Coffee Break: Mia Pumps

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1. I got into a fight with my husband a few nights ago and he’s still upset. We both said things we didn’t mean / would never stand by (it got into stuff about both of our parents, which I really regret). I had to leave for a trip yesterday, so it’s now been 2.5 days since the argument and we haven’t really talked since (he was silent treatment when we were together and now we are both apart).

   For those who have been married longer, can you come back from a conflict where you say things you regret? We have only been married 6 months but generally have a really loving supportive relationship. We recently moved and have both been stressed for other reasons as well.

   1. I think this largely depends what type of things were said. Also there’s a big difference between saying mean things with the intent to hurt vs saying things that are the truth but you’re usually too polite to say.

   2. Was he silent treatment as in not talking to you at all or not ready to talk about the fight?

      I sometimes need longer than DH to reset and come back to have a calm conversation after a big fight but I’m not like not speaking to him in that time.

      1. Yeah, not wanting to reopen an argument is not at all the same thing as the silent treatment, and a perfectly reasonable thing to do when you have busy lives and other things going on. In your other post you said he told you needed to sleep and wasn’t ready to reengage. If he’s talking to you, that’s not the silent treatment, and I think it’s actually healthy to wait to address it when you’ve had some time to process and you’re not exhausted and stressed. Forcing a conversation in those circumstances is how you end up saying things you regret.

         1. A husband telling his wife he doesn’t want to talk and then proceeding to roll over and ‘sleep’ is silent treatment. If he had said, ‘I love you….lets talk about this in the morning. I love you’ that would not be silent treatment.

            OP, I’m sorry. I don’t think marriage should be this hard in the first six months. You are right to be concerned and questioning the health of your relationship. I would get a marriage counselor and seriously consider if this is the man you want to have children with. You will recover quickly if you divorce now. Once kids are in the picture it all changes.

            1. This is a nutty comment from beginning to end.

            2. Yeah, no. This comment is a big leap.

   3. Yes, of course. You have to own the part you played and be genuinely remorseful. And, I know people on this board really hammer down on what they call “the silent treatment,” but after a really bad fight, I do think it’s normal to need some time to cool down and process things. My DH and I have never fought much, and yet this has happened a handful of times in our 20-year marriage. One of our worst fights was about our parents, if that makes you feel any better. It was not good but it did clear the air on some things.

      1. Agree. Sometimes you need time to process thoughts, feelings, and what was said, and some people need more time than others. Only you know whether he’s doing this, or punishing you.

      2. Do you remember what the fight about your parents was? That does make me feel a lot better.

         1. After another fraught gathering with my ILs when I felt like my FIL was being overly critical about one of our kids (and our parenting), I lost it in front of DH’s parents. Very out of character for me, enough so that I called my FIL the next day to apologize. My DH was super upset with me and thought I’d behaved childishly and couldn’t believe that I’d spoken to his dad in that way. Perhaps I did, but I stand by my belief that FIL was rigid, critical, and unrealistic about what types of behavior he could expect from a young child with diagnosed ADHD. I unloaded on DH about how I was completely over being made to feel like a crappy parent every time we got together with his parents and that FIL’s attitude and unrealistic expectations were ruining his relationship with our son. If not our son, it was certainly ruining the relationship with me! FIL always maintained that it was an issue of our son not respecting him enough, and just … no.

            FIL is deceased now. I cared about him a lot, but I maintain that he was kind of a jerk who always thought he knew better than everyone. He was able to moderate it a lot better before he was retired and no longer had regular contact with the real world. I kept those thoughts in my head for a very long time.

            1. I had a similar showdown with my MIL, not about the kids but about her incessant needling about how small our house was, how run-down it was, how bad our neighborhood was, etc., etc. (It’s a perfectly typical house by LA standards in a well-gentrified area.) It was also out of character for me. I was heavily pregnant, had a toddler, and my in-laws chalked it up to stress as opposed to my narcissistic MIL jumping on my very last nerve. While I can laugh about it now, it was very fraught at the time.

               It did change things in that my MIL was a bit scared of me after the dust-up.

   4. Gottman Institute website has a lot of good stuff on how to deal with repair after a fight in a relationship and how to navigate in law stuff. Marriage requires building a skill set just like parenting or other aspects of life, particularly if your families of origin dealt with conflict in different ways.

