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I love this pretty, warm shade of pink — although this belt also comes in navy and black, in case you're not a pink-belt fan. I really like it against the black here, and I also like the stacked look combined with the space between the buckles.
This Alexander McQueen belt is available in sizes 65 to 90 at Net-a-Porter; prices range from $460 for the navy to $920 for the pictured “blush” and black (although — confusingly — a few of the colors are in different styles).
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And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!
Some of our latest threadjacks include:
- What to say to friends and family who threaten to not vote?
- What boots do you expect to wear this fall and winter?
- What beauty treatments do you do on a regular basis to look polished?
- Can I skip the annual family event my workplace holds, even if I'm a manager?
- What small steps can I take today to get myself a little more “together” and not feel so frazzled all of the time?
- The oldest daughter is America's social safety net — change my mind…
- What have you lost your taste for as you've aged?
- Tell me about your favorite adventure travels…
Horse Crazy
What are your favorite side dishes to eat with crab (West Coast Dungeness)? *Cue me singing, “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year”!*
Curious
Fries. Salad with a light vinaigrette. Oysters. Warm crusty bread. Oh enjoy I wish food tasted like anything right now. Yum.
MJ
Garlic noodles are a classic too.
I like something light, as the crab is very filling.
Anon
Garlic bread and a salad. We do it all the time! And I agree about the most wonderful time of the year!!! (Bay Area here)
Finch
Artichokes as an appetizer, garlic bread, salad with a light dressing… just thinking about the grab Mmmmmm…. Enjoy!!
Anonymous
I was gifted an Erin Condren planner for my birthday. How do those of you who use your phone/Google calendar balance using a paper planner as well? I like the idea of the paper planner, but it seems a little repetitive?
Anon
I gave up on the paper planner for exactly that reason. I was just copying things from my Outlook calendar to the planner for the sake of using the planner.
Z
You could use the planner to keep track of tasks? I personally prefer to write down tasks rather than including them on my Google Calendar, which I mainly use for appointments/meetings.
Bonnie Kate
+1 I use a paper planner for work tasks and projects. I definitely need the paper planner for that; I’ve ignored every single electronic system I’ve tried.
But for scheduling and keeping track of appointments/calendar stuff, I use my phone calendar.
Anon
+1
Not that Anne, the other Anne
Same. I have a distinctly not professional planner (Thoughts of Dog, if anyone knows that Twitter account) and I write down major meetings and tasks in it.
Anon
I use both a phone calendar and a paper planner. The phone calendar is our “bible” – aka if it’s not on the Google calendar, it’s not real. We keep that up to date immediately.
My paper planner – every Sunday night I sit down and write down the plan for the week. I add personal todo items and note any scheduling items (like we have kids in practices at opposite ends of town only 15 minutes apart, so we’ll both need to leave work early on Wed). I plan meals around our schedules and have my DH put in a grocery order for pickup the next day. It helps to have the paper version to refer to quickly when I’m on a phone call or away from my phone.
My planner also has a blank space every week that I use to write my top three gratitudes for the week. It’s corny but it helps to flip back through and see all the good things that happen each week.
Shananana
same – I basically use my paper planner to do a weekly plan for what I need to do, important things to remember, and write it out either Sunday or as my first part of the day on Monday. I need lists on paper to cross off to get it done, the electronic stuff does not work. That said, if I am trying to figure out if I can do dinner next thursday or make a dr’s appt, that only lives in the electronic calendar until that week.
anon
That’s exactly how I use digital and paper calendars!
Anon
I know I’m dating myself, but I can’t look at this photo and not think of drunk Gary Oldman slurring at Joey Tribiani “I’m wearing two belts!”
Anon
Two belts is such a look right now though. It’s very mini-corset (or something).
Anonymous
For some reason it makes me think of the multiple-Swatch watch look.
Anon
I had to look up who Joey Tribiani is.
Anon
Are you serious?
