Suit of the Week: J.Crew
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For busy working women, the suit is often the easiest outfit to throw on in the morning. In general, this feature is not about interview suits for women, which should be as classic and basic as you get — instead, this feature is about the slightly different suit that is fashionable, yet professional. Also: we just updated our big roundup for the best women's suits of 2025!
This J.Crew suit looks fabulous — it looks beige or gray from afar, but apparently is an “ivory navy herringbone” pattern up close. (It also comes in a pretty pink as well as beige.)
Whichever color suits your fancy, I love the classic cut to the trousers as well as the blazer. Gorgeous, gorgeous. There are matching shorts if that works for you (but know your office really, really well before wearing them to work!).
The suiting pieces are $66-$298, at J.Crew, and available in sizes 000-24 and 00P-12P; the pants are also available in sizes 0T-16T.
Sales of note for 4/21/25:
- Nordstrom – 5,263 new markdowns for women!
- Ann Taylor – 25% off tops & sweaters + extra 40% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50%-70% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 10% off new womenswear styles
- Brooks Brothers – Friends & Family Sale: 30% off sitewide
- The Fold – 25% off selected lines
- Eloquii – $29+ select styles + extra 40% off all sale
- Everlane – Spring sale, up to 70% off
- J.Crew – Spring Event: 40% off sitewide + extra 50% off sale styles + 50% swim & coverups
- J.Crew Factory – 40%-70% off everything + extra 70% off clearance
- Kule – Lots of sweaters up to 50% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Earth Day Sale: Take 25% off eco-conscious fabrics. Try code CORPORETTE15 for 15% off
- Madewell – Extra 30% off sale + 50% off sale jeans
- Rothy's – Final Few: Up to 50% off last chance styles; new favorites added
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – 30% off entire purchase w/Talbots card
As an Xennial, I automatically cringe at pleated trousers for women. Just me?
Gen X and I feel that pleats are used to poorly hide a tummy and often magnify it. If you get me some Philadelphia Story-type pleats, that could be different. These don’t look horribly offensive on the model (but that’s on a model).
I am 38 and have a belly. And I think I have tried at least 3800 of the “highly recommended” pleated pants to “hide a tummy” and EVVERY single one of them makes my tummy looks worse than any better. If any of you has magically found one that works the opposite way, PLEASE do tell!
Ugh yes. My mother still wears pleated pants because she thinks it hides her tummy. No mom, it just poofs out your pants to accentuate your belly. I’m
Not just you. Xennial, and I just cannot. Will not.
I am not a Xennial and I hate these with a passion. Probably from too many years wearing them, while calling attention to my tummy.
1984 baby, so I call myself an elder millennial, but same. I also deeply struggle with white sneakers and business attire, and several other current trends right now that I.will.not.subscribe.to.
I’m an elder millennial and love these!! I like that they’re a fun texture, and I think the pleat adds visual interest.
I’m midsize (14) with large hips and thighs, btw.
We are similar (in size and age) and I also really like this suit.
Me three!
Another xennial – I can do pleats in general, but not the front pressed pleat. Full length pressed front is not for me.
I’m Gen X and I love single or double pleats on trousers. Like any other garment, how good they look is dependent on how they are cut and what you choose to wear with them. Some pleated trousers will look better than others! The pair I had made from 100% tropical wool by a skilled local tailor look the best of those I own (not surprisingly).
Elder millennial, I cringe at pleats too.
I’m the Charlottesville restaurant poster from earlier. I remember going to vibrant student-focused hangouts there when I was in college (visiting friends who went there). My sense of geography is vague and most recently I just drive through on 29 and exit at the nearest 5 Guys. I will have a car and am looking for somewhere with local college town flavor, a 2025 version of the sorts of fun and cheap and fast and not-fancy places I remember. They were delightful (Baja Bean Company?), but I’m sure a lot has changed. OTOH, if there are also good places close to the Omni, I can check those out also. Will have something like 5 meals over the weekend to figure out.
The blogger KathEats is Charlottesville based and I’m pretty sure she has a local restaurant guide on her blog.
As a 30 something this comment perplexes me. I’d never willingly go to the student restaurants of my youth again. The food wasn’t complex or well made, there was a notable lack of skill in the execution (ie chopped kale with stems, vs destemmed massaged kale), and it was just overall so mediocre. The places were just great because I had friends and beer.
