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Nordstrom has its Half-Yearly Sale going on as well as designer clearance, and there are a TON of great deals on bags from the likes of Mulberry(!), Tory Burch, Tumi, Ferragamo, Kate Spade, and MCM.
I’m eyeing this poplin blue leather satchel from Mulberry — their leather is so soft! The bag was $1595, but is now marked to $1116…
(Huh: for what it’s worth, Mulberry seems to have a lot of bags on sale at Premium Outlets!)
Sales of note for 6.13.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals — up to 30% off — on select brands (ends 6/16); Nordy Club members earn 3X the points on beauty
- Ann Taylor – $30 off pants & skirts
- Athleta – 40% off vacation styles (ends 6/17)
- Banana Republic Factory – 40-60% off everything & extra 15% off purchase
- Eloquii – 50% off select styles; up to 40% off everything else
- Hugo Boss – Up to 40% off: further reductions
- J.Crew – Up to 50% off women’s styles; swim starting at $24.50
- J.Crew Factory – 50% off everything; extra 50% off clearance
- Lo & Sons – Father’s Day Sale, up to 40% off
- NET-A-PORTER – Up to 50% off, tons of great deals — see our roundup
- Rothy’s – Lots of great finds in the “final few” section
- Talbots – Extra 50% off all markdowns; 40% off regular-price shirts & sweaters & T by Talbots
Anon
I have $1,400 in a personal IRA (not linked to any job). I need to pull money out to pay for a lawyer. Will I be able to pull out the whole $1,400 and pay taxes later or will I have to pay taxes when I withdraw? It’s a traditional, not Roth.
Go for it
If you can help it, try to get funds elsewhere as generally it’s 20% at time of withdrawal then another 10% may be a penalty when you file your income tax return
Anon
I have a Roth IRA that my aunt opened for me when I was a child and I haven’t ever touched it. There’s a few thousand dollars in there. If i’m reading correctly, I can just pull the money out, pay 20% and then 10% and have it disappear forever? Mail has been trailing me my whole life and I can’t add to it or do much of anything with it. I’m in a job with a pension (assuming I can stick it out) so haven’t really looked at IRAs seriously.
Anon
Do you have a 401k you can roll it into? Or are you Roth IRA eligible? If you are, I’d probably just pay the taxes and roll it into a Roth at Vanguard. Even if you have a pension, there are lots of advantages to also contributing to a Roth.
Anon
Why wouldn’t you roll it over to a financial institition you’re already at?
Closing it out is literally throwing money away.
I too have a pension, but that doesn’t stop me from contributing to a Roth IRA and a 401k equivalent
Anon Roth
I’m not currently eligible to add more to the Roth, but might be in a year or two due to personal life stuff. I have another pot of money from a short stint at a non-profit. I got instructions for rolling that over and it just seemed so daunting. Maybe I’ll take another look if that seems to be the move.
anon
Please save that ROTH! It will grow tax free until you retire. Do a little math and see how much it will be valued by the time you are 65. Many thousands tax free on withdrawul! Your Roth retirement savings is your most valuable.
Just call your financial institution tomorrow and have them walk you through how to roll it over. Don’t be this lazy…. :0
Anon
+1 and if its not growing for you, transfer to another fund within the same institution. Tax free growth is a major bonua!
Anon
You can ask which ever institution you have your investment accounts with to set it up and roll it over for you. It’s easy-peasy and takes maybe 30 minutes on the phone. They can do a pull, which I feel is the best way to transfer money anyway. I did this with a number of languishing IRAs my husband and I started when IRAs first became a thing and now they are all working away for us with the rest of our Vanguard accounts.
Anon
You can mark the form “no withholding” and deal with it later on your tax return.
Anonymous
fun question for today: what’s your favorite dessert?
mine is either WARM brownies (not cold, no frosting), or an almond buttercream cake
Anon
My favorite everyday dessert is ice cream. My favorite one-time dessert I’ve had in recent years was pineapple upside-down cake cooked in a Dutch oven in the wilderness. My favorite special dessert when traveling is creme brulee. Can you tell I love dessert?
Anon
It’s really hard to beat ice cream. Sometimes restaurant desserts come with a scoop of ice cream or gelato and I enjoy that more than the cake or whatever.
The only improvement to ice cream or gelato alone, IMO, is the affogato.
Anon
Warm brownies and ice cream is up there. Also warm chocolate chip cookies and molten lava cake. Basically anything warm + chocolate. Gelato in Italy is also high on the list, although I’m actually not a huge fan of ice cream in general.