Covid Etiquette
My 1st grader’s BFF has not been in school this week and we’ve been notified of a class exposure that occurred Friday. My child has tested negative so far – we are in a test to stay school – and I am not friends with BFF’s parents but we are friendly enough and I have their phone numbers, etc. Obviously I don’t actually know if they are sick, but just curious as to the etiquette here. Is it presumptuous/nosy of me to reach out? Is it rude not to? I am leaning towards do nothing as they could have contacted me if they wanted to communicate about this. To be clear, not trying to make this about me. If they’re sick I am sure they have they have their hands full. Just want to be friendly as our kids are very attached to each other.
Anonymous
In this case I would do nothing.
Anon
Would you call for another illness? If not, don’t call for Covid.
Anon
I would, if a BFF, b/c they may all be stuck at home / need food or something dropped off. We have a neighborhood chain for this for curbside dropoffs (like you may run out of milk in 2 weeks if it is rolling through a family).
Covid Etiquette
So I probably would if I knew about it. But it’s also the kind of thing where I think if they wanted to talk about it they could have said something? If exposure was on Friday, when our kids were together all day, I don’t think it’s crazy to just send a quick message over the weekend like “notified the school, but FYI –” so I hesitate to say anything lest I seem nosy. I would ask if they need anything but everyone just gets stuff delivered around here. I sincerely just want to be nice for my kid’s sake and, you know, for basic human decency reasons. But I know some people are private/weird about this one illness so don’t want to cross boundaries.
Anon
Based on the amount of gossiping and detective work that happens at our school every time they announce a case, it’s easy for infected people to feel like Typhoid Mary, and doing anything that even hints at them being patient zero feels weird to me. I think you have the right instinct not to reach out particularly if you don’t have a friendship with the kids’ parents.
Anonymous
Take COVID out of it. If my kiddo’s bestie was out for a week I’d ask her mom if she was doing ok/needed anything. But I know the mom/parents (not good friends but have coached their kids etc).
Anonymous
I’d try to contact them to ask if your child can get anything at school for second child, or fill them in on what they missed, etc.
Anom
It’s their BFF. I’d probably reach out by text just to say – heard [X] was out of school. Hope you’re all doing ok.
I’ve got 1st and 4th graders and I just try to be friendly and normal. Keep lines of communication open.
Anon
Yeah I’d do this and offer to drop off a meal
Anon
+1
Anon
I think it’s nosy to reach out. We were in the exact same situation in August (and the family did in fact have Covid) and didn’t reach out.
Anon
From this morning, does anyone here successfully wear scarves? There is the putting it on part and then also a problem that I dress like Moira Rose and scarf shop like Alexis, so my scarves are nice but don’t relate to my clothes really. Not everything goes with black it turns out.
Cat
I like to tuck them into crewneck sweaters (folded up so it’s almost like a silk turtleneck). If long enough, bra straps can help keep the ends in place.
Annony
Tucked into a collar (esp one that is just kind of blah) is my most successful. I also like to tie it in to a floppy bow off to the side.
Ribena
I like big ones that are closer to shawls. I have a rectangular wool/silk one from Becksondergaard which I love, a cotton/viscose one from Thought which has a book pattern (but it’s very graphic and not obvious when being worn), and a tonne of handknit ones. I have a camel coloured Pebble Beach Shawl which goes with a LOT and which I wear a tonne. I normally wear them looped around like a desert scarf we wore in the late 00s (with the big section in the front), but put them over my shoulders if I’m cold.
Anonymous
I’m also a wearer of big shawls… sometimes I layer a scarf under a blazer collar (scarf worn long and loose) – adds a pop of color with an o/w boring outfit
Anonymous
I feel like the blogger Alterations Needed always looks chic in scarves…
Anon
I went to a personal shopper once who suggested I wear a longer rectangle silk scarf untied, just under the edge of my jackets. So I mostly wear scarves this way, though if they are extra long or bothering me, I tie them in a single loose knot, usually hanging near the bottom of my rib cage.