Agreed – especially because there are tons of tasty spots within walking distance of your hotel that I don’t think of as super student-y – Oak Hart Social, Alley Light, Tonic, Petite MarieBette, etc.
I love Tonic so much. Their outdoor space is magical.
I had high standards for what I spent money on when I was a student, so I’d happily eat at the places I chose to eat at then; I never went twice to the kind of place you’re describing. I don’t know Charlottesville though.
Yeah, resident of a (non-Charlottesville) college town here, and all the adults I know specifically avoid the student hangouts, both because the quality of food and drink is terrible and also because the atmosphere is unpleasant. Seeking out student hangouts when traveling to a college town is wild to me if you’re over the age of 25.
I live in Charlottesville and I’d never set foot on the Corner after say 7pm, but there are some legit good lunch places and a few spots that are such institutions that I’ve taken my in-laws there just for the experience, especially if you’re already ambling around the UVA grounds and enjoying all the beautiful gardens. But yeah, I would personally not be centering a trip to town around the Corner at my age.
The Omni is on one end of the walking mall in Charlottesville, and there are a lot of nice restaurants along the mall. My parents live in Cville. I am no expert on individual restaurants, but there seemed to be a number on the mall that are good, although most are probably more a bit more upscale than student-oriented.
Just wander the Corner if you want to relive your student days. I responded earlier, but the places I recommended before still stand, plus I’ll add Take it Away, Marco and Luca’s, and Bodo’s (DEF get Bodo’s regardless of where else your journey takes you, the one on Preston Avenue is the easiest to get to from the Omni).
If you end up wanting more adult options, +1 to the recs for Oakhart Social, Alley Light (great cocktail list), and MarieBette. Have heard great things about Tonic. I’ll add Public, Tilman’s, and Lampo. Some of those are more upscale than others. My favorite in-town breweries are Superfly, South Street (great bar food which is weirdly hard to find in Cville), Selvedge, and Random Row.
You did bring a tear to my eye with Baja Bean…haven’t thought about that place in forever. RIP.
I’ve heard Bodo’s is alive and well. That would be my first stop if I ever return to Charlottesville.
Ugh, struggling a bit today (just venting, don’t need advice). I had a serious pregnancy complication last year (HELLP syndrome) and some of my bloodwork is still abnormal. One result says “suggestive of malignancy” and while I think it’s very likely not, I’m just so…tired. I’m so tired of tests and abnormal results and anxiety. I’m tired of having to correct doctors’ mistakes all the time, ranging from prescribing contraindicated medications to completely missing the abnormal lab result that sent me to the hospital for HELLP in the first place (I took myself). I’m seen by some of the best doctors in my state, but the care overall doesn’t actually seem that great. Between insurance limitations and few doctors being available for another condition I have, I don’t feel like I have lots of options. It makes wading through these scary waters that much harder. On top of that, I’m at risk of a layoff any day now thanks to DOGE.
Hugs. I’m sorry.
My sense is the medicine is like the blind men and the elephant. Everyone sees a small part of the whole, no one talks to each other, handoffs are done poorly and things get missed. The promise of EMRs was to fix all this, but they didn’t. It was all just a bunch of apps that don’t talk to each other and a provider busy looking at a screen and then 2-3 people per visit quizzing you on what you had to type into the app with your thumbs.
I feel that we do emergency medicine pre-hospital care well and handoffs to the ER well also. And if you’re lucky and connect with the right provider with the right personal and professional network at the right time, then that can work. But medicine is almost too complicated and specialized to coordinate well.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I had severe pre-eclampsia in November and have also had lingering issues. I hope you can get some answers. It is so frustrating that HELLP/pre-e are not well understood/researched.
If you don’t mind sharing, what kind of issues did you have? I have an appointment with a specialist follow-up clinic soon and I’m not even sure where to begin with my own questions. Do I bring up the lingering joint pain or is that just because I’m out of shape now, for example…
I would bring it up. Years ago, I was dx’d with a rare pulmonary condition and my only symptom was a vague shortness of breath when I ran up stairs. I thought it was because I was out of shape and I never mentioned it to anyone. I don’t know if it would have made a difference in outcome but it certainly could have started the process of figuring things out earlier.
