can achieve.
Anon
If you’re going to go the digging route (and I don’t disagree you might have to) yes, sterilize the pin, but more importantly sterilize your skin as best as you can before you dig in. And then clean the wound you’ve made carefully too.
Any infection isn’t going to come from something that was already on the pin. It would be from something on your skin, like the staph we all carry around.
Anonymous
Have you tried drawing salve? I don’t know that it will help that quickly unfortunately, urgent care may be the quickest overall bet.
Marshmallow
This is a luxury that comes with having good health coverage, but I’d go to urgent care rather than dig at it myself if it’s not coming out after soaking and tweezing.
Anonymous
I would go to urgent care – if you do this badly it could get infected and that would be way worse. Sorry!
Ugh
My annual HSA contribution limit is X. I wanted to frontload my contributions because of some big medical bills so I told my employer I wanted to contribute X/2 in each of January and February and nothing for the rest of the year (this is allowed and I’ve done it before). They did that for those months but I just got my March paycheck and they took X/2 from my paycheck again in March. Now my bank account is decimated (I was expecting vastly reduced paychecks for Jan/Feb but counting on a full paycheck in March) and I’ve way overcontributed to my HSA and have to figure out on my own how to reverse it since no one in benefits or payroll knows what to do. I work for a big organization and I don’t understand how our HR can be so incompetent! What an obnoxious start to the weekend.
Mpls
Don’t try to reverse it thru HR. Transfer the cash from your HSA account back to your checking account. You’ll have to account for the transfer back for tax purposes when you file taxes next year, but that’s fine. AFAIK there isn’t a penalty for spending HSA money on non-qualified expenses – you just have to pay regular income tax. And if you have over-contributed (gone over the yearly max set by IRS), you’ll have to correct the error anyway.
Just be sure you have cancelled the deduction going forward.
Anonymous
+1
Anonymous
I also suggest going into your HR/benefits portal (if you are able to adjust your HSA contribution amount yourself) and re-enter zero going forward. Hopefully even if incompetent HR doesn’t catch it the computer system will fix it anyways. I deal with big corporate HR payroll and benefit screwups in my every day job – the easiest solution is the DIY solution suggested above. I also recommend padding your checking account for next payroll cycle just in case they screw it up again.
Curious
For those that live in DC and know the area where Pruitt rented his $50 per night “room” within a ?two bedroom apartment that had space for his daughter, how off is the financial benefit here….say compare with an AirB&B for that area?
Obviously the optics are bad, but maybe the numbers are not crazy off?
Anonymous
WaPo had avg Airbnb per night rentals in Capitol Hill around $142. It’s grossly under the going rate any way you slice it and a clear favor from the lobbyist via his wife.
Anony
Yeah, the numbers are way WAY off. poster above is correct that a room is ~150/ night. IF you can get one. Additionally, renting a 1BR around there is ~3500+ a month, and a 2B, IF you can even find one, is ~4500-6500. So yeah, this is really really crooked.
Happy Anon
I need somewhere to talk about my super secret happy things. I graduated school two years ago and have been working in admin ever since to pay the bills while taking some contracts in my industry. I’ve been applying to a very competitive job for years and one of the applications I put in a few years ago just panned out into a job offer. My current boss will be mad, but I was always up front that admin was a stop gap and he hired me anyways. I’m just thrilled not to be in a degrading job any more. Plus I get to make pretty good money and do something meaningful and use my degree. Plus I feel like a bad*ss for getting one of the most competitive jobs in my field. I’m just so happy. Good things don’t really happen to me. It’s such bizarre and fantastic luck I could almost cry.
Anon
So happy for you!
Calico
Congratulations! Ever heard the saying “The harder I work, the luckier I get?” Enjoy your success!
Anonymous
Has anyone told you lately…… You are the BEST!
You go girl.