   5. I think you can come back from it. But I also think its important to learn to communicate without saying things you don’t mean. If you regret what you said because it is true, but you would have not expressed it in that way, that is a different communication problem as well. We should be able to discuss things that may upset our partner but in a calm, respectful way, not in the middle of an argument in a way that we later regret. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and we disagree on things a lot but we rarely have “fights” and we almost never say things we later regret.

   6. You guys need to make rules for fighting. Silent treatment isn’t ok. Also not ok to say horrible things to each other. You’re early enough in your marriage you can turn this around. (Did you guys fight and break up in the past? Different rules once you’re married.)

      1. I was going to say exactly this. You can use this fight as an opportunity to establish them. Some people do this in couples therapy but if you normally communicate well, I think you can sit down and just do this and it’s better without an interloper listening to you. Figuring out how to fight will save you a lot of them over time.

   7. I try not to let bad feeling linger too long after a fight. We hardly ever fight, and if tensions do start getting high and we start saying things we might later regret or that could be hurtful, I always end with “I don’t like fighting with you, I love you. Let’s talk about this again when we aren’t tired (or hungry or after you get home or whatever).”
      We also are a couple that does a regularly scheduled check in. Once a week, usually Saturday or Sunday, we go through stuff like upcoming events and the budget and if we’ve been stressed and why and personal goals we’ve been working on and parenting stuff that’s come up and how to best support each other and all that stuff. It’s sometimes 2 minutes and sometimes 20 and every once in a blue moon spirals into a long heart to heart. Done properly, this helps so that you never really have anything that stews too long and leads to big emotional outbursts.

      That’s useful for the future, but right now you should apologize first and ask your husband when you can talk about it, emphasizing how you love him and you’re on the same team and you want to understand his perspective. Don’t have the conversation immediately, give yourselves time to show love and affection even during this period of unresolved conflict. Thank him for doing the dishes, give him a back rub, all those little things that make up a marriage. And then you do talk about it later, when you’re in a good headspace.

   8. Garden it out.

   9. Of course you can come back from this. They always say the first year of marriage is one of the hardest because you are figuring out how to be married (which includes figuring out how to fight). I’ve seen similar requests for advice like this over the years and am always surprised at how many people make the silent treatment out to be some catastrophic act that requires immediate counseling. After 20+ years with my husband, I’ve learned that every couple is different because every person is different. This means we fight and make up differently. You need to learn over time what works best for you (and discuss it rationally when you aren’t actively in the middle of a fight). My husband and I are both Type A people that always want to be right so of course that means sometimes we have arguments. I need more time than my husband to cool off so we normally leave each other alone after a really big fight. I guess that’s the silent treatment but it’s what I need to calm down before moving past it. We always say sorry after a fight and aren’t allowed to say “but” to justify the fight (but we do discuss why we fought). Frankly, I think that’s healthier than a couple who says they never fight but that’s certainly just my opinion and perspective.

2. Someone on Poshmark has listed an H&M shirt from last year or so. It is $90.

   When it was available at H&M, it was $50.

   This is H&M! I’m not looking for past-season de la Renta or McQueen where time actually increases the value because of the scarcity and pedigree! H and freaking M.

   1. I used to put stuff on Poshmark for the price that I would be willing to let something go for rather than listing the actual price or value.

   2. a lot of Posh pricing assumes people will make offers, so give it a whirl.

   3. It could be money laundering.

   4. Offer $8 just for kicks?

      I see random cheap items posted for absurd prices pretty often and assume it’s just someone using it as a placeholder or staging entry, perhaps intentionally inflated in an attempt to draw in interest.

   5. is it one of those special collaborations? like when target did a line with liberty prints there was a huge second hand market for it….

   6. I find this kind of ridiculous pricing sometimes with brands I look for on secondhand sites. In my case I’m looking for “new in box” makeup from my favorite luxury brand, so I’d expect it to be somewhat expensive, but I often find even used (no!) items that are going for twice what I could buy the same item, new, for at Nordstrom. I don’t know how the price was set, but I just move on.

      OP if you really want the t shirt, message the seller and ask if the price is a mistake, like did they mean to list it at $9?

3. Thoughts on reverse mortgages? My MIL said she took one out to “build her credit” or some such

   1. In principle, it makes a lot of sense for an older elder who doesn’t want to move, has a valuable house, but limited cash, to find a way to tap the equity of the house. I don’t know the landscape of the actual deals on offer and if any are a reasonable deal for an elder.

      I would be really worried about an elder who engages in a complex financial transaction to “build her credit.”