I had hypertension for a few months postpartum. Hopefully it has resolved but I haven’t been checking as diligently. I also have had some chest pain and still have random mild swelling in my fingers. I would definitely bring up joint pain, especially if that’s new postpartum. Personally, I am going to ask my PCP about meeting with a MFM who specializes in preeclampsia to assess my individual risk for having it in future pregnancies and to discuss potential long term health consequences. I am also going to have my PCP run another set of labs.
After 5 years working at home (mostly in athleisure) except for in-person court appearances where I would suit up, I’m transitioning to a hybrid role where I’ll be in the office 2-3 days a week but very rarely in court. It’s construction industry and I’ve been advised it is super casual but jeans are only allowed on Fridays. I’m at a loss of exactly what “super casual” translates to for attorneys. Slacks and blouses with flats or cute sneakers? I’m in SEUS so cardigans/sweaters are not going to be an option for most of the next 6 months or so. I need a couple of good options I can put into play in the new few weeks, hopefully without spending a fortune. Size 2-4 and built like a stick.
There’s a good probability it’s khakis and a polo shirt for men and they don’t know how to translate that to an equivalent for women. I would guess they will also frown on sneakers, even fashion sneakers, because sneakers for men are still just “casual”.
I would go with cropped pants in any comfortable non-denim fabric: seersucker, linen, ponte, etc. and pair that with espadrilles, Toms, loafers, or other flats.
Cropped pants are not an appropriate choice in many offices. In construction, they will read too close to shorts and/or not taking into account that construction is often messy, dirty, hot, etc.
I suggest a few pairs of pants in neutral colors, a few tops, and comfortable shoes. Do you know how much walking you’ll need to do, or if you’ll be in any sites? Your footwear needs to accommodate any potential fieldwork.
You can start with Old Navy, Banana Republic, etc. It may also be that you’ll find casual skirts and dresses with very comfortable shoes will also work.
I would do Anthro Colette pants, nice crewneck T-shirts from Uniqlo or Sezane blouses, and ballet flats or boat shoes (they’re back!). Then in the summer I’d do cotton poplin dresses. But that’s just my style!
I have seen so many people recommend the Anthro Colette pants! Am I just old, or do they just read as high water pants to anyone else?
They remind me of Guachos pants. An unflattering length, a skirt/pants combo, unflattering with any shoe … yes, I’m also old.
I really like them. I’m in my 30s and when I was entering the workforce cropped trousers and jeans were ubiquitous. I’m also 5’8”, so I bought the tall version of the Colettes and I think they look great with flats.
they kind of read as high water pants to me too. I don’t love the cropped ones and only buy the full length versions. they are a (casual end of) business casual staple for me.
I am in the SEUS and am at a super casual in-house job. Most of the staff wear jeans and t-shirts. Attorneys dress up a little more- -maybe “smart casual?” Men wear polos and jeans and nice tennis shoes. In the summer, I typically wear shirt dresses (cotton or linen) and nicer sandals. Today, I’m wearing a blazer, jeans, and loafer. In the winter, I wear nicer sweaters, jeans, and heeled boots or chelsea boots.
Many of the attorneys in our office just wear business casual clothes they wore to prior jobs to avoid buying new clothes for this job, so I would say anything goes so long as it’s not court attire.
I’d get some Old Navy Pixies and a couple of Banana Republic Factory Forever sweaters or the like to start and see how it goes once your there. Get some colors that would compliment whatever blazers you already have and bring that as a third piece.
Stocks are surging with this partial 90-day tariff pause news.
The cynic in me needs to know: is it “insider trading” if people in the administration or his circle knew this pause was coming and bought in the dip yesterday/Monday and now are riding the tide up? There must be some kind of back stop to prevent trading on non-public information as a government “insider”… right? I’m not sure why I haven’t thought about this before. I know there’s a lot of debate over politicians owning individual stocks for this very reason. But, man, I fully believe a lot of people made a bunch of money in the last 48 hours on this.
[The cynic in me also knows that if the answer is yes, you then have to have an admin or oversight group that are compelled enough to hold people accountable but that’s another discussion.]
Of course
No one will ever convince me that insider trading isn’t taking place on a massive scale. The sheer corruption is staggering.
I mean, I’m not in government and even I knew Trump would pause or rescind the tariffs after a few days. I think his playbook is pretty transparent at this point.
But he’s playing 4D chess and everyone else is playing checkers. Or at least that’s what I’m being told.