I could only find an image here, but imagine the second thumbnail, “the drape”, with a thinner silk scarf, less of it showing behind the neck.
https://www.thecoolist.com/men-scarf-styles/
Senior Attorney
I don’t know how successful I am, but I’ve been wearing scarves for years and love them. These days I am mostly into small square silky ones.
Anon
How do you tie them? I have a standard sized Hermes scarf (just one! I’m almost afraid to take it out of the box) that I don’t wear mostly because I don’t know how to tie it without looking like a flight attendant.
Senior Attorney
I usually fold it into an long oblong and do a square knot. Or sometimes I just embrace the flight attendant. There are lots of tips online.
Anonny
Anyone else have a mental block at work when you are waiting for your review/compensation? My firm released comp information today to managers, but my manager is out sick so I won’t find out until next week. My brain does not want to cooperate until I know whether my hard work this last year has paid off!
Anon
Mine won’t come out until March. And the CFO sent out a global e-mail talking gloom and doom about how profits dropped like mad last year; clearly a prep for “you’re not getting $hit” conversations.
Anon
I am this way too, and it will be another couple of months before I know! I agree that I want to know if my hard work will have paid off…
anonchicago
Is Ask A Manager just trolling us now? I can’t possibly believe today’s letter is real.
It’s a slow workday so maybe I just need more to think about…
MND
The tossing of the pregnancy test? That one is WILD.
anon
The letters recently have been … something. Not normal workplace stuff, that’s for sure.
Anonymous
I’m usually pretty tolerant of some of the extreme letters posted there, but today’s was over the top ridiculous.
Anon
Yeah I qui that site over a year ago. It’s just c1ickbait nonsense.
Anon
AAM jumped the shark a couple of years ago. I no longer bother with it.
The Dress Challenge
Did you see the one about the 100 day dress challenge, meaning to literally wear the same dress every day? (And the dress seller recommends spot cleaning it rarely & avoiding antiperspirant.) The letter writer was told that there were concerns regarding her hygiene at work (in a front desk role). The response was outraged at the sexism of … I don’t even know what? Some nonsense about how men wear the same outfit every day so of course the letter writer should to & no one should dare remark on it. The letter writer wrote in the comments that she had responded to the criticism by changing her outfit sometimes but now was going to go back to the same dress.
The Dress Challenge
The link for anyone who’s interested: https://www.askamanager.org/2022/01/i-got-in-trouble-for-wearing-the-same-dress-every-day.html
The letter writer includes a link to the actual dress. You know, in case you want to join the challenge.
And I must add I only read the first 300 comments or so … but they all support the advice given and the OP in wearing the dress, calling her workmate a busybody and so on … I am in disbelief that no one responded with an “um, maybe don’t wear the same dress EVERY day … it could effect how you’re perceived professionally.” Is this the community Ask a Manager has curated? Did she delete any dissenting comments?
Anon
I don’t think she deletes dissenting comments but that is absolutely the community she has established. It’s full of people who are wildly outside social norms most of the time. I have a feeling they rarely leave their computers and spend most of their lives online.
Anon
She definitely deletes comments that disagree with her or that disagree with her long-term favorites. I’ve seen it happen in real time.
anonymous
She absolutely deletes dissenting comments, and puts people who disagree with her into permanent moderation and/or outright bans them.
JTM
I’m so tired of the crap that she posts now. I want more of the actual tips that I went to her site for originally – cover letter guidance, resume tips, interviewing tips, etc. Now it’s just one over-the-top unrealistic scenario after another. Last week I quote-tweeted one of her links & commented that I wish she’d go back to her old actual advice, and she said she loved the interpersonal stuff…So we’re doomed to deal with probably fake letters forever.