      1. +1

         1. +2

      2. Agree — cash poor and can’t afford payments on a regular HELOC or mortgage but needs a new roof or furnace.

      3. My MIL had a reverse mortgage, which was really useful in forcing her kids to get their act together and actually sell the house when she moved to memory care. Without the reverse mortgage we’d probably still be paying taxes on the house now, years after her passing.

   2. Any chance she needs the money but doesn’t want to tell you that?

      1. I’m not sure there is any other explanation.

   3. I have more thoughts and questions about why your MIL needs to build her credit if she has enough equity in her home to take out a reverse mortgage, than I do about the reverse mortgage itself.

   4. I’m only familiar with them as scams people get talked into.

      1. +1 my thought was “oh dear god” as I read that

4. at various point in my life i had a skirt like this and loved it. i am now 50 and no longer thin (probably a 10, used to be a 4)… can i wear this?

   https://www.madewell.com/p/womens/clothing/skirts/denim-button-front-a-line-midi-skirt/NZ045/?ccode=DM9317

   1. I think the bigger issue is that it could easily come across as a throwback fashion, which may or may not be what you’re looking for. Would probably depend on how you style it.

   2. with careful styling. This could go from ‘boho carefree woman of a certain age’ to ‘woman who hasn’t replaced her skirt since 1995’ really fast.

      1. I had a colleague who graduated in 1995 and had a longer version of this skirt left over from her original work wardrobe.

   3. I’m over 60 and definitely wore denim a-line skirts in HS. I think unless you are a twiggy 20-something, and it’s not styled with cool-girl sneakers or something very modern, it has sister-wife vibes.

   4. Leave that one to the youths.

   5. I often find myself buying pieces similar to pieces I loved in the past, and I never wear them. It’s more about the nostalgia than actually rocking the look. I’d say pass on this, you can do better.

      1. Yeah … there are so many pieces right now that look like they’re straight from the Delia’s catalog. I love them, I covet them, and realistically I would feel like a fool wearing them. The time has passed.

   6. If you want to go down a hilarious internet rabbit hole about denim skirts, check out this post and the replies on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@belladaunasummer/post/DU3Io9sDfnM

      And after you read it I can pretty much guarantee you won’t want to buy that skirt.

   7. Not for the reasons you list. It’s terrible and giving jaded 90s secretary on a smoke break before going to weight watchers.

5. I’ve been reading the posts about GLP-1s with a sort of intentional disinterest, but now my PCP has suggested a GLP-1 for me. I’m the poster child for why diets don’t work. I’ve gained and lost more than I weigh over the last three decades, and I’m currently back in the “obsese” BMI category after dieting and exercising my way down to merely “overweight” for the umpteenth time in my life.

   The term “food noise” has been thrown around here and honestly, that’s the thing that resonates with me. I think about food all the time, whether it’s thinking about not eating food, or what I get to eat next.

   I’m worried about side effects – particularly the nausea and the slow down of gut activity/constipation. I’m looking for feedback on how you managed that.

   1. This place has just become a GLP-1 message board lately. It’s so boring.

      1. I would not worry about the side effects that much; they impact each person differently. Just try it, and if the side effects are bad for you, stop taking it.

      2. OMG – sorry you’re not being entertained enough! I’ll be thinking about you as you navigate this difficult time <3

      3. It changes lives. It’s ok that people want to share that.

      4. You realize that just about every comment here is boring, right? 99% of them are rehashed conversations about the same outfits or travel destinations. People barely read the posts themselves. Collapse the stuff you’re not interested in.

      5. OP here. It took a lot out of me just to write this post. I’m sorry you found it boring but this is something that causes me a lot of distress. Maybe don’t comment as if there isn’t a real human being on the other side of your screen.

         1. This same question is asked every single day. Just read some older posts.

            1. Make like a panda and leave OP alone.

            2. It really doesn’t and you’re a jerk.

         2. I could have written your post and it has not been talked about every day. Thank you for sharing.

   2. honestly I wouldn’t worry about side effects too much until you take it and see how you’re doing. you can possibly ask your doctor to start at half a dose if you’re really worried about it, in my experience the side effects are worse the bigger the leap you’re making with dosing.

      re slow gut and constipation… if you haven’t pooped for a few days (or longer than whatever normal is for you) then drink 1/2 cap of miralax. but stay on top of your water, try to think about gut health with probiotics like yogurt and fermented foods. on the off chance you take edibles, put those away until you’re used to your dose.