I laughed to my husband at how mad Trump is going to be that the NYT headline says he “backed down” in rescinding the “reciprocal” tariffs. It’s so against his brand.
But yeah, I don’t think anyone is terribly surprised that he paused them. I can not afford to deplete my emergency fund right now for Reasons, otherwise I’d have bought after the double dip.
But average people don’t know exactly when he’ll “back off,” and most people don’t have substantial assets they can afford to risk by buying when the market is plummeting. The ultra wealthy can afford to take the risk that the dip will be a free fall, or will be a dip that takes quite a while to recover from.
yea I knew to buy the dip but only had $100 to spare in my checking account at the time so i made like $7
I thought it was going to be another week or two. Womp.
If the government official had inside, non-public information, and traded on it, that is insider trading (broadly speaking). If the shares involved are traded on a public exchange, then the SEC regulates, and the enforcement branch should investigate suspicious trading patterns. Whether the current leadership at the SEC will prioritize enforcing insider trading prohibitions against administration officials is questionable, given their proclivities. I wouldn’t hold my breath, sadly.
This just is not accurate. Insider trading requires trading on knowledge *about a specific company*. Like, if I’m related to an FDA administrator who knows that a major drug application is going to be denied and that the share price would fall, I obviously can’t trade on that information. But if I’m related to an FDA administrator who knows that FDA layoffs are coming and that might theoretically slow down drug application approvals for the entire sector and that might theoretically reduce the market power of the pharma sector, it’s wayyyyy too attenuated to say that I can’t sell index funds that contain the pharma sector.
It was the same with members of Congress trading pharma and videoconferencing stock who had advanced insight into pandemic developments. People in both parties were implicated and nothing ever came of it, as far as I remember.
Yeah if they got away with it then, they’ll get away with it now.
Absolutely some people made a profit.
How often do you have days where you wonder if you should still be in your profession? I’m a lawyer, today I just feel like I’m questioning myself, like I have had to double-check everything, like I barely understand my firm’s management decisions… I had a client get mad about something last week (not the wrong legal answer, just upset at expenses), I chair our practice group but this month have had two legal questions I have had to look up from scratch… I just feel like I’m flailing this week. Is this something other people experience?
When I was a lawyer, I questioned it daily, and now that I’m not one, I question it rarely. But I just didn’t like being a lawyer! Do you?
(Also, FWIW, I think good lawyers double check everything and look up simple legal questions if they have even a tiny bit of fuzziness or doubt about the answer. You sound like a good lawyer! But sometimes you can be good at something you don’t enjoy, and that was the case for me).
This is a great point. My therapist knocked me sideways not long ago with this gem: “Maybe you’re not bad at Thing. Maybe you just don’t like it!”
Yes, sometimes. I feel like it’s a bit burnout, combined with the cynicism that can set in during mid-career when you’re no longer insulated from anything.
Yes. I’m also a lawyer and I definitely have times where I feel like this. Last week was one of them- I felt like I couldn’t get anything right. And because I hate that feeling, I was in a miserable mood overall. This week, things have generally right-sided and I feel back to being (semi) competent. I graduated law school about 15 years ago.
Some of this is just personality. You feel like if you’re not perfect, if you don’t know everything off the top of your head, you’re failing. You’re not failing. You SHOULD look things up, even if you kinda sorta know the answer but haven’t looked at it for a while. And you’ll always have difficult clients, that’s the nature of a service job.
Think of how many terrible lawyers are still perfectly successful. Even people who have ethical opinions against them. That’ll never be you. You’re fine.
I was trying on clothes over the weekend and admittedly it was dressing room lighting but I felt like a couple colors looked unexpectedly awful on me. Which reminded me, I really want to get my colors done!
BUT it’s kind of crazy expensive in my city? $300 – $375 for an hour and a half? Has anyone done this? Was it worth it?
Read through the Concept Wardrobe’s free online guides then bring a bunch of shirts into the dressing room at a department store. Once you understand the theory it’s easy to spot a pattern. I think the hardest part is neutrals. White, gray, tan, and brown have so much variation that can be hard to spot when shopping online.
+1, Thé Concept Wardrobe is really helpful
You can get online color analysis for much cheaper, like $50. Check on Etsy, there are tons of options. I had it done, found it pretty helpful.
I really think you can DIY it.
I’ve been through your same line of thinking! I was kind of shocked at the price to get it done, and it’s not worth that much to me personally.
