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Thoughts?
A quandary to crowdsource:
My sister and I recently discovered that our teen-age niece (she is 17) is involved with a considerably older man (he is divorced and she has babysat his elementary aged children). My sister tried to talk to her about it and got nowhere. I called after that and essentially was told that everything is fine and I am making too much of it. I did get an assurance that she is being careful and using good BC.
Where they live this relationship is completely legal. My sister thinks we should tell our brother or his wife. I think we should leave it alone. Niece gets good grades, stays out of trouble, and is leaving for college next year (and I know she is really planning on leaving because I have been helping her with her applications and we discussed those during our call). If my brother finds out he will 100% flip and I don’t see that ending well.
Thoughts?
Anonymous
If it were my child, I would want to know. Tell your brother. At 17 I might have thought it was cool to be with an older guy but I 100% did not have capacity to be in a relationship like that. My concern would not just be about BC but also about consent, especially if he is asking/pressuring her to do things because she owes him/’that’s what adults in relationships do’.
RR
I’d tell your brother. She’s a minor in a situation that has signs of being potentially dangerous. Unless you think your brother would be abusive in some way (which I don’t get from your post), then I would tell him. He’s her parent.
Anon
It sounds like she is just starting her senior year of high school and has another year living at home. That is so far from appropriate, and I think her parents have a right to know. I would tell. For full disclosure, if she had already graduated and was starting college now, my answer may be different.
Anon
Also, what is wrong with this guy?! If he has elementary school aged kids, your niece has got to be closer in age to the kids then she is to this guy. What type of adult thinks that is appropriate?
Lana Del Raygun
a pervert, that’s what kind
Anonymous
+1 The type of guy who thinks this is okay, is exactly the type of guy you don’t want your niece mixed up with.
Abby
This is tough. I think I would tell your brother but it will damage your relationship with your niece. Is there any way you could phrase your concern to her in a different way so she might end it?
For instance, I grew up in a very conservative home where my immigrant parents didn’t think I should date before I was 20 so naturally I had a secret boyfriend. My brothers knew, and one asked me if I thought I could really see myself marrying him, and if so, then my parents would understand and I should tell them. That got me thinking, and we broke up. Not that all relationships needs to end in marriage, but if you ask her where she sees their future – does she want to be a step mom to children 10 years younger than her? I think if my brothers told my parents, I would’ve flipped and doubled down on the already secret relationship. But because they made me think about my reasoning, I ended it on my own. Not sure if this is helpful
Abby
Ugh thinking more about this I think you have to just tell your brother. This Kate Hudson movie, Raising Helen, she’s like the cool aunt, who her niece shows her new fake ID to, and she high fives her. Then she becomes the guardian and cracks down, because it’s her responsibility as an adult.
Beans
Definitely tell. This is unusual and the fact that she babysat his kids is really gross. If my sibling knew this about my child and did not share it with me, I would be livid.
Katy
This.
Senior Attorney
Yes. This is far beyond the pale and the parents need to know.
And I think this is a very bad scene for the guy’s kids, too.
anon
I would tell your brother.
Anon
As a parent (of a much younger child), I think your brother has a right to know and I’m not sure I’d ever be able to forgive my sister if she knew something like this and didn’t tell me.
Anon
Agreed.
Anonymous
This is where I stand: my loyalty would be to the grownup in charge of the minor (who would see it as unforgiveable likely) vs the minor (who would potentially forgive you in a decade or two).
Anonymous
Tell your brother
Anon
I do think your niece’s parents should know, but also, your niece should know that you are not comfortable keeping this secret and that you plan on telling them. I think the most damaging for your relationship with your niece would be for her to think that you aren’t going to tell and then feel betrayed when you do. after all, it is a legal relationship, so think about what your main concerns are- and address those- not so much for her to end the relationship, but to make sure she feels supported no matter what the outcome.
Anon
I agree with this approach. You can even talk to her about telling her dad herself, maybe with you there in case she’s worried that he will be angry with her.