   3. Here’s my experience. I was one point short of obese on the BMI chart. My chosen profession doesn’t currently allow me a lifestyle that is conducive to me losing weight (10 hours of sleep per night, long walk in the sunshine every day, time to prepare healthy meals. FWIW I lost my job during the early months of covid and had time for all three of those things, and lost 20 lbs without even trying).

      I am on a .5ml micro-dose of compounded ozempic (via Midi Health) and it’s reduced my appetite enough that now it’s very easy for me to eat less. I still have to make good food choices, but it makes it easier to make those choices. It’s easier not to stress eat now. I’ve lost 7 lbs in 3 months, and I’m very happy with that pace of weight loss.

      Side effects have been minimal – a little gassy at first, and I get constipated if I eat a lot of low fiber food, but nausea has been minimal (I just pop a ginger candy if I feel queasy) and nothing has made me want to stop the drugs.

      1. Your comment reminds me that the best shape I was ever in in my life was when I was unemployed for several months during the Great Recession and just adds to my “maybe I should just take an unpaid sabbatical for 3-6 months and really get through my personal to do list” fantasies, since lose 15-20 pounds is on the personal to do list (Yes, I’m a burned out elder millennial).

   4. I keep hearing that getting uncomfortable side effects from one med doesn’t mean getting the same side effects from another med, so there’s sometimes trial and error.

      I keep wondering, do they never just prescribe the same prokinetics generally used for slow gut motility or does that simply not work when it’s from a GLP-1? Thinking of meds like pyridostigmine or Motegrity, not something riskier like Reglan.

      With meds in general, these kinds of side effects worry me less than actual risks, since I figure I can just quit the med if I don’t like my quality of life on the med (assuming the effect is temporary).

      Weighing the actual risks of GLP1s against the benefits though… there sure seem to be a lot of potential long term benefits showing up in studies for people with other health conditions and concerns.

   5. So it’s my understanding that the later iterations of these drugs have less common side effects. This jibes with my experience on compounded Ozempic (some nausea and constipation ) vs trizepetide (none zilch nada). I might ask your prescriber about it.

   6. Constipation managed with fiber, both an increase in eating veggies/beans/chia and with Metamucil.

   7. Highly recommend if you and your doctor think it’s right for you..I’ve been on it for 3 months via self pay. Have lost 20 pounds. The reduction in food noise is amazing, and the reduction in inflammation is life changing.

      Having said that, it’s just a tool—you still really need to pay attention to nutrition and be in a calorie deficit. It basically helps you live like a normal person and to heal your relationship with food. Side effects vary individually, I’ve had none. However, I lost about 50 pounds prior through nutrition, tracking, etc so had those habits. You really, really need to drink a LOT of water, eat protein, and drinking alcohol or eating fatty food could mmake you sick.

      1. Also, I take Zepbound and get it from Lilly Direct

   8. I started a GLP-1 in July, and I was also really worried about side effects. Turns out, I didn’t experience any until I went up to the highest dose, and then in consultation with my doctor, I stepped back down to the dose right below that one. I now get the benefits of weight loss, no food noise, and no side effects either.

      This is one of those things where you won’t know how it affects you until you try it – some people have no side effects at all, while others can’t tolerate even the lowest dose. You won’t know until you try it yourself.

   9. The food noise negation has been magical for me. As for the slowed digestion, I am prone to constipation anyway, and with the glp-1 a daily pre/probiotic, at least 60 ounces of liquids daily, and paying attention to eating some fruit and veg every day has resulted in no problems. I have never had to intervene with miralax or the like.

      1. For me, I had a very active stomach and slowing it down has been nothing short of a miracle. It also cured my motion sickness.

   10. I anticipated all the side effects, as I’ve always been prone to extreme nausea and constipation, and have had zero in the 6 months I’ve been on Zepbound (through Lilly Direct, not covered by my insurance). The only issue I’ve had to learn to watch is what foods can cause discomfort, due to slowdown of stomach emptying.

       Food noise stopped almost immediately. I can now stop eating after a reasonable portion. No more negotiating with myself over each bite, over food purchases, etc. I’ve not had a drink, nor wanted one, since beginning- wasn’t a problem before, but any desire for a cocktail on the weekend- poof. Also, and very important, all my labs have come down to optimal levels (blood sugar, cholesterol)- my doctor is very pleased. Such a cliche, but it has honestly changed my life, and I’ll happily pay OOP and take for the rest of my life.