One thing I’ve done is that I took a color that I know for sure looks really good on me, and others always compliment me when I wear it. For me, that was cobalt blue. I found out what season that color was in and then tried some colors from the same palette. This has actually worked really well for me! It wasn’t as fast as the professional thing, and I didn’t get the color book, but it has served my goals (to beef up my wardrobe with colors I love that look good on me)
I feel like Color Me Beautiful from the 1980s was not wrong then, is not wrong now.
Just DIY it with the internet’s help. You don’t need a very detailed analysis with all the sub-seasons. You just need warm/cool and high/low contrast.
It is worth knowing your colors – but I don’t think it’s worth $300. My mom was a color me beauty consultant back in the 80s.
– Grab 3-4 shirts that you LOVE wearing or always get compliments on. Grab 3-4 other items of clothing in different shades. (solid colors are easier than prints at this stage) Also ok to borrow from your friends’/spouses’ closet. Solid colors are easier.
– wear ZERO makeup. This is about your actual natural skin/eyes not made up.
– Hold the shades under your chin, for 3-10 seconds. See if you can notice any change. OK to take a photo. Then repeat. Note which ones you look better in.
– Then try this in different lighting. Try to do it outside/near a window, under overhead light, etc. I recommend 3 spots.
– Note the colors you love the most next to your face. Often colors (not shirt style/shape) that you look best in and get complimented on. Then look up a color swatch and identify your Season.
– Now you know your Season. Shop/choose accordingly. Be ready, once you know this info, to layer differently and/or want to purge your closet, lol. Also you may get frustrated – I’m a winter, if the “in colors” at the mall or online are Autumns, I sometimes skip shopping an entire season. Rather look and feel good > looking trendy but like warmed over death.
” I sometimes skip shopping an entire season. Rather look and feel good > looking trendy but like warmed over death.”
This. My closet’s really pretty limited because I’ve figured out what works on me and I only shop a couple stores (Talbots, Orvis, LL Bean, J.Jill). These stores tend to reuse their color ranges from year to year. Invariably there’s an entire season of turquoise and purple like it’s 1988 and the Charlotte Hornets just debuted. But when they do navy and kelly green? I buy everything.
Agree! I like Boden’s overall vibe, but I have to admit that the super bright primary colors do nothing for me. And Madewell’s drab neutrals are just as bad, but in the opposite direction.
I struggle to see how it’s worth it to spend the money because your clothing options are limited to what’s available in stores at a given moment. It’d be worth it to me if it expanded my options, but it can’t.
I think you can make better buying decisions if you are willing to focus on the mid to long term. I know what colours I can wear and have built a wardrobe around them. I just know that if a store is focused on warm fall colours I need to walk away. I will look like crap and the clothes will sit in my closet – money down the drain.
You just need a friend with a good sense of color. I can type pretty much anyone by looking at them in good light. Being an artist with a slight knowledge of color theory probably helps.
I had it done on fivver for $12 and it was actually really really helpful. Perhaps a $50 or $300 version would do more, but that was what I wanted to spend.
I kind of think it’s silly. Like the colors I love and gravitate towards are just so much more important than what is “right” for me. I’m never giving up on black, white, navy, olive, grey and camel for my everyday clothes so who cares if teal is more flattering except for maybe an extremely special occasion? Even then, I’m going to focus on cut, fit, fabric and style before I consider wherever this exact color is right.
I think people often gravitate towards the colours they look good in, but of course you should wear what you love!
I’ve seen Dark/deep winter palettes with all the colours you mention, though, so they’re not that inconsistent.
I mean, it kind of sounds like you have an eye that does what you need? XYZ colors look awful on me, ABC colors look good. Dress accordingly. Getting colors done sounds better for people who don’t have an eye and need a 3P to tell them what looks good or doesn’t.
What skills are you having to learn as an adult because your parents didn’t role model them well for you? What skills do you feel like you’re steps ahead on because of your parents?
I’m great with budgeting / financial matters because my mom was, and I’m terrible at hair and makeup because my mom was. Moderately good at exercise and cooking, but my mom has a really wonderful relationship with food/movement that I wish I’d inherited.
Social skills. In college I read Emily Post cover to cover to learn how to act like a human because I had hardly ever seen my parents interact socially with anyone to whom they weren’t related. I don’t think they knew how to make conversation, introduce people, shake hands, etc.