Anonymous
I agree with this (and: TELL DAD)
Also: the concern that she reassured you about is that she is using BC; it is a bit telling that she sees that as the risk; not that she is being preyed upon, that she is being used by a skeevy guy, that if you have to hide a relationship it could be b/c it is not a good relationship, etc., etc. Getting pregnant is a big thing that can go wrong, but this sort of relationship can have a long tail that effs you in the head for a long time (I had a friend in this position — I think I took the path of “I love you and am so worried for you, but tell your parents or I will” because he was also getting her drunk; she hated me and told me she broke it off but she was in a tailspin for a while and the family moved and put her in a new school to help her cope)
In my state, a minor can consent only with someone who is not more than 4 years older (so: 16 + 20 is OK, 16 + 35 is not OK).
Anonymous
+1
Also not sure what you think of as ‘good BC’ but hormonal BC has a failure rate and doesn’t protect against STDs. And condoms don’t protect against all STDs.
Anonymous
I agree with this also. Give her some control in telling her parents. But I will also say I was in a relationship with an older man when I was a teenager (he was in his 20’s and did not have children, so not exactly the same.) But my parents found out and were livid and forbid me from seeing him. I continued to see him almost more as an act of rebellion than because I loved him. I think the relationship would have faded on its own. but it lasted a lot longer and I engaged in riskier behavior almost out of spite. (I am not proud of this and there was a lot going on in my home and family life at the time, but I think it is a concern to be aware of in these types of situations. It probably would have ended it faster if my parents had said “sure invite him over for dinner” because that would have been mortifying to my teenage self.)
Anon
I agree with the approach of telling her that you’re not comfortable keeping the secret and working out with her how her parents will be told promptly. Assuming her parents are competent and not abusive, she needs their guidance. I agree with others that this situation sounds predatory, regardless of the technical legalities.
vanilla
I agree with this. If you aren’t comfortable keeping this a secret, go to your niece first and give her the option to tell, knowing that you will if she won’t.
For those surprised about the legality, there are a lot of variations over the 50 states. Some states have age of consent as 16 or 18, period. Others are 16 (or 18), but close-in-age exceptions exist for people younger than 16 (or 18). Sometimes those younger than 16/18 close-in-age exceptions have a bottom age cut off, sometimes they don’t. Other states have some variation of these, and for prohibited activity, close-in-age relationships are considered lower lever crimes than where the age distance is greater. A lot of differences exist state by state.
Anon
So your just starting senior in HS niece is involved with a middle aged man and you think that not telling the parent is an option? I’d be incensed if I found out you knew. Just because a relationship is technically legal doesn’t mean that it is in any way okay. Your niece is literally still a minor. She is fully under the guardianship of her parents. She is not an adult. Repeat, she is not an adult. If her parents died tomorrow the state would take her away into a home. That is not someone who is able to consent to a relationship with a middle aged man.
I’m especially concerned that she is sleeping with someone who hired her into his home. This is super predatory. Her parents probably know this man as she is working for him. Your judgment is so questionable right now that you even deigned to think not to say anything, please tell your sibling, as he might be able to make a rational decision more than you.
Anonymous
This. This exactly.
Anonymous
Surprised this is legal. I thought most laws had an age qualification. Like can consent at 16 but 16-18 only if age difference is less than 5 years or whatever. Fully legal at 18.
Anonymous
Yeah…in my state, anyone over 18 who gets involved with someone under 18 could technically be prosecuted for it. Law enforcement here doesn’t use the law to prosecute 18-year-olds dating 16-year-olds but they sure as heck would use it to prosecute a 34-year-old (for example) sleeping with a 17-year-old.
OP, I was involved with an older guy (like 7 years older than me, he wasn’t married and didn’t have kids) when I was in high school. It was not a healthy relationship and someone should have intervened, at least to help me understand why he was attracted to me (I was young and malleable with very damaged self-esteem and thus, easy to manipulate and abuse. He also was super-immature and had damage of his own and so couldn’t relate to women his own age, who had expectations that he would, you know, hold down a job, not drink himself into blackouts every night, etc.). I was way too young to be involved in a serious relationship with an older man and I do feel like it harmed me in some ways. An older man with a job and a family is going to know way more than a 17-year-old high school student about manipulation and is almost assuredly not interested in your niece for any kind of benevolent reason. Your brother and his wife may not be able to get your niece to stop seeing the guy but them talking to her about healthy relationships with good boundaries is so, so important. I would tell your brother.
Anonymous
In my state the age of consent is 16. So this would be legal.