       Good luck with whatever decision you make!

       1. Same here – it was an absolute miracle drug from day one. OP, give it a shot (pun intended ;))

   11. I was so worried about the side effects I almost didn’t do it and I’m so glad I tried it. I haven’t had any. I had a healthy diet before, just couldn’t lose weight. What bothered me before now sounds terrible and what didn’t still doesn’t, I just want way less food. I’m doing the wegovy pill and feel absolutely fantastic on it – my energy level is so much higher, I’m never hungry (I didn’t understand what food noise meant but hunger I was very familiar with), I wake up with more energy, I’m dropping pounds easily for the first time in a decade (peri is a beast). It’s life changing and up there with LASIK for me, I’m just sorry I waited so long to do it. I want to shout from the rooftops how great it is and just get so angry at all the people trying to gatekeep it and make people scared of it.

6. I’m going to place a Quince order soon – what should I get? (Any bad experiences with returns to know about?)

   1. I love love love my cashmere cardigans and short sleeve silk blouse with puff sleeves. Like I said in another post, I wear the numi undershirts so only have to dryclean once a season.

      1. I’m envious that you can make it a whole season without spilling on yourself. Coming from someone who spilled tea down her front while ON CAMERA on a zoom this morning.

   2. there’s no way for a person to answer this for you without much more information. i have a bunch of sweaters from there which are OK for the price point. i am a big fan of the satin skirt with cashmere sweater look and i have that from there… i have a sun dress that i like but cut the under skirt out of because it weighed a ton and was very warm for a sun dress. i have not had luck with pants although i have a pair of elastic waist linen summer pants that i bought for a trip and wear in the summer sometimes though they are deeply unflattering.

   3. I ordered a cotton weave blanket for my new bed and I actually love it!

   4. Depends. The only think I’ve ever kept from them is a pair of jeans. Proceed with caution

   5. I have and like the Quince silk slip skirt and two cotton-cashmere v-necks. My SO has two of the men’s cashmere half-zips and they are very nice and look great on him.

   6. Man it is just my day to be an unpaid shill for Quince. This suiting is … not bad. (Usual standard is Brooks Brothers or JCrew for reference.) For the price it is great. You can wash and dry it, and it is very, very comfortable and forgiving in its fit. The material is thick enough to not show all my bumps and lumps. I am losing weight and for some reason have a suit deficit in my current size. This one has been very useful.

      Jacket:
      https://www.quince.com/women/ultra-stretch-ponte-stand-collar-blazer?color=black&gender=women&tracker=collection_page__%2Fwomen%2Fblazers__All+Products__43

      Pants:
      https://www.quince.com/women/ultra-stretch-ponte-flare-leg-pant—32?color=black&productPosition=1&searchQuery=Ponte%20flare%20leg%20pants&tracker=searchPage__search_section__search_results

      There are other styles of pants in the same material.

      And this shell is pretty good too:
      https://www.quince.com/women/lightweight-cotton-cashmere-ribbed-tank?color=heather-bone&productPosition=5&searchQuery=Cotton+cashmere+shell&tracker=searchPage__search_section__search_results

      Total cost for jacket, pants and shell all of which are presently on sale: $159.80

7. My sister-in-law is getting married this summer at a hotel (outside wedding venue). It is an afternoon, Sunday wedding.

   I am (already) thinking about what I’d like to wear. I’m undergoing a little style evolution, and I’d like something that is a balance between feminine and minimalist. I am about an 18w/1x/2x. I want something with a little sleeve, but also something not common – I don’t want to look like everyone else. I also struggle as many things that I love are not in my size, and I am overall disappointed with the plus sized stuff that is available to mel

   I am looking at City Chic’s Livia Dress in navy (link in comments). I was imagining it with my hair in a loose french twist and pearl earrings/wedding ring/bracelet – with a metallic clutch and some strappy sandals. Is this summer weddingey enough? I welcome suggestions if anyone is up for it.

   1. https://www.citychiconline.com/plus-size-dress-livia-navy-217050navy

      1. I think that looks lovely and summery. Along those lines you might look at Hill House dresses – some of them are in ‘evening’ fabrics with more summery selections likely coming later in spring.

         1. I think it is a bit early to be finding spring and summer dresses. Retailers don’t seem to have all of their spring collections out yet. I would expect many more spring styles to become available in early March, then another drop of summer styles in May.

      2. This is a really pretty, cool dress. I also love the peacock, which is a more unusual color than navy. Definitely summer wedding-y enough!