Anon
Now I need to go look up what an almond buttercream cake is!
I like baklava with Turkish coffee. I also really like layered desserts (trifle, Napolean, tiramisu).
This is kind of silly, but generally desserts with some kind of liquor… rum, limoncello, Frangelico, brandy, whatever it is (I don’t otherwise enjoy any of these, but apparently incorporating them into a dessert is what I need to appreciate them!).
Anonymous
Homemade pie with a buttery crust with something like rhubarb, black raspberry or blueberries that aren’t too sweet.
A sugar cookie that is really crisp and sandy with frosting that isn’t too soft
Rice pudding with plump raisins, and raisins that are rum soaked take it to a whole other level
AIMS
Ice cream + drizzle of some kind liqueur is pretty delicious and easy to make.
pink nails
Yummmmm mine is similar!
My favorite in general: WARM turtle brownies with whip cream, or a lava cake with whip cream and vanilla ice cream.
This time of year: strawberry rhubarb crisp
Anon
I like fruit crumbles (strawberry rhubarb, apple raspberry, blueberry…), chocolate chip cookies, and lemon bars, brownies or blondies. Not a fan of super rich or creamy desserts or anything too chocolatey. An almond cake sounds good too. I do like Bakewell tarts!
ALT
Flourless chocolate cake, the type that is so dense it’s basically fudge. Also the Publix bakery brownies that are a similar consistency but with frosting. Yummmmmm!
Anon
Try the Silver Palate cookbook brownies; do not overbake. That fudge-y texture: drool.
Anon
Ice cream! Always ice cream!
Anon
Not a huge dessert person but I LOVE ice cream
Anonymous
Cheese!
Vicky Austin
Anything with chocolate and raspberries, or a lemon bar.
Anon
Lemon tart. Or anything lemon really.
Leatty
My beloved grandmother’s apple pie recipe, which we used to make together. She passed away years ago, but I make it a couple of times of year for special occasions. It tastes like home and love. Miss her terribly.
Anonymous
I love going to a French bakery or a restaurant with an amazing pastry chef to order something I couldn’t make myself.
Jamie
Chocolate cheesecake explosion. Bits of white/regular cheesecake bites sliced with chocolate cake and chocolate mousse. So very good!
Anon
For those with elderly parents / grandparents, how does it go when they leave the hospital to go to physical rehab? Do you keep evaluating whether the path is realisitcally to go home again or home with significant supports or nursing home? The initial path for my mom is rehab with the goal of home. BUT dad is a bit of a hoarder, they haven’t moved in 30 years, and all bedrooms are upstairs (but there is at least a half bath downstairs). I need to go up and help him just clear out a place to theoretical space for an eventual rental hospital bed and a walker path. I guess they do a home visit before committing? And if insurance pays for max 2 months, then we really have less than a month to see if this is even feasible. I just don’t know how it will be if she will eventually need at-home hospice and round the clock care — no one likes strangers in “their” house and there wouldn’t be a place for an aide to rest (I guess they are awake, but are they also in the room with you?). To make it harder to staff, they don’t have satellite or cable, but we did get mom an iPad for BritBox and YouTubeTV. This is in a very rural area, so winter will be an issue eventually.
Is there a patron saint of Elder Daughters of Long-Distance Rural Parents With Medical Issues?
Senior Attorney
Yikes! I feel like it may not have sunk in yet, but you are in an emergency situation here. I wouldn’t count on anybody doing a home visit — as far as I can tell, the whole elder care system is on the shoulders of the Elder Daughters. And nobody is going to sign on to do home care in the house of a hoarder. I hate to say this, but if I were in your shoes (and I was, about 9 years ago) I would be looking for assisted living for both of them. “Dad, it’s not safe to bring Mom home. You know it and I know it. Do you want to go where she goes or do you want to be apart?”
Anon
To flip to the last chapter of the book: if there is a rehab wing, there may be a nursing home wing. You could go from rehab (medicare pays) to skilled nursing (you pay) by going down the hallway. BUT, IDK who orders that or decides or whether you have some time to make a good-faith try. ALSO, IDK how hospice fits into this or when you pull the trigger on that. I think they don’t overlap and that you are in rehab or hospice or a nursing home, but not 2 at the same time. Maybe some one really knows?