Anon in Washington
I was coming in to say that yes – I am a little surprised by the volume of people who think this must be illegal. The age of consent is 16 or 17 in a LOT of states and that applies regardless of the age of the adult involved (although a lot of them have exceptions for teachers). It is 16 in my state and the number of teenage girls in my high school sleeping with considerably older men was not small – and there was basically nothing their parents could do except monitor them 24/7 unless the guy was a teacher or coach.
anon
I think you have to tell her parents becuase they have the best ability to protect her from this predator. Relationships within your family are important, but they will carry on for better or worse into tomorrw.
Today, a not-adult girl is at risk from a grown man who is, at best, making choices that are not in her best interest. And she is at risk of so much worse. This boyfriend is not a good man, and she needs to be protected from him.
nuqotw
I think you have to make sure her parents know. If everything is on the up and up, why is this guy not telling her parents himself? That alone is a sign of danger.
Unless your brother / sil would harm your niece, kick her out, or something, I think you have to make sure they find out.
But, I also think you might not have to be the ones to break the news! I think you and your sister can give your niece a chance to handle it on her own. Can you say (together) to the niece something like “We’ve thought about this and it’s just not something we can know without your parents also knowing. Dude may be a decent guy, but age gaps like this are so often significantly inappropriate, and that we feel your parents need to know. We are sure this is a disappointing message but we can’t keep this secret for you. You need to tell your parents tonight. We are going to talk with them tomorrow.”
Or if you are local can you offer to be present for the conversation as well?
Trixie
I suggest having a calm conversation with your niece that includes appropriate and inappropriate relationships. People periodically find themselves in, or think about entering, an inappropriate relationship. For example, a married person. If this is an appropriate relationship, then she should be comfortable telling her parents and inviting this man and his children over to the house for ice cream or similar. If it is inappropriate, and she is not comfortable with this, she should think about why, and you believe that this is not an appropriate, in her best interests, relationship. You can tell her that she has to talk to her parents about this, and give her a few days, or tell her that you (or you and she) will tell them. And, I would be sorely tempted to knock on this guy’s door and read him the riot act.
Anonymous
Re the last sentence: 100% with you there
Senior Attorney
Oh, man, yeah. For reals.
ToS
This. Let her consider practicing the skills of an emerging adult. Give her the chance, then check in with your sibling.
Thoughts
Thanks everyone. It seems the consensus is universal. My brother would never be abusive (ever!). I am more concerned about what he will be able to do vs. what he will try to do; the age of consent in my state is 16 (and the age of the other person is irrelevant which is shockingly common). I am mostly concerned that I am going to damage my relationship with her and her relationship with her parents and not accomplish much, especially since she will be 18 in four months.
And she (of course) thinks she is so grown up and able to take care of herself. She seems to think that because he is not married and they never do anything with his kids in the house, they are not doing anything wrong. Basically she said that nobody would think it was weird if she was having s*x with a guy her own age and that this guy is much nicer to her than her friends’ boyfriends are to them.
It sounds like I have a couple of really painful conversations coming up this weekend. I appreciate the input.
Anonymous
I would challenge her on why she is afraid to tell anyone if he treats her so well.
Thoughts?
According to her because her sex life is none of their business. “I bet you don’t tell Grandpa about every ‘friend with benefits’ you have.” Which was followed by “oh my God, it’s just s*x. Why are you obsessed?” Then she said she was done discussing this and hung up on me. And now she is either ignoring me or blocking me.
Tomorrow is going to be fun.
Anonymous
OP, I just want to say – you are doing the right thing and over the long term, your niece will come to understand that.
I’m one of the posters who myself was in a relationship with an older guy in my teens. One of my friends’ moms actually did call my mom about it. My parents were naive and also kind of checked-out and my mom told me about the call but didn’t do much to talk to me about, what are you really getting out of this relationship; let’s look at this guy’s behavior and ask if this really is “a good guy,” etc. I was from a family where for women, worth was determined by your attractiveness and there was also a philosophy of “any man is better than no man,” and my mom had been steeped in that from birth, so the pathology there prevented any kind of meaningful conversation about my own worth and why this loser guy didn’t deserve my attention. The person in the thread who said that her age-imbalanced relationship didn’t teach her about good relationship dynamics – I completely agree. When there’s a big age spread and huge differences in life experience, the power dynamic is going to be mismatched. I didn’t really learn what it was like to be an equal in a relationship with someone until I broke up with the older guy when I went to college. Because he always held it over me that he was more experienced, more mature, knew what he was talking about better than I did, etc. He had to do that because he was insecure and the only way he could be in a relationship was to somehow always have the upper hand with someone who would buy into the idea she was inferior. He was also pretty skilled at emotionally abusing me to the point that I became dependent on the relationship for self-worth and identity, and it took a long, LONG time (and a couple instances of physical abuse) to get over that. BTW, he ended up drinking himself to death at age 41 and apparently after I left him (he was in his late 20s at that point) he kept pursuing young girls as he sank further and further into alcoholism.