The Dress Challenge
We need a new workplace advice columnist to go to for serious/professional advice. I wonder how she’s hanging on to her features in legitimate publications (like The Cut) at this point. I think her advice must have more professionalism there, but her image has to be tanking.
They're all bark and no bite (I hope)
Yeah, I mostly just hate-read now to make fun of people. I do hiring/firing/career development, and all of those people–if they’re actually doing even 1/2 of what they said they’re doing–would be out. I’m not hiring people who can’t interact with others in a professional manner. You’re adults; unless there’s something I’m legally required to accommodate, you need to be able to be professional in an office setting. You smell? We’re having a talk. You block your colleague on phone/email/whatever? We’re having a talk. You come to me with a complaint that is remotely valid? I’ll listen, but if it in no way affects you, you’ll just have to learn to deal with it. You want to do the bare minimum and complain you can’t get hired? Well, duh.
Anon From Here
What killed me about the pregnancy test question was that it had a straightforward answer that didn’t need to be an “Ask the readers” letter at all. The LW needed to go back to corporate HR, and there’s a pretty clear roadmap for what HR should do from this point. Alison’s turned what used to be a useful site workplace advice into sitcom-like entertainment for her own ad revenue, which is totally her choice and more power to her, but the title “Ask a Manager” maybe isn’t the most accurate for the site, any more.
Anonymous
Posted in the wrong spot.
Funeral question:
DH’s grandmother died. He is the only son of her only daughter. He flew across the country for the funeral; I stayed home with our young kids (one of which is currently quarantining).
Do we/I send funeral flowers? If yes, are they from me (not there) or us? Or no because DH is the immediate family for which the flowers are intended?
I asked DH and he shrugged/didn’t care/didn’t know.
Thoughts?
funeral
No. Your husband/MIL/you are the grieving family, to which flowers/gifts are given.
Anon
I don’t know what the etiquette is, but I think I vote no need to send flowers unless you think your MIL would enjoy them. (And they’re so expensive!)
MND
Agree. he is one of the closest relatives/chief mourners, right? I associate flowers with those around the chief mourners and not the immediate family of those closest relatives.
Anom
Who are you sending it to? MIL?
Anonymous
In this situation, we would send flowers with every family member’s name on the card (both parents, all kids). There’s usually a point shortly before the service where the funeral home has arranged all the different flowers for display that they read out all the different cards and — in my family at least — the elderly relatives murmur appreciatively at each family when their card is read/definitely remember and harbor hard feelings toward the families that didn’t send flowers.
Fed
I have never experienced them reading the cards from the flowers. This is definitely a YMMV scenario.
Anonymous
No to flowers but maybe a gift of some prepared meals for MIL (some of the meal kit places have them now) or something else re self-care, since were you there that’s likely what you’d be doing
NYCer
If you are close to your MIL and know she is a flowers type of person, I would not hesitate to send flowers directly to her and sign the card just from you. (With a note along the lines of “Thinking of you, sorry I couldn’t make the funeral.”)
Anonymous
OP here. Clear as mud! I was thinking of funeral flower (sent to the funeral home, to be on display at the funeral/gravesite) and not sympathy flowers (sent to MIL/FIL).
Anon
When our mother died, my siblings and I were the immediately bereaved, and we did order a spray that was from us/funded by the funeral because we wanted to make sure there were some flowers at the funeral. But other bouquets were delivered there and there were several, so that was nice. That being said, ours was the only “spray” style, and though I’m far from an expert on funerals, the funeral home advised us that was what we should do, so we did it.
I’m sorry for your loss.
anon
+1, DH’s grandmother passed last year and I sent a funeral spray from our nuclear family (DH, myself and our two kids). I know MIL really appreciated it when she saw it at the funeral.