KS IT Chick
Skilled nursing can be paid for by Medicare if a physician certifies that the patient needs specific care that cannot be provided by home health. Usually, a nurse from the skilled nursing facility (SNF) will do a chart review and physical assessment to determine if the patient is eligible, then the physician will sign off. The patient also must have a qualifying stay for at least three days in acute care in the previous 30 or 60 days (I can’t remember which offhand).
My dad spent 16 days in the SNF attached to the hospital where he lives after our family exhausted ourselves trying to take care of him at home after his knee replacement surgery. He didn’t have a qualifying stay, so he had to pay himself. It was worth every penny.
Anonymous
I tend to agree with Senior Attorney, especially in a rural area with limited options. Are you local? If not I would definitely try to push for getting her more skilled care rather than less, as managing care from a distance is especially brutal. At the very least, I think it would make sense to investigate options for her NOT moving home now, and then if she greatly exceeds expectations, you can focus on creating a first-floor bedroom for her. In my very limited experience, rehab social workers are not super helpful with problem-solving.
Anonymous
PS – please disregard this if it isn’t helpful, but you may not have a good solution available. E.g., if only your Dad wasn’t a hoarder and would listen to reason, his and Mom’s quality of life would be so much better; if only I lived closer, etc… Be honest with yourselves about the limitations you have to deal with and try to pick the least bad solution.
anon
+1 to Senior Attorney.
CapHillAnon
Yes +1 to Senior Attorney.
And I’m pretty sure the patron here is St Jude (for impossible cases)!
Anon
I would talk to the hospital ASAP about the home situation and how it’s not safe due to hoarding and inaccessibility. They may be able to discharge her or even “prescribe” her to move to assisted living – I’ve seen it done and I’ve seen patients listen to “doctor’s orders” in a way they won’t listen to family.
Anonymous
Talk to someone at A Place For Mom — they were invaluable when I was in a similar situation with my dad last year.
Anon
My experience with rehab after hospital stays is that it can vary A LOT. My husband and I live in the country and he had to drive himself (or be driven, for the first few weeks) to the rehab center. My mother lives in a city and the PT person came to her. My grandfather did rehab at a nursing home, but really never recovered enough to leave, and was eventually basically discharged from rehab but stayed in the same place since it was a nursing home. I think it really depends on whether it’s realistic to expect her to be able to be independent at home again. Based on your description, it sounds like you are anticipating something closer to my grandfather’s situation, in which case, I would look for nursing homes which can handle the rehab for her. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
Nesprin
So, if you do not believe that today, without any modification, that your mom could go home and be safe + able to function+ receive appropriate care, find a nursing home/rehab. If there’s no bathroom+ bedroom that would work without stairs, it’s kind of a nonstarter, let alone some hoarding tendencies that of course will be aggravated in stress, let alone if she will need a wheelchair, supplemental oxygen, a commode or a medical lift.
Home hospice/eldercare usually sit near the person they’re caring for- so a comfy armchair near a hospital bed is sufficient. That said, managing the eldercare workers for my mom was a significant source of stress- someone would get sick or injured (say if there isn’t space for the lift) or not show up, or just be kind of a sketchy jerk and so we’d have to find a coverage or a different person alltogether. (This was in a non-snow area in a suburb of a large city- rural + storms sound also like a mess).
And I believe it’s Saint YesOfCourseILoveYouButHowIsThisSupposedToWork
Anonymous
I think a lot of this depends on what is available in your community. But I can share my experience with both of my grandparents (my mom’s dad and my dad’s mom). They lived in the same small, rural community and had the ability to self-pay for home health care. They also had local family. My grandpa had a stroke and was partially paralyzed. Initially he went from the hospital, to a rehab place that had an assisted living facility too and my grandma moved in there so they could be together. This was in a different city from where they lived (the biggest city in our state). They eventually decided they could manage his care at home. He needed help bathing, etc. 2 people came in for a few hours a day. My grandma was still mentally healthy but could not physically lift him to help care for him (he was a big guy) but she was always there when the workers were there. Physical therapists came to the house to work with him on eating, etc. When he was dying, a hospice nurse came.
My dad’s mom had cancer (and was also just old) and needed help bathing, etc as well. She had someone come in everyday for a few hours to help with bathing. My dad lived nearby and would go over while the workers were there. Similarly, when she was dying a hospice nurse came.
In both cases, the set up hospital beds in their living rooms. My grandma also had a new handicap accessible shower built to make it easier for the workers to wheel my grandpa into the shower.