I am sure your niece is probably thinking along the lines of the Woody Allen “the heart wants what it wants” thing, or possibly that sometimes things are just meant to be and who are other people to judge if she and this guy are soul mates? (I remember thinking that a lot.) but bottom line: there is something wrong with a 34-year-old guy who will sleep with his childrens’ teenage babysitter. She may not see it and you may not know what it is, but there’s something very wrong here and chances are pretty good she will end up being harmed by whatever his issue is.
All of this is a long-winded way of saying: I know this is hard, but you are doing the right thing. I can see how much your niece means to you and I wish I could make this conversation easier for you. All I can say is that in the long run, everyone will be grateful to you for speaking up.
Senior Attorney
I’m late seeing this but I want to say I agree with this. When I was in my early 20s I was involved with a man who was 27 years my senior (!) and my parents didn’t bat an eye. In retrospect I think they were remiss in not at least gently making some inquiries about why I thought this was a healthy relationship.
anon
Take comfort– your relationship might suffer some strain now, but even if it does, I bet that your niece will be very grateful when she’s older. With the perspective of age and benefit of 20-20 hindsight, she will eventually understand that you did the right thing by her.
Anon
I agree. She’s won’t be happy now but 20 years from now she will know you did the right thing. She’s being used and preyed upon.
Anon
I think encouraging her to have him over for dinner woth the family is such a great idea. If he won’t agree or she is uncomfortable, shows her everything she needs to know without it coming from the mouth of a grownup in her life – this isn’t a sweet dating relationship, it’s an old dude secretly sleeping with a teenager
Anonymous
OK, does this guy take her out for dinner, do they go to the movies together, go to the pumpkin patch with his kids, blah blah? If he’s not treating her like a real girlfriend, etc, then she needs to understand that a relationship that is “just s%x” is just that. HE. IS. NOT. HER. BOYFRIEND. He is just using her for s%x. And if she says that she is just using him for that too, then that is a sign that she’s not healthy in the self-esteem area. IMO, 17 is a little young for “friends with benefits”. What kind of future relationships will she have if she thinks it’s OK to be a “secret” girlfriend?
At 17, I remember being so proud, and flattered, when an older guy took interest in me. And yes, I remember being confused about some of the things he wanted, and feeling a bit weird about some of the things we did but I didn’t want him to break up with me, because, he was an older guy and it was so amazing he’d want to be with me! Now, of course, cringe/yuck. But I do think I would have listened if someone I trusted clued me in to some of the red flags in the relationship. I say this as a parent of a 15 year old girl that rolls her eyes if I even suggest benign things like maybe you should do your laundry on Sunday night before school, but maybe at 17, your niece is a tiny bit more mature.
Double-Bingo
I am way way late to this thread, but in case you’re subscribed/checking back, there is an essay on Scarleteen that addresses the issue of teen girls dating older men, which you may find helpful in talking with your niece about why this relationship may not be as benign as she believes: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/why_i_deeply_dislike_your_older_boyfriend
I agree with the consensus that you should talk to your niece again, but then tell her parents.
ToS
This will really mess with your niece’s head long term. For healthy relationship dynamics, there are scraps, at best, for her. She is getting used, even if she is enjoying the ride, she’s missing out on other enjoyments, and flat-out developing good relationship skills. She feels like she’s reaching up, but chances are, the guy treats her as far, far less than a peer. It’s a flavor of gaslighting if he won’t be a peer to her, including showing up for the relationship he is participating in.
There might be the real chance that she is fictionalizing this, representing this as more than it is.
Help your niece find herself as an adult, not by flinging herself beyond her age-mates, but understanding that all of this adolescence is her time to enjoy, not to play with the ticking bomb of an affair.