Anon
Has anyone become wool-intolerant as they’ve gotten older? My feet are fine in Darn Tough (etc.) socks that are a wool blend and my legs are generally OK in very nice-grade unlined wool pants (but really prefer a lining). But my chest and neck skin just cannot tolerate any wool touching it. Like I wear a cotton tee or cotton turtleneck under any wool sweaters now, even cashmere or merino ones (but unless I have a t-neck on, some wool seems to touch me. I love wool as a fabric, but now I feel like some hothouse flower that just does not handle the real world well. Of course, my sweaters are all wool. Wool on arms is fine (so cardi over sleeveless dress works; wool turtleneck doesn’t work w/o a cotton turtleneck, which is fine as my office is cold/drafty and I run cold, but it is so annoying). Is there a fix?
Anon
I can only wear merino. Even cashmere feels a little scratchy to me. But even with merino I sometimes have the issue you mention around my neck, wrists, and ankles of my socks, which I think is an issue with the edges rubbing a certain way (I also have issues with seams and anything tight causing weird rashes sometimes). I think the specific design of the wrist and neck bands can make a big difference, but I don’t have any specific advice.
Anonymous
I think you can develop allergies out of the blue as you go along in life… here i’d wonder if it might be the detergent instead of the wool itself, although I think “organic wool” is a thing. Skin on your neck/face is thinner than your arms so it makes sense…
Anonymous
This page talks about some brands working with oeko-Tex yarns or whatever
https://mochni.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-sustainable-knitwear-brands/
Anon
Is it the type of wool? I wear a lot of wool and cashmere but recently bought a merino wool shirt from Costco that is unbearably itchy. I also find store brand cashmere to be pretty bad quality in general.
anon
The only fix I’ve found is layering. I don’t like wool touching my arms.
Anonymous
When I get like this, it always means my skin has gotten very dry, or has been exposed to a new detergent or shampoo or shower gel. If I stop the new shower gel and use some moisturizer, I’m fine again with wool.
anne-on
I can only wear merino these days, and even then I sometimes itch on my neck/upper chest – see above discussion of scarves. I primarily wear silk scarves as my neck/upper chest gets rashy/itchy with certain fabrics. I agree that moisturizers help, it’s worse when my skin is super dry.
Anonymous
I have been experiencing this as well. I think my skin is drier than it used to be. I have been layering silk long underwear under heavy sweaters, and spraying dry oil on my arms before wearing lighter sweaters.
Anon
Slightly off the wall question, but does anyone have experience with cysts in cats or dogs? My cat developed a half inch fluid filled lump on her head this week. We took her to the vet and they drained it and took a sample for cytology, which came back benign. The vet texted with the results and told us we can just ignore it or call them back at some point in the future and discuss surgery. For now, it doesn’t seem to be bothering her, so we’ll just wait and see what happens (maybe it will go away on its own?), but does anyone have experience with this? It seems pretty big to just ignore, but it’s right by her eye and ear and she hates going to the vet, so it would be preferable to avoid a surgery she doesn’t need.
Anon
Lots of cats and (especially) dogs get lumpy as they age. You did the right thing getting it checked out. If it doesn’t bother her and the vet advises not doing anything, then it’s just a part of who she is. Of course, get it checked out if it suddenly grows, bleeds or anything else unusual.
Anon
I’m not sure if it’s the same in cats, but our dog had a cyst like that and our vet recommended warm compresses and draining it that way if it refilled. She ultimately had to have a tumor removed so we got the cyst taken off at the same time. It was kind of messy to manage before we had it removed but definitely didn’t cause her any pain.
KS IT Chick
If it’s not bothering her, causing her pain or interfering with her hearing or vision, I probably wouldn’t bother. If it starts growing or causing her a problem, then have it removed.
Our car came to us with a small lump on his leg. We probably wouldn’t have done anything about it, except it clearly caused him pain if we brushed against it when we were petting him, and he was already going to have anesthesia for neutering. It turned out to be a lead pellet from a pellet gun. At some point, he had been shot and had healed up.