Ses
This – “Is there a patron saint of Elder Daughters of Long-Distance Rural Parents With Medical Issues” resonated with me so hard.
I think half this board falls under her protection.
anon
I was going to say, there was one but she got drunk, fed up and stopped taking requests after dealing with said parents. But that’s just my mood today.
Leatty
Same. It’s so hard.
Jules
This is all very hard, I’m sorry you have to deal with this. When my father was leaving the hospital after a cancer diagnois and treatement and needed rehab, the hospital social worker wase extremely useful in helping us figure some of these things out, so you might reach out to that person, if they have them where your mother is. The area council on aging also could have some good resources for guidance.
I’m also an eldest daughter but I was an hour away and two of my three sisters – one is the most nurturing of all of us and the other is a CPA-trained business owner who will make a spreadsheet for anything – dealt with a lot of the hands-on and financial/logistical matters. I don’t know how one of us would have handled it alone. My only child is screwed …
Anonymous
Random: at rehab, do they have set times for it? Like it’s not 8 hours of PT and OT but maybe half an hour here and an hour there?
Anon
+1 Senior Attorney. My family dealt with this recently with my grandfather — he was given the option of rehab center or hospice care at home and he wanted hospice at home though wavered on this during his last week in the hospital because my grandmother was driving him crazy. The social worker was not especially helpful but did give us the names of in-home care providers. Within a few days, we had to make space for the hospital bed and all the related things he needed, get it delivered, get his prescriptions, get hospice nurses on a schedule to visit, and clean the house to the specifications of the in home care service which required a separate room, a blow up mattress and bedding, and the food each care giver asked for. He was very grateful to die at home with help and care but my grandmother was a nightmare and hated having someone in her house. It was so hard even being local with other family members. We were constantly over there in shifts helping with laundry, hiring a housecleaner, buying things they needed. At least where I am – VHCOL – the in home care only provided care – nothing else and it was so expensive. My grandfather was 96, did not have a plan, and would make fun of canes and walkers even while he and my grandmother were falling down regularly.
I am now hounding my parents to make a plan because they cannot age in place in their current house and will not recognize that it really isn’t that there is no good time to move, it’s that the worst time to move is when one of them has a medical emergency. I am hoping they won’t fight me like my grandparents fought us and will do the POA, etc., but I feel really helpless about it. Also an eldest daughter.
Table Talk
I’m looking for a dining room table that is visually interesting when viewed from the short ends of the table. When you enter our home, you see across the dining room (the short end of the dining room table facing you) to a wall of windows that overlooks our outdoor view. I want to leave the view as unobscured as possible, so I’m planning to use low chairs and only on the long sides of the table. Therefore, I want a table that’s visually interesting on its own when viewed from the short side. The only tables that have appealed to me so far are double fluted pedestals, but I’d like something more unique than that. Any suggestions of styles? The actual table will need to be an oval or rectangle that’s 84’ long and coordinates with medium-tone oak floors and our mix of traditional and industrial décor, but I’m just looking for general ideas at this point. I’ve gone through the offerings of my usual inspiration stores (RH and Arhaus) without anything jumping out at me.
Anonymous
I am in love with the Thos. Moser boat-top table, which looks really cool from the end.
Anon
Similar vein, pompanoosuc mills. They have a sofa table called the Belmont that has a really cool base. Not sure if they have something similar for dining table, but they do also do custom pieces.
Anon
https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/sonali-oval-dining-table?color=001&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Home%20-%20F%26D%20-%20Casegoods&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=c&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw0ruyBhDuARIsANSZ3wp2mRjqAmqmioqqrRg-woPh2PS7RRbd0jbLGaZdprOX95d1zIQZaNkaAklOEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&size=78.5%22&quantity=1
Senior Attorney
Wow!
Jules
That table is amazing.
I’m not sure why I chose to go down this particular rabbit hole when I have work to do, but I did. If you do a search for the Anthropologie Sonali table, you will find many others that also might fit your bill, including from All Modern, Homary and some surprisingly interesting-looking options at Wayfair.
Anon
So many cool tables when you do that search! This one is also called Sonali but totally different:
https://www.domesca.com/pure-designs-sonali-table-120×90
anon
The oval is going to be the limiting factor. I would look at mid-century stores (design within reach, roche bobois) who have interesting dinning tables.
Table Talk
Thanks! In case it wasn’t clear from the post, the table can be oval or rectangular.