Turnbacktime
Someone mentioned above…
Help her understand what she is getting from this relationship that she needs/craves. Bet it’s more than sex. Probably a professional to help her rationally think about this relationship… someone to help her understand. I was with someone older once and a lot of what is written here is true. How about you invite your niece and the guy over to your place for dinner?
Anon
She is a minor. She is of an age where her brain is not fully formed. She needs help. She’s a high school student “dating” a man with children! This is terrible! It is sexual abuse. You should be helping her. Absolutely tell her father. My god, what are you thinking?
Lilac
This is predatory AF. As someone who has (shamefully) been the child in this situation multiple times, I’d recommend you take her out to lunch and ask her the hard questions. After that lunch tell her dad.
Anon
There’s nothing shameful on the child’s part about being preyed on, just wanted to remind you of that. <3
Anonymous
TELL THE PARENTS!!!!
If it’s no big deal, then it should not be a secret. Secrets when it comes to sexual relationships is how grooming and abuse starts.
No question this old geezer is a creep. He should have been the first one to talk to the parents!!!
Chris
Just weigh out the 2 worst case scenarios. 1 – you tell her dad, he flips and she hates you for the rest of her life… vs 2 – you don’t tell, it turns out to be a horrible, abusive relationship, her dad eventually finds out, breaks off all ties with you for keeping this from him… There would be no doubt in my head which scenario I’d pick.
Monday
I’m tired of buying lint rollers. Is there any item that works as well and doesn’t rely on paper? Especially targeting cat hair. Thanks.
cat socks
I have the ChomChom Roller for flat surfaces like chairs, couches, etc. I use the Evercare Magic Lint Remover brush for clothing. I keep one on my car and my desk at work. It works pretty well, but with 5 cats I’ve given up on ever being cat hair free.
Anon
I use a lint brush.
Miss
Clothes and furniture that match your pet? This is only slightly tongue in cheek. I have a roomba and dark furniture for my black lab. I’d be going through a lint roller a week if I tried to get it off my clothes. I’ve read that a wet dishwashing glove will work for brushing off pet hair, but haven’t tried it.
Prevention may be your best bet. My parents put covers down in the places their cat slept so they could remove it when a person sat there. I have blankets on my couch because my dog naps there during the day. I don’t worry about it for my clothes, but take it off when I have guests.
Stressed
I’m having an extremely high anxiety day and cannot focus at work. This has been the case for a few hours now. This rarely, if ever, happens.
I work at a large startup and my boss
and a large part of my team is working from
Home today. There are no meetings or anything today. It’s an open plan office, so I don’t have much privacy.
Any tips? I could probably say I’m sick and go home, but that’s hella fishy before a long weekend
Anon
OMG go home. Nobody will care.
Anonymous
This. If you need a ‘reason’ then say you’re going to WFH for the rest of the day to beat the traffic. Go home, send a few emails and enjoy your weekend.
Senior Attorney
There was a nicer way to say this, but yeah. Go home and take good care of yourself!
Clara
Thanks for the Boston walking suggestions yesterday – around the MIT campus sounds convenient and about what I was looking for!
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I have a $50 gift card to H&M. What should I buy there? How are the quality of their clothes? I haven’t shopped there in years.
Anon
It’s fast fashion. I wouldn’t peg anything there as “quality”. Buy something trendy that you only expect to use for a season or two.
Go for it
Just bought a ribbed Turtleneck to replace one I’ve had for ages~ it’s nicely made.
in addition I bought a V-neck blouse that I really like. Together under 50.
I also love their scoopneck short sleeve tops
a nice level of scoop neck and they’re fitted (fyi – I have to size up in H&M because they are cut for tiny people)
and I’m not huge but I’m not tiny
trefoil
Read the new sizing charts! I used to size up (especially in woven fabrics) and when my last order arrived, everything was enormous and had to go back.
Anonymous
If you have kids, they have really cute stuff for kiddos. I get less there for me than my daughter (3.5). That’s mostly because I find their adult women’s sizing to be wildly inconsistent and don’t have one nearby. The kids stuff runs big but is consistent.
Anonnona
I’m loving some of their looks online, but in my experience, quality is highly variable between items. Your best bet would probably be to go to a store and look around. It’s definitely not high end, but I have some decent things that I wear pretty regularly, including a couple of sweaters and dresses.