Anonymous
My dog has had a bunch of cysts and lipomas (fatty cysts) as he has gotten older (as well as a growth in his mouth that was cancer and was surgically removed and treated for by an oncologist over several years). Benign cysts or lipomas are nothing to worry about unless they start impeding movement or something vital like that. My dog right now has a huge lipoma on his side that looks bad but is not doing him any harm. Surgery has risk because of anesthesia, so most vets will advise leaving alone unless, again, something like one under an armpit interferes with walking or the like. Most cysts and lipomas grow rapidly and then just stop growing one day. So you’ll probably see your cat’s appearance (and vision) will stay the same pretty soon if it isn’t already that way. And sometimes having drained it is enough for it lose some size.
Lipoma
Was it a lipoma? My pup had two that we eventually got removed b/c while they did not impinge her mobility, they were growing and we knew they would be more challenging to remove. It did not go away on its own and from what we understand it’s just genetics. She is not of a breed that generally gets them and is super active and very very trim (obesity can trigger it), so it just seems to have been luck of the draw.
Our vet said the decision to remove it is based on potential future issues and the current health of the animal. Ours was due for a teeth cleaning anyway and she’s young, so it seemed like a win-win for everyone.
Anon
Thanks everyone, this is very reassuring! I think it wasn’t a lipoma (they just called it a cyst), because they were able to temporarily drain almost all of it when she was at the vet, but within a few days it’s back to at least 2/3 the size it was initially. Hopefully it doesn’t get a lot bigger or it might start to bother her eye, but for now she seems fine (other than waking us up at 4:30 am almost everyday- I laughed at all the posts this morning about alarm clocks, as we definitely don’t need one!).
Anon
According to Dr. Pimple Popper, you have to get the whole sac out to prevent refills. A little bit more work, but worth it.
Learning Math
Niche (sort of) question for folks who are deal lawyers or do a lot of math, but who came into their roles with a poor math background. I know it’s a running joke that we’d all gone to med school if only we could do math or that lawyers dislike/are bad at math. That’s sort of true for me, but I love doing deal work. I am a senior associate who is a first-gen. professional and after attending a poor high school with little resources, I am just not very good or well versed on math. I’ve done a lot of work to feel less intimidated, including discussing this with my supervising attorneys and taking on projects that force me to learn math that applies to my job (think structuring transactions, multi-seller math, etc.).
The partner I work with the most is a saint and really on board to teach me when necessary/lets me run with it and knows to be a final check on what I prepare. I’ve improved tremendously and am more confident on this front.
LONG way of asking, how do I learn math skills I didn’t learn as a kid that will help (think basic algebra) with this? I am not sure I have the bandwidth to work through Khan Academy general algebra classes, but maybe it’d be worthwhile? I’ve signed up for a few PLI CLEs on “accounting for lawyers,” but not sure where to start. I’d like to be more proactive about this outside of work projects, but maybe how I am doing it works for my purposes?
Curious
Math is hugely a matter of practice, unfortunately. I might go with a tutor over Khan academy though, just so you don’t have to spend executive function organizing lessons. Someone with an excel and accounting background?
Anon
Unless you LOVE learning math so much that you will do it on your own, pay someone. Take a college class, take CLEs, or hire a high school math tutor to come by once a week and work with you on algebra.
Curious
+1.
Allie
I found the book Statistics for Dummies to really help with the math I needed for my law job. I actually think the “For Dummies” series is excellent – maybe see what math books they have there? And you can totally teach yourself! It’s not too late at all.
Anonymous
Do Math! Think of it like doing Duolingo or learning new words in a second language. You need to do so much repetition that you no longer have to really think about it.
Anonymous
I think only you can answer that last sentence. Is it working for you!
Anon
I went to a very blue-collar school system, but had the world’s best middle school math teacher (and then very good math teachers after that). I really enjoyed it in part b/c I felt competent in it. I never went beyond calculus, but I enjoy my lawyer math (and I work exclusively with guys who are quants).