Same, I read all the books and diligently learned how to human. I still ended up getting an ASD diagnosis out of it though because these things aren’t supposed to be manual.
Same here, but I think part of that is because they never had to! We lived in a small rural town where everyone knew each other. Other than a handshake, I didn’t learn most of this stuff until college. And I still don’t feel like it’s totally natural.
this makes me wonder if we’re sisters. My mom wasn’t bad at makeup & hair, just indifferent, but either way, “beauty” not something I ever learned to do well.
We might be! Indifferent is definitely a good word for it.
Really bad at expressing frustration, because I wasn’t allowed to and my parents went overboard when they did.
mine is similar. I had to learn how to have productive disagreements with my partner. Also a bit of accountability for solving problems. My mom’s approach is to always have the last word, and to complain that people don’t fulfill somewhat unrealistic expectations she has of them. She has a lot of good things she passed on to me but those are the gaps.
It could be worse. My mom never wears makeup but instead of learning as an adult, I learned from my fellow middle-schoolers. In 1998. It was a regrettable time with lots of silver eyeshadow.
I’m the OP here, and my first eyeshadow was ice blue, girlfriend. I feel you. And the first hair tool I bought was a Wet2Straight flat iron because hey, you can get two things done at once!
Ooof the wet2straight flat iron makes me shudder
The crackles mean it’s working!
I can still hear that sound.
Interpersonal conflict. I wasn’t allowed to have any negative feelings as a child (well, my parents still hate it when I do, even as an adult).
Thinking about the different ways my husband and I are bad at money…
I’m bad at social skills. My mom was painfully shy and so am I. I wish I had picked up my father’s social graces.
I’m good at reading and analysis because of the discussions we had at family dinner.
I could have written an identical post, except I did get my mom’s healthy relationship with food and movement.
I also think they could have done a better job with social skills. It’s less that they didn’t model them (although there was some of that too) but moreso that my mom is incredibly sensitive and encouraged me to overreact every time a friend or classmate offended me and that made it hard to make and keep friends. My daughter is much less sensitive than I was, but I still try to come at her social problems from the perspective of de-escalating and helping her move on, rather than escalating and encouraging her to stew in the sadness and anger which is what my mom did for me (of course if it was something really bad, I’d empathize).
Yes, the learning from family to overreact was something I had to overcome, too, as it was interfering in making and keeping friends. Also, I had to learn how to disagree amicably — my mom is super-averse to any conflict, it really upsets her disproportionately, and she simply cannot handle it. So I never learned that it wasn’t a threat for someone to disagree vocally. I must have figured it out somewhere along the way, as I am a litigator.
What I did learn to do well from my parents was how to chat with anyone in any setting and make other companions comfortable in a social setting — cocktail party with strangers, elevator, subway station, first day at work, etc. And how to throw a dinner party.
Neither my mom nor my grandma could cook. I grew up eating canned and frozen food almost exclusively. (Remember KidCuisine with the blue box and the penguins? Yeah.) My mom knew how to cook three things if pressed. Grandma made an excellent tuna pasta salad and green salad. I’m a really good baker and a tolerably good cook because it was that or starve (and we all have incredible sweet tooths, so desserts came first ;) ).
I know all the things about home maintenance / DIY / curb appeal / flowers. Mom and Grandpa were both hardcore DIYers. I have so many memories of them sweating together working on some project.
Ohhh, I have a weird sentimental feeling toward Del Monte green beans in the can from my childhood dinners.
Memory unlocked! I also hold salty canned mushrooms in quite high regard.
We used to mix canned mushrooms with the canned green beans!
Ooh, I wish my mom had thought of that!
How to actually feel and process emotions. I was constantly told to put whatever happened behind me, move on, and “crying doesn’t solve anything.” Relatedly, the only skill to dealing with any negative feeling was to exercise it out. I was told that you couldn’t run and cry at the same time. I have disproven that more times than I can count as an adult. After much therapy, I can actually feel negative emotions without the accompanying feeling that I need to head out for a run, and I also have a healthier relationship with food and movement.
– My parents were good with money. They didn’t have much of it at all – they were poor and then working class – but they made the most of what they had, and always talked to me about it in an honest way. I’m lucky that I’m a well-paid professional, and I feel like that has played a big role in my being able to handle money well too.