Anon
Their linen bedlinen is nice, if you like 100 % linen. I’ve heard good things about the makeup – and they have ordinary brands (in my country also The Ordinary, heheh) in the cosmetics sections. As for clothes, they have some eco cotton lines, and also some more upmarket lines (100 % silk, 100 % wool), so you don’t have to go for the fast fashion-most items. I quite like their nightwear, too.
Kids thermos
I’m looking for a thermos that will keep pasta warm (or even hot), to put in my son’s lunch box. Nothing too huge, since he doesn’t eat a lot and this has to fit into a lunch box. Must be dishwasher safe. Suggestions?
Irish Midori
My kids have this one: https://www.target.com/p/thermos-minecraft-10oz-funtainer-food-jar-green/-/A-53241417 and a batman one like it. They come in solid colors too. I don’t know if it says you can put it in the dishwasher, but I do with no problems.
Thermos for kids
I’m looking for a thermos that will keep pasta warm (or even hot), to put in my son’s lunch box. Nothing too huge, since he doesn’t eat a lot and this has to fit into a lunch box. Must be dishwasher safe. Suggestions?
Unsub
I’m looking at furniture now and thing of the Joybird Holt sectional. Anyone with experience with this piece or Joybird in general?
Thanks!
Unsub
*thinking. Sorry :(
Mallory
Love my Joybird sofa (not a Holt) but it took quite a while to be manufactured and delivered, and they couldn’t give me and exact date it would be ready. If you’re ok with that, I’d say consider it.
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Gak! I have tried to save two things: which sweater shaver comes so highly recommended here; and how to search the archives so that when I can’t find which sweater shaver comes so highly recommended here, I don’t have to ask. Fail. Can anyone help with either/both?
Anonymous
I think there’s a sweater shaver “stone” that most folks like? To search, put your key words and site:thissite.com into the search engine, subbing in the name on this site (which automatically goes to moderation)
anonymouse
I don’t know what’s been highly recommended in the past, but i love the sweater comb from the Laundress (in NY if you happen to live there). The webs*te also has a sweater stone!
Sweatah Shavah
There’s one on Knitpicks dot com that Jolie Kerr of Ask A Clean Person recommends.
Anon.
I have the Conair Fabric Defuzzer – works well and has many positive reviews on AMZN.
Senior Attorney
+1
OC Queen
I am in Chicago right now for the first time with my two teenagers visiting from LA. We have already had pizza and done an boat tour. We love this city! any recommendation for a good,slightly different self guided walking tour?
Anonymous
Recommendations for a bankruptcy attorney who practices in DC? My partner (who was previously working in a highly skilled field) has been out of work for an extended period of time and we are at a point where we need to explore our options.
I’d welcome any recommendations/information/anecdotes from anybody who has been through this process. Please be kind as we are deeply embarrassed to even be considering it but my salary can no longer support us and the stress is crushing.
Lilac
I think you seek to cut as much as possible before declaring bankruptcy. Sell your house, cars etc. Move into a small inexpensive apartment, cook at home, and opt out of consumerism.
Anonymous
Thanks for the lecture, but this wasn’t my question. We have already done all these things — we don’t own a house and drive one modest car (a paid-off older Honda civic) between us, which is needed for my work. We would not be considering this if the situation was not dire.
Lilac
Alrighty then, you say partner, if you aren’t married I would look into untangling assets ASAP, other than that good luck. There are lots of services which offer free help, be nice and be humble, they are the experts.
Anon
No recommendations but I’m sorry, my grandparents went through it (after having owned a successful large business for most of their lives), and even though they were fine eventually, it was a difficult situation especially just before their retirement.
Perhaps try posting again in an early post after the holidays and you might get more answers?
All aLOne
Looking for commiseration. Long weekend and not able to have a therapy session for a while on top of being in between therapists. And dealing with a bunch of negative feelings all alone. Due to not having close friends at the moment. Had a rough morning.
AnonMom
I am about to change jobs and want to handle my mixed traditional/Roth 401k rollover responsibly (85k, 35k of that is in traditional). I am in a low tax bracket. I also have a spouse with six-figure student loans that we will likely want to refinance once payments start (but that won’t be for another 2 years). Does anyone have recommendations for this? I am open to separate accounts but noticed SoFi has a no-fee IRA and offers discounts on future student loan refinancing. Is that a solid option or is there something better I should look at?