Danica McKellar’s books are aimed at middle school girls and are fantastic and very readable. Her blog and social media feeds are great and very math positive. Maybe start there and yes, depending on where your weakness starts, a good math tutor can help (I’d love to but suspect we’re not local to each other). Many libraries and the river site have her books (maybe target also) and I just could not love her more. I heard her on NPR decades ago when I was a baby lawyer and it re-awoke my love of math (I never touched math in law school other than in some tax classes). And I taught myself how to spreadsheet. When I got dumped into mathy-finance law, I was so ready and happy to be there.
Anon
Longer post in mod, but try Danica McKellar’s books and social media math-related posts.
Anon
When I went back to school 20+ years after my last math class, Khan Academy was the perfect thing for knocking the rust off or learning things that didn’t gel the first time around. I also liked Paul’s Online Math Notes (if you google that it’ll take you there) for great written notes. The first semester back was a LOT of work, but it set me up for success in later, more advanced math classes (I went back for computer science, so needed the entire calculus sequence, discrete math, statistics, linear algebra, etc). Turns out, given maturity and a few awesome instructors, I actually really enjoy the math that underpins the discipline.
You’re almost certainly not “bad at math”, you just had a crappy foundation. Our culture’s treating numeracy is less essential than literacy doesn’t help.
Anonymous
Do you need to actually do math or understand the math that other people do for you?
Cornellian
I’m a funds lawyer. I don’t know if you’re in BigLaw, but if you are, I’d check with the professional development department. They probably have a budget for this, and they may know a good tutor/course/etc.
Anon
I’m an expert witness in the math area. I work with tons of attorneys who make the same joke that they went to law school so they wouldn’t have to do math, and then they go on to do just a ton of math as we work the case together. It always amuses me greatly – it’s like they don’t actually know they’re doing math.
Anyway, the real way to learn how something is calculated is to calculate it by hand. So get your whiteboard or your yellow tablet and do the calculation, in order, line by line. Of course you can use your calculator to do the addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division, but nothing replaces writing down number A, writing down number B and underlining it, multiplying them together in your calculator, and writing down answer C. That’s why we do math homework in school. There’s no substitute for it. Write it down and you will get it. I do this with the attorneys on every single case I work on.
Anon
This is interesting — what sort of cases need a math expert witness? Signed, not a litigator but a finance lawyer
Anon
I’m in the insurance area.
anonchicago
Formerly bad at math, wannabe lawyer here who now has an MBA and does M&A.
Khan Academy was critical in learning the basics to get me through the GMAT and accounting and finance classes. That said, it’s probably more than you need to know and a lot that isn’t applicable to you today.
I would look into courses like Training the Street or Wall Street Prep. I took some during business school but many firms bring them in to train the analyst class. They do some excel modeling classes (which still have math! Excel is just being the calculator) as well as some classes for valuation and basic deal ratios. Most classes are only a day or two and you’ll walk away with a lot of applicable info.
Tall
Question for any fellow tall girls – do you have a favorite style influencer you follow on Instagram? I recently started following Charly Goss and love her style, but she’s 5’2” so I have almost a full foot on her. I’m starting to realize how out of date a lot of my wardrobe is, but a lot of the recs I love I already know don’t work for me (for example, bodysuits = wedgie central). I’m trying to find more style inspo that works for my body type, which can be pretty hard to shop for.
Anon
ReallyRynetta strikes me as tall, though I don’t know if she actually is.
Anon
Ironically, Extra Petite is my favorite fashion influencer. I just like her style.
Sunshine
+1. I’m 5’10” and like Jean’s style.
Anon
Me too!! I’m 5’9”
Anonymous
Fashion Jackson is pretty tall, and always looks put together IMO although her style may be a little too basic for you.
anonamouse
I come at this from the opposite side – there are a few tall influencers I love but can never really emulate because I am petite! Mary Orton and What Maya Wears are 5’10” or so, and Raised Rogue is smaller influencer I like who is over 6 feet!