– They were TERRIBLE cooks with weird food issues. I went on a whole long journey of learning to cook (and about food in general) starting at about 19.
I’ve been having a lot of weird medical symptoms, all my blood tests, urine tests, MRIs, x-rays, ultrasounds etc have been coming back ‘normal’. Against my better judgement I went down the wooo internet rabbit hole and people were saying that unbalanced gut bacteria can cause chronic inflammation and a bunch of weird symptoms. Still skeptical I went out and got some probiotics, only a WEEK later I am 80% better after being inexplicably sick for several years. I’m so disillusioned with modern medicine, I trusted doctors and they failed me. Tens of thousands of dollars and years of worry I was dying, solved for $30.
Modern methods aren’t really set up to study something with as much individual variation as the microbiome. I’m glad you’re feeling so much better! Next time you see a doctor, I hope they’ll consider testing for the kinds of conditions that might explain such a positive response to probiotics.
Even better than probiotics are prebiotics! I really love the Dr. Michael Greger books How Not to Die and How Not to Diet. They do a good job of highlighting what plants are most contributive to a healthy gut balance. (Pick the first one if you’re more concerned about diseases and the second if you’re more concerned about weight).
Funny enough I’m already a vegan but I’ve always dismissed Dr. Greger, I need to stop being judgy Mc judger pants. I’ll go get the book.
I can’t listen to any of his videos because he does this weird sing-song tone that drives me NUTS. I find him really annoying. But the books are clear and cite their sources.
I do think he vastly oversells the health risks of, e.g., fish, but since you’re already a vegan, that won’t be an issue for you!
Haha I’m a marine scientist so I uh would never eat fish. Irrespective of health impacts or ethics the industry is nasty (both farmed and wild).
Yes, I had a ton of weird physical symptoms for months after one of my babies, nearly incapacitating and definitely contributing to my PPD/PPA. I was not crunchy at all then and went to my normal doctor. The tests came back normal and the doctor said I was fine and was just having trouble getting used to being a mom.
I went to a naturopath against my better judgment. She listened carefully to my symptoms and recommended two $15 supplements (and explained why she thought they would work, even though there wasn’t the level of scientific testing behind them for e.g. pharmaceuticals).
I was so, so skeptical, but 90% of my symptoms resolved within 2 weeks.
Now I am the kind of crunchy that has and IUD and gets botox, sees a suite of allopathic doctors, AND sees a naturopath and acupuncturist on the side because there is just so much that doctors don’t know/can’t deal with.
Dr Emily Leeming. I had a similar experience and her Substack is saving me.
Guys I sold the dip, LOL.
Just a small fund, four figures, still “up” this year, and I feel more comfortable shoring up my emergency fund than stressing over the markets right now. But I hit sell this morning when the bond market started weakening and I have to laugh or I’ll cry a little.
401ks, IRAs, 529s still invested so you win some you lose some. And I’m not too mad at myself because who knows what fresh horror tomorrow will bring!
I’m impressed with your healthy attitude about this!
I’m also curious whether the person who was thinking of divesting and hoarding cash several weeks ago actually did it…?
Lesson learned.
For sure. I was a new grad in 2008 with no assets so this is kind of the first big “event” testing my mettle
You should read Bogleheads guide to investing second edition.
I did this during COVID and learned my lesson. It was too scary but I should just have left it be. Live and learn
I took liquid magnesium glycinate last night and… it really did not agree with me. I woke up through the night, was exhausted this morning, and almost threw up because of nausea. I’ve spent all day in bed and cannot seem to motivate to get up. I also am sporadically crying for reasons unknown.
I have a bad reaction to magnesium too. I get very, very dizzy and things stop feeling real – has led to a panic attack before. For me, I think it’s because I’m on a SSRI and it doesn’t react well with certain supplements.
Are you feeling better? If the symptoms don’t get better I’d consult a doctor. Hopefully lots of water and rest and you can get it out of your system.
That’s what it was like for me the first time I took melatonin! (Not even a high dose/) I woke up sweating with nightmares all night and then felt almost like I was hungover with wild surges of crying the next day. Never experienced anything like that. Never again.
Since the pandemic, the Riviera pants from Loft have been my go-to summer work pants. I am not one to get hung up on trends, but I’m not loving this style anymore. Any recommendations for summer-weight pants that are NOT wide legs? My office is business casual during the summer, for reference.