         Other ideas, if you’d like to look:
         https://tnuck.com/products/botanical-engraving-midnight-boat-neck-midi-dress

         https://tnuck.com/products/gold-cape-leah-dress

         https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=817746002&vid=1&pcid=69883&cid=69883&nav=meganav%3AWOMEN%3AWOMEN%27S+CLOTHING%3ADresses+%26+Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

   2. Understood if it doesn’t suit you, but the peacock color of that dress is more interesting looking than the navy. I do think it’s a nice dress.

      1. It’s a cute dress and I like the peacock version more too.

         I wore navy to a wedding recently and felt like I’d faded into the background, since the hall was lowly lit and weddings often happen at night.

      2. I agree with this, and I also think the peacock color is more summer-y than navy.

      3. I actually think the navy is more summery. Peacock to me is a winter color.

         That is a really pretty dress and looks great on the model.

   3. Have you looked at Kiyonna?

8. I’ve had an intermittent eyelid twitch for the past month. Any advice on getting it to stop? (I’m reasonably sure it’s stress related, if it doesn’t go away soon I’ll message my PCP.)

   1. i mean if it’s stress related than i think you need to lower your stress? my son has a tic and it shows up when he’s sick, tired, nervous, upset…. the rest of the time you wouldn’t even notice it. unless you are having a neurological episode there isn’t really treatment i don’t think….

   2. I don’t know. I’ve had this for about a decade.

   3. Hydrate. You might also try tonic water, I remember reading quinine helps with eye twitches.

      1. I was coming here to say this.

   4. this is a normal stress side effect… try magnesium?

   5. Get more sleep and reduce coffee a little bit.

      1. +1

   6. This happens to me when my stress is too high. What works for me is sleep and an extra 15min on my hour run. I go lie in the sauna afterwards and my body is so tired it can’t stay tense.

   7. Not to keep banging the GLP1 drum, but I had this for about a year, off an on, no cause and since I started the drug, it’s gone away. Huh, had completely forgotten about it until now.

   8. Reduce the stress. Acupuncture will knock it out at least temporarily. Magnesium (take an epsom salts bath).

   9. More sleep and more water works for me.

9. I’m losing my hearing in my mid-30s and while it’s not enough for a hearing aid (yet), I frequently have to ask people to speak up, slow down, or watch them speak so I can read their lips. I’ve had to ask doctors to remove their masks so I can understand them. Logically, I know these are minimal asks but I get SO anxious about them in low stakes situations that a lot of times it’s easier to just not ask and then I feel like I’m not fully understanding things.

   Reassure me that this is not as big of a deal to other people as it is to me and the random barista I’ve had to ask to speak up isn’t thinking I’m some Karen! (I always ask nicely and say “I’m hard of hearing, can you please speak more loudly/slower?” but this always feels so stressful!!!)

   1. you’re fine! unless you’re making a big scene cupping your ear and saying “didn’t your teachers ever tell you not to mumble?!” no one will think twice.

      (Side note, any chance the new Airpods Pro might be helpful for you with the hearing boost feature?)

   2. Kindly, based on what you’re describing, you might want to revisit if you need hearing aides. If you are feeling like you are missing things or having to read lips, it’s time.

      1. +1

      2. +1

      3. +1 and I think you end up with a better chance of success with them the sooner you start.

   3. She doesn’t post here anymore, but CountC is hard of hearing and would be able to give you pointers. I don’t know if anyone has her contact info.

   4. What you’re say to request someone speak more loudly or slower is perfect. No notes.

      Not a big deal at all. I’d be really happy to help in this way that is trivially easy for me.

   5. I am an android user so I don’t have direct experience with this or know what versions but iphone earbuds can be used as sound enhancers like hearing aids. I know multiple people, young and old who rely on them. Look into this solution and see if they help. Could be a good middle step before proper hearing aids.

   6. I understand completely. I have the same problem. I don’t qualify for hearing aid level hearing loss, but in noisy areas or if people aren’t looking at me or wearing a mask I can have a hard time.

      Just keep doing what you are doing. I say, “I’m sorry, but I have hearing loss”, and I touch my ear and turn my good ear towards them, “Could you repeat that again?” Usually that helps. Unfortunately some people are just stressed/having a bad day and act irritated. What can you do…

   7. I had the start of this, and it got better when I stopped using my air buds. My hearing is now better but not back to what it was. Similar age to you.

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