Anon
She said oval or rectangle.
I do like the look of a double pedestal rectangular table, personally.
Anonymous
The most obvious answer is the Fritz Hansen Superellipse, if you can get that where you live.
It’s s Danish Mid-Century classic.
Get the white one in your case, it will work very well with oak and industrial. Size up to 120 inches. Oval.
Swedish Stollab Vardags (“everyday”) could also work for you, if you want wood. But seriously, you are decribing the Superellipse.
Pompom
CB2 may have good options.
Anon
Evansview table at Ethan Allen.
Anon
This one is perfect.
Ick
TMI warning.
I have a clumpy discharge, noticed yesterday, that upon inspection and research perhaps does resemble cottage cheese. No itching pain or smell. Is this a yeast infection? I’m over 40 and have never had one.
2bu
Possibly. Go to a doctor. Over the counter cream meds often make symptoms worse before they get better (looking at you, Monistat) – so if it is a yeast infection, the Diflucan pill works great.
Anons
It could be a lot of things. Doctor ASAP, or Planned Parenthood if you can’t get an appointment quickly.
Anonymous
I’m in my late 30s, just got out of a long-term thing with this guy, and dipping my toes into the online dating scene. Basically, I’m looking for someone to settle down with and tie the knot pretty soon (with the right guy, obviously – no time to waste here!). Any tips?
Seems like I’m striking out so far. What do you think about a guy with silly pics, like lounging in a field of flowers? And how do you decide if it’s worth getting to know someone from another state? When should you meet up in person? And most importantly, how do you keep from losing hope?
I’m in a big Texas city, if that makes a difference.
Senior Attorney
Check out Jennie Young @worst_case_scenario on Instagram. She talks about eliminating all the non-starters so you can concentrate on the (alas, very few) men who are actual possibilities.
Anon
My two cents:
(1) reach out to everyone who seems even remotely interesting. DH had very little on his profile, but did have a cute picture of his dog. He wasn’t super into online dating, so if I hadn’t reached out, we probably wouldn’t have met.
(2) meet early in low pressure locations – coffee or a single drink are great because you can leave quickly (unlike dinner) if you don’t hit it off. On a few occasions, I waited a bit to meet someone, but it always seemed to be a mistake (harder to catch red flags, judge compatibility when your communications aren’t in person)
(3) think about what your deal breakers really are and what you are willing to accept. No one is perfect, and it’s helpful to figure out early on in an acquaintanceship so you don’t waste time
Good luck!
Anon
Gently, I think by putting time pressure on yourself, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. All of my friends who got married because they had to do so on a time frame ended up divorced. Is the issue wanting kids? If that’s the case, then have a kid–there are ways to do that without being married. Just seems like you want to be married because as you put it “there’s no time to waste!” You are doing just fine, married or not.
Anon
This board recommends having a kid on your own pretty often – unfortunately it’s just not financially or logistically feasible for most.
Anon
I became a single mom by choice as a local government attorney making not much. I lived in a working class neighborhood, made financial decisions to enable this. Best decision ever! I know there are many who would say they could not afford a kid on my income, but being a mother was high priority for me, so I made the choice. Look at average household income; people are raising kids at all the income levels.
Anon
That jumped out at me too. I understand the feeling of time running out, but if you marry someone because you feel like time is running out the marriage is very unlikely to last.
Anonymous
Yes, but if she is dating she can still decide not to waste time on the obvious non-candidates for marriage.
RiskedCredit
I’m in Texas and mid 40s. Two years ago I arrived, saw the pool of talent and decided absolutely no way. The good guys were taken in high school here. The transplants are mainly people like myself who are divorced and not focused on a committed relationship.
Texas is a huge state and certain cities are I think a bit easier. However, the pool of talent here is thin. Don’t limit yourself.
Anonymous
If you are not opposed to it, I’d look for men with children. Quite frankly, those men are looking for a partner and a serious long term thing much more urgently than Mr. Finance Trust Fund 6’5″ Blue Eyes. I’d also look for people who are religious lite (so…not fundamentalists or anything) because they often have that family values and “settle down/don’t date around” thing.
I love silly pics, it says that person has a sense of humor and most importantly, cares about how they present themselves. I got so icked out by men flipping off the camera, mean-mugging it, taking pictures in a dump of a bathroom, sunglasses-on selfies, or showing off their weapons collection (!!) or other offensive stuff. Cute/funny pics + other green flags is a go